Sorry to say my kids never ever slept with me . That’s what cribs are for to me that’s just been lazy get up and check on your kids. That is a bad habit . And that’s not because I didn’t love them that kept them safe and their own bed.
You probably need to consider, are you doing it for the childs personal security or yours. My kids never slept in my bed, they need to learn independence.
What’s most disturbing is that he’s ONLY your boyfriend and already trying to tell you what to do with YOUR son. Be happy he’s gone!!! The signs already show he wouldn’t have stuck around long.
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My children only slept with us when they were sick and I needed to keep a close eye on them. Cosleeping is not healthy for a child. You need to have your son transition to his own room. There are many many ways you can remain close to your son.
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I say tell the boyfriend to get lost. If it make you feel any better my eleven year old still doesn’t sleep in his own bed my husband and I take turns sleeping with him. He is our last baby and before long he will be all grown up and moving out. 
I don’t care what people think. I do what I think is right for my family.
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What stands out for me is that your boyfriend was making fun of you and your 6 year old child. Bye guy.
The boy is sleeping in your bed because YOU want him to…not because he needs to. You should get him in his own bed. He’s got things like sleepovers and summer camp in the near future. Learn to let go now so he can when he needs to. It will only be harder for him later.
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Me my brother and my sister slept in the middle of our parents for a while. Me until I was 9, my sister until she was 11, and my brother until he was 13. They are like 30 now with their own kids. Their kids sleep in the bed with them and their spouses. It’s like for comfort and security. We are all mamas babies.
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Sleeping with parents , shouldn’t become habit, but this man shouldn’t make fun of you or your child, red flag in my book, it is time to probably transition your son to his own bed, but there will still be times when a little common sense comes into play, thunderstorms, real bad dreams, and knowing when he just is playing you!! The boyfriend comes last , child first sorry!!
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I think at 6 he definitely should not be sleeping with you and your boyfriend but equally disturbing that your boyfriend said it was disgusting. Sounds a little resentful to me. Just my .02.
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Our sons both slept with us on and off when they were sick or under special circumstances (away from home and afraid) but its not a healthy relationship for a child to be that stuck to a parent.
I think the boyfriend is the problem here… you are doing NOTHING wrong! Keep the kid… replace the tool who thinks it’s ok to make fun of you and your son… that is abusive
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He has no place to say shit. My daughter is 6 and sometimes sleeps with me she used to always sleep with me. I have an 11month old who also is in my bed.
I should also mention my sons father isnt my daughters.
I’d tell that guy to get out
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So the making fun part is wrong, but so is having a 6 year old sleep with you. Your son is old enough (past old enough) for his own bed. I wouldn’t be comfortable sharing a bed with a child that age. Another issue is why is this guy moving in with you after only a few months?
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Screw him… I like my kids sleeping with me… it makes them feel safe and secure as it does me… that man sounds like a selfish, childish dependent…
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Bf got to go. The reason he think it’s sick. Probably got his mind in wrong place. Maybe he not trust worthy.
My baby had a serious health scare at a few days old. She slept in a bassinet beside me until she outgrew it and then she went to get bed in her room. My personal opinion is that everyone needs their own space. The longer he is in your bed the harder it will be to transition him. That all being said he comes before the boyfriend.
Well if he made fun of you for your bond with your son then he shouldnt have a place in your world. On another note, I agree six is too old to sleep in your bed. He needs to learn to sleep on his own. It creates his independence as a boy. The bond can still be just as strong without sharing a bed. A bond is in the heart, not in the physical environment
My son was 18 months old. My first child was stillborn so I was (and still am) very protective of him. As far as the boyfriend goes he sounds pretty jealous of the closeness you have with your son. Tell him to kick rocks
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You said he left you this morning, that was a blessing in disguise,. Leave him gone. His opinion on how you parent your child was overstepping boundaries.
You are mom, and where he sleeps is up to you. Kick the guy to the curb. He’s just ticked because he can’t grab all over you when he wants. His reasons are selfish and have nothing to do with your sons well being. Bye Felicia!!!
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Letting your child sleep with ypu on acregular basis is never a good idea . i understand that you have your reason for wishing to do so but , your son needs independence and so do you i do not blame the boyfriend for not being on board with it . it kinda cramps his libido . how would you feel if you were with a guy that you were really into and he had his kid in his bed ? Is your son sleeping with you benefiting you or your son .? He needs his own autonomy . cut the apron strings mom . fix him up a room make a big deal about it . lat him pick out. The theme maybe paint colors . now your a big boy with your very own room .
I have two kids 4 and 8 month old, both are with me. I don’t see them moving our any time soon. But that just me! They are with you for a couple years, soon they will grow and have their own lives. Whilst they need you make the most of it.
Do not feel bad, Co sleeping creates closeness with your kids. They feel like a place of comfort and strength
I don’t think he should be sleeping in the bed with u and your bf. And hea 6 years old now hes going to be hard to stop him unless u start it now. Also u will never a relationship like that with your son in your bed . I hope this helps a little
Your son needs his own bed and you need to let go a bit!
My oldest co-slept with my until he was 6 but as soon as we (myexbf) made plans to move him in we encouraged him to move into his own room.
Kid should start sleeping in his own room.
I mean I understand why your boyfriend may not love sleeping with a 6 year old… its kid of rough on a relationship. But also he isnt a dad a doesn’t understand. You do whatever is best for your son and evaluate if this man is family material or not.
I don’t agree with Co-sleeping. Kids need to learn to sleep on their own. I also believe your bed is a space for you and your partner.
But I also don’t agree with your boyfriend making fun of you and your son.
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This boyfriend needs to go! My kids never slept with me but your son comes first ALWAYS. He is disrespecting you and your choices. This will only get worse. He could start taking it out on the boy. OUT with the boyfriend!
Well you can’t really have someone move in with you and continue to have your son sleep with you. Because then what’s the point? I get having a close bond with your child. I’m the same with my youngest (he’s 5) I let him fall asleep in our bed, but move him to his own once he’s sound asleep. We get our snuggle time yet my husband isn’t feeling left out and sleeping on the couch.
I dont have kids but i stopped sleeping in my mom and dads bed (as well as my sister) when i started 7th grade bc i was terrified of the dark. I dont think you did anything wrong and if that dude loved you he wouldve understood
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My oldest daughter slept with me till she was 11 years old. DO NOT LET THAT MAN BACK IN YOUR LIFE. Every child is different and some are more insecure than others. Only abusive, jealous, and controlling men would make fun of you and your son. My youngest is almost 7 and still sleeps with us part time. We started out with sleeping in her own bed for school/work days then sleeping with dad and I on days off.
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Hes your kid. Do what your heart tells you.
I was one that never let our kids sleep in our bed. If they needed snuggling I went to their bed.
Each parent is different. As long as n9 sex is invovled and no harm to anybody, whats the big deal.
The fact that he is mocking you and the child he has to go. He is not giving you the respect as a mother to make the decision. I stopped co sleeping at 4 completely but everyone is different. I had a scare as well where I almost died during birth and then a month later my daughter got very sick and it was scary so I know it’s hard. But if you do it do it for you and no one else and let that guy go
SIDDS foundation recommends that under the age of 12 months, there should be absolutely no bed-sharing. The AAP updated their sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) guidelines in 2016 to recommend room-sharing for the baby’s first year, but to avoid bed-sharing due to accidental suffocation risks.
A six year old should be sleeping in their own bed.The boyfriend should definitely not be sleeping in the same bed as you and your son.If you are going to continue sleeping with your son send the boyfriend home at night.This is dysfunctional behavior.
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Well I’ve had six children only time my children ever slept with me ,when they were sick otherwise since the day they were born they went from a bassinet to crib to their own bed but what you need to look for is when that boyfriend of yours said how disgusting and wrong and he made fun of you that should tell you what kind of boyfriend you have
Your child comes first. You said boyfriend, not husband. Boyfriend has nothing to say. Till he becomes husband. Even then your child comes first.
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My daughter is 6, she still sleeps with me. Always have and I’m not pushing her out anytime soon. It’s not only a comfort thing for her, but also for me. I get no sleep
If she is not beside me
My daughter is 7 years old. She used to sleep with me from age 1 to 5 years old. She loves being a big girl and having her own room and bed to sleep in we cuddle together and read a story and when she falls asleep I leave her in her room.
She is welcome anytime to sleep with me. As for this boyfriend of yours HES AN ASSHOLE!! not his kid not his place to say anything!! Kick him out and focus on your kid!!
I met my husband when my daughter was 3. I laid with her until she fell asleep every night until she was 11. Some nights she slept in my bed. She’s 16 and sometimes she still gets in my bed. I told him when we first started dating that I only have her 18 years and that until she was good with sleeping alone I’d always lay down with her. In fact I told him if ever made to choose in any circumstance I’d choose her. He’s never once questioned that and we have an awesome marriage. Don’t you let that man make you change your relationship with your son. You only have them little for a little while. 
My 7 year old and 6 year old occassionally still sleep in bed with their dad and I. Your boyfriends the weird one for thinking it’s weird. Your boyfriend can kick rocks and get moving back out if he cant respect you and your son.
Ya that to me is a red flag. If he is using the word disturbing. Children should try to sleep on their bed as soon as possible if you have two parents in the room due privacy reasons. I would only find a mate in church and watch those red flags. Good luck out there.
Drop the dude for making fun but it is time for your son to sleep on his own bed, in his own room
At some point he needs to sleep on his own bed and make.time for yourself and a relationship… there are other ways you can have a bond with him than sleeping in the same bed…
Your son needed his own bed about 5 years ago. You are teaching him to be totally dependent on his mother. At what age are you willing to let him be a child and not a baby?
Until
Someone is a parent they will never understand it if you and your boyfriend are serious and he spends the night your son belongs in his own room
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My kids still sneak in bed with me and as soon as my older ones wake up they crawl in bed with me. Its where they feel safe and loved. My husband never once has had an issue with this as our 7 year old daughter knows mom sleeps hard so she sneaks in our bed middle of the night on my side lol. I love that my kids are close to me and we share a bond. If this guy has issues with this then he has jealousy issues period. Nothing wrong with a kid sleeping with their mom
Think about protecting your son. There are some sick people out there. Children should not be sleeping with adults, especially one who is not their father.
Personally, it sounds to me like the boyfriend is having some issues with jealousy. On another note, my daughter is 10 & still sleeps with me. She was doing fine last year in her own room, but then her father passed away suddenly, & I started letting her come back to my room… she NEEDED to be there with me, & I needed her. She occasionally sleeps in her room, & sometimes she’ll sleep on the couch, sometimes she sleeps with me. I feel like I’d rather her get a good nights sleep versus her being upset.
I would be more concerned about how your boyfriend is communicating with you than you and your child co-sleeping. If your son witnesses how your boyfriend speaks to you, that’s a much more negative impact on shaping your son’s personality and future relationships than co sleeping with you. I was a single mom for 10 years. We co slept until he made the choice he was ready to sleep on his own. He’s 13 now and still climbs up between my husband and me when he needs (as well as my 10 year old stepson) comfort from us. My husband has NEVER complained (aside from being sore because my son and his son are restless sleepers and we get the crap kicked out of us, lol).
Sleeping situation aside, if a man makes fun or shames you or your son, he needs to go! I don’t care what the rest of the story is. That situation is already ridiculous!
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I say get a new boyfriend, kids always come first. All of mine have slept with me and all chose to sleep in their own beds around 8.
I work overnights and only have 2 nights off where i sleep at night…both my kids have a night where they get to sleep with their mommy and they are 5 and 7. There is nothing wrong with that…buy ur boyfriend a dog bed
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Its a personal choice that mothers make… if you are comfortable with letting your son sleep in your bed…cant see the problem… could it be your boyfriend is a bit put out with it…mayby slightly jealous of the bond…ye both share…ask your son would he like to sleep in his own room…and see what he says…
My daughter slept in my bed until she was 5, and then would occasionally sneak into bed until she was 12. She always crawled into bed on my side. My son (who is now 2) sleeps with my husband and I. He wants him in his room, (even though it’s his fault he co-sleeps). Once my son is ready, I’ll move him to his room. My pediatrician doesn’t have an issue with it, she did the same with her twins until they were 4. You do you, and tell your “boyfriend” to hit the road. He is not the father and has no right, especially this early on, to interject in your parenting.
He was wrong to make fun. However, your son also should have his own bed.
AMERICANS HAVE MADE IT WEIRD! Many other countries co sleep and it’s all they do. Your boyfriend needs to be gone. No one is worth keeping that is making fun of you or your child!!! Oh we co sleep too lol “gasp” and my daughters older than your son. For those saying sharing the bed is horrible and bad for marriage, is at night the only time you have relations with your hubby? That seems boring to me. 
oh and…Yes my daughter has her own room and own canopy bed.
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Think it time for him to get used to sleeping in his own bed.
But get rid of the boyfriend. Any man that makes fun of your child is No Good!!!
The reason your bf has something to say about it is because he wants more than just sleep, and he can’t do that with a kid in the bed. I have 2 kids and they never slept in my and my husband’s bed. Only time was when I was breastfeeding and was too tired to stay awake. They have always slept in their own beds. My MIL always said don’t start that co sleeping because it will never end. and I stuck to that,. Now what you choose to do is your own business, but it sounds to me that your child sleeps with you more for YOUR piece of mind and not his, Need to end this habit because you will never have a successful relationship until it does, Now the bf’s behavior is another story, but YOU need to at least try to stop the co sleeping and try to make a go of this relationship and if he still acts like a pussy then show him the door.
Once in awhile one of the girls will come & sleep in the bed and my husband doesn’t even worry about as ling as he has a blanket over him. He doesn’t understand at all.
He shouldn’t make fun. That is not nice. He probably wants to have a nice, adult relationship with you. Its impossible with a child in your bed. My opinion, 6 is way to old to still be in your bed. My first stayed until she was 3. Then my second never co slept at all. Now we have another baby, 10 months that ends up in bed halfway through the night. Its ok to co sleep but you have to teach them to be a little independent too. Otherwise they won’t be able to cope with learning how to take care of themselves… i think its time for his own bed. If not, there is no point in you starting a relationship with a man because you are not making any room for this man in your life. They will all feel the same way. Thats just my opinion lol 
Mom you do what is right for you and your son, boyfriends come and go. My granddaughter slept with us till she was almost 9, she always had her room but she was ready when she was ready. Bye bye to any one who makes fun of my kid.
My son is almost 4 and sleeps in bed with me and my husband. I was in the same situation and almost lost him and myself. Our bond is different.
Your boyfriend should respect that or let him go
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My kids very rarely ever slept in the same bed with me. You need to tell the boyfriend it isn’t going to work out and get him out then work on moving your son to his own bed.
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Wow… as judgmental as I’m sure this sounds… let’s start with your boyfriend moving in with you and your SON:exploding_head: 1. Why 2. WTH 3. 8 mos… moved in 2 mos ago… I just can’t with some of you people. 
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My son is 6 almost 7. I enjoy snuggling with him before bed but I definitely push for him to go to his own room but he is often back over a fre nights a week. Sometimes I let it go but usually I carry him back to his room once hes back asleep. The only real “problem” I see is him making fun of you and you guys not having this conversation earlier. He is your boyfriend and not your husband which means he should not come above your kids for any reason but the fact he is living in your house does change things. You need to consider maybe it makes him uncomfortable and he doesn’t know how to address it? Honestly and communicating go a long way. This is a face to face conversation not a Facebook one
Problem #1 8 months and you moved him in .
Our 3,5 and 8yr old only sleep in our bed if they become sick or thunderstorm I think it makes it harder for kids and even parents to grow and be independent
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Not at all what’s disrespectful and disturbing is his thoughts and words he not worth it a man would understand and give u time to do what u have to for ur kids
My thoughts are that this relationship will turn abusive for you especially if he has contempt for you already (making fun of you and your son is a red flag he’s lost respect). The right guy would sleep on the sofa for years while you and your son adjust to the relationship slowly working his way into the family. But you know this. You know you have to break up. That’s why your asking our permission.
It’s not disgusting… however I could see it starting to take a toll on a relationship… but def not disgusting, that’s your son.
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Honestly I think it’s the boyfriend with the issue.
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I have more of a problem that you are allowing your 6 year old son sleep in a bed with you and you bf
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Frankly get a new boyfriend. However there does come a time when you both have to sleep separately. I get it, I struggle with sleep without one of our kids in bed with me, but its healthy for him to have his own bed, his own space to sleep. Not saying its unhealthy for him to sleep by you, just its healthy for him to have his own physical space. The boyfriend sounds like a jerk and a bully
- You should have never invited another man to live with you if you still have your son sleeping with you. 1. Addressing the sleeping issues now is seriously going to cause adjustment problems with the son. 2. My baby basically slept with me until she was around 4 months. I know this ancient practice of cohabitating in sleeping quarters was common. I can see you doing this with him until he was able to sleep in a regular bed but now at 6, it is awkward. Your problem is the age of your son and your beliefs vs. what someone who does not have your same outlook on it. IMO it is beyond acceptable for a 6-year-old to sleep with a parent. A healthy space between a parent and a child is very normal. Either you move your son out of your bed or you will lose your boyfriend. Also, I think you already know the answer your waiting for others to agree with you. I’m surprised no one has called you on that. If you had to get on facebook and be told your situation is not normal and that your son is too old and your boyfriend called you on it…Then here’s your sign…
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Your son is still going to be your son long after that boyfriend. Do what you want momma.
This is just my opinion but why would you move a man into your bed that isn’t your child’s father and expect him to be ok with sleeping with a child that he had only known for 8 months? I get his uncomfortableness in the situation. You said he left you saying it was disgusting, I find it hard to believe there wasn’t calm conversation about this and given that it has been two months it would seem he gave you ample time to transition or Atleast try to transition your son out of your bed. I think he may have tried to use humor to lighten the tension and you took offense. He lashed out bc he obviously wanted to be a part of yalls lives but felt that you couldn’t respect him enough to allow him to sleep in a bed with you ALONE. My husband adopted my older two girls before we had a child together. Yes sometimes when my husband works night shift my girls sleep with me and when they were little and sick they slept with both us. However that took time and was rare. And thinking back to our first year together I can’t tell you the times we had relations in the middle of night bc one of us woke up or first thing in the morning before work… it’s just the excitement of the new relationship. I seriously doubt my husband and I would have had those fun times had there been a child in the bed every night … imagination sure! But I’m not headed to bathroom or living room for a quickie bc my child is in my bed. You want this man to respect your relationship with your son but it doesn’t sound like you respected your relationship with HIM.
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You aren’t doing anything wrong love, but your boyfriend is WAY out of line! Please think about you and your son now, do y’all really need someone that acts that ugly in y’alls life?!
Your love for the child is more important than a man who makes fun of any one. Immature isn’t what you want in a man unless you want to raise 2 kids!
I can see where the BF is coming from. It’s a little weird at that age.
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6 years old is way to old to still be sleeping with mom he should be in his own bed in his own room.
He should’ve had/been sleeping in his own bed at least 5 years ago!!!
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They grow up so fast. Don’t let anyone tell you how to raise your kids. You do what you feel is right for you and for them. A man will never come before my kids. My kids will always come first. My husband and I have been married for 25 years, our boys are 23 & 24 and are wonderful boys and we have a great relationship with them and with each other. They slept with us until they were around 11. Btw you can find another bf, but your kids are forever!!
6 yo. I told my son it’s time to go to your own room. (Husband works graveyard) and he just took his pillow and left. Easy😂
6 is a little extreme but I’m not here to hate on you girl if I almost lost my life giving birth to my son I don’t think I could ever let him leave my sight “being the overly possessive mom I am” but if it’s affecting your relationship you may need to re think co sleeping he’ll be older soon.
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I’d tell the boyfriend to move out. He’s obviously jealous of your son & will probably get worse whether your son moves into his own bed or not. His behavior is a giant Red Flag in my opinion.
My wonderful husband was abused & beaten on a nearly daily basis by a jealous stepdad when his mother was at work. He never said a word to her for the entire 10 years of the marriage. I was the first one he told at 17 years old & it broke my heart for him. He said, " I remember thinking to myself that I will NEVER treat my family that way", And he never did. We have 4 children & 12 grandchildren that he’s gentle & loving with.
Not to be rude or anything but . . . GOOD RIDDANCE to that guy. Your child should always matter more than ANY ‘boyfriend’, especially one that makes fun of your son. That being said, my kids went from their crib to their own beds, but often would come back to our bed. They finally outgrew it. Your son is hearing and watching EVERYTHING; make sure you and whoever is in your life are setting a good example for him.
He isn’t his father so he shouldn’t be sleeping in bed with him. Your son should be in his own bed in his own bedroom if possible. At least in a toddler bed in same room next to you at first.
My daughter is 6 years old and has a heart condition and sleeps with us as well as my 8 yr old son when he feels lonely which we allow so he doesn’t feel jealous, your children come first if he doesn’t understand the bond and has to make fun of it then he should go sleep in the couch. Children need to be nurtured and it takes time for them to heal if they went through a tragedy. Your bf should learn to have patience.
I let my children co-sleep with us until around age 8. They lose interest eventually. I would get rid of the other person in your bed, not your son! On the other hand, maybe you should put off dating or letting guys move in until your son is a little older
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Children should be able to sleep in there own bed as young as 1yrs old it’s not right to have them sleep in the same room if you have a partner sleeping in the same Room too; There’s Time when you need Privacy for you and a Partner Unless you Think it Will Be Platonic!
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The problem is not that your son still sleeps in the bed with you. The problem is you allowing a grown man to make fun of YOUR child for something he has no control over (you control wether he sleeps in your bed or not him). That is your child. When he moves to a separate bed is up to you. And I’d be damned if a grown man lived in my house and made fun of my child. That is your flesh and blood, the boyfriend is (possibly) a blip in your life. You need to make that known immediately.
My grandkids are 2 and 6 months and sleep in their own bed.
Maybe your bf is trying to toughen your son up. Three is definitely a crowd in bed and a bit creepy as well.
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Infants especially should NEVER sleep with an adult! Haven’t you heard all the statistics on babies being rolled on in the night and smothered? You can certainly have a close bond with your son WITHOUT sleeping with him. Sexual feelings towards you could start at this age and he’ll get SO confused. Move him out now. He’ll protest, but stand firm!
My 14, almost 15 year old niece will still sleep in the bed with me 
. Guy sounds stupid tbh. Hes not family material but, you need to have your son in his own room, because really, thags not healthy for him nor future relationships for yourself. Some nights it’s okay, I get it, but to just sleep in your bed every night how do you even have a sex life? My son is 3 and got kicked out of our bed at 2 because I couldnt deal with it anymore.
Parent of 29 yrs, I’m not going to agree with the BF’s way of expressing his views, HOWEVER I’m in total agreement that the child shouldn’t be co sleeping with the two of you. JMO the child should have been in his own bed/room some time ago. NO Normal Man would be OK with it, and if they are thats a HUGE Red Flag.
In my state we’re not allowed to cosleep… A parents bedroom is supposed to be private it’s inappropriate for the child to be in the bed now if they’re sick or it’s movie night then that’s different but every night can put a strain on your relationship
4 kids and the last one slept in our bed with us until 6 then he would fall asleep with me and my husband moved him to his room where he slept the rest of the night. He quit falling asleep in our bed around 8 when my husband started waking him to walk to his own room because he was to big to carry. He is a well adjusted 21 year old now with no problems.
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