Ok cheating aside it already sounds like a toxic relationship so it’s probably best to leave
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Put your running shoes on and get out of that situation fast. He ain’t worth the heartache
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Run as fast as you can! You deserve better!
Move on! You will never trust him again and it will always be there between you!!
End it now. No reason for you to continue in a miserable relationship
Once a cheater always a cheater
Let him go…listen to your head!
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End the relationship and hold your head high. He will continue to cheat!
Your heart will heal let him go cause if you forgive him now he will eventually do it again and again and he won’t be bothered about it cause he will think of she will forgive me
LEAVE never stay with a cheater.
Nope, time to say bye bye to him.
What? Is that even an option? Lol
No, girl. Move on. Can’t fix that asshole
You already said there was red flags. Leave
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He’s a predator. Tell her that. Neither of you talk to him again.
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Tell him to f***off! He will do it again!
Leave 
… you deserve better!!
Ditch the bum and enjoy your life
Walk away… You are better than that.
I mean honestly and i mean this with no disrespect, you’re likely not going going leave by the sounds of your post. Us telling you what to do isn’t going to make you leave him, as much as you really should because what he’s doing is unacceptable and unforgivable. However, you will only leave wheb you’re truly ready, but you need to realize that if it’s been happening it’ll it’ll again, and the more you put up with it the more he will do it because it will break you down to a point where you won’t leave because you’re used to it, you’re comfortable with him and your self esteem will be too low to actually move on because you’ll believe you aren’t aren’t more.
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He is boyfri3nd. There is the problem. Ladies do not let a man have your hand more than a year without putting a ring on it. Dump him
Honestly, I’d leave him you deserve better and if there were red flags before this should be the final red flag.
If they stray once, there are pretty good odds it will happen again. If you have issues, what do you see for yourself 5 years from now. You hold the pen that writes your life. Is he worth your love?
Time to be done, respect yourself, walk away and cut ties
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Your first sentence says there’s lots of 
& you’re wondering what to do? My question is why haven’t you already called it quits? 
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Girl, you should have left him long ago.
If you can’t make the decision, write down all positives and all negatives, but sounds like a control freak to me. My opinion is get rid, rather be on my own than with a controlling cheating arsehole.
You know what to do. You already seen the red flags. That’s why you weren’t living together. He was fighting with you and blaming you for cheating because he was guilty. That’s usually what happens. When a cheater is cheating they point the finger to the other person because their guilty. It’s not his first time. Walk away. You deserve better!
walk away he will always do it sadly never a one off. leave and keep your self respect
No ma’am, you deserve better! Let him go, he knew what he was doing and what was at risk. He’s going to continue the same behavior and in a few months, you’ll find yourself back in this same situation. Save yourself the heartache and just move on.
Your worth so much more
uhm … how many red flags do you need and how many times you going to let him cheat!!! 
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Not only did he cheat but he cheated on you with someone that is from your work. That is so close to home. That is straight up malicious and you have to face that girl everyday. You need to leave
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“A lot of red flags” —- run away and never look back
Walk away if ya can…
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Fuck that loser
Why is this even a question.
Go get someone that’s worth your while.
Run as fast as you can the opposite way!!
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i personally would dump him, if you already had red flags and you dont feel you can trust him.its time to move on and find someone who is respectful of you and treats you good. you deserve better. all the best with whatever you decide… This is only my opinion and others can give your theirs, you need to decide and always respect yourself. take care all the best to you
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Run as fast as you can!! Once a cheater, always a cheater!! I could never trust him again
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I stopped at cheated.
DUMP HIM! PERIOD
NO EXCUSE FOR CHEATING STOP ALLOWING MEN TO HURT YOU AND CONTINUE ON DOING IT.
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if you have to ask…unfortunately you know the answer. Say goodbye
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I forgave once and he did it again. He also cheated on both wives. He lied even with proof. He told everyone around town that I had an affair and that I was jealous and pissed everytime he waved to someone or used his phone. None of that was true. The only time I gave him a hard time about his phone was when I found out that he was addicted to internet porn. He tried to tell me that someone else took his phone and subscribed to a bunch of porn sites. That was a lie. The woman that kept showing up at my house is the one that I have seen him with. He lied about that too. He also cheated in Florida and goes down there to see her. In the meantime, he has showed up here all Winter and Spring crying and pleading. I want nothing to do with him. If the people in this town want to believe him, they can. Their choice. I know who I am and I am proud of myself…and if his family see’s this, tell him to come back and get his damn hanging baskets. I’ll buy my own flowers.
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Dump him and move on. Sounds to me you have some insecurities.
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Let him go…you are wasting time with this one. There are plenty of good men out there… Good Luck 
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Lol, u said it yourself! You saw red flags then you just want confirmation to stay with him! You are not married therefore you have the freedom to be happy
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Walk away, it only goes downhill from there. Everytime I “gave them another chance” was another trauma or bad situation I had to live through and now after the fog of it alm I realized none of them were worth my time, I was bored, lonely, and had really low self esteem with emotional issues, I still do but now I can work through them and don’t need validation that I probably never would have gotten anyway from a man who never saw my worth
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He will do it again.
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Always watch for those signs, like you not answering your phone its because he does that…no my darling get out he will never change .
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6 years and not living together and boyfriend……drop his ass. He ain’t worth it.
Kick him to the curb girl! If he loved you he wouldn’t have cheated. He broke the trust & you will never get it back. Love yourself more than that. Have some pride & self respect. Let him go & move on. You will thank me later. Trust me I’ve been through this already. It will never work! He will do it again…they always do!!
Let him go honey… Trust me they do not change and will continue to cheat… Been there done that … Lesson learned the hard way… You will heal in time and realize you deserve more than that…
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Trust me he will do it again and probably has before this…cut him loose
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I say let him go! Once a cheater always a cheater. From one that has already been thru it. Good luck in your decision.
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Leave. Too many red flags. Cheaters often accuse you of cheating when they are the ones that are. The fact alone you don’t respond to every call or text right away and he gets upset upset over it is a big red flag on it’s own. I’m my experience, Cheaters won’t stop cheating. Especially if they get away with it for for so long and if you are willing to forgive them for it
Your not living together because of red flags and then he adds infidelity to the situation… leave. If you sweep this under the rug hes gonna think it’s OK to do again later from my experience. a hard lesson I had to learn was knowing my worth… you deserve better
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If you do not know why ask
He is 52 and doesn’t understand you have meetings? Gtfo?
Narcissistic behavior is hard to grow out of… we’re all a bit messed up but if you already don’t wanna live with him… he lies and cheat on top of it… I think you kinda can only stay if you love drama and accept the stress he causes you as attractive. Some people do enjoy having someone around to constantly forgive after constantly fighting… someone they don’t trust… might have STDs any day… if that’s you then stay… if not then get off this sinking ship.
Good luck.
It sounds like you should’ve left him anyway. After 6 years y’all still can’t live together bc of all the red flags and fights?
Girl, let that man go. Ain’t worth your time or energy. He’s to damn old to not know better.
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he’s a loser. let him go.
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Got with ya head please HE WILL NOT CHANGE! also red flag demanding you to answer ya phone right away! X
Let him go, cut him off. You said yourself there are red flags and then he cheated. Think of the diseases you could get from him since he is a cheater.
A lot of red flags and you stayed 6 years? And he cheated? And you’re still questioning the relationship? 
I think you know what to do
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You’re already not living together bc of red flags and now you found out he cheated… end things with him and never look back. You should’ve left when you noticed the red flags.
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Do you want us to tell you to smooth it over and go out to dinner? 
ghost him. Not sure why you need validation. As you said the red flags are there. Be thankful you don’t live with him and aren’t married with a kid.
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Good luck
I’m going through the same thing
He’s 62 and she was 29, I’m giving him a chance but if it doesn’t work out I have back up plans and told him too
I’m probably being a fool but I love him more than any Man that has been in my life
I’m praying alot and asking God for wisdom and protection
If I wasn’t going through this My self
I would probably tell you to run for the hills but going through this puts a whole new prospective on it
Bottom line is how much are you willing to put up with,
Praying for you
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He will cheat again.
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You need to leave him.
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Walk away it will hurt like hell but you will heal with time he cheated once he will do it again
He’s there with her now and texting you for another chance! Now come on, burn his shit and block his number and move on
He won’t change either stay and put up with the cheating or move on someone else will come into your life and only want YOU
let him go not worth your time
I run as fast I could
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dump him he is a user
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Nope he’s a grown ass man.
Holy hell …6 years wasted…move on…
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Take a moment and read what you wrote, your answer is in your first sentence, bye bye
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You should’ve been gone. If red flags kept you from loving together, there’s your answer.
Personally, you should see a therapist and figure out why you stay with someone so unavailable and not able to commit.
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Get rid of him, he is a DOM once a cheat always a cheat, you deserve so much better
You deserve better and get rid of the cheating man ! Life is too short to dwell on this !
If there’s no ring on your finger, no kids, always red flags now I would leave ,
Leave …once a cheat, always a cheat
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Run as fast as you can!!!
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Don’t, he will do it again.
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Move on, you don’t deserve this, he’s not going to change.
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Respect and love. yourself enough to walk away! He’s not even taking responsibility for what he did and is lying to you. You don’t actually love “him” you love the persona he played to you. The real him is a cheater who didn’t respect nor love you. He didn’t love you enough to not play roulette with your health. He didn’t even respect you enough to not bring that crap to your job…. Why do you love him more than you do yourself?
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I would NOT ever put up with cheating, no matter the circumstances , as they mever change and you do not deserve that pain and misery! No man is worth it!
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First of all. You see the flags, you see the flags 
also you have been together for 6 years and don’t live together because he has trust issues 
and he’s in his 50s and cheating 
throw the whole “man” away… 
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Don’t take him back he is just going to cheat on you again with another young woman or one around both yours age
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Let him go…this is just the first time he’s got caught…not the first time he’s cheated.
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Leave his pedophile predator ass!!!
You know you need to start a new life without him. Life is too short to kept this type of unhealthy and unhappy life
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I would say he is old enough to know better!! Kick him to the curb…he will only do it again.
You say that he is 52??? This is no “BOYfriend”. If after 6 years there has been no commitment, and now he’s CHEATED on you—why are you wasting your time and mostly your feelings of hurt on this poor excuse for a man??? 
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Leave. Go be alone for awhile. You’ll need to get him out of your system and stay strong. You deserve better.
Once a chest ALWAYS a cheat
Uhh…leave him. You said there were red flags. The point of dating is to weed through the bad to find the good! Also all the breaking up and getting back together…it’s a sign that it isn’t working. Run, girl! Find someone who deserves you!’
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“I’ve been with my guy 6 years we are not living because a lot reasons ALOT red flags “ that right there speaks volumes.
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Absolutely not he sounds controlling and he’s a cheater and a liar!! Get rid of him quick!!!
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I hope you understand you are worthy of love and deserve someone who loves only you