Definitely crossed a line I had a very close male best friend who sadly passed away 2 yrs ago and his fiance was and still is my very close friend and I never ever went away with him,so sorry my love he’s not a keeper.
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You’re the third wheel, dear. Exit with your dignity.
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I’m a gamer and have lots of close male friends because of it. I have a boyfriend who is currently deployed on the opposite side of the world. I would NEVER hang out one-on-one with any of my male friends without my boyfriend being present. It’s inappropriate and disrespectful, especially since you’ve voiced your concerns with him already. I’d be GONE.
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It shouldn’t have happen if y’all r in a serious relationship . Who in their right mind let that happen ?
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Uhhh… no. Especially overnight… without you. Nah
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This is not right! Kick his a** to the curb!!! There is someone out there that will make you their priority! Believe me…I’ve been there…
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Im sure im in minority here…but you knew about the trip and you know he’s a bad responder, but now you’re uncomfortable? Maybe its not that he doesn’t care, but doesn’t appreciate the lack of trust? I wouldve thought nothing of going on a trip with my close guy friends. People are able to be friends with the opposite sex without ANYTHING sexual happening. Maybe you should try to get to know her better? Could he be cheating, sure….but he could just have a close friend too. My best guy friend, not a thing ever happened with, his now wife had only met me a couple of times but ended up asking me to be a bridesmaid bc she knew it would matter to him.
Just saying, not everyone is out to be deceptive.
Absolutely not. I’d leave for fucking sure 
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To put this lightly. My boyfriend and I use to be just best friends
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Without you and didn’t let you know?!?
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This is a huge red flag. My ex-husband did this crap. Only it was his baby mama. He said they were friends for the sake of their daughter. Next thing I know I came home from work to his wedding ring sitting on my dresser and all this things gone
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Boundaries are being broken. Run Forest!
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Eww. No. Hell no. Tf
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I have 2 guys best friends that I have went on week trips with… without my husband and I’ve never even kissed either guy… so I’d say possible but not likely
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Either you are very gullible or completely in denial!
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Dump that loser. They’re lovers.
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No no no , you are being disrespected! Get rid of him.
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Girl what??? Idk how this is even a question.
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Your spidey sense is accurate. That’s a triangle you don’t want to be in. Run
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Oh boy. I guess I’ll be seeing you on the show “48 hours” as a suspect lol I would NOT put up with that.
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I do have a male friend I’m very close with. Like a brother. I’m happily married he does have a girlfriend. She and I are pretty close ourselves when we text it’s a group chat so all 4 of us are involved in conversation and when we hang out at least one of our partners is always present and we have a good time. 
it’s ok to be friends with opposite gender but it’s not ok to keep secrets or exclude each others partners that’s a little odd.
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Why is this even a question 
never get with a man that has a girl as a best friend fck that shit, obviously some ish is going down ain’t no other way
Nope. Break up with him. Sounds too fishy to me.
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Bye bye. Don’t look back. You deserve respect and this isn’t respect.
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That’s crap doesn’t Matter if he or she is married or has a boyfriend or girlfriend married people cheat too!
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Walk away. No point with this one. If you stay, he will just continue to gas light you until he breaks you
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Really, sweetie? If she’s his best friend, why don’t you know her? Sounds like secrets to me. Yes, I will admit that opposite sex besties is a legit possibility. However, they normally go out of their way to ensure their partners don’t feel some type of way about it.
Weird, does she have a significant other and was he ok with this? I know I would have told my husband no freaking way. I would be ok if I went on a trip with them.
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Wives come before friends…
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I wouldn’t be having that. He should’ve taken you with!
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You should be able to be comfortable trusting in him and his intentions, but he also has to be willing to do what you need to make you feel that way. If you’re concerned and he is brushing off your concerns rather than addressing them, that’s an issue.
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Wow! This is an easy one. You’re in denial.
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You either trust him or you don’t.
Act accordingly
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Get rid of that selfish ASS immediaely!
This is exactly what’s wrong with the pursuit of a family dynamic these days. Some men don’t know how to put their women above everyone else. Clearly not husband material if he doesn’t respect your boundaries or your concerns about things then ditch him before things get further. A decent man who is serious about you will never put you in a position to question him because he won’t be doing questionable things. There’s a difference in having a friend of the opposite sex than what is going on here. A decent man will have proper boundaries with their friend of the opposite sex when they are in a relationship. And it won’t involve a private trip together without his significant other. Especially knowing the discomfort it puts you in, which in my opinion says that he doesn’t respect you enough to care if you’re uncomfortable about it.
Girl leave they definitely up to no good
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I would let it be. They could have already have this trip pre planned. Either you trust him or you don’t. It’s not good to be constantly stress out about wether your Significant other is cheating. It’s going to come to light eventually if he is cheating. I would wait for other signs.
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Look for a new boyfriend .
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Umm…sounds like you are the side chick in their relationship. Dump him and move on. My husband had a girl friend invite him to go to a concert near the beach with him for 2 days. I told him only if me and our daughter go as well so we could take her to the beach and zoo together and he can drop his friend off at the concert that night. I booked the hotel rooms…even one for her, separate from ours,and when she found out she told us to cancel the rooms bc she wanted to go with someone else. Same friend that tried to break us up when we were dating and is known to go after married men. You know what is going on. Tell him yall are done and stop wasting your time.
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Girl that’s her boyfriend
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Every. Single. Time. I read these…I keep getting hung up on…his BFF is female and his girlfriend doesn’t really know her? I have male friends that have been around for years before my man and I have zero issue inviting them over to hang with the 2 of us. Nothing to hide as we have ONLY ever been friends. Vacation with the female friend and not you included is odd AF and my man would be my ex for this business.
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Why couldn’t you go again? 
I’m confused on why you didn’t go or wasn’t invited… Girl don’t be a fool
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I have a guy best friend and we have always had the rule tell our partners the truth about each other and that they will always be in our life regardless of what the partner likes it or not and I’m married and he’s engaged but we like each other’s partners
I wouldn’t go for that
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In that instance it would be I’m coming with or you’re gonna be single 
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Never get with a BOY who considers a woman his “best friend” LMAO
I had to learn the hard way (‘:
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I’m gonna be the one to go there. First off it was his best friend three years prior to you even getting together. That being said, you’re only giving part of the story, you’re not giving the whole story. I would give a better comment if there was more context to what was written than just what was written. As it stands you sound very jealous and very underconfident of his girl best friend. That being said, what if you had a guy best friend and did the exact same thing, don’t say you aren’t or any other commenters on this. You don’t know what would happen if the tables were turned. You get to OI never do that that’s not true. This could’ve been something that maybe was planned prior to them getting together. I have friends were we’ve planned trips five years in advance. Why so that way there whatever is going on during our timeframe we at least know that trip will take place. That’s why I said we don’t have the whole entire story we only have a part of it which seems to happen a lot with these comments like this. It’s no offense to the person is asking a question it’s just give us more details not just part of it.
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I’d be very concerned.
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How would he be if you went on a trip with a Male friend
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The curb will be the best place for him.
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Be petty and go on a trip with you male best friend 
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Maybe tell him you are going on a trip with a male friend
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This is absolute crap.
I have a best mate that’s a guy and my partner knows him just as well as me. We eat out together and all spend time together. Absolutely makes NO sense at all for you to be left out of the loop.
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You are the only one who knows your relationship. You know the answer.
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He’s sleeping with her…since your left out the looop
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If you didn’t establish boundaries of respect before hand, you’re hurting your own feelings. They’re on vacation. Of course the response is going to be slower. 
Just take notes and chat with him when he gets back. Establish boundaries and find a middle ground you can both agree on. I actually have several guy best friends and I start every relationship with letting the guy know and meet them and understand they will be in my life and if they feel any type of trust issue between me and my guy friends… they shouldn’t pursue a relationship with me. 
lmaooooo insecurity in the comments 
he’s on a trip. he’s supposed to be enjoying it, not texting you every 30 seconds. secondly, she was in the picture BEFORE you and if you keep this up, it’ll be AFTER you too.
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Be petty and give him the taste of his medicine best advice I can give you
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Your boundaries are your boundaries period. If you haven’t made this boundary clear, you need to. If you have made it clear and it’s crossing your boundaries then you need to let him go cause he clearly doesn’t respect you or care enough to respect your boundaries
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Wow! My usual answer to this because I have a girl who is a best friend of mine would be don’t worry about it, but under these circumstances I think that you need to take a stand and find out if they are just friends still, and if they are you’re OK if they aren’t you need to move on, what he is doing right now is not OK. and I would also like to know, does he or you use drugs? And be honest, we can’t help you if you’re not honest. I completely understand if she’s just a friend and that they don’t have any previous romantic relationships towards each other? You need to give us the whole story in order for anybody to help you. Oh and the fact that he didn’t care that you were concerned should be a red flag right away and as Kay pointed out it really doesn’t make any sense for you to be left out of the loop!
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Red flag indeed not happening in my marriage 
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Go on a vacation with a male friend babe…
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She was there before you. You accepted the friendship before that. I was that female friend before. Heading to Colorado. A bunch of us were supposed to go. Turned into just him and me. His gf freaked out when we were there. (She was ignoring him for tw days before we left so she didn’t know the change of plans) we did nothing. We got a hotel room with separate beds. Not even an inkling of flirting happened. So it can be an actual friendcation. But it depends on the integrity of the girl and your Man.
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I wish my husband would try to pull some stunt like this bc he already know his stuff will be outside at the end of the driveway when he got back. He obviously doesn’t respect you or yall relationship bc a real man who respected his woman and their relationship wouldn’t go without you or not go period.
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Maybe you should get to know her……
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Find a new boyfriend that doesn’t have a girl best friend. It’ll never stop bothering you.
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Why did only they go on vacation? Even my Man says no man who loves his woman and is faithful would go on a vacation with just the girl best friend. He would find a way to invite more friends. Period. As to avoid even the thought of confusion in his relationship.
Now, understand, I have a fucking unicorn of a man in my opinion, but I personally agree with his logic.
This is going to boil down to you, your needs, a conversation with him, and seeing where you both stand. Good luck.
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Men and women can be just friends. You need to get ahold of her and just YOU AND HER TALK ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT. A Good Women who Doesn’t want to have a relationship with your Man will understand your concerns and become a respectable friend to you as well. I worked in a Maintenance dept. All Men. There was a 1 wife who had a problem with this. I invited her to my home for dinner. We never became real friends but I know she respected the fact that I respected her. If there’s more going on I’m sure you will know. It’s been a Fact… That if your gut tells you something is wrong, it usually is. I’d also make it clear to your other half that he too should except your friends Male or Female and it goes BOTH WAYS. When in a relationship 1 has to respect their partners choice of friends as long as it DOESN’T interfere with the relationship… I wish you the best. Talk it out… 
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Set boundaries!! She was there before u were. J.s. and he’s not going to get rid of her cause ur feeling got hurt. That’s his best friend! I’ll be damned if my husband says I can’t talk to my guy best friend! Nope! He was there before him. There on vacation. Just set ur boundaries and have that convo with him. Just don’t make him choose between y’all cause sweetheart u will loose
You need to dump him. That is so disrespectful
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Sounds like he respects her more than you
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I don’t trust anyone except my kids. On that statement
He’s cheating 
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She was there first.
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Definite boundary crossing. This would be a deal breaker for me
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I wouldn’t be cool with it. Not because I have trust issues… just that I’m your girl. That’s all. I wouldn’t be hanging out with men when I’ve got a man either. I’m not judging… it’s just me. That wouldn’t work for me.
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I get paid over $150+ per hour w0rking from home. I never thought l’d be able to do it but my colleague makes over $ 22687 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
I will say the same thing I told my daughter boyfriend they was friends before u got together they will be friends ways after if anything was going to happen between them it would have happened already before u guys get together 3 years of been friends there have most likely been times for them to be together before u but no they just friend so either stuck it up or move on
No way! Dump him. He has no concern for your feelings nor does he respect you. And he’s most likely cheating with her
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If you are his girlfriend and he want a future with you, you should become his best friend. That should be his goal
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Whaat…she is his girl best friend till now and u r not!
If he can’t make u his besty and take u along with her/any of his friends for trips…that needs ur serious attention…(forget going alone with any girl on merry trips)
Ascertain…things like whether u r just an option, why’s so difficult for him to share everything with u, make u his besty…etc.
If he can’t respect your boundaries or didn’t offer you to go. He’s up to something and I’d think long and hard about this relationship.
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I’d be gone before they even got back
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You should be his girl best friend. Period
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If it doesn’t seem like he cares be probably doesn’t. No man in a relationship should be taking another woman (that’s not family) out on a trip alone. That’s just weird… Honestly just try to talk to him about it. Trust your gut though. Don’t have kids with him unless you know he only has eyes for you.
On another note, is this a common thing they used to do before y’all started dating?
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No, not wrong, go with your gut. Friends are friends but a trip without you is crossing boundaries.
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I would fine me a guy for a best friend, someone you have known for a bet. Then go on a trip with him. See if he likes that.
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Honestly you dont deserve to be excluded tf you are his gf, apparently he aint giving you your spot so on to the next👋 of course it will hurt love but it will soon pass. & in the future you will looo back at these posts and thank us all because you have found someone who treats your like a queen claim it🙏🏽
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Trust him. If they were going to be together they would have been better now.
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My hubs has a friend from childhood… I love her to pieces… we’ve gotten really close… any fast forward to a few weeks ago we planned a trip for a concert… I was going to go but ended up needing to work… I totally trust both of them not to betray me in anyway. My hubs was responsive and drove me nuts with the constant texting and reassurance… Oh and I sat with them at the bar (FaceTime)… I look at it this way… If your a priority in their life they will include you!
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Girl save yourself years of heartache and RUNNNN
You have to set boundaries and both adhere to them. My Motto is Don’t put yourself in a situation where things can happen. That goes both ways…
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He ain’t that into you. Straight up, when your into someone you want to do everything with them, especially trips….if he’s not responding either….you probably should see you way out of that mess. He is making his feelings clear, now you do what you want with them. He doesn’t see boundaries and has no problem compromising things with you…if you put up with that shit….he will always use you as a doormat.
I’d make sure she knew me
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she does not socialize with your hubby and you? Is she kept as a spare on the side. If you don’t trust then the relationship has no future.
You’ve got to be shitting me right. This is satire 
I think you need a new boyfriend 
I may be the odd one out but…
My nest friend is a man…
I understand that men and woman can be just friends…
But… this is kinda weird…
How long y’all been together?
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I definitely would not put up with that.
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Get a new one asap no bf should go on any trip with another female without me or me being 24 seven hands on in convo or facetime
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Wake up don’t trust them