Maybe shes allergic to the detergent and its causing irritations. Try a free and clear!
Boy shorts for girls
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Your the mother she’s the child tantrums need to stop. If you let her get away with them over underwear you are going to have way more serious problems as she gets older put your foot down and be the adult
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Sounds like a sensory processing issue and not behavioral at all. Go easy on her and yourself - neither of you are doing anything wrong. She’s reacting the only way she knows how to get you to see her perspective.
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When I was young and even now. The elastics were very irritating to me. Some materials as well. Take a Mom and daughter trip. Make it fun. Let her try them on to see how they feel. It may not just be tantrum and actually a cry for help. Oh also your laundry detergent could be irritating her delicate skin
I agree it could be a sensory issue. My son would have complete melt downs EVERY morning because he didn’t like the way things felt when getting dressed. It was the most stressful event ever. I completely understand how you feel. It sucks. Talk to your doctor. Luckily, my son grew out of it (for the most part) around 9 or so.
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My daughter does like the tight elastic either I buy her spandex boy shorts or ploiester boy shorts they are a lot more comfortable for her
I wouldn’t force her to be uncomfortable. Maybe try boyshorts or buy designated soft shorts for her to use as underwear. Just because she’s little doesn’t mean her discomfort isn’t valid. I agree it could be a sensory issue.
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Maybe try some boys boxer briefs might be more comfy for her
I used to hate my underwear because it had those seams on it. Try getting seamless underwear maybe ?? (Dk if this was suggested already )
Maybe try boys boxer briefs in a size up from her normal? That way they would be looser on her but feel like the shorts she prefers?
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I’m with many others. Try different types and different materials. If you have a tj max near you try there. They have a great selection at decent prices.
My daughter is almost 7 and we battled a very similar situation for about a year. Definitely a sensory thing. She would obsess over making sure she were always dry. Like, hold a towel for 20 minutes after bath. Always opted for sports shorts with the built in underwear. Very frustrating. I know what you’re dealing with momma! Mostly she just wore the nike sports shorts but finally I found these girls sports underwear at walmart and they have been a lifesaver! The only kind she’ll wear! Until then every pair I bought she’d complain were either too big or too small. Also started applying baby powder after every bath. I dont know if your daughter doesn’t want to wear them for the same reasons that mine didn’t but I thought I’d share what worked for us!
Well, what YOU think feels ok or was ONCE ok, may not be for her. She is telling you something from the outbursts. Think about if you had to wear something you felt were uncomfortable or didn’t like? My daughter has slight sensory issues. I used to think she was being a snot. Then, she would get SOO upset. So, I took my time and learned her needs. It could be something that just started. Listen to her. If she wants to wear jammie shorts under a dress, AT LEAST she is smart enough to put something under it. If she has pants or something else that her privates can’t be seen. Let her not wear any.
Listen to her. The slightest changes can be happening that make it uncomfortable. Good luck. 
They make different cuts for little girls, brief, low cut, boy short… try getting a pack of boy short undies for her and see if it helps.
I hated briefs growing up, the elastic band up that high bothered my tummy so much.
I am a certified preschool teacher, and we learn about the fact that different children/people have their own different sensory needs. Being resistant to underwear could be because she can’t handle the pressure against her bottom. It’s not something to stress about - having her wear the pajama shorts are a great idea, and maybe she could choose a few more pairs - if she chooses them than she is more likely to change so that she can wear them all. Another option to try could be boys boxers and boxer briefs. I personally almost exclusively wear men’s boxers, and if you’re crafty you could see the penis pocket closed. When children have meltdowns that happen consistently with a certain stimulus or situation it’s their form of communicating that they can’t handle that situation/stimuli even if they don’t have all the words to express that. It’s not something that you can push them through
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Oh ffs, pick your battles! You’re WHINING because your daughter doesn’t want to wear something that’s uncomfortable to her?? What a damn drama queen. Buy her some boxer shorts. In the grand scheme of things, this is NOT an emergency and the only one “disrupting” your family is YOU.
She doesn’t like them.
The world still spins on its axis. 
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So buy pajama short bottoms that are slim fit and let her wear them. I would have her checked for any infections to rule them out. Sensory may be part of it. But in the scheme of things…not listening to your daughter when she has been telling you for a YEAR already…you’re going to end up showing her that noone has to listen to her, leading to major issues in relationships down the road. That’s my 2 cents.
Igot my granddaughter some playground pals. They are very soft. She would come in from school and would put them on and wear them like shorts.
If they’re uncomfortable, try boy shorts or short athletic shorts. Also make sure it fits right. Sizing makes underwear very uncomfortable
My sister would only wear ones without elastic in the legs and a wide elastic at the waist not the skinny kind so it wouldn’t bite… My daughter needs them to be baggy … Try boys boxer short type or failing that just grab gym shorts so they aren’t baggy at the leg so no one can see up if she wears a dress or skirts
Did she tell you what she means by “uncomfortable?” Buy her a couple of pairs in different styles, types and fabrics to see which one is the most comfortable for her. Maybe something similar to the pajama short fabric? Seamless ones with cotton crotches are extremely comfortable and breathable in my opinion, much more so than heavy cotton briefs but I’m not a 7-year-old.
Try boys boxers or even hotpants. My boys hate normal undepants.
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You can get boxer type knickers for gIrl’s maybe try some of them
Mine was that way until I bought her some stretchy ones. Like lycra type. She just turned 8 and that’s all she will wear now.
So if she wears a dress or skirt, she should wear shorts under it. But if wearing shorts or pants, leave it alone. Who’s gonna know shes not wearing panties?
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Maybe just buy a bunch of the bicycles shorts
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Just buy her a bunch of shorts?
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My 10 year old doesn’t wear them much. I just buy the athletic shorts with a liner. Maybe try some boy short style under dresses? I dont think its anything to be too concerned about. Pick your battles.
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This might sound silly, but maybe try boys boxer briefs.
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It’s the seam I’m betting
Try boy shorts or like above state bicycle shorts
Just buy her some boyshort undies or spandex shorts. Alot of girls doesnt like undies.
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One of my daughters are like this pediatrician told me to pick my battles she knows when she wears a dress she wears fitted under shorts or boys boxers …
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My 9 year old son refuses to wear any type of underwear. I warned him they will come in handy sometime lol
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My daughter did the same thing. She still wears thin shorts or men’s boxer briefs. No joke, she’s wearing them right now.
My girls are the same way I just use the boy shorts now!
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I realize I am 30, but I wear shorts under my dresses and no underwear… I’d buy her some short shorts for under her dresses and be done with it.
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Maybe find different cuts/styles and see if any are more comfortable? My youngest is 7 and same, she haaates them
Try the boyshorts underwear she will feel like they’re shorts
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Boxer shorts or cycle shorts might be better than knickers x
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Mine doesn’t either.
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Also I’d like to point out you’re the one making her late for school and disrupting the family by forcing her to put on something that makes her uncomfortable…not her.
You want her to give in and do what you want when she’s old enough to tell you she doesnt want to wear something.
Instead of arguing let her go without.
Then she’ll be to school in time.
Unless she’s wearing a dress there’s no reason to make her wear underwear.
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I bought my daughter some boys boxer briefs. She loves them
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Maybe she just needs a different kind of panties, maybe a different fabric.
Buy her boy shorts underwear. I had the same issues. For me the line sewn in the croch area bugged me like a rough tag on a shirt. Once I switched to boy shorts style i was so comfortable and that led to changing my under wear every day because they come in about a weeks worth per pack.
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She may have a senstivity issue going on. She may be more sensitive to certain things that touch her skin i would talk to the doctor about it. She could grow out of it or there could be more going on pyschologyically I would deff talk to her doctor about this.
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My daughter reacts the same way to girl underwear. She is a lot more comfortable wearing boy briefs. I’ve noticed the leg holes in boys undies are a lot more forgiving and less likely to pinch
My 5 year old daughter hates pants she will wear them to school but when she gets home they are off !!! I find getting a size bigger helps as they are loose fitting !! Xx
boys boxer briefs! see if that helps!
Boy shorts or boxers
Maybe go and see if she will pick out whatever kind she wants. Maybe if its the kind she wants then she will wear them. Or Heck someone said boxers and hey that’s better than nothing
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Don’t fight with her, just find out what she prefers to wear and let her wear it
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I myself prefer the
Boy shorts style they’re more comfortable, try those.
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I have a 7 year old girl, gives me the same fight, she only likes soft material, no jeans, no rough seams, nothing tight, i take her shopping and let her feel things before we buy
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I feel like some people are just not comfortable in underwear. Why not get her multiple pairs of shorts to wear under dresses and let her be?
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My 6 year old does the same thing. She refuses to wear underwear and throws a fit that they are uncomfortable and give her wedgies. When she does wear them she’s constantly picking at her butt. It drives me crazy. I have literally laid out underwear for her, she puts them on so I think she’s wearing them and the second I walk away, she quickly takes them off and hides them. It’s not until later in the day that I find out she’s gone commando all day. She thinks it’s funny too. I don’t know what to do to get her to wear them…
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My girls don’t are 5 and 6 they don’t wear undies unless they have a dress or skirt then they wear short leggings. Why make them uncomfortable.
I’d give boy short style underwear a try! They’re pretty comfortable and maybe she’ll compromise and wear those instead of traditional panties
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I’m like this lol. Definitely boy shorts or boxer briefs. Way more comfy.
Why don’t you get her boxers for girls? It’s looks like she wants to wear shorts instead of underwear and that is meeting half way for both of you.
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My son doesnt either! I get tired of arguing with him. I tell him if you wanna free ball then do it…idc!
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Boy short underwear, boys boxers or boxer briefs
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Bicycle shorts, or boyshorts underwear. Underwear are uncomfortable but there are plenty of other options.
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Get her different types of undies and whats wrong with going camando yes I get it she 7 but I find undies to be highly uncomfortable and it doesn’t matter if they are boy shorts granny panties or thongs etc. i just plain can’t stand them. And only tolerate them when I’m on my period. If she likes wearing jammy shorts why can’t she just have a bunch of those either as a substitute they are under other clothing
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I don’t wear underwear. 
as long as she wears shorts under dresses I honestly don’t see what the big deal is. No one knows she’s not wearing underwear. Id buy her more bike short type things so she can change them out regularly like underwear if that’s what she prefers.
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I would absolutely investigate further with a professional in the room.
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Maybe it’s a sensory thing, My nephew is the same way about underwear and Jean’s. Hes 13 now but has been that way since little. I prefer boy shorts. I absolutely hate under wear. It makes me itchy and they bunch and throws off my tempeture and ph down there.
My 8 y/o daughter doesn’t like wearing underwear either so she just doesn’t. I myself don’t either so I’m not going to force her to wear any I think they are uncomfortable no matter what kind I wear! When she gets older and starts having a period then we will cross the bridge of needing to wear underwear. Don’t allow dresses or skirts if she’s not going to wear something under either
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If this has been going on for already a year it’s something the clearly feels strongly about. Instead of fighting with her and saying she’s disrupting the whole family you should be more focused on helping her solve the issue. Let her chose some boxer briefs style underwear?
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See if she does better with boxer briefs
There are many kids with sensory issues and girls underwear is pretty uncomfortable at least it was around my waste and between my thighs 
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Get her bike shorts “leggings that are shorts” or capris and put them under dresses that’s what I do…
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My daughter was same way when she was that age and I bought her boxers literally. And to this day she wears those and she is now 15
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Maybe regular undies are very uncomfortable for her. Maybe you could look into different options. I hate regular briefs and always have wore shorts…
H&m do nice girls boxers
I would try different styles,materials and fits. I would have her go with you so she can feel them. You might even try boys. I’m very picky about my panties and bras bc I will not be uncomfortable all day. If that doesn’t work I would definitely speak with the pediatrician she has a relationship with and maybe they can offer some suggestions. She could have a sensitivity to certain things. My oldest will not wear shirts with buttons,tags or long sleeve. I have to buy the Hanes extreme tagless underwear for him bc others bother him. You also might buy her some yoga style shorts for her panties. Hang in there it will get better. Wal-Mart has some seamless panties that feels like you have nothing on, they are in the women’s but she might could wear an xs.
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I don’t wear underwear and haven’t for 30 yrs. If she’s wearing shorts under dresses not sure what the big problem is. Buy her some boy shorts / boxers if it make you feel better
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I don’t wear underwear at 24, it’s not comfortable 
My 3 year old daughter wear bike shorts off amazon because she doesn’t like wedgies from underwear either.
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Get her the briefs. My daughter hates panties because of the elastic. Try getting her the boy shorts undies
Have you tried spandex for kids? I hate wearing panties. I started buying them from splendies and that material is super soft and comfy. Those are the only ones I wear now. It may just be the material
Buy her some little boy’s boxer shorts
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My 5 year old son rarely wears it. He doesn’t like it and I don’t really care.
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Sounds like sensory sensitivity. I’ve had same issues with my daughter who is now 12, I changed to all different styles and sizes, it was solved temporarily. She now wears panties more than she goes with out, but needs be kinda silky soft material. As she has sensory sensitivity issues
Try flipping them inside out … . I had a problem w socks when I was younger maybe if you flip them inside out she will wear them
Pick your battles… make suggestions… that’s all you can do
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Girls underwear are shaped much smaller than boys, so I can see why she’s uncomfortable. I’d let her pick out his underwear honestly, like briefs. That’s what she’s comfortable with, it won’t last forever. The point is it does the job: covers her private area. I understand the frustration, but you’re doing a great job, momma. It’s okay. 
Is this the hill you want to die on? What are undies except very short shorts. Let her wear what makes her comfortable and pick a battle you can win.
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My daughter absolutely hates underwear I bought her some boy short underwear she wears them faithfully and won’t wear anything else!
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You can get seamless underwear, it has no labels, will she wear cycling shorts maybe? Girls boxers from next are lovely
https://www.next.co.uk/style/ST508687/664419?dp=a&gclid=CjwKCAjw74b7BRA_EiwAF8yHFFtTmjzPJ11Mo4wADrU0sy0xEv9WUCebs_ySJjhP4HMoKzBNbOVlTBoCyqAQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
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Try boy shorts on her. Not only the girl type boy shorts but actual boy shorts.
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Going through this now with my 4-year-old, it feels ridiculous you have to do an underwear check before He leaves 
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Maybe let her try boxer-briefs
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Buy a bigger size maybe
Maybe get her the pants that are like shorts? Or the boxer type ones… sometimes you gotta pick your battles and if she is really not comfortable wearing them I’d listen and maybe take her shopping for some underwear she feels comfortable in
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I don’t like underwear either I barely wear them. My mom used to fight me all the time to wear them and I never would. I also hated getting my hair brushed lmao so we fought daily about undies and hair eventually she just gave up. 28 years old and I stillllllll hate both.
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My 5 year old daughter has a very rotund bottom and thighs in comparison to the rest of her body, and underwear that fits her waist always ends up perma-wedgie: we’ve tried different styles and sizes and brands, but she pretty much just wears leggings or shorts without underwear 99% of the time because they do the same job without the discomfort. Shes sitting right next to me in leggings, no underwear
I buy my daughter’s underwear a size or two bigger otherwise they bother her and she wont wear them. She is also 7
Who cares! Get her some boy shorts, boxer briefs, leggings shorts, whatever and let her be!
I’m 31 and still dont wear underwear. spanks they were called when I was a kid worked though
I’m 24 and prefer to wear my fiancé’s boxers than my own knickers purely as they’re more comfortable. Definitely find an alternative. You got this muma xx