This is domestic violence and you need out now. It’s already turned physical and will probably get much worse when your son gets here. Call the national dv hotline you need to make a plan to escape safely and let them know you need at least temporary housing. Even if he commits to you he’ll still cheat on you. He doesn’t respect you. It’s not you this is him but I do get the impression you’re passive with him probably since the beginning and when you have found the courage to stand up for yourself it’s turned violent. And that is exactly why this relationship can never work
Kick him to the curb
You need to find a counselor for you. You cannot “fix” him, but there is a reason that you’ve been allowing this to happen, and therapy will help you find out why and move on from it. Having your children around an abusive man is an awful idea. You need to leave him, and press charges the next time he assaults you, so you don’t have to allow him around your child
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I would be blocking his number and changing the locks. He comes to your place call the cops. He doesn’t live there he has no right to be there.
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Yeah…NO. Kick his mooching butt to the curb! He sounds useless. You don’t need a grown ass child around.
If you have text or any kind of messages that he threatened to kill you. You can easily get order of protection. You may even be able to get him arrested for the threats. Talk to the police department and see what they can do to help you stay save. You have to protect yourself and your family. They do not need to see and hear all if this . Trust me. Coming from a woman who stayed to long in a toxic abusive marriage. You have to get help with it when you make him leave or when you leave. Get a plan going asap and be ready for whatever might happen.
I don’t know how to old you are or who you are but I do you young ladies have got to stop letting these men come and go as they please.
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That’s ABUSE, get things arranged NOW before your son is born, he can do what he wants with who but you’re not allowed to be around other men or he’ll kill you both? 
STOP LETTING HIM COME AROUND
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Red flags galore run don’t walk
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You need to be done with him like yesterday… for you and all of your kids sake.
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Tell him your single too and you want him to leave and not return
You shouldn’t want this guy around and rather than make him change let him go he won’t be there for you both ever he’s using you and abusing you for the privilege
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Get out now. If you don’t, It’s only going to get worse!
He wants to be single, let him be single. Kick his ass to the curb. You don’t deserve this and you definitely don’t deserve to be pushed around, especially being pregnant. He has no rights to put his hands on you especially being pregnant.
No, ma’am! You and those kids deserve better. He doesn’t want to be with you, but doesn’t want you to be with anyone else. Hypocritical much? Fuck him. Like someone else said, block him from everything and change your locks. While you’re at it, get yourself some protection and a carry permit. Just because he’s your child’s father, doesn’t mean he can treat you like shit.
Kick him to the curb he is just using you.Never let a man hit you or push you around. You can do better on your own.
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Get rid of him. Get a restraining order against him and run
He is using you for a place to stay. I know you’re scared because of the kids and baby inside of you. But give him back to the street
Nope time to get rid of him
He’s using you
And it’s not okay for him to tell you what to do especially If he’s claiming that you two aren’t together
Nope nope nope
Change the locks
That’s so controlling
Be done that is mental abuse get out I stay for 4 years just gets worse
I stopped reading at “he told me…” just get rid of him. Tell him to kick rocks, the guy clearly doesn’t want to settle down, just wants to make babies
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At least he has his own place. He can keep his single ass on over there while you do you.
Change the locks, get a restraining order if you can or after because let’s be honest there will be texts and calls, change your cell number, and move on. Focus on your children, in 3 months you will have another little and will not have no time for him like you do now and it WILL get worse. Do it now before an infant is around and you are stressed and tired from that.
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Keep the doors locked. Hell get a restraining order and file child support right when the baby is born
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Door mat! Your his door mat! Tell him boy bye, bye boy. Boot his behind out and be a mum and forget about the using looser. Teach your daughters that mummy is the strong one and wont let some nob be a using muppet you are your daughters teacher! Dont let them grow up thinking this is how men treat there woman. Good gosh girl you are better than this, stop being the mat he wipes his feet on and wipe his out the door!
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All it takes is 1 hard push and your baby could DIE. Refuse to let him around. Tell him to F off. He’s using you and that’s it. He doesn’t love you. He’s an abuser. If he has a key, change the locks when he leaves. Don’t let him in. If he shows up acting crazy, call the cops and get a protection order. You’re being abused. This is how pregnant mama’s or their kids end up a 6:00 news segment. Get away from him immediately. Also, refuse to take his calls. If he wants to talk, he can text. That way when he inevitably threatens you, you have proof. Know your worth. Know your kid’s worth. They all deserve better and so do you.
I’m quite sure no matter what state you live in that you never have to see him again, with the physical abuse and the death threat you can restrain him out of your life and because your not married you wont even have to look across the courtroom at him
If a man really wants to be with you he will always make the effort
Sounds like you need to set boundaries and he needs to respect you. He’s walking all over you and you’re letting him do it.
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Sounds like he’s doing you a favor! Run!
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Girl no this reminds me of my ex. NARCISSISTIC PIECE OF CRAP. Lay the law down. Since he does not want a relationship he is not allowed to stay. Trust me I’ve been there just end it.
He’s using and abusing you. Kick him out, get assistance and child support and don’t let him walk all over you like that. You don’t want your girls seeing that and thinking it’s normal
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God give me a sign if he’s not the one…
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He does it because u let him.
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Throw the whole sermon donor out! You and your children deserve so much more!
This sounds to me like my baby daddy. And trust me it’s not worth it I was with him front the time I was 18 till Dec 2018. And that time I knew I needed out I knew I deserved better
He sleeps in your bed because you let him
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Kick his ass out and call the police if you have to. You are being used and abused. Do it for yourself and that precious baby you’re carrying! You will be ok without him and you can do it alone. He’ll only continue this behavior and ask yourself, do you want it to be around your child when he/she is born? Do you want this guy to treat your precious baby this way, because he will! Nothing you say or do can or will change his behavior or the way he is point blank telling you he feels. Nothing you say or do can make him less abusive or controlling. This will have roller coasters where its better and some days worse but ultimately will get worse. Do it for your child. He can have visitation. You being pregnant with (both of your!) child gives him no power or right to tell you what you can do. Please protect yourself and your baby for what abuse, more pain and bad influence that’s sure to come.
Shut the door and lock it. Get away from him
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He is abusing you. Get police involved girl- run now before that baby is here! It will be harder when baby is born! Don’t do a dna test if you don’t want him around or if u want child support then start looking for a good attorney that he can’t afford so he doesn’t get visitation
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Save everything now how he ks being abusive to use later too
He pushed you down? Pregnant or not that doesn’t matter, the physical abuse is not going to stop. I believe you need to take these other women’s advice and get out and get a restraining order against him. Sorry to say but in my opinion it doesn’t matter that you love him the most important thing are your children and they come 1st, even before yourself. It is your responsibility as their mother to take care of them and protect them, even your unborn son from his own father
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Well my darling, it’s up to you who you want in your bed. But if you want a real relationship with a man or marriage , this Jo is waisting your time. Make sure you get him to make child payments and set Jo free… find a real man to step up to the plate. Jo here is waisting your precious time. If he is mature friendship is fine. But not in your bed. You need a real man as a father figure. Unless your not into marriage. However, he clearly wants an open relationship
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You will find someone who loves you and all your babies equally! May take some time, but sounds like you’re better without him! My baby daddy of my two went to prison for his actions. It won’t just stop with you, he will move on to abusing the kids as well!!! I was lucky enough to find a man who moved into MY house, but he works everyday to pay OUR bills and supports my kids and we aren’t married, just together for 4 yrs now. It’s hard to ask for help whether police get involved or people making fun or you for government “handouts”. No this is to help you get on your feet and a better life for your and your family. Please don’t let this keep going on, protect yourself and your kids! There’s plenty of MEN, not boys, in this world for you to find another.
Girl don’t be dumb, s.t.a.b his ass & call it a day
I made it to “I’m not allow to be around another male”…… I don’t need to read the rest. Change your locks. Put his stuff NICELY into a box and leave it for him to pick up. Don’t give him any more of YOU since he is “single”. Set your standard for how you’re treated by a man… trust me those girls are watching, would you let a man treat them like that? No? So don’t let them see one doing it to you.
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You and your kids deserve better. Get out while you can.
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STOP letting him come and wash clothes and stay there! Do not worry about him kick his butt to the curb! I would be more focused on new baby. And getting everything ready for him or her. The donor sounds like he needs to man up and take him on to court for him to pay his part or at least something to help with baby
Tell him GOOD BYE. After you get child support from court order. If he is threatening you, tell the police.
Omg can’t you see hes using you
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Dnt let him tell u twice!! Gone on with ur life easier said then done but he meant that !!
He makes it sound like you don’t have a choice. My advice-run don’t walk. This looser will keep abusing you and move on to your kids. It’s your job as their mom to protect them and yourself. Seek legal help if necessary.
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Omg he is using u sorry to but he knows he can use u too he will keep coming back if u keep allowing him too you’re his convenient until the better comes along that he wants then u will b like someone he doesn’t know n will care less for u n ur babies… hunni time to put on ur big girl panties n kick this jerk out he has made it clear u guys aren’t together so clearly he knows how to work u n knows tht ur door is always open for him!! You need to show him you’re not going to enable him to have you as a second option PLEASE LEAVE THINK ABOUT UR BABIES THEY DO NOT deserve this or nor to ever think that it is ok to use a woman or to allow a man to use you like that!!! Teach ur babies better he isn’t worth it!!! BUT UR BABIES R IMPORTANT
And this is why you don’t keep having babies to randoms…and think you love them…what exactly is there to love about this dude?
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First off, won’t means will not, want means to desire something. Second, if he says y’all aren’t together, don’t allow him in your house much less your bed. If he’s not with you, he has no right to tell you who you can and can’t be around, second, if he’s threatened your life don’t allow him back around you or your children.
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Girl…are you serious right now? He’s a narcissist fuckboy and he’s toying with you. This is MENTAL and physical abuse. You are a convenient plan b to whatever he feels like doing that hour. Kick him to the curb. If he pushed you or put his hands on you, no matter the reason, it’s irrelevant, this relationship should’ve been done. There is NO EXCUSE to put your hands on your SO like that. If you continue to stay with this narcissist, allow him in your house, around you and your children, he will continue to get worse. If you stay with this abuser, it’s not a question of if he will kill you, but rather WHEN. Do not shack up with this psychopath. You need to protect you, your kids, and that unborn baby. Your kids will grow up thinking this is normal. And even worse, right now his abuse is centered on you, but eventually, it’ll turn to your children as well. And let me tell you, the damage and emotional wreckage it’ll cause is a LIFETIME of work to get through on the other side. Kick him out of your life and don’t look back.
Girl!!! He thinks he can just come and go and treat you any kinds of way ! You’re letting him . You’re better off without him ! Who does he think he is ?!
Wait, you WANT to be with this guy?! 
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Doesn’t sound like he really loves and appreciate you the way you deserve to be treated I would leave or not leave since he’s the one coming around I would say just because I’m having your child does not mean you own me and my house my rules so if you want to come around for your baby great but the babies not born yet so once the child is present then he can come around don’t let him think he owns you just because you’re pregnant with his child that’s what a narcissist does they want their cake and eat it too but they don’t want to see you happy or with anybody else they beat you down emotionally they stick around to control you but they don’t want anybody else to have you you need to be firm with him and let him know you guys can be cordial for the baby you can get along once the baby’s born and work that situation out but that does not mean he just gets to hop in your bed whenever he wants or that he owns you and can boss you around and control your life if you’re single then you should be able to do what you want to do if he does the same
What the hell os wrong with you? You are your own person. NO ONE tells you what you can and can’t do and who you can and can’t be around!! It is your life not his. He don’t want you but he doesn’t want anyone else to want you so he can come and go when he chooses. Have respect for yourself. Nothing worse than a woman letting a man controlling her and making her feel less than. Also you have daughters to put first. You are their mother and you need to be a good role model and let them know that no man should treat them this way
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Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. Get rid of him.
Well for one pregnant or not I will not be pushed around he’d done been dealt with and have a dvo on him. Hes obviously a jerk… trying to keep it pg… and you need to go ahead and start documenting texts and find you a lawyer, someone like him is gonna lead to issues. He’s already physically and mentally abusing you. It’s only going to get worse. When the baby arrives he won’t change. If he’s already not helping with anything do you really think hes gonna help with the baby? He’s pushed you down while carrying his baby, could have caused harm to the baby… what happens when you come home from work and he ’ lost his cool ’ while watching the baby? Big red flags hun. Please start trying to get a lawyer now (don’t say I’m gonna get a lawyer it’ll make it worse) but get one cause it sounds like you may need it
Dont you Thabo you and your kids deserve more??
I would kick his butt to the Curve
Hold upp he puched you and dragged you around like a rag doll. HELLLOOO physical abuseee!!! Let alone mental abuse on top of that and controlling behaviour.
He wants a submissive not a girlfriend.
If your scared of his behaviour and feel stuck, go to the cops and get a restraining order.
Dont stay with him just becouse of the baby its not worth it. Happy mum happy baby. Yes being a single mum is scary but at the emd of the day its worth it and very rewarding x
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You need to give him an altimatium and stick to it he’s either in or he’s out, there’s no half way. But you’d be better off without him anyways because he sounds like a cheating abusive narcissistic lier and your kids don’t need that and neither do you!
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read what you wrote. He is not in a relationship with you, He is going to be the father of your baby, but there is no relationship. Kick his ass to the street & take him to court for support. And give yourself some time to breathe relax & deal with this, Yoru kids need you now,
He already abused you! While your pregnant!!!Nuff said. Get out now.
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Hes using and abusing you… This sounds like the beginning of a very bad situation. And please, wbent he baby is born do NOT put his name on the birth certificate.
You leave. That’s what u do. U get ur things and go be happy alone
You know the answers to all of this. He is obviously abusive both physically and mentally. He wants to control you while doing whatever he wants. He sees you as weak because you’re not standing up for yourself or your kids, including the unborn one. Enough is enough. Break it off with him. Things are only going to continue to get worse. He will try and get away with more and more as long as you keep letting him. You’re better off living safe, without him, and you know this. Good luck, and stay strong for yourself and your children.
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Please don’t allow your children to see this, or any man, abusing you. Kick him to the curb by any and all means possible. It only gets worse with time, not better. Please believe that.
He’s a piece of shit. Get rid of him or you will be stuck. You deserve better. If not for you do it for your girls. They will see this behavior and think it’s acceptable for their own mates
Red flag alert, why are you even with this clown. He will keep do it because you let him, change the locks and sue for child support and move on. Only deal with him in regards to your child, and don’t have anymore kids until you’re married.
I think the issue here is that you need to look at yourself and realize you’re the one allowing this to happen… tell him to get f**ed and don’t allow him to treat you like a doormat
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Let him go, please. You are single.
Kick his ass to the curb
He’s using and abusing you. Kick him to the curb and be done with him.
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Yeah you know what you need to do. It’s hard but is this how you want your son to act or what you want your daughter to deal with? If not you need to leave him alone. Being alone is better than that. Change your locks and no matter what he says don’t open the door. Tell him you’re calling cops and if he doesn’t leave, do it. If you have some proof of abuse get a restraining order. He’s a piece of shit. Doesn’t deserve to be with you. He’s going to keep doing it.
Girl that’s literally abuse. Cut him out. File police reports. He can be in your life STRICTLY for the baby and NOTHING more. This is ridiculous.
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The only one he’s gonna put “in the ground” is you. He’s a coward and real pos. Get rid of him while you can put a po on him asap
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Seriously? The main point is he threatened to put you and another person in the ground? And you allow him around your children? File a police report, move away and never speak to him again
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It sounds like he’s a pitstop for you. That’s all he is you are a pitstop to him and that’s it you will not be anything more in the circumstances you’re in presently but that relationship it’s time to move on.
Its jist convinient for him to be there at YOUR house using your stuff without having to pay for anything. Get that kid out of you house because thats what he is. Having his baby ia not an excuse for him to be there. If he’s not supporting, providing, or giving he has nothing to be there for. What do you need a man for when you’re the one doing everything yourself. He should be treatinf you like the best thing he has. Yet he isnt. You think its gonna be any different when the baby is here? No. The baby wont be in you no more so he wont stop himself no more. You want your kids to see that? Exactly. So do yourself a favor and get yourself and your kids out of there.
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Run Forest, Run 
Don’t look back.
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U need a different boyfriend and birth control
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Y’all gotta stop letting these dudes breed, that’s all I’m saying.
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Change your door locks and when he shows up call the police and tell them you fear for your safety but also your kids safety cut him completely out of your life like yesterday
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Is this a serious post? Seriously? Read back what you wrote and ask yourself again what you should do 
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Sorry but hes using you!!! Leave him get him a paternity after your kids born and thats it, you are in for a worst time of your life if you welcome him completely back, dont even be with him while your pregnant save yourself, this exact thing happened to me and i suffered so much just save yourself. Take care of your famiky focus on yourself too!!! DROP HIM ASAP
Obviously you guys aren’t on the same page, or established communication on what you are. You can’t force someone to be what they’re not. Give him space to get his stuff together and focus on what’s best for your kids! SOME BODY THAT WANTS TO BE A PARENT. that includes you.
Change your locks, put his stuff outside the door, and tell him to go home and be single. As soon as he acts up call the police, FILE THE CHARGES, and don’t look back. Call the police every time, every single time he shows up.
If he wants to be a part of your life he can earn it.
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You need boundaries and you haven’t set any. Your kids deserve better from you and you deserve better, from him and more importantly yourself. Change your locks, pack his stuff and leave it on the porch. Communication is very important and you need to establish that immediately.
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As someone who has been in more than a couple abusive relationships, he’s never going to love you like you need. He’s using and abusing you. It will only get worse for you and your babies. Get him out of your life any way you can, as soon as you can. Trust me, you don’t want to wait 7 years and be the one dumped when he finally decides to move on and abuse someone else. Good luck!
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Sounds like a man who needs a place to stay
Change the locks. You’re single. You don’t need some strange man in your house and in your bed using all your things. When the kid is born he’s the kids dad and nothing more.
He doesn’t want to be with you. He wants to use your stuff and take advantage of your kindness. It hurts more than anything but you need to face it now.
Get rid of him, he has rights to the baby but not to you
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He pushes you and throws you around like a rag doll, and while pregnant with his child? WHAT!!! 
He is TRASH. Stay far away from him.
Wake up. As long as he gets his milk free he is not going to by the cow. Sad but true.
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Seriously?
New locks, Set boundaries, if there is a problem take legal action (police, restraining order) and get Yourself ready for that baby screw this little boy you are begging to become a man He won’t ! Take care of your children and yourself. The end.
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Hun , change ur locks charge him with child support make boundries. Put ur kids safty first, a man that is right for you will come when the time does just now focus on u and the babies and the one u carry to have all that stress is unhealthy for u and baby , u can’t force him to be the parent role or be ready, get paternity test when ur able to take him to court or have him give up hes right as a parent and move on
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