Maybe try a bed wetting alarm? Have seen this work well, especially for heavy sleepers.
- Is she being sexually abused?
- If there is no medical reason and no psychological reason (maybe try a counselor) then have her start wearing diapers.
Try not to let her drink anything past 5:00 or 6:00p.m. depending on when she goes to bed… See if that helps
Check for a dairy allergy. Try eliminating dairy in the meantime and see if that helps.
Has she been checked for diabetes?
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Always make wear underwear, and never try to embarrass them . Can always put a liner over mattress. They eventually will outgrow it🤷🏻♂️
DoNT USE MIRALAX it’s not made for children my niece got severely sick and what not from it
Try to get the doctor to write a script for minirin nasal spray, they only thing that works
I know this may seem like an odd question; however has her thyroid been checked?
Maybe a therapist may be in order. My 6 year old was fully potty trained, and when he was sexually abused he began having accidents and refusing to even acknowledge he’d soiled himself. His therapist says that when exposed to trauma in the genital region its fairly common for little kids to cut that part out of their consciousness, they completely ignore it sometimes. Can’t recognize they need to go, or care that they’ve already gone.
Have you taken her to a pelvic floor physiotherapist?
Something else is going on. Keep your eyes and ears alert!
Pull ups and 2nd or third opinions
Have you tried a bed alarm?
Has something changed?
Has she been tested for diabetes? My ex husband and our son both had frequent bedwetting accidents in the years before diagnosis.
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Use Underjams. It’s more common than you think.
I agree that she needs a psychologist. Sounds like she has some emotional issues.
She will outgrow it. Be patient and compassionate.
Talk to pediatric urologist about biofeedback.
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Pull ups and counseling
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Pls ask her doctor about a medication called desmopressin. It’s a wonder medicine.
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Set an alarm a couple hours after she goes to sleep and walk her to the bathroom and sit her on the toilet.
Speak to a child therapist as soon as possible
Have her checked for diabetes. That’s a sign blood test will tell all. Good luck. I pray I am wrong
You could try a Chiropractor, I heard they work wonders
A Doctor Responds: Don't Potty Train Your Baby | HuffPost Life Here’s one perspective. My stepdaughters and their younger sis were potty trained at a year and their sister developed an inability to control the urinary reflex when it hit, causing her to have accidents and she was your daughters age.
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The doctor can give her pills for her bladder so she doesnt p at night.
My daughter went through the EXACT SAME THING…urologist and everything. I’m telling you, exact scenarios that you have stated. She stopped having accidents at night the summer of being 7. She is now eight and her daytime accidents are WAY better! It is RARELY an issue anymore. Be patient, Mama!!! You can do this! Your daughter and YOU are not doing anything wrong. But I hear you, and I understand your worry!
Sorry spelled it incorrectly eneuresis I think
Something has happened to her
Take her to the chiropractor
Attention? Does she have younger siblings? Does she have a smaller bladder? Can you set an alarm to remind her to use the bathroom? Any chance of sexual abuse?
She may have a sensory processing issue. Find an occupational therapist who specializes in sensory processing
Actually my daughter did this, I know this sounds crazy but please take her to an Ear Nose and Throat Dr. to have her tonsils and adenoids checked. Have them X-ray her while laying down. My daughters airway was cut down to 25% and once they removed her tonsils and adenoids she stopped having accidents. Also until their feet touch the floor a female cannot completely empty her bladder. It is possible that her bladder has thickened and she doesn’t have the sensation until it’s too late. Now the sitting in it idk about maybe try a therapist
She needs probiotics, not laxative.
Raisins sounds crazy but they just might do the trick
My granddaughter did that and we now find out she has food allergies. It was causing her to have accidents both ways. Not her fault. Sh is doing much better
I have no idea how to fix it but punishing her and making her feel less than worthy isn’t the way imho… that’s terrible, she is still a child!
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My sister knows a young teen. She still has to wear incontinent pads at night. Dr. Says her problems are linked to dental problems. I couldn’t tell you how but maybe you can check it out.
UTI’s are not common in children. I truly hope she’s not being molested.
Could be constipation
Nothing to drunk 2hra before bed. We use bed pads to go under the sheets. My 8yr old is dev delayed with low core strength. He still has accidents
Have you tried a physiologist? What your describing almost sounds spiteful to a point. What about diapers and pull-ups and have her wear them all the time, not just to bed.
Have you tried a fiber supplement. Worked for my girl.
Just go with pull ups…
Have you had her tested to see if it’s a mental thing?
Get her absorbent underwear
I’ve heard if your being sexualy abused thats when you pee on everything
Tell her not to use the toilets in her dreams it’s a setup.
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Some kids bladder don’t develop fully until their a little older. That’s one of the reasons what cause accidents. My husband aunt still has them and that’s what the doctor told her.
My 12 yr old still wets the bed. Doctors have ran test and can’t find anything wrong with her. We’ve tried cutting off liquids and alarms, we’ve tried waking her up several times a night. Nothing has worked. The doctors have told me she will out grow it.
Just to throw this out there, and not saying it is, but wetting herself is just one sign of abuse. Not saying anything is happening just throwing it out there in case.
Try every 30 minutes also to have her go.
My oldest was in night times until he was I believe 10. We didn’t wake him up at night, that wasn’t working. We stopped putting pressure on him and he outgrew it and didn’t need the night times. It’s really common for kids to wet the bed until 12. And like others said, maybe seek out a therapist, some of what you described sounds off.
My 15yr old had UTI’s when she was little. They found the the uthers were crossed inside her body and was causing back wash. The did a VCUG to find out and repeated 6 months later. At age 3 she had surgery on her bladder. No more accidents or UTI’s
Have her checked thoroughly for Diabetes and bladder complications. Punishments will not work if it’s a physical issue. I battled UTI 's after my first born and lost the sensation of a full bladder until I was dribbling on myself. Also with her being 7 stop baths and swap to showers, UTI’s can be caused by sitting in soapy water in young children. Similar to the wrong soap can cause yeast infections. Probiotics can help as well.
Have the dr talked about a prescription for Desmopressin? This has helped a lot of children in the same situation.
My oldest daughter had same issues but she had kidney reflux
Try this for the uti. So many positive reviews comes in powder too.
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Okay so I experienced her exact problem when I was younger. And went to urologist after urologist, doctor after doctor and nothing with reoccurring utis. Get her a watch that goes off every hour to remind her during the day to use the bathroom. Stop ALL fluids 1hr to 2hrs before bed. And TONS of cranberry juice and cranberry extract pills. Do not over due the antibiotics it can eventually lead to severe allergy. And trust me she is more than embarrassed punishing her isn’t going to fix the problem it’ll just make her try and hide it.
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My son use to do it and they found out he had reflux after an operation he was fine.But it is not uncommon in child abuse cases maybe there is a problem at school.
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You may need to talk to her. Daily bed wetting may be a sign of emotional trauma most specially is she’s already potty trained like you say so. If this happens daily, perhaps you both need a good heart to heart talk. There may be underlying issues that you need to know in order to really help her. Best of luck and I wish it’s nothing serious.
I had the same problem with mine. She didn’t stop till she was almost ten. I was told she would grow out of it. Some children’s bladders are smaller and until the bladder gets bigger there’s not much you can do. I do know that the pediatrician told us that if she hadn’t stopped by twelve there is a nasal spray they can give that helps. But not till then because that is when the bladder matures
You can try a therapist to see if there’s an underlying issue. Sometimes kids internalize some things that seem insanely insignificant and let them manifest into deep seeded issues which could be causing her to do it. She could feel for example that she’s not getting enough attention because ONE TIME you took a sibling to do something she didn’t get to do🤷🏻♀️ kids are weird. They’re also prone to accidents if they’ve experienced any trauma like a house fire or divorce or death of a relative. Therapy can help lots and lots of things. Even if she’s experienced nothing and there’s absolutely no reason for it. I would check into cognitive behavioral therapy if you’ve exhausted all other physical possibilities.
My daughter is 11 still wets bed nightly, our specialist states to us this could occur until age 13-14 yrs
We’ve tried medication and alarms with no success. She wears a pullup every night and still occasionally leaks through. We do not make a big fuss about it because shes already anxious enough about it. But I have taught her to wash her bedding and she cleans herself up in mornings. I suggest talking to a pediatric urologist
My oldest daughter did this for a while. She eventually phased out of it.
Is she still bed wetting or just having accidents?
My daughter is 10 and she was still having bed settings and accidents at 8. She was fecal impacted which put pressure on her bladder. But even after that she still had accidents, just not as many. Her doctor put her own medicine to help control her bladder at night-she only took it for about 2 weeks and then we did every other day for a week then stopped completely and it stopped the bed wetting.
To avoid accidents during the day, I had her go as soon as she woke up, as soon as she got home from school and right before bed. Also after she ate, I would have her go within 10-15 min. It was kind of like training her to recognize when she had to go and it helped a lot. Her doctor did tell me the same thing too-it’s okay for them to have accidents at that age.
Hope that helps!!
You ought to be ashamed! You don’t know what’s wrong and lowering her self esteem is the worst! I read a book from counselors who said that children that are abused by molestation or sexual abuse do that, and revert to even acting like a baby! Even verbal abuse is not the answer! With Uti’s as part of the culprits, she should never have been shamed! Extra love and using pull-ups if necessary! How can she open up if you shame her! There is something wrong, compassion, understanding, patience would get to the bottom of the problem!
I once was shamed but not for that reason, and my mother was the one who did it! I never forgot it, and I was 4- 5 years old! If you need to know, it was my baby brothers bottle! I picked it up out of the floor in the bedroom and I drank from it! I was taken in the living room and made to lie down in the floor in front of aunts and uncles, who were laughing at me! I was only a small child, who saw my brother drinking and I drank too! Nothing to be shamed for! Had my mother put her arms around and told me in a gentle way that being a big sister, I didn’t need to drink from the bottle! Would have been a better scenario! I lost confidence in myself and until God healed me from the guilt and shame, I would still be blaming myself! I know personally of others who were abused sexually by molestation or otherwise and the devastation is apparent in the child’s and now grown adult self esteem and messed up in life!
Have a niece …she was 9ish when she finally started waking up dry…could be she is a hard sleeper, holding to long, small bladder, not completely vacating her bladder, mother gave her cranberry juice/cocktail and made frozen pops to help with uti’s, because she made be holding to long causing bacteria to build up and dr suggested to put her back into pull-ups…and shaming won’t work…just causes stress and more issues… these are suggestions that worked for my niece…
I wet the bed until 10. My bladder simply didn’t grow along with the rest of my body. It eventually went away. My advice is to set timers, buy her some good nights for long trips, and don’t make her feel bad about it!! She’s not doing it on purpose trust me
My 12 year old does. I’m taking him to a urologist next week to make see if his ureter is narrow. If so he’ll have to have surgery to widen it or it can cause kidney problems.
My son had a hernia that could not be seen. It was putting pressure on his bladder. He was 7 when they found it. I wanted to pull my hair out was very frustrating. But there def was a prob. Go to different doctors if you have to. I took him to a children’s hospital and they found it. He never from the day after the surgery p d again in his pants. I feel for you
I found this article for you
Try eric.org a very helpful website to help with Childrens toileting issues.
I am going through some issues with my 7 year old boy x
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Lots of good advice here good luck
First, the uti issue… Don’t let her use bubble bath. She’s old enough to shower. Make sure she rinses and dries really well. Make sure she’s wiping well when she goes to the toilet. I still supervise my 7 yo shower so I know she’s taking care of her body properly. She got a uti a couple times as a toddler and it was the bubble bath we used. Don’t make a big deal about bed wetting. Just buy her overnight pull-ups. We have a boy that’s almost 10 and still uses them. It happens. As for daytime accidents. Don’t make a big deal about it. Yes it’s frustrating. Just clean her up and move on. If that doesn’t work maybe seek counseling for her since the doctors have ruled out medical conditions. She may be doing it for attention. Kids do that shit. Don’t make it a big deal. If she’s not getting the attention from it she’ll likely stop.
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Have you tested her for type 1 diabetes? Just a finger stick? Make sure that is one of the signs bed wetting…my son had the same problem 
and was misdiagnosed 3 times at er. Just a thought. Stay safe 
Does she wear pull ups? That can help with the furniture issue. And I’d take her to a chiropractor. They could help tremendously.
Try jelly to keep her hydrated. Water infections happen as the bad stuff is being flushed through. But jelly is a really good why of getting fluids in without making it obvious.
I had a bad bladder when I was little, I had to wear a pull up to bed until I was almost a teenager. Unfortunately you can only do so much some of it is up to her. Don’t let her sit on the furniture anymore, make a spot for her on the floor since she seems to pee on the furniture. It’s not fair to anyone else who doesn’t pee themselves to have to sit in or on her pee. Or just take away all underwear and keep her in pull ups until she is ready to stop. She’s old enough to change them herself when she’s wet, just remind her and don’t bring attention to it. Just kinda think of it as “ok this is what we’re doing right now” and just breathe. You can’t control her bladder so please don’t beat yourself up over it.
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Make sure she is not getting bubble baths. When my girls were little that was the first thing my dr. said “no bubble baths”.
Hi mama. My son wet the bed until he was 13. Sometimes their bodies just don’t mature like they do. We saw a huge improvement when asking our doctor for nighttime medicine.
In addition to this, we got him counseling to rule out any trauma or phobias we weren’t aware of. Turns out, he was desperately afraid of the dark in combination with his bladder not being developed yet.
We developed a rule, if you wet the bed, immediately strip it down and put it in a designated basket. We had a spare set of sheets and PJs for him to have when this happened in the middle of the night.
My kid had this issue and it turns out she has a shorter urethra than other girls and like her dad she doesn’t sweat really because she doesn’t have many active sweat glands so when they get too hot while sleeping, they’ll wet the bed; so we have to kinda stay on her about swim suits soon as she gets out of the water, no long baths, careful with soaps and what fabric her underwear too. I still sometimes wake her up at 13yrs old in the middle of the night if I know she’s had a lot to drink and if she does have an accident. I stopped saying anything to anyone but my wife years ago. I just wash the stuff and go on. If it happens too many times my wife just makes a dr appt to see if she a UTI again.
I wouldn’t shame or punish her it could be a psychological my relative wet the bed and the more she was punished the worse it be became she seemed to just stop at around 11.
My daughter is 8 and still sets the bed doctor thinks it is brought on by stress at school as she is really struggling and is a really heavy
Sleeper
There may be something “too relaxed” with her muscle that can not hold tightly enough the release at end of the bladder, thus causing the leakage. I suggest a specialist for children and get advice for exercise to strengthen the muscles in that area. And, there is no shame in buying an appropriate feminine pantie for her to absorb the leak until she masters this.
My daughter has the exact same issues she is 10. She doesn’t fully wet during the day but holds on and let’s enough pass that I can smell her. It drives me to my wits in as all I want her to do is change if she needs to to stay clean. I am super clean and constantly ask her to shower when she gets home and constantly reminding her about hygiene but nothing seems to work. She has also seen a paediatrician, nothing wrong besides holding on and not urinating frequently enough during the day to strengthen bladder. She has no accidents what so ever at night only during the day and it is so frustrating and causes a great deal of frustration between her and I - I completely understand your pain.
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I had a family member with this issue at age 6 and was still happening at age 10! The mother took her to a chiropractor and it was a pinched nerve she got adjusted and the accidents stoped immediately!
Outsider looking in, I would think this is not a punish v. reward situation. I would start with the physical concerns - perhaps a second opinion, because it sounds like it isn’t something she can control. I would also see what vitamins are out there to help - I too have recurring UTI’s and take D-Manoose, AZO cranberry pills and probiotic yogurt daily. If you sneak the Miralax into the yogurt, even better!
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So my daughter will be 9 on February 8th and she has had more accidents then I can even begin to remember. She has never been fully potty trained, UTIs don’t run in my family but she gets at least 3-5 a year, which is too much for any child. She is right now on antibiotics because she has one and also just got over one in Oct/Nov. She is great during the day if she doesn’t have a UTI coming on, she does had leakage though and that will begin to smell. She has to wear overnight pull-ups every night and they are always soaked. Right now we are working with UCSF and have her on a every other day anemia but that isn’t helping the bed wetting and she got an UTI during the middle of doing them. Her UTIs come back ecoli almost every time so it has to be within her body because she wipes correctly or I wipe her as she doesn’t poop enough. I’m with you at my wits end and don’t know what to do the only good thing is not one of her doctors says “she will grow out of it” they all agree something is wrong. She has a follow up app on Jan 4th so we can rule out the next thing. Feel free to PM me if you would like I DO know what your going through.
Stop!!! Stop all pressure. Her brain needs to mature so it will wake her up… She has no control over her brains development. My daughter was in pull ups at night until she turned 9 and then pooof no accidents. It tends to be hereditary also. My husband was the same way, had accidents until he was 9. Don’t listen to all the crap folks are saying just let her be. Don’t pressure her, allow pull ups at night if she wants and it will resolve itself.
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My 10 year old still has accidents regularly. We’ve been told it’s normal so I buy her good nights so she can feel more comfortable with her issue and not be so embarrassed with it. Also then I don’t have pee on everything.
Give her cranberry supplements daily. My mother kept getting UTI’s and no medication helped for long. Now she takes the cranberry and she isn’t having any reoccurrence of the uti. I would see a child psychologist for the rest. I wetted the bed until I was around six then it just stopped happening. I also had problems with bowel movements so try adding a stool softener. School if they ever get back could be a turning point for her.
You are not a failure mom.
I suggest a complete bloodwork panel. Why is she taking miralax?
Enueresis is a psychological condition when it can not be explained by a medical cause however the UTI’s indicate that a medical condition exists.
I would recommend psychological testing and therapy. The testing to determine why she regressed (this could indicate a developmental disorder) and the therapy, preferrably play therapy and family therapy, to help everyone in the family and your daughter deal with this.
Have you taught her how to do her keegal exercises to make sure it isn’t weak sphincter muscles?
Is she playing games or doing something else she doesn’t want to stop doing when she pees during the day?
Honestly. I would put her in pull ups and stop punishing her for wetting.
A lot of children regress and when she is ready she will stop. My 8 year old wets once in a while with stress. Be patient mama she will stop when she is ready and for now put her back in pull ups and explain to her that until she stops wetting herself she will be in them
Are you sure nothing else is going on? Maybe try a child psychiatrist. I am just pulling from an experience I witnessed from the outside and there was something else going on with the child. Best of luck! 