My kids clean their stuff without an allowance. That’s too bad. If they want an allowance they are going to do things other than clean up their own stuff.
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He needs to learn the value of a dollar…
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You are teaching him a valuable lesson. Stick to your guns.
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I’ve raised 8 kids (5 of my own) and never once have an allowance. I don’t get paid to clean up the house and neither should they. They help make the mess so they help clean the mess. It’s not slavery, it’s responsibility and he needs to get over himself. And that money that comes from his dad needs to go toward important things like you said and not on his silliness.
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I’d talk to him as I’m sure you al ready have and tell him to go to his room and think about it . And by the way I know it cost a lot more than a measly 80 a month for all his things . He needs to be treated as your kids sense you’ve raised / still raising him . He’s no better or worse than them . And no it’s not illegal to give kids chores as all children needs some chores . I’m sure your biological children has the same chores. Also if yAll didn’t have him he’d most likely be tossed around in the system and only have a trash bag. But I’d hate that for any child . But can’t he see that ? Be sure to reassure him y’all love him as your own . You must after all you’ve done and doing .
you’re doing good .
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I guess if you’re paying for his playstation subscription, he’s in essance getting an allowance. If he doesnt like it, tell him that goes away, and is only a payment for doing his chores. Maybe if he wants money, he can cut grass, shovel walks, or look for other menial labor until he can get a work permit.
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Laugh in his face. 
I do not pay my kids to help clean the house they enjoy destroying. If they want allowance, they can do extra chores to help me out and earn money that way.
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Point to the roof over his head. Point to the food on the table. Point to the clothes in his closet. Point to the PlayStation (unless you decide to unplug it because at this point, I would have already). Tell him it’s not slavery and you provide his needs to him- he’s 15 and he can do chores to help out. He’s old enough to understand that money doesn’t grow on trees and that you don’t have an income right now. The end. Tell him he’s free to look for outside work as well if he wants to make money. 
Sometimes hard lessons are the best lessons. I appreciate my mom teaching me about how money works and where it comes from at a young age. So many kids grow up thinking things are going to be handed to them as an adult and that is a huge disservice you can do to your own kid.
Roof over his head and food is his pay!
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Easy! Agree to give him the CS money as a whole. Before giving it to him, charge him for his PS subscription (because it’s not a necessity) and charge him for every “chore” you do for him that he could be doing on his own. Also charge for all the other things that you provide that isn’t a necessity. And see how much money he has left after. My kids mentioned CS to me once and I sat them down and went so much into detail as to what I spend on them, that they’ve never mentioned it again. Lol
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It’s time for him to get a job! Fast food, the local grocery store, whatever! I got my first job at 15 and so did my son! If he wants spending money, he needs to get off his butt and earn it!! This newer generation of over-privileged self indulgent little a-holes is infuriating!!
Tell us you hate the 15 year old without telling us you hate the 15 year old 
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I say take away his belongings he doesn’t need. He needs a bed, pillow, covers, food, simple clothes, soap, water, heat and air and a roof over his head. Child support pays for these things for him. Otherwise, he can get a job.
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For you pay for Playstation for you 2 children and make him pay his own do you also make him pay for his food honey you should not have him at all talk about treating him as a orphan and not your child I pray the kid your a heartless person shame on you
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Send him to a soup kitchen 2 times a week then see how ungrateful he is.
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You said your husband and you are out of work so how are you living off of this child support money that’s really for him there’s too many help wanted signs…
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Allowance…… what is that? My kids don’t get an allowance! We have 10 kids ages 27 down to 5. We raise our kids as a team… our kids have chores that need to be done each week outside of cleaning their rooms. We clean alongside with them. They understand that they all play a part in making the mess therefore they help clean it up. If my kids requested an allowance then I’d stop paying for their phones, video game subscriptions, name brand clothes, travel club sports and the late night run for fast food!
This is just my opinion
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It very apparent that you do not treat him as one of your own even though you had him since he was 18 months old …ok fine you can’t afford the kids allowance this month and he is acting like a typical teenager about it but do you charge your bio kids gas when they want to hang out with friends or do take money out of your bio kids allowance in when they need personal hygiene products …I’m pretty sure that the other kids in the house use the playstation too …
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Calling him your child and then describing him that way……I feel bad for him.
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Sounds like the average dramatic teenager. He’ll be ok with out allowance for a while. In the mean time he needs to respect you and your household. Chores don’t have to be paid that’s a privilege so he needs to get it together!
I believe he should be treated the EXACT SAME way as ur 3 children. Poor guy knows he’s not ulls biological child N not only that he has to pay for things that I’m sure ur kids use! Wow
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Did you take him in for child support, or to love him? Because…
Y’all make your kids pay you to live? Y’all use their, THEIR child support to pay your bills, and buy toiletries? Y’all make them pay you for gas?!
Sheesh, just kick him out 
That poor child, let’s look over the fact you have to point it out he’s not yours!!
The child I took in at 17 (me 17), is MY SON. And never had to pay a dime to breathe, live whatever.
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Do you charge “your” kids gas money to take them places? Poor kid should be with someone who sees them as their own rspecially having him that long. So essentially with both of you out of work what is his child support going to?
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So did all the kids lose their allowance or just him? If just him, that is totally wrong! Are the other kids still having to do the same chores also or just him? He’s been with you since 18 months old, why does he even need to know about how much support is coming in “for him”. I hope all of them are treated equally but the way this reads gives me the idea they are not, and he is told this and probably feels like the outcast. This is so sad. Please do better!
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Tell “your son” this:
YOU are a child in this FAMILY.
ALL THE SAME.
EVERYONE does chores to SUPPORT the FAMILY and THEMSELVES. (Clear THAT up for him right now)
We ALL PULL TOGETHER and WE STAY TOGETHER in good times and bad. (not to be confused with “illegal child labor”) Just in case he thinks he is separate or different in someway.
Give him a giant bear hug and dont let go of him even if he struggles to get away, TELL HIM you LOVE him like Life itself, thats THE FAMILY BOND and NOTHING can or will break that.
When you BOTH get jobs again start allowances up again for EVERYONE.
At 15 maybe he can get a little side job for a little extra cash.He should be doing little things to gain experience for his career anyway.
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Kids do chores and don’t get paid it’s called being a team a family you help out.
Secondly I hope you never say out loud you have kids and he’s not one of them cause yikes. He’s been in your life since 18 months old you are his mother
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I don’t think excluding him from receiving an allowance , Is very motherly , I hope yall treat him just the same as the other children you share or that are yours , and if not maybe you should give him back to his biological dad , if you treat this young boy different then the others that is very harsh and I don’t think you should hold it over his head . You and his father are going to scar this boy it sounds , why can’t you just look at him like one of the other children he still a child .
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You create it this monster. Buy charging him and not your own kids. Now you deal with it. He’s been your since 18 months and now 15 he’s your and should be treated that way. I understand that all the children isn’t getting allowance right now. But out of all honesty none of them should have been getting it to start with. What are u teaching them? It should be if you do your chores without a fight then you can do what they have planned for a day example go to friends to hang or maybe to a movie or have a friend over or a pizza ext. your telling teaching them there always going to be paid to have left a finger and life doesn’t work that way. Also explain to him that the lil $80 a month you get for child support goes towards raising him and making sure he has what he needs. Now about the child slavery tell him to call whom he thinks he needs to they will laugh at him. But in all seriousness you need to stop doing him differently then your other 3. He sees and understand it.
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Tell him you will give him the CS BUT if he doesn’t do the chore he has to pay for your “maid” services, his portion of water usage, gas/electric usage, and such. Playstation is not a necessity so be sure to tell him that will have to come out the CS also and if he ends up not having enough for it then he will have to learn to do without or get a job. Then tell him the other choice is to act like a child and do his chores and keep your prior arrangement.
Well that child support money is for him not you so you shouldnt be deciding how its spent
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My kids are allowed to live, sleep and eat for free at my house. That’s there allowance. They don’t need allowances. They do, however, need to know how to take care of themselves and their things. Chores are a responsibility of everyone. Free of charge.
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Sounds to me he probably would be been better off in foster care the way your treating him
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Are you f’n kidding, talk about showing him no love other than what you are paid for him. You do not deserve any kids if this is how you think!
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Some of y’all reading comprehension sucks…
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I feel so bad for the child he has people like you as parents I’m sure your biological kids get things are you keeping track of like you do him …smdh
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Corporal punishment. Keep that attitude outside or face the belt.
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This isn’t going how you hoped huh?
Wow!!! He shouldn’t have to pay for his own hygiene or gas! Wtf I know damn well u don’t make your other children pay for that shit. Oh and get a fucking job! If u got a car you could be doing Uber eats or DoorDash to make the 15 dollars!
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He’s old enough to get a part time job at some places, even if it is cash under the table. I would say he’s reached that age where it’s time to teach him how to be grateful & that money doesn’t grow on trees. I was always scared to ask my parents for money because I saw how hard they worked for it. If you nonstop coddle & spoil them, that’s all they’ll know. Edit to add: he has a roof over his head, family to be with, clothes on his back, etc. He is a typical teenager saying typical, stupid teenager things. Even though we wouldn’t been in this situation to start with, it’s time to put your foot down. If he doesn’t like the way things are now, he has two options: get a part time job or get out.
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I can’t imagine doing this. I had a foster son for years and he was treated exactly like my bio kids. He was my son. Blood or not. I can’t even imagine ‘charging’ him for gas to see his friends. I bought him a PS4 because my other sons had one. I can’t imagine ever taking money from him for anything. Take the $80 and use it for whatever, I’m not saying give it to him, but do for him like you do the others. He shouldn’t feel as though you’re charging him anything. He feels as if the CS is ‘owed’ to him because the way you’re ‘charging’ him for other things. If the other kids don’t get an allowance because you don’t have it, than neither does he. Seems like he’s been brought up to feel different than your bio kids so you can’t blame him for the way he feels.
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Do your biological kids pay for gas and play station??? How do you raise a child since 18 months and still treat him like he is only visiting. Get serious lady.
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So many people who lack reading comprehension. Child support is literally money to support the child. Y’all know you wouldn’t be acting like this if your baby dads got mad at you for using child support to buy the kids toiletries??? Jesus Christ. That’s what it’s for, not for the kids spending money.
She’s explaining that the child support does get used to help support him, which It should? Sometimes times get hard and people have to make sacrifices, if he needs an allowance that bad tell him he’s welcome to get a job.
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Almost every comment on here seems like yall miss read this post none of the kids are getting an allowance and it never said anything about the other kids not having chores wow yall all want to trash someone so bad yall read what yall want into it as for the parents he’s a teenager they get mad over everything and no matter what you do your ruining their life sit him down and explain the situation to him and tell him chores is not work but if he wants to work for his money there are plenty of places he can go volunteer at and see what real work it
If he don’t like doing chores he would be without a play station and other things till he gets glad to do them. No chores no play.
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I NEVER got an allowance. Child support helps SUPPORT the cost of raising a child (food, clothes, cost of living).
Chores are expected as part of living in a family, as you all contribute to the running of a home…
The fact that he has no empathy for the fact that you guys are out of work (& the cost of living is insane) then I’d say no continuation of “allowances” until he can step outside of himself & learn appreciation.
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Sounds like all children in the household should be treated the same. Im sure he feels very ostracized. Poor kid.
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Charging for his own personal hygiene…? Outrageous
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Sooooo you buy your kids personal hygiene products?? They don’t have to use their $60 a month for that?
You drive your kids places without them paying you that $60 back in gas??
Um 
yeah, if I was that 15 yr old I would throw a fit as well, because now you’re using his money to survive. 
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I really feel bad for this kid. I wonder how someone can raise a child from 18 months on and still have a verbal distinction between him and her biological kids. Knowing that her and her husband are the only parents hes ever really known it’s just sad I’d hate to know what happens behind closed doors. He sounds like a typical teen.
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She shouldn’t even been asking for advice.
You don’t have the money they don’t get allowances. Chores are not a paid jobs, they are part of being in a household.
He’s been an ungrateful, spoiled brat. His Playstation subscription should also be canceled.
All those commenting… stop making scenarios up.
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You should give him those $80
Why would pay him and the other kids 15$ a week. Kids are so spoiled these days. They get everything they want and more without helping with chores or even cleaning their rooms. It’s just ridiculous. It’s gonna be a big surprise when they get out on their own. Also a 15 year old can get a workers permit. My daughter did and so can yours!!!
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He’s 15 right? Tell him to go get a job
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I don’t do allowance in my house.
Basically, I provide their needs, and when they have a “want” I make them a list of things they can do to earn it.
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Unpopular opinion - it’s an employees market out there. Both you and your hubby shouldn’t have an issue finding a job. Encourage the 15 year old to start looking for a job too.
Treat the kids the same too.
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Tbh you kinda sound like a shit person. I said what I said. Coming from someone who grew up in a home that I didn’t “biologically” belong to and knowing that feeling of being unwanted, knowing I was burdening them for money to be a normal kid and go to the movie like the rest of my friends or they’d take their kids out to eat while me and my brother would stay back and eat there. It’s a gross mentality. I’d definitely try to grow out of that mindset lady. Why take a kid on at EIGHTEEN months a if he’s your CLEARLY, I hope he had a happy upbringing and not one of constantly knowing that he isn’t yours & that you don’t owe him anything because of that. Tbh you sound like the type of woman that would throw it in the kids face that its his dad’s fault for only sending $80. Gross.
Wow you’re ridiculous
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He sounds like a normal 15 year old to me. It also sounds like u treat him differently and that’s not right. It’s very weird how ur handling the child support. Ur using it to single him out from the other children in the house.
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You make it seem like your foster parents. You don’t actually see him as your child.
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Cancel subscription give him the money. One or the other! Everyone has to make sacrifices!
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Oh gosh you’re evil 
You charge your child to drive him to his friends?!
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Tell him tough your 15. Next year you can get a job but, money doesn’t grow on trees so sry
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He gets paid every time he sets his foot under the table clean clothes and a place to sleep that is there allowance
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I think it’s separate honestly and he’s right. Child support is given to you to pay for his necessities. But an allowance is what you give him for the chores he does like the other kids. And that’s money you should give him not money that comes out of the child support because that’s not equal for him when you’re paying your own money for the other kids. Child slavery is an exaggeration but that could make him feel like different than his siblings and make his siblings look at him differently by not giving him an allowance just because who’s parents are uninvolved and he gets child support money every month which actually pays for his basic needs
You just messed up i get about being out of work and he shouldnt blow up at yal…but sounds like there is more to this story then u telling…just by what you wrote i dont believe hes treated evenly in the house…and who makes a kid pay for hygiene products wtf…its almost like you arent even treating him like family…someone been in my household that long they are family…i feel bad for this boy…im disgusted at you
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You’ve had him since 18mth. He’s now 15 and it seems as tho you don’t consider him your own . Smh
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Why does the not biological child get different treatment then the biological children?
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I have 5 kids (1 of which is my ex husbands and I have raised her since she was 2) I do not pay my kids allowance for doing their chores. Chores are your responsibility for living in this home. Now they can earn extra money buy walking the dogs or other things that are not there normal daily chores. But I like to do outings for things versus giving them money. I have learned that me being the parent they will never understand what has to happen for the money to come into the home. So like the oldest (she is 12) she goes and helps bottle feed baby sheep at the feed store. That is her earning her money. My 8 year old is picks up dog poop for $20 a yard that is money that they earn so they can keep it. I refuse to give my kids money that I earn.
Now you whole issue about the 15 year old throwing a fit. He is 15 he thinks if he throws a fit he will get his way. My 12 year try’s this to and I don’t play them game. You throw a fit you get an extra chore for the week. The money is for y’all to care for him and providing his bed and house and food is enough reason to say it isn’t happening. Take his ungrateful ass and tell him to go mow a yard or pick up dog poop to earn his allowance
Poor kid. What state you in. I’ll take him and pay for all his hygiene products and gas to see friends. This is the saddest post I’ve seen in a long time and we all know what kind of crazy posts are on this page
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Tell him y’all run shit and if he wants to push the limit he’ll ultimately put himself somewhere he doesn’t want to be. Let him know you don’t take “abuse” threats lightly and if he wants to be a smart ass to do some research. Maybe look into the other caretaker related options you all may have that may provide additional assistance because you’re technically fostering a child.
We don’t do allowance with my 15 year old daughter. She’s our only child, but she is also looking for a job since she has her drivers permit. We had our daughter and two foster children that we had custody of and not one of them was treated any different than the other.
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If youhad him since 18mo old he’s yours
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I’d honestly just explain to him what you use the money for, and ask him if he would rather go without those things and have the cash
But also, is there a reason you don’t love him enough to pay for his allowance out of your own pocket like your own kids?
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I would ask him if he eats, has clean clothes, electric, water, cable,etc. then I would tell him he owes you. His $2.66 a day child support just isn’t enough! It sure isn’t going to feed him for a month, and his $2.66 won’t pay for one meal a day. One meal at McDonald’s will cost him 3 days of his child support. Then I’d let him know it’s a privilege to have a home,I’m the adult my rules!!
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Sounds to me like he isn’t being treated fairly. You have raised him his whole life and he is still treated like an outsider!! Shame on you!!
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Tell him he should be a lawyer.
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The child support shouldn’t be used for his PlayStation subscription…. Jesus Christ this poor kid.
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Stop paying for the things you do pay for and give him his 15.00.
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Treat everyone equal! $80 goes into the household. End of discussion. He shouldn’t even know about the $80 support as far as I’m concerned.
Is he your child? Is he YOUR child? Not where did the sperm/egg come from… Are YOU his parent? 
First off, I feel bad for this child as you’ve went above and beyond explain how they aren’t YOUR child yet you’ve raised them. A parent isn’t someone who “made” the child it’s who’s made them by loving them and raising them. 2nd I feel ALL of the children should be taught household work is not somthing you get paid for and that’s why you do it. You do it because that is what families do to help each other. 3rd could the children get small jobs if they want to for money? I don’t know what the legal age is for that where you’re located but here they can do small things for a little money.
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And this is why you don’t pay for kids to do chores
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What the hell is this post
Do your other kids pay for gas to go places they want to go to as well?
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Tell him to get a job then
You make the kid pay for hygiene products and gas? If the dad paid more I bet youd charge for clothing and groceries too 
Tbh I dont belive kids should get an allowance, they should contribute to their home.and not be afraid to ask for what they want
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I think you know the answer.
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So … You pay your biological children an allowance but not the son you have had custody over since her was 18months…and is how 15???
You are scum.
There are plenty of jobs out there him and you both can find one easy. I think it’s weird what you charge him for, but that’s not my business
If he’s willing to work for it why not? I don’t think it’s fair honestly
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He lives there for free doing chores part of this life for everybody get a job for him so he can see how far the money goes when he has to earn it himself I never got an allowance I would cut grass and wash the neighbors cars on weekends
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Future liberal voter right there…always expecting something for nothing. 
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Just tell him his allowance is being aloud to live there.
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My kids do chores without payment because it is part of your responsibility when living your home to take care of it
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Hold on here. You raise a child for 14 years and you still differate him from your biological children? Does your biological children pay you gas and hygiene products? This is SAD
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Start charging the little shit ass rent elec. And water … See how he likes that shit.
She charges him gas money to take him places poor child you can tell he isn’t treated like the rest…. It’s obvious he knows about the child support and has probably been thrown in his face. Poor kid
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So we got my fiances youngest boy (13) last June. I have 5 kids of my own…and if you ask me on any day I have 8 (my fiance has 3) they are OUR children. They all get treated even…this post disgusts me…I would never make my kids buy their own hygiene products…that’s a parents responsibility!!! 
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I literally had this conversation with my kids last night, mind you my children are 11,7 and 2 and all 3 are child actors. The older one has been acting since he was 4 and getting royalties and paying his taxes since that age. I home schooled them before the pandemic. It was easier because their schedules were weird. They always had chores until maybe 2 years ago when I was pregnant and I had to get a nanny. After I got a nanny I have tried to keep up with leaving some chores to them but I’m not gonna lie I have failed miserably at it. I have not been consistent. They are not spoiled. They are good kids and they don’t really ask for much but they are a bit lazy. They are set up through gohenry to get paid to do chores the more chores they do the more they get paid. Lol they weren’t even motivated to do that. Even booking auditions and getting good grades ( which they do, they are in advanced classes) are part of the chores. But… ugh. It bugs me how unmotivated they are sometimes. They don’t get how lucky they are. When I was a kid I had chores and didn’t get paid for it and I Low-key wanted to have allowance like my friends. But that’s like an American thing. We don’t get allowances in my country… our parents ’ allow’ us to ‘live’ in their house. My mom used to be it was my responsibility to keep the house I lived in clean and to get good grades because both of those things were my future and if I screwed up it was my future and no one owned that but me and getting an ‘allowance’ was ridiculous because I needed to contribute. Smh freaking kids are spoiled and they don’t get it.
- Tons of jobs out there. “Out of work right now” is BS.
- Allowance isn’t a right, it’s a gift, just like a cell phone or any other extras you don’t need to survive. Your room and board, safety, education, etc. is provided by your parents/guardian. Privileges are earned.
- Get a damn clue! Looks like several people have explained why your backwards but maybe you already knew.
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My allowance was I was allowed to live there. Allowance is a parenting choice and not a necessity.
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