As long as she isn’t wearing a dress who cares? Pick your battles mama!!
Boy shorts underwear. They are so comfortable and even look like the shorts I imagine she’s wanting to wear all the time
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Sensory issues. Try boys boxers and or goijg ul a size or two in underwear. Everything feels incredibly tight to them. I have 3 kidsike this
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Try different under water style. If not try boxer briefs for boys.
Boxers. Been there done that. My 9 yr old (not ODD) wears boys boxers because all the girls undies are pink/girly and stupid. Pick your battles.
My son would go naked if he could. He’s 4.
See if they are small of tight, try a diffrent kind like boyshorts. My daughters absolutely will wear them personally that is trifiling and walking around especially in the heat with no underwear on and everyone can smell your sour vag parts is unacceptable as a female all together. I never really had the issue its kind of lile I make the rules in the house and if not they can have the consequences until they learn to obey the rules. Thos applies to everything. I let them have a little taste in what they dress like very little. 1 is trying to be all emo goth and thats a NO but I let her wear certain things to a certain extent the other is all rainbows and unicorns but still has to be appropriate my son just kinda ehh wears whatever. But for as far as underwear goes she really she wear them and not liking it is not an excuse we all have to get use to stuff.
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I mean as long as the whole area is covered I don’t think it’s an issue and to what it is. You could definitely try to purchase different types. But kiddos that age know what they like/dislike.
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Same. I hated underwear… and I still do. Maybe take her shopping and have her pick them out? Maybe she just needs the boxer type but for women.
But her little boy briefs I understand her being uncomfortable briefs feel so much better sometimes panties give you front wedgies 
We are currently going through this. Glad we are not alone.
I have sensory issues and would freak out the same way over jeans, legit tantrums. My cousin hated underwear almost as much as this kiddo.
Definitely second trying different types of underwear, boxer briefs are very comfy. Also second simply not allowing dresses (even with shorts) without underwear of some kind, thats a rule in our house too. Don’t care what you wear inside so long as the patio blinds are drawn, but if people are seeing you they’re seeing you in clothes.
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Girl’s underwear sucks. My 5yo prefers boy’s briefs. They’re softer and actually cover her butt instead of it hanging out the side.
Boxer briefs =problem solved
Don’t think anyone has told you yet that it may be a sensory issue and to try boy underwears or go commando
Boy shorts they look like shorts but aren’t tight on the thighs
Let her find a type she likes, sometimes its an elastic irritation so boyshorts or thongs maybe better, ik nobody like the idea of it but honestly its all about comfort. I would also explain to her the reason theyre needed like periods, she maybe be young but theres no set age on when theyll come some start at 9
Like is it really that big of a deal that you keep fighting her on it? Like this is petty. Shes expressing she doesnt like the underwear. Find something else. Shorts, boxers, briefs. Whats inappropriate is you making this disrupt your family and life. Give in. As long as it covers her butt and front, its appropriate.
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our 7 yo wouldn’t wear socks. full blown would try to wear sandals in the winter because she didn’t want to wear socks. she eventually got over it like two years later
When my now 14 year old daughter was 5 years old, same thing. Found out it was the elastic bands on the underwear irritating her skin. Bought girls boy short underwear. No complaints after she wore those. Verify Your Identity
I dont wear underwear becuse its uncomfortable too. That seems like a valid choice for her to make over her own body
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try seamless silk underwear!
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Clearly there is an issue with underwear and you should be trying other things possibly and definitely not have arguments go on for a year. I feel bad for this little girl that you are attacking her saying she disrupts the whole family when actually you are disrupting the whole family by not figuring out a solution…
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One of mine was like that. I wish I had known about sensory processing disorders and occupational therapist back then.
Not wearing underwear is not a big deal. Fairly normal actually. Just stick a pair if shorts or leggings on her when she wears a dress. Pick your battles.
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Why does she need to? I don’t and haven’t since I was way younger. No issues. Just let her be her.
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My daughter used to be like this with bras until I brought it up at the doctor’s and she had spoke to my daughter about it. After that I had no problems:person_facepalming:
good luck 
Seems like a choice that she should be able to make… i don’t wear underwear because I too think they are way too uncomfortable, i would never make my child wear something that they feel that strongly against…
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My 7 yo boy prefers no underwear. He likes going commando. At home I am ok with it… But he will try to sneak out of the house to go out places that way. Ive had to start doing an underwear check at the door.
Have you tried boxer shorts? Or girl type knicker shorts?x
It’s a sensory issue. Buy her boys briefs that are short like or buy her little bike shorts so she can wear them all the time under her school dress. These are the issues we need to hear our children on and accommodate.
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Buy a bunch of different types and make her try them all. Even boys boxers if you have too! Good luck
Try microfiber undies… it’s like you’re not wearing anything.
I can see why some moms are really pushing their kids to wear underwear. It’s just the “normal” thing to do. Plus, we don’t want our kids to accidentally give pervs a peep show. No one at that age is thinking “oh my butt might show with this dress. Let me not run so fast today.” When they’re older (adults) they can make that decision. Till then they should cover up if that’s what the parent wants.
Just an idea but what about getting her boys boxers tbh as a grown adult woman they are way more comfortable 
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I had a similar problem with my girl, she used to pretty much strip the 2nd we got home…I found her wearing gym shorts seemed to be more comfortable for her, but took her with me so she could choose what she wanted. I also found boyleg undies she preferred to, less elastic digging into & rubbing on her skin
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I wouldnt worry about it…if her bum is covered then let her decide what she wants! Heck I was tired of pulling out wedgies so I quit wearing them all together! (Maybe she was caught doing this and someone said something about it to her and embarrassed her ) And boy shorts are so low in the back that they seem to fall down under my jeans 
. She will figure out what she likes 
Why does she HAVE to wear them??
Have you tried boxer shorts I know it sounds silly but my daughter went through this fase and now older prefers girls short type knickers than normal knickers x
What’s the problem with letting her wear shorts/biker shorts under her clothes instead?
Yoga shorts—that what I wear for underwear 
easy fix
Boy short style underwear!!! Feels like shorts
Just get her the shorts she likes. Choose your battles.
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Buy her boy legs or u can buy tiny tight shorts that are a little longer instead of undies
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I don’t think it’s a big deal if she doesn’t want to wear underwear but since she is ok with the shorts maybe try the boy shorts underwear.
Its actually healthy to not wear underwear for females. Our parts need to breathe because it’s a self cleaning organ. Let her do her. Buy what she wants to wear.
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Let her wear boxers or boyleg undies? Or even boys briefs. Why make it a big deal if you have options to try before making her super upset about it
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Let her pick out her own underwear and have her fitted for them. Also, you may want to check to see if she is having an allergic reaction to the material in the underwear.
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My almost 9 year old won’t wear it either.
I have major sensory issues with clothing and was the same way. Still am. I don’t even own underwear anymore and only 2 nursing bras because I’m pregnant. Growing up I was allowed to not wear underwear of I didn’t want to but for certain things/events and dresses I was allowed to pick my own soft boy short style undies. I have never been able to stand underwear as long as I can remember. Please consider letting her try different alternatives and let her be part of the choosing process. It really helped me feel understood by my grandma rather than being forced to do what she wanted me to do after so long of battling with it.
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Could it possibly be the material of the panties that she doesn’t like? But maybe the boys’ boxer briefs would work since they’re similar to shorts. And then she would have a whole package to choose from, so she wouldn’t have to sneak her shorts from the hamper. Happy baby and happy mom.
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Get boys boxers? She still has some type of underwear and it can double as shorts under a dress
Play with the different cuts of panties. My daughter prefers something completely opposite of what I do. Not all cuts are comfortable for everyone. I know I struggle with some of them as an adult.
I would try different styles of underwear might be able to find a fit that isn’t to restricting.
Get her boys underwear. I was the same way and still to this day (yes today also) I wear men’s underwear because girls underwear pinch me in all the wrong places constantly.
There is nothing wrong with HER. There is something wrong with YOU. Female underwear IS uncomfortable. Let the child wear whatever underwear makes HER comfortable.
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Undie shorts my daughter loves them
Why does she need them? If she’s wearing a dress give her shorts to go under. I don’t wear them most days. If she’s not comfortable there isn’t really any health reason to force it.
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Shit underwear is annoying. I dont blame her lol
My kid is 8 she only wears certain clothing she is comfortable in . She won’t wear jeans or long sleeved shirts , any material that makes her feel itchy. So ya I understand how frustrated it can be , maybe just let her try boys boxers or something she feels ok with
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As long as her coochie aint showing you’re good
Both my girls fought undies till I had them try boyshort cut…never another struggle till BRAS 
Thankfully they are teens now and willing put on a bra to leave the house, but that bad boy gets pulled through the arm sleeves as they walk up to the door after school 
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Try boxers…and I would chat with her doctor. Maybe she is sensitive to the fabric or elastic…try getting her to explain why they are uncomfortable.
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Let her pick some out. Maybe even try the briefs thy are kind of like shorts
Maybe try boyshort style underwear.
I don’t wear underwear half the time so I can’t blame her
My daughter was the same way at age 10 you couldn’t get her to wear panties. I stoped trying and let her do her thing as long as she wore pants of course. My daughter is now 30 still doesn’t wear them. Nothing wrong with your child.
Wow this is exactly my daughter every part except she doesn’t wear dresses
Have you thought she may be alergy to latex women’s underwear and young girls underwear have elastic latex in the legs and waist and can be be painful if that person is allergic to and lead to a severe rash I had the same problem as a child and my mom got drove crazy 
as an adult I found out I was allergic to latex I have to purchase under wear with no latex now I’ma happy camper
Could be a sensory thing of fabric or cut. Try boy cut or we started buying extra sleep shorts and shed wear those under her pants as underwear
I would refuse to wear boots or dress like a cowboy as a toddler, even at 7 I’d complain about tight fitting clothes
Find her something comfy
IMO to be honest LOTS of adults don’t wear underwear. You’d be surprised! As long as she is covered and her private parts are not exposed why fight it? I’m sure bringing it up so much and it “disrupting the whole family” is very embarrassing to her. It’s her body.
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They make panties called “boy shorts/active wear”. Or maybe try boxers. Nothing wrong with her tho. They can be irritating and uncomfortable. I always felt restricted and got tired of digging them from my crack. I’m 45 and haven’t worn them (unless with dresses) since I was 16. Maybe try spandex shorts under dresses.
Why is this such a big deal. But her a bunch of the little shorts and let it go. As long as she’s covered, what’s the problem. Underwear let people in days gone by wear the same pants several days. That’s not necessary today.
Chose a different style underwear like boy shorts instead of what I assume is bikini. My daughter is only 3 but sometimes steals a pair of her brothers boxers but i let her becauase I know they’re more comfortable, i steal her dads boxers all the time lol.
I gave this fight up. As an adult I hate them so I get it. My daughter hates them as well. Shorts are worn under all dresses for sure tho.
As far as I was aware… back before underwear was invented people went without…
Why fight with something the kid surely doesn’t want to wear?
Its just like telling you that you HAVE to ABSOLUTELY wear something that you don’t want to…
Didn’t our parents tell us to wear shoes outside… and yet when we did, we’d get a bit our of sight of parents and we’d kick them off and run barefoot?
Seriously… if she isn’t walking around completely nude… no big deal.
Now if YOU have people in the family that YOU are not comfortable with having around your daughter… then you need to re-evaluate your issues and priorities…
Frankly, I’m just happy if my girls have their parts covered. I don’t care what it is that’s covering them. Not worth the fight. I imagine it’s already been suggested, but what about some stretchy boys boxer briefs? Or cartwheel shorts?
Walmart sells a tagless dress shorts. Basically jockey shorts for girls. They are sateen feeling and my oldest daughter loved them. We also went through something similar
I agree with your daughter 100%, it is uncomfortable. Did you ask her what about them feels uncomfortable? There are tons of styles & fabrics out there, maybe she would like a different kind.
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Have you tried the “boy shorts” they sell for girls? it’s like underwear with a little leg instead of tight elastic around the legs.
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As much as i hate even thinking about this but could she have an issue relating to her privates?? Have her checked by a doctor.
Buy her a couple of pairs of the shorts she has been wearing as “undies”
Listen to her “they’re not comfortable for her” just because thee majority wears them doesn’t mean she has too…dont try and make her like everyone else…were boring
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Let her try boys boxers or briefs
This too will pass…but my grown brother goes commando
really…ive been through it…my grandson…10…wants to walk around naked late of an evening
My daughter wears underwear that I found at Walmart. I believe they are called under dress underwear. They look like running shorts. I can’t get her to wear anymore else🤷♀️
Boxer briefs are just like shorts bit they’re underwear. She is old enough to know what is uncomfortable so if snes fighting you that bad, it’s probably best to compromise. For your own sanity, more than anything.
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It could be the seams that are irritating. Would she wear them inside out?
Let the poor girl make that choice. I hate underwear too and only wear them while I’m on my period. If she atleast has shorts or jeans covering her vagina and butt she should be fine.
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I always put shorts under my daughters dresses as well as mine. Go find some boy shorts for underwear or let her go pick some out.
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Try boys boxer briefs instead
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I don’t think it’s a big deal, I don’t like wearing underwear. I only wear the if I have to with denim or a dress. If she’s wearing a dress and finds boxers more comfortable so be it. As long as the clothing are clean and she’s at mo risk of being exposed, there are far worse things in life I think!
My daughter used to be same way!she is now 13 and wears boy boxer briefs they are looser on her privates
my kids has to wear undies when they wear shorts. other than that, they hate them too and I give up fighting it. mine are boys though. may be different.
Have you tried letting her wears boys boxers?? Might be more comfortable and an easy fix
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One of my daughters wear bus boxer briefs. She wouldn’t wear underwear at all and one day she tried them on. It’s been about 3 years now. It’s fine with me, I know what kind of underwear I like she knows what she likes.
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Get her “boy short style underwear” they sale them in the girls section
Boxer breifs!!! Get 2 packs, new pair of shorts for each day
Just get her more shorts like the ones she is comfortable with & stop fighting about it.
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