I've been with my fiance for 6 years. We both have 3 children from previous relationships. My oldest son is 14, and he hasn't seen his bio dad since he was 6. We all have been living together for 2 years. My problem is my 14 yr old and my fiance do not get a long. At all. They argue, and barely talk at all. I want my son to have a positive male in his life, and I wish my fiance and my son had a closer relationship. But it seems like my fiance is kinda just "tolerating" my oldest. At this point I'm ready to leave because I feel like my fiance should be there more for my son, like how he is here for me when I need him. He talks to all the other kids, just not my oldest. I just don't know if I'm overreacting or not..any advice will help, I can take the good and bad. Thank you for letting me vent and I really appreciate this group so much
Your fiancée really needs to be the bigger person & try. He’s an adult, who’s also a role model for other children. He needs to try…take your son out to do things he likes, out to lunch, play the sports he likes with him. It won’t make them bestfriends but it’ll help the household not be so awkward. Also I’d talk to your son. See why he feels like they don’t get along. Tell him to be honest, don’t get mad at him or judge just listen.
That is a red flag. There is no reason that your “fiancé” should be treating your oldest son like that. And your son should get over himself as well. But maybe have your fiancé try a little harder with him. If things don’t get better. I’m sorry but I would leave my fiancé to make sure my son was happy.