Tell him to hush! He has a roof over his head, eats food that you and your husband pays for, keep the electricity going that powers his PlayStation, and clothes on his back.
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Oh lord, he has some growing to do. Ask him when he lives alone does he plan to never clean his place because he doesnāt get paid to do so? Yeah, thatās not how that works buddy. Allowance is privileged, not a requirement. If he wants the $15 from the child support, give it to him but donāt drive him or tell him he needs to pay his playstation subscription this month. Make him understand by giving him a hard lesson.
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I feel badā¦ Iām trippin on you, youāve had him since heās one. Heās your child. 
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What a joke! He has alot to learn! Time to teach him reality
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Iād tell him to call the cops and tell them heās being made to do chores. 
seriously though,
I would keep giving him the 15$ but he would say goodbye to the rest. Make him buy his own subscriptions and stuff with HIS 15$ so he can learn the value of money.
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Tell him to suck it up buttercup
I would send him a bill every week of what is costs to live and function in your home. His portion of the mortgage, electric, water, food, etc. He needs some perspective. Itās a family not entitlement.
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My opinion, donāt pay allowance to people who live free in your home. A family is a team and everyone should pitch in without compensation. Heās 15, tell him if he wants to get paid got a job. My son has been working for 3 years now and dose what he wants with his own money. And I wouldnāt be using that sorry excuse of child support to pay for gaming subscriptions, he should be using his money for that.
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Tell him to get a jobā¦SOME grocery stores will hire him as a bagger at 15ā¦ otherwise, too badā¦
Slaveryā¦ no itās called you live in the house so you pitch in. Itās life, if he lived by himself he would be doing more. This new generationā¦ my 14 year old is hot after a job, maybe sway him that way if he would want extra money
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Sit him down and go through what the money is spent on and ask him which one of his things he is willing to give up for the cash, he is old enough to be told how the world works
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If he didnāt buy the PlayStation with his allowance then take it back and sell it and give him his $15 dollars for the month.
Do you make your bio kids pay for all their own stuff
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Get him to pick ā¦ playstation or money in his pocket ā¦ Heās old enough to understand that everything costs money and as adults we have to sometimes go without in order to afford other things or we have to balance funds etc.
Tell him to get a job 
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my kids mowed lawns , baby sat all kinds of stuff to earn money 15 is a good age to start
Biological or not, your all he knows as patents, and hes old enough to see the favoritism. Once hes 18, hes going to be gone.
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If you buy PlayStation once a year itāll save you then you could swing the allowance. However if your other kids have similar services and get an allowance. Then by rights all kids should be on the same level end of the day. Regardless to what lead to you being legal guardian you should treat them as your own. Otherwise maybe get his dad to take him back.
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Iām sorry, but youāve had the child since almost 2? In my eyes heās yours so treat him equally as u do with the other 2. Heās able to get a job maybe itās time he gets one
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Take away playstation door tv phone anything extra and make him earn it back.
They should not get paid for doing chores. I would tell him since he feels entitled to the child support you will start charging him for rent, utilities, food, laundry etc and that they will no longer be any allowance even when yous get back on your feet kids shouldnāt get paid for helping in the house they live in.
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Buy a 1 year playstation subscription instead of month to month. It may seem more expensive but you will save more not having to pay every single month, by the end of the yr.
Tell him to get a job and he can pay rent because room and board and food and electricity arenāt freeā¦
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Am I missing something? She said they donāt have the money to pay THEM not just him. If itās all three then why is she getting bashed by some? Did I read this wrong? Serious questionā¦
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He needs to make a change he needs to pick play station or money in his pocket not both
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Once they start feeling entitled, thatās where it ends. I would tell him to find a job if he were mine. Hope things get easier for you in the future.
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Keep the kid working
I think fair is fair. He might not be your biological child, but you raised him, so itās your. Why is it ok, to give allowances to your other 3 kids and not him. Just because his father pays 80 dollars a month.
Your kid or not, you guyās are the only parents he knows.
Feel bad for the kid, who knows , how much he has to endure to get a penny out of you. Remember, heās not an adult yet. Youāre still responsible for him till he turns 18 or the legal age in your state.
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Um tell him to sit the fk down and get back in his place. If he refuses - this is when you say okay āwe settle this with a battleā and then proceed to fight him. 15 year olds are crazy letās face it.
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I think you are all misunderstanding something. She said none of them got their allowance. I donāt think sheās playing favoritism. I think sheās actually being pretty awesome. Considering most people who get child support donāt give any of it to the children for stuff like that, they usually pay bills with it only.
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Obviously you donāt accept this kid as your own even though youāve had him since 18mnths old, your influence has been instilled in this child so ask yourself where did you go wrong? You make your kids pay gas money or just him? Either way your influence has screwed him up not anyone else, so fix your own mess and start by accepting him as yours
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My daddy used to tell us, if you put your feet under his table, you were paid .
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No more Playstation plus . Then he could have his 15
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Make him get a job, he can earn his extra cash
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Be fair give ALL the kids $15 dollars!!!
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Christina Renee I think she worded her question badly. She distinguishes the 15 year old as not-biologically hers, but doesnāt distinguish him as 1 of her 3 kids, which leads her question as being widely open to misinterpretation. The only question is, is she treating all of the children in her care equally within reason? Is she keeping tabs on the expenditures of all of the children equally within reason? One of my kids has chores, the other doesnāt. If I leave out the fact that one of my kids is 11 when I say she has chores, and that the other kid is a 1 year old baby, it sounds like I treat them unreasonably different. My first thought, from how she worded it, was wtaf, why even take him in if youāre going to count basic necessities, like hygiene, against his allowance. But then I read it again and was like, oh wait no, sheās saying thatās what his child support is spent on. If heās 1 of the 3 kids that normally gets an allowance that they canāt afford at this time, the kid needs to get over it. But, if she means that they have 3 kids in addition to the 15 year old, and that they give the other kids an allowance but not him, then they need to change that. I think she probably included him in the count as one of her 3 kids, as thatās how Iād count it. I would never want to leave one child feeling like theyāre thought of as being less family to me. But because she doesnāt specify that, I believe some people are interpreting it as though they have 3 kids in addition to him.
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If youāve had from 18 months HE should be your child!
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My allowance
I was allowed to live there 
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I get the no allowance part but charging him gas money to take him to his friends, charging for his personal hygiene items? . Itās obvious He has probably always been treated like a burden. Plus 2 adults not working when literally everywhere is hiringā¦ sorry but you sound horrible.
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Arenāt u the parent?
If my kid spoke to me like that their PlayStation would be gone
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Dear. My children must be neglected then since weāve never paid allowance and doing chores is part of living in my house.
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Tell him to get a job!! I cut my kids off at 14! As soon as they are able to work they are able to pay for their items. And guess what now they are 19 and etc and they pay for their own school, insurance, vehicles, rents, food and etc. and if they need help NOW I donāt have an issue helping them because they put forth the effort and acted responsible
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Tell him to get a job. My daughter is 15 and she works at McDonaldās. She works Saturday and Sunday
you live here donāt ya?
You could both get jobs? Canāt expect financial intelligence when thereās none demonstrated
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He wonāt have a PS subscription if he wants an allowance. He can pay for it if he wants it that bad or he can have the money up to him.
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They have a home,a bed ,food n their tummy?
Uhhhhhh What a weird way to announce that youāre a terrible person
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Make him do the chores and hopefully he understands the pressure u have he gets no allowance and nobody else does either or what extra u have split it 3 ways
He wants money then work for it! That little bit of child support doesnāt help hardly at all! Heās old enough to get a work permit and earn his money! There are plenty of places that are hiring!
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He can mow lawns. Ask neighbors or elderly people.
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My parents gave us lunch money and we baby sit for spending money
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Why are you guys so worried about her language. We donāt do allowance in my house at all. My kids are required to have good personal hygiene and keep their rooms clean. If I ask them to take out trash mow the lawn or shovel snow out of our drivewayā¦they just do it. Iāve explained how much it costs for food electricity rent household supplies shower supplies clothes shoes baseball registration cub scout registration swimming lessons ect. If my kids want something extra and I have the money they get it but if I donāt then they donāt thatās just how it works. My son has shown an interest in doing yard work for neibors for $ which is fine and encouraged but my kids arenāt getting $ from me each week to do what they need to do to contribute to our home.
Youāve obviously provided well for him. To have the audacity to demand allowance. Treat him like an adult. Give him the child support money and then charge him $150 for his room and food. No more free rides no more paying for his subscriptions. He pays for everything! Then his entitled butt can get a job. Tough love is needed mama.
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You and your husband should set the example and get a job! Then help him get one.
My grand kids aged 14, 12 and 10
Donāt get pocket money/allowance
They have their basic chores such as cleaning their rooms, doing their washing feeding the animals for free
If they do chores
Like doing the dishes ,sweeping/vacuum the floors, cleaning up the lounge room , taking the bins out/bringing them in
For that they get $5 a week
At the end of the month
They get an Xbox card (For my grand son , one grandaughter gets a roblox card and my other grand daughter gets art supplies)
Out of the money they have earned
We would never make them pay for their own hygiene products or petrol money to drive them to their friends houses or pick them up
We pay for Stan Netflix ,the Disney channel and the internet
Do your biological kids have to do the same things as you make him do ?
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I know who posted this question and her and her husband love all three of their children and treat them all the same accordingly to age. She only mentioned unbiological to explain why they receive child support. They do not āchargeā him for gas or hygiene products. They still provide everything they have always provided with the exception of the allowance. NONE OF THE CHILDREN GET AN ALLOWANCE.
- Boy is 15
- He is 1 of 3 children
- Parents are both out if work (financial difficulty)
- Stopped giving allowance to all kids
- Kid thinks he shouldnāt have to do chores and if he does itās slavery.
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Old enough to get job and pay the bill
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At 15 I would sit him down and show him every single bill you have and where every penny goes ā¦ use this moment right here as a chance to prepare him for what the real world is likeā¦ every aspectā¦ show him what yall made before and where you are at now ā¦ donāt shelter him because in a couple of years heāll have to provide his on shelter
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I stopped giving my kids an allowance when I got them cell phones, when they turned 15/16 they got jobs for spending money. I pay for the necessities.
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Hes 15 he can get his own job if he doesnāt like it. Child support is there to help raise the child, (pay bills, buy food, etc) it doesnāt have to be given to him.
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Soā¦ I am the mother who posted this.
The women in this comment section who are reaching is way crazy. While I have no need to defend myself, let me say a few things.
This child DOES NOT get treated any different than my other kids. As a matter of fact, I have only birthed 1 of my 3 kids. Which means two of them do not belong to me biologically. Thatās our truth. And extremely relevant.
I was paying $180 a month between my 3 children. And none of his allowance was taken from child support. My husband is on state disability due to having surgery June 1st. My contract ended and I am looking for work. So we have income to survive. Just not enough to pay their allowance.
There is a big reason why I use his child support for gasā¦ He doesnāt want to ride public transportation. If I am taking him across town and I need gas in my car, I will put 10/15 bucks in my tank. Considering I have to pick him up as well and I live in California where gas prices are insane. I gave him the choice between a bus pass or my car. He chose my car.
Next, the CS I get for him IS NOT his money. It is money we receive to HELP support him. Granted, child support hasnāt been there the last 15 years. Thatās new. We supported him WITHOUT any help. Why? Because he is OUR son. So where anyone gets he is expected to live on $80 bucks a month is fucking crazy.
Also, the list I gave was very small compared to all the different things that $80 buys on a month to month basis. Sometimes it makes up money for bills, buys shoes, cologne, games, food, P.E clothes that he has misplaced 8 times this year ā¦ So much other shit. And not just his NEEDS but stuff he WANTS.
Based on these comments, I have read my child some of the shit you women have commented and he says āhow can they even talk about something they know nothing about? I was just mad. These people donāt know anythingā
We have NEVER held over his head that we arenāt his biological parents. His biological father even asked him to come live with him and he said no. He was happy with us.
Btw NONE of the kids are getting allowances and as soon as we start working again, all three of them will start receiving it again. I will not respond to anyone anymore. Feel free to bash me, say what you want, and look like terrible people. I know how I feel about my kid, I know how my kid feels about me, and I know what kind of person and mother I am. I donāt need anyone to tell me different.
Maybe let him see his biological father
Bottom line you are the parent and set the rules in your home. People like to have an opinion but your house is your business. You canāt make everyone happy. To each their own! Itās hard to reach kids who think they are right. Good luck. I donāt know your kid at all. Chores are not slavery. Itās responsibility for yourself. Letās see is internship slavery too? I think that is an exaggerated statement from an overpriveleged person to even think about comparing chores to slavery. Not even! Keep your head up and just do the best you can for your family. Thatās all anyone can do. God Bless!
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Ooooh what a teaching moment this can be! Iām so excited for you.
I would show him how to do a budget.
Debits
PlayStation $
Power $, gas $, water $. split between the amount of people in the house.
Food $
Basics groceries $
Phone $
Internet $
If you wanna get really in detail.
Mortgage$ split between who is in the house to show him how much renting a room would be.
Insurance $
Credits
Then show him how much he would get paid to do each chore.
Figure out what the difference is.
Ooooh that sounds fun 
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Sounds like he needs a lesson on gratitude . I wouldnāt ever give allowance again bc of the fit I would say get a job kiddo money is not given its earned. You do chores to help the family I donāt pay my kids to help around the house. They get most of what they want and all they need but if mama says we canāt afford it they are respectful and understand I wouldnāt say no for no reason ! They are 17 and 14
Show him how to use a lawn mower and let him go around the neighborhood and try to make his own $!! Let him learn the true value of a dollar
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Wow , uh , just wow , so much wrong with this situation
I say youāve already messed up by allowing them to āexpectā anything in return for doing chores around the house. My kids know that their shampoo and hair products , feminine products , ridiculous Boujee ass coffee and snack habits along with breakfast lunch dinner and anything else they see touch experience in life up to this point has been provided by mine and their mothers hard work and willingness to provide that lifestyle , end of story! Freakin allowance , pfffft
At 15 he can work for extra money. We all did it ā¦ he wonāt die.
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Get Dr. Philās advice.
Question? How does he not belong? Didnāt you decide to take when he was 18month old? Sounds like you donāt want him anylonger. You took him and raised him, so yea he Belongs to you. Biological or not
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Kick him out. Let him find out that doing chores isnāt free and he needs to snap out of his intitled behaviour. Chores are a part of life and you should never be paid for them.
First of all donāt give them an allowance, in doing chores they are learning how to survive on their own and function in society. If you back down your only showing him that he is in control
I donāt think he should expect it. I am from a different generation though. You know āYou live here, you work hereā generation. I donāt think it is unfair.
In Oregon there definition of child support is paying for food, clothes, and a roof over your head. Entertainment is not included. Instead of chores make everyone clean up after themselves and that will eliminate chores. If you use a dish, wash it and put it in the dishwasher. Take turns unloading the dishwasher when itās clean (including parents). Wash your own laundry including bath towels. And so on. Nobody gets paid for Cleaning up after themselves. Life is fair that way.
Soā¦ I am the mother who posted this.
The women in this comment section who are reaching is way crazy. While I have no need to defend myself, let me say a few things.
This child DOES NOT get treated any different than my other kids. As a matter of fact, I have only birthed 1 of my 3 kids. Which means two of them do not belong to me biologically. Thatās our truth. And extremely relevant.
I was paying $180 a month between my 3 children. And none of his allowance was taken from child support. My husband is on state disability due to having surgery June 1st. My contract ended and I am looking for work. So we have income to survive. Just not enough to pay their allowance.
There is a big reason why I use his child support for gasā¦ He doesnāt want to ride public transportation. If I am taking him across town and I need gas in my car, I will put 10/15 bucks in my tank. Considering I have to pick him up as well and I live in California where gas prices are insane. I gave him the choice between a bus pass or my car. He chose my car.
Next, the CS I get for him IS NOT his money. It is money we receive to HELP support him. Granted, child support hasnāt been there the last 15 years. Thatās new. We supported him WITHOUT any help. Why? Because he is OUR son. So where anyone gets he is expected to live on $80 bucks a month is fucking crazy.
Also, the list I gave was very small compared to all the different things that $80 buys on a month to month basis. Sometimes it makes up money for bills, buys shoes, cologne, games, food, P.E clothes that he has misplaced 8 times this year ā¦ So much other shit. And not just his NEEDS but stuff he WANTS.
Based on these comments, I have read my child some of the shit you women have commented and he says āhow can they even talk about something they know nothing about? I was just mad. These people donāt know anythingā
We have NEVER held over his head that we arenāt his biological parents. His biological father even asked him to come live with him and he said no. He was happy with us.
Btw NONE of the kids are getting allowances and as soon as we start working again, all three of them will start receiving it again. I will not respond to anyone anymore. Feel free to bash me, say what you want, and look like terrible people. I know how I feel about my kid, I know how my kid feels about me, and I know what kind of person and mother I am. I donāt need anyone to tell me different.
I would like to see that āchildā support himself and all that goes with just living, for $80. dollars per month!!!
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I would stop using that child support for his PlayStation and tell him this is for the food you eat the clothes you wear that are cleaned and the electricity and water you useā¦ if you would like to keep the attitude up you actually owe us money
God bless you! These damn kids donāt understand
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15 is old enough to get a job, itās about to be summer time, he might could get a job as a counselor at a day camp
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Why is he basically having to pay for his hygiene products??? Thatās YOUR responsibility as the parent or guardian! There is so much wrong here it isnāt funny. Also taking his money for āgasā ā¦ do you make YOUR kids pay for gas? Thatās all part of being a parent. Ugh. You donāt deserve the kid. Bless his heart
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You make him pay for his own hygiene products and gas money to go places??? Thatās wild!! As a parent those are things you just do!
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Tell him he has to give something up for it a few months without ps plus should shut him up. Heās a very fortunate child to have all he does as chores are something everyone in the house does because he lives there he should do his with or without an allowance. I never got an allowance, my kids donāt get an allowance. I feed them, cloth them, pay them crap they like. Thatās thier allowance
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Tell him to get a job heās 15.
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Thatās a tough question. Kids at that age can be challenging. Maybe sit him down and let him know that chores are required regardless of allowance because youāre a family and he lives in the home too. Let him know itās a difficult time right now but as soon as youāre back on your feet allowance will return but until then he needs to help because youāre a family and thatās what families do. Right now his small amount of child support go for the essentials he needs. If he needs pocket money maybe he mow/ do yard work for neighbors for a little extra cash! Hope you get some good positive advice and good luck to you and your family!!
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$80 a month wouldnāt even begin to cover what it takes to raise a teen
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Hes 15. He can get a job.
Chores are the kids way of paying their way and having responsibility
I told my kids chores are their way of showing gratitude for their existence and all I provide gor them.
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I cant with this post
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Why isnāt mom paying child support? Sounds like you need to get to the courthouse!
He is old enough to get a job after school and during the summer. Dog walking, mowing lawns, bicycle delivery for a store, etc.
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Thats amazing. Is he going to expect money to suddenly appear in his pocket when he has to look after his own home? If only! Iād be rich! Although heās 15, heās gotten used to being given allowance and heās just upset, he will have his upset and his vent, he will adjust to the change and get over what he said. Try not to hold it against him. Itās sad that he doesnāt have his bio parents, though Iām sure he sees you both as his parents even if he may vent that to you at times. A lot of kids these days do not understand the concept of chores, instead they are bribed with money to do basic unpaid home duties that us as parents (and old fashion raised kids/adults) have to do. I used to mow the lawns, do the washing, do cooking and cleaning all unpaid. Thatās it, my mother owes me a superannuation cheque now. I want my hard earned cash! 
itās not like she kept me and my brothers warm, a roof over our heads, food and helped us with our hobbies. All meanwhile working long hour shifts to be able to provide this all for us. The least we could do was help out. He will get over it. Hang in there. Donāt let him guilt trip you, remember he is the child, you are the parent. This is all part of raising
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You both need to get a job. Let that 15 year old be a child. I have a feeling at 18. Your going to throw him out. So 
. Today every establishment is hiring. You as a parent really suck ass.
Ungrateful little snot.
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Slavery!? Lol! We did chores for free and a lot of them when I grew up in the 70s. Never got an allowance but earned the privilege to live under our roof.
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Mr15 should get a job. But even that wonāt get him out of chores! If one is going to have a roof provided over ones head, one must contribute to cleaning in some way. Itās just taking responsibility!
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Give him the $80 but start charging for food, rent, clothing, and utilities.
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Give him the money. Trust me. Itās very little and he probably needs it more
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If they live in the house they are all meant to help witout pay called LOVE ā¦
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Chores are for upkeep of the home he gets to live in with a secure roof over his head!
I hate fricken hate allowance and think itās jsut setting the kids up to be ungrateful and in reality he isnāt learning to earn his keep.
He has a bed to sleep. Thatās his space keep it clean.
He has meals on a plate. Thatās his food YOU pay for n cook so he can clean.
What happened to jsut giving back to those who give ?
Iād be simplistic and go ok no worries. Serve up meals for those who pitch in when he complains say grab an apple.
An apple a day keeps the dr away. He doesnāt deserve to be taken to the dr for health issues if he canāt be kinda and thoughtful to jsut pitching in with helping around the place.
Paid for things would be phft I dunno but nothing round the roof over his head you an hubby provide as far as Iām concerned he needs some reality changes and I wouldnāt be giving any money to any kids like what do they need it for ? Itās jsut gobsmacking to me! I donāt get it
Sorry not judging! Iām legit taken aback by this
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