So my seven-year-old daughter apparently got caught by her friend’s mom watching porn on her phone…she has a phone because her dad and I are getting a divorce, and she has to have contact with both him and me on our weeks…when I got her the phone, I put limits on it, restrictions on age on it…you can’t even get on Instagram on it, for instance…when I called my ex to talk to him about the situation, he immediately jumped to bust her a**…she doesn’t know the password to unlock the restrictions so in my head someone that knows the passcode is using the phone and putting those types of websites on it…this all sounds crazy and maybe I’m crazy but what would you do? How does it go about this? I’m talking to the mom that caught it tonight. I just don’t see how she can watch the dirty websites with all the restrictions and passcodes I have on her phone. Please help!
Is it possible it couldve been a pop up ad, and that she perhaps just continued on the open site?
Check in her settings if there are any site that have push notification access, check in both the browsers settings and the phones settings.
Check her history as well on all browsers, that way you can also identify was it her looking for something or per pop up ads.
And perhaps disable the browsers in the app settings on the phone. That way it’ll dissappear from her home screen till you activate it again.
Youtube kids instead of youtube. Dissable the apps that you think she should not use.
It has happened to me after downloading a movie, the browser automatically allowed all push notifications. Mind you also an added on browser not the one the phone came out with
Would live to hear back as to if it was her intending to look into this or she got it by mistake and curiosity peaked ?
You need to check her history. If it’s on go google it’s very good at saving your search history so you can see what she searched or what things have bee autocorrected to sound like something else. Although with my understanding if it is protected then it should be hard to find such content, ad or search. Most networks are good at having an age restriction and some can only be turn off via an app or phoning the network directly.
You also need to sit down with her and explain to her she isn’t in any form of trouble but you need to know what happened and why she searched it and then go from there.
I would talk to her first and foremost. It could be as innocent as an “accident.” BUT, typically at that age it’s because someone showed them. So it could either be abuse on your daughter end or her friends. I would also reevaluate your intel. We don’t have enough information on HOW the mother acquired this info. Did she catch your daughter? Was her daughter also engaged? Was it actually her daughter and she doesn’t know how to tell you that as you’ve entrusted her with yours? Either way it isn’t normal behavior for a 7 year old. You’ve put passwords and codes. I would look at the history. If it’s deleted it’s a bigger issue. A WAY bigger issue as she’s been taught to clear it. I wouldn’t jump on her or make it a negative experience with you as the content is adult and shouldn’t even be addressed developmentally at this age. Since you are having to don’t make it shameful and don’t shut off communication. If something is going on which it seems there is then you’re gonna wanna know all you can and further monitor the situation. I would start by limiting her time at others’ houses and having a sensitive conversation.