You took her door and wanna force her into counseling? You’re punishing her instead of being there for her when she feels alone. You even stated that she’s going through a lot and CLEARLY feels like she can’t go to you or your husband. I believe in punishing a child when necessary but I’ve done sketchy stuff in the midst of depression and she’s probably wanting your attention and for you to take her problems seriously. Maybe she pierced her nose and got a tattoo because she wanted to be “cool” in hopes of gaining the respect of people at school again. You need to turn off your phone, tv, get rid of any distractions, and have a heart to heart talk with her. Maybe have a mommy daughter date.
Sounds like perhaps signs were there prior to this…i think absolutely counseling (independent and perhaps family); get school social worker on board for the new school year. Crucial time!
Get her some counseling to help her cope and learn healthy ways of dealing with kids when it gets rough.
I think this unfortunately is “normal” for a teenage girl to go through…we all have done crazy things. I think you’re right for being upset, your right for taking her stuff, even her door!! Just remember, do did stupid shit as a teen also, just don’t punish her for to long, allow her to show she can be forgiven. NOW IF THIS HAPPENS AGAIN…whoop her ass!! You still her mama:rofl:
Story way too long daughter gave herself a tattoo and pierced her nose . There’s nothing you can do about it now she’ll have to deal with it . She’ll take out the nose piercing when she’s ready or if she wants to . The tattoo can be covered later with something better . Taking all that stuff away isn’t going to change anything .
At the end of the day, she’s the one that’s going to live with that forever on her body 
she wants to act like an adult then have her suffer the consequences of her actions. You’re not a bad mom, she’s just a rebellious teenager.
We all have a different way of parenting what works for you may not work for a ton of other parents. You’re doing what you think is best, the lying is unacceptable that’s not a pick your battle thing in my view because it leads to bigger lies and sneaky behavior r
My daughter started rebelling at the same age. No matter how many conversations you have with your daughter her friends will always be her biggest influencers. We didn’t get her in to counseling until sophomore year because we too thought that we were bad parents. Counseling has definitely helped! She stayed at a mental health facility for a week because she attempted suicide. She has since told us that she did it because she was torn between us and her friends(she has since chosen better friends) and that her friends get to do whatever they want and be out with whoever and she doesn’t get to. Now that she is a senior she sees that mostly those kids have been in trouble with the law and/or failing school.
You know they have reform school for exactly this reason. If seems like she had everything she wanted not needed. I made my children earn those things by good behavior, attitudes, and grades. And also they knew consequences for their actions. At that age she is still a child making grown-up decisions. Dating??? Boyfriend’s??? What?. No way. I also kept them busy in extra activities, Like sports and music. Not judging just saying that’s what worked for me and my children.
I’m under avid belief that if you are open with your kids they will be open with you. My dad was brutally honest with me and I truly benefitted from it. I didn’t need to lie. If I wanted a piercing and I had the money for it he would take me to the right place. I had a belly ring at 13 but I also wasn’t afraid to ask for it or hear no.
Because I knew I wasn’t my dads equal or friend. But he did let me talk, share my feelings, tell him about what was really going on in school. And instead of getting angry or punishing me he told me the consequences of all those actions.
I snuck out one night came home in a boys car the next morning drunk.
Over the initial anger he sat me down.
And he told me. This is why im mad. As teenagers our brains arent fully developed in areas of consequence so he would tell me the consequences not just at home but in society. Like being a girl who lies, no one is going to trust.
Getting drunk late at night with boys is going to leave me open to sexual assault as well as being put into a category of the girl that drinks in the middle of the night not the girl I’m taking to meet the parents.
He always went into full detail. But he also told me the type of woman I wanted to be depended on how I behaved.
I was always afraid to disappoint and embarrass him. Because who I am isn’t embarrassing but being the bad girl, that is.
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Hmmm…where to even begin…1) daughter needs to see a Dr as her actions may lead to infection, 2) I get that you were upset, but it seems you have made this more about you & your feelings instead of learning more about what your daughter is going through. Try talking with rather than to her…listen to her. What you describe is symptomatic of a steady, long-term issue(s) rather than a recent change.
3) Counseling would be & could be helpful be it not just for her, the whole family.
4) Why send her away? Is that how you deal with issues? Your daughter needs you now more than ever! Do you belong to a church family? Do you have a pastor you can talk with? Do you have any older couples with older children in your life you can talk to? Is there a teacher she particularly liked that you may be able to talk with?
My dad refused to let his ONLY son visit him because he let his hair grow out when he was 16…my brother didn’t see our dad again till he was in his mid 30’s…all because my dad didn’t “approve” of long hair on his son…but didn’t say NO ONE FN WORD about his stepson having long hair! 
She could definitely be going threw something. Dont blow up, because that can make it worse. Have a talk. Explain why its dangerous and unsafe to do that to yourself. Take her to counseling.
As someone who was just like that, having someone blow up on you can just make it worse.
She is rebelling probably needs someone to talk to and understand her … like you said she had a tough two years esp with kids at school trying to isolate her
I understand you’re upset she lied and that she did this behind your back. Just explain to her that she could have really hurt herself and gotten a huge infection or blood poisoning. Tell her she scared you but that to ur not mad about the piercing or tattoo just that she lied and did it herself. She’s 13, kids make mistakes and just want to be liked by their friends for different reasons. Maybe she did it too seem cool or peer pressure. Maybe she did it cause she was tired of waiting. Either way it happened and it’s time to move on. The more you I punish and hide her from experiences the more she’ll rebel. Also tell your other daughter that if her sisters life isn’t directly affecting hers or her sister isn’t hurting herself and others to stop snitching like a three year old.
Try to talk to her privately. Tell her some stuff you did stupidly as a teen. Try to get her to talk. Sometimes it’s easier to talk to a stranger. There’s no shame in taking her to a counselor, if she wants to go.
Show her how to keep it clean and have her apprentice with a tattoo artist.
Make sure it doesn’t get infected. Visit a tattoo shop and have them explain the dangers of doing it herself instead of a professional doing it that way she’s less likely to do it again.
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Sit her down and stop talking. Ask her and tell her that she can trust you and you will listen without judgment. You’ll be surprise how much she’s keeping all by herself.
Yes, take her to Counseling. You should go and your husband as well. Also you may want to consider switching schools or homeschooling.
I know how hard teenagers can be, I think with what is going on with school, I would seek a counsellor, they might be able to get her to speak up. I have done this with both my twin girls who are now 16. It made a huge difference
You’ve told us what happened and you’ve told us how you have punished her. At no time have you told us that you sat down with her and talked to her. Has it occurred to you that she might be trying to attract your attention, to communicate with her?
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All I’m gonna say as a 22 year old mom of 3- Privacy is a privilege. Most people want to condemn you for things but seriously teens know right from wrong and they do dumb things because they WANT to. They don’t care who they upset or if what they are doing is appropriate or not. I did a lot of bad stuff back when I was a teen but I’ll also be the first to admit that I appreciate my parents for being hard on me and they didn’t deserve the crap I gave them. Put your foot down now and she’ll appreciate it a lot more later.
13 years old and she has 2 ex boyfriends. Don’t allow it, that’s why our kids take advantage. She is still a child, she shouldn’t be dating.
13??!! I don’t understand why everyone is ok with it? She needs love and reassurance but 13 to mutilate herself?
This was me at that age.i would break open disposable razors and use that to give myself tattoos with an ink pen, they never stayed and I barely scarred. Pierced 4 holes in my ears and my nose in class at school. I did alot of other stupid shit growing up, I was a drug addict and an alcoholic during my late teens/early adolescent years. Definately not saying dont worry about it, just saying I grew up and grew out of it and now I’m a fully functioning adult with a high paying career and an amazing kid.
Dont think theres any over reacting there… when I was younger my ex sibling came home with tattoo. He had to sand paper out off. I would also take that piercing out of her nose asap
My mom let me get my tongue pierced at 14. She most likely didn’t tell you because she knew your reaction.
My son (inherited through marriage) and I butted heads about a lot of bad choices he made. I took his door off for a month when he got into the habit of slamming to door in anger. I had enough. I took his door and confiscated the screws. I stood my ground with him and cried myself to sleep more times than I care to count, because I refused to give in to a child trying to make grown decisions when he was not ready or able to make them wisely. We came toe to toe a couple of times, and tbh I wasn’t sure if he would swing on me or not - he didn’t. But, I also knew that if he didn’t have a constant and familiar hand to guide him in his decisions, while he was still figuring out how to make them, he would stumble WAAAY more than necessary.
I am proud to say that he and I are closer than ever, he is a successful young man, making really good decisions as he navigates life as an adult. Was it difficult? He’ll yes! Was it worth all the tears and heartache to get to this point? 100%!
Keep doing what you’re doing! Show her when she has made a choice that disappoints you, but give her the chance to explain her motivations so she can navigate through (with you) to the right choice. She may tell you she hates you and she may stop talking to you, just be there and show her that regardless of how she feels in the moment, YOU aren’t going anywhere! Ever!
_> these comments make me so happy my Dad was the way he was lol, some of the shit y’all pull omg
. Look honestly, she’s 13 yes she’s growing up however without approval it’s a no go, tattoos pericing whatever, and for those who say otherwise I’m sorry but if you live under you’re parents roof it’s there rules you abid by them, break them sorry you loose privliages. I don’t think you overreacted but did what a parent should of lol, if me or my sister had done that we’d be grounded for weeks if not months and gotten out asses beaten. You are allowed to do whatever the hell you want once you move out. Yeah some of you run away but a lot of you go back. My parents said go ahead you’ll be back. And honestly that was true for my sisters several times lol. She had to earn her trust back
Not saying this is a good thing but I did the same thing because my parents were completely ridiculous no privacy no rights to nothing just kinda look at it on her side not just yours
when they both get infected bc she should have waited & needs to care for it properly she’ll understand she messed up
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I agree with the other comments. I would be more upset about the infection risks and have those types of conversations and why it might be best to wait a few years. Reinforce taking time to make decisions on things that are permanent. If she still wants it in a few years, agree to get it done professionally.
I would set up counseling. What could it hurt, and it might be helpful
My friend had her nose pierced… Got sick and it got infected and now she has a real big hole in her nose… Not safe…
To all of you who are saying to keep her door off…this is how you end up with emotionally damaged and suicidal children.
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My husband walked out when our daughter was 16, just before junior year. It totally changed the course of her life. She was on the varsity golf team to get a scholarship to college to where she went to trade school to become a cosemetologist - which she loves - but those two years were like herding cats. I told her that if she graduated I would consent and pay for a septum piercing. She did. I did. She now has at least 6 (if not more) tattoos. I don’t have any or even my ears pierced. The bigger fuss you make over it will make it all the more attractive to her. Oh, and yeah, he walked out but according to his parents her lower grades was because I am a shitty mother. You know, the one who stayed.
Shes expressing her self and doing through a faze. I can only imagine what my daughter is going to do in 2 yrs.
I know from experience…the more the parent says no…it’s gonna happen
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Prime example of kids havin kids cant know wat to do wen times get tough cause they haven’t adulted in an adult situation she rebels cause she thinks it’s cool to go against the advice given by one who’s knowledgeable in giving advice piercings and ink are minor trouble to deal with wait till shes bringin boyz home spreadin her legs like they Marge that’s easily spread and falls pregnant to a no hoper of society like you did then you’ll have something to worry bout history repeating itself
Oh i think most parents can relate in some way or another. I think your being way too hard on yourself sweetie. I was very rebellious as a tween all the way through my adolescent life. I did that stuff along with shaving my head and going totally grunge. My parents were very hurt and upset. We went to counseling as a family, which taught us alot about communication. Now having raised my kids ( my youngest just graduated ) teenager years are the most challenging. They struggle to find their independence and identity. I leaned on my parents for advise ALOT. I found communication at their pace was our answer. I would continually remind them i was there anything. I might not like what i hear or they might not like my response but maybe if we just talked about it and really listened to eachother we might be able to get threw it easier. It helped in many ways, but it was always really challenging. Mama you got this, your stronger than you realize. Just wrap her up with love, support, and a shoulder when she needs it, you both will get threw it. But more importantly be consistant!!!
my daughter would have serious consequences for that and she ain’t even that age yet
Just be open with her and tell her how that makes you feel because if you’re not open with her the more she going to rebel against you. Just ask her to honestly explain why she did it and let her know that you wouldn’t be as mad if you knew why rather than lying.
For one take the piercing out do not let her keep it in no way is she old enough
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Just sounds like a teenager doing dumb teenager stuff. I did all of that crap when I was younger and I’m fine now. Personally I would educate her on the medical risks of getting tattoos and piercings at home and not from a professional, not just the “you’ll regret it later” talk. Let her know that stuff is unsafe and then just remind her that when she’s 18 she can always get that crap done safely and professionally. No need to do it now and so young.
She’s gonna regret the tattoo later. I did the same at 14. It was supposed to be a heart with an arrow going through it. It ended up looking like a dick going through it. My dad said he would’ve been mad but he just laughed and told me one day I would regret it. I’ve never regretted it but I did get it covered up
I did the same thing except it was my belly button and a tattoo on my chest… Both can be fixed/covered. Welcome to the teenage years, she is normal.
I gave my self a tattoo at 13 I turned out fine lol just talk to her
All I can say is your future is looking filled with a lot of drama if you don’t get a handle on her soon.
the two of you aren’t communicating effectively. Collaborative problem solving is a great tool to work with to try to solve issues togther.
The piercing will close. Shes exerting her independence. Tell her shes allowed 1 piercing on the body except ears. Tell her shes allowed 1 tattoo until she moves out. Its a phase.
Trying being honest with her about not making the same mistakes you did.
She is a teenager and tennagers do stuff that parent don’t approve of whether you find out about it or not. No matter how hard you try as a parent, no matter how good of a parent you are they are going to do stupid shit sometimes.
I didnt read this whole thing but it’s not the end of the world. She should be disciplined for stealing and lying but a tat and puercing isn’t a big deal.
Oh my oh my 
I think 13 to young she is still a child. Your her mother not her best friend or friend you don’t need to understand we"re she is coming from she is out of control only to get worse if you don’t pull that in to line. See what’s her bothering her if you want but at the end of the day if my daughter an yes I have one does this I’d have my foot up her butt thought I would have raised her better. Your hubby needs to support you more not continue to create a little monster. If my hubby turned around an said what yours did I’d flip growing up an running a muck are two different things😂. But hey each to their own. Good luck hun
Its a phase. She will grow out of it.
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Youve got pretty good advices above , i will not repeat . I will tell you though . Taking her door down will make her do her stuff somewhere else … your kid is home and safe … dont push her away . Give her space give her back her intimacy. And let her come to you. Tell her you’ll always be there . And stay calm even if you wanna blow … but also let her know you will do your best but you also want her to do hers 
stay strong hang in there ! 
Problems began long before your THIRTEEN year old did this…
Best advice I can give you is… Good luck 
it will get better and eventually you will figure it out. Everyone is different but don’t ever give up. Love her hard and let her feel that love. She will come around but you have to do more than what you’re already doing. I know it seems hard and you feel that you are giving it your all, but look outside the box is what I mean. Take a deep breath… Calm your mind… And just breath. Everyone has their advice to give but everyone’s daughters are different. Don’t assume that your daughter falls into any of these categories. Advice is great to ask for and after receiving all the feedback analyze everything and approach your situation the way you see fit. Only you know your daughter. We are not perfect parents and we never will be but I have no doubt that you and your daughter will be okay.
FYI I have 3 daughters and was a single mom for many years. Everything gets better… Never give up on her.
My daughter pierced her nose at 13. At 14 I took her to get her bellybutton pierced. She will be 15 in a few months and I said she can have her tongue pierced. She doesn’t lie to me about stuff like that. She is a good student. It’s her way of expressing herself.
Next year she wants a tattoo, and I will take her to get that too.
In no way do I consider myself a bad Mom.
I would rather the door of communication be open than for her to do this behind my back and then lie about it.
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What did she tattoo?
First, id put her door handle back on. She is a teenage girl. By the time I was 14 I had 4 tattoos, my nose, belly button and lip pierced. Started at 12. All behind my moms back. Controlling her this much is only going to cause resentment. You want her to feel like she can tell you things. With what your doing shes just going to feel like she has to hide everything… Therapy sounds like a great idea. She may fight it at first but it will help… But before you send her try to talk to her. Have a heart to heart. Let her know its okay to talk to you ane confide in you without the fear of punishment. Imo you are being far to rough and giving her a complex. She sounds like a normal teen… Maybe think for a moment about when you where her age… Also, with the nose ring rather than making her take it out, you should buy her an acctul nose ring, and teach her to clean it so it doesnt get infected. If she takes it out and lets it close she will only get a lump of cartilage and a scar, making it harder to be done again.
Im very glad my mom didnt put me in counseling for normal teenage behavior. Nor did i to my daughters. Just normal punishment for normal actions.
Where’s the pic of the tattoo?
How big is the tattoo?
Get her counseling please. I thought something was going on. She needs help dealing with things.
Send her to a different school firstly she needs to start afresh and gain her confidence back
Yes counseling sounds like a good idea. Family counseling too
I did stuff like that and turned out fine 
. Kids make mistakes she’s being a teenager.
Yout not a bad mom your simply doing it best
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Make sure shes had a tetanus shot.
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Family therapy not just for her but for you and her
Sounds like she needs you now more than ever❤️
Counseling sounds like a good idea.
Damn kids. I did the same. Just watch for infection.
My daughter did same thing and I laughed!
The only one that can decide what is right for your daughter is YOU! She is 13. Actions have consequences. I took my now 24 year old daughters door off of her hinges as well when she was 16. In addition I removed everything else from her room that wasn’t a necessity. Took away her car and quit her job for her. All of those things are privileges. I did take her to get her nose pierced at 16. I didn’t have an issue with it. It’s her body but again my rule was 16 and she abided by that. She was/is a good kid. Honor roll, etc…they are kids though and kids test boundaries. They are also just trying to figure out who they are along with all of the other teen stressors.
None of what you did is going to traumatize her for eternity. My daughter is now a nurse and is back in school to be an NP. I’ve got two more right behind her. It’s a tough job for sure! It’s the responsibility of the parents to teach our children that their actions have consequences. If those were your rules that you had for your daughter then yes by all means hand out an appropriate punishment.
I think you’re overreacting and doing all that is just going to make her rebel more 
try to understand where she’s coming from.
Let it go. She will now have to live with it.
Be strong and firm mom
OK. The father…I don’t have much respect for. “She’s growing up, and you don’t want her too” First of all, shes 13. A young kid. She took YOUR ink dude. And did it all with a safety pin. Looks like"dad" is no help when it comes down to discipline.
Taking away her stuff, yes. But breaking off her door, technically it’s your door (your house) and now you have to spend some money to eventually replace it. I know you were infuriated, I understand. By all right you should be, but don’t go breaking your house apart. Discipline her, yes. It’s not your fault, that your significant other isn’t any help with discipline. Stand your ground. If my daughter, was 13, stole her father’s ink, and did all that stuff to herself, I’d punish her for doing so. If she turned 15 or 16, and did it, well, I’d have the mind set of, “If you can do all that, then you should have no problem getting a job and working.” Stand your ground with your grounding her, but please don’t break your home. 
She’ll…thank you…many…many years from now.
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Teenagers make bad decisions, doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent.
I would take away phone if has one. Have her See a counselor
13 is too young- just my opinion 
She’s just acting like a typical teenager , no body loves me which they do , my parents don’t understand which they do they were teenagers once . They tell people their woes and stretch the truth a bit like yes they reaaaally do . 13 is a vulnerable age esp for girls BUT I think art from taking OFF the door to her room taking her phone and grounding is perfectly OK I can almost hear the DRAMA from this child now , You have values you gave her a time frame for the body piercing and that’s perfectly ok and she went against it so she needs to know there are consequences for that rebellious action and that’s perfectly fine as well . She isn’t OLD enough to make decisions and that’s why you make them for her and she needs to form that trust with you on an equal playing field you don’t have to bow down to her at all she’s a teen and they do dumb things buuuut you don’t have to like it and you don’t have to feel guilty or bad . I’ve heard of teens punching holes in walls and threatening parents simply because they ran out of internet credit and mum and dad won’t buy more , Pecking order is a natural thing and you have to stand your ground YOU are the parent so taking phone away and grounding is perfectly fine . Yelling and screaming won’t achieve anything so it’s like oh well no phone , no going out no problem .
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Bro it’s a piercing. Calm tf down.
Wheres the tattoo pic.
Where’s the pic
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Welcome to the real world.
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Think your overreacting a little bit.
Taking the door off a childs room is such a disgusting overstep.
I’m not even gonna say how I’d react to that.
I don’t think she did one bit I would of beat to ass
Just so you know where I am coming from. I have 4 kids 25,17,8 and 4.
- I’m not sure why many are so quick to jump to the conclusion that she needs a counselor. That because she pierced her nose and gave herself a tattoo she must be in some sort of mental anguish. NOT SO.
She is 13. They know everything. No one else in the world knows any better then they do. So it is very much the possibility of
#2. It’s what kids do - make stupid decisions and learn the natural consequences of their actions.
13 is also a big age and many kids start looking for their personal self - their identity. Some kids feel really awkward at this stage in their life. It’s almost like a light switch one day they are this loving toddler, school ager, pre-teen whatever and then boom 
it’s like what happened to my sweet child I don’t even know who you are kinda moment.
Piercings I don’t have a problem with they can close up, dying your hair, your fashion. Express yourself be you is how I have always led my kids. And believe me you there were some questionable moments. However I just reminded myself better them then me.
We are not our kids and our kids are not us. All we can do is guide and hope that they turn into the citizens we want them to.
The tattoo - I would have been annoyed with that. But I wouldn’t have lost my mind. There are other moments in life that are going to require you to REALLY loose your mind.
Just because someone chooses to have piercings and tattoos doesn’t mean they are destined to a life of doom.
When both of my older kids talked about tattoos I said when you turn 18 more power to you. You are an adult and can make your own decisions, plus the way you think at 12,13, 14,15,16 is all different, wait till you are of age to make your own decisions. My 17yr old daughter did go behind my back and have her friend give her a tattoo on her shoulder, she hid it for a good month from me, then as the weather got warmer had no option to tell me. I was mad because she did it and hid it, but she is a bull headed kid and very strong 
willed and I have to choose my battles with her. She is my obstinate one coming and going. At the time I was like she is 17 it’s her regret not mine, I just need to get her through 12th grade next year.
I would sit down and talk to your daughter and find out why she did it. I would explain to her I never said you couldn’t have these things but as your mom I wanted you to wait because tattoos are generally a permanent thing and your mind will change a lot between now and 16 when we agreed. I would ask why she kept it secret. Because you want your children to always want to be able to talk to you and if your reaction is a normal reaction to her then she may feel like you are controlling and doing it just to spite and won’t be forthcoming with you.
I am a pretty laid back parent. My older kids have always come to me for anything. When they have crazy ideas I just try to guide them. Let them make their own choices. I put my foot down about, house rules, school, friends, expectations, morals and values, respecting others, manners, behavior etc. self expression i don’t really pressure that unless I feel like something is inappropriate. 18 for tattoos is a rule. Just because it’s a permanent thing, there is no erasing it off and removing it surgically is a lot of money. If they make it at 18 they can’t ever say man mom why did you let me do that.
Be mad that she broke your rule and went behind your back. I don’t think I would remove her door for this one. I did take my sons door from him and all his stuff in his room when he was in like 6/7th grade I think it was.
Parenting is a crazy roller coaster ride. I am a single mom, I work full time and I have my own business. I was married for 18yrs. My middle two are back and forth with their dad and sometimes I feel like I am always working or was always in school. Just because you aren’t home doesn’t mean you are a bad mom - whether you were at home or work she wanted to do it she would have. We do what we have to because we have to provide for our families and want to do our best for them. It’s hard for sure.
Advice for what exactly?
To be honest those things are pretty minor compared to what she could be out doing. Yes it sucks she broke your trust and did what she might not have been allowed to do. But teens of that age definitely want to test the boundaries, especially if they feel their life is restricted or controlled by their parents all the time. If shes having a hard time with her own life atm then she may need to talk to someone about it, it could also be why shes trying to test the boundaries with you. I remember wanting to experiment with this stuff too. I got my first piercings at 13 and first real tattoo at 14. Got kicked out at 14 and lived my own life from that age on with no help at all. You cant keep them young forever and this time is the prime time to let them start to experiment safely within the boundaries of what you and her set together. There maybe times where she wants to go out with her mates, parties and all that stuff will be coming. Its just part of being a teen. I have a teen daughter who is 14 and a younger daughter who is 9 and I’m looking at their want to grow up and its terrifying. But at the same time I know exactly what didnt work for me as a teen which is why I got kicked out in the first place. Having girls really made me change the way I wanted to parent them, much less strict than my own father. Our 14 year old is starting to want to find out who she and where she sits in life in general. Maybe try have a for real no shit talk with your daughter and get down to the bottom of why she actually is feeling like she needs to do this or that right now. No getting angry, no blaming her or no trusting. Just a good old fashion talk it out with her? Girls are the hardest lol. Good luck mama!!! You got this whatever happens
Over reacting. Give all her stuff back or you’ll lose her by 16!
I tattooed myself, pierced myself, and moved out at 16. Married at 18, my kids are 5&7 and I’m celebrating my 17th anniversary today. I didn’t talk to my parents until I told them I was getting married. Don’t push her away. My life turned out amazing. 15 years in retail and now I’m a SAHM. She’s exploring, finding herself, and being 13! You’re going to have to let her grow up, like it or not.
A lady we knew found her son dead from huffing spray cans at that age maybe pick your battles n chill out
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I got my first tattoo at 13, I regret it so much because it was a stick & poke that I let my at the time boyfriend do. I was young and dumb and I have something on my body forever. I hope she realizes that the tattoo isn’t gonna look good as the years go on. The piercing thing isn’t bad I feel like every girl at that age wants freedom & to fit in I know I was desperate to fit in and I tattooed myself as well as pierced my eyebrow and nose and now I am 22 and have no interest in piercings I think only some people can pull them off, I did get more tattoos but done profesional . I didn’t cover the one I did myself because I wanna show my daughter how stupid I was as a teenager.
Give her a good ass wooping!
Yep don’t let her out of the house! What a brat