Not enough information to judge here. I go on trips with friends in remote locations with little contact often. I never invite my husband and he doesn’t expect me to. I’m bisexual so gender of my travel partners is irrelevant. My husband doesn’t know my friends very well, even my best friends. They just don’t have much in common and our time together rarely overlaps. It’s 100% platonic and my husband trusts me. So I can see how OP’s partner could be doing absolutely nothing wrong here. But the fact that OP is clearly uncomfortable is concerning. They definitely need to have an in-person discussion about the situation.
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That’s a red flag. Same kinda circumstance happened to me and guess what? He was cheating on me with her
She’s his best friend , would you worry if it was a man ? She was around long before you but he chose you as a girlfriend . This sounds more like your insecurity rather than his behaviour. It’s good when a man can have a platonic friendship with a girl and says a lot about him (I’m a good way) trust them.
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Ignorant. I doubt it would happen on my watch.
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Personally, this situation seems to me to just be asking for trouble. We were married over 70 years but it was hard enough for me to just accept TOO friendly relationships. let alone actually going some place with another and leaving me at home!! Either one of us would just NOT have ALLOWED IT or even Thought about it!!! It is simply a sign of REPSPECT and yes, TRUST! But we were also married and took our vows seriously!
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Bailee Harden Thanking God daily that you aren’t this type of "Girl best friend"
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depends on their friendship tbh. I have a guy best friend and his fiancé trust us one thousand percent. Cause that’s all he is…a FRIEND. But if you feel it may be more than that…then ask
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I think the amount of time you guys have been together matters here. I’m feeling like you two haven’t had a clear conversation on boundary setting. But I also wanted to say that, imo, it’s not that odd to do a last second spontaneous trip with your bestie. 
if his best friend were another dude, you wouldn’t even be that worried. Realistically, it kind of seems like you’re feeling insecure here, which if it’s still new- you two haven’t set boundaries, and you don’t know best friend… then duh. It’s a perfect recipe for insecurities. Try to calm down the emotions, and think it over rationally on some boundaries you need to set and talk to him when he is home. Ask to meet her, ask if you can all plan to hang out
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I did the same with my husband and his girl best friend. 7 years into our marriage, I finally walked in on them. He’s now an ex husband. So it’s entirely up to you how long you want to continue being naive 
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You take Aman friend away see if he likes it
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What kind of trip? Where did they go? If it was like a hunting or fishing trip and they both have that interest in common then I can MAYBE see it being ok…MAYBE. If they went on like a beach vacation together then that wouldnt be ok.
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I have been on 2 sides of a male/ female best friends scenario. There are a lot of scenarios that may play out.
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My female bf introduced me to my boyfriend (also her male bf). The male & I dated 3+ years. I never thought anything when they hung out. They started sleeping together 1.5yrs into our relationship.
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My male bf were only with benefits when nether of us were in a relationship.
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My one of my female best friends from high school. Still has her male bf, she was his best man in his wedding. He gave her away at her wedding. They do thing together as a family. Sometimes as a group without spouse but with other people.
If your guts telling you something up & your not the one cheating. Leave
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Girl they fking point blank
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Plan a trip with a best guy alone and see how he feels 
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I would ask to go next time. Have them explain why you can’t if no is the answer. This to me is a Red flag of times to come for your future as a couple. Nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex I have lots, but would not go on a holiday with them without their partners in tow. You have a bit to think about.
Um definitely not ok at all
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I would mainly be worried because I don’t know her well. I would have wanted her over for dinner or something like that to get to know her before the trip and judged from that. But I’d still be irked that he didn’t invite me, that would have been the best situation.
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So I feel like this:
As having had and have male friends, especially when I was single, o at least knew when to back off and let my friends romantic relationship flourish, without me as a friend being a defining factor.
Fall back is what this friend should do, or at least be understanding that you are a couple and a package deal. I wouldn’t be upset with her, I would be upset with him.
I feel like he should have agreed to go as long as you were invited too.
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No way I would let my man go on a trip with a female without me. But that’s me 
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Sounds fishy. If he loved you and was made aware that you were hurt by this, then he wouldn’t do it out of respect for your feelings. Find a boyfriend that will make YOU his best friend.
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Well if I went on a trip with my best guy friend I wouldn’t be on my phone constantly either. Doesn’t mean I’m sucking his dick or anything. Just enjoying our time
Just saying… Don’t be scared to take care of you first. 
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Fuuuuuuck no you aren’t. If it’s uncomfortable for you, he should respect that and either invite you or not go. Where did they go? Do you get pictures of where they went or story’s when they get back?? Do they both come to tell you about it? I feel like there’s more info needed to know because yes, there can be people and situations that don’t let it go farther than friends, but it’s usually not likely
This would not work for me!!! Do you have a boy best friend and go on trips with him??? Try it you might like it and he would know how you feel, OFCOURSE I do not think he would let that be okay either!!!
BFF vs girlfriend. Which one does he spend quality time with? Are you included in their “together time”? All kinds of flags. Are you willing to share him with another girl? If you are not his main focus, I would move on.
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There are intimate relationships and there are brother and sister relationships. When I was in highschool I had two best friends and they were both male and me being the only girl in the group it was difficult when I started dating because I had two guy best friends who I was very close to.
However, one of them became someone who became my brother and I look at him as such. And the other I was closer to but I did t get too close because I knew he had a gf at the time and I respected their boundaries. I’ve gone on fishing trips with my brother and I went on a camping trip with my guy best friend and his now wife. And it never went any further than that because for some reason after that she forebode him from seeing me even tho we never did anything. But honestly I feel like they should have never excluded you from anything 
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Trust but verify, no way.
The fact of you saying you don’t know her and him no answering or care about your feelingsIS a BIG problem…negotory!!! Btw…why could you not go!? I’d pop up and spy my ass off if I was you. Js:male_detective:
From my past experiences, the girl “best friend” is the side piece. No way in heck my man is going on a trip with a female alone or without me.
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Do not trust and end the relationship.
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Trust your gut girl…
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They both been using u
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Let me guess he using the money out of your account and always has?!?
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Trust your gut instinct. It is always right.
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I wouldn’t like that either. You’re probably being used.
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If they were friends before you, you knew what you were getting into. It is possible for men and women to be just friends.
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Kiss them both good bye. You are being used
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He’s on a vacation. People tend to not be on the phones as much as normal. What do you want him to do be on the phone with you the whole trip? If you don’t trust him why be with him? Has he shown anything that he would be interested in her? Or would cheat at all?
Time to send him packing 
……you deserve way better than that.
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Lmfao are u poly or in an open relationship?
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I thank God for my now husband. Was married to an abusive narcissist for 20 years and when I met my now husband I had to basically learn the real way relationships work. My husband would never disrespect me by going on a weekend get away with his “female best friend”. Hell he pretty much walks out of a room if there is just another female in the room. I know how my first relationship was, sounding like what you are in vs. the relationship I am in now. Just be careful and don’t let them make you think you are crazy for having concerns.
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U need a male best friend to go on trips with see how the shoe fits when it’s on the other foot he may be telling the truth that they are just friends but he’s not being respectful of ur feelings and ur relationship when he knows it bothers u and he’s doing it anyhow
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Trust your partner, if you get evidence to not trust him then be worried
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My man wouldn’t be going on a trip with any other woman…you should definitely be concerned.
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When I got with my partner, he was planning a trip out of state with his female friend. He wanted to include me in the plans but she didnt want me in the picture and said I couldnt go so he backed out of the whole trip. She was salty and made him lose a couple friends after no doubt telling them a twisted version of the events. A year later she tried to ft him at 11 at night because “she wasnt mad anymore” like girl bye:joy: moral of the story is that you’re his priority or you’re not and it sounds like you deserve someone better who will include you in trips or not go with another woman.
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That’s not fair. If he’s such a good friend with this female, you would know her better than you do.
I could 100% see me going on vacation with my best friend just me and him. But I would be sending tons of photos to my boyfriend, texting him in the morning, checking in before going anywhere, letting him know I’ll be driving so don’t text me text my friend. And my boyfriend and best friends are also good friends. If anything seemed off, he could call either one of us. It wouldn’t be fair if it was any other way! It doesn’t even matter if he’s cheating at this point. You’re questioning your place. He’s offering an environment for you to do so instead of easing your mind.
Girl… LEAVE!!!
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It’s probably more than friendship.
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If you were okay with it in the first place then your out of luck… if you expressed your concern then you should know where you stand as far as where his respect lies… every relationship is different but like did he invite you? Did he book without your knowledge? Did he talk to you first? Do you have reason to believe he’s cheating? So many factors missing…
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He’s an idiot and doesn’t respect you either she needs to go or I would leave I’ll be damned if he would take HER on a trip period with me or without me YOU should be NUMBER 1 in his life …pack his shit and have it sitting outside when he gets back !!!
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If he doesn’t care about your feelings why are you with him??
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Going Out to lunch or something is one thing but a whole weekend thats a no for me but my man and i preset boundaries from the beginning
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Nope I definitely think it’s funny as shit… and a huge 
If you can’t trust your man around women the same way you’d trust him around other men it really says more about you than it does him. If he’s done nothing to make you think he’d lie or cheat then leave him be. If it turns out he was a liar or cheater do you think acting controlling would’ve solved him being unfaithful? No, no it wouldn’t.
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Go along on the trip I would
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Was the trip planned in advance and did you not get invited to go?
Get a guy best friend and hvout for the weekend. Bet he will come unglued.
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Super shady. What a pos
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I was overreacting immediately after reading the first sentence….
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I guess it ultimately depends on YOU. My partner took a trip with his best friend, and she’s a girl. I trust he won’t do anything to harm our relationship. And he naturally sucks at texting/calling, so it’s nothing new for me. It really depends on YOU as a person.
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Yes they are using you !
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Sounds like you may be his side chick, not girlfriend. She’s the main.
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Friendship yes!! Overnight trips no!!! If you are his girlfriend you should be there too. Move on
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One word, nope. Not happening. Call me “insecure” all you want. But there’s a difference between having female friends, and planning a WHOOOOLE without his girlfriend with that “female friend”. Negatory. The whole situation screams SHADY. But again, we’re women, we “overreact” to everything.
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Drop him like a hot potato. He’s not worth the bother. Find someone that respects u and loves u as u deserve. Good luck.
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Pack your bags and leave. Girl, you ain’t his girlfriend. If you was he would of taken you as well. Sorry to be bluntly like that. But, he is using you. All you are is a extra piece of meat.to him.
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Ditch him. It’s super disrespectful to you. I can see them going for a drink or two, but taking a trip on their own is very disrespectful to you, and I have to wonder how innocent it is. If he loved you, he would take your feelings into consideration, and obviously that isn’t happening. I think I’d go into detective mode and get some answers and then confront both of them before I walked out the door.
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You better go pop up on the trip
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Oh come on. No way. You know better
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have his shit packed for him when he gets back
Be gone before he gets back.
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Move on‼️No overnight trips😟
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Thats sketchy… grab your stuff and leave without a word…
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Only YOU can determine if you trust him or not. Anyone from the outside can speculate on what the situation looks like. But you’re seeing it 1st hand. If he can’t respect your feelings and boundaries then it sounds like you won’t ever trust him and their friendship or whatever it may be. If that’s the case, you might as well remove yourself because it will be a forever fight as long as they remain friends. They both could easily argue that their friendship came before you. If he’s not willing to respect how uncomfortable it makes you feel then you can only accept it and learn to trust him or remove yourself completely.
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Throw him on the trash dump.
I think you already know the answer. He is his girlfriend, and you are a side piece, or you would be the one on that vacation.
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Lol find you a guy best friend 
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Trust him or not it’s completely unnecessary for him to go on a trip with another female without you. Let him go girl fuck that I wouldn’t even give him a chance to fix it, he made his choice when he decided to go on that trip. And I’m so sorry to say this but give it a week after you leave his sorry ass and he’ll be dating his “best friend”
You already know what time it is smh now the question should be what do you want to do next?
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NOPE let that one go Boo
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My dad once told me to never place yourself into a situation where your spouse could have doubts… Into a situation where rumors could start. So in my marriage (and when we were dating) this wouldn’t have been something we endorsed. And one of my hubby’s best friends is a woman. I would have major concerns with this but again it wouldn’t have happened in our relationship
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While there is nothing wrong with having friends of any gender (or no gender), I do think a trip for just the two of them seems sketchy. Has he given you reasons to be worried/not trust him prior to this? I would be uncomfortable with the situation, personally. Like, day trips and lunch together wouldn’t be a big deal to me, but overnight trips would be a no go.
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Time to say:fu:t6:
Girl he’s cheating.I would leave and not look back.Thats all sorts of disrespectful.
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I just saw this post on another mom page lol
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I think u answered your own question.
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You still believe OJ didnt do it, dont you? SMH
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Oh lord. Took his female friend on a trip didn’t invite you. First of all. He excluded you from what he was doing so you obviously don’t take priority. Second of all If she was just a friend then friends come second to a relationship especially if it’s serious. Third of all she’s a female and I’m sure she wouldn’t feel to great about that if that was her boyfriend if your dude isn’t already. That is red flag city missy.
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ex boyfriend sis from the day he made plans to go out With “best friend”
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I understand you want to trust him and she was around before you but he should have never went on a trip with her without you. I am a man and I can tell you as a man that if he was worth a damn he wouldn’t have went without you no matter how close they are. Just a bad deal. Real men don’t put the woman they care about most second.
He does not respect you . So you don’t owe him any . Don’t respond to him …see how that works .Keep your finances separate. Take care of you first .
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Fuck no , weekend trip ? Why does he have you for? Communication is key .
They left you out?
That’s not right
Yeah I’d question that big time
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I have a friend that’s a girl… never touched each other, I’m a lot older though, and not into girls that much younger. I don’t think she would be interested either way, but point being is nothing goes on, and never has.
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Think about the future. And I’m not saying he isn’t doing anything differently than from before y’all met. Or anyone is right or wrong. I wouldn’t be okay w that but that’s me personally.
Are you going to be okay with this your entire relationship? Because he’s telling you that this is not going to change. I think you need to ask yourself that and whether this relationship is right for you
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My best friend is male and I’m married. There’s no way either of us would spend a weekend together without my husband and think it’s appropriate. If he wants to keep that friendship is important for you to know her and their relationship. To be included. I would be very uncomfortable personally.
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He’d be single when he came back.
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My ex tried to have a harmless sleepover at MY then besties house. Don’t have your blinders on sis you know the answer already.
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My fiance has a girl BSF that he hangs out with all of the time. He just recently started having me and her hang out together. But I see where you are coming from. The lack of communication would bother me also.
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Call up one of your old guy friends and hang out with him see how much he likes it then tell that sorry piece of shit to kick rocks. You deserve so much better
RED FLAG. He is putting his relationship with her first.
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Dear Abby is out to lunch right now