I dont get why you or he is upset 
Arnt you getting paid?
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Erm. It sounds like you arenât even going to be at the house very long or much⊠Thatâs like telling your boss at a regular job you arenât coming in because they are going to be there and they can do the job themselves 
I would say yeah both of you are overreacting, especially if this is your sole source of income for yourself.
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Why would you not work if you have a job? Dad will be focused on a game and not able to be responsible ot attentive to the kids, but isnât that your job? Is he to go elsewhere to participate in the game? Your fiance would rather you not work? Thatâs what Iâd worry aboutâŠ
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Maybe it is just me but i have never paid anyone or asked anyone to take my children to the doctor. If their dad is home that seems like its his responsibility to take his children to the doctor
I think you are correct in considering this situation odd. There are some boundaries that are being broken regardless if you are being paid for the task. If you do not feel comfortable doing something, speak up for yourself.
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Itâs not appropriate IMO, especially if thatâs not a typical arrangement. I wouldnât want to be alone in a house with a man who isnât my husband, whether I am paid or not.
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Are you getting paid for it? If so it should not matter what they are doing as you are employed by them.
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I mean he is taking the day off to do something he wants to do. So he needs a sitter. He still is paying you. If he works hard and pays you on time every week I really donât see the problem. He deserves his personal time also. It just happens to be something in his home.
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If youâre getting paid then why does it matter if someoneâs going to be home or not?
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Dad take himâŠPoint blank
If its a paying job i dont think it mattersâŠive paid a sitter while i run errands and get cleaning doneâŠ
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Being upset makes no sense, having blundaries and refusing to do a service does. If you donât feel confortable then donât, but this sounds more lime you and your fiance need to talk about what makes him upset.
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Uhmm. how did this go from babysitting to a problem? I wouldnât be getting married if these are your trust issues ⊠I can send my man to work entirely with women all day with no effs givin. Are you making money? Then do your job? Hanging out at a friendâs.house.with her husband for free to do what he could be doing? Then he should have a problem
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If you are getting paid it shouldnât matter if you are not getting paid then yeah you should be upset because that could be a day off for you which you should probably deserve if you donât get paid
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Well I think if they are paying you it shouldnât be a
Problem. Everyone deserves a day off once in awhile
Are you still getting paid? Why are you worried about what theyâre doing? Theyâre paying you for a service, it does not matter what they need you to babysit for, youâre still going to get paid.
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Iâm a babysitter. I donât ask where the parents will be or what theyâre doing. They could be out to eat or at the gym, idk. Idc. Iâm paid, they trust me, and thatâs none of my business passed that.
And as far as him being thereâŠâŠ thatâs between you and the friend and your trust. Do you and your fiancĂ© trust this person? Are you comfortable around him?
I personally only have two friends, lol I trust them wholeheartedly and would absolutely help out with their kids whether their husbands were there or not. The moms I keep kids for on the dailyâŠâŠ idk all their husbands. The ones I do, I wouldnât mind. The ones I donât, I would decline if this was the case.
Literally this question youâre asking comes down to whether your fiancĂ© trusts you, and whether yâall trust this dad.
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Youâre getting paid to provide a service. If they need you that day and are paying you and itâs a normal day that you usually workâŠthen youâre not in the right to be upset. If my job calls and says no one is coming through the door right now but you still have to come in am I going to be mad? No. Because Iâm getting paid and it was a day I was supposed to work. And what if something ended up happening and they really did need you.
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I would fire you personally. Itâs absolutely not your fianceâs place to be mad that youâre doing your job. You are being paid to provide a service and if the dad is going to be busy doong something else and they want you to do your job like usual you should. Sou ds to me like your fiance is just jealous and controlling.
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Your boyfriend has a trust issue he is the one you should be getting rid of and do not marry that man. I had a boyfriend like that he was insanely jealous and my life was miserable he did not trust me to go to the grocery store I had to account for every second I was out of his sightâŠI had to tell him who I was with and was allowed no friends. Get rid of the boyfriend and do not marry him, you will regret it
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Lots of work at home parents still have babysitters there while they do work at home. If youâre getting paid shouldnât be an issue ?
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Over reacting. Who cares who will be there. You get paid for a job and if you do not want to do that job then move on so they can figure something else out.
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If youâre still paid for babysitting thereâs zero problem. Clearly thereâs something with the friends husband that both you and your husband are weary about, whether itâs past relationships, whatever. There is no issue other than whatever you guys are creating in your head, again unless you arenât getting paid cause heâs there.
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Youâre definitely overreacting. Video games might not seem important to some people, but for those who do tournaments itâs a commitment just like a job would be, so think of it like he is working from home, even if itâs a âhobbyâ. At the end of the day your friend is paying you to help run their household, so if that means being available when her husband is not, then do that. And your fiancĂ© needs to calm down, if heâs having what seems to be trust issues w who youâre around during the day then I would reconsider actually walking down the aisle. Control issues always start small and subtle and the next thing you know youâre isolated and afraid to do anything without their permission. Only speaking from experience here.
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If she doesnât have an issue with paying you to babysit and being around her husband all day then you and your fiance should follow their example of how grown folk operate.
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Iâd be mad but only because Iâm sure they get a discount being your friend
If it is a normal day you would work and you are getting paid then no you do not have a right to be upset nor does your fiance.
Definitely over reacting. They are paying you to do something it doesnât matter if he takes the day off to do something or not. Do you have kids? As a parent sometimes you get to do stuff with your child and paying a babysitter is part of that. Iâm not sure why your upset. It doesnât matter what the parents are doing its a babysitters job to baby sit
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I paid our sitter one time to still come over after I called in. Then showered and ate while she was here before leaving to go have lunch with my mom. I guess I hired a babysitter for a certain amount of time on certain days regardless of what I do. I didnât say itâs up to her to decide whether or not I actually need or should get a sitter that day? If you have a problem with it, find a new job. Maybe youâre annoyed but youâre still getting paid. I can understand if you agreed to only do this to help them out while theyâre working but if youâre a hired And paid babysitter, I donât see what the issue is.
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I feel like he has the right to be upset. You shouldnât have to babysit if the parents are home, unless of course they are working from home, and need assistance with the children. Looks like those parents would just rather pay you, than to be PARENTS. I would definitely have a chat with this friend of yours and come to some agreement.
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Totally overreacting actually.
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Youâre getting paid, who cares what heâs doing. He could be sleeping all day as long as you get your money at the end of the day.
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Are you helping a friend or is this a job and your getting paid? For you said this was a job not doing a friend a favor so why are you both over reactingâŠ
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I was a Nanny and expected to be there if they were home. I was still the boss and the kids knew that. Awkward but it was what it was.
Or and this is a big one, you could get a real job and help your fiancĂ© out with bills without having to be with another man all day. I wouldnât allow my wife to with another man alone in someone skewers house. Causes trust issues and thatâs no way to begin a marriage.
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I used to babysit 3 kids when their father worked right upstairs from home everyday. Yes youâre overreacting and your fiance has trust issues Iâd say you need to sort out before you get married.
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Heâs overreacting. People are allowed to have days off but if you already committed to it then he needs to stop being a baby and grow up
Oh good grief, if youâre getting paid, what the actual fk is the problem? 
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Sometimes as parents we just need a break or to sleep in, and if youâre getting paid for it I donât see the harm
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Your fiance, bf,husband does not have any right to tell a woman when and where she can work. He can voice his opinion but respect your choice. Thatâs number 1. Number 2 if you have concerns about friends husband coming onto you then you can make the choice not to work for them at at all. Number 3-this is a job-what they do with their own time is their business- they are paying you for a job.
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Are you getting paid? If so, youâre their employee and should really be there whenever asked.
I have co workers that take a week off for some huge international gamer thing⊠all they do is stay in the chair and look at the screen all day. But thatâs what they like and they donât want to be bothered ⊠I work from home full time and when I would take days off, our sitter would come till I need her because itâs easier to get things doneâŠ
Donât over think it
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Well if her husband is going to be home then you donât have to babysit their child and take the child to school
He may be your fiancĂ© but he doesnât own you.
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Your overreacting. If they need the assistance and youâre getting paid to be there why complain. I have a person come by my house 1-2 days a week for a few hours to give me a little time to get things done that I need to do (I have a 4yo, 2.5yo and 15mo) I am almost always home during this time.
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He is over reacting and so are you
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If his gaming isnât normally causing him to neglect his adult responsibilities let the guy have one day doing what he enjoys
Heâs going to be too busy playing video games to watch his kids so youâll need to be there. 
They are paying you for a job, just do it whether person is home or not.
Also concerning your fiance doesnât like you working with a dude home.
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Are you being paid? If so, itâs still your job
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Wow. Definitely overreacting and it does not say good things about the future 
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If I was your friend, and you voiced that concern to meâŠ. I would probably just find a different permanent sitter. The reasoning is kinda weird (the husband will be home but engaging in a video game event and not able to focus on the child) and youâre getting paid. I would probably seek employment elsewhere if I were you This may just not be a good fit for you. Preserve your friendship and move on.
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very confused, If you are still getting paid, what is the problem???
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Your man is trippin, and just being controlling or jealous. They need you to still do what they pay you forâŠ.he took off work to do somethingâŠyou and your man and being petty af.
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You can get paid for gaming. So realistically he could still be working. Even if itâs just for fun, this isnât something uncommon. if the wife were the one taking the day off, would your husband still be insecure about it? Highly doubt it. Recognize the red flag and ask yourself why itâs such an issue that youâre going to do your job.
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Future hubby sounds like heâs going to be very controllingâŠ
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Iâm also a babysitter I have a family that the dad takes fridays to take care of his dad ( doctors groceries) you are doing your job an as long they are paying you to watch there kids
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If youâre getting paidâŠits your job, regardless of if heâs home. Also, you said heâs home for a video game event. He canât just put the game on pause to do the job youâre paid to do and then go back to the game. It doesnât work that way. You stop playing, youâre done. So yes, youâre both overreacting, and yes, you should be going to work and doing your job.
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I used to babysit all the time when the parents were home. They had dinner parties and I had to watch the kids. I also went to FL as the nanny for a week and the parents were around. Your fiancée needs to realize that sometimes the parents need extra help even tho they are around.
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Youâre over reacting. They pay you to babysit. It isnât your business what they do during that time.
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I would definitely say overreacting. Sounds like it doesnât happen much, your still getting paid, and your friends with them. But if you feel like your being used or disrespected I would work somewhere else so you donât hold resentment and would let them know. You should give them at least a 2 week notice so they can find another sitter.
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"He took the day off for a video game event " it doesnât matter what he takes hos day off to do ! ⊠it matters he is Still doing something that requires his attention to be on something other than home. Theyâre paying you right ? They asked you to be there to do your job as usual? Then do it ! Thatâs your responsibility to do your job when asked. If you donât like it then quit. No one asked you to judge him on his day off abd choice on what he is doing
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Are you being paid for said babysitting? If so then neither one of yâall should be upset over it.
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I Bet some of these Women that are saying heâs over reacting, would change they mind if they man was staying with staying with another woman!
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Arenât you still going to get paid? Also you made it sound as if there is no babysitting just dropping kid off at school and taking your friend to a Drs appointment
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You sound young and immature. If itâs a job and youâre being paid then yes, you go to work.
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Your job is to babysit not focus on what the parents will be doing while you babysit⊠you are definitely overreactingâŠif you are more focused on the parents business and not your job sounds like you need a new job
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Sounds your man is going to be the controlling type. Think again about marrying him. Iâve done been there . Itâs not fun
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If you are being paid,its your job. No different than a boss being at a regular jobâŠboss is there doesnt mean you go homeâŠits a jobâŠ
Now if youre not being paidâŠi would be slightly annoyed and ask to be paid because well its a JOB.
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If youâre going to be paid for it then calm down and go baby sit.
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Are they still going to pay you? Because he would originally be working, but he will still be otherwise occupied where he cannot watch the children. Whether itâs work or other events, they still asked for your help. Does it matter what he will be doing?
Sometimes parents need help for other reasons other than work.
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There shouldnât be a problem watching the kids with dad there and maybe dad just needs a break and if they are still paying you then it should be ok with future hubby. If he is upset about this then he has trust issues and those need to be dealt with long before you say"I do".
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I mean, your getting paid, itâs a regularly schedule day.
I have take a day off from work and still sent my son to preschool because I had plans and wanted to do something for myself. weâre all human
I would much rather have a babysitter there paying attention to my child/children instead of my husband who wonât get off the game watching
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If sheâs paying you, go.
If heâs doing a video game event, he clearly canât watch the kids and leave the house.
I hate video games, but itâs some peopleâs thing and if thatâs what they choose to do with their time, thatâs their business. If you babysit for them, itâs when they need it.
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As long as they are paying you to watch the children I donât see an issue. Honestly I think that it was very responsible of the parents to hire you while they knew his attention would be elsewhere. Work and kids constantly really takes a toll. Parents need time to decompress.
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Over reacting !!! It the guy took off to do this thing it was to do his thing ⊠nothing to do with your Job or agreed obligation of baby sitting unless it was extra time they were burdening you with but if was just because he was off no one hadnât got a thing to do with other . Heâs entitled with out okâing it with the baby sitter ??? Come on
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I would absolutely need a babysitter if Iâm doing a gaming tournament, it requires hours of focus and you can only take breaks during scheduled allotments. Basically a job in itself. And you can win money if you fair well. Plus, if youâre part of a team, youâve got other people depending on your full attention. Just because you have kids doesnât mean you canât have hobbies. So if your hobby requires your full attention, youâre gonna need a babysitter. If the concern from the fiance is coming from a place of love, like maybe the husband had creeped you out before and now your fiance is worried about your well-being, then that is understandable. But if he is just being jealous and controlling because thereâs gonna be âanother manâ there, thatâs not right. You should have total faith in your partner and if you donât, you shouldnât be with them. Thereâs men everywhere, if you got a different job thereâs gonna be men there, too. Is he gonna stop you from going to work every time he feels threatened? Because yikes.
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In my opinion, you guys have NO TRUST. That is a big red flag
This should not be an issue. If he is going to be playing in a video game tournament and you are watching the kids, both of you should be busy.
Maybe could your partner stop by whenever he wanted to help him feel more secure 
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Do only what you agreed to do itâs that simple.
Are you getting paid?
If you are, then itâs really none of your business what theyâre doing. If youâre getting paid, they can sit in the living room and watch Netflix all day long. Stay in your lane
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Cassandra Remillard most video game event have certain times to be on and time limits. If itâs just an one in a while thing, then it shouldnât be a problem. Especially if she already thought she was going to be working. Everyone has their own hobbies.
Be professional and do your job. There shouldnât be an issue.
Itâs your job who cares whoâs home
If their paying you then why does it matter if their there or not
Your job really isnât any of your boyfriends business. Sounds like your future hubby doesnât trust youâŠIâd look into that.
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So letâs be real hereâŠitâs really about your fiancĂ© doesnât want you around another man alone.
Gross. You need to run. I agree with everyone else that if youâre being paid, itâs a regular day youâd be there anyway, and dad is going to be occupied, then whatâs the problem? I have our sitter come sometimes when Iâm home so I can catch up on other things etc. Sounds like fiancĂ© has trust issues or something.
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If youâre getting paid why does it matter?
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I mean yes you have the right to but should you be? No, itâs your job isnât it? Your fiance doesnât trust you
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If youâre getting paid then I would go. Itâs your job. And although heâs gonna be home heâs gonna be busy.
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I can 100% guarantee that if the husband is gaming he wonât even know youâre there! When theyâre âplugged inâ to a game they tune everything out, which is why they need a sitter.
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I mean, itâs not like theyâre asking you for a favor to go to their house and do this. Itâs a job and theyâre paying you for it. If it was the 1st of them just asking you yo do something for his convenience then yes youâd have a right to be upset, and a right to say no. You can still say no, but youâre turning down work. Did you want the day off and still get paid? Or a day off and lose pay?
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Over reacting 1000000%
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This used to aggravate me to know end when I baby sat bc I had no warning. Itâs one thing if your working from home or they have to recover from surgery or something but not for video games. Your kids can tourmemt you and make you loose your round 
If itâs suppose to be a Monday to Friday thing and they are paying you then that is your job.
If you donât have set hours then decide for yourself if you want to or not, itâs money for you and your fiance so why not
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Youâre being ridiculous. He took off work for his gaming torment, he clearly needs to focus on this. If it wasnât important heâd be at work. Most have certain times you have to long on & there are time limits. Thereâs no just pausing it. Youâre being asking to do your job, you canât be upset about that 
youâre being paid, who is and isnât home isnât any of your concern.
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This is called 
TOXIC . Thatâs literally your job. Obviously he isnât going to be able to take care of them because heâll be busy. They pay you to watch their children. Thereâs obviously very little trust on both of your parts
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Itâs your job, if they are paying you and itâs your normal day to work, who cares? Get the money.
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Youâre both overreacting. Who cares if he is home. If theyâre paying you why does it matter.
And if your man trusted you he wouldnât be angry.
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BTW, your fiance thinks your gonna bang your boss.
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Itâs your job? Your fiancĂ© should have nothing to do with it, itâs YOUR job.
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Its not you or your hubbies business what anyone is doing. Your JOB is to babysit if youâre getting paid for itâŠyour hubby has no right to tell you what you can or canât do as a grown adult. If you want money then do it, if you want to cater to your hubbyâs selfishness then donât.
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