Order of protection!! That is what and your children need!
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Sadly his only doing what you allow
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He sounds like a man child and yes you will be doing the most of everything on your own because he’s using you and refusing to grow up and take responsibility for the family he started, emotionally unavailable with an immature mentality. You’re better off losing him now. Wishing the best for you and your little ones
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Theres a thing where people date other people just to not be homeless…
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Oh dear 'should have spent longer with to get to no him b4 having baby with a idiot
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Two words: RED FLAGS
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You’ve already answered all your own questions…. Get your heart right… and learn to be a whole person on your own… it’s time to walk away and realize life without him needs to be your new normal
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Sounds like you’ve been played all along! Smh 
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He is abusive and you will be able to get a restraining order. Go to a domestic violence center in your area. They can help you get one and help you with whatever you need. It will only get worse, do what’s best for your children and yourself. You don’t deserve to be treated like that
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Wait til the next time he throws u around and call the cops on him and have him removed with a restraining order! Then raise the baby by yourself until you find a REAL MAN!!
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Put him out on the curb and forget about him
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You need to get rid of him, you can go get an eviction order to have him removed. If he has pushed you around while you are pregnant after this baby is born, it WILL get worse. You deserve better. Good luck and God Bless. Be careful
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He’s a narcissistic shit bag!
Sounds like he is using you should have thought about that when sleeping with someone without protection.
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I think you already know what you need to do. Just didn’t had the courage. He’s basically using you in every possible way to get advantages. The best thing is for you to break it off and focus on your children.
You deserve better than this and, because you have accepted in first instance… He thinks he is entitled to do whatever he wants. I think that you need to break the cycle and do the best for you and your kids. He can still he in your child’s life, however it’s better if you co-parent rather than being in a situation that it is only favouring him and his needs.
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He is using you as a convience ,kick him to the curb.
Oh boy I don’t know why you’re even questioning what’s going on. There are far too many red flags to count. He obviously doesn’t love you. You let him push you around like a rag doll you know that’s physical and emotional abuse. That right there is enough to cut him loose. He doesn’t pay anything a form of financial abuse. I don’t know what goes on in the heads of some of the women that post things here. Get rid of him, bottom line.
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Say ok tell him to kick rocks and move on. He’s not worth it. You have to value yourself and your kids more than anyone else especially a dead beat like that.
Run don’t look back. How many red flags do you need. He is an asshole and if you don’t Lovett out if that relationship now you will be miserable the rest of your life. I really wish you and your children the best.
Red flags every where. You don’t need this POS. Clearly get a restraining order and keep him away especially if he said things like being 6ft under. Narcissistic POS. You don’t owe him anything because you are pregnant with his child. Come on now, get a back bone and kick him out to his own place. Quit letting him use you. You deserve SO much better. Ugh this post really makes me all kinds of upset. Have more respect for yourself and be independent, don’t let him run your life. Just because you are pregnant does NOT give him the right to tell you what to do. If he seeing other girls then tell him to not let the door hit him on the way out. YOU DO NOT NEED A MAN to raise your child. If he has hit or pushed you YOU need to get away from him and protect you and your child now while you still can. Hugs and prayers.
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RUN AWAY AS FAR AND AS FAST AS YOU CAN. Abuse should never be tolerated for any reason. Temper, threats ( yes him telling you that you will be in the ground is a DEATH threat and not taken lightly), pushing you around knocking you down, controlling, giving you just enough attention to keep you around-- All abuse Do yourself and your kids a favor get him out your house. When he leaves to go to his place get all his shit together and put it outside. Go to home depot and get some new locks change them immediately. Do not mess around. Been there. Done the messing around I promise it does not end well. You should never take threats against your life lightly. If he will put hands on your pregnant he will when you’re not. Protect yourself and your babies. When the baby is born then you can deal with him thru the court system to protect yourself. Do not underestimate what can happen to you or your children and your unborn baby. Stay safe.
Sounds like you need to put your foot down and kick him to the curb!
Why does he keep doing it? Because you keep allowing it. Stop letting him come over and go live your life.
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You use the word “stuck” a lot. How can you feel “stuck” with your own baby??? You knew who he was before you laid down with him. Sounds like a one sided relationship to me and you’re just a convenience to him. Don’t lower yourself to be a door mat for this guy and by all means at least try to set an example for your girls…their watching and learning from you. I’d kick him, his attitude and his anger issues to the curb. Hopefully with him gone you will love your son rather than feeling “stuck” with him. 
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He’s a loser cut the cord . Don’t allow him back
Kick him apply for child airport as soon as you can
Get out worry about you and those kids! Brst advice it’s scary i have 5 kids been abused while pregnant realized to late should have gotten out don’t let u or those kids hurt anymore fuck him he’s selfish and abusive
God damn girl. Is ANYBODY going to think about these poor children? Huh?
Your not.
Time to grow tf up and care for alllll the children you’ve brought into the world. Stop expecting a man to rescue you and take control of your life before he destroys it…and girl he will destroy you and get your kids removed from your care.
He’s abusive. Kick him to the curb. Protect your babies
Stop doing girlfriend things when you’re not even a girlfriend. Make him stay at his own place.
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What you allow will continue … Set boundaries asap.
Have you ever been to his place?? Sounds like he lives with you but sleeps with someone else throughout the week.
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He doesn’t love you if he hurts you.
He doesn’t respect you in how he behaves.
It is disrespectful for him to expect loyalty from you while he’s allowed to do what he wants.
He is dangerous and you need to get a restraining order.
He’s already hurt you while your pregnant and mostly going along with what he wants.
He’s definitely going to try to hurt you worse to force you to do what he wants when you realize you need to.
Press charges for the times he already hurt you if you can.
You can have strong feelings of love for someone but that doesn’t mean they are good for you.
You deserve better.
You can do better than him.
You can do it without him.
Kick his butt out of YOUR house! And do what you need to do for YOU and YOUR babies!!! If he tries to act crazy call the police and get a restraining order! Just because you impregnate a woman does not entitle you to do whatever the hell you want with no repercussions! 
He’s just not that into you 
Dump his dumass he only wants to use you
And why on earth would you get pregnant to this “catch” in the first place? Man you really gotta get it together hey. Sorry but your whole life seems like a hot mess, like you don’t realise YOUR the one in charge!
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Re-read what you wrote and ask yourself if he’s the type of person you think you or your daughters deserve in your lives? He sounds like a real POS and your girls are watching and learning that it’s acceptable to be treated that way, when it’s not. He wants to be like a stray dog coming and going while he’s out with other women, but expects you to be single and waiting around for him. Ask yourself if that’s the type of life you want to live. Change the locks, get a restraining order, and please try to see your worth. You and your girls don’t need that type of “man” in your lives.
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He sounds like 
. Cut him loose, draw up custody papers and leave
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Hes using you !!! Face realality he doesn’t love you, doesn’t want to be a family and most likely screwing others. Don’t let him in, take the key away from him and stop with the blind eyes.
Learn to self love 
Thats like…a text book abusive “relationship” 
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I’d tell him to not come back.He’s using you.Ask yourself this.What would you tell your daughters if they were dealing with this?
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Hes a mooch and he does it because it’s allowed. He’s not committed he’s comfortable. Kick him to the curb.
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You’re doing the girlfriend role when you’re just a booty call/convenience. He eats there, sleeps and does his laundry there. If he doesn’t want the role of father/boyfriend then he needs to go. Change the locks. Change your number. Move on. You’re pushing for something that will never happen.
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You’re in an abusive relationship and don’t see it if he is pushing you around while you are pregnant imagine what he will do when you are no longer pregnant
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Kick his ass to the curb NOW!!! you’re settling bottom line…you’re settling for something he may never give you, which is YOUR need in a relationship! Give yourself the respect you deserve to be loved, committed to, and get rid of this man/child!
GET RID!! He’s using u for a place to stay! He will never want u! Nothing will change! Kick him out and be done with it! He doesn’t want u but he doesn’t want u to be with another male! He’s controlling u! Especially abusing u while ur preg! He’s putting u and the child in danger! Get him out!
Sounds like garbage. It sounds like he is just using you. He wants you to do the girlfriend role while he has all his freedom. If he wants to be single let that man be real single! Tell him you got better and bigger shit to worry about and move on with your family.
Get away from him, hes one that is a user, as long as you keep doing for him and letting him walk over you, he will take full advantage of it. He only wants to be with u when he doesnt have any plans with someone else and or when the other girls dont want him hanging around
I’m not going to be hard on your because it sounds like you’re really young and don’t know any better.
- Y’all aren’t in a REAL relationship. He’s just using you because he can.
- You might not believe this but you’re being ABUSED. You need to get yourself out of that situation ASAP. You have 3 girls that are watching you go through this and they are going to think that this toxicity is normal.
- You may have to get a restraining order to keep him from you.
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Girl if he’s single then tell him to leave! Get out of your bed! File for child support on the baby and be done with that loser.
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You need to kick him out never let him back. You are being abused. And please save yourself the trouble and don’t give that baby his last name.
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ABUSE!!! PLEASE LEAVE with a restraining order!!!
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Hes controlling and your allowing him to be. The moment he puts his hands on you call the police. They can’t help you if there’s no reports being made. That way if he do keep showing up and harassing you when you have ‘ended things’ if you decide to that (unless it’s to see his child) then they can help more. I’ve been in a relationship similar and because I didn’t report anything to the police there was nothing they could do but to just log it. He doesn’t want you but he doesn’t want anyone else to have you either. He’s clearly seeing/sleeping with other people and if you don’t get out now it will only get worse, trust me, I watched my mum go threw exactly this x
U can’t make someone live u. If it’s not their. Travel on down the road. Done this and it’s not good, so be smarter and go live your life and your childen
Ehhh he’s a narcissistic wankers sorry but you need rid scumbag
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Sounds like he’s a POS you need to remove ALL of his belongings from your place and tell him he’s no longer allowed to use your place as a flop house. He’s using you and manipulating you. Change your locks so he can’t get in and if he comes over without an invite call the police and have him removed from your property. Don’t let any man ever control you. You are worthy of so much more.
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He sounds like a loser. Get away from him. It will only get worse. He wants to control you but still be able to do what he wants on the side. Your kids deserve better and so do you ! He isn’t good for anything… Won’t commit, doesn’t pay bills, abuses you physically & mentally. Get away and call cops on him if he shows up, he has zero legal rights as of now, he would have to have a dna test before he even has rights and he probably won’t pursue a dna test because he won’t want to pay child support. I wouldn’t even put him on the birth certificate or give him his last name , I’d block him out completely. If he wants to have his child in his life, he will pursue that legally and learn boundaries! I’d make it as hard on him as possible to even be able to as much as say anything negative or abuse you!! If you allow it , he knows he can! He knows you want more so he’s taking advantage of knowing you are hoping he will want more! Show him you are in control of you and you don’t and won’t allow his taking advantage or abuse! Plenty of time to find a man and good one ! Take time for yourself and kids right now! Not only is he abusing you , he’s abusing your unborn child that you’re carrying as he beats on you
As long as you allow him to take advantage of you he will continue, bc why not. You need to change your locks and take your life back. Having his children doesn’t mean you owe him a dang thing. If he shows up beating on the door, call the police.
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Run fast and far! You need to leave him immediately. Him saying as long as you have his child you’re not allowed to be around another male or you’ll both be in the ground is a death threat. He’s not interested in being in a relationship with you but wants you at his beckon call and says you’re not allowed to be with someone else. Why would you want to be with someone like that? Why would you want someone like that around your children? He’s obviously mentally abusive and I’d bet it’s only a matter of time before he becomes physically abusive.
Get rid of him now get a restraining order. He is no good.
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This relationship sounds exhausting
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He’s a POS! You and your children deserve better. Get away safely and don’t turn back!!
The moment that he threatened you, any love you had for him should’ve been out the window! It happens way more often than it should and as a mother, protect you children and get the eff away from him, NOW!
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OMGOSH!! Girl take off the rose colored glasses!!!Mr narcissist in is throwing red flags all up in your face…Honey quit acting like a loyal Wife or girlfriend and kick his self centered selfish xss to the curb …yes I know what I’m talking about …
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He said he’s single. Pack his shit and send him out the door with a request for child support from the courts. Or hand him a bill for rent, utilities, doctors appointments, and groceries. He said it not you. Can’t force something that he doesn’t seem to want.
Leave and get a restraining order
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Girl, tell him to hit the damn road and don’t waste anymore of your time! You deserve way better than what he can offer. Be done with him. It will only get worse. You’ll never be happy with someone like him. Do yourself a favor and avoid wasting alot of time. Be done with him!!!
Run do not walk- RUn as fast as u can Put ur babies first and run
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He’s already showed you who he is… and on top of that has flat out told you, AND threatened you with what he’d do to you!!!
“When someone shows you (AND then tells you) who they are BELIEVE THEM!”
I truly hope for your sake and all your children that if you’re going to continue to let your heart lead your decisions, that you love your children and yourself, more than what sounds like not only a physically, but mentally and emotionally abusive man.
(Or any man for that matter.)
I hope you get mentally and emotionally, strong and healthy, sooner rather than later, and realize your self worth, and that you and your children are deserving of so much better.
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Because you let him. If you want a relationship and he does not you have to set boundaries or you and your kids will be hurt in the end
Make him single then and make him pay child support. If he didn’t claim me, I wouldn’t want him.
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Move his ass along NOW!
Change your locks
He only does what YOU allow him to do
He’s single and has his own spot so he can stop coming to yours
This is why birth control was invented. Until walk down an aisle…dont have kids. Now need to be filing for child support and giving his single butt the boot. Yes…i know marriage doesnt mean wont end up a single parent later on…but it does make it to where the guy cant skip out on support and shows he is committed to the relationship…at least in that moment…and not just a bum that wants a place to live while running around on you. Dont have kids with every boyfriend that comes along. At least make one commit. Respect yourself more. Heck…after 4 kids I’d be getting fixed anyway. My two drive me nuts.Try to get better standards with boyfriends as well. One with a job and his own place…etc. Start making a checklist of want you want with a guy…stability commitment, etc.
He’s just using you…as well as, if you had any love for that baby inside your belly, you’d have kicked him to the curb as soon as he put hands on you as he could’ve made you lose that baby. I understand it’s hard when you love someone, but d@mn woman show some respect to that life inside your stomach…you want someone who lies, cheats, uses you and abuses you? For what?? What is he doing for you exactly? Nothing. So drop him like the nothing he is cause you can do so much better. I’m not trying to be a bi+ch but when i read the part of him putting hands on you while you carry his child…yet you still say you want him…it just really made me sick for the life of that baby
Kick that dirty egg sucking dog to the curb! Yesterday!!!
You definitely found a bad one! Dump his no good a** he will only cause you repeated misery in the end. I feel he is going to make your life hell by the things he says whether you let him stay or dump him. It’s sad to say but a lot of men start cheating when the woman gets pregnant and no longer find her attractive. I personally don’t get it because if I was a man I would go crazy knowing I got my woman knocked up with my kid and would be super proud that I locked her down hard. Lol good luck!
Take that blind food off, he is not interested in being with you or your unborn child. Change the locks and never let him in.
Restraining order and new locks
Change locks, get a restraining order and don’t put his name on the baby’s birth certificate. I’d rather be alone than a doormat for a sleeping around abusive person
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Get him out your life now, kick him out the house and change your locks, if he threatens you or your family then get the police involved, you need to think about the children stick in this as well, he ain’t worth it
Omg. Leave him now. You know he is over it. I am sure he wasn’t ready for another baby either…too late. Just plan on having him alone or plan something else. But quit trying to fix it! Ridiculous. You know what you have to do!
You are allowing him to treat you this way. Stop this nonsense right now and get a game plan going to push him out of your life. It’s not even a option- do it now and don’t look back.
Get rid of him before it’s to late, I agree with someone the other comments get a restraining order asap
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You already know you should break things off with this toxic man. He will never fulfill the role you want him to because that isn’t who he is. He is showing you who he is when he lies, disrespect you, takes advantage of you, crosses your boundaries, and physically assaults you. The charming parts you love is all an act to manipulate you into accepting the abuse.
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Move away and never look back
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He doesn’t see y’all as in a relationship so all I gotta say is he careful sleeping with him. Who knows who else he’s sleeping with. Don’t want nothing passed to you or your baby
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What do you need him for.to break your heart. Know your worth.He don’t want to help you or do anything for you or your unborn baby. Just boss you and hurt you
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I was in the same place but kids are all grown…would stay for weeks at a time…not go to work…in and out whenever…5 years no commitments…enough Is enough…then wanting me to wait on him when he never works…no way…
Kick him to the curb 
and RUN the OTHER DIRECTION AND DON’T LOOK BACK!
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why would you even wanna stay after he talks to you like that 2nd he has already put his hands on you and your pregnant that should’ve been your first sign to get rid of him you have girl children and he’s acting like that with them there what do you think your children are gonna think that’s how their suppose to be treated No Ma’am he’s just showing you he’s in control while your caring his child but if you take back control of life you’ll NVR be in a Happy healthy relationship that your whole family needs.
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He’s emotionally abusive and controlling. Leave now. You’re still allowing him in your home, you are NOT required to do that and do not have to put his name on anything with the child
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Sounds like a controlling narcissist. Get an order of protection and change your locks girl. He’s already threatened to kill u if u got w anyone else. That’s enough to get the protection you need.
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Get rid he’s violent and mentally abusive you can do better hunny
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Get a restraining order and move away if u can. This is scary. No one should be putting their hands on you and threatening you. He is showing u exactly who he is and if he will do this so quickly it will only escalate. Believe anyone who threatens to kill you. Believe them and get far away from them.
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Move away. Before you have the baby. Rn you can move anywhere. Don’t put his name on the birth certificate. Then it’s on him to find you and prove his paternity. This guy sounds dangerous. Do you really want him as a role model to any of your children?
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Seriously. Get your crap together. Why would he go anywhere else? Your allowing this. Kick his ass out.
Get rid of him… now. Before the baby comes, stay away from him after the baby is here. He’s using you, you can do so much better. Your kids deserve to see you happy and loved.