Verbal abuse is still abuse, your kids are going to break under the pressure of the verbal tirade and expectations of perfection
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Having some chores is fine, but all the house work? My grandmother had standards for when I would do my chores, but she was never harsh about it if I ever missed a spot or decided to just tidy up instead of deep cleaning something. Do your kids have time to even be a kid? I get that you’re paying them, but your daughters right. Why is the expectation so high when she has a job. You guys have a job and don’t have to lift a finger. She has a job and school (obviously not at the moment). So why not cut some slack. You’re creating so many issues in their heads. Having chores is fine, but they shouldn’t be your maids. You and your husband are in the wrong.
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Well I won’t attack you here bc I feel like too much of that has already been done. I do agree that you are expecting too much & I think your husband is going too far. I am married to a former marine Sargent and he is strict with our kids. He doesn’t allow them to talk back and he is very verbal loudly when one of them does. He has never called them names, but he does yell. I’ve had to work with him over the last few years, he doesn’t see it as yelling like I do. He just sees it a stern discipline like instilled in him from the military. My husband is very respected both at work and home and our 2 kids (5 and 2) adore him. He (we) only expect our almost 5 year olds to help me organize her room a little bit when I’m doing it just so she knows where things should go. We do expect her to try and keep it that way, but I go in every so often and re arrange and clean big time and she helps. My 2 year old just learned (he’s a tad delayed due to some birth complications) but he has just started to understand about putting a toy “back” when you are done with it. That’s about it. We expect our toddlers to have good manners and be respectful both of which we teach them. They are very loving little kids bc we are very loving with them and they also see mom & dad love each other and compliment, cater to or help, and respect each other too. We are not perfect we just try our best. What works in one household doesn’t work in another and every ones parenting style is different. My kids have it very good, as did I when I was growing up. My mom (parents) did everything from cleaning my room, doing my laundry and paying for everything, car, gas, vacations, phone, shopping etc. My children are already spoiled as was I, but are not spoiled brats either. The way we talk to our kids reflects on us… and they can have a very diminished self esteem and image of themselves going forward if they think they are never good enough for, or do good enough for dad. They prob will spend the rest of their lives being people pleasers for this reason and that can lead to being taken advantage of, very easily. Talk to your husband, maybe you can convince him to ease up and to def change his tone/ language and esp name calling bc it’s more damaging than helpful. 1 kid should not feel special and loved and respected while the next feels totally rejected and useless… “whatever name they have been called”… that’s sad and completely unnecessary. Unfortunately these things can all have lifelong lasting effects on them and I hope things change at your house for everyone. Maybe y’all should switch places with your children for 1 month (obviously with the exception of you still going to work and managing finances) let them be in charge to an extent and then allow them to talk to you horribly and yell and call you names every day for a month if what you do isn’t exactly how they wanted it or expect, even if they had already expressed their expectations and you thought you had done that… or had at least done your best. Kids should not be taking care of so many responsibilities in the household in my opinion. I’m a big fan of the chore chart for older kids with small rewards as gestures of appreciation for them working so hard. I don’t mean gifts and not even necessarily something that costs money. What if it was just going to the park with and getting to spend an extra hour with mom or go have ice cream with dad… something special that they pick… I hardly see them “wanting” extra time if he is treating them like this and time is so precious… you can never get that back and unfortunately years down the road, it will be too late to correct any damage done by this treatment. You can still have high expectations for them, but I think they should be tailored quite a bit and def changed to be age appropriate. Also, concerning your 15 year old daughter, I don’t think she is far off in her thinking. Unfortunately kids will rebel rebel rebel when they don’t feel treated fairly or like they are not being respected. They just want to be treated age appropriately. Maybe if she wants to be so grown she can take her$80 and budget out for the things she personally needs at home like hygiene and personal items… to see how hard money is to come by and that you have to work hard to get it… but bless her heart things are only going to get worse… the more he screams and name calls, the more she is going to buck… good luck momma… I wish you well and send love & support your way!!
Girllll they gonna put y’all in the nursing home when it’s time. An they won’t think twice about it. Their kids not youre maids. I would never let my husband talk to the kids like that. Shit he’ll get a cast iron skillet upside his head. Idc I don’t let people verbally abuse my children in any shape or form. Y’all are gonna need Jesus, god and dr Phil.
Reminds me of my toxic stepdad and he’s the reason I ran away at 17 and moved out as soon as I turned 18. Even though my mom wasn’t as mean she allowed him to be an a hole to us…
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And that’s why you and your husband will be put in a shitty nursing home
Verbal abuse can fuck the up head up more than physical abuse lighten up a little you only live once let them be kids
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You spelled slaves wrong
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I don’t know why they haven’t already gone to DHS or a counselor at school and reported your husband and yourself to law enforcement and been removed from your home. Mental abuse is worse than physical a bruise will fade over time but what’s going on in their minds will keep replaying for years, poor children.
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I’m all for kids having responsibility and knowing how to do a job correctly but I also want them to knw that they will make mistakes and that’s ok. when a task isn’t “up to standard” they learn and hopefully do better next time…however, im assuming ur kids have school and even tho they need responsibility in the home, school should be priority. and all the phones amd vacations don’t mean snot to those kids if they are being belittled and called names…thats not what they will remember abt childhood. they will remember how they felt every time they were abused. all the material things in the world don’t mean anything if they dont feel love and security and that home isn’t a safe place where they can be themselves and are allowed to be human and make mistakes. maybe u and ur husband should help out with the housework or hire an actual cleaning service if u are expecting a pro cleaning job daily
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Parents sound like entitled aholes… sorry but if you want your home in perfect condition, hire a maid or do it yourself. Your children are not your slaves.
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Are they your children or your slaves? I would be ashamed to post this. Sounds like your 15 year old is finding her voice and I don’t doubt when she turns 18 she will, understandably, get as far away as she can from both of you. You haven’t had to do any upkeep on your home in years bc you work full time. She is working now too. Maybe your husband should get off his ass and do things himself especially if the kids are doing things up to your standards. Give them all a break before you push her away.
Time to step up and take over some chores especially for the 15 year old. Let them keep their rooms neat, do some laundry, and take out the trash. Maybe some vacumning or mowing, but you and your husband need to do some chores yourselves. He does not need to yell at them as this is a bigger problem he has that is harmful. They need to also be kids.
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I mean she sounds like she knows what she is talking about I considered half this story a form of abuse
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What year is this from, 1920?
Wake up to yourself. Your husband is abusing your children and you allow it.
These kids will have long lasting psychological damage mark my words.
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15 is the rebellious age it was for me and I still don’t know the “right” way to handle it. I’m now 58.
We don’t have our children to do all our chores! Yes! They should have some to teach them but what you are both doing is bullying & abusive!
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Definitely sounds like he’s verbally abusive with extremely high standards. Kids already haveba lot to deal with at school
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I’m sick of hearing parents say their children live in their home for free!!
You chose to have these kids where do expect them to live morons seriously don’t have anymore kids,…
they aren’t your slaves yes it’s great to teach them to do chores and help around the house but don’t abuse them for not doing it to your standards at least they are trying hire a bloody cleaner if it’s that hard for you to clean up your own house the kids deserve to be kids they should not have to take on the whole house hold honestly it’s YOUR responsibility to look after your children and provide everything for them, you chose to give birth to those poor kids, they didn’t ask to be here,…
Sounds like quiet a toxic house hold.
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My father & mother were like this and I grew up to be a responsible, level headed, organized person. I knew what working for a dollar meant and also knew the value of a dollar. I HATED it as a kid/teenager but i’m thankful for it now. I don’t have any sense of entitlement and know everything I have is because I worked hard for it and didn’t expect a hand out. My kids will learn the same thing!
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Sounds to me like he is emotionally abusing them.
I get the chores stuff… and taking things away when they aren’t done correctly…
BUT CALLING THEM NAMES?? SOUNDS TO ME LIKE YOUR HUSBAND HAD CHILDREN SO HE CAN HAVE SOMEONE TO BULLY.
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I think you misunderstand what chores are…… Also, he is 100% being verbally abusive. Your children don’t need $80 per month and all the nice things to be forced to run and keep up your home, they need parents to love, support and guide them into being decent human beings.
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Let the kids be kids, and instead of paying them to do your housework hire a cleaner!
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When I was younger my sisters dad was the same way. My mom was the only one that worked a full time job and he worked when he wanted which wasnt that often. I was probably 10/11 and my sister was 12/13 maybe even younger at the time when we would have to do so much…but it was mainly me. Right after school the 1st thing we did was change our clothes and feed our outside dogs, do dishes, sweep/mop/vaccum/dust do laundry take our inside dogs out whenever they needed, I always had to mow, we were the ones who vacuumed our pool, pick up sticks, the list goes on and on. We never got to stay with any friends or rarely go to after school functions like dances or anything. Our oldest sister lived next door and whenever we got to do anything it was bc she would always take us but when he got mad about anything he wouldnt let us go with her, we stayed with our grandparents if we ever stayed with anyone other than my sister. He talked down to us and my mom. He was a real P.O.S.
I turned out pretty damn good for having a childhood like that but by no means am saying it is ok at all. Growing up like that, I told myself if I ever had kids I’d never put that much pressure on them, they are kids they need to have their childhood and enjoy it. My kids are 10 and 5 and I never ask them to do anything. If they ask to stay/do something with their aunt/uncle/papaw/grandma or a friend 99% of the time they get too. I hated a big part of my childhood bc of that so I will never allow my kids to ever go through it.
Verbal abuse is still abuse !!
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I meannnn…. Verbal/emotional abuse IS still abuse. You said yourself he gets carried away and name calls and stuff… HE needs to adjust his attitude and hers will adjust as well. Either that or prepare for her to possibly move out and go no contact once she is old enough.
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What in the holy fuck dude, y’all don’t help clean the house at all? You don’t even homecook daily? Like, you expect so much of them and contribute NOTHING, and when things fall short of your expectations you verbally cut them down, when what children NEED from parents are love and affirmation? Dude you and your husband need therapy, and those children need a better home
Our Children, each have one major chore, one minor chore and they each do their own laundry, keep their rooms clean and share cleaning their bathroom. If their Major or Minor chore is not completed, then yes they need to finish it. But my children have learned really quick to do it right the first time, because if it is not and we are sitting down to do a fun activity, they miss out till it is completed. We all get frustrated as parents and I have yelled at my kids, but telling them they are lazy is not needed. If you see that the chore is not completed then remind them to finish it. I have one child that I have to remind him on one certain task several times. But i have a code word for it and i just say it and he goes back to it. No embarrassment.
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Ask yourself if it was a place of work would it be classed as abuse children need respect aswell seems like they are doing a great job if you guys dont really need to fo anything this is my opinion
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Put the housework and chores aside for a second and think about what your daughter is telling you. She has come to you, her mother, for help in a situation she feels uncomfortable in and where she is feeling abused.
For you to dismiss her complaint is the worst thing you can possibly do. You said yourself that your husband can get carried away which means you don’t feel his reactions suit the situation.
You need to step in, address your husbands behaviour, and reset his expectations, preferably in front of your children so they learn that it’s ok to speak up and put a stop to abusive behaviour - no matter who it’s coming from.
For you to sit by and do nothing will only serve to show your daughter that being treated like that is ok. Imagine the damage this is doing to her future romantic relationships - if you ignore her and do nothing, if/when her future partner verbally abuses her, she will think it’s ok or ‘normal’ - surely that’s not what you want to teach your child.
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Wow so it sounds like you and your husband are lazy af and quite frankly pathetic abusive parents who need to be called in to cps
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I say mom and dad need to do some chores too! They kids need praise, not ever being good enough.
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Is this chick for real???
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I couldn’t even read the entire post bc it angered me so. You guys need to be called in and I feel deeply sorry for those unloved children, abused, and neglected children and you and your husband deserve some things that go against community standards
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Expecting children to do their part is normal. What, may I ask, does the mother and father do? Did she have children so she wouldn’t have to clean? Chores are good for learning responsibility. Y’all are going to up the creek without a paddle when you lose your cleaning crew. The father is abusive and the middle daughter is correct. They’ll leave and won’t come back. That’s life.
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I hope you’ve re read your post and can see what you are BOTH doing, “not getting involved” is enabling the abuse. FFS wake up
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Lol. So you’re out here telling people you allow your pos husband to A B U S E your kids. Good job being a pos too. I literally PRAY and HOPE your kids get out safely.
You’re literally just lazy & abusive. Yikes.
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Tell your husband to chill. That’s gross asf.
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Our kids have chores BUT the hubby & I still have more then our kids and we both work full time and I just had our 9th baby … y’all sound extreme …
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I mean, do you learn by getting yelled at and belittled? No?! So why would they?
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You have housekeepers and maids not children , your daughter is correct in her accusations …I feel very sad for your children they will grow up hating you both …I don’t even know you but I hate you for doing this to them 
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Your husband yells and calls them names when things aren’t up to HIS standards and you don’t think that is abuse? I feel bad for your kids 
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Chores are good for kids we don’t realize they grow up with chores
With out PAY
Way to give your kids a life time of anxiety and never feeling they can live up to your exceptions and yes what your husband is doing is verbal abuse and you’re wrong for allowing it.
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Pick up some of the chores if you don’t like the way their done. You live in the house too so its not only their responsibility to clean. They also go to school and seem to be getting to the working age so really it isn’t fair to expect them to do all of it and take out your anger on them if it isn’t done perfectly. Tbh I’d probably hate my life in that situation
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They are you children not your servants!
How well did you both clean at their age?!!!
A grown man verbally and name calling a child…his own.
Get a f…grip, they won’t be children forever and who will clean yer lovely house when they have the cop on not to return or visit when older.
Sounds like you the parents are lazy!!!
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Stop paying them. If they ate responsible enough to hold down a job that should be enough. They are not your slaves. Give them Rach 3 small chores and thank God there still living at home.
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Sounds like mum and dad are lazy not the children! You had kids not slaves 
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Tell your husband to cut the shit
Like really seems like you guys only had kids so you can be lazy yourselves your kids seem like they are your slaves yes you may work full time but the kids are in school full time im my house we call there school there full time job your husband needs to get his head out of his ass that’s for sure
You have created a home that they won’t want to come back to once they leave and creating a submissive behaviour for your children for later life. I feel sorry for you
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Wow shocked, good job at ruining their childhood…
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Your husband yells at them and calls them names and you think that’s not abuse?? When your kids don’t do something “to your standards” have you tried I don’t know, talking to them like human beings??
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wow.
so your children pretty much do everything around the house and you complain and let your husband treat them like shit for not doing it satisfactorily… unbelievable.
your daughter is right.
they are not maids and cleaners. they should contribute but as parents its your job to upkeep your house, you should be grateful that they help at all.
your husband needs a boot in the head.
and after I reread your post again… im even more infuriated $20pw to clean your house… omg.
Chores are 1 thing. Seriously you don’t have to do much but laundry and meals, thanks to your children. Expecting your child to do Chores, work and go to school. You pay her 80 dollar’s a month 
Your husband verbally abuses your children by belittling them. There children not your paid help! I’m a house cleaner, your children are under paid and I’d quit if a client treated me this way! Yes lady you sound bong, bong crazy. Good for your daughter, for speaking up! Your treating them like the underpaid help and verbally abusing them.
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Omg shes working just to get out of that hell house… you and your husband will regret it when she never comes back … how sad😭
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Is this real?! 
I hope it is not, but if it is, I hope someone reports you for abuse. Read these comments and change before it’s too late- but I fear you have already damaged those poor children badly. Shameful and sad.
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Send your husband back to the army 
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What do you mean you dont have to do any upkeep? You are the parents?
I think what you mean is you have 4 slaves? Because this is absolutely disgusting. What gives you the right to treat them like your slaves? You work like most adults. Congrats lols… You chose to have those kids.
They go to school all day, some then go to work, and you expect them to keep YOUR home in immaculate order and to cook your meals?
When do they do homework? Have friends? Sports?
You and hubby need to chill out and give these kids a break. Yes they can do chores, but this is over the top expectations of children… you’re both abusing them all
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I’m shook at what I just read! I was raised this exact way. You wanna know what happened? I left home at 17 and never speak to my dad. He called me every name in the book and hit me and if chores weren’t done right? I had to start over … I resented him for the longest time !
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it seems more like the chores given to the children are to make the parents lives easier rather than to instill good habits in the kids.
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If he is yelling alot and calling them names yes that’s verbal and mental abuse and you are letting him. Also you need lead by example and both of you need pitch in on chores. They are your kids not maids.
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Your husband sounds like a dictator in the house. And you let him. (My dad was like that, not anymore) You guys were 15 once, put yourself in their shoes. I’d feel the same way they feel. And they will remember this and hate both of you later on once they grown up and have their own family. They will remember how strict you were and then thinking you dont love them, and that you could’ve handle the situation better. Responsibilities and discipline are good. But he got a high standard expectation all day everyday… that’s like living in the military not home. Where no mistakes are allowed. They gonna be too scared to try anything in life because they afraid they gonna failed and disappointed you. That’s mental abuse…
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Don’t be surprised if they cut yall off when they move out.
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Your husband sounds like a douche bag if he doesn’t like the way they do things, he should do it himself!
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This sounds like modern slavery to be honest! 
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That absolutely is abuse and your doing a lot of damage to your kids. I litterally had flash backs of my childhood. I think the biggest thing that got my attention is expecting perfection. First off NO ONE is perfect. You are setting up expectations that aren’t achievable. And they will have those expectations through life for everything and everyone. At least in my case. That has caused me severe depression and anxiety because I can’t be perfect so I feel like a failure and most of the time makes me not want to do anything or give up. This goes for household, jobs, interest, and even relationships with people. Secondly your asking them to do YOUR version of perfect everyone has their own way of doing things. I completely understand if they miss something. Point it out in a nice way. Oh hey did you forget something. And maybe if you HELPED them do it that would help. Next name calling is DEFINITELY abuse. No matter what. You should not demean another human being ESPECIALLY one you are raising. You are giving them low self esteem and teaching them its okay for people to treat them like shit! You don’t have children you have slaves! You should not expect your children to take care of YOUR house. That is absurd. I’m all for chores, teaching responsibilities, and getting them ready to do it on their own one day but you not lifting a finger in your own home. Thats shameful. Their first job is to get through school. That is 8 hours a day equal to your 8 hours of work. And a lot on a child. They should be helping you not doing it all. Clean your own fucking home. You have not even let them have a childhood. They only get that once.I teach by example. Children are more likely to do as you do and not what you say so be an example. I would absolutely be lashing out if I were in your home and I don’t blame her. Honestly she needs counseling to help the damage you’ve done. Take up for your children and stop abusing them.
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Wow this was EXTREMELY hard to read. I remember being 10 and being woken up by my step dad because the kitchen wasn’t spotless when he got home. It was 1am. He made me get up and scrub the kitchen and belittled me the entire time. My mother let it happen. I don’t speak to her. My kids don’t speak with her.
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So basically you birthed slaves, not children. Yikes.
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There is nothing wrong with teaching children how to prepare for the real world.
However they are kids. They are not paid help.
They need to be kids too. Find a balance. It sounds super rigid in your house and I feel like most kids would rebel against it.
Good for you guys for ensuring your kids are responsible and also contribute to the household.
I would just loosen the reins of control a bit more.
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It’s not the military, it’s your home. A home she will be afraid to admit when she’s messed up, a place she will avoid if things are wrong in her life. What a slope for a teenaged girl. Calm down and let kids be kids.
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My kids are my babies. At 15 yes chores are acceptable but as a mother it’s our job too help too. Why train them too live clean if your not even participating? So basically have kids and you won’t have too clean your home? And if your husband is name calling he is being abusive and you should be protecting your children. Fight for your kids. Don’t stay out of anything.
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Your daughter is correct. It’s verbal abuse. I can see why she is unhappy and she has every reason to feel that way. You and your husband need to do a lot of self reflection and change your habits to adjust to the needs of your children. It’s not their job to adjust to your needs.
Might I add that it was extremely brave of her to communicate that with you. Your other kids most likely feel the same way and are too afraid to confront you.
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There’s no excuse for name calling.
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Abuse is abuse whether it’s verbal or physical. The fact you’re allowing it and know it’s him “taking it too far” makes you just as bad as him. When your kids move out and want nothing to do with yall I honestly wouldn’t blame them.
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Calling children names is mental abuse. It damages them big time. It affects their adulthood. Taking away their privileges is a good thing to do. They need chores in order to be prepared for adulthood. One should not discipline when angry. I always sent mine to their room until I could calm down and think about I need to do. My slogan when easing mine was I can show you better than I can tell you. In other words, I’m not going to repeat myself, next time I will discipline, according to the offense and severity of the offense. Their phones, etc., are privileges, not have to haves. Children need structure and discipline, but there has to be a balance of it all. You have to be firm, but loving, at the same time. Don’t send mixed signals. It’s tough! Hang in there! Btw, my 3 kids are all grown and have thanked me for teaching them and disciplining them and showing them the right way to communicate to others. Remember, even though they are kids, they still have feelings and thoughts like we do. God bless!!
Loretta Langanke what the fuck, sounds like a bitta child slavery to me
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They’re kids, if you want these things done so perfectly then do it yourself!! They’re not robots
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Do as I say not as I do, never really works well with kids. If she sees you both come home and get to relax but they have to go go all day long then I would be pissed too. Especially the yelling and name calling and you not stepping in. Tell your husband to chill. Protect your kids. Sure have chores and rules, but you can’t expect discipline out of them when you are basically showing you have zero yourself.
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Just saying. This is exactly how my ‘father ‘ was. As soon as dinner was done I HAD to do all the dishes and clean I couldn’t even let my fucking food digest before I had to get up and work. And I haven’t spoken to him in a long time. Wake up to yourself, you have children because you want to, they don’t ask to be born, they aren’t your slaves! Don’t be surprised if you have no relationship with any of them when they grow up.
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PS if the daughter is reading this thread for whatever reason, yes this is absolutely abuse!!!
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Shes 15 and started work and goes to school. And you expect her to do more at home than you do yourselves. That is abuse. Times have changed yeah your parents might have done that to you but you need to stop the cycle. As a parent its your job to help your kids feel safe happy and loved. You know he goes too far and you let it happen. You child will resent you as they get older and you will pay for it in the long run.
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Anyone thought about the fact that the author may be scared of hubby? He sounds like a tyrant and she may be too scared to speak up?
That’s the only reason I can think of to allow your husband to treat your babies so poorly.
Make them your slaves, then sit back and watch him degrade them with verbal abuse when as children they don’t perform to precision adult standards!
Appalling behaviour.
I hope those kids are saving that $80 per month for future therapy.
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Lets be honest here and especially with yourself.Your husband is verbally and emotionally abusive and you know it.You said as much and you know its true. It also sounds like from your post you are used to making excuses for him. Honestly you both sound gross af. Don’t be surprised when your kids are grown and they cut off contact with you.
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an old nursing adage from good nurses, and i mean good nurses, DO NOT ASK TO BE DONE WHAT YOU ARE NOT WILLING TO DO.
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This post is honestly horrifying. Good luck having relationships with your children once they leave home. This is way too stressful and extreme for children. Yes chores are a necessity in teaching your children responsibilities, but to be that rigid is damaging. The fact that you choose “to stay out of it” when your husband is berating them is the most upsetting to me. What are you teaching them? You are teaching them that it’s okay to watch things that are wrong be done and to not stand up for the victim. You may not see it yourself, but having watched this myself as a child, it will have your children growing up feeling as if they are not even loved by their parents. You need to reevaluate this entire situation and attempt to start doing damage control for all the years of what has gone on. If nothing changes, don’t be shocked when your children write this toxicity out of their lives once they are able to get out. If you truly love your children, listen to their cries for help/change.
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Nothing wrong with a little hard work and ALL working together to accomplish something for everyone!
Yelling, calling them names, belittling them, micromanaging them…doesn’t sound like abuse to you? Stick up for your kids. They aren’t your servants. Sounds like they do a hell of a lot more than most kids these days. Be thankful. They are only kids once. Stop stealing their youth.
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Please read this article. As much as you think it will teach kids good habits this style of parenting is quite detrimental in the long run
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You children didn’t ask to be brought into this world to be your personal slaves ! Treat them like children too as well as teaching them to be good workers and they will enjoy learning to be good little helpers !!
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Chores are one thing , but kids should not be responsible for the upkeep and the entirety of the cleaning that is yours and your husbands home and that falls to you . I raised 5 kids and they had chores but not all the cleaning fell to them
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I mean… if she’s going to school AND work. If she doesn’t want to do chores then don’t pay her. That’s fair. Or make her chores less.
The reason you, mom, don’t have chores is because you work full time… If she’s doing a school and work then why is she still doing the same amount of chores she was doing before.
You honestly couldn’t have expected they would just clean your house for you forever did you? Lol
You had them do chores to instill work ethic and responsibility, which clearly worked. So you did your job, if at 15 she wanted a job and got one. And is now making her own money instead of asking you for money all the time. Which is what you wanted, no? So good job 
quit complaining and let her out of her chores
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i divorced my husband for acting like this. he was a marine and i had to constantly remind him that our kids didnt join the marines. your children are being held to impossibly high standards and are being set up for failure. my kids are a million times happier since i left their dad and even beg to not have to go to his house on weekends. verbal abuse is still abuse
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Sounds like an undiagnosed neurodivergent family to be honest
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Wow. Soon as possible they will leave and probably not return. Who can blame them? Wouldn’t be surprised either.
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You all are reading to much into this. They stated the have schedules and chores. They did not say how offen they where scheduled. You all assume that every chore is done daily. , as far as we know the kids do the dishes once a week.
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My kids each have two mandatory chores each week to do and I rotate them each week. They also have a list of optional chores where they can earn money.
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It sounds like your kids are just slaves to you both. Not cool.
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So, you’re running a boot camp…
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Omg sounds like these kids are slaves, how dare he treat them that way and how dare you allow him to abuse them mentally, my heart goes out to them, he is damaging them mentally and emotionally
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