Everyone In our house chips in to An extent. They get 1 big job a day to do (I.e tidy living room/hallway/stairs) and then a smaller job (dishwasher etc) they get an allowance each, to spend as they wish. And treats from us too. The eldest gets lifts here there and everywhere and is ALWAYS having mates round. We don’t shout/call names etc when they don’t do it one day or whatever but after a while we point out that we are their taxi and their bank and both work full time so the least they can do is help out. Otherwise we won’t have time for taxi runs and will need to pay for a cleaner so allowances will need fo reduce to accommodate that.
They can forgo their allowance and taxi service if they dont want to help but they can’t have both ways🤷🏽♀️
Poor kids are living in hell
Your daughter’s right; your husband is being verbally and mentally abusive, and you’re complicit in it by letting him doing it.
Growing up in a household like this, I can confirm its mf abuse. Kids helping around the house is absolutely not a bad thing, it teaches responsibility…however they are not housekeeper’s. Name calling and abusive language, like calling them lazy may not seem like a big deal but I promise it is. You aren’t perfect, dont expect your kids to be then shit on them for being human.
So apart from your husband working full time , what does he do around the house ? He sounds like the bully and verbally abusing the children and the wife just standing back and watching , the daughter is right
My mom was very strict similar to this growing up, I hid everything from her. I’m working on changing these actions I’ve learned with my kids. It’s gotta stop with me. I want my babies to tell me everything.
Sounds like you have made slaves out of your children and treat them horribly.
I would hate to be your kids… Smh your kids are humans that did not ask to be born let alone slaves that get verbally thrashed if things arent to your husbands liking…
So you cook “sometimes” for the kids you created to be your live in slaves!? Who cooks for them, who loves them, who cares for them? You should be ashamed of yourself for even posting this! If your not creating anything positive for your kids to look forward to them you suck at being a parent! Most people this day amd age work full time as well and come home and cook their kids dinner, period! Hope someone takes this post and reports you guys to CPS! Unreal!! You dont deserve these kids and i would be acting out as well!
Your kids didn’t ask to be born and you both use them as slaves and treat them like crap.
The fact you sit by and let your husband abuse your children is disgusting and you are just as much to blame as your tyrant of a husband is.
I get having responsibilities, but keep in mind they are children not your personal maids. Your kids are going to hate you. That’s me being blunt. Never allow you husband to verbally abuse them and call them names. Yes that is verbal abuse, mental abuse and emotional abuse. It’s not okay. For christ sake you live in your home. It’s not a museum! Chores are Chores I get it, but it sounds as if they live in a militant home. I’d be quick to leave also. At least she stands up for herself something you seem not to do for yourself or your kids. Idk about this post. Got me in my feelings. I feel bad for them.
That is abuse, trying to do their best should be enough, they’ll grow up with a complex over what is enough and will have low self confidence and will think anything less than perfection just isn’t good enough. Abuse isn’t just physical
They are most definitely being abused mentally. Maybe your husband should look into some therapy for lowering his perception on perfection
You people are horrible. I too instill discipline into my kids (16/17) but what you are doing is child abuse. Being a federal law enforcement officer i would LOVE to get you investigated by the local authorities. Can anyone reading this provide details where these people live? I will keep all names/info confidential.
Your husband is a controlling bully and you’re a doormat. Your daughters right; she’s being verbally abused.
Agree kids need to help out around the house but yours are basically serfs. What sort of damage are you doing by insisting they do 99% of the housekeeping? Your love & support for your children should be unconditional. They shouldn’t have to feel they HAVE to do chores
Why do I get the feeling that we are all gonna see this family on the news…Headlines… Parents extremely abusive…
And what exactly do you and your husband do other then work and when do the children actually allowed to be children, and I hope the ones over 18 tell you where you get off, let the kids be kids, they arnt your personal slaves.
Sounds to me like you live with a narcissist. I get that you want to teach your children to be self sufficient but to verbally abused them because they didn’t do a perfect job at cleaning? Then both of you should get off your asses and teach them. If your daughter is rebelling against you both is with good reasons. Both of you as parents should respect your children and stop treating them as your personal maids. It’s ok to TEACH them but what you are doing is a bit too extreme. Be parents and love your children. Money will not make them feel better about how you treat them. Attempt to be more understanding and listen to their needs. Because when they become grown adults such as yourselves, they will blame both of you for the trauma you both are putting them through.
Well I’m gunna get jumped for this but I don’t think this is bad parenting. They should do chores and I think are lucky to get paid for them(I didn’t get allowance). My six year old is expected to do chores every day and when he doesn’t do them or doesn’t do them right consistently he gets things taken away. More people now a days should do this with their children and maybe there would t be so many entitled brats running around with no idea how to have responsibilities or know what consequences are. Kudos momma for raising young adults that can do for themselves, your daughter may be upset now because she feels your house is unfair but oh well. All you other moms saying this is abuse and those kids are living in hell are completely wrong. I’d tell the girl to suck it up buttercup and if she doesn’t want a talking to about it then do it right the first time
You should be cleaning with them bit them doing most so you guys hardly have none. It’s ok to teach them but remember they are not our slaves.
Sounds like your children are just slaves in their own home and their father is verbally abusive. Sounds like atleast one is unhappy and I hate to say your child or children may grow to resent him unless your husband starts treating them a little more respectfully.
It’s fair to expect children to pick up after themselves but you and your husband are abusing those kids … you lazy sods should clean your own dam house .
verbal, mental, emotional abuse going on there. by you standing aside and allowing this you are an accomplice. you say you and your husband do not partake in cleaning etc because you work full time but yet your children go to school full time and now have also started working(more “full time” hours then you put in). you are wanting them to do things that you do not…hypocritic child slave owners. they should all be taken from you, you do not deserve them. I hope they disown you and never speak to you when they come of age. you may be their parents but you are as toxic as they come.
They are children not bloody slaves 
This is child abuse
Your kids are going to grow and have a lot of resent towards you. 1. They’re ganna hate their dad for belittling them and calling them names. 2. They’re ganna resent you for not saying anything and watch it happen. I grew up In this environment but Instead of name calling, it was physical abuse and always being told what I did was never good enough. I now have no love for the parent that was this way and I have a lot of resentment for the other parent who Instead of protecting me and siblings just stood around and watched it happen. I am actually now In therapy for my childhood. Its ashamed that you allow your husband to speak to your kids this way. All this does is make them grow up to people please and become seekers for others validation because they weren’t getting that as kids and were always told they could never do anything correctly. Your husband is verbally, mentally and emotionally abusive and you are also abusive for watching it happen and not protecting your kids. You make it seem like your guys do no chores around the house. Your kids are not your slaves or maids. You also need to contribute. They’re in school and they are KIDS. there are other ways of showing kids what they’re doing wrong and how to fix it without it being abusive and detrimental to their health and mind.
I keep thinking back to the Menedez trial… Your lucky just one of them are rebelling. You need to stand up for the kids you grew in your body and tell your husband to chill before we read about y’all’s tragic end. Kids have breaking points too. Let them be kids, yes teach them but the name calling and making them feel like nothing is good enough just because it does not meet his standards is crazy to me.
You and your husband are doing it right. Don’t ask the opinions of others…unless they raised perfect children!
They are slaves… it’s disgusting and they will get out asap. Centrelink actually helps kids like this. Your making a lot of excuses for your husband who sounds like he has already mentally damaged them so they will never feel adequate. THIS IS CHILD ABUSE and hope you both get what you deserve. You are lazy bludgers. FfS
What you’re doing is what my parents still do to us.
You have the “Our House, My House” complex.
Mind you this is my explanation of this.
This complex is when parents have kids who want something and when you say no and they argue or question their wants/needs it’s MY HOUSE. However when you do what you’re doing with your kids right now it’s the OUR house complex meaning they live there they HAVE to clean to your standards or else. This is wrong and abusive.
To let him abuse them verbally and not interfere is wrong. To excuse his action towards them is wrong.
To realize you’re basically having your children upkeep the house without your help or husband is wrong.
Good for your 15 year old to finally speak up. They know you’re paying them bare minimum for your house work. Guess what. I’m a single mother, I work full time but I DO NOT force my daughter to pick up the entire house.
Instead I have her put away her toys in her room and then as long as the toys are off the floor she’s good to go and she is praised for her hard efforts and rewarded. Mind you she is 4 and I help her pick up because we live together and it’s OUR house. Not just mine.
You all need to sit and have a talk because your children won’t say it but they dread coming back to your home.
When do they play with friends?
When do they have time for extracurricular activities?
When do they get “me time”?
When do they get to be humans?
You treat them like slaves. They’re your children. Treat them as such and stop this behavior before you lose all of them all together.
I’m appalled you find this is okay. If this is what you think kids are for them do not have anymore children. They’re your children to change the future. Not your slaves to clean and run your house. Change your behavior and mindset otherwise prepare to lose your kids due to your choices.
I grew up in a house where both my parents worked. We had choirs and if not done right we had to redo it. It has caused a lot of problems in my life. It did teach me responsibility but it also messed with my mental health to a point.
Think of it as a job. Would you let your boss talk to you the way your husband talks to the kids? If not then change it verbal abuse is abuse
Children are supposed to be children. Give them chores, but don’t complain when they dont do it the way you do or to your perfection. Otherwise all youre doing is tearing them down and undermining their confidence.
It’s often the middle child that will have to balls to say "Get F#$ked
If your husband has such an issue with how things are being done maybe he should stop being lazy and do it himself 
And we wonder why kids have no respect for others… because they don’t get respect at home. Calling your child names (not just lazy) isn’t right and it is verbal abuse. I’m all for chores and healthy disciplining when necessary… but making a child redo the entire kitchen because she didn’t wipe off the counter to his expectation is RIDICULOUS. That child will continue to rebel and good for her for calling YOU out as her mother. There’s no way in hell I would stand there and allow my husband or anyone else to verbally abuse our children cuz he’s mad. Hell no. You’re supposed to raise your children to not mind wanting to come home when they’re older instead of raising them to be thankful they’re finally out of that house. He is abusive and you’re allowing it! That child will continue to rebel, and I hope she tells someone how unhealthy the discipline is at home. Unreal.
They’ll beat their self up later on in life over things like that. That’ll give them extreme anxiety and low self esteem. They’ll stress so bad about their house not being clean that it’ll really break them mentally. I think he’s treating them like slaves there’s nothing wrong with a little mess nothing needs to be perfect. As long as there’s not food being left around and rotting it should be fine.
Chores are good but evidently your husband is pretty harsh or you eouldnt be defending him. Ease up a bit. It should be a home not a house. Things dont mean everything. Yall ever have any family fun??
You are teaching them responsibility, I grew up like this hated it but I’m a damn good house keeper. 
It won’t kill them WORK ETHIC!
So your kids are your servants and you and your husband don’t do any house upkeep? Yes I believe kids should have chores but to be in school, homework, and just getting thru this crazy world y’all are seriously nuts. And then because they don’t do it up to you or or husbands standards they get verbally abused and called names, and you not saying it is just as bad as the person doing the verbal abuse. As soon as your kids turn 18 they not gonna walk out they running.
Just bc you give your kids a phone and take vacations dont mean you should let your husband verbally and mentally abuse your kids… Seems like you care more about how your husband feels than your kids smfh. Theyre gonna end up hating you both one day and you cant blame anyone but yourselves
Sounds over the top. My dad would do that kind of stuff. If I had just one speck of dirt on a glass or dish. I would have to do all dishes over. To tell you the truth, even to day I keep looking at a dish or cup to make sure that they are spotless. It made me a nervous wreck, I was only 9 . Told countless times cant wait till your 18, because you are out of this house. Abuse… Please don’t be so hard on your kids. That stuff stays with a person. Show more joy, and happiness.
I’m all for teaching responsibility to our children, but to have them do the majority of the housework is absolutely insane and then to berate them if it’s not up to yours or your husbands standards??? Girl, you BOTH are abusing them. My almost 10 year old has HELPED with housework since he began to truly walk and we started with age minded “chores” (picking up toys) and now he ENJOYS helping (again HELPING, not doing) with the housework. We don’t berate him if he dont do it “well enough” we encourage him and teach him how to do it a little better. Kudos for paying them but if they are basically going to be your maids you better pay them wages to compensate that. And dont be surprised when your children tell you and your husband exactly where you both can go and then never speak to you again. Question, who’s going to do all the housework when your children are all grown and disowned you???
Its not the chores that are the issue (in a way)
Its the emotional, verbal and mental abuse that is a huge problem and 18 years ago i was your daughter in the same situation and it was so awful - my friends and their parents pitied me - it wasnt a home or a family it was a house full of misery the only time i was happy was at school or my friends or my nans - i dont have the best relationship with my mother and its sad and i dont speak to my dad at all havent for years - incase you wanted to see what the future holds for you and your daughter this is it - as she gets older her tolerance levels get less and less and you think its bad now wait till she is an adult and fully understands the concept of abuse and tells you whats what and to go get f****d - you and your husband need to have a talk and change your ways towards your children and give them a life full of trauma
yur child acting out cause to her someone along the way has told her it is called child abuse,yu should sit down with yur husband and let him now what been doing,but making everything his not up to his standards ,he should pull up his socks and help out to.and explain to them .
If they are being paid to do these chores then they simply need to do them. If they don’t want to do them then they don’t get paid Honestly my kids do chores BUT I do not pay them because their chores are their messes. For example my daughter cleans her room and her bathroom but I don’t have them do things like the kitchen or stuff that is my responsibility as an adult and as their parent. I agree on teaching them to be responsible and know how to clean up after themselves but having the kids do all the work I feel like is abuse. Have them do their own messes and if they want money then they can branch off and do other work to get paid for it. Sometimes people don’t get these kids will eventually have to take orders from a boss somewhere and if they don’t like it now then I feel bad for them later.
Chores are great. Responsibilities are great. Teaching your children how to take care of themselves and a household is great. Verbally abusing them is not. I understand that sometimes kids need to be reprimanded and I’m sure all parents have raised their voice at some time or another but what you are describing sounds like abuse to me. I would never call my children names and yell at them constantly. If I have them do a chore and they consistently fall short then that tells me they aren’t ready to be responsible for that chore OR we work together to get it done right. Parenting is a team effort but for you just to “stay out of it” while your husband yells at them over and over just irks me. If I was your daughter I would be unhappy too. Do they ever get a break? You say yall don’t do any of the cleaning because you work full time but you expect your children, who go to school full time AND have part time jobs, to do it is insane to me. Give them a little slack. Let them be kids. Be proud that your 15 year old already has a job. Praise them for the things they do right.
Um you are abusing them 
yes they should have chores but they should not be raising you and your husband. Stop being lazy and actually be parents to your kids! They are still kids who want to do kids things with 2 drill Sergeants in their face all the time.
Omg that’s slavery hire a maid!! I’d act out too adults should do all the normal cleaning and the kids should clean their mess no need to make your children your maid
I am on fence, I grew up cleaning my room, feeding dogs, feeding horses, getting wood, fixing fence and sweeping and vacuuming and didn’t get paid for it. My grandma cleaned house cooked every meal while running a huge iron business and homeschooling me. My children each have a room they clean and they alternate every week. My kids do not get paid but most of mess is theirs and they need to learn responsibility if they clean right get their chores done they get to go to the pool or their friends or play on their games. Just like a job you work hard you get to play hard. I feel if the parents aren’t doing any cleaning or anything in the house then your kids have too much responsibility I still help deep clean and try to cook when I’m not working late and not having bad symptoms same with my husband. Hi
Some kids shut down when they’re yelled at. Maybe you should take over the discipline when it comes to her and see how she handles things from there. You get a better response when you’re patient and kind. Yelling isn’t always the answer. My uncle was like that and it didn’t work but my aunt was nice.
Sounds like you’re content not making conflict with your husband at the expense of your children… your daughter is TELLING you she feels abused and you’re diminishing her feelings
My thirteen-year-old daughter committed suicide two years ago maybe you should lighten up just a little bit cuz you don’t know what you have Till It’s Gone
Sounds like your husband needs to be in the military and you need a back bone shoe them how it’s supposed to be dont but if yu don’t like how they are doing it do it your self she started working at 15 to get away from you guys not because she wants to work her safe heaven should be home not a job correct the yelling now because it’s going to get worse n wen they grow up nothing is going to be good enough for them speaking from a personal view
They are not born to take care of your household. Chores is one thing but if you or your husband are doing nothing that’s completely unfair. Do as I say and not as I do does not work with children. And him verbally abusing them is not okay either. Don’t be surprised when your children don’t speak to you after 18. Or your sons abuse women…or your daughter finds an abusive man and thinks it’s “normal” cuz that’s how dad was.
I get that kids should do chores and clean up after themselves around the house, but you pointed out that you guys haven’t had to do anything to keep the house clean in years because the kids do it non stop. I think that’s a little extreme. And you pay them, okay, but then he belittles them and yells at them if it’s not perfect? That’s crazy. Y’all should be grateful for the fact that they even clean the house everyday so much y’all don’t have to do shit for it. He should probably lay off them a little bit, or do it himself if he’s not happy with how it’s done. They’re kids! Not slaves
You’re paying what? I also had 4 children…all adults now.
We had a chicken farm, they helped in the chicken houses.
The choice was do it as a chore or job…chore no payment job they got a % of anything over a certain amount. They chose to work on the farm… I believed in giving them choices, choices I could live with…
You need to do some chores also.
Chores should be the whole family’s resonablity.
Not just the kids not, just the adults.
Kids are people too. Don’t expect perfection.
I have grown children. My youngest is about to turn 20.
We also have 2 grandbabies.
We were a military family up until my husband was injured in Iraq.
We were pretty strict.
They had chores.
They were expected to be productive members of the household and in society.
However, we never belittled them. There’s no reason for that.
When you belittle children and make them feel like they aren’t good enough they grow up to be people who aren’t confident in who they are.
We always had a clean house. We were all a team. I cooked dinner, my husband helped me clear the table, and the kids did dishes and took out trash. Every night we did this. I worked full time, my husband was in the military and our kids were fulltime students. We cleaned together.
You can buy your kids all the stuff you want but let me tell you, that doesn’t replace kindness from mom and dad.
Even now, if I’m not feeling well and my husband has had a rough day (he has seizures due to a brain injury) our kids will come and say “here, let us do the dishes, mow the yard, take out trash for you”
We wanted our kids to respect us but in return you must respect them too.
I’m afraid you’re going to have a very strained relationship with your children if something doesn’t give on your end hon.
Our kids grew up to be
a realtor
police officer
and college student
we accomplished this without making them feel like they weren’t good enough. 
Making them feel like they were amazing people who were respected and appreciated made them feel like they COULD go out and conquer the world.
Do it together the kids seem they are doing it all. I would becareful that’s too much on kids self esteem etc. seems both of you are taking your frustration out on your kids.
It’s ok to make your children do some chores around the house, But to get picky about how they do it and verbally attack them with mean words is NOT ok, you should praise them for helping as well it shows and teaches compassion when you show them appreciation for what they have done to help around the house.
Thats a good way for your children to resent you and stop talking to you once they leave the house. And a good way for them to have mental health issues once they do leave the house.
Are they your slaves or your kids … that’s disgusting… how about you and your husband get off your arse and help out too
Is this actually a joke or what? You and your husband chose to have children. Yes I agree they should help out with the chores but for you to put all the responsibilities on your children is ridiculous and then to have ago at them when they don’t live up to your expectations. When they get fed up and move out who is gunna do your housework then? 
Just because you both work doesn’t mean you don’t have to do chores yourself, Personally I think you and your husband are lazy not your children:roll_eyes:
Well, if as a parent, you have a full time job (and even if it’s a part time job) you cannot keep up with house chores, ( I have a part time job, and no one is going to tell me that it is possible, IT ISN’T! At least not have a PERFECT home). How are you expecting for your daughter to keep up with “perfect” house chores, job, and I assume very good grades at school. I say assume, because if you parents are strict with house chores, I can imagine school must be worst. Yes, of course we HAVE to show our kids discipline and cleanliness, chores and responsibility, but damn, this does sound a bit to strict and to much.
My mother was a single parent & she was VERY strict about my chores ( my older brother didn’t have any BTW) I had to have dinner done or almost done by the time she got home from work AND any dishes in the sink had to be done immediately when I got home from school or I was in trouble & she would check them when she came home & if they were wet I was in trouble…I’m 66 now & to this day I do not understand what difference it made when they were done as long as they were done before she got home, oh & I did the dinner dishes…her way allowed be NO play time…I was 12 years old. I take that back my older brother did have A chore, he took the trash out on his way out to play. Mom pretty much wanted me in the house with her so she wouldn’t be alone, this went on pretty much thru my teen years, not all the time but a lot of it. If your kids are doing their chores to your expectations maybe you should have a private talk with your husband & flat out nicely tell him he’s being unreasonable, they’re your kids too…you have a say in how they’re raised & disappointed. They already sound like good kids…lighten up Pops & stop the verbal abuse, it’s totally unacceptable & shame on you Mom for allowing their Father to verbally abuse your children
Doing chores around the home is ok but abusing them like that is not ok.
Your lucky the children dont go to the police and have u both charged
Children are not little servants. Teach them responsibilities but they shouldn’t be doing the majority of the housekeeping and cooking. This is insane. Your husband needs therapy.
I am honestly sad to think that you are raising kids this way. Nice things don’t make up for a traumatized child. And it is abuse.
Yeh you shouldn’t have those kids in your home and I would be very surprised if your not reported or when those kids move out you ever hear from them again. You don’t have kids so you can sit on your but and do nothing
So you treat your children like slaves, allow your husband to verbally abuse them if its not done “up to his standard”, and pay your now working 15 year old $80/month when I’m sure she makes more at her job. Yeah sounds like she’s in the right to be rebellious towards yall. Your children are not slaves, and should not be treated as such!! If it’s not up to yours or his standard than yall need to take over and do it. Shame on both of you!!
I only read about half of this because it didn’t take long to see where the problem is.
By the way you are treating your kids, you are making sure that you will have NO relationship when they are adults. They will run the second they turn 18, If not sooner.
Love and respect should play a bigger role than discipline and responsibility in a family.
If you show enough love now…the less discipline you will have to show you kids later!
Children are only children untill after they graduate & maybe on their own. Show them respect. Teach them by helping them clean their rooms, put dirty clothes in laundry. Do not expect them to do as an adult. Be kind & no nasty remarks. You & your husband clean your house. I was one of 10 children. Had chores & helped. I raised 4 & they helped-- but I did the cleaning.
I get it, they get paid for it & doing chores is good to teach someone to pick up after themself & also for future references it’s good, but I will say, yelling at them & calling names is not a very good way to go about. you’re going to push them away to the point when they can leave they will & never come back. they won’t want you around or in their life after adult. you need to grow a relationship with them. they’re only kids, let them make mistakes so they can learn & be happy with the outcome.
Kids need discipline and chores to teach them responsibility. They also need time to be kids. U have stated u work fulltime and u keep up with laundry and cook SOME meals. They have gotten good enough that u and ur husband don’t do anything. The way u have expressed this it sounds like a concentration camp to me and u had children to do everything around the house for you.
Seems like it’s the parents wanting a clean house without having to clean it themselves… Kids need chores but shredding them for not doing every little thing exactly to your specifications is not picking and cruel. If the older one has a job and isn’t home as often why does that child have to do all those chores when they aren’t the one home making the mess. Stop making them do chores and don’t give an allowance.
So, your 15 years old daughter started working and you guys still expecting her do all those chores?? Sorry lady, that’s your and your husband’s responsibility, kids have to help, that’s for sure, but is not their job do everything in the house just because mommy and daddy are working. You and your husband needs to grow up.
These children with grow up suffer with anxiety, depression, low self esteem and stress. It’s so sad to read… you as parents should praise them for what they do, you may work full time but your children are also students and as the ages range from 10-20, these are young adults with plenty of stress already! They are planning and nervous for their future, covid permitting… and you both are abusing them for missing a spot, the floor hasn’t been cleaned to the king and Queens expectations… I am all for teaching cleanliness, responsibilities etc… but as a team! Not just them on their own… if my husband spoke to our kids like that, I wouldn’t just let him get on with it, I’d kick his ass out!
If you and you husband continue to treat your children like this you might loose them in some way or another. Not that children are not to do chores in the home but you method is plain abuse.The 20 year old one is an adult and shouldn’t even be staying under your roof to suffer such abuse.It is obvious that you and your husband are perfectionists .You both need to change your attitude towards your children because this is slavish mentality.
Just because you and your husband work full time doesn’t mean you and your husband should do more cleaning by yourself. The way you treat your children now will affect whether or not they have anything to do with you when they’re adults!
Sorry the word “you” in lines 1 and 5 should be “your”. Sorry for the error.
Let your kids be kids dammit. Sure let them have chores but it’s not up to them to keep your house clean… they already have lots to stress about at that age.
Clean ya own damn house, those kids didn’t ask to be born you made the choice to have them. Chores are a good idea but they sound more like maids. Let kids be kids!
Your kids are NOT your laborers! They are your kids…they are supposed to have fun, be silly, not take care of YOUR home. If you wanted maids, hire some! Your kids can help fold laundry, do dishes, vacuum, take out the trash.-Again, if you want maids, hire them!
You’re going to lonely parents when all your children are grown an out of the house!
I’m all for the chores especially since I pay them but it still sounds like abuse
Well for one I do most of the chores cause I’m the mom but yes my kids did some chores cause they live there too but if a kid being paid to do chores then that’s different I don’t pay my kids to do chores they live there they make mess they help clean but yelling at kid gets no where sounds like y’all need counseling
Your husband is a POS for calling your children names. My advice? Duct tape his fucking mouth shut and get him off his ass to help out around the house. Also you need to grow a fucking spine and a tick up for your kids.
I’m glad your daughter is standing up for herself.
If you want things done to your standards, do them yourself.
If your kids, are expected to go to school all day, then do chore, and if old enough have a job too. Why are you as parents not part of the home up keep as well.
Do by example and not by demand.
Chores are fine for the hole family, because it’s a family home.
Maybe try working with your kids and not over them.
Very controlling parents, but what has this got to do with nails?
Well you call them lazy so you created what you say they are 
poor kids
They are children NOT slaves. $80/ month for what you expect? 
How willing would YOU be to do that? I have ALWAYS had my children help with basic chores as part of learning how to live together and take care of themselves. Just because you both work doesn’t mean ALL the work should fall onto the children. Kids need to learn responsibility but you are taking it to the extreme. If you aren’t willing to do it why would you expect your kids to be? All you are teaching them is Mom and Dad are LAZY. Why did you even have kids?
You teach them while they are young teenagers dont like chores but when they go out on thier own at least they know how to do things for themselves even the boys great job parents
Since she’s working, I would just have her take care of her own stuff and quit paying her. She’s being responsible by having a job already.
U r abusing your children 10000% u haven’t had to do anything in yrs but work and cook some meals? U treat then like slave maids why doesn’t your husband do it then if he doesn’t like how children clean. What does he do? Does he contribute besides his disgusting mouth. U have kids not maids every kid should have chores yes but they are not your personal house maids how disgusting to think trips and $ make anything better. I don’t blame your 15 yr old for being defiant your reason for not cleaning. Is her reason! She works right so y does she still need to clean up your house still . And don’t they go to school full time ?Honey bye 
It’s not fair to have kids and abuse them in the name of discipline and to show them how to clean there parents ass 
it’s not fair I my self went through this kind of shit cleaning after fkg adults and believe me I was ten years old and my brother and sister would Woop my ass because I wasn’t cleaning after them kids now in days are having bad times as it is for us adults to give them hell
They are kids, nothing is going to be perfect. Do you see yourself defending your husband’s actions when he goes off on your kids? When you constantly tell your kids what they do is not good enough, you effect them negatively. They…wait for it…they act out. Shocking I know. $80 a month is not worth the mental and emotional abuse. If you want perfection, do it yourself. No one will ever clean how you want it except you. Your husband sounds like a jerk and you do not sound like you are looking out for your kids. I don’t sugar coat. If you want to continue to have a strained relationship with your offspring, keep going this route. Your kids ultimately are not the problem.
You talk down to them if it’s not to your standards?! You’re a shit parent. Seems like you had them just to make them clean and yell at them. I have my standards on how clean I like it but I don’t lose my shit if they don’t do the best job. Geez you and your husband should help too! You’re not the only working parents. Don’t act surprised when they grow up to resent you.
Probably should not be having kids just to have maids, get ready for a nursing home if you think a good way of discipline is yelling and calling names, that really is called abuse.
Sounds like a miserable place to live.
You shouldn’t have kids you should just pay a maid