My son is 10 and every now and again when he cant sleep or wakes in the middle of the night he crawls into our bed!! There is NOTHING wrong with it! Your bofriend is a piece of shit and should stay gone! Your son is 6 not 26 and even if he was screw what he has to think that is YOUR child! And your child feels safe and content near his momma! I woikd still climb into my moms bed and sleep next to her if I could! Shes my mom! The woman whos picked me up when I’ve gotten pushed down the woman ehos kepts me safe and warm my entire life!
Your boyfriend, He sounds like a disgusting mean human being
My kids stopped being in my bed at 6-9 months. 1 How do u keep them from falling off(even with a king size)? 2 im assuming u guys have sex in your beds…why would u want your kid rolling around in your filth? Idk just me maybe
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My son has his own room at 3.5, but he still climbs in bed with us halfway through the night. Sometimes it takes him laying down with me to get him to sleep. I have a king bed, my boyfriend my son and I, and one of my dogs all sleep in it. She watches over all of us.
My opinion hes six, I didn’t have my own bed till 15 almost 16. But due to monetary issues at the time. Give him his own bed, his own room. If he still wants to sleep sometimes, let him. If bf has issues, he needs to go. Son before bf.
Your son is 6. He needs to have his own bed and own room. But I still co sleep with all my kids when they want to sleep with me! Before you know it, they don’t want to even hold your hand or cuddle or sleep with you… Enjoy these moments… I don’t think your boyfriend understands, does he have any children of his own? I think Your boyfriend needs to back off a bit.
I don’t think it’s disgusting OR disturbing. It may be time, though, to start introducing him to his own bed. New bedding,a special movie together, a reward for 3 (4/5?) nights in a row that he’s in his own bed?
I tried sleeping with her, but she’s a bed hog, so I don’t sleep with her lol
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Not that it’s weird, but i wouldn’t
My daughter just stopped co-sleeping with me and she’s 12 lol- little for such a short time ! Love snuggling with my babies… although it wasn’t like we’d get ready for bed and say “come on let’s go” it’s more like … we’d snuggle on the couch and fall asleep watching something together-
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Only in America is it weird that children co sleep with their parents, fuck that dude, excuse my language but it sounds like you abd your son are better off with out him. My little who is 4 can co sleep ad long as she feels she needs to, my husband has no issue with this. Stand your ground momma!
IMO he needs to be in his own bed. You can still be close and not sleep together. Get him his own bed and lay down with him until he falls asleep. That’s what I did with my daughter. And I’d say your bf is wanting to spend some private time in the bed with you but can’t because your kid is in the bed.
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My friend still allows her 2 year old to sleep in her bed. I’ve told her that she needs to put a stop to it before thinking of having a guy move in with her because they he isnt his kids and shouldn’t be sharing a bed with them. it’s not his kid, so why would you want them sharing a bed in the first place.
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Your boyfriend is a jerk, but your son should be sleeping in his own bed by now.
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While I think that your son is old enough to be in his own bed, that is your choice. However, this “man” that is your boyfriend, needs to go. There are better ways to approach the subject, but to bully you and a child is not appropriate. He is supposed to love you, and love should not belittle, berate, or hurt. Show him the door now.
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First made it 18 mths… Second child 5 months. Started off same rooms diff beds than eventually into their own room.
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Wow he sounds like a keeper 
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I co sleep with my 6 year old. They are young for a few years only and might as well cuddle till then.
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There’s nothing wrong with sleeping with your kids just let him know that you have a special bond with him 
He is an ass! My daughter is 11 and we have a pull out twin bed,she sleeps on top and I on the bottom.we have slept together all her life.my husband sleeps on a twin bed in the living room.he slept their because he thought he would roll over on baby and kill her !! We’re happy
He obviously isn’t ready to be in a relationship with some one that has a child.
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I just got my son out my bed when he turned 7 . He stayed in my room until two months ago . Now he is in his own room as I am expecting my other son in less than a month .
Never allowed my kids or grandkids to sleep with me I personally think it’s very dangerous for the baby
Just a guy’s point of view. If you’re allowing your boyfriend to sleep in your bed your son should probably have his own.
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Do NOT choose a man over your child !!!
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I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your 6 year old sleeping with you, but I don’t feel it’s right for him to be in bed with a man that is not his father. Your boyfriend is a dick though. You and your son both deserve better.
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Five year old sleeps with me … ditch that guy
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Get a bed for your son, teach him to be independent and have self confidence…you can still be close to him. Get rid of your boyfriend!
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Dump this guy. Seriously. Anyone that is this negative about you and your child needs to go. He won’t change and it will never get better. My boy is 6 and although he starts the night in his own bed, he always ends up at some point in my bed. In other cultures, co-sleeping is natural and normal. It seems only here we have this obsession with everyone sleeping in their own rooms/beds and judge each other and ourselves as bad parents or weirdos if we don’t.
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I don’t personally believe children belong in adults bed at night but not because it’s “weird” because that is the only place and time I get my own space. This is a personal decision and as his mother you have a right to sleep as you please. While I can sympathize with your boyfriend it probably feels weird for him to sleep in bed with a child that’s not his. You should do what feel right to you but I honestly believe it would be good for your son to be okay sleeping alone if that’s even possible at this point.
Each of my 3 kids have beds of their own and each of them have slept in their own beds for years…most of the time. However, there are nights that my 11 year old still climbs into bed with me. There are nights, especially movie nights on weekends or other special days where all 3 of my kids want to curl up with Mom and sleep and they are 11, 8, and 4. I cherish those nights when I get to have them lay on my shoulder and play with their hair. How long do we get to keep the youth and innocence of our kids? The time flies and if I enjoy them being close and they enjoy getting to sleep in mommy’s bed, it isn’t anyone’s business but mine! I’m telling you now chick, get rid of the boyfriend. If he’s making fun of not only you but your child, do you think that situation is going to get better over time!? I promise it never does. Someone else said it perfectly, if the bf is the one sexualizing an innocent bond between you and your son, then the bf is the sick one! Good luck…and listen to your instincts as a mom, they won’t fail you!
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I mean my oldest slept with me and his dad until he was about 5. He still sleeps with me sometimes when his dad is out of town and he’salmost 10🤷🏻♀️. It isn’t “disturbing” at all. I will say I don’t think I’d allow my children to sleep in the bed with a significant other that was not their father or at least had been apart of their life for longer than a few months.
I also don’t think he is wrong for wanting your son to be in his own bed. My husband dislikes our children sleeping with us and they dont sleep with us when he is home because that’s our time.
So I can understand that aspect too.
Also you shouldn’t feel bad about having your son sleep with you. You need to find a compromise with your significant other, or find someone who understands your child sleeps with you.
Been together 8 months but moved In a few months ago? Makes fun of your child and yourself? Sounds like he needs to find a new place to be a dick! Also, I feel like you should not have your child sleeping in the same bed as a new boyfriend.
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Both my sons slept in bed with me until they were 6
Get rid of his ass, my son is 8 and he will come into my room and sleep with me if he feels scared or just wants to be close to me. Please choose your baby over that man. He sounds like he doesn’t have kids to know what it’s like to have that bond
It’s time to cut the cord, on both of them.
Your kid shouldn’t be co-sleeping anymore, but your man shouldn’t be “disgusted”.
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Ur bf is saying it bluntly and rude…its not disgusting! he can say it in a nice way…but hes pissed so it comes out harsh!
But he has a point…ur son should not be in same bed…when ur in a relationship
Theres no privacy
No time for intimacy or sex becuz 6 yr old is interrupting any kind of bond
So hes super annoyed!
Every bf should accept ur child
But this is not about that…its bout him wanting privacy and attention from u
Lay down with ur son on his room…read a book then leave a night light. Hell be fine.
Respecting boundaries is ok
U guys went through trauma but now it’s time to not live in fear
U will have this problem with any bf u have
Example our son slept in his crib in our room birth till 2. Then we began with crib in his room…of course he still wanted to come in our room we snuggle then he goes back. At 2 1/2 yrs he feels totally comfortable in own room. We leave his door open with lite.
Hes independence helped achieve potty training and he does sneak in but we just tell him he can come in morning to lay down with me for lil bit.
My older kids climb in bed as well in morning. We dont co sleep with our newborn. It just helps to set those boundaries so that they know us parents need our own time as we r bff and love eachother we devote time that’s what keeps our relationship strong.
Plus it avoid restless sleep since kids move and kick and take the entire bed. I cant sleep at all and get overheated with them.
Ur bf feels left out
He should try to help u with this…its very hard to transition a child in own room
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Sounds like he’s jealous and immature. It isn’t going to get better so get rid of him now and save you and your son the heartache and emotional distress.
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I co-sleep with my 12 year old twin boys in a queen sized bed. Im a recovering addict and have been in and out of their lives the last 4 years. Co-sleeping gives them a sense of security that I’m not leaving while their asleep. Not that I did that or would do that, it helps. The sick ones will always make you feel awkward about shit like this. I still kiss them on the mouth too. I am their mother and I know there’s nothing but pure intentions. Do what makes you happy mama.
Disturbing no, my son is 5 and has never slept in my bed not a habit I wanted to start. And I think as a significant other I would find it very annoying however if he knew before he moved in 
that’s on him
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Yes i think its wrong for a boy to be sleeping with his mother at that age what will his friends a school think if they get to know it could be the start of bullying i understand the trouble you went through giving birth but now is the time to give him his own bed and as for your partner i think all he want is more sex without your son being there its jealousy on his part get rid of him or he might start picking on your son and making his life a misery good luck
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I wouldn’t say it’s disturbing so much as disrupting your relationship.
My son’s 3 & a half & sleeps in my bed, they grow up so quick need to make the most of it. I’ve always had him in my bed since birth.
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Don’t listen to them, Co sleeping is everyone’s
decision and it’s personal. They grow so fast, my sister sleeps with her 12 yr be old. I can’t say a word we are both single moms N I sleep with my 7yr old lil girl…p
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Kids should be in their own bed. Let go. Your not teaching independence but it’s you not the child who needs to sleep together. How can you have an adult relationship with a child in the bed .think about it. The boyfriend probably talk to you several times before getting disgusted by your hearing him and your need to have your son in your bed.
My son slept with me for awhile too when he was younger.
It’s no one’s business but your’s. He is your child. Tell that jealous boyfriend to hit the bricks. Boyfriends are temporary, a son is forever.
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Any and all psychologists will tell you it is wrong…on many levels for many future reasons! Ask for a counselling advice!
Our pediatrician is Armenian, they have what they call a family bed. A huge bed that if a child needs to sleep with the parents there is room for them. Those children grow up to be more confident and better well adjusted and they do not feel rejected by their parents. Bad enough people push their kids away from them and chose electronic devices over their children. Children need comfort from their parents. Otherwise they grow up to be cold and callous adults.
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No offence to your bf but this is your son, your world and you call the shots. In lots of cultures this normal. My sons are 14 and sometimes they fall asleep on my bed watching TV. Because they are conscious of what may be thought of this, they sleep with their own blankets on top of my covers. They end up moving because there isn’t any room for all of us and none of us get a good sleep. No matter they love it and do I. Our movie nights or binge watching are special bonding moments and memories.
Single moms have a close relationship with their sons often I am told. I know I do. If a person in your life can’t accept yours, you have the answer. It also is very insightful into his mind and outlook on life. Do you want that in your life?
under no circumstances should a mum be bringing a boyfriend into the bed with their child ! it’s not fair on the partner and it’s definitely not fair on the child!
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I’ve never co slept with my kids.
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There is nothing wrong with your son sleeping with you. Some children need the maternal bonding longer than others. My daughter slept with me and my husband until she was a teenager.
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My daughter did the same till 6 or 7 then went to her bed. My son does it when his dad is not home or is sick. But my 12 year old is in her room… we r trying to get him in his room next cause we hff ave a 2 year old. I believe it is a moms thing cause I did the same when my dad worked nights and I was scared.
First… The boyfriend is being immature about the situation. I sympathize deeply with having a close bond with your son especially after a scare (I also had one, I have half a heart, my son is my miracle) but I think at 6 years old he’s old enough to sleep on his own, it’s a hard transition to make and sometimes its harder for us mommas than it is the child(ren). My son (2 at the time) slept with me every night until the day my husband (not my sons dad) and I married. You’re not abandoning him by having him sleep on his own. He needs the independence and confidence. Like suggested previously, make it a project to do up his room the way he likes. Make it comfortable for him and good luck!
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My kids all sleep with me when my hubby works nights. All
My littles co slept with me until 4ish. They have their own beds but still come get in bed with me throughout the night. Your boyfriend is being immature by making fun of you. It might be time to transition your son to his own bed but that’s your call
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I have a 6 yr old that still sleeps with me most of the time. Daddy is over the road so it’s just little man and me quite a bit. He doesn’t sleep in the bed with us when my hubby is home. But I gotta say, my son was a preemie. I went home 108 nights without him while he was in the NICU. I personally don’t give a flip what anyone says. He’s my child. I’d say the same for you! 
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I’m a momma to 5. My kids range from 18 y/o to 2 y/o. You need to do what works for you and your son. Period. A serious line needs to be drawn with him making fun of your child. He’s taking on a parenting role, he needs to understand what that means. My 16 year old son still wants to spend the first night home from being away in my bed. Other than that he of course sleeps in his own room. My 18 year old has moved out, but would still nap with me on the couch. My 2 years olds end up in bed with me halfway through the night. My 13 year old only sleeps in his own bed. It’s up to my childern if they need the comfort of Momma being close on occasion. Before anyone says, “How can you have a relationship with your husband with kids in your bed…” We have 5 children… imagination.
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My son and I both teetered near death during delivery. He has NEVER slept with me. (I cuddled him in HIS bed during nightmares, but that’s it!)
I personally do not think it is healthy for him.
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My daughter is 6 and sleeps with me still. When my other half is home she sleeps in her bed he bought her… he is an offshore captain and is gone more than he is home… but sometimes when he is home both of our kids sleep with us…
My youngest son is 7. Most nights for he finds his way into our bed. I do not love navigating sleep with a 7 year old that sleeps without restraint… but I know one day he will not knock on my door at 12:30A to get into my bed, so I let him in now while he still wants to be comforted by the presence of his mother and father while he sleeps.
My daughter slept in a bassinet in my room till she was 3 mths old, then went to a crib in her own room. She never co-slept with us . She’d come in scared but I’d always go to her room and comfort her back to sleep . IMO time for his own bed
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I’ve never liked co sleeping and I have a 3/6 year old. I don’t mind for nightmares ect but our bed is our bed and I keep that space for us. Doesn’t mean he isn’t a family man it means he sets boundaries although he could do so less rudely. Personally I think even if it’s a mattress in your room you may want to start guiding him in the right direction to sleeping on his own. It’s not an easy process.
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My son is 11 and he still falls asleep with me more nights than not. He is very well adjusted, has tons of friends, is super independent. We just watch movies and the next thing you know, we are passed out lol. It’s ok mama, he will stop doing it when he wants to.
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The primary issue as it was stated isn’t your sleeping arrangement with your son. Your boyfriend has red flags all over the place. Consider the lack of healthy communication between you. You are modeling what relationships should look like for your son. This is more damaging potentially than him sleeping with you.
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If he is making fun of your son he got to go and being 6 is a little old but I know my grandkids sometimes sleep with me if they are scared so nothing wrong with it but ask your son if he is ready for his on bed you maybe surprised by what he says
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Mine is 22 and when she comes sleep in my bed whenever she feels like it. Any man that makes fun of your child needs to be kicked to the curb!!!
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My daughter use to sleep with me every once in a while but not every night. I don’t think every night is right the kids need to learn Independence and parents Ned their down times also but every once in a while it don’t hurt when their kids
I don’t find it disturbing, but you will have a better relationship with your mate. He needs his sleep too. And honestly alone time:woman_shrugging:t2: with your mate. Little hard if you have to 
because you don’t want your child to see.
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6 is way to old unless they come in your room after having a nightmare there’s no reason for this
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My little girl is 6 and she sneaks back to my room most every night…i would say find a new bf he’s not family material
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Our son never slept in our bed! In our room? Yes, until he was 2 and moved into a “big boy” bed.
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I almost died having my last son but he still slept in his own room. We did use a bassinet at the bedside the first month or two but that’s it.
I prefer to sleep comfortably instead of having to be cautious of my sleepwear with a child especially of the opposite sex.
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I guess my question would be, if the tables were turned, would you be uncomfortable sleeping with him and his child at that age if that was the situation? To make fun of you is wrong, I agree, however, I would be uncomfortable.
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I totally understand the closeness of you and your son however, it’s time to transition. My husband which is my son’s father would wait until our son was asleep then put him in his own bed. Then eventually he started going in his room when he got sleepy. This was age 5.
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My son is now 5 and he had 2 open heart surgeries. He has slept in the same bed as me for the longest time. He wanted his own bed and I still put that in our room. So I can keep a close eye on him. My husband doesn’t mind at all. Sometimes he tells our son to jump in and cuddle with mommy and daddy. My hubby works out of town often.
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There is no particular age. The sooner the better. For him and any future relationship. Cut the cord!!!
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My son is 10…yep still sleeps with momma when daddy works nights and on an inflatable when daddy is home. Pretty soon they all grow up and move away. You will miss those days
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I cannot make a judgement on this case…I did nurse both my kids do did have them in the bed for that. But was too nervous that I could roll over on them afterwards so always slept separate.
Lol …I Need My Space at night! The only one who could really sleep comfortably with me was my cat. I wish she was still around.
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It’s wrong for the boyfriend to make fun of you, and more so to say anything to your son. But you are largely to blame for this situation because you should have addressed this long before the boyfriend moved in. My son slept with me when I was a single Mom, up until my now husband of 18 years moved in with us. We talked about before he moved in, sat him down and talked with my son about his now step Dad moving in and the changes that would be happening. My husband (boyfriend then) went out and found a 2 bedroom apartment that we both liked and agreed upon, bought my son a new bedroom set before we moved in together. So that it was our new place for the 3 of us. I also laid with my son at first in his bed until he got used to the he transition. But I could understand my husband not wanting to share a bed, and have that newlywed stage with me.
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My 12 year old still sleeps with me! If he’s not in bed with me he is on a mattress in the floor! My son comes 1st! I understand where u r coming from because I almost lost my son when he was born. I have a special bond with him and he’s #1! I would have to say bye to the bf! I even told my hubby if he didn’t like it he could leave!
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Everyone has their own opinion on things. This is mine…
I made my son go to his own bed and im sorry for it now that he is older!!! They are only little once. My son is 12. There will come a day when he doesn’t want to be with you & doesn’t want to snuggle with his mama!! I say put him in his own bed but Cherish the moments when he comes to you to snuggle!! There is always a last time for it and it will make you feel happy that you had these moments!!
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I myself see that a child comes first before a significant other. But my children had and slept in there on bed since birth. To each there own I dont think a child should get used to sleeping in there parents bed if they are scared of the dark leave a light own if they get scared of the boogie man or something like that. Go to their bed hold them till they fall asleep and then you get up and go to your own bed. Those are just my thoughts and opinion.
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Kick his ass to the curb! You deserve someone who will stand beside you and with you, not against you. And his attitude is disturbing. It will only lead to more conflict and abuse. Please break it off.
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Anybody that makes you doubt your parenting choices needs to go! Period!
Kids are only little once. Ive co slept with all of mine. My youngest is 9.
While I do think it’s personal preference I would also say it’s getting close to time to have him make the transition to sleep on his own. I hav three boys myself. My youngest is nearly 7 and we recently stopped allowing him to climb in my bed to sleep
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My kids have all slept with me until about 10. My 6 year old son still shares my bed. Nothing wrong with that at all.
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Our daughter never slept in our bed. Sometimes she would come in the room while we were watching tv or reading and she would fall asleep, but when were ready to go to sleep one of us would carry her to her bed in her room. Six yrs of age is too old.
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Well my first son slept with us until he was 5 years old. That is up to you
Should not be sleeping with the boy friend.
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I didnt stop sleeping in my moms bed til I was 12 
im a mama’s girl! I dont see anything wrong with it, thats your child!
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My daughter is almost 8. She still co-sleeps occasionally with my husband and I. They are actually taking a nap and co sleeping right now. Sometimes our kiddos need that comfort, but it isn’t something I would allow on a constant basis, as adults need their time too.
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If he’s making fun of you… he’s got to go! As for the co-sleeping, I don’t think that kids should sleep with their parents. I don’t think it’s disturbing, I think each person should do what’s right for them. Kids do need to learn to sleep on their own and self-soothe. What you choose to do is completely up to you. I think your son should be sleeping by himself but I don’t live your life! Don’t let a guy make you feel bad for your choice as a mother, you don’t owe anyone an explanation!
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My daughter did until she was 10 years old
I am a grandma and yes I do believe your son should be in his own bed except during a bad storm or if he had a nightmare yes its time
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Dont let anyone make you feel bad for that. He’s your son, it’s your choice. You will decide when you’re ready
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He may have his opinions, but he sure isn’t communicating it to you in a helpful or loving manner. Sounds mean to make fun of yo my both. Sounds like he needs to hit the road. And your son should move to his bed when you’re both ready.
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Let’s focus on the part where u said he makes fun of you and your son for this…#boybye
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My kids are about 3 when we no longer let them sleep with us
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My kids never slept with us. Never had to break them of the habit either.
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