Okay so, she works & you expect her to do chores yet you work & don’t do anything. Someone please take this woman’s kids away & save them from that abusive slave hole.
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My kids had age appropriate jobs at home … each one had a price tag too… if they didn’t do them that was their choice. My son loved earning the money … my girl wasn’t so keen. They both felt they learned a lot through doing stuff and are v capable kids/now adults.
You describe a different scary harsh abusive situation… I feel very sad and sorry for them…
Abuse, pure and simple! The parents work full time, so they have their own private slaves, doing all the chores. Wtf! I don’t care that they get paid an allowance. That doesn’t give the parents free reign to be jerks. I grew up in such a home. Left right after I turned 17!
My kids are 18 20 23…they have great work ethics they handle their responsibilities very well I am blessed that I have very respectful caring children…i still throw sideways comments at my 20 yr old about her leaving her dirty clothes on the bathroom floor…my 23 year old son has never been able to throw his empty water bottles away leaving them lay…i still fuss at my 18 year old for leaving the broom in her room and every time I need it, it’s not where it is supposed to be. We all live in this home we are all gonna take care of it. This is MY house but it will always be their home. I am far from perfect so I do not expect my kids to be perfect although they are pretty perfect to me, messy rooms and all.
They’re your kids not your slaves.
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Wow what horrible parents. Both of you are TOXIC as all get out.
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Basically you had children to become your slaves and when they call you out on it you act like they are the problem. Your children aren’t there to clean your house or to be verbally abused by their father
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Uhm yeah I get instilling life skills in kids but to make them your slaves ? Your husband yells and screams and belittles them And youuu let him YOU ARE BOTH ABUSIVE GET SOME HELP and that 20 yr old of y’alls needs to run far SMDH as for the rest of the kids CPS needs to be involved!! I pray for your children and their mental stability
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Wow this is not parenting I’m all for getting the kids to help out but come on your making them do what you as parents should be doing.
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Lmfao. You thought you could come here for support. You haven’t cleaned your own house in how many fucking years?! What?! It’s one thing to have your kids help you and do their own chores like bedroom and maybe clean floors and do dishes. If they do them wrong. You show them how to do them right and correct them for next time. they’re fucking kids. Goodluck forming strong relationships with them.
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This got worse as it went on. It went from “very firm” to the kids being your maids, to outright verbal and emotional abuse. I get the feeling like you know this is wrong and you know your husband is wrong but you are seeking validation of your and his actions to avoid this harsh reality. Sorry sweetheart. Not many here will see it that way. If it’s not up to standards, pay someone to do it your way that won’t cause lifelong emotional damage to your kids and resentment towards you and your husband.
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My parents did this to me in my teenage years. I was the only one cleaning and running the errands. I was still going to school and had a part time job outside of the house. I was also expected to take care of my sister who was 15 1/2 years younger than me. My sister and I are very close. Guess what kind of relationship I have with my parents now.
He calls them names?! WTF! They are CHILDREN… Doing family trips doesn’t excuse the abuse your doing to them… grrr you should be ashamed moms are the protectors.
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Those kids are going to run as soon as they can and may never come visit.
Hired a maid to clean the home. The kids should be cleaning their bedrooms and whatever else they dirty. But yes it does sound like an abuse. Cherish good times with your children they are gonna leave one day and you gonna miss them so much. You can’t be too strict with a child at any age. They are just kids learning what lifes bring to them. And if your husband doesn’t like how they clean or they dont clean well enough, then he can clean everything himself. You as a Mom shouldn’t aloud your husband to treat them as maids, 80 dollars a weeks is really nothing if they clean every day.
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They only have one childhood it is the job as a parent to protect it. They have the rest of their lives to work like adults.Teaching kids responsibility should be encouraged; but should be taught by example- Your example! I grew up in a similar situation; the neighbors called me Cinderella. Do the washing, cooking, cleaning before homework. I felt more like a maid than the daughter. I left home before I graduated high school. If your daughter is telling you how miserable she is; isn’t it time to listen? I know I would.
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So your children do ALL the cleaning, do the dishes, while you & hubby work. You do laundry & make some meals? “We want our kids to know how to…” ,no you want maids. “we don’t like a messy home” but y’all don’t clean either, easier to watch your children do it, well not do it right for you. Whom you pay $20 bucks a week to clean daily. And when they don’t clean to your hubby’s standards, they are verbally abused, but oh you buy them sh!t, so that’s okay. And it is said like you are somehow NOT raising kids who will be damaged adults, from their upbringing. Y’all are going to have kids, who run & NEVER look back. And you would deserve no better. So I can only assume you’re paying about 80 a week, for maids/kids who also attend school, have to to do homework & have some life. I’d say try hiring a maid pay her 80 a wk, to come every day… NO, because no one would work for that, 7 days a week. And I doubt you’d be verbally abusing her, because that is not what you’d do to another adult, but your kids it’s fine. So when you have grown kids who avoid y’all like the plague who’s gonna be your maids/slaves then? Some people should NOT be allowed to have kids. And the fact that even their mother allows it… disgusting
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Your kids should absolutely have responsibilities, but this is super extreme. You’re setting them up to never speak to you once they escape.
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When they grow up they will remember family time,good or bad…not the clean or dirty dishes…
Good to hear there are still some parents that keep a tight ship. Don’t worry only 3 more years. Plus she will thank you later 
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As someone who’s gone through strict parenting and doing everything in the house whilst working , learning and having a small sister and getting the same verbal use I’m telling you as an advice change the routine whilst you can because you will end up losing your daughter. It’s still better to get a cry for help so you know what needs doing then god forbid finding her dead somewhere after all that pressure. This is so not okay in so many aspect you can have a clean house without making your child being your slave instead moaning about how not perfect it is maybe chip in and help her. Don’t get surprised that when she gets to a legal age first thing she will do its get away from you and never look back.
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Soooo…you and your husband decided to have kids so you would have personal slaves? Keeping all your housework done while also having a full time job in school and then expected to do everything perfect in YOUR eyes and then demeaned and screamed at when they can’t. They ARE still CHILDREN and this is absolute abuse. Kids learn by example and if this is your example of good parenting then I hope your ready for old age because your going to get your example right back!
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Important for them to help but not be doing it all… they r not the maids or hired help and the name calling should not be happening even it if is not that bad. They also shouldnt be expected to be perfect no one is… not even the mother or father…just because the parebts are qorking dull time doesnt mean the kids should be taking care of the house…
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What the hell did I just read… your children are your slaves not your children. Yes children need chores and structure but my god lady. You are abusing these children, it’s not up to them to keep up your house it’s yours. Yes they can help but getting called lazy and making them redo it seriously. You are both in for a big awakening when they are old enough to fight back which your 15 yr old is already doing. You and your husband need a reality check seriously!! Pathetic humans you are!
What do you and your husband do? You don’t have chores to do in your house? I had chores but it wasn’t to keep the whole house clean. And Saturday was chore day. I had a crippled mother and my Bro and I didn’t have it as bad as your kids. And something is wrong with that 20 year old why they are still living with you for 80.dollars a month, instead of finding a full time job and living on their own. I thought I had it bad. Wow y’all don’t need kids you need a maid and butlers. Should be reported. Hope this is a real letter and your shamed on how you treat your Hired help(children). Glad you was not my parents. Oh just so you know my mom did teacher me to cook, but did I also say she was a cripple?
You are allowing your husband to verbally abuse and berate your children. Perhaps because you’re too afraid that he’ll turn that abuse on you. Get help. Children do need to learn responsibility. But what you’re doing it’s not that. My guess is this is the way your husband grew up. So he is just instilling this on his children now. But you need to open your mouth. Be the mama bear. Before all your clubs leave you.!
All I foresee is adult children in therapy and they will all be slobs to rebel against the way they’ve been raised. Maybe your husband needs anger management and therapy to revisit his childhood to improve his now ass like tendencies being channeled on to your children. Nothing wrong with children being assigned chores to be helpful such as taking care of their own space. But this is your and your husbands space as well. How do condone this behavior and not do something besides sit back allow your children be treated this way? Hope they get jobs with good insurance for the needed therapy in their future.
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Discipline is really important, as is educating your kids to be independent, but it sounds like you’re off the mark to me. It sounds like your husband is projecting his control, perfectionism and anger out on the kids, and you’re enabling it. What do you and your husband do with the children for fun and joy? Or is it all about chores and discipline?
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Sounds like you’re treating ya kids as slaves to me
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I can’t believe that you thought it was a good idea to post this on Facebook, like someone would agree with you on it? The kids don’t have parents they have TWO BAD BOSSES !!
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Never wanted to express my opinion so bad but I will get a Facebook ban! You are unreal with how you treat your kids! Of course they need chores etc but what you guys are doing IS abuse and your daughter is right for saying something to you! The fact your husband goes to far and you know it yet don’t defend your kids is so fckd up! No wonder they are kicking back now, don’t be surprised when they move out and never wana come back home!
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You guys want your children to do all your grunt work. It’s insanely hard being a kid these days. There’s so much pressure in school it’s very similar to a full time job and not to mention trying to figure out who you are as a young adult and just trying to fit in. I would hate having parents like you!! You can hire a maid for $80 a week, wtf! And Good for her! I hope she stands firm because no kid should have to go to school and work then come home to the intense pressure of being a professional maid as you’ve described. You sound like a weird ass, abusive, enabling lazy bitch and so does your husband.
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Well at least they’re not out running the streets doing drugs getting pregnant or getting somebody pregnant their father and mother are just trying to teach them to responsible and to graduate and get them jobs I think they’re doing a good job because if my kids father was in their life they would be better kids and they wouldn’t disrespect me and call me names and put me down
So your telling me apart from
Cleaning the clothes you and your husband do nothing? And then if your children forget to wipe the side they have to re do it all again? Wow. Doesn’t matter that you both work full time! Your children go to school full time and now one is working on top of that! Never in my life will I allow my partner to shout, scream and call my son names because the house isn’t done to his standard tell him to get off his arse and do it himself! You have children not slaves
So what exactly are you asking/looking for here?
All I see is, you and husband work full time, your kids have to worry more about cleaning “to your standards” not about school work or what projects they need to do, and if they don’t do it the “right way” they get verbally and emotionally abused.
Your their mom, protect them and let them be kids.
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You and your husband don’t do anything because you both work full time soooooooo your 15 year old works and goes to school so should she not have to do anything
I agree kids should help out around the house but verbally abusing them over chores is extreme
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your kids are living the life I lived; oh i’m sorry i called you a lazy bitch cause you didn’t perfectly align the silverware the drawer; snd you didn’t empty the vacuum so I threw the contents back on the floor snd made you do it again. But here’s 5 dollars and don’t forget we’re going away for the weekend. 
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Someone just delete this post. Fucking crazy!
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You are allowing your husband to verbally abuse the children, if truth be known he verbally abuses you also, it’s just a matter of time till he brings out the whips and your 15 yr old daughter says no more then ups and leaves home. Blessings but this is not good parenting.
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I believe in chores and everyone doing their part but frankly you and your husband sound lazy and your husband is being abusive by the sound of your own words and you allow it and won’t even stand up to your husband. Your are an abused wife by the sound of it. Your family needs some help. Ether be careful you might find child protective services getting involved if your daughter is that unhappy.
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Omg this sounds HORRIBLE !!! If I was one of those kids I would run and never look back !!! This sounds like you have house slaves that are verbally and emotionally abused on an everyday level !!!
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Wwooooooowwww…this is some shit right here!!! Pretty sure my drug addicted mother, who drug me from ghetto to ghetto, treated me better than your letting your husband treat your children. And yes, i said “letting”! Any REAL mother who actually gives a crap about her offspring would NEVER watch her children being verbally, mentally, or physically abused by ANYONE, EVER!!! ILL BE DAMNED I let someone speak to my child like you say your husband speaks to your kids!! Your their MOTHER!!! ACT LIKE IT!!! GO HARD BEHIND YOUR CHILDREN!!! And teaching children about responsibility and earning what you want is great, but that is not at all how to teach your children!!! Belittlement only teaches insecurities that will cripple them as adults!! How do you and your husband think every other adult in the world manages to have a work life and a home life?? What makes y’all think its ok for y’all to put off everything you don’t feel like doing onto the kids bc y’all worked? No!!! They were not born to cater to you or your husband!!! They are valuable members of the family you created, and to be made to feel like anything less is a disgrace on yours and your husbands part!!! Does he treat everyone like that? Or just who he knows he can get away with it??? He would get put in his rightful place anywhere else!!! Shame on you for letting this happen!!! Material things will never compare to the bond between parent and child!!! I’m sorry that your children will never experience the way childhood is supposed to happen!!!
Sounds like a booth camp… kids will be kids and while I understand you want your kids to have responsibilities, chores and values I think you and your husband is being too harsh in them… dad name calling and taking out his frustrations on the kid… not acceptable…be careful they grow up to hate you guys
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Grow a backbone and tell your husband to stop being verbally and emotionally abusive that’s very wrong kids dont deserve that ever!!! At the end of the day they are still your kids idc if you do give them phones, cars, nice vacations, etc that’s what family’s do regardless of how they are carrying out chores. I understand the having them participate in helping with chores preparing them for the outside world but lets be real at the end of the day those chores are the parents responsibility not just the kids. Of course your gonna have to do some upkeep with 6 people in the house regardless of how they do them or if you are both working. Think of if you were in your kids shoes would you honestly be happy, feel comfortable and safe living in your own house in that situation?
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Wow! I’d be saving those $80 up, and leave as soon as I could for my own place! The older they get & you keep treating them like that, then the more they’ll resent you .
Harsh!
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Help me to understand. You work 40 hours a week, cook some meals, and do laundry .A 15 year old girl is going to school (approximately 40 hours a week), Trying to keep up with school work, a job of her own, and chores at home? That CHILD is doing more than her parents. She isn’t lazy, she is abused.
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I tell my boy that ppl of different generations have different expectations of kids. Sit everyone down together and talk about what bothers them most and figure out how to make life easier for everyone.
For example, my boy gets mad when I yell but when I do, it’s only after I have told him more then once to do something so, to make it even, I will tell him “if I have to tell you again, I will not be nice about it”.
You are raising adults so they should be treated like them (to a point)
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Um you wanted kids, y’all chose to have kids. They owe you absolutely nothing. You however owe them absolutely everything.
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I literally went through the same thing with my drill sergeant of a Mother. Her and my Father both worked full-time and owned a business. She left me lists every day and I never received an allowance. Ever. She told me the allowance was me being allowed to live there…we lived well, but I felt like a house slave my entire childhood. I feel sad for your children, because I know exactly what they’re going through.
Choose your battles wisely!!!
If it is something that is going to have no merit in the near future… why make a mountain out of a mole hill?
A house is supposed to be lived in. If it is a constant battle… then get rid of some of the material things in that home to make more room for peace and laughter. It isn’t worth losing your children because they cannot meet unrealistic expectations.
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Good luck having any kind of relationship with your kids once they’re grown and out of your house!
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Why though? You guys work and don’t do anything and just treat your kids as slaves. Why can’t she work and not have to be treated as a slave? She’s not your slave she’s your child. She didn’t choose to be your Nanny just hire a nanny and get over it.
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Having expectations is all good, but this is an unhealthy way of living for everyone. They dont feel any love. You’re trying to buy their love through phones and vacations… which to me, sounds like a way to keep you and your husband happy. I’m glad your 15 year old is stepping up and telling you how she feels - so listen. Or get them in therapy. She wants to be seen and heard!
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My parents were the same and we still have a rocky relationship. It’s basically slavery. Slave wages and all. Hire a maid and let up. Definitely stop the verbal abuse. If this rubs you the wrong way reflect on why the denial is so strong and see therapist. If you guys don’t work on fixing the meds you made now you will br lucky if they continue to have a relationship with you when they leave. Or if they get emancipated.
Discipline & routine are necessary … However !! Name calling is NOT !! Perfection is also NOT necessary !! Sounds as though your husband is verbally abusive & IMO you as their mother should step in & step up to protect them from his constant belittling !! Ease up ! There’s enough shit that kids have to deal with these days being verbally attacked doesn’t help …
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If you and your husband havent cleaned in “years” where the hell does he get off calling them lazy? Sounds like you are the lazy ones thinking you only have to go to work and then your parenting responsibilities are done. Sorry thats not the way it works. My husband use to pull triple shifts and i was a supervisor and still got home and cooked and cleaned. When my kids got old enough they started helping us out, and we showed appreciation for it. Your husband sounds like an abuser and you ma’am are an enabler.
What is this ladies question anyway ?
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I had an overly controlling, perfectionist stepdad. This dad sounds very similar. There is usually more than one way of doing things, and the goal shouldn’t be strict adherence to perfectionist standards. I literally have issues with doing housework bc of the association I have with it and my stepdad’s perfectionist crap. It made me a bit ocd when I do housework and also ended up resulting in the development of avoidance behaviors in relation to housework as an adult. Bc I can’t just pick up a room. Nope, fam has to be cleaned, baseboards wiped down, windows cleaned, etc. (it becomes a whole day ordeal to do a single room). I would suggest talking to dad about relaxing his standards just a bit as the overbearing perfectionism can actually result in causing issues.
Your abusing your kids mentally
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Do you want your kids when fully grown to be in therapy from you and your husband?? Due to high anxiety because things in the house are not “just so”???
You actually let your husband be little and verbally abuse your kids ?? YOU stand by and do sweet f.a???
You think it’s big and clever to run someone into the ground ?? These are not work colleagues (which isn’t exceptable to do either) but this is even worse these are YOUR CHILDREN!!!
we have 8 children age 20, 17, 16, 11, 8,8 2 and newborn. Apart from the newborn they all know how to help around the house, the older ones put washing on/ tidy up/ tidy the kitchen ect. The smaller ones bring washing down put toys away, put dishes away or in the dishwasher. They are never ever shouted at that they haven’t done good enough!!
You are just a pair of bullies!!! And should be deeply ashamed of yourselves. You will become v lonely ppl as your children will have nothing to do with you once old enough…
Ppl that have also commented are right kids should not be in a abusive home so should be with someone who doesn’t treat them so bad!!!
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Sounds like you’re ok with your husband abusing your kids as long as he doesn’t abuse you & that’s why you “stay out of it”. You aren’t raising kids, you have slaves in your home. Shame on you. I hope your kids find someone to show them real love & don’t think this is how love is really supposed to be.
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How about letting your kids be kids. Instead of your maid and servants. Kids should help out but good lord what the hell do y’all do besides demand and Belittle because its not to your standards. Do it yourself!! These are kids who need lives and friends. You two sounds pathetic. Not to mention verbal abuse and nothing they do is good enough. Your husband is a dictator!!
One of those kids needs to report y’all for abuse!! They are kids!! Not your servants or maids!! Good lord run kids run!!
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I have 8 kids all mine father pass away I think your doing a wonderful job I made them clean right too how to help without anything in return because I think if we don’t show are kids at home how are they going to be in this ugly world I wasn’t gonna see them dead and I wasn’t gonna see them in jail because they are my Responsibility and the way my kids are is gonna show the way I am and my are doing fine I have 5 boys 3 girls I love who they married I got grandkids all of them are taken my oldest is 37 and my youngest 20 and in college they all got good jobs
I didn’t call them names I always told them they got to help each other and if you don’t have nothing nice to say don’t say it I compliments because they did a good job so they always tryed to do better and the older ones had to watch and show the younger one to do good as a role model I had some hard times when they were teenagers but I always let there friends come over so they won’t be in the streets I always had more then enough food to feed them and friends thank God But no one’s perfect and we just go day-by-day and we love them and we show them right and long because this world is ugly
Feel sorry for the children here, good luck having a relationship with them
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What a bundle of fun you 2 must be !
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NO! NO! NO! Your Daughter is now working so should be taking a step back from some of the chores & given less money YOU should be doing the extra chores AND stepping in when your Husband is verbally abusing his & your children! Or taking those children as far away as possible from the toxic abusive environment they are living in & leaving your husband to scrub & clean the house to his exacting standards himself! This post has made me feel really sad & uncomfortable
So you’re hoping to get advice on how to handle your 15 yr old acting out? Here’s some advice. STOP treating your children like your slaves! It’s one thing to give your kids chores and teach responsibility but what you’re describing goes far beyond that. Your husband wants perfection huh? Well maybe his lazy butt needs to get up and do the chores. I can guarantee he’s not perfect! How dare you allow him to verbally abuse your children because it’s not “perfect”! Buying them nice things and taking them on a trip here and there will NEVER take the place of love and time spent just being a family. Your kids are going to run and never look back once they’re old enough to get away from the dictatorship established by you and your husband. Ya’ll should be ashamed of yourselves! Sucks to be your poor kids!
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Those kids are doing more than the both of you!! Shame on you both!! In my opinion you treat them like little slaves.
Think the 15 yr old needs to grab her siblings n get out of there… Thats not parenting… Ffs… never read so much bull 
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FOR GOD SAKE…THEY ARE CHILDREN. If your husband wants things done to HIS expectations then HE should do them. Your children do so many chores that YOU NOR YOUR HUSBAND have had to do any upkeep in YEARS??? When do your kids get to be kids??? You allow your husband, their father, to verbally abuse and attack them?? Yes, they should have age appropriate chores but cleaning like a cleaning lady?
Your 15 year old has a job and school, if she’s pulling in good grades and involved in after school activities why are you treating her like hired help. Let your children be children. They didn’t ask to be born into a family where they would be verbally and mentally abused. YOU ARE THE PATENTS…you take your happy asses home and do chores after work along side your children!!! I pity those poor children!!!
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How much physical love are you giving them? Phones, vacations and material items don’t equal love or affection.
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I don’t see anything wrong with dicsipline and teaching them to take care of them selves but name calling isn’t teaching them anything…you all aren’t perfect though and things are said out of anger and frustrations so that is one of the main things I would address and try to catch even though hard to do in the moment…Your kids will be ready for the real world when they get up…nobodys perfect but at least they won’t be lazy and will know what to do on their own… That’s my opinion
Coming from a home that had a father just like that. Ill bw the first to say you can kiss any relationship with your children good bye once they leave home. Im 31 and just a few years ago my dad and i started to work on a healthy relationship. I cringe everytime im asked to do any cleaning around him because its never good enough and eventually thwy will tell u to do it urself. Your allowing your kids to be abused and that is not okay. Grow a pair of titties and stand up for your kids. They are your kids not house slaves.
Just reading this gave me severe anxiety… I CANNOT even fathom what it’s like LIVING there! Hope the kids future health insurance has a good mental health plan attached, cause they are gonna need it!
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Your children are not slaves, hire a maid or get off your lazy ass.
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So, you want them to be the parents cause y’all work full time? They’re still kids. Chores, sure. But not cleaning your entire house.
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This is a joke, right? They’re kids! Yes, responsibility is important but YOU are the adults and y’all need to take some responsibility for your own home and messes. Letting your husband verbally abuse your children when they aren’t “perfect” is atrocious. My son has his own set chores, which really aren’t that many, because we are more concerned that he takes iniative and shows us responsibility by just doing what he sees needs done or jumping in when he sees us doing something. We never have to ask that boy to do work, we never have to tell him to do the dishes. If something gets missed, “hey, you missed a spot, can you go back over it?” He has gained confidence in his ability to complete tasks, he goes to his grandparents and cleans up and never hesitates to jump in and help them with their home projects. He goes to a friend’s house and jumps in when he sees their parents working on the home. Maybe we’re backwards, but that’s more important to us. Now we have a responsible child who doesn’t mind pulling his own weight or helping others out. He’s also a straight A student. Let your kids be kids. Let them enjoy childhood and worry about school and who they’re becoming. If you’re daughter is working AND going to school, leave her alone!! I grew up in a situation very much like what you described. It didn’t didn’t me any favors. It DID give me an example for what not to do as a parent. My heart goes out to your children. Did you think this post would go in your favor?
Talk need to ease up. Your children are coming to you and telling you how they feel which is great, but keep it up just as strict, and they’ll stop coming to you with anything and they’ll learn to be sneaky and lie well. Take this from someone with too strict of parents
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Might want to look up the definition of parenting because what you’re doing is quite the opposite.
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He is the king, she is the queen, the kids are the peasants who serve them. There is so much mental and verbal abuse in this home i cant believe the kids havent cracked yet.
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You pay your kids to do chores:flushed:
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Sounds like a jerk to me.
That’s a lot of emotional/mental abuse. I wouldn’t want to be your kids.
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So you had kids for them to be your slaves? Uh yea I would be mad too. You said you and your husband don’t have to do anything because your kids do it all. That’s bs! Then instead of being appreciative of it you allow your husband to yell and abuse them? Here’s a thought… clean your own damn house and let your kids clean up after themselves only. Smh ridiculous
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Kids should be kids, helping out around the house should be expected but to a normal extent(taking out the trash, cleaning their rooms, doing their own laundry etc.) But belittling a kid for not doing something the way that YOU want it done? If they aren’t doing it the way that YOU want it, then get off your ass and do it yourself! Your children will resent you as they get older, and chances are they may have problems with maintaining their own homes when the time comes because of the abuse they are experiencing now. You must always remember the abuse is not always physical. The most harmful abuse is words that cannot be taken back. No money, vacations, or pets will be able to mend the wound of words.
There’s teaching responsibility and then there’s control freaks, you two fall in the latter. When is there laughter and happiness? When are there other (school, work) activities for them? You’re teaching your kids it’s ok to be treated that way and it’s ok to treat others in an abusive way. That’s all this is… he’s verbally and emotionally abusing the kids, and you’re sitting back letting him. Yes… chores are good. All kids should have chores, but expecting yourselves not to have to do anything??? Come on! Sounds more like you have a house of robot maids. Not kids. If you only have one acting out, I’m surprised. There will be lots of resentment and anger (and many other emotional issues) later. Shame on you both.
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It’s disgusting that you blame your children for “falling short quite often” but don’t hold your husband accountable for his actions.
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You and your husband are ass hole parents who use your kids as slaves. Hope they leave when they are of age. To bad cps don’t see this.
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$20 a week to be a slave to her parents no wonder she is acting out
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Uhmm that’s abuse. They are not your personal housekeepers, things like a home, phones, pets and trips are things you would provide regardless since they are your children and you are responsible for them. I was used as work mule and child care giver from the time I can remember to the time I left at 16.
You and your husband are wrong.
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Also, it isn’t your children that are “falling short”. The ones falling short are you and your husband.
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Wow they are kids they are not going to be perfect, and calling them names wtf?!
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So you and yh husband work don’t like to do the chores cose you work and your 15 year old works and you still want her to do chores hell no clear your own house and for letting your husband call the kids that’s just saying to the girls there husbands can treat them like shit and your sons can treat there wife like shit and all so treat there own kids like that but seems to me yh 15 year old got it right what she said to you so Carnt see her being out like you
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The nane calling is abuse. And if they’re constantly falling short, then naybe you should help them achieve that. Their not your maids, their your kids. I can see them gaving a very distant relationship with you as they get older.
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Typical these posts are always anonymous. Although I wouldn’t want to show my face if I ran/enabled a household like that. Those poor children, there’s so much wrong with this post
This triggered me in so many ways I grew up with this kind of abuse
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Your ocds arent your kids problems. Youre not perfect so u cant exoect them to be. Doing chores is great but perfectly? Really. Read what u wrote. They will grow up resenting u, move out and will have nothing to do with you. 80 is decent but be happy with the fact u barely have to do anything around tge house.vyes u work but you sound like u have servants not children. Having a clean house is great but at what cost?
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Wow this is just sad. This is definitely mental and verbal abuse. Things need to change before your kids start hating you.
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I can’t even…it doesn’t take a brain surgeon to.know something is beyond fook up in your household. Hell watch UK nanny shows Dr Phil. Any show on TV about kids. Your child and the others are in high anxiety. Your household is not loving supporting and happy is a fookin chain gang of chores . It gave me a ptsd just reading your letter.
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Your husband is a asshole and ur a asshole for allowing it. Poor kids. They are gunna be scarred for life.
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