I mean to each their own 
My only questionā
WHY would anyone WANT to become a man 
Iām thankful Every. Single. Day. that I was born a female
Anyhow, just treat them like your child, as you always have. Itās really not that difficult. Unless you make it difficult. That is their path, & their choices to answer for. Stop taking things so personal. Itās not like you āchoseā their sex at birth anyway.
Your son wants to affirm his body to his spirit. If you love your kid, youāre going to listen to and honour them. It doesnāt mean there has to be full transition right away, or surgery, or hormones.
Puberty can be crazy harmful for trans kids, and something as simple as puberty blockers until theyāre a bit older can literally save their lives. Talk to a trans informed dr, and find a trans informed counsellor. Give your kid space and grace to keep growing and discovering themselves. Affirming who they are is life saving.
If youāre tempted to try and force this to go away, take a quick google into the impact of gender disphoria and the trauma caused by being forced to pretend trans kids arenāt trans. The statistics are very very clear, trying for force assigned sex at birth, causes tremendous harm and puts your kid at a high likelihood (at best) of being alienated away from you and your love, and at worst (and statistically heightened) suicide and self harm.
Just be supportive!!! Talk to him if heās transitioning might wanna start calling him he and not she so he knows your in his side and he can talk to you about anything
Itās crazy how this is an ok thing ok now Iām not making fun of the 13yo SHE is 13 and they learn thru is and Iām saying what God makes donāt change 
very sad to know these children have no idea what a church looks like and man Iām guilty too donāt take them near enough, but kids now know everything else but God 
what is acceptable by human standards is not always acceptable to God
Itās her body her choice support her in exploring all of this 
these kids need a parents love and support and thatās all that matters.
So, this is supposed to be a Mamaās group? Most of you donāt know how to mother, according to your answers. IMO as a God fearing person.
allow it. support it. in all its phases the moon is still the moon.
Itāll be hard on you, grieve your little girl, & love the f*** out of your little boy. Support him in any way, thereās a lot to go through, if heās not serious it will come to light, but more than likely heās just never felt comfortable showing this side. Either way, right now, your full support is needed by your baby. Good luck!! 
The number of people willing to 100 percent disregard this kids feelings and experiences in their own body is heart breaking.
Our childrenās bodies do not belong to us. Theyāre not ours to subjugate. 
If sheās been expressing herself this way or even showing signs and hints I say go for it but this also could be just a tomboy phase, and in my opinion if she wanted to transition Iād say give it a test ride. Let her dress and act like a boy and if she still feels that way when sheās 18 then at least she knows what she wants and can start treatment. This way itās a win win without the possibility of them changing there mind and regretting it.
Therapy Iād say, id never recommend letting that happen, its new & to transition they would give her A Mans Testosterone sheās a kid let her decide that later on in life not now
I personally would let my child make certain changes such as hair name clothes etc but as far as surgical transition they would have to wait until 18 not because I donāt approve but at 13 thereās a lot of peer pressure thereās a lot of outside influences and 13 is an extremely impressionable age! I didnāt go as far as wanting to be a boy but I was bright clothes and rainbows and sunshine and then I got a crush on a guy and 180 my appearance and clothes and went hardcore goth and that lasted like a year then I was sweats and tshirts then heels and makeup I liked females and guys etc my point is at a young age kids are experimenting to find out who they are and she wants to be a he and by all means thatās fine but donāt jump to surgery because god forbid they change their mind after the fact itās really hard but this way let them make small transitions and by 18 if this is still what they want you have no say anyway but if thatās what your child chooses be there be supportive and itās given you both time to deal with and be ready for the transition because a lot of people give parents shits because itās hard on the child itās shouldnāt be hard for the parents but at the end of the day you gave birth to a little girl who you have called by her birth name and seen her as her but now you have to reprogram yourself for them and it isnāt easy but as long as you try and never stop loving you kid thatās what matters but like I said I would let your child make small transitions and by 18 if they still want the surgery love and support them trough it!
Get her into some gender appropriate therapy with people experienced with the body dysphoria that comes with that. Educate yourself as well on the process and get realistic on what is happening. Itās just such a complicated thing and itās vital that your daughter has supports in place before and after surgery.
I would get her into therapy ,not to make her feel like she is wrong for feeing like this but so they can help her mentally make sure this is what she wants and truly understands what it means in every and all aspects and if she still is set on it as she ages and when she gets older just support her and go with it .
Personally I feel like thatās way too young. That is a child, she should not be worried about that kind of thing at that age. Be supportive but donāt do anything drastic because kids change their minds, often, it could just be a phase.
Go buy clothes of their choice, and let them cut or grow their hair as they feel is comfortable. But no surgeries or treatment till they are 18 and 
confidant that is what they want.
I would just let her do her thing. Dont put too much weight on it. Dont put any pressure one way or the other. Dont act overly supportive or under supportive. Being that sheās never said anything before it could be a phase. But it also could NOT be a phase. So support but donāt try to act like a poster mom for it. Use he/him if your child requests. Cut the hair and change the clothes. But donāt act so over the top that the child feels like they canāt change their mind again.
Whoever has asked this question and whoever may be going through this also, I commend you for asking for support. Please ignore the negative comments and focus on you and your family. I wouldnāt have a clue (have 2 daughters myself) but I would be there, listen and talk it through. Be open and try and understand what sheās going through and why she feels this way. You are her/his mama no matter what. Maybe see what support you can get (professional) to talk with her too. Wishing you the best of luck and sending hugs xxxx
She is way too young to make this life altering decision. Ask her to wait until she is 18, which gives her lots of time to think about it. In the meantime, if she wants to dress Male or whatever, be sure to love & support her always.
She should see a therapist first. Even when youāre over 18 and want to have reassignment surgery, you have to get the okay from two therapists before they let you. Whether she sticks with wanting to transition or not, she will need help through it by a professional. Just be open and supportive.
Has she even gone through puberty yet? Iād let her dress however she wanted and participate in whatever activities she wanted use the pronouns and whatever name she wants.but at 13 I wouldnāt make any permanent or long lasting changes. Support her but donāt physically change them until they are older. Its the same reason you canāt get a tattoo at 13 ya know? bc people change their minds and thats way too young. I do think its become wildly popular now so if sheās watching a lot of tik tok or YouTube she could be getting the idea from there. āmonkey see monkey doā
Of this is a sudden change n came out of nowhere, I wouldnāt push the complete transition on them! Baby steps, support them if they want to wear boys clothes cut hair etc. At that age it could also just be a phase/curiosity and I only say that, because it came out of nowhere.
I think the most important thing that needs to happen, is for the two of you to sit down, and have a judgement free conversation and just find out whatās going on in her head. And go from there. Good luck momma!
Scroll the posts from yesterday. They had a question similar to this. Might help some.
She is 13, is there really any question?
So much transphobia here 
It is never OK to transition to any other gender than what God created you to be. God only created two genders male and female and he doesnāt make mistakes when you are born you are what you are and that is part of his plan. The world that we live in today has just become so āacceptingā of people wanting to switch genders just because no one wants to offend anyone. Schools are even brainwashing our kids that itās OK and it is NOT OK! These are children and at 13 years old they do not know what they want. Please turn to Godās word for the answers and guidance in these situations.
Also you gave birth to a female . If she wants to transition , she can when she is an adult.
Gently let her guide the way. Sheās 13, she will go through many changes; however, if she is legitimately transgender keeping her from being able to express herself could be very damaging, so keep supporting her and allowing her! 
To young to make a lifelong decision
So much transphobia
in these comments 
The child needs parental support. Iām not saying go out and get them put on hormone blockers and everything. Yes things could change with age butā¦ 1 find a great therapist for your child, preferably one with experience with lgbtq+ youth. 2 do your best to support your child, use their preferred pronouns, if they need clothing and things to help them look the same on the outside as they do on the inside then help them with that. So many LGBTQ+ youth go without the support and love they deserve.
Therapy first and support is needed highly.
Also block all the assmatts in this group that are negative.
No way would I allow it. Our gender was chosen for us, itās something you canāt change but have to live with.
I myself have a 13 y/o daughter. Ask your child what they would like to do. Do they want to go by he/him pronouns? have short hair? change the way they dress? Take then out shopping let them choose some new outfits. Let them cut their hair. And use the pronouns that request. If they want to take meds to transition I would make an apt with their pediatrician and talk it over with them as well as some therapy to help understand what your child truly wants. Even if it is a phase (personally I believe 13 is old enough to know if they feel like the wrong gender) let the. Go through it, support their choice to live their authentic self. But first I would sit down and have a conversation with your child about what they want. And let them know youāre a safe place and a safe person. Iām very adamant about having open conversations and I have exposed my children to all sorts of lifestyles. I tell my children as long as they are happy and good humans thatās all that matters.
why yāall so transphobic 
iāll be ready for you old ppl to die off, that generation is shit.
My daughter is 16 and is just beginning transitioning from female to male. It wasnāt easy for me at first and still is hard to get use to not going to lie sje was my first born and my only biological girl. But the one thing as parents we need to understand is itās not us and our job is to be there to support our children no matter what. She had to go through therapy and see a sex therapist as well and I fought hard to find a Dr that would see her because of her age and would approve her for testosterone treatment. If you want you can always message me if you have any questions or need another mother to talk to
To young. Im all for my kids doing wtf they wantā¦ Soon as they turn 18
Just tell her okay & go on. Teenagers are very peer pressured into different things. I canāt begin to tell you what all I thought I was when I was a teenager lol. They are just trying to find themselves & will go through different stages especially if itās happening where they go to school. Just back off & let her explore herself. I would not do anything permanent until sheās 18. Way too young right now.
Is this all starts with a therapist!
Children are too young to fully transition, they canāt legally anywayā¦ But ways to help would be let them choose their style, , their haircut, their name, Let them be who they feel they are And tell them you will continue to talk about transitioning when theyāre old enough to do so. All you can do is support because Iām telling you those that refuse to or cannot accept their children unconditionally will loose them.
Support her feelings but as a mother at 13 you are not able to make a decision that will affect the rest of your life. Support, counseling to help validate her feelings, then discuss and let her know she always has your support no matter what. This may pass and it may not regardless be there for her.
My daughter is 13 and this year has been a rollercoaster in terms of her discovering herself. In the span of about 9 months, she was bisexual, then transgender, possibly lesbian, but wasnāt sure, then pansexual, followed by just being a tomboy, and now back to being more feminine and having a crush on a boy. She spoke very openly about all of this with me. She cut her hair and we bought her more masculine clothing. Admittedly, I was frustrated. Not because she identified as something other than what I had always known her to be, but because she was flip flopping around and at times, seemed more to try to fit into those categories rather than them coming naturally to her. She also didnāt want to change her pronouns at any point during any of this. When I started shopping for summer clothes online, I had a ton of masculine clothes picked out for her. When she saw what I picked out, she removed it all and replaced everything with feminine clothing. After having a heart to heart conversation, she expressed to me that she genuinely felt uncomfortable in her own body and because of that, she thought she must be transgendered. I explained to her that everyone has insecurities about their bodies and we all deal with them differently. She was also not the only girl who went through this. Several of her friends went through the same thing this year. Theyāre all trying to figure out who they are and where they fit in. There are a lot of changes going on at that age. Talk to her openly about it, maybe let her explore by changing up her look a little and counseling wouldnāt hurt.
Iād allow her to be herself but donāt allow any medical changes until sheās 18 and can take responsibility for her decisions if she still chooses to do do
As someone who knows a person like this, its simple just love your child. Ask them what pronouns they want to use and it doesnāt just have to be he/she. Have them pick out a few outfits that they like but only in the house for now and you need to explain that sometimes people arenāt going to understand whatās going on with them and that some might not accept them. And thats the biggest things you need to do as their parent
If my kiddos go through that phase I would like to say I would try to be supportive. But I would still think that is to young to make a decision that will affect their whole life.
Id say put her in therapy not to try to stop but ask her to do a certain number of sessions because our youth is so caught in the trend of it that many are regretting it in the future and if they are actually transgender then therapy can help sort through those feelings and figure out what it actually means.
Support her in the decisions that she wants to make.
It could be a phase as she discovers more about herself. I know of some daughters that bought binders to experiment but it never went further.
Keep the lines of communication open. Itās important that they are heard and can come to you as a trusted parent. As hard as it can be for you, take your emotions out of it. Talk matter of fact about what she wants. Itās not about you.
Take small steps if thatās how she feels. Talk to her about he/him pronouns see if thatās what she wants. She could just now be comfortable enough to express it.
I would be supportive, but I draw the line at hormonal blockers and surgery. Mainly because puberty is important.
I would do therapy with a specialist who works with other LGBTQ kids and those considering transition.
You can be supportive and still have concerns. I mean, people get all pissy about it, but itās also a huge change for you too. Itās not easy for parents either. Itās okay to have concerns. Whatās not okay is disowning your kid over it.
12 is nowhere near the age they should be making life changing choices. Preteens and teens do not have the capacity and their brains arenāt ready. It has always been that during that age they experiment and go thru phases.
Puberty is hard 
kids hear and see to much . Sometimes they are just like today I am gonna be some thing different. hormonesā¦and influence. 1 day at a time .
Unconditional love and support. Especially if my daughter ended up like me(Iām Transmasculine myself) teach her to safely bind, take her shopping for a new wardrobe. But mostly unconditional love and support
Since the brain doesnāt fully mature until age 24 it would appear that she is far too young to be making life-changing decisions.
Your child has probably been keeping this stuffed away inside for a long time in fear of your reaction, I know I did with my family (gender fluid). For minors, no physician would do any permanent changes like surgery. Change their clothes and name, let the child be who they are based on outward appearance. Childrenās hospital actually has specialists for transgender youth. By the way, I knew I was not like the other girls way back in preschool. Not too young whatsoever.
I think sheās Too young to make that decision. But everybodyās view on this subject will be different. Like how some parents have different ages they think their kids are able to date.
But since kids that age now transition because it gets attention or itās what āeverybodyās doing right nowā you gotta be careful sheās not trying to do it for those reasons. And itās possible you didnāt know she wanted to because sheās not comfortable about talking you about the subject.
You support your child with whatever makes them feel good about themselves. Itās really not a hard choice. Not at all.
I think at this stage I would get them into therapy so they can have help navigating their thoughts/feelings. Transitioning is a big step in a persons life so you want to make sure they really understand all of their options.
Itās a long trip. After a trip to a psychologist for an assessment start with a name and pronouns, living in a male persona for at least a year. Have a dr go over all the medical side of things with them. Pour on the love and acceptance.
Tell her no! God made her a female she needs to STAY female. Get her help. Please.
Just kinda go with it. Let her be a āTom boyā and see how she feels about it. Let her cut her hair and dress like a boy. My daughter went through it. Shaved her head a couple times. Wore some menās polo shirts and button up dress shirts. But always bounced back and gravitated towards a more girly look. Sheās 15 and growing out her hair and wears pink. Also likes dresses and skirts once in a while. Sheās 15. If you completely control them they will rebel.
Getting her a counselor should be the first step. She obviously needs guidance on whatever journey she considers to take, especially with her being so young. She will need all the help she can get from you and her family and counseling.
Many people are saying it could be a phase. What teen actually knows who they are? I agree. It could be. But then again - maybe itās not a phase. Maybe itās who they feel they are inside. The fact of the matter is thisā¦ If you arenāt supportive, and it turns out that they change their mind, or that they donāt and this is who they are, theyāll know that your love is not unconditional. Theyāll never forget that. A counselor for your family and for your child alone, I believe itās more than necessary. And itās ok for you to feel scared or hurt and confused about this. Itās normal. Just remember, though this affects your whole family, this child is the one that this should be about. Good luck.
I accept my childās identity. Permanent changes can be made after 18th birthday. Haircuts and gender neutral clothes are easy.
They say they no there different inside from day 1. My granddaughter has a friend who now identifies her self as male not sure about transitioning, how ever my niece was that way at 13 and today she bid in her 20ās and has taken hormones and had too surgery. He now has. Facial hair a girlfriend and looks like he was born this way itās strange but once the hormone change he actually makes a much better looking man then the female born???
The body shape totally changes. So I think when they come and say they should of been born differently itās something inside we can never understand or should just support them. And the counseling will help them. Good luck and just listen be supportive knowledge is the key to understanding.
If she is sure this is something she wants to do, have her do it slowly and let her do things that are not permanent. Like let her get her hair cut short, take her to buy āboy/maleā clothing and let her try put he/him pronouns and possibly a transition name. She may learn that she just likes being more masculine than actually wanting transition in the future. At 13, things are confusing but itās a time for expression but not a time to be making such big decisions like actually transitioning.
I would start with research, and a good therapist, for you both.
Let her transition and love her thatās all you can do
My daughter came to me at that age about transitioning . I let her explore as far as wearing clothes that express her ā¦she wanted her hair shorter so we got it cut ā¦about almost a year later she started to wear skirts again and got curious with makeup and girly stuffā¦ I think if you show love and support but do not let her make permanent decisions until sheās an adult ā¦ then you will find that they are just trying to find who they are ā¦I was careful to make sure this wasnāt a ātrendingā thingā¦this is why no permanent decisions were made .
The answer is,shes a child keep raising her like your daughter till she is if age to make mature decisions. Not something she may regret. Itās your duty right now as a parent to keep her from harm. Are you aware of her contacts and environment outside of home ? That is a BIG influance.
I have to day parents who donāt personally have a transgender child shouldnāt comment or express their opinions on something they first hand donāt have a clue about. The first thing I recommend is finding a counselor or therapist that specializes in transgender disformia and start there my (daughter) son did and we went through it for 2 years before talking to gyn and finding her a Dr to help start thereās a lot that goes into this it isnāt easy itās a fight especially starting out young. Most Drās wonāt start treatment u til 18 or until therapy has started.
Well I mean you redirect it 
and donāt come for me with yāallās bullshit. She
Got a vagina sheās a female. Period.
Much counseling needed for any pretend adults from family and medical is needed , anyone that helps a child to be another gender needs counseling, God help these people.
If this is who this child is forcing them to be kept in a box will do more harm.
Hanging around gay or trans friends will not make someone gay.
I am gay and trans. Growing up my family thought as you did and still do the trauma that was caused by their mental and emotional abuse because they were ākeeping me from harmā has set me back and caused irreversible damage.
My best friend growing up is straight as hell being friends with me didnāt change her or any of my friends.
You canāt make someone something they are not.
It does no harm to let them cut their hair or wear different clothes.
As a parent your job is to affirm and love your child alongside keeping them safe mentally emotionally and physically.
If this is how this child feels inside then forcing them that does not align with who they are only shows them that their parent only has conditional love for them.
Iām not saying hormones or surgery but little things like affirming clothing makes them feel seen and valid
I Was A Tom Boy Growing up With 4 Brothers and 4 Sisters Does This Mean Iām A Boy or Gurl, Sounds Like You Need To Go to Dr to tell you What Gender you Are, Give You a Hint, If You have a Penis Youāre A Boy, A Vagina a Girl, Problem Solved
First find out if she really wants to do this or if they think this is a trend. The reason I said this is because my cousin did this
If that was my child I would get them therapy to help them work through their feelings. I will so my best to make sure they know that they are loved
KeeshaAustin Eldridge your baby daddy looks like a femaleā:yawning_face:
something i think many moms on here need to hear coming from the mouth of a child who understands (better than most of you)
Let your kid be who they want. Nobody has any right to take that away from their kids and if you feel the need to donāt complain when they turn 18 and stop talking to you!
Iād support them but nothing permanent until they are 18. It could just be a phase, something they heard others talking about so their curious and experimenting. But if they are actually wanting to transition your support is so important right now.
As a mom , I donāt know what I would do or say . Just know you will always love your child no matter what and
Make
Sure they know that . I know this has to be devastating, however
One therapy to make sure they understand everything about being trans and what that entails. And Iād allow pronoun changes, name change (not legal yet until therapist gives the ok) new wardrobe, and haircut. Iād even be ok with hormones after therapists ok.
Gender dysphoria is a condition that teens often have. Take her to a psychiatrist before doing anything!
I wanted to do many things when I was 13 that might have caused me lasting harm. Thatās why we have parents, to say no you canāt do that your too young to be making lifelong decisions.
I would honestly give it a few years, if she wants to dress the other gender thats fine, when shes an adult and still chooses then be supportive. But also look into counseling so she can understand what shes talking about, as well as put her feelings somewhere, at 13 we dont truly know what we want for our future or who we want to be.
Absolutely support them. If it was me I would let her dress as a boy or cut her hair just nothing permanent untill of adult age when they can make the choice for surgery or not. Love your babes no matter what they choose just help with education and guide and support. They will find their way on there own a lot better with support rather then just telling them they are wrong.
I would say no when you get on your own then you decide
Uh no. Hereās why. At 13 you arenāt old enough to make life long choices. You arenāt mature enough. It could just be a whim or a passing fancy. But if she was older and still wanted it I would support her 100%
I would talk to her, maybe take her to see a therapist (and make sure this is truly what she wants) and give it time. Sheās only 13. Thatās not to say she isnāt transgender, but this is something that shouldnāt be taken lightly
Because sheās only 13 and still has to go through steps of puberty I would let her know that sheās not obligated to dress as a girl if she wants to dress more as a boy then sheās welcome to do that if she wants to cut her hair shorter than sheās welcome to do that let her make small changes and when sheās 16 17 years old if she still feels that way then thereās a grand possibility when sheās 18 she will start her true transition. I think at 13 she might have an ideal but she could possibly also be confused tell her to take small steps and see how she feels be a comfortable place for her to come and express how sheās feeling on a daily basis so that depression is not an issue.
I would get her therapy to make sure itās not anything else. Like attention. Friends ect. She is 13 so thatās young. I would support her in that choice. Do not make her feel bad about how she feels. Do not let others speak negative AROUND her. We are to love our children no matter what. Just my thoughts. Good luck. 
Say sorry but not until youāre 18 when it comes to anything permanent. I wouldnāt allow binding either as that could cause problems too. Honestly though probably therapy of some form.
Take them to a psychiatrist and talk to them yourself offer to call them by male pronouns and a male name see how they feel about it get them some new clothes if you can more masculine things offer a haircut small things to try while waiting for the psychiatrist and make sure the psychiatrist you see is trans friendly and talk to the psychiatrist yourself about how you feel about this and how to support your child best through this
I mean you obviously want to support your child and be there for them anyway you can but I would not let anything permanently happen once the child reaches 18 years old and they can decide on their own then you will have to deal with it emotionally but like I said just be there for them but donāt let anything extreme happen because thereās countless times where people regret what they doā¦
Find a therapist that is neutral between both sides so they can process what they are feeling and to make sure this is what they really want and make sure they know that you support their every decision! Thatās what I would do if it was my child
find a therapist. and then tell her to wait until she gets older to decide . too many have committed suicide because hating what they did and its too late to really go back to the way you were born
The transphobia I smell is ridiculous
Let them pick out some clothes from the boy section and see if that will make them feel any better
Sheās too young to make that choice yet. Tell her to relax, she has plenty of time. Just enjoy being young and carefree
Her decision when she is an adult. Then support her
Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death among young people ages 10 to 24. In a national study, 40% of transgender adults reported having made a suicide attempt. 92% of these individuals reported having attempted suicide before the age of 25. Just one supportive adult in an lgbtq youths life can reduce the risk of suicide attempt by 40%. Support your child.