Wellllllll, now we all know why you’re an ex… yikes
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whats wrong with calling or texting? depending on your child’s age, get them a phone… or if it is an actual concern, take it up with the courts and/or don’t let your child over there
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Bc if he’s doing something wrong he’ll post it on social media 
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If something was going on, your kid would tell you. I don’t think you need to force your ex to be put on his social media. Trust you kid.
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Hr doesn’t have to add you. I get the anxiety part, I really do, but you can’t force someone to do something. Like others have said, if your really concerned, take it back to the court. Social media shouldn’t be your go to to keeping tabs. It would be a good idea for you to look into anxiety meds. My ex has a questionable past, but he’ll never hurt his kids, or any child for that matter. People change, but not everyone wants to believe that and want to hold a person’s past against them a d that just caused unnecessary drama.
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You arent his parent
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His social media is not your business!
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You can not control who the child is around while in his care. I highly doubt he would post anything shady in the first place. He doesn’t have to add you to any type of social media, ever. You have no right to keep tabs on him. Simply call or text him during his visit but don’t over do it bc he will likely stop answering.
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My son’s father has had me blocked for about 9 years now 
I don’t give a shit. If I want to know what’s going on, I’ll call. 
You arnt together. What he does is really none of your business anymore.
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Bc he doesn’t have to. You don’t get to invade his privacy and life and tell him where he can go and who he can be with.
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You’re a red flag. Lol. You don’t need to be on his social media. He’s not going to post anything bad on his sm. You’re just being nosy. He’s got a shady past, but you slept with him and had a kid with him. So you make poor decisions constantly?
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yeah, When I went through the custody case with my daughter’s father he brought this up, and the Judge pretty much said are you here to be nosy about your ex’s life or to be able to see your child and laughed at him. Then told him if he wants to make it that complicated that we could use a parenting app we could text through so they could monitor what was said. There’s really nothing they can do just because he doesn’t want to be Facebook friends, as long as your able to contact him by calling, texting or emailing during the time he has her they won’t go into it that much.
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Yes I agree. Depending on the age. I bought my son one of those little kid watches thru Verizon so he can call me or vice versa. I feel so much knowing he has it & can call me whenever if he needs to.
Why tf does he have to add you? I can already tell by this post that you are the exact kind of mother that makes it harder than it has to on a father trying to have a relationshipwith their child… His shady past didn’t keep you from laying down and getting knocked up yet now you are somehow better than him 
and what’s even worse is that you are trying to act like you are the only one fit enough to be trusted with a child that is as much his child as they are yours… grow tf up, quit punishing him and yalls child for shit that’s going on in your head and not in reality 
I can just about guarantee you will be one of those parents trying to make the kid love you more, trash talks the other parent in front of the kid, and then does this police type interrogation every single time they come home… careful before you raise a child as broken as you are… Get you some professional help for your anxiety and your need to control the lives of people around you because it’s not healthy for you or the little one 
Lol he got a girl on social media. You’re his “baby mama.” His establish side piece. Move on. Don’t like the drama take it to court
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Your over reacting. Your child is safe.
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I will repeat the child is in the middle of this if you had a child with this person then you should have trusted him to begin with and you don’t need to stalk his social media while he had the child that he also made 
imo
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I have my son bio dad blocked as well as his mom’s accounts on my social media. That’s kinda low key stalking BTW and he has ever right not to want to add you on his social media.
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You are controlling and demanding.
You have no right to expect to be able to keep “tabs” on your ex.
He has just as much a right to parent his child as you do.
Leave them alone.
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Maybe it’s because it sounds creepy that you want to add him on his SM to essentially try to stalk him…. 
and even if he did add you, all he would have to do is use the “share with everyone but…” option and just block you from seeing his posts anyways. If you’re that concerned and it’s warranted then you need to go back to court, but if you just don’t like the idea of a new girlfriend or his friends you didn’t like being there, you need come to the understanding that that isn’t your decision. He can have his own life without you dictating it, unless whatever he is doing poses a risk to your child, in which case you’d need to go to court. You give no reason on your concern of “who”, if you already know certain people he spends time with are bad, go to court and explain it and show examples of those people to have them restrained from being near your child. But, to me, it just sounds like you wanna be controlling and nosey over who he may be dating. 
otherwise you’d be going to court instead of just wanting to be on his SM.
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Girl just make a cat fish profile and have him add you of his own free will… Problem solved! But I will say…if your that worried go with your gut and don’t send her 
peoples social media lives and real life aren’t necessarily the same thing.
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Its literally NOT your business what he posts to social media! Geez! He has a right to his child and privacy while he has him!
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You don’t have control over what he does. If he is abusive or on drugs would need to be your only concern when they are with him
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Wow controlling much! That is his time does ge keep tabs on you? Why should he allow you to dictate what he is doing on his time
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I understand wanting to keep tabs on your kid but you can’t force him to add you on Facebook. I don’t know if you posted the child’s age but a phone or a smart watch with location and tracking is always an option but I mean if the child comes home clean, fed, no bruises or anything then your just generally anxious, which I understand but that a you problem you need to get help for and not push it off onto your child’s dad
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He don’t have to add you it’s none of your business what he does You sound like a drama queen. Also Lets be real You just wanna see who he is dating and putting your child in the middle of not seeing her father over social media goes to show how childish you… grow up your a adult not a child 
and stop using his past against him everyone has a past
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And you wonder why he doesn’t want to add you……
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Even if he did agree to add you he could still block you from what he’s posting. Wouldn’t really matter.
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Why do you need to keep tabs on your ex?
Kinda creepy your demanding it to be honest
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Because he doesn’t want too.
They’re missing pieces here does your daughter come home and complain about who she’s around? I refuse to add my son’s father as well it will never happen he’s just nosy and he probably thinks you’re just trying to be nosy let him have his time with his daughter
Toxic baby mamas like you ruin men by using your children as weapons. Those children then grow up to be as toxic as the childhood you raised them in. You’re gonna be that psycho that programs your kids to be little spies and give you all the intel on their fathers personal life during every visit. Trust me, I have yearsssss of experience with your type. If you were that worried about your child’s “safety” you’d get your ass to the courthouse and file a motion rather than anonymously asking strangers on FB. Get yourself a life and a new man, girl!
I get the anxiety part, but no, he doesn’t owe you that. You should establish a time when you can talk to your daughter while she’s there, like a bedtime call. Hopefully you can get to a co-parenting point where he sends you updates while she’s there and vice versa. I admire how good my husband and his ex do with my stepdaughter. They both send pictures and lots of updates while the other has her. It’s easier when everyone gets along. 
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Stay in your lane. Social media is a privilege not a right .
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Shady past and you still had a baby.
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I wouldn’t add u either
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Overreact, much? You have to learn to cut the cord a little bit…
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Ive been spit up with my child’s father for 6 years we have never shared socials since then its not my business
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You want control and he won’t give you that
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It’s none of your business what they do when he has custody as long as it’s not illegal or harming yalls child. You are a control freak which causes your anxiety because you can’t control him. He does not need to add you.
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This is going to sound super harsh, but you need to hear it. You are DEFINITELY overreacting.
Sorry, but you don’t have a right to his social media pages and it’s kind of ridiculous that you “don’t even want my child going over there because I’m scared of who he has around”. He does not have YOUR child. He has HIS child.
You’re making excuses. If dad is really so unsafe, take it to court. Or back to court. With proof.
Having a HEALTHY co-parenting relationship is sooo important for your daughter’s overall well-being. What you are doing, pushing like this, is NOT healthy.
Your daughter has the right to a relationship with her own father. Without you in the middle of it. It’s bad enough that she barely gets time with him as it is. You do not need a play-by-play of what they do. You can ask him to send pictures of things they do and call her at an appropriate time, which I’m sure your parenting plans.
The reason he won’t add you is because you’re being toxic, nosey, and controlling.
You have anxiety, that is real, but it’s not an excuse to be THAT drama mama. Don’t be that mother.
You don’t need to add him on social media for your peace of mind. You need to go to therapy. And it’s important that you do.
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If you said this to a judge, he would laugh in your face. Don’t use your kid as a scapegoat to get on his social media 
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His social media is none of your business.
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Maybe cuz ur his ex I don’t blame him if your so worried about his checkered past go to the court an get his visitation revoked but getting mad cuz he doesn’t add u back on social media jus makes you the bitch
Have your child have a phone with a locator on it. All you need. You do not need to be in his social media. You are an ex for a reason. Regardless of his past don’t judge him now. We all have a pass that we are not proud of one way or another. Not knocking you whatsoever, nothing wrong with being protective. Reaching out here is a positive. You will read everybody’s comments and hopefully make your own decision and feel better about yourself and the situation. It is what it is that is the child’s father for life. I hope all goes well.
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He doesn’t want you all in his business. Besides that won’t help you to know if ur daughter is safe. Hope for the best and take breath for yourself.
You have absolutely no right to demand that. I wouldn’t add an ex to let them snoop through my ish either. You seem kinda shady/redflag-y yourself for that one tbh. 
Plus as long as you don’t have proof of him doing bad 
around your kid, you don’t have the right to keep them away from him either… You wanna snoop and be controlling of that man like he’s still with you… That’s not how it works even if you have a kid together.
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You have no right to access to his social media. That is private as is yours. If you have GENUINE concerns about the safety of your child while with him then that is something you need to address through proper channels.
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Why don’t you just ask for picture updates?
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I totally understand where you’re coming from. But even if he did add you he’s not going to let you see anything that can be used against him. I agree with the person who said give her bc a phone or smart watch. So she can call you if she’s in trouble (dad drinking, she’s in a scary situation etc). You can’t track him via GPS though. That’s invasion of privacy. He can also take the devise from your daughter.
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As long as you have his number to text and see how she is . You don’t need to be on his social media platforms to see .
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You guys are split up and he does not need to add you to his social media if he doesn’t want you to be on there. And also it’s not “your” child. It’s both of yours. So when it’s his time with YOUR GUYS CHILD he doesn’t need to check in with you. Until a judge deems him to be an unfit parent you don’t need to be in control of what he does with her. He has just as much right to her as you do.
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Because you don’t control him .I wouldn’t add you neither I’m beginning to see why men say women are crazy.
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I stumbled on this post because a friend commented. I’ll say the quiet part out loud. This has nothing to do with your kid.
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Bc you’re not entitled to his life. You have to trust him eith your kid. To make the best decision for their well being. You can ask him to send to a picture of your kid once during the weekends when he’s got them. But you have no right to demand to be on his social media.
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This is just too crazy!! Bc of his shady past you feel like he NEEDS to add you on his social media? Has your daughter came home telling you stuff that goes on when she’s with her dad? Or you just wanna troll on his social media? Think it’s more you’re irritated bc he won’t do what you want him to do. He don’t have to add you to his social media. And besides that he can block you from seeing certain stuff. I’d have to say you’re overreacting a bit too much!!
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Maybe bc you sound super controlling. I wouldn’t add you either . He doesn’t have to. You can’t control what he does when he has her. He’s allowed to have a life
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You can call for updates. You don’t need to stalk your ex to see how your kid is.
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He’s doesn’t have to add you on social medias. You aren’t entitled to be on your ex’s social media profiles.
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It’s none of your business. If you feel your kids in danger around him go to court w proof he’s unfit. Trust your kid to tell u if something bad is going on. But look u can’t control what he does. He has a Right to privacy just like you do. You can ask for a check in once a day just be sure your kids safe, but don’t Demand anything.
I wouldn’t add you either
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You do not have control over him, his social media, where or when he gets custody of his child. You are not the boss of his parenting time. If there are issues, you need to take it up in court otherwise you are interfering with his custody.
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Yes you are 1000% over reacting. You have no need to be added on anything. You also really have no right to keep tabs on their every move when he has her.
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I get this to a degree if you’re wanting pictures of an event or something similar you weren’t apart of. However , you can ask for the pictures , you can ask location… you can communicate without social media . What do you think parents did 20 years ago?
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You are not entitled to access to his social media. His phone number is sufficient.
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You are not entitled to having access to someone’s social media. If you’re afraid of his past and don’t feel comfortable take him to court for supervised visits otherwise you have to get over it
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In answer to your question , yes you are overreacting a bit. But when it comes to our children , mamas are known to overreact. Every other weekend sound like a legal custody agreement , not a personal choice. Thinking obsessing over his social media will just feed rather than relieve your anxiety. The big loser in all of this is your child. I have no personal experience with the whole custody thing, but watching friends/ coworkers over the years, it seems excruciating to give over your young child to someone you don’t like anymore. yet people do it successfully all the time. Consider going to a pastor or counselor to get ahold of your own emotions before they bleed all over your child. Good luck to you!!! on the positive side, 18 years goes by faster than you think.
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I understand what you mean. But he has every right to not have you on his if that’s what he wants. You won’t see anything on there anyway he dosent want you too. Ask for photos of her every couple if hours or a little update. I can see why you have anxiety go up if his past isn’t the best one but you also let your daughter go and trust him with her so there must be good things about him. I can’t judge someone on there past that I really know nothing about honestly. So I do think you are over reacting a bit. It’s your child though so I know it’s easy to over react and worry about them!
Talk about posting anonymously because you know it’s not going to go your way
You are not entitled to his life nor are you entitled to forcefully be part of HIS parenting time because of your anxieties. He won’t add you because he doesn’t have to.
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Your not entitled to his life. I don’t keep my ex on fb. All you need is his phone number
Do you tell him everything you do when she’s with you and allow him to keep tabs on you?
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Simple solution take him to court.
Make sure you have concrete evidence.
Not gonna win w the social thing. He does not have to add you and he can not be made to add you.
As for his past evidence is key. If can prove baby is in danger everytime she’s goes w him tyen he’ll get supervised visits.
But stop trying to control him and go live your life
Nope…not yr business…and if u think he would hurt yr child in any way …shame on u 4 letting her go with him… otherwise u just being nosy… get over it
How is his social media going to tell you anything??? 
Maybe you should just tell him you’ll be installing cameras in his house!? Wouldn’t that be more sufficient to monitor him and the kids? 
girl leave him the hell alone! Lol
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Not your business. Get over it
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His shady past didn’t matter as much when yall were together, no sense in using it as a control mechanism now. You don’t get a choice in who the kids are around when with the other parent, or what they do. They other parent has the right to a life with their child that doesn’t involve you or your nose.
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Hahahahahaha this can’t be real.
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this is why baby mamas have had reputations 
leave that man alone . YOU had a baby by him . So let him be a Father u sound silly as hell
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You chose to have a child with him. You’re not entitled to access to his life. You have to relinquish some control. If you’re child is not in immediate danger, then let it be.
I mean why do you need to have access to his social media? You’re not in a relationship. Maybe next tike don’t have a child with somebody who you deem to be shady
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You’re way overstepping.
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Just so you can keep tabs:person_facepalming:. Yes you are over reacting you don’t get access to his social media to spy on him.
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He doesn’t have to a judge would laugh in your face.
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It’s not your child it’s both yall. Give him his child and enjoy the break. You can’t controlling what he does with his child on his time.
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You are not gonna win this one… You have no control over your ex
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I am sorry to say this but yes you are overreacting, He doesn’t need to add you to his social media, y’all are not together and that isn’t something anyone has to share. Your anxiety over this issue is your issue to deal with not his. That sounds harsh but it’s the truth. Clearly if he has custody during the weekends then a court or you, at some point, believed that he was fit to be alone with his child and parent her, you both have a right to parent your child unsupervised. He is her parent too. You also don’t get to decide who he brings around her that is his choice just as when you have her it is yours. (Unless there is a court order saying a specific person is not allowed around the child) If you’re concerned about your daughters well being or have a legitimate current concern for her safety you need to take the proper channels whether it be a lawyer or a call to CPS if it’s bad enough (but only if you have a legitimate recent issue)
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He shouldn’t add you
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Why would you yell him you should of just sent a request 
I mean he probably still wouldn’t of added you. Even without you saying anything he probably would know why.
Your overreacting. His time with her is his time.
Girl if you don’t want a fake page and add him
But he don’t have to add you if y’all not together even if y’all was that’s his page
Mine is blocked. For my own mental health. But I ask my kids every time they come home what they did and how their weekend was. I don’t know how old your babe is but sometimes social media is toxic. Parents functioned just fine before it so… My advice is let it go. Who cares what he says just worry about you and your kiddo. 
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His past was shady but you still went with him …Made your bed
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It is his choice. Thats an overbearing request.
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His social media isn’t your business. Stay in your lane.
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He doesnt have to. And frankly you can not control what he’s doing and who he’s with
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He don’t add you because he doesn’t need to. What he does on his time is his business. His past is his past you should trust he’s not going to hurt his child.
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Hate to say but you need to take a step back and realize you have no control over him and his decisions. You don’t get to tell him how to spend his time with his child and he doesn’t need you looking over his shoulder. It’s absurd to think you have more of a right than he does over the child you both share
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His time with his child is his.
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