Nah heres Whats up: He has a rotten dick and now when you get what hes got , that mf gunna blame it on you and spread lies around town I had an ex like that he fucked my friend who everyone knew had shit and then i magically ended up with it and all they could say is it came from me. Throw the whole dude away 
Bring that up right after having sex makes me think that he has something and isnāt a telling you. Go get tested. I have a feeling if something comes up on that test heās gonna blame you and say you gave it to him. You both should have gotten tested before having sex. And if the birth control your on makes you depressed- talk to your doctor about different birth control options/hormone types or hormonesless to see if that may help
Thatās strange. I would ask him to come with you so you both can be tested. It may be nothing but itās so common for people to deflect. He may have an STD and is going to claim you gave it to him. Honestly neither of you should be having unprotected sex until youāve had at least 2 clean std tests. Not doing so is how STDs are spread.
Oh no, this sounds like hes got an std. .
Yall please have the people you are interested in having sex with get tested before having intercourse.
Stay on your birth control. Jeeze I donāt blame him for being worried about getting you knocked upā¦
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Gurl he already has an std. Heās gonna pin it on you
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Maybe he has oneš¤·āāļø
Go for a test and then always make sure to use a condom when you both have sex 
Maaaan make him get testedā¦maybe both of yall should
Umm thatās weird! Iād be going and getting an STI tests. If heās so worried why wouldnāt he have said this before sex and you both get tested or use condoms. If birth control is rough on you I donāt think thatās a good idea what has your ob/ gyno said about that?. Something is seriously up with thisā¦
If heās not wearing a condom heās not that worried about stds or pregnancy happening.
Heās that worried yāall would have been tested before have that kind of relationship together!
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Who he be messing with if heās so worried about an STD
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Why would you have sexwith someone like this. Stop. Respect yourself more than that
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Also you can absolutely get pregnant from the pull out method so be smarter than that. You can and will get pregnant from PRE stuff. Heās being responsible there.
Thatās respectable. Just go with the flow. What heās doing is positive.
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You should both get STD tested to help with this situation
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heās gonna give you an std and blame it on you
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Well, both of you get tested then to ease his mind. If pills depress you. You can use various other form of contraceptives.
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Make him go back to condoms until he gets tested
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I wouldnāt ruin my mental health for anyoneā:woman_shrugging:t2:
but if he is that worried then he needs to keep his stick to himself.
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I think that is responsible. Both of you should get a full std check and you can share your results so you both know you are clear. If the pill causes issues you could try other options like the IUD or rod
Run fast and go get tested
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Heās probably a little tripped out that you are so down to be unprotected and itās giving him red flags. I think itās normal. Nobody wanna have no disease from having sex. Why arenāt you even a little concerned? Maybe thatās what heās more concerned about.
Have you both been tested? If you are monogamous then tell him to shut it or leave him.
You being on birth control doesnāt prevent STDāsā¦ I sure hope you guys are using condomsā¦ even though those donāt preven STDās either.
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Itās normal, to have that talk. Both of you should go get tested at the same time and be done with it . Now days idk why people freak out over it. There is something wrong with a person if they arenāt worried about it
Todayās norm for smart adults is to have tests run. My fiancĆ©e didnāt hesitate when I myself called his doctor and made the appointment for his exam. I showed him my test results without worry and I seen his. Take the questions out of the conversation and clear that crap up right now. Plus, lots of STDs can be cleared up with a prescription. Address it now, so it doesnāt have to ever be a topic again. Problem solved.
Did you make HIM get checked?
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Get both of u test and when both negative u can tell him to get over it if he donāt then he is sleeping around and could give u one and blame on u so be careful
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My old bff had a dude exactly this way. He gave her numerous STDs and blamed herā¦
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Either he has an std already or heās just trying to be responsible.
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Go get checked! If heās feeling some way he may have more than just you as a partner
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You going on birth control wonāt prevent stds. Only condoms will. I wonder if this guy is cheating?
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NEVER sacrifice your health & wellbeing for a partner. NEVER.
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I would go get checked ASAP!! Both of yall need to get checked. I wouldnt do anything until he get checked and both of yall share results
Birth control isnt going to prevent an STDs. He needs to wrap it up, but it still isnt 100% effective.
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Heās got warts go get a std check
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Ummmm Iām on the fence because either he caught an std before or he has some form of OCD. Definitely just ask him why the std thing really freaks him out.
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Lol he got another girlfriend b4 uā¦ and that is his excuse so he doesnāt have to cheat
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Why risk depression for bc?? Your mental health is important too. The std thing, both of you get tested. Donāt sleep with other people . End discussion.
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Its normal at the start of a relationship but not months into it. He sounds shady. I would go get tested asap just for your peace.of mind
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Why not wear a condom to protect both of you from STDs? I know they arenāt 100% guaranteed to protect from pregnancy but some form of protection is better and more effective than none.
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He must not be that paranoid if he had sex with you. Kinda sounds like heās making excuses because heās guilty of something. You should definitely go get tested and not have sex again until he gets tested too
Get tests done and you both be sure.
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Sounds like that man has a guilty conscience lol make him go get tested asap. And you can do it together
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Heās clearly had one or still has oneā¦
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At least heās being safe 
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Iād make him go get tested.In fact,Iād tell him,letās go get tested together
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Iām a bit of a hypochondriac so Iām constantly worried about catching something from someone
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Could you possibly be having an odd smell of vagina ?? And he just does not know how to bring it up ort
You sure is isnāt already married or in another relationship?
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He thinks your sleeping with every guy you shake hands with and heās probably sleeping with every girl that will let him. You shouldnāt be having unperturbed sex with anyone your not in a searous long-term relationship with and you definitely should have been on birth control.
You didnāt use condoms? Other forms of bc doesnāt protect STDsā¦
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Have you been checked since youāve been together also are you both in a committed relationship? Not judging but stds arenāt a joke. I remember freaking out after having rub raw on my penis after sex a few times. Theirs probably a reason he is concerned/paranoid.
Did yāall not get tested prior to having sex? If you did and you were both clean Iād be concerned that heās been screwing around. If you didnāt get tested first then go. ASAP.
It sounds like he may suffer from obsessive compulsive disorder and STDs is his theme. I would ask him about it.
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Why not get tested together that way you both know you are cleared and you both can move forward.
Maybe soMe one he was with cheated on him and got an std. You really never know.
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Why in the world would you harm your mental health for anyone? Both get test. Tell him to wear a condom. You dont need to sacrifice anything, especially your health for anyone. And the STD talk, once is enough, get test or wear a condom. He has trust issues. If he doesnāt trust, put a Condom on. It doesnāt matter if he says he doesnāt like it. Tell him, you dont trust him too, so to be safe from STDāS, WEAR THE CONDOM. your worth so much more than how this person is treating you. And no, you are not over reacting. He is not considerate towards your feeling.
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Homeboys cheating and making sure youāre not catching anything
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You go get tested together then tell him to wear a damn condom and stfu 
you donāt owe him birth control
Or he has a std and heās just letting you know with the std talk bc itās probably gonna come up a lot more ā¦ get out while you can
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If u guys are exclusive why would he be worriedā¦
Whats he upto is what I would be asking myself
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Just shows heās responsible maybe suggest you both get tested before continuing to have sex
Heās hiding a rat in his trap! Heās playing innocent
Or Heās hiding something 
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Get on birth control and please use condomsā¦ he sounds shady.
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I wouldnāt sleep with him til you have a test done! Sounds like he has something but hoping you do or heās gives it you to blame it on you, or heās had something from a ex and itās stuck with treated or not! As for pregnancy if he is that worried tell him to wear a condom
But girl I see read flags with this! Xx
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Guilty Conscience. And Imma leave it at that and hope you leave him OVER that. And not JUST the topicā¦ But the amount of āHUGEā red flags flapping!!
Paranoia. Lecturing. Control. Mental distress. Youāre already second guessing yourselfā¦ Babe, if Iāve learned ANYTHING in my LONG string of THESE TYPES is it NEVER ends well. Please guard yourself and take care.
You deserve better 
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Weird,
You should both get tested before having sex.
Lecturing someone afterwards is suspicious to me.
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I would call it quits because thatās just weird. Esp the birth control. You donāt deserve to be depressed from medication just to make someone else happy.
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I love the fact that hes concerned about his health and now yours too because you can affect his. I donāt think shaming the guy about being proactive is appropriate.
There is a good possibility that somebody betrayed him in the past and now he has to be over vigilant about it.
I look at posts like this, the comments/advice is disgusting and I canāt help but be ashamed in women now days. If it was a woman being overly cautious about an issue like this she would be lifted up and told how amazing she is. Our men should be lifted up for doing the right thing tooā¦ What if this was your sonās girlfriend and he was being overly cautious wouldnāt you be overjoyed?
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Iām not saying this is the case but I used to be super paranoid about STDs to the point where I would think I might get them from a toilet seat while using a toilet seat holder. I have OCD and maybe it could be something like this with him too? Could the STD talk be a reassurance thing?
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Seems more like a control maneuver. If he was truly worried about STDās he would of ask that you both be tested for them before sex.
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No itās not normal. You have out sex over your own mental health. Stop having sex before marriage.
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After reading some good points, if heās that paranoid, he should WANT to wear a condom. I have a boyfriend who was paranoid too, about pregnancy. Send a message if you nedx
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Go on a date to a dr office and both of you get tested for peace of mind. Also, buy him a big pack of condoms Bc no man is worth you getting depressed for. Love yourself first girl! 
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Iām surprised at the amount of women saying these are red flags. The man doesnāt want to catch a disease or get someone pregnant. I didnāt read where it says he wouldnāt wear a condom. Just that he didnāt want to get her pregnant. What is so wrong with that. The only thing I see wrong here is they should both have gotten tested together before sex.
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Make it clear you donāt want kids. If thatās true. And that youāre only with him. Sometimes we all need reassurance. If it continues after that Iād leave
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Just use protection. And consider not having sex until you are ready to be exclusive and trust each other. You shouldnāt be on birth control if it gets you depressed
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Thatās super weird maybe he has a kid or something heās not telling you about 
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I think responsible adults should ALWAYS get tested and use BC if they donāt want a baby.
That being said. He should go take a test if heās so worried.
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He should have had the talk before sex. Go get checked out and make sure he didnāt give you an STD. Sounds like a guilty conscience to me. Then run 
far far awayā¦ā¦
If heās so paranoid, shouldnāt of had sex. To me, it sounds like he has other people heās sleeping with. Idk. Thatās just my thought. To each their own. Go get tested together, also if birth control makes you depressed, he should be participating in the safe sex stuff like condoms & whatever. Not just you. Its not fair to put all this on a girl; I donāt wanna kid, go on birth control. Dude can use a condom. Or if heās that scared of getting you pregnant, donāt have sex. Birth control and other safe sex arenāt necessarily 100% protective. Thereās always that slim chance.
Just gonna leave a note that men can get snipped and have it reversed if theyāre soo worried about pregnancy .
After that side note have you talked to him as to why heās soo paranoid? Has he had an STD? Maybe he has trust issuesā¦ I still get tested and am happily married but I was in a toxic marriage for 10 yearās and that messed me all up. I had trust issues so I still get tested every year. Communication is key in any relationship. If your not willing to investigate more about your partner then thereās no reason to continue
No you are not crazy,He knows itās wrong to have sex and not be married guilty of breaking God
If he worried about you getting pregnant he needs to make an appointment and get snipped, no reason for you to take meds that make you depressā¦ And obviously he has been burned before since he is so paranoid, so its as simple as both of you getting checked and use protection, You never know if he might step out and then bring something to you then blame you ā¦ But honestly please rethink this relationship do you really what to always feel like you walking on eggshells or constantly having to adapt to his craziness??
If heās so paranoid, why didnāt he wear a condom?! It helps to prevent both things heās supposedly so paranoid about! And you being on birth control wonāt do 
to prevent any STD!
U should have both got tested first. Also, there are various types of birth control. I am sure there is one that would not make you depressed or ensure you use condoms.
Birth control wonāt protect from STDs. He has to wear a condom for that. Or you all get tested regularly.
i think thats kinda odd and weird sounds like he has it or has had something in the past but i guess i would suggest him to both of yāall get tested to get a peace of mind and take it from there
Guard your heart girl. This sounds toxic already. Itāll only get worse with time.
And you should get an STD check to be honest, his paranoia is a little weird and sounds like he might have one.
Also, if heās so paranoid, why doesnāt he wear a condom??? Instead he wants YOU to get back on birth control that fucked up your mental health. Yea no. You deserve better and I would leave as soon as possible.
You gotta think long term, if heās not thinking about your well being now, what happens if you end up getting married and getting pregnant? How will he act towards your well being then?
Red flag over red flag.
Good luck girl
Wear a condom he should be good not getting an std
It sound like he has STD. you need to be carefulā¦
Do not take medication that makes u sick for another person. Let alone a toxic person.
He has the std and wants to make sure if you get it he can say you gave it to him. You better go get tested like NOW! And quickly start falling back out of love with this dude.
Trust issues. Major if heās ruining a night of great sex with lectures that are not requested or needed. Sound like itās his thang.
Always test before or after a new partner. Heās aloud to be cautious, sounds like a good man. And if he has his own issues, then definitely educate him or help him, point him in the right direction. I think its a normal thing to worry about and talk about in the bedroom.
Yāall should go together down to the local clinic and both get STD testing done,you never know what someones been through. Iām sure thereās a story behind this
If he has one, he could totally blame you and say you gave it to him to cover himself (if you didnāt wear a condom)
Go get tested. Both of you. But make sure you also get tested for hsv 1/2. I dont think planned parenthood regularly checks for that in their std panel.
That raises red flags. 1:Thereās no trust, if there is no trust you canāt have a normal healthy relationship, 2: why does he feel like he needs to lecture you? Youāre both consensual adults and you know about stds so thereās no reason for the lecture every time.
3: If heās that scared he needs to (1) wear a condom (2) not have sex. You shouldnāt have to go on BC that makes you go into depression just to give him a peace of mind. Seems heās only interested in himself.
4) This seems like he has insecurity and controlling issues and that heās not being faithful to you. I feel like hes prob had it or isnāt faithful and has it and wants to pin it on you to give him an out.
This isnāt normal , if you have to change anything about you for him even something as little as birth control than heās not the one. A relationship is supposed to be finding a soulmate, someone who makes you happy, who is fun, who can give you amazing sex. Not stress you out.
Ooooh honeyā¦
Donāt walkā¦ Run yourself to the health department on your way to get the hell outta Dodgeā¦
And make it a life motto to not mess with anyoneā¦ Male, female, whateverā¦ Friend, significant other, or whateverā¦
Anyone who:
A) Feels the need to grill you or play 20 questions about anything at anytime other than getting details of someone who hurt you on their way to hurt them back. Or,
B) Feels the need to repeatedly reassure you of anything, absolutely anything, that should be understood between adult human beings (ex Iāll never hurt you, you can trust me, you have nothing to worry aboutā¦ etc)
People who actually care about you will let their actions speak for them.
Anyone who tries to argue these are only trying to convince themselves that someone they want to be good for them is, when they really are not.)
Does he have an std that he doesnāt want to tell you? You should probably get an std test now to be safe!