Do all your other kids have to pay for gas, hygiene products, and other things they need or want as well?
You sound like a bitch honestly.
I donāt get paid to do the house chores in my own home I bought 
and my sons child support is used for daycare and items for him like clothing or diapering and such and the rest goes to savings for him. But my son is still little so he doesnāt get an allowance
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Do your other kids have to pay for gas? Toxic af.
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If this was my son he would be told if you want to eat and have clothes and a roof over your head then no money as it doesnāt grow on trees. Itās not like you have the extra money to give so in the end the car rides anywhere or the sweet treats for the house will go then so will his game subscription. Iām a single parent who canāt work and havenāt done sadly for many years so my son understands when I get the extra money from his sorry donor things need to be paid first for his food and clothes plus electric for him so he can play his games all the time. Then if thereās more than enough he will get a small treat or game. Weāve spoke at length about it and all the money that comes into the house is used for everything we need. Iāve just had to buy him a new mattress which was cheap so he understands NEEDS come before WANTS always. There are months when we donāt have anything other than normal bills and food so he gets a little extra then and he appreciates it and one day he will learn to live this way as I wonāt always be living with him to help him. Try sitting him down and explain that the extra just isnāt there just now or it would be very unfair to give him his but not the other 2. Sorry for my long post.
Does he have food? A place to live? Clothes? And that playstation? Chores are how a child āearns their keepā. Iād say start giving him an allowance for food and normal thingsā¦ heāll see how much that doesnāt stretch(had this same dillema close anyhowā¦ she was 13, she didnāt make it a week)
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Our kids do chores because they live here and itās part of maintaining the house (just as they will have to when they live on their own). They only get money for doing something āabove and beyondā their normal chores.
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What is this allowance you speak of?
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Treat him equally as your other three he IS yours if you had him from 18 months old. Iām at a loss to your situation if I got paid 80$ Iād put it in a bank for him for when heās older and just pay out of my own money
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Donāt see why the part about him not being biologically yalls was added buuuut ok.
Explain times are tough and yāall will try and make it up when yāall are able to.
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This is wrong on every level. Wtf
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First of all Iād tell him he needs to put himself in check because he is forgetting who the parents are and his fits wonāt be tolerated. Then Iād tell him his PlayStation might leave too if he canāt appreciate what he has rather than throw a fit about compromising when itās needed. $80 a month donāt even pay for his food for a month let alone anything extra and Iād let him know that too. Getting paid for his chores I donāt agree with anyway. They need responsibilities and he lives there too. Giving him money for special things he does such as washing your cars etc is great when you can afford to but these are hard times so he has to understand but regular chores like cleaning his room, taking out garbage, dishes or helping in the yard is his responsibility as a member of the family. Then lastly Iād tell him GET A JOB if he wants moneyā¦ mow lawns, wash cars, get a weekend job at your local movie theaterā¦do something besides playing your games and throwing fits 
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Kids say the darndest things
I donāt give my kids an allowance for doing chores because they live in this house and they mess it up so they can help clean it. I run back-and-forth every day between volleyball, softball and dance spending my money on gas to get them to and from their activities. They are clothed, fed, with a roof over their heads. Their dad pays child support every two weeks and it is used for food and shelter. Should I be giving it to them because itās for them? Hell no. Itās to support them.
Why does it even matter if heās your bio kid or not? As soon as that baby was in my arms, thatās MY CHILD. Especially after 14 yearsā¦
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Im curiousā¦ do you charge the other 3 children gas money when taking them to hang out with their friends? Do they have to buy their own hygiene products?
A child doing chores is neither illegal nor child slavery. These kids are so dramatic these days. My brother and I both had chores growing up and didnāt get an allowance at all. My kids have chores and donāt get an allowance. Not only are all necessities, like shelter, food and clothing provided (which someone raising a child signs on for when they decide to have the child) but for the younger children, we pay phone bills, game subscriptions and give money for the occasional activity.
I will say though, that if you made an agreement for him to do chores in exchange for an allowance and he is holding up his end, you should hold up your end as well. Not that itās child labor, but if heās working, he should be paid. You wouldnāt wanna work just to hear at the end of the week that you arenāt getting paid.
Not sure where you live, but if youāre legal guardian, I would be requesting an increase in child support. $80 a month for a 15 year oldā¦ just no. Kids in general are expensive but teens will break the bank. That breaks down to $20 a week in child support. File for an increase, immediately, on both mom and dad. If neither are involved, both should at least be helping financially.
On a side note, if neither you or your spouse are currently working, then go back to work. Literally everywhere in the country has a Now Hiring sign in the window.
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Give him the 15 and cut the PlayStation subscription
My first thought is do you make your biological children pay you gas money when they want to go somewhere to hang out with their friends? Do your children ever play with the PlayStation? - if they do, I would pay at least half of the subscription. Does his allowance ALWAYS come from the child support money and your other kids comes directly from you? - it sounds like it does. So if it normally comes from it, it makes sense why heād be upset. Of course child support is meant to pay for necessities or wants but it is sounding like he is being treated differently because he is not biologically your and your husbands despite you guys being his legal guardians since he was 18 months old. Him throwing a fit sounds like him just being a teenager. My parents never gave us any allowance money but made sure to make things happen when we wanted/needed money for something. As far as chores went, I donāt remember us having many chores other than we were to pick up after ourselves, clean our rooms, and go to school.
At the end of the day, I truly hope that you do not verbalize that you have your own kids and that he isnāt one of them. I could never imagine having a child (regardless of if they share my dna or not) and treating them differently.
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Give him a bill then for groceries, electricity, heat, rent, etc he will owe you!!
I love you Sammie, you remember Ken & I with 7 kids, plus taking in many more. All the money we made went together no matter where it came from. All had chores everyday, No allowance. But if a kid wanted $ we gave them an extra job to do for it. If they NEEDED $. We gave it, for school, etc. When they got old enough, they got a job. We treated them all the same and loved them all with our whole hearts. Hang in there. You got this!
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Besides the basics take away the extras he get and show him how bad it is.
I feel like the PlayStation subscription should be counted as allowance
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Wow, why did you keep him in the first place if you werenāt going to treat him as your own?
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Let him go onā¦ hes a teenager. This is the issue w paying for chores. Ideal to help them understand that its everyones houseā¦n everyone pitches in. No reward. Or throw a box outsidentellem to stay thereā¦hold the door n betcha hell change real fast.
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I donāt pay my kids allowancesā¦ and I have 5 kiddos with the oldest being 10. Then the others are 8, 5, 4 and 8 months. The older 4 all have responsibilities and chores. We reward them by doing fun, planned trips after weāre able to save up for them. Which happen twice a month.
But in my opinion kids should not have to pay for hygiene products whatsoever. Nor should they pay for gas to go places. Thatās so silly. As their parent itās YOUR responsibility to make sure they have all they need to take care of themselves until theyāre old enough to do it themselves.
I buy my kids hygiene products, clothes, shoes etc. If they want something super special (like a $50 lego set) they save up their birthday and Christmas money or do extra chores to earn money for it. But come on, youāre their mother. Take care of your kids.
BTW, I share custody with my ex. We have the 4 der kids together and he has NEVER paid me a cent of child support.
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What? You make him pay for gas for the car? Also I hope then you gave him his portion of stimulus check and his deduction that you get from your portion of taxes of being able to claim him as a dependent. This is sick. I hope your child moves out as fast as they can and not be near your toxicity
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Tell him to get a job. Plenty of places like game stop take 15 yo. I worked there when I turned 15.
Itās a privilege itās not a have to like a phone or a car
Tell him he has a choice between an allowance or his PlayStation subscription. End of story.
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Soooo you can charge him for the necessities like personal hygiene and taking him places but when it comes to him doing the necessary chores in life it should be free??? Hmm.
Both of yāall are wrong. He should be pulling his weight in the household and you should be treating him like your other children and paying for the necessary items he needs as a teenage boy.
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Why arenāt you working? Jobs everywhere. You chose to be a guardian of this child and therefore he should be treated exactly as your own children. Do you remember being a teenager? $15.00 to each childā¦regardless of status. If he is helping around the house, he deserves the allowance just as the others.
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Emancipate his ass and send him off into the real worldā¦bet he changes his tune quickly
Laughing at the people that think a child is entitled to spend and use child support like itās their income rather than the parental responsibility of their bio parent.
That money is towards the household to maintain that childās well being. Using it for his personal necessities and gas to bring him to and from WHEREVER is exactly what it is for. OP shouldnāt even have to explain where the child support goes.
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Can u send him back to his biological father?
So why donāt you have jobs? I see help wanted signs everywhere I go. I think there may be more to this story.
He sounds pretty dramatic! He needs to just mature a bit. Sounds like a typical 15 year old.
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I would tell him what I tell my 9 year oldā¦ āYouāre apart of this family, are you not?ā Thereās no way I would allow my child, biological or not, have that type of attitude/mindset that he/she would even think something like that. The PlayStation and any other electronics would be gone and there would be some serious behavioral issues addressed and worked out. In China itās illegal for kids under the age of 18 to play video games for more then an hour on Fridays and Saturdays. In my opinion China has it right on that topic. A lot of kids nowadays, are spoiled, entitled, lazy, and addicted to electronics. Children need to be children, not sit in front of a screen all day.
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I raised my nice since she was a toddler. I got $50 a month for her. I knew that would not pay for all her stuff, but when i took her in, i accepted her add my child. If the other Kurds get an allowance, they should too. This child is part of your family. Please please treet him add you do your own! It is so hard on them to be the outsider and things like that make them feel worse!
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Bruh! Like how tf you charge a 15 for things you as a parent is supposed to do?!? Itās sad that you truly donāt love him because youād be saving that $80 for him and pay him like you pay the rest of the kids.
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I canāt get over you charge him gas money, thatās terrible and buys his only hygiene products!
To answer your question what would you do? Your need to start treating ALL OF YOUR CHILDREN THE SAME!!! That poor kids
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BEAT HIS MATHAFCKN ASS!!! Yall play too much work these kids these days
if you canāt afford a kid, why do you still have him? if he isnāt yours and you canāt afford to care for him maybe you should have considered that
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You keep calling him your 15 yr old but keep pointing out he isnāt yours. Though you seem to do some nice things or him, I think he feels very much like an outsider. Money Dad sends is apparently made very apparent, like this is all we get for you, so u are a burden. Teenagers with two loving parents have hormone and other changes and it is hard. Can you imagine what uncertainty he faces going through these changes? Just love him
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While child support is meant for the child, itās more meant to be used for clothing, shoes, extra curricular, medical dental. Not necessities of life. As a parent, sorry guardian, it is your responsibility to buy him the necessities for life. That includes hygiens products, food etc. And why on earth would you charge him gas money??? I feel bad for this young man. If you have had him majority of HIS life, then treat him as one of your own!
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I just wonder if your biological children pay for their own hygiene products, gas, etc?
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Itās frustrating being broke and needing money. Donāt be a dick and donāt take dick advice. Just love him as much as you can. 
You arenāt getting paid to do chores. Lol. The logic of teenagers astounds me sometimes.
Give him a bill, showing his portion of rent, groceries, power, water. A bill for extra āchoresā you and your hubby do for him. A bill for items like clothes, shoes, school supplies.
Sit him down and explain many kids have chores with no allowance. And give him the option to pay these things monthly like the grown ups or simply wait.
If he still seems āpissyā hand him the phone and tell go ahead and call the police because he has chores. They will most likely laugh at him and give him crap.
Sometimes we all just need to see the bigger picture.
(And no Iām not saying make him pay, just to show him how much is done chores and cost wise within your household)
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I think she is explaining about him not being a biological child in reference to how/why she gets child support and listing what SHE is paying out of that $80/ month, not that the boy is paying from HIS allowance. It sounds like the boy is upset because he wants his allowance out of that support and she is saying no. Child support is to SUPPORT the child, ya know, food, clothes, shelter, etc.
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Yall this child is not being mistreated or singled outs you read the post right none of the kids are getting allowance atm, and paying for his Playstation subscription is a luxury thatās just crazy idc if itās his child support or not itās to take care of him ,so if ya that broke the first thing Iād let go of is the Playstation subscription and that money would go for a roof over the head or bills geez Iām glad my kids werenāt disrespectful like that ,maybe she could left out the biological part but still .
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Thats why you should of never given them an reward for something theyāre suppose to do 
im very anti allowance with my kids
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Where in your mind ļæ¼ do you think itās acceptable for you to charge your child for hygiene products and gas money? Those are things you were supposed to provide as their parent. The PlayStation subscription I totally get it but everything else is unfathomable as a mother. Give that boy his $80- and tell him thatās what he gets for the monthā¦.ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼ļæ¼
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What??? Is this a joke?! At 15, neither of my kids will be paying for anything. Not until theyāre earning money.
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My 13yo is the only one who gets an allowance and it is 10 bucks a week with the opportunity to earn more. However with that being saidā¦i buy his basic needs (and most wantsā¦who am i kidding) and would NEVER charge him gas money. Get a grip ladyā¦he is being dramatic for good reasons you are CLEARLY showing favoritism and thatās shit.
Amanda Sue Briggs heās not buying his own hygiene products lady, you need to learn how to read along with half the other people on this post. SHE USES THE CHILD SUPPORT HIS BIO DAD PAYS FOR THOSE ITEMS. She could use that money for the electric bill, or grocery shopping, itās there to help relieve some of the financial burden of raising a child in a single parent/income household/a child thatās not biologically yours. Itās $80/MO that Dad pays, thatās barely enough for a tank of gas, much less all the other costs associated with raising a child.
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Throw the PlayStation out the window and ā¦ . Nope thatās about it . Throw it out lol.
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So if a mom uses child support to buy food, would you all say sheās making her kids pay for their own food? Lol. 
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I had 7 and never paid an allowance. The child support is for the household that supports the child. Unfortunately you set yourself up for this problem when you singled out that money as being spent on only his needs. It should never have been discussed with him. A household pools all income in the support of the household, and when the household prospers everyone benefits. When the household goes through tough times, everyone tightens their belts.
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This is really triggering for me and terribly sad for that child. That child is unloved and is being made to feel like a burden.
I hope youāve set money aside for that childās therapy.
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Personally I donāt believe in an allowance. But he should try and understand the hardships happening right now
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This whole situation isnāt fair. You like your bio kids more than this boy. I would throw a fit too
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Iā¦ confused with the question treat him like.your own once your are working . why would u charge hi. driving g places? makes him feel not apart of family. if heās treated differently than the other kids I can see why heās feeling the way he is
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OP I apologize for all the idiots in this comment section. Theyāre all incredibly naive, illiterate jerks. Youāve done nothing wrong. You explain to your son that money is tight and that as a family youāre gonna all have to chip in and get through this together, and that everyone will have to give up luxuries like him giving up his allowance and playstation subscription.
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LMAO having a separate set of money specifically for him, making him pay for all his things and not your other kids, and he knows it, yeah youāre shit.
I am not going to comment on the horrible way you treat this āsonā of yours. I feel very sorry for him, heās obviously lost his bio parents, then he has to live in your house, poor kid. But other then that, Iād bet my life on the fact that you donāt charge your ārealā kids gas money, or make them buy their own toiletries, thatās ridiculous! I have 5 teenagers and we are an open house for all their friends, itās rare to not have 10+ teens in the house. For some, the only āhomeā they get is at our house. Kids need a stable, loving home, where they feel safe and secure, and when they donāt have that, they will āact outā. Your āsonsā attitude may just be heās acting out because with you he does not have a loving secure home. Family comes together during hard times, explain to ALL the kids, explain to them times are tough, and you need everyone to pitch in and help out.
Thereās help wanted signs in almost every window across the country, tell your pride to STFU and go get a job.
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The kids right. The allowance shouldnāt be coming from his child support smh. N you sound like you have no emotional attachment to this kid at all. Why did you feel the need to say that he wasnāt yours If youāve raised him as yours? You mam sound suspect to me. N I hope he gets out sooner than later.
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I would charge my child for gas for what then they might hop in somebody else car who what next
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Legally go for more child support and 15 year Olds can get a work permit.
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He is more than welcome to get a job. Doing chores around the house is āpaybackā for room & board. Explain how paychecks AND bills work. Heās acting like an entitled bratā¦ typical teenagerā¦ *sigh
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Child support is to care for a child. The roof over his head, the clothes on his back, the food he eats, the water he uses to shower, the electricity he uses to power that playstation, etc.
I do not think you should give him allowance out of the child support. And since you have raised him with your other children you should treat them all the same. So he should not get an allowance when the others donāt. Doing chores around the house is to contribute to the household and what it takes for everyone to do their part and pitch in to the household.
If he wants spending money I would suggest that he tries to be proactive to earn his own money. Like a job or helping neighbors with yard work or walking dogs.
I have a 15yr old daughter (she will be 16 in July). We ask that she cleans her own room, does her own dishes and her own laundry, and picks up after herself. And then she is to help with various chores weekly (itās never a lot and usually itās like one chore a day that takes her less than a half hour). She wanted extra money to spend the way she wanted so I told her to get a job. She did. She works 10 or less hours a week but it gives her some spending money. And if she wants me to drive her somewhere she is expected to either pay for gas or do extra chores. For example she has a friend who lives an hour away, sometimes she wants us to go pick the friend up, come home, then a few days later bring her back to her house and us come back home. She either covers the gas (we donāt charge her the actual amount it ends up costing us to drive the 4 hours total but want her to make an effort) or she can do extra chores.
As far as this boy, I am a little concerned that you made a point to say he is not your child. were you saying this to explain the child support situation or are you saying it like this because you donāt feel like heās your child? To me biology doesnāt make a difference. If you have a child in your care for years and who you raise theyāre your child regardless of whether theyāre your biological child. Do you treat him like your other children? I guess the way you phrased it made me wonder. But itās hard to get tone and subtext through a written statement so Itās possible that itās just the way that itās phrased. But as this boys guardian it is important that you tell him that this behavior is unacceptable. He is old enough to understand the hardship in the household and to understand the situation. And as long as he has all the necessities in life and is loved and cared for him having spending money is not an immediate concern. If he wants spending money he could go out and get a job. Simple as that.
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One question what is it he or any of the kids are doing to earn the allowance and dnt included basic age appropriate chores because if they arent doing that I wouldnt be given playstation subscription s etc. Allowances need to be earned.
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Put him for work a couple hours a day. To build skills and discipline
Child abuse and Slavery WOW, then I grew up in a terrible householdā¦
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You charge a $15 year old gas money? Do you charge the other kids gas money? So the $80 you get for him, thatās his limit for everything he needs and allowance ? So if this kid doesnāt get his allowance but still does his chores, can he go to his friends house? Or is that a big no because he canāt give you gas money? Do the other kids have to pay for gas? I feel bad for the kid. Heās not being treated like the other kids
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I canāt stand millennial kids and gen z kids. They all need their a$$ whooped lmao seriously they are lucky they even get an alloance lmao
I had to do this with a roommate that wasnāt paying his full share, iron out the cost of food, energy, and the extra expenses that his child support doesnāt pay, even be generous and take out the $15 a week heād earn. Then what heāll see is he actually owes you money, so he can get on board or get a job lol
Sounds like heās being a stinky teenager. Work on communicating finances with him. Walk him through the math, heās old enough to understand.
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Thatās his payment for room and board as well as the other 3 children who do chores.
She said they were ALL getting $15 now they ALL are not. The $80 is child support money u use as u please. Itās towards raising the child. If you choose to pay the play station subscription then do so. Just like parents choose to buy kids toys ectā¦ I see nothing wrong with how u spend the $80 u receive for raising the child. Youāre literally paying for everything else!!
People are saying thereās jobs out thereā¦ yeah there is, but we do not know the reasons as to why you and your husband cannot get one at the moment. People are so quick to judge. This is about him throwing a tantrum because heās not getting the $15, guess what?! Heās not entitled to it. 
you are doing so much for him by far. That $80 is not for him directly how people think! Omg people donāt really understand child support itās baffling.
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Why did you say he wasnāt your bio child? What does that have to do with this situation?
And who tf charges their son for gasš¬
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You charge him gas money to be taken places?! What?!
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If you werenāt willing to treat him as your own you shouldnāt have taken on guardianship. I canāt imagine how this makes him feel 
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Why you felt it matters that heās not biologically yours when youāve raised him since 18mo old is beyond me. No, $80 isnāt shit in child support but at least itās being paid. It sounds to me like youāre making your child live off of the $80/month that you are paid to help support him when you as his guardian who agreed long ago to take him in should be paying for yourself. Things like hygiene products are your responsibility as his guardian, they are needs not wants. I think making him pay for gas is crazy. If you donāt have the gas money to pay to take him places, then you simply just do not have it and he doesnāt go or finds another way there.
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Not fair to him at all. How can you not consider him your own after all these years. Do you charge the others gas money??
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Iām still confused as to why you charge him gas money 
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Chores in our home arenāt paid, they are a requirement and sometimes they get rewarded for their hard work. Sometimes we deposit $20 here and there to their accounts, we canāt afford to pay 4 kids for chores/week. Our kids work hard and deserve it, so we make sure to let them know theyāre valued and are an integral part of our farm and household. Weāre a team
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At fifteen he is old enough to get a job with a work permit. Help him out with that, then his allowance wonāt matter as much.
Free? Itās not āfreeā to live there.
How many times has this kid been placed?
Does he kno he has 3 yrs til 18? Whatās the plan?
Is the PlayStation stuff still up?
Iām mean af lol but Iād let him kno that his behavior is making it easier to not want to do it any further, even when possible. I hope heās still doing his chores ugh.
Does he have mental health stuff and can he get Peer Support. Professional Peer support. What brought him to you? Why is he there? Might want to do some work around that?
Howās his grades?
Maybe as sad as it might be, this might not be a good fit. Does this kid want it to work?
He want to eat or his $15ā¦
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Give him some thing what ever you can afford just to show him you appreciate him
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Thereās so much wrong here and some of the comments are so sad.
From comments- Children āearning their keepā has to be the grossest Shit Iāve ever heard.
We invited these little humans to this planet, so to then say they need to āearn their keepā is mind blowing.
Obviously we all parent differently and we all have different experiences and beliefs surrounding money, most of us need to heal those beliefs, so that we donāt say and believe things like that.
These are our children. We are responsible for taking care of them. We drive them places, buy and cook their meals, love them, keep them bathed, clothed, and safely housed and we do it because we love them, not because we expect theyāll start earning their keep.
Youāve had this child his whole life and the way you wrote this note makes it sound like you may have some animosity toward how he came to be a part of your home and that you may not consider him your child and that needs some healing work. The $80 should be his for PlayStation and allowance and any extras. Personal
Hygiene, clothes, food, gas etc are all the responsibility of parents. Obviously youāre experiencing a financial situation that is less than ideal, so things are going to be different right now. If youāve kindly explained that to all of your children and you truly are treating all of them equally, then thereās not much else you can do. But when your financial situation turns around, you should reevaluate how you restrict his money. Who do you charge gas money to for your other children?
Thereās a fine line between teaching our children to be responsible and treating them like self sufficient little adults.
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Sounds like you created a monster by making him entitled To his child support and separating him from your other children. Also I donāt believe children should get paid for something theyāre supposed to do no one is ever going to pay them to clean their own home when they are older.
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He can always get a job if he wants to be paid for doing things. I wouldnāt charge him gas money though thatās ridiculous
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I dont know what spoiled world some of you live in but I grew up in a household where helping with chores was my responsbility as a member of the family, not āchild slaveryā or āfree laborā. When theyre old enough to help out with certain tasks itās a duty to themselves and their family, allowances are a privilege. Heās a brat for demanding otherwise especially when the parents are struggling for work, and if you guys read her post carefully she stopped giving all of them allowances and heās throwing a fit. Over money that isnt an allowance for his pocket, itās money that helps to take care of him. $80 a month is literally $20 a week and thatās barely enough to help feed a teenage boys appetite for a day. OP broke down their budgeting and you guys attack and judge them assuming the worse, humble yourselves.
Breakdown to your 15 yo how the support money is spent [supporting him] and give him options like he can drop his game subscription if he prefers some money over that. But that money is meant to support him, itās not his entitlement. Be honest that you guys are financially struggling, if he cannot take the time to understand that let him throw his fit. Heās a teenager and youre the parent for a reason, you know what you need to do to take care of your family.
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Tell him he can have allowance but he has to give something up for it. Make a list of all the things child support pays for.
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Doing his chores is his responsibility for being a part of the household. You feed him, clothe him, take care of his every need. Kids today have this terrible mindset of entitlement. In the real world, thatās not going to get him far. He should learn to not take you and everything you give and do for him for free, for granted. You took him in. That in itself is everything. If you didnāt, who knows how much worse his life couldāve turned out. Youāre doing a good job
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Um I told my 12 year old when she said the same thing that if she doesnt like my rules and doing chores she can pitch a tent in the yard and she can make her own rules thereā¦ she did not pitch the tent in the yard and her attitude towards chores changed quick
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Kids donāt get paid to do their chores here. They live here, itās their house too so they need to share the responsibilities of keeping their home and space clean.
They do get paid to pick up things they wouldnāt be responsible for though, itās just up to them if they want to earn money or not
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āWhy donāt you get a jobā - The Offspring.
I never got any pocket money growing up, went and got myself a weekend job to pay for the things I wanted that my mom couldnāt afford.
$80 a month in child support only??? That is awful.
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Itās also not illegal to make your kids do choresā¦ nor is it required to pay them for basic life maintenance. This is why my daughter wonāt be getting an allowanceā¦ ever. This is absolutely ridiculous lol. All it teaches them is they get $ for doing bare minimum/nothing.
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Unbelievable 
poor kid
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