Could be due to her period coming!
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Support her and offer counseling if she would like it. Itâs a weird time in a kids life and theyâre just not 100% of what they want. But do not do any sort of hormones or surgeries until she can do it her self at 18.
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Do you love your kid? No matter what? Is your kids happiness and life important to you?
Those are the real questions you should be asking yourself.
If the answers are yes, then⌠you support them through whatever it is. If itâs a phase, itâll be a phase but you making them feel heard and understood is whatâs the most important thing. Nothing else is as important as loving your child UNCONDITIONALLY.
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Itâs normal for children to feel uncomfortable during puberty, itâs alot to deal with. Opting out of that by wanting to become the opposite sex is understandable if they are told that is a possibility, but they arenât anywhere near old enough to understand the real implications of any of it, and also not old enough to give Informed consent to drugs and surgery. About 80% of kids with dysphoria get over it when they have gone through puberty. I would recommend that you look at the stories of detransitioners before you go very far into it. Itâs better to work out why she wants to that. Had she been looking at internet content that is encouraging it, has she been receiving sexual advances that she is uncomfortable with, are her friends doing it, does she just feel horrible because of how her body is changing, has somebody showed her porn that has scared her into not wanting to be a woman. Itâs worth exploring all of this.
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She can make that mistake as an adult!!!
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the Almighty is wrong now? talk abt Almighty how He can never be wrong in His creationsâŚchanging gender is going against the Creator, its a big sin
seek counselling for her in best way possible
its a difficult phase in her puberty age with hormones developing
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Kelly Lewis maybe you can offer advice
nope, shes still so young still. id tell her wait till 18 n then make that decision. this is what kids are doing cause its being pushed down there fucking throats.
Family therapy and go from there 
She needs all of the support she can get and so do you
Let her? I was young once and I had no interest in doing my hair, makeup or girl clothes. I always wanted my hair pulled up and I wanted to dress like a boy. I wore a tshirt, basketball shorts and tennis shoes all through middle school and part of high school until one day I decided I wanted to try dressing up and looking pretty. Just because she wants to âtransitionâ to a male doesnât mean she will permanently decide that. Let her be and let her decide who she wants to beđ¤ˇđźââď¸
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Support where she is at.
Try not to put a label on anything.
Follow her lead.
LISTEN to her.
Ask her what her pronouns are.
She might be Trans. She might be non binary. She might be a lesbian.
HELP her figure this out.
NO ONE wants to feel uncertain about who they are!!!
She isnât feeling comfortable in herself.
Empathize with that.
I have a Trans daughter. Believe me when I tell you, she NEEDS you!!
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Unconditional love, Mom! I agree to those saying let her dress how she wants, let her cut her hair as she wants, but personally, I wouldnât allow hormone therapy or any surgical procedure until she is an adult and can make informed decisions!
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Seems like thats the IN thing today. If she were mine I would tell her God made her that way on purpose and has a great plan for her life and I love her just the way she is, but, when shes 18 if she still feels that way Itâs her decision.
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I would love my child no matter who they are but I wouldnât let them transition through hormones at a young age until their bodies were more matured but I would offer support at 13 letting them wear and have their hair by however they felt comfortable and whatever else just not hormones at that moment.
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Be supportive and love and accept them for who they are. Find a therapist who specialises in working with young people who identify as LGBTQ to explore this further in a safe environment. If you want your child to be happy with who they are and alive donât pay any attention to the trolls who say she is going through a phase or its part of a new trend. That is bullshit. Whatever you do stand by and support your child for who they are. I would prefer to have a child who is alive and well over a child who is dead due to narrow mindedness and ignorance.
I would let her dress the way she feels comfortable I would NOT let her transition permanently period chances are she will see the person she wants to be in the mirror and be glad god made her a woman also I would get her counseling and let her learn the Ins and outs of what happens when you change your body when she becomes an adult then she can decide to make more life altering decisions she isnât old enough to make those choices her mind is trying to figure out who she wants to be I would encourage her to be comfortable in the skin sheâs in
Encourage her to cut her hair, change her pronouns, name, whatever she wants. Let her walk a year or two in a âboys skin,â see a counselor and if she is then confident that that is what she wants, support her in whatever she wants that may take it further
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From another perspective, my son (10) recently developed a âcrushâ on a girl whom weâve since found out is transitioning/has transitioned (lives life as a girl) and while she is absolutely beautiful inside and out it has caused some big questions for my son about himself and has caused his own personal acceptance issues about how this could change things for him and he has now actually changed schools because of the bullying not only to him but the bullying that has now picked up again for this girl⌠speak with Drs of all kinds get the proper advise and maybe help inform your child the realities of this decision in day to day life and what that will/could look like for them and see if they still want to go down that road⌠i would imagine it would be a long process so they have time to decide
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Say, cool. Letâs start with a hair cut and some new clothes. Then make an appointment with a therapist who specializes in queer and trans issues. Easy peasy.
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I would encourage them to express this with their pronouns and attire.I would respect their choices. As a mom, I would want adult decisions to be made for reassignment when they were an actual adult and able to carry that decision themselves (ie; surgery and hormones)
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I could be wrong when it comes to this but IMO I think a 13 year old is much to young to make that decision
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Support your child! Love them! Show them you have unconditional love no matter what transpires! Regardless that is your child! Help them!
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Iâm shook at the responses Iâm seeing itâs 2021 and people are still backwards
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For me I canât help but say the chosen name but I correct myself quickly you support that as much as you can as a parent imagine how it feels to be trapped with the wrong parts. Xo
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I was a tomboy growing up but even now I prefer men tshirts because they fit my boobs better after kids haha
I wouldnât allow the hormone replacement therapy until they are older because they havenât hit 13 yet. Thatâs a big commitment too, they need to be prepared. I would let them cut their hair and wear what they want but as far as the hormones go I wouldnât wait a few years. Hair can grow back and clothes can be changed pronouns and names can be changed back.
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So I have this exact situation my daughter is 11 almost 12 last summer I had some clothes my sister gave my son and nephew but didnât quiet fit either one of them yet in hall closet I gave her a pair basketball shorts to play outside in and she asked if could keep the clothes I let her her choice so she dresses as a boy she is half black white and for bout 2 years now has had her sides shaved in Mohawk type style but the top and back a curly fro so last summer she had told my sister call her her nephew my sister says you want be a boy she said yes Iâm going to be trans we said no and explained to her what it meant thinking she didnât know so fast forward around March I washed her hair and brushed it out she always cries so sheâs crying and after done still crying so I ask her whatâs wrong and she said we keep calling her a girl and she doesnât want to be a girl so I took her Starbucks we talked and walked around target I explained to her she can look like a boy and still identify as a girl and gave her two examples of my friends thatâs sheâs been around her whole life that lesbian looks like a guy identifies as a girl and my neice that is the same way I told her she still young and has time figure out what she wants do and can make surgery decision when sheâs 18 if thatâs what she wants so sheâs still a girl but can refer to herself as a boy if thatâs wha she wants after that talk she we noticed a big change in her all the way around all u can do is talk to her offer ur support I love her either way and support any decisions she wants make
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Ask them first if they are attracted to girls and if they feel they must be a boy to be with one. If they still Insist that they are in fact a man then get them to a therapist that specializes in gender issues.
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Jesus yâall.
He isnât too young. Take him to a doctor and have them discuss hormone blockers. If she wants to transition is is easier on anyone transitioning if the blockers start before puberty does. He is definitely old enough to make this decision. If youâre not sure he is then HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH HIM. As a mother Iâm going to support my child no matter what. He isnât hurting anyone around him except maybe Karenâs feelings about what god thinks on Facebook. Counseling to deal with the bullyâs and with helping him have someone to talk to about all of his inner feelings and thoughts(not to change his mind 
), hairbcut, let him pick a name, wardrobe, doctor for blockers.
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Personally, self expression is key. Let them change their hair, clothes, how they choose to identify, but as a parent I would not start hormone therapy. I know as a teenager you think you know everything and your parents know nothing (weâve all been there) but hormones are hard to fix. Start small and once she is older and this is something she still desires it can still be achieved. Just my two cents.
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If it was meâŚgiven what youâve saidâŚ
What I remember about being a teenager.
The first thing I would doâŚis ask questions.
When did it start? What led her to this decision/feeling?
To meâŚI think this is an important step with her age and the things youâve described. Discuss these things with her.
If sheâs still adamant, then let her pick some new clothes and new haircut.
Let her live as a boy.
She may change her mind. She may not.
Make her wait and make her responsible for any hormonal therapy or surgery. Not out of maliciousness or anything but becauseâŚthese are adult decisions.
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Let her express herself how she feels comfortable. Either she will continue it as gets older or itâs a phase and she will grow out of it. Hair grows back. Just be supportive sheâll get enough negativity from school she needs to be able to be 100% comfortable with you.
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I wonât even let my 7 year old get her ears pierced.
If Iâm not letting them get pierced or tattoos, they can also wait until they are 18 to make life altering choices.
I have 5 kids. They say something in the morning and change their minds by noon.
Your frontal lobe does not close until you are 18, they canât even diagnose Borderline Personality Disorder until you are 18 for that reason.
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#1- Make sure your childâs knows you will love them no matter what.
2- Talk to medical and mental health professionals, not an opinionated group of strangers.
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Support your child. Maybe take it slow as people said start with a hair cut, different clothes etc. Iâd let your child (and you) get used to the process. Counselors help, as Iâm sure there will be rough mental times. I donât agree with people saying children are to young to decide bla bla bla. Children are far more aware of their emotions, feelings then we as a parent are. Help them explore and understand them.
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I wouldnât allow any hormone changes until they are older. From about 10-13 I was a total tomboy and wore baggy clothes and stuff, and Iâve always hung more with the boys, but Iâm glad I am a girl at 34. 13 is still pretty young to make a lifetime change in my opinion. I would allow them to change their appearance with clothing and hair, but would have them wait to really be sure, especially if this is really the first youâre hearing of it. I would also try to find out if part of the wanting to transition is because they are interested in dating the same sex, or if they really feel they were meant to be a male.
Iâm sorry but I think a lot of this gender stuff is a fad.
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Be careful and find the right therapist for her. Please search for one high and low. There is plenty of documented evidence of young people transition into the opposite gender then sometimes years later they change how they feel because they have matured and figured out its not actually what they want and they de-transition. I would totally discourage any hormones, you can get her on birth control so she doesnât get periods. Testosterone can drastically change her body and sheâs only a child. If it was me I would let her wear whatever and call her whatever name she wants but I would not support hormones or surgery until sheâs 1 a legal adult 2 sheâs been through extensive therapy to be sure this is what is best for her.
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Id be extremely supportive of my son. Just because they have never expressed anything like this to you before does not mean it hasnât played in their mind every single day for years. They just finally felt comfortable enough to tell you. Be the safe space your child needs. Give them all the support and resources you can find because if they have to find them on their own (and they will) you will never know if itâs safe or not. Find a therapist/counsellor for them to have a safe person to talk to freely, as hard as it is to hear, you will not ever be a completely safe space for them to express themselves. And make sure that whoever you find is very open to the community or else your child may face some horrible situations they do not need.
Talk to your family doctor to get started, they will probably have places they know of to send you guys too.
Most of all, just support and love your child.
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A lot on information. Also talks about if they decide to stop the puberty hormone blockers.
If she is just talking about this it could be attention or rebellion. Hormones too. Talk with her a lot to get everything out in the open. Talk a lot! The reason will come out. I am a Christian so I would have her in church and reading the Word in a youth group. God never makes mistakes. Man thinks he knows better than God but as I said I am a Christian. I will be judged for saying this. God bless you and I will be praying for you.
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So for those of you that this is an unpopular opinion Probably wonât like this (please do not comment with your negativity this is specifically for the momma who needs help)
My daughter is 12 and school for them is rough. Kids are mean and for whatever reason in this new generation if you are just a âboy or a girlâ you get bullied bc your just conforming. 
Iâm not saying this bc itâs what I think itâs what I get told daily after school.
First it was she was bi but had to be âpushedâ by friends to tell me. Ok cool thatâs great!
Next her friend insisted she was pan⌠so now sheâs telling me sheâs pan⌠neat!
Next another friend⌠you should cut off all your hair⌠now we had to chop off all her hair⌠cool itâs hair it grows backâŚ
Next sheâs on FaceTime and mom!! I want to be called him/he⌠this was my stopping point bc EVERY SINGLE TIME itâs being pushed by someone else. I made the call stop and it was time for a serious conversation.
- Well my friends saidâŚ
- I donât like being a girl girl all the time.
- I like girls.
Ok I get it but you need to stop following what people tell you you want and think for yourself.
Do you want to dress like a boy act like a boy? No? Ok then why he/him? Is there intent to make the actual transition from girl to boy eventually? ABSOLUTELY NOT? Ok then why would you want to be called he/him?
BC THATS WHATS THE KIDS AT SCHOOL SAID I SHOULD BE???
These kids are not making there own decisions, maybe not all but the amount of peer pressure is absolutely insane⌠sheâs now sat back and realized that she can like girls and not have to be all these things that sheâs told she had to be in order to like girls. We finally came to an understanding that being bi or lesbian doesnât have to come with so many strings attached and she doesnât need to change who she is to be loved⌠no matter what sex they are.
Now with everything I said had the conversation went the other way and she did actually want this change for herself I would have supported her 100% and figured out what we would have needed to do from there. Just sit down and have a serious heart to heart and find out what she really wants.
Most kids have this feeling as early as three but donât express it out of fear or abnormalcy. But it can be vital to a trans persons sense of self to transition before full puberty. Maybe start by getting him a new wardrobe and maybe a hair cut? Do that test run for a month or so and if it sticks 
then Iâd speak to a gender specialist about the next steps!
P.s. I think the fact that you even asked means you care a lot about your child, and I think they/he is in good hands mama! 
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If some of you canât accept your child how they want to be, you should have never became parents in the first place. They wonât be able to do body altering surgery/hormones until they are medically allowed to do so and go through therapy. Use the pronouns he is comfortable with, allow him to dress how he wants and cut his hair how he wants. Communicate with hjm and be supportive or you may lose your child. Iâm glad my kids can be who they want to be and I will never try to control that.
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Support your kid. Explain to them that you think they are too young to start the transition process. But if they want to dress/be called a different pronoun encourage and support them. When they are older sit down and have the conversation again. If they still feel the same help them get started.
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Did anyone suggest having a conversation with the child to address the expectations she has about changing genders? How her life will/ could change- and although family and friends maybe open- is she ready for the cruel world- does she have good coping skillsâ and yes- I realize itâs not her responsibility nor should she be â bulliedâ but kids can be mean to those who may appear different. Help prepare her by having these conversations.
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Youâre the adult. Act like it.
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These comments just show that many of you have a lot of learning to do. My son is 13, and for his pain and dysphoria and body image to be dismissed as a âfadâ, is cruel and uneducated. So many children teens AND adults live in pain and fear because theyâve been dismissed like that. My beautiful child came out to us 2 years ago, and Iâve worked so hard to be loving and supportive and to provide him with all the support he needs. Iâve also had to deal with the pain of listening to him talk about how heâd rather cut into his chest with a knife than have to look at his body any longer, or in his worst moments, that he doesnât live for himself, but for the rest of his family. The pain of someone young living with crippling dysphoria and depression is NOT a fad. He began hormone blockers 2 years ago (although heâd already begun to develop before that) and yes, at 13, heâs just begun hormone replacement. The damage to his mental health was too much. Every child, teenager, person, and their situation is different, and he has a team of doctors and 2 counsellors that are with us on his journey. For all of you who are dismissing, judging, and laughing it off as kids will be kids - I hope if any of you have children and they were ever to come to you in that sort of pain, you would support them and be open minded. The long term consequences of NOT doing that should be enough to scare any parent. Re-evaluate and re-educate, our kids need and deserve better. Every journey is going to be different for our transgender babies, but love and acceptance is the only way to go. If anyone ever wants to reach out to a parent whoâs going through this with their child, please feel free to message me. 
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PUBERTY BLOCKERS ASAP. They are fully reversible and if thatâs the track he wants to go it saves so much pain.
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I was a tomboy from the age of 8 through 15. I never had a problem being called a girl because I knew itâs a fact so why get upset. For some reason I just liked dressing like a boy. Hanging with boys. My mother had no problem with me dressing so. I remember when a girl approached me at 13 and was all googly eyed and said she liked me. I was like what? I donât like girls. I just like dressing like this because its comfortable. I was told thatâs weird. After a while I sat down and had to ask myself am i gay or bisexual? Do I have any desire to be trans? All answers were no and I looked into what about menâs clothing I liked and started to buy clothes that gave me that same comfort. Then at the age of 14 I started fully dressing like a girl and doing my hair and such. I personally donât support changing childrenâs gender because of what I went through. Because of what I experienced i would say let underage children live by set rules and explore their sexuality until they are sure. I stand firm in saying let the child wait until they are 18 to make that decision. Lack of discipline and respect is why I feel children are demanding and acting out with parents about this. Parents have a right to control their households.
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Howâs she gonna grow a dick?
Do some research, get as informed as you can. There are support groups out there for parents of trans kids who have questions/concerns about their children wanting to transition. Above all, please let your baby know that youâre listening and trying to find the best way to be supportive with such a huge step in their life. Love them through it. Iâm sorry for any ignorant comments/replies from other people.
This breaks my heart. Support your child. Get them therapy. Let them dress or cut their hair however they want. Medical interventions though? Do you all remember what being 13 is like? You can support your child without medical interventions. Whether it be reversible or not you are chemically altering their body.
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Get her into therapy where she/he can explore her/his feelings talk to medical professionals, together do the research and gather all of the information that you can and most importantly be supportive and let her/him know that no matter what you love them.
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Support your child, but as an adult⌠you donât have to play pretend like they do.
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Absolutely not. Her brain isnât fully developed yet, she is not mature enough to make this decision.
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Support your child. Simple.
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Dont let her do it at this age. She is 13 yrs old it is permanent and if she has never expressed it before . please dont let you very young child do that to herself at this young age.
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Support your child. Maybe they never had the courageous to speak up before but have felt this way for a while. Iâd put your child in therapy and maybe attend family therapy. While difficult, all you can do is love and support them
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I mean legally she cannot transition tell 18 anyways. And at 18 thatâs her decision and not anyone elseâs. But why you can do is maybe get her into therapy and if she is okay with it maybe attend some sessions once she gets in the hang of it. Show love and understanding! Understandings doesnât always mean supporting but it also doesnât mean shaming. Validate her feelings and frustrations and love her through them 
good luck mama!
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tell her . she can cast down any stronghold in her mind that exalts itself AGAINST the knowledge of the LORD . take her to church , pray for her . whom the son sets free is free indeed . this is confusion to her mind . she was created in the image of God , and God donât make no mistakes . my prayers go out to her .
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These schools are pushing this onto our children hard now more than ever and what they watch on youtube as well. GOD made her to be a girl. There is no shame with being the sex you were born to be.
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Donât do anything permanent- 13 to 14 is a very hard age and sheâs figuring herself out. Support her, love her, and give her some time.
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It is a trend right now. Just make sure you communicate and support her. Have her do the research on what it takes to transition and the rate of mental health issues that can come with it.
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Everyone talking about âdonât let her chemically alter herself at that ageâ⌠but then turn around and put your 13/14 year olds on birth control like that AINT the same thing 
I agree you should put her in therapy so she can talk with PROFESSIONALS. But make sure she understands itâs to help her fully Learn about her choices and how they will affect her, NOT to deter her. And then most importantly be supportive. Coming out alone is already a hard step. Give her all the love and support you can.
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How about supporting your child? Not bible thumping âsupportâ but actual support. Take them to a therapist. Let them make some non-permanent changes such as cutting their hair, changing their clothes, and start calling them he/him or they/them. It is very difficult for people to come out because of all the hate. It is NOT just a trend right now. People are just now feeling safe to come out because they see that others had the courage so they can too. As a parent Iâm sure it is hard, but your child needs love and support. The lgbtq community gets a lot of hate and backlash for being themselves, they need a lot more supporters in their corner
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Nopr gies against gods willm
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My god, this is becoming some kind of fashion trend, its all I seem to be reading nowadays, children, yes children! All wanting to change sex or sexuality. Soon every child born will all be changing sex just because theyâre mates are. No im not against it, my eldest son is gay, and I support him, but atleast he tried dating a girl aged 15 before he knew for sure he likes boys. Heâs 19 now and very sure of his sexuality. Iâm sorry but 12 is too young to make life changing decisions that could change when older, then theyâre stuck with it for life.
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Iâm sure the feelings have always been there but sheâs just now coming into herself. Sheâs hit puberty and starting to understand her body more and has probably been feeling this way for quite some time but is just now confident enough to express those feelings. All I can say is be supportive, be willing to listen, donât be afraid to ask questions as long as their not degrading obviously. I wish you and your child the best luck and lots of positive thoughts. Iâm sure itâs a difficult time for both of you. Her for finding the courage to finally express her true feelings and you because itâs all so new and you arenât quite sure what to do. I donât think anyone can really tell you what they would do because I donât think anyone really knows until theyâre in that situation. I would hope that all parents would be understanding and supportive of their child regardless of what it was.
I have decided if my children want to be trans they can we will love them the same but I will not let hormones or surgery. When they are 18 they can start the process.
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She canât legally transition but let her be who she wants to be and let her figure it out on her own. 13 is a rough age and thatâs when they start really figuring out who they are. Let her do what she wants , if she wants to cut her hair, let her, if she wants to dress like a boy take her shopping. Whatever she chooses support her in every decision. She may or may not change her mind but right now she needs your support more than ever
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Itâs simple Iâd tell her she can do whatever she wants when shes grown
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This is the newest addition to pop culture
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Itâs a trend nowadays my step kid was trans for about 3 years. A whole assembly at school on how to address them and kids would get punished if they used the wrong name or pronouns. Step child has now decided they are no longer trans. It was 100% for attention. Now I have a confused 5yr old who doesnât know if they have a brother or a sister. Please get your child into therapy. And donât do permanently alter their bodies at all. They can start making changes as an adult.
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As young children reach this difficult period in their development, they may feel uncomfortable about their bodies.
There is too much exposure to all this gender identity and it results in further confusion. Emotions and feelings of inadequacy create doubts. Sit down with your child and listen carefully to them and ask questions to help them understand that these feelings will change.
Prayers!
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Personally, if my child says theyâre trans or bi or gay etcâŚ. Iâd show support and love. Maybe get a therapist as they are probably going to deal with a lot. But nothing permanent until they are adults and can do what they want. Most important thing right now is that your child feels love and accepted
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That is a life altering decision that should not be made till she is an adult. At her age she does not have the mental maturity to make that decision.
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My 12 year old daughter is also wanting to transition, I myself wasnât surprised when they told me. First bit of advice be supportive, the outside world is hard enough, second going from she or her to him or he is hard, I try they them and my kid loves that Iâm trying, we also let our kid cut their hair how they want and bought a bunch of clothes from the boys section gradually, my only rule is nothing that will permanently change the body until they are an adult. No hormones. No surgery. Other than that itâs just apperance and a change of a few words. Your child is still the same person just more comfortable in their own skin. Good luck, the whole thing is a bit of a mind blow at first. But once you see them start to love themselves a little more itâs absolutely amazing.
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a good therapist to get to the bottom of this thought
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Just be there for your child. Let them know they can count on you.
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I would be supportive but not allow anything permanent until they are older. Teen brains are developing and Iâm not saying they donât know what they want but they change their minds.
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Let her figure it out talk with her see what she really thinks. But most of all Let her choose on her own.
If my son says heâs meant be a girl then my words " you can be whatever you want Iâll love you requardless" but heâd def not get hormones or surgery until he as atleast 18 or Iâd press for 21 to wait.
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Still to young to decide some thing like this
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Sheâs really young to fully transition and on top of that I feel like itâs been forced on smaller kids because it makes you different and stand out more these days, itâs a new trend. I would talk to her and let her say everything she wants about it and Iâd ask a lot of questions. Tell her that she needs to get older and be 100% sure that a full transition is what she actually wants but in the mean time she can dress how she wants and you will call her by her preferred pronoun. Itâs hard these days with all of this. There are so many new things that werenât around when I was growing up. Just support her and her choices for herself let her know that puberty isnât far away if itâs not already happening and how that would effect a transition also do a lot of research on the topic.
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I personally wouldnât allow any medical treatments or surgeries like that before 18. If she wants different pronouns, to cut her hair, and dress in âboysâ clothes then thatâs fine by me. And when she/he is 18, then I would fully support a full transition.
My reason is because if she was to change her mind, it would be my fault. âI was young, why would you let me do that?â kind of thing⌠I couldnât have that on my heart.
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The dangers of todayâs toxic affect on childrenâŚprayers to you and your daughter. God does not make mistakes
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Take your child to a third world and complete a mission for 6 months. Get your child off the webb and into another childâs real world. Its the best therapy for all the psychosis happening in first worldsâŚ
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My daughter considers herself non-binary. Sheâs almost 12.
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First of all you need to start using the proper pronouns⌠Itâs HE now. Get him in with a doctor or therapist that specializes in transgender issues so that he can get the hormone treatments (which are reversible by the way) or support he needs as he figures this all out.
This has to be addressed now. He is old enough to start making decisions for his own body and the longer you wait or the longer you try to brush this off like itâs a decision only adults should make, the more of a likelihood that he will suffer from mental health issues and/or suicide as a result.
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Maybe sheâs been afraid to say anything before now. Support your child the best way you can. I know parents who have resented their children and then later on regretted their decision because they lost their child. Most kids know from when they are very young.
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She will be discovering boys soon. That will change everything.
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Be gentle and have a conversation.
I would find a Trans friendly therapist to go to as a family. Let her know you love her no matter what and that you all will figure it out together as a family. That she is not aloneâŚ
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That would be a big no. Sometimes kids her age tend to âidolizeâ a person of the same sex. Doesnât mean she needs to change her sex or is gay.(I know these things were not mentioned in the post. I just thought I would add them for additional infoâ¤). Media has put sexual orientation in our faces, (please others, take no offense) and our children are getting confused. Personally anyone under the age of 16-18(?) is too young to make a decision that will affect them for the rest of their lives. Hormones are just starting and not settled. This is my humble opinion and Iâm sorry if I have offended anyone. We just need to protect our kids until they are older and can protect themselvesâ¤.
Isnt it too early just an opinion
donât do any body changes under they are a bit older just because thatâs is a HUGE change for a 13 year old to make. maybe you can offer them a hair cut and let them dress how ever they want. and start trying to use their preferred pronouns:)
My neice just did it. And all I can say is be very supportive
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Get him therapy. If this is what he truly wants than puberty blockers will make everything easier when he gets the surgery once heâs an adult. Until then be supportive and use proper pronouns. Make sure everyone else uses the proper pronouns too
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I would love and support my child . Regardless
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I always tell my kids as long as itâs safe, legal and does no harm to others then I will always support them. My daughter started her transition 3 summers ago with a hair cut. Then picking out her clothes and now 14 and has a gender neutral name that is preferred, wants a chest binder, talked about a packer recentlyâŚI am supportive but the things that will fully transform ftmâŚthat will be on their pocketbook. She identifies as asexual and non-binary. Quite honestlyâŚwithout the long hairâŚsheâs still my daughter. Sheâs still my cuddle bug. She knows sheâs loved and supported and sheâs patient with me while I work with the pronouns and try to understand more.
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