Just wow…run! Leave him immediately!
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The fact that she’s his “best friend” and you barely know her is troubling. Someone that close, you should be way more familiar. If it was a guy best friend, you’d know him well. So there shouldn’t be a difference. People will lie and he’s lying to you. And you are trying to not trip on him and are giving him the benefit of the doubt and allowing him to be out with a girl “best friend” and all he’s doing is taking advantage of you.
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You are right I would dump him
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If you allow yourself to make a post about your unfortunate situation and don’t take the advice to leave this man ASAP , what is you doooooiiin??! 
Have his stuff nicely packed and put aside or have a friend or family member pick it up. Don’t allow him to take your peace any longer 
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See, I’m completely on the opposite end of the spectrum…bc my best friend (M) and I have gone on a business trip (him getting his truck for OTR and me taking his personal vehicle back home) that ended up having to be an overnight stay…there’s no reason not to trust us because we are purely platonic, we have never held hands, kissed, nothing, even when getting shit faced together. It depends on trust between you and your partner and trust between you and your partners friend. If you don’t have that trust on both end then I’d say no, but if you do and you know for a fact their relationship is purely platonic then I’d let it go
this is not something a person does when they are in a committed relationship / dump this guy , it will only get worse
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Nah, that don’t work…
You’re right for being pissed. I won’t elaborate, but that was not cool at all. Neither of them should’ve felt that was okay.
He has two girlfriends and you are one of the two. It’s that simple. You and she are compliant in this. She isn’t just his friend or you would know her well by now.
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What boyfriend goes on a trip without his girlfriend? I could see if it was a guy but a “girl” friend? Nope! I don’t feel like that is okay. Definitely shady for sure.
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My daughter has a male best friend, they have been friends for years and his family vacations a lot and he has a girlfriend but he always takes my daughter with him wherever they go!! My daughter swears they have never been in a relationship together they have always just been friends!! 
I think it will really hurt her if she ever has to lose him because of a jealous girlfriend!
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You should be his Best friend
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Dump. It’s clear there’s something going on, especially since you don’t know his “best friend” very well. They’ve probably been fwb for a while
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Well, I have been married for over 22 years. My husband doesn’t line concerts, and u love them. I have a male friend that I go to them with. We always give Each other a hug, and that’s it. There’s no cheating, no feelings etc. Depends how well you know your man. If you feel it’s not just a friendship, then it most likely isn’t
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He’ll no not happening I’d be gone
Going on a trip is tooooo much
No way Show him the highway.
Even just the fact they took a trip together. Without you. That’s sketchy af to me and you deserve better!
So many questions. Did he just not invite you? Where are his male friends? I would seriously reevaluate your relationship with him if you’re not a priority and she is. I don’t care male or female if my man holds someone higher than me , don’t care if he’s known that person longer than me and he chooses to do stuff like this makes me rethink our entire relationship. My stbx completely left out that he wasn’t just friends with his ex gf, most of our relationship he lived with her before he came to live with me. I didn’t find out until I had 2 babies ans pregnant with my 3rd about this relationship because he always deleted his phone. Well he got sloppy and didn’t delete for a week and I was curious why he was leaving for work sometimes 2 hours early. It was to talk to HER. And when I confronted him he said it was none of my business and he knew he longer than me. Nope. Don’t care. She knew about me this whole time so when he offered for us to meet I said NO because this batch knew about me knew she was a secret from me and chose that path ans will never be a friend of mine. She is and always will be enemy. But depends on your situation. Lay it out clear. Least she’s not a secret.
You either trust him or there is no relationship. Make a choice.
To each their OWN… But that’s a BIG 
…I am the ONLY female Best Friend my hubby needs:bangbang:
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No don’t trust neither one. Take care of yourself and get another boyfriend that wants to be with YOU.
This is REALLY messed up!!
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On a trip together oh no !
Your boyfriend or hers? Shit let her have his ass if he is already doing this
Trust until he’s proven different
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If you don’t trust him you shouldn’t be with him at all. Lack of trust is a relationship killer. Just because his BF is a girl does not mean there’s hanky panky going on. If there was something intimate between them before you why would he even get involved with another woman…not to say it doesn’t happen because we all know it does. Only you can answer your trust questions. No one on here can direct you without knowing everyone involved but if you don’t trust him, you’re relationship is doomed anyway you look at it unless you want to be the I spy 
type with sneaky peeping and hiding and always worrying…oh hell no…no one is worth all that. 
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I think if your gut is telling you something is wrong, then something is probably wrong. That being said, it’s absolutely possible for a male and female to have a completely platonic relationship. When I met my husband, I worked out of town every weekend in the same town that my male best friend lived. It was completely common that I spent the night at my friends house Friday and Saturday night. We also worked at the same job and would hang out on our break between shifts (we pulled double shifts Friday/Saturday and sometimes Sunday too. My friend was an attractive man but I wasn’t attract to him that way. I was never unfaithful to my husband (we were just dating at the time) and I was never tempted to be unfaithful. I slept in a different bed and after my Sunday morning shift I would drive home. I would also sometimes go “clubbing” on the weekends with my friend and not my hubby because it just wasn’t his scene. My friend would basically be bodyguard and not let any other dudes hit on or dance with me. I’d dance with the girls and have fun. I never went on a vacation with just him
and even in knowing what our relationship was, I would think that is crossing a line. I am so grateful my husband trusted me and I had that time with my friend because he has since passed away, but I’m sure it took a lot of trust on his part. Once we were married I did set more boundaries and no longer stayed at his house but my husband never asked me to do that. He was my brother from another mother and I loved him dearly. It’s possible that the same is happening with your bf. I should add that my friend had a gf too and at first she was skeptical of me (ppl at work came up with some wild rumors because they couldn’t believe we were just friends) but I got to know her and the drama was laid to rest quickly. My hubby didn’t know my friend very well but they respected each other. He was even one of my hubs best men at our wedding 
in these kind of posts, we get a tiny snippet of your life. Not enough to give you sound advice. My advice is talk with him. And her! Become friends with her! Let him know that the lack of communication makes you extremely uncomfortable and out of respect for your relationship, boundaries need to be set. Let him know how big a difference it would make it the three of you hung out often so you can get to know her and decide how you feel. And at the end of the day, TRUST your gut. Woman’s intuition is real and rarely leads us in the wrong direction. If having better communication and respecting your boundaries isn’t something he is willing to do for you, then I’m sorry to say he doesn’t see a long term future with you. Therefore, move on and wait for the man who will put you first. By the way, men know early on if they are gonna be interested in long term or short term
Relationship. Women are typically the ones who need convincing. I’m sure there are exceptions but I’ve been friends with many men and it rang true with all
of them.
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Uh my ex had a so called girl best friend 
. I actually believe it 
come to find out when he was supposed to be at work he would rent her motel room and said sex was just her payment for the room. We was together two years. Your not going see them act like it in front of you. Trust your gut. Do you get to read any messages between them? If so and he is very open about his phone, computer, etc… I doubt anything going on, if he hides things something is up
Not a hope in hell if you don’t know her that well. Has he even introduced you to her ??
Screams red flags to me
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I think the girl should become friends with u also so u can do things together and what kind of trip to where and how long? Are they sleeping in the same room? LIke we need more info here
Drop him…dont be a jerk!!
Respect goes both ways and if you’re making an effort to respect their friendship they both need to respect the relationship as well. Him not answering your calls is really disrespectful.
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No, you’re not wrong.
Your intuition is kicking in & your feelings are very valid. 
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I would that they are more than friends why were not invited
It’s one thing to have a best friend that’s the opposite gender. That’s fine.
But to go on a trip alone? I wouldn’t be okay with that lol.
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Tell him. Youf going on z trip with your friend who is male and see his reaction if he gets upset leave him
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Are you sure you’re his gf and not the side chick?
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I think you should talk to him about it. The thing is I can see where you’re coming from but also, he doesn’t want to be on his phone the entire time. Would you feel this way if it were a male friend? If the answer is no then you’ve got some trust issues to work through and need to talk to him. I’ve got a few male best friends, who have been my friends for over a decade, I could go somewhere with them and nothing would happen and has ever happened. It’s about you feeling confident about it though
I think you need to go on a trip with your best. Friend 
find someone on tinder baby 
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That’s strange and he didn’t want you to come you might want to find you another boyfriend
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Umm yea that wouldn’t have happened to begin with… that’s inappropriate and definitely crossing major boundries
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What did I just read?
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To everyone saying he would be with her if he wanted to be! He is lol I had a male friend who wanted to be with me but I didn’t want that sort of commitment so he moved on but when I was finally ready we got together. The fact she doesn’t know the friend well is a huge red flag but personally If I felt off about something I would tell him and if they don’t care I would move on and this would go for any situation
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While your feelings are natural in this situation I feel you are a little bit xx maybe get to know his friend, strike your own friendship with her and maybe explain how you feel to her, as a female shell understand better than your partner, as you said you don’t know her very well and she was his mate before and he could just be enjoying his trip which could explain the slow responses. Was there a reason you didn’t go? X
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He went on a trip with another girl?
“Best friend” 
That’s pretty odd… I have male friends but I don’t go on random vacations with them…
Why weren’t you invited? Have you ever met the girl before?
If he doesn’t seem to care then it’s clear… she definitely isn’t just a “friend” to him…
You don’t just leave town and go on a trip with someone and avoid your partner. Read the flags.
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Once you became exclusive, you should be his best female friend. I’m not saying he can’t have female friends but his lack of response speaks volumes.
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i think that if u can talk to this girl and get honest resopnse from here - it could be nothing at all - it could be that your boy friend needs someone to vent too ! but just try and make friends with this girl and ask her to be honest with u ! i would want to know to if this was happening to me too! once u have talked to this girl i would wait a few days , thats when i would talk to the boy friend -honey there maybe nothing at all - but honestly who really knows right! give him the bennifit of a doubt
My husband and I have opposite sex bffs I have never crossed any boundaries
You either trust him or you don’t… it’s perfectly OK if you don’t but it’s truly one or the other
I would never make my hubby chose between me and a best friend. I know my husband is loyal and if he isn’t responding for a long period of time I have enough trust in our relationship that we’ve built over the years to know that he’s probably busy having fun. He went on a trip. Most trips or for getting away staying off social media ect. If you’re that worried about his girl best friend ask to meet her! There’s no harm in trying to become friends with someone that he is good friends with. It helps build more trust as well!
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There is no way in hell I would let my man go on a weekend getaway or vacation with his best girl friend. He should have enough respect for you in yalls relationship to see that this isn’t okay. How would he feel if you went and stayed somewhere with your best guy friend? And if she was a decent woman she should know this is not okay.
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There’s a lot of information missing here, did they say you couldn’t go? Did you ask if you could tag along? I mean he’s on vacation he’s not going to be on his phone 24/7 or on his phone as much as he normally is. I feel like there’s so much information missing here
Leave him…red flag that’s super disrespectful
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Does she have a boyfriend I’d mention my suspicions to him and see if he’s noticed her acting out of the ordinary. If they have been friends for years before you were around they could have dated then if they wanted, why would either want to do some sketchy shit now that he is in a relationship with someone else?
Listen to ur gut
U akready know what’s going on
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tell him to get lost. you deserve better
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Don’t trust him you should of been welcomed to go as well
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They’re probably 
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I would not trust him if he is taking to long to answer you back
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Regardless of if it’s “right or wrong”, the fact is that it’s upsetting you and making you anxious and uncomfortable. If he isn’t sensitive to that and doing everything he can to make you feel more comfortable with it, that itself is a big , in my opinion. They might not be doing anything shady, and he might believe you’re overreacting because of that. But that doesn’t change how you feel right now. My opinion is that he needs to not take trips with her until you can get to know her better, for your own peace of mind. That is not an unreasonable thing to ask, imo. I myself only have male friends because I can’t get along with women 
, and my husband is fine with it, so this shouldn’t be an argument about how people shouldn’t have opposite-sex friends, because that in itself is not immoral at all. My biggest issue is his disregard for your feelings and concerns. If that part doesn’t change, then please don’t waste anymore time with him. Good luck.
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His best friend and you don’t know her all that well??? Something is missing here and it smells like a bunch of bull to me
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That’s weird af I would leave
That’s odd i have alot of guys friends but i wouldn’t do that if had someone out of repect
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Maybe get to know her.That way when there are plans you are invited.
Friends are friends if they were friends before you i guarantee that if you make a big deal out of their time together she will still be his bf after you arent with him anymore…js
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My best friend is male and we go on trips without our significant others. If you can’t trust him that’s different, but she was there first.
Btw… he’s probably taking longer to respond because they are off exploring or you know- visiting wherever they travelled to. Literally what they went to do.
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Is them taking trips together a new thing? Is this something they have been planning for a while? Did you know about it? How long have you two been together?
I know plenty of women that are married and go in trips with their guy friends. Just because they are friends doesn’t mean he is cheating.
Depending on how long you have been together would maybe make me feel different, but he shouldn’t have to stop being friends just because you are together.
If he isn’t great at responding anyway, and he is on a trip he might be having fun. Do you trust him around her normally?
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Ask yourself that again
They’re most likely sleeping together
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Would it be different if it was a male he’s been friends with 3 years prior? Was you going an option and he said no? I know plenty of people who have male or female best friends, doesn’t mean everyone thinks with there dick an they’re all sleeping together. What are they doing on this weekend away? Could that contribute to the lack of response? I honestly fond so many girls on here being a red flag an instantly assuming this man is doing wrong an horrible when there’s really no context to anything.
Ditch him! Find someone else he is hers.
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Some of these comments like wow. First of all his best friend was in the picture before you. You need to get over it.
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It is astounding to me that you need affirmation on this issue-
Totally inappropriate behavior on their part! Girl- DUMP HIM and GO FIND A REAL ONE!! I promise you are worth it if you just BELIEVE that you are. Don’t live a “life” of second guessing.
Oh hell naw! I’m a firm believer it’s all in how things look…I have a male best friend and my husband has a female best friend but we would never go on trips without one another! That’s a hard no
Um… Too many questions.
Why didn’t you and your BF go on this trip?
Where was the trip?
Where did they stay?
Did they get a hotel together?
Anyways, your BF should have zero issue with you going on a trip with a male friend. Schedule one.
I’d personally think about finding someone who respects your boundaries better. This kind of arrangement would definitely NOT be for me. To each their own though.
I don’t understand how you don’t know your partners bestfriend unless you haven’t been together that long? In saying that if you haven’t been together that long I wouldn’t expect him to have to not do stuff he had planned or usually would he is still allowed friends. If my partners best friend was a girl then she would most likely end up being one of my best mates as well if you don’t trust your partner just for the simple fact he has gone away with his best mate and just because he isn’t responding as fast and nothing else then then maybe you need to do a little self reflecting and see why you have these insecurities… I wouldn’t respond promptly if I was away with my best friend and I wouldn’t expect my partner to. We would be away with our best mates trying to have fun not glued to our phone. Hope it works out whatever ends up happening
At the very least, he is not serious about you!
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I would say you are being played. I would not accept this at all. Move on, he has.
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Uh uh…you need to have a conversation with your man. Tell him how you feel.
How long have you been dating? Maybe you think he’s your boyfriend now but maybe he doesn’t share your same feeling. Obviously he’s not the one who cares enough about your feelings to be called “your boyfriend.” Expect more of a real boyfriend…and yourself.
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how long have u guys been together?
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Im sorry what did I just read? Your husband has no business on any trip with any female unless it’s his daughter or his mama. Period. That’s unacceptable
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Um ya… negative. This throws so many red flags. I’m baffled by how many people question this stuff. To me, it’s common sense… haha
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Trust is a major thing in a relationship and if hes been friends with her for a while hes obviously not in a relationship with her as he met you and if you know her a little she knows about you x
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Awe come on the writing is on the wall here omg he’s something else and so is she xxoo
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would he be ok if it was the other way around? If it was you and your guy best friend on a trip and you were on a trip with him? Would he trust you?
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Go on a trip with one of your male friends and see if he would like it. If it doesn’t bother him then that’s a problem right there.
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You are a better person then me because that would not fly with me.
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I am one if its done to me by george they are going to get a taste of it back. So, find you a male best friend go spend the weekend somewhere with him and see how your bf likes that.
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I think if she was there before you there shouldn’t be a problem. I have a guy best friend and he was there before my husband. We do things together and that’s it. Trust is important. You are not allowed to come into his life then flip it upside down because of jealousy.
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Red flag ! Why didn’t he bring you?
Think there more to this then your seeing ! …I wouldn’t lety hubby go on vacation with a good friend thats a girl …you know they doing the pat pat
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My boyfriend has a girl best friend he grew up with… me and her have become very close friends! We hang every weekend TOGETHER! I would 10000000 percent trust them going on vacations or anything together if they wanted to.
If YOUR boyfriend didn’t make yall get to know one another for this EXACT reason then HE being SHADY and SNEAKY with HER and YOU NEED TO LEAVE HIM!
NO TRUST = NO RELATIONSHIP!
PERIOD!
Rebecca Brown see this shit?
Wait, you sat at home while your man took another woman on a trip? Sheesh I wish I would 
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If you have to question it you shouldn’t be together! If you both don’t trust each other 100%…. Don’t be together point blank…
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Oh hell no…. I don’t care how long they been friends. That’s not ok and definitely crossing boundaries when in a relationship. My boyfriend also has a girl best friend who is his brothers girlfriend and I don’t like it at all. I think they’re too close but I just deal without it as long as they’re not doing stuff alone. They talk personal stuff and I really don’t like that he confides in another woman and I know for a fact if her man was doing that she wouldn’t be ok with it. I’ve become closer to her so I see they’re more like brother and sister but I’ll never trust another woman 100% I just can’t… my ex husband cheated on me with my brothers wife! They didn’t have sex supposedly but it was texting and they kissed they put themselves in a situation alone getting too close …Broke our family up my brother stayed with her so they stayed away from our whole family for 2 years. I finally broke up with my idiot ex and after awhile I forgave my sister in law and the family is tight again… I’d definitely set boundaries. It’s not ok. She needs her own man. 
Here’s the thing…you allowed it. So don’t call. Let him check in as natural. If it goes wrong he bears the consequences. If that’s not cool then tell him he can’t go and live with the consequences of that. But don’t go back and forth. You can’t say well…okay and then what? He has to stay on the phone with you the whole time he’s gone? I know plenty of young people who grew up together and are in this situation but are not in love. It doesn’t seem hideous for the times. It’s okay to think it’s unacceptable, too. You just can’t say it’s okay then freak out when he goes. I rule for the plaintiff. 
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Red Flag. Leave him. No stress then.
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Trust your instincts. It could be light or it could be that they didn’t realize their feelings for each other til you were thrown in the mix and now they are an item. I hope not but you have to be careful. 
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hell to the naw, to the naw, naw, naw! 
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My best friend is male. We are also coworkers, for the past 20 years. I have had to go on business trips with him numerous times. We ride together but get our own room. However, if I was going out of town for personal reasons/fun with him I would invite my fiancé. He knows him well and my friend come over and spends the weekends, out of respect it’s weekends my man will be home. There has never been any kind of romantic feelings. I was married 30 years and he became/is friends with my ex husband. When I met my fiancé I was up front about my bestie and made it clear that I don’t have room for jealousy and will remain friends as always.
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That would be the day. Out of respect, that is a no. Shouldn’t have even been a question.
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