I mean… everyone has a ‘right’ to be upset over anything. I think this is silly. He obviously doesn’t trust you so you should be more worried about that
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But she’s your friend so you probably already know them 
I think you’re overreacting especially if she’s still paying you. He took the day off to do something specific that he wanted to do thinking that it would be okay because they had childcare. I think it would be wrong for you to back out on them suddenly.
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You are definitely overreacting, and you get paid right smh
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IMO there’s 2 different questions here… do you have a right to be upset? If you’re getting paid to babysit and this would be a normal shift for you, then no. You’re job doesn’t change just because your “employer” has different plans. Does your fiancé have a right to be upset? Yes! He thinks you’re being taken advantage of and used, and is therefore upset. He does not, however, get to voice his anger to your “employer” or give you grief for doing your job.
Our partners should always have our backs and be the voice of reason. Being upset at the thought of us being used, taken advantage of, or being asked to do something unreasonable is completely normal. It’s how they behave in that emotion is what’s key.
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I mean if they’re paying you it doesn’t matter.
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I mean you’re getting paid, right? What does it matter? Lol
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He’s guilt projecting 
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It’s unprofessional to bring your fiancé into work decisions anyway. It’s your job and they’re asking you to help out still it not really your area to say whether their husband should be home while you’re there or not.
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I don’t get it, why can’t he be bothered to take his kid to school but he can make the time for the video game.
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This seems very strange to me. Honestly, what are you doing with the kids (or not doing) that it matters if the parents are home or not? That’s strange to me. Just go about your day and do your job.
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no winter break for the kid? lol
Sounds like your fiance doesn’t trust you to be alone with your friends husband. You are getting paid (i’m assuming) to watch the children. If he has other plans that day (gaming) then who cares? No different than if she hired you to watch a newborn so she could get some cleaning done and a nap. People hire nannys and babysitters to watch their kids at home while they work all the time.
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I nannied for 8 years and parents were sometimes home, even for overnights. As long as you are getting paid, I don’t see an issue at all. Sounds like you don’t really want to be there in the first place or your fiancé is a bit insecure in the relationship.
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It’s your job so 
I don’t understand why your upset. Her husband has plans so they need a sitter. It’s not that big of a deal. I watched 2 boys one was 6mths and one 6 yrs old. The mom worked 6am-4:30 and the dad worked nights. He would be home sleeping while I was there watching the kids. Not a big deal lol
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Its xmas eve. You should have made it clear when the job first started thst you were not available xmas eve etc. Days that you cannot work work uou should have booked in advance as your holiday days. Otherwise you are expected to be at work if you are getting paid.
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Your friends married husband, and your engaged to another man, what is the problem then?! You get paid correct?! He’s going to be busy, obviously and they still need you to do your job, weather he’s home or not. If you and your fiancé are worried your friends husbands going to make advances towards you, or if your fiancé is somehow jealous, then I think you guys have more problems then you think. Your both completely overreacting.
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Um don’t yal already know the husband #1 & #2 are u being paid? whether he is there or not if he is goin to be in a video game tournament he not watching the kids 
shit take yo dude wit u & boom 
You’re a baby sitter. It’s not required he even tells you what he will be doing. My mom is my sitter some mornings I’m off but she still comes because I need to get stuff done at the house etc. if you’re being paid I don’t see an issue.
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What’s the difference if they gonna pay ya
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Watch the child at your place
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Taking her kid to school and running to a doctors appointment does not sound like they want you to sit there with him all day.
If it is a gaming tournament, could very well be another source of income that they are paying you from… In which, yes he would need to not be interrupted for it.
As long as they are paying you, I see nothing wrong with what they are asking.
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No right to be upset because it’s a job still.
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You’re in for years of insecurity with your fiancé if this is an issue
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When my kids were little we had a nanny and I was also a nanny through college. Anyway, somedays I would be home getting stuff done and the nanny still came to work. Some days my husband would come home early but still needed to make calls or respond to emails so he would still have our nanny stay and take care of the kids. Gaming tournaments are no joke and players can earn big bucks, they can’t be distracted by kids so I don’t see an issue with them needing you that day. I would try to figure out why your fiance is so insecure because that’s a red flag.
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If you’re getting paid I don’t see the problem. Sounds like your boyfriend has trust issues.
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Overreacting as you are being paid, a lot of people just have babysitters if they work from home or just has other plans while home
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If they are paying you and it’s your job what’s the big deal? If her husband was gone that day you would be there anyway (Friday’s are normally on your regular work schedule, just this Friday he will happen to be home) just go in as your normal Friday workday and do your job and get paid….is it possible that your husband is upset/ jealous because you will be their alone with another man?
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First of all just because you’re getting married he doesn’t have the right to run your life or tell your employer what to assign you. This is your job. You do what your employer wants within reason (not harmful, illegal, morally wrong). You often have to do things you don’t want to when you’re employed. Your boyfriend has no right to be upset. He found something trivial to find fault in that will likely cause you to loose your job & friend. I bet he’s emotionally abusive, controlling in other ways that you don’t see because he’s maniplulating you. Keep your job leave your boyfriend.
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It’s a job and as long as ur being paid then no worries
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If it’s your job & you’re getting paid to do it then yes you still have to show up. It sounds like they’re looking to you as more of a nanny. However if you worked for a corporate company & the owner of the company came to your job location one day, does that mean you don’t have to work?
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It’s your JOB. If you had a real job in an office or anywhere else your boss would still be there while you work. So I don’t see the problem here? Go to work.
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Just out of curiosity, which game is having an event? Just want to make sure I’m not missing
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You’re over reacting. You got hired for a job, it’s your job to babysit regardless of who’s home. I’ve babysat before for clients when the mom, dad , grandparents etc were home sometimes. My job was to babysit not to “babysit when no one was home only”. Ya feel me?
Do your job and if there are things you’re not comfortable with ,find a different job and problem solved 
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Take a step back and look at your situation. There is a trust issue or some sort of control issues with your fiance. You are being paid to do a job, the only difference now is that the husband will be home and occupied playing a game. Do not get married to a man that is so insecure that you can’t work and be around a man. I’m sorry but this is a huge red flag.
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If they are paying you , you gotta work when they tell you to. What’s the big deal if you were gonna work anyway?
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If it is a job you are getting paid for then keep it … if you fiance just doesn’t want u there because of the husband then that’s a him issue …
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If you dont want to do it then dont, But your fiance doesnt own you
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It’s your job…. Babysitting doesn’t always require a parent to be away from the home. Some parents work from home… maybe your fiancé doesn’t like the thought of you being alone in a house with another guy? I’d dig deeper into this situation
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You are not obligated to work when you are not comfortable with the working environment. And if having to be alone with a man makes you uncomfortable that is reason enough to decline working when he is present. As a woman who has experienced numerous situations of men taking any opportunity to sexually harrass women I would not be comfortable with that unless I knew the man VERY well. Even then, most rapes are committed by men the victim knows and trusted.
That being said, it is NOT okay for your fiancé to take issue with your work environment if his concern is that he thinks you will cheat. Concern for your safety is one thing, controlling you because he is jealous, possessive, and insecure is a whole box of red flags.
That’s one giant red flag that he’s upset…
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Just because the parent is home doesn’t mean his home for the holidays…his got plans and it doesn’t involve his kids…show up and do your job…
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Definitely sounds like some insecurities here. There is CLEARLY a trust issue that you need to speak about before getting married. Big red flags here.
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No. Doesn’t matter why, if they are paying you.
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yes you’re overreacting.
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He’s mad that you’re obligated to do your job? Regardless if the husband is home, it’s your job! Sounds like ya’ll have some serious trust/control issues that should be addressed.
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If it’s your job, do it. If you’re just helping out, be clear on what you want/can do.
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It is a little ridiculous he cant help out with his kids if gonna be home,but if going to be paid to do it then why complain? Also…Friday is Christmas Eve so if dont want to work that day,then just tell them that.
If you are doing it as a favor then you (and only you) have a right to be upset seeing as the husband took of work but if you are being paid for your time then no because it’s a job you already expected to do.
The video game event may be work related and even if not, if you’re paid to babysit as a job for them then do it. He’s exhibiting a ton of control and trust issues here. Also you’re just taking the oldest to school and your friend to an appt so by your own description you won’t even be at the house for an extended period of time??
Find another job. These people need a babysitter. That’s what they thought you were when they hired you.
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I mean are you still getting paid? There’s a lot of families out there that still hire sitters even if they work from home. If you are getting paid then just do it or miss out on a job/day of pay. But if you aren’t getting paid then F that.
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Are your paid to babysit for this friend or do you do it to help? If you aren’t paid then yes I’d be upset, if you are paid and want a little extra cash I’d do it
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He is taking off from work AND he’s gonna be HOME…while the Wife is away…Yeah ummm NO…he needs to take child to the doctor and take care of his own children…
Your fiance’s feelings are valid…
There are plenty of other people who need a baby sitter to actually go to WORK,school, run errands, ect…
Don’t be their enabler.
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If they pay you for it why not. Just bc they are home doesn’t mean they aren’t busy. Hence why they hired some help?
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It’s probably a tournament, my husband is a part time streamer. There’s money in those tournaments, also. A lot of the time you have to pay to enter, and you have to be there from start to finish to qualify for the prize at the end (whether that’s points towards another tournament or actual cash prizes). So no, if he’s entered and paid and they’re paying you for babysitting, that’s not a big deal. He won’t even be paying attention to you
I was a nanny for three years for a family. I was there often times when both parents were home, they just needed an extra set of hands to get stuff done and still be able to do stuff they like. If people can afford it, that is their right to hire a babysitter whether they’re home or not lol
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Are you getting paid? 
then It doesn’t matter if someone is home or not - you’re still making money
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They’re in the wrong!! Find another job.
OVER REACTING!! Your title is babysitter. If you have conditions then say that. No need to be upset. Communication is key in all aspects of life. Chill
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Why can’t dad or mom who both will be home take their kid to school? Why can’t her husband take her to the dr? Sorry your kid and wife are MORE important than a video game.
If you are still getting paid for your babysitting job then you are both over reacting. He may have taken the day off from his job but that does not mean you automatically get the day off from yours.
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Do you know how many daycares still watch children under the assumption that the parents are at work, YET, ie…Me, will still take them to daycare if I have off simply to get things down without the kids, or just to sit home and sleep…whatever I want without my kids or man around 
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You shout just do it IF it truly doesn’t bother you. 
Every household is ran different I’m sure if the mom/dad didn’t feel like they could use your help they wouldn’t ask. My cousin does tournament’s and they also hire a babysitter for tournament days when his wife is working.
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Um I mean you can set your own boundaries as far as what makes you uncomfortable. But if they are paying you as always I don’t understand. A lot of people work from home and still have sitters come… It’s not like her husband staying home to do nothing, he has plans and will be busy. As long as your compensated as normal I don’t see the issue. Now my biggest confusion is to why your fiance doesn’t want you around her husband. That’s fkn weird and is sending red flags that he does not trust you. And trust me when I say if he’s this controlling now it’ll only get worse when yall are married.
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If your getting paid it’s not your business what they are doing or not doing. If you don’t want to keep kids while they aren’t working then you needed to communicate this. Your job title is baby sitting.
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Over reacting… majorly
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Sooooo you didn’t have any feelings about it until the fiancé did? How do YOU feel about the situation?
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I mean, if you’re getting paid to be there…. I feel like you shouldn’t be upset.
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Are you paid for babysitting? … If you are a paid babysitter then what they are doing shouldn’t matter to you?
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If it’s your “Job” and you get paid it’s none of your concern what they are doing
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Sounds like you were ok with it until your fiancé wasn’t. Hope I’m not reaching but if it’s your job and the husband happens to be there and it bothers your fiancé, thats a red flag. I’ve collected red flags all my life and then some. Something don’t sound right.
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If a babysitter were to tell me that they only wanted to watch my kids when I was not around, I would suddenly feel very uncomfortable, what is it they’re afraid that the parents might see? I would take that into consideration as well as the fact that your fiance’s doesn’t trust you. Everything about this is wrong, and be prepared to possibly lose your job.
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Are you getting paid for this?
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Do you get paid? If it’s a job you have no right. I wish I could just not work because my husband doesn’t want me to.
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Are you getting paid? 
You said, “He’ll be home doing a gaming competition”. So, home but not available… He’s not slepping.
If it bothers you, you need another job.
But for the life of me I can’t understand why anyone is upset if you’ll be getting paid. 
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There’s a difference in “you have to watch the kids because he doesn’t want to babysit his own kids” and “he’s gunna be busy with something else in the house and we need you to babysit” SAHM also like to be home and do something without the kids in their ass. It’s one day, not like he’s gunna be at home doing nothing because he doesn’t want to watch them. He has a specific set of thing he wants to do and can’t watch the kids. I would have to stay until 6 when my cousins bf got off at 3 because he didn’t want to watch her for 3 hours until my cousin got off. That’s completely different.
Hm well you can either do it and get the money or say no its up to you but I do understand being upset ive babysat a lot and if they were at home doing literally nothing I find it annoying however the guy likely is busy so maybe he wants you to do it so he doesn’t have to stop
You are over reacting. You are getting paid to do a job not to pick and choose when its ok to work. What would your fiance do if you had to work around other men at a different job? Seems a bit insecure.
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Doesn’t matter what they’re doing if you’re being paid to do your job. It’s none of your business!
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Over reacting, I’m sure the husband is doing the game thing because you were going to be there to care for the kid(s) if he’s in some kind of tournament he’s not gong to be available to do the things for the kids
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He is playing an online game event… it will be as if he is not there. Hence they still require your services.
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I used to look after children when the father was in his study working. Can’t see why it would be an issue. Is your fiance jealous?
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They need you to child sit, then you child sit (obviously with pay). Many people who regularly work from home still need a babysitter. The husband apparently needs to concentrate on the video game event.
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If your being paid and were ok with babysitting on that day before don’t see the problem? Does your fiancé worry the dad has a thing with you? He will be busy anyway. D
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You are free and an adult. You can serve your neighbors or not, it’s up to you. Yes or no, but don’t judge them!
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They are paying u , if he’s going to be there but not be present that’s understandable but if ur man feels uncomfortable cz ull be around another man that’s understandable to can’t help how ppl feel , u should still just respect ur partners wishes . .
If your getting paid then its your job to be there even if hes there… If your not getting paid i would not go
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Girl it’s a friend and you should just do it because your not an asshole
Why would you have an issue babysitting while a parent is home? What are you doing that you don’t want people to see is my question??
Your “fiancé” is already being controlling. and you’re being weird. I would fire you
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Over reacting massivly
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Your fiancé has nothing to do with your employment- and shouldn’t. That’s creepy unless he’s paying you to stay home - he’s not your boss. Do what the boss requires or quit.
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You as a babysitter don’t get to choose what they get to do while on their time. I wouldn’t be comfortable work the husband being home for a couple reasons. But if he must be there I would ask that he stays out of the main areas. I world say because children tend to misbehave when the parents are around. But I wouldn’t agree to these terms out of comfort.
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This is red flag AF. You’re going to be controlled for the rest of your life based on his comfort level. You okay with that sis?
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He’s jealous over someone childish enough to play video games all day without taking his kid to school or wife to Dr…yeah… not much to worry about there.
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if you’re being paid what does it matter? Nannies watch kids with a parent coming and going.
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I’ve done a job called mommy’s helper. Basically I was there for baby so she could get work done around the house (momma had health issues). I would say it’s weird to babysit while the parent is home when that wasn’t agreed on. That said money is money. Sounds more like the fiance has trust issues. Why else would he dislike the dad being home? Sit down and calmly ask why it bothers him so much (without accusing). Too many people don’t communicate to their significant others.
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So, the comments section isn’t going the way you planned
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It’s your job…. I go to work whether my boss is there or not…
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If your were already expecting to babysit that day and you get paid, I fail to see the problem. It’s money. Take it.
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