Your babies can sleep with you as long as it’s ok for the birth of you, they will naturally transition to their own rooms one day. They have all their lives to adult! If there is a choice the bf has to go. He clearly cant slot into your relationship that is existing with your son
Oh please. My son is almost five and is in our bed. He is our one and only
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My granddaughter always co slept with her mom and before I started raising her she wanted me to sleep in her bed with her, now she wants me to lay with her until she falls asleep but once in awhile she will ask me to sleep with her. I’m her security when she is scared or stressed out and she is 8.
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My little girl still sleeps with me most of the time I love snuggles
He’s 6. It’s time for his own bed.
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We are the only culture that has kids sleep in their own rooms. Even though my kids had their own rooms they were allowed to sleep in our bed whenever they needed to.
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Lol does the " boyfriend " do anything for you, being your house in all ,pay bills help out around the house
There is nothing wrong if it was occasional for a bad dream or something, but all the time is not good. He can suffer from seperation anxiety issue because of this. I do understand if you did not have a choice, but if you do he should be sleeping in his own bed. Your boyfriend is right however it is not disgusting just can cause anxiety issues the longer it goes on.
I would tell BF to hit the road!
He should have had his OWN bed at the very least 5 years ago. 6 years old is too OLD to still be in the same bed and room as you. I understand you both almost lost your lives, but you didn’t. It is time for him to grow up. Don’t be surprised if the BF calls child services on you for that.
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Our boys (twins) never really co-slept with us. We tried when they were little but i could never actually fall asleep. They have done great in their own beds. Now they’re 3 and usually climb in bed with us then when they fall asleep we move them to their beds. Sometimes they will wake up and crawl back in bed with us for a bit but not every night.
Get rid of the DB…and he’s making fun? Oh no honey. Hell to the no.
I don’t think your boyfriend is right to make fun of you, but I do see where he is coming from. To me 6 years old is a little too old to be sleeping in bed with mom. I stopped letting my older kids sleep all night in my bed around 4. Although, I got divorced in 2014, and there was a brief period where my daughter, son and me slept in the same bed. Once they were adjusted I got firm on them sleeping in their own rooms. I wanted them to be secure in their own beds before starting school.
I got remarried in 2018, and my older kids know they can come to us at any time during the night if they need anything (they are 11 and 9 now), but they do not sleep in bed with us since I find that it is inappropriate since my husband is not their biological father. We do have morning snuggles in our bed on the weekends though while everyone is waking up.
Our 9 month old does sleep in bed with us, and we will probably start transitioning him into his own bed when he is 2 or 3 years old. I am also pregnant again and we plan to make room in our bed for the new baby when it outgrows it’s bassinet.
(And to all you wondering how you can have a physical relationship if a child sleeps in bed with you, it is very possible. The bed is not the only place you can get intimate.)
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He can leave 
. My son sleeps with me. Granted he has epilepsy and we are waiting on his monitor but still he’s little. Your his mama. Do what’s right for you.
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I don’t think it’s right how hes handling the situation.
But I do agree that’s hes too old to sleep with you.
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I almost lost my son when he was born. Do not let anyone tell you that you are wrong for allowing your son to sleep with you. You will know when it is a good time for him to sleep in his own bed and anyone or any man that would try and cut you down for having a bond between you and your son isn’t worth wasting your time on. Because a great man would not have a issue.
everyone has different parenting skills.
I let my kids get in our bed whenever they wanted at night, my son at the age 15 would still crawl in bed with me and his dad on some mornings and my daughter who is 16 still does that to us. Never let any man ever make fun of your child bc when they are no longer around, your son will be.
My kids only slept with me for about 3 months
It is time to cut the cord momma. The only time we have ever had co sleeping was when they were sick and it was their bed. Your bf might be taking it a bit far but it does bother him and if you are going to make a life with him, his needs, as far as the laws of the Bible, do come first. Maybe when you were single that was ok but not when you are a couple.
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People in Mexico sleep with their children at all ages. In fact, my 14 year old will be sleeping in a bed with relatives when we visit this summer! It’s not an issue as long as nothing untoward is happening.
My kids never slept with me except if they were sick or my husband was gone. That should have been discussed before he moved in.
I co-slept with mind as infants, but I moved my kids to their own beds/rooms very early because I don’t sleep well with them there.
That said, there’s nothing wrong with it!
My oldest is 7 and still comes to sleep with us sometimes, if he needs to.
He’s probably the type that thinks breast feeding is disgusting (spoiler, it’s not).
The man is jealous he doesn’t get to be alone with you in bed.
I would completely draw the line at making fun of your child little alone you! That is a completely passive-aggressive move and a sign he has some clear maturity issues if not something worse. What a manipulative thing to do. Shame a child and his mother with your OPINION?!
The childhood stage of Autonomy is very important to becoming a healthy older child and adult. Autonomy means a lot more than simply growing up. It’s also having the self-confidence to do certain things and become independent, the ability to act and think for yourself.
I would transition your boyfriend to the road, but also start to move your son to his own bed. He needs to have his own space and independence as do you. Your boyfriend needs to get lost.
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My kids never slept with us.
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I remember being 13-14 sleeping in the same bed with my mom when my dad would be out of town. If I could I would do it all over again my mom lives 14 hours away from where I live and I love her
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My son is 10 and sleeps with me My husband works night shift and it makes me feel safe knowing if something happens I can get to him easier and faster Plus it gives him comfort
We have a crib connected to the bedside. But when my son needs to be soothed back to sleep, I’m there. Granted my SO is the father of my child but I kind of understand this. The dynamic is different now and it should be adjusted if needed. You know what you need for your family
We wait for them to stand up one day and they say naw im going to my bed… and they never cosleep again… about 5-8 yo it varies with our kids
I think your son is old enough to start sleeping in his own bed , Let him grow up , by letting him sleep with out mommie by his side.
Mine are 8 and I0 and they both still end up n my bed
my kids slept on their own since they were born and I had 5 kids, your bed is for you and a man not a kid
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I understand were you are coming from and were he coming from. But he needs to start to sleep in his bed. I understand if he’s sick or something. But he really needs to sleep in his ow. Bed.
My daughter slept with me til she was 12. You cant get that closeness back. Enjoy it and dont make anyone make u or ur child feel less than because of it
My 9 YO son and co-slept until a couple of years ago. And even now he still asks to snuggle and likes to sleep in my bed on the weekends. They grow up fast and there’s nothing wrong with it at all!! 
Boy bye! Do what’s best for you and your son. He can accept y’all the way y’all came or he can go!
I think u should watch out for boyfriend hurting your son he sounds jealous of him. N yes he should get use to his own bed. Just stay aware ok . His making fun of u both could b a red flag.
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Tell the boyfriend to go on down the road,.kids come first and there is nothing wrong with your child sleeping with you but if the bf is that uncomfortable sleeping with a child then something wrong with him and he shouldn’t be around your child, tell him to kick rocks!!!
BUT in all honesty 8 months is nowhere near long enough to be in a relationship and them done moved in on you and your kid!! BE CAREFUL
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My oldest slept with me until he was 3 but that’s because I didn’t have a man and it took forever to break that habit. My other 2 never sleeps in the bed with me unless they sneak in there while I’m sleeping.
It’s your choice!! My sons 2 sleep with me when there dad went out on the truck… when he came home they went to there own beds!! When boyfriend is there he should go to his own bed. Keep peace!!
Do what’s comfortable for you and your son . People will think they know what’s best for your comfort level . When u ready for him to sleep in his own bed and he is ready then make it your focus . Until then its irrelevant what your boyfriend thinks.
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My now 6 yr old son that we adopted still comes in when scared or sick and sleeps w my husband and I but fir most nights I lay down with him in his bed till he falls asleep.
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My kids never slept in the same bed as me unless they were sick. I’ve known friends who aloud their kids to sleep with them & it lasted untill the kid was 15 years old. If your single it’s no problem.
Most children (outside of the USA) sleep with their parents because it’s out of necessity… they simply don’t have the luxury of spare rooms for separate bedrooms. Those kids have turned out to be good human beings… Me included.
First y’all should of discussed the sleeping situation BEFORE he moved in… and if you didn’t agree or y’all couldn’t COMPROMISE then he shouldn’t of moved in… secondly do you think any man is gonna be okay with sleeping with you and your child that’s just silly… your son has to grow up and you have to let some attachments go eventually… it’s all about communication and obviously it’s lacking in your relationship
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It’s your kid not his he don’t have no right to say anything about him. He knew he slept in the bed with u b 4 he moved in I’m sure so it’s on him . If you decide to let your son sleep in another bad just get him a twin bed in your room so he can still be close to you. Just an idea
My son is 5 and still gets out of his bed and comes to our at about 3-4 am then he gets up at 7 so he’s in his bed most of the night. I think its your choice one day he won’t want/need momma to cuddle him anymore and you’ll miss it. I get teaching kids independence but there’s nothing wrong in holding on to those little bonds as long as you can.
My kids never slept with me
1…my kids didnt sleep in my bed.
2…about the time some “man child” made fun of my child sleeping with me he could be finding a new place to live!
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My husband son and I co-slept on and off since our son was born. He was mostly in our bed but he would sleep on his own mattress at the foot of our bed sometimes too. He turned 5 in November and is now exclusively in his own bedroom. I’m not saying it’s time for you but for us it definitely was.
My kids never slept with me, but as soon as a man started making fun of it, they could hit the road. Sounds like he had a traumatic entry to this world and you can raise YOUR child how you see fit. If you are ready to start him in his own room, get a toddler bed beside yours and start that way. Probably be less stressful for you both.
My son will be 5 soon and still sleeps with his father & I however if the man in bed with us wasn’t his father not sure I’d feel comfortable and would make the man sleep on the couch. 
First of all its your son and he is only the Boyfriend making fun of you guys. I’ll tell him to hit the road.
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U walking on thin ice…it might come down to bf or yo son.
I have a 4 year old, 7 year old and 9 year old. And they may start out in their own beds but they always wind up in mine. You are his security. And if some guy cant handle that and is insecure about it. He needs to be out of the picture or grow tf up
I’m with your boy friend on this one. Your 6-year old MUST be sleeping his own bed in his own bedroom. I raised 3 children and they were all sleeping in their own bed and in their own bedroom at 6-months of age.
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My son slept with me until I married my husband and then he went into his own bed and was just fine
My 10 year old still sleeps with me and my husband. Has since he was born. He does have a chronic medical condition, but even before that he was still sleeping with us. Your boyfriend doesn’t understand your parenting choice.
Our 6 1/2 year old sleeps with us still when his brother isn’t home. He actually just got a big boy bed in his room with his 8 1/2 year old brother and doesn’t mind sleeping in there if he’s home but some weekends when his brother is away, he still sleeps with us and my husband and I both LOVE it! 
My opinion and I really do hope I do not offend however, the guy has no place only being there a few months. I’m not against kids sleeping with parents it helps with emotional growth with both boys n girls. He is your son if you want him in your bed and or dont care if he wants to be there you do what you please accept or denie your son that night is your choice. The boyfriend has bo place to say anything unless you gave him that right verbally and you guys have some kind of agreement. Hes shouldn’t make fun of you guys for it a mother n child bond is stronger than any other bond in the world. He should respect the both of you and support both of your emotions. I would leave the boyfriend if he doesnt change or at least back up on the subject. The boy is only 6 and has only had the consistency of you. You are fine everyone parents differently but it dont sound like hes got kids nor wants them.
The age a child stops co-sleeping with a parent is the day that child id born. Get him his own bed, if he has a hard time leave him in your room and slowly move him to his own bed. Take him shopping let him help pick out his own bed.
My son was scared and so he slept in bed with us till he was about 10 or so and he on his own started sleeping in his room and in his bed.
Lose the boyfriend… love your son!!! Your son will move to his own bed when he feels he needs independence!!! Life is too short!
My oldest never slept in my bed. Never wanted to.
My youngest as a baby wouldn’t sleep anywhere else he is 7 now. He has his own bed. However he usually ends up.in mine. When hes ready to stay in his bed all.night he will. Until then I’m good with it and the husband doesn’t mind. Now if I had a boyfriend he’d have 0 say in the.matter.
I don’t think it’s disturbing as the boyfriend put it. However, it’s a habit that I refused to start with my kids as it’s a hard habit to break later and kids need to learn to have their own space. To each their own but I’m not a fan of co-sleeping. Again though, it ain’t all that dramatic as the boyfriend made it out to be…GEEZ! 
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I have a daughter from a previous marriage and he a son from a previous marriage. Neither of us was comfortable sleeping with the others child. My youngest daughter that we have together slept with us until she was 5. I decided then was time for her to be on her own to sleep. She has done great with it. It’s your child you wait until you think the child is ready. But the longer you wait the harder it is for both of you.
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My daughter slept with me until she was 10! My son has slept with me & my husband for the most part since he was born and he is now 4. Have a 1 month and haven’t got him in with us yet because he is up every 2 hours to nurse and don’t want to disturb my husbands and 4 yr olds sleep
My kids have never slept in my bed. Sharing a bed with you is fine but I do find it slightly disturbing that your son is sharing a bed with your boyfriend that you have been with for 8 months
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I personally don’t cosleep , my 2 kids haven’t since they were 3 months or so . I have multiple reasons for it but I don’t
They slept in their own rooms in their own beds.
I myself have never co slept with any of my kids and I have nothing against it but my question is, when you guys decided to live together and have him move in with you, did you make it known that you and your son co-sleep? If he didn’t know about it then I can understand the frustration, new relationship and all but on the other hand that doesn’t give him the right to make fun of you or your son because you parent your son the way you want to.
I think your boyfriend should have his own bed, he’d be much more comfortable and maybe then he would quit telling you how to bond with your child.
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He wants you all to himself and will never love your son, run and never look back. You deserve better 
You ask so I am going to give my opinion not really worth anything really, here goes. My boys never slept with my husband and I. We started out that way so it wasn’t ever a problem. To me your son sleeping with you is your business. My concern is bringing another man who is not his father into sleep in the same bed as he is. We can never be too careful of whom we bring into our homes, with our children, must less our beds. 
He should definitely be in his OWN room!!! I sympathize with the situation BUT he is 6!!! If you keep this up he will NEVER be independent enough to sleep in his own room and before you know it he will be 9-10-11 years old still wanting to sleep with mommy and that is NOT healthy or natural !!!
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How do you have a relationship, man and woman, with a child in the bed.
Don’t understand?
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Sure @#Bronson N , he is not a husband material at all, a real man has to find out how to make things work not to criticize
Wow… I feel so sad for some of you ladies children. :’(
Your boyfriend can move out. 
There are times my kids still sleep in bed with me. They are ages 9-14. I am their safe place! There is nothing disgusting about being a safe place for your kids.
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He ain’t no good 4 you kids come first.
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Your boyfriend sounds like a real piece of work! I would always choose my child over a man. Especially if he is making fun of me and my child! Good bye!
Hes right and it’s way past time…you need pastoral wisdom …b f notnimmature.hes confronting a mom who needs to grow up and quit babying that boy.good thing she doesn’t have but 1 child…omg…what if the b f had a daughter in his bed. Duh!
Get the man out not your son
Your not married to him and he has no right to make fun of you and if he is doing this now he is gonna be trouble
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Nothing wrong with it
how the boyfriend is speaking about the situation (disgusting… disturbing) doesn’t sound respectful and has me going 
Throw the whole man away.
You need a new bf. He shouldn’t be making fun of you. Now, that being said, 6 IS too old for him to be sleeping in the same bed. My younger sister STILL is letting her 10 y.o sleep in the same bed,& now he is telling people at school that he is sleeping with her. You don’t want that, unless you want CPS called on you.
You do what you think is right. Men may come and go but Your son is forever, but your time with him is not. They are only little for a short time.
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Number one I wouldn’t Allow him to sleep in bed with my son and I .
Just because one can never be too careful . You yourself are still
Getting to know him. Now this man is acting like a child the way he is making fun of you and your son . Up until that moment it has been you and your son . You are each other es safe place and if you think it’s yime for you to bring someone else in that’s ok . But you have to think about your child and yourself . If your child has noticed this man making fun of him and making him feel bad for it he will be hurt knowing or feeling this is why you are taking him out of your bed .
If you really wanted him to feel safe in his own bed prior to this there are steps you take .
If you feel this is the only thing that bothers you about this man have a conversation with him. Ask him and think on how you should go about things . This is your baby . Many of us have our opinions or say we would never or that’s too long but we’ve over done other things because our kids are our babies forever . Good luck love .
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When I got to “he makes fun of me and my son” I saw red! You do what’s best for you and your son. Sorry, but I think this guy is a jealous, selfish bit of trouble. It’s your life but if I were you he’d be gone before he causes real trouble between you and your son
My children never slept with me
It may be time to consult a professional about how to transition your son to his own bed and definitely time to not have the new man sleep over.
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I have 7 kids and all my kids have slept in my bed with me at some point. I’m not sure why you would put up with some loser making fun of you but especially your child. There’s no excuse for verbal abuse. No boyfriend of 8 months would be living in my house and treating my child like that. Give him the boot!! Women who ignore these warning signs end up with dead kids.
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An 8 year boy needs his OWN bed.
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Tell him to get to stepping no one should tell you what to do with your children
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My daughter sleeps in my bed sometimes and she’s 13!!! I think he’s jealous. The fact alone that he’s picking on you guys is ridiculous childish and just plain mean. If it bothers him that much he could have an adult conversation with you and figure out where to go from there… I think he’s a bit disturbing
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Both of my grandmothers had 10 kids & two parents sleeping in two beds. As the boys got older they slept on “pallets” closer to the stove. The older girls slept in bed with the older “babies” with the younger ones with the parents to be die they stayed warm throughout the night as the stove cooled.
That was done in most families & NO ONE had to worry about anything"weird." As a small child we had one bed, a hide-a-bed sofa, so I slept with my parents. When I stayed with my grandparents, I slept in their bed.
Our kids each had their own beds. HOWEVER, during a bad storm, it was common for all five of the younger ones to sleep in our room, the youngest three in our bed. A sick child slept with me so I could feel their temperature or hear them have. If they needed extra comfort, they’d sleep on our arms, snuggled close.
Even our grandkids & great- grandkids have slept in our bed. Our 9 yr old granddaughter still sleeps on my bed, although grandpa sleeps downstairs then. She’s a snuggler & so am I. She snuggles on my arm as I gently “tickle-rub” her face.
So yes, he needs to adjust to his own bed, but if he needs the comfort of you being closer sometimes, give it to him!
But PLEASE, PLEASE send the boyfriend on his way!!!
I’m a couple months shy of 20 years married with 2 kids. Me and the wife have separate master bedrooms.
I enjoy the peace and freedom of having my own room, shower, bathroom, surround sound, video games, guns, etc.
That being said, my children slept with my wife when I was overseas. Eventually they moved to bedrooms. I think a mother’s bond can be very strong with her children.
One thing I learned over time. Never fuck with a mother’s bond to her child. Not emotionally, physically, or verbally. A good mother will choose her children over her man.
The son is fine. And make the bf put a ring on it, before sharing a bed with him again.
The only time that my daughters Sleep in the same bed with me was when they were sick but as baby they Slept in the crib in the Room with me