Does she give you reason to believe she has I’ll intent toward your child? If the answer is no, you may habe some soul searching to do. If y’all arent together, he has every right to move on…and his child too. Its not always the amswer we want, but unless you habe valid reason to be upset…then thats all it is…YOUR feelings.
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Um it’s none ya business… he’s. a parent also…
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Lawyer will tell you he doesn’t need permission. Its his time he can do what he wants. You can be upset but the law sides with your ex on this one
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He doesn’t need your permission. I mean ya you should meet them and what not but that’s his life now and you gotta trust he make the correct judgment on who is around his kid. But he definitely doesn’t need your permission
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As pathetic as this probably sounds, I would rather have a baby daddy that’s actually involved in his kids lives with a gf every other few months than one who has nothing to do with his kids whatsoever. So. Count your blessings. Buck up and introduce yourself and become friends. My sons dads baby mama and I are best friends now without any involvement from him for either of our kids cuz we put shit aside and realized how alike we are and we became one of each other’s main supports. A lot of blessings come in disguise just so you know.
It this really a question The father is not gonna let anybody hurt the children i think maybe your mad he moved on. He does not have to Have permission for everything he does he is the dad.
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Depends, do you have a mutual agreement on that? If you have a boyfriend, did he need to approve him and give you permission? If not, then you can’t really say much.
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Seems childish to get mad about
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Unfortunately their is no right or wrong here. My ex not only introduced our kids to his girlfriend with who he abandoned us for he also introduced them to his other girlfriend in the same day. Girlfriend A didn’t want to meet me she wanted him to give up his rights and treated the kids horribly. Girlfriend B wanted to meet me and treats my kids very nice. Eventually he left girlfriend A and has remained with GF B. He sees our kids on their bdays, fathers and Christmas day only his choice. Yes it hurts but love I learned that I will not touch the relationship he has with the kids, he has dug his own hole with them. My kids see him and are polite out of respect only. He pays their cellphones and never calls or texts them. Don’t let what your ex does or doesn’t do bother u anymore. Love your kid, let them speak how they feel to you and just hug them.
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You wouldn’t want him interfering with your new relationships, would you?
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Sorry but that’s not on and is so disrespectful… he should of shown u the respect u deserve as the mother of his children and spoken to u about it before hand…
Unless you’ve actually had the discussion about meeting new “significant others” & made a decision to consult each other beforehand there is really not much reason for you to get worked up. If anything it will teach you to think ahead about things like this & make an attempt to speak to your ex about them before they happen. Life goes on.
I don’t think he needs your permission to introduce the kids to his f2f just as you do not need to have his for the kids to meet a bf of yours. Take the high road here and pick your battles. Chances are she won’t be the last.
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Key word is ex. You don’t get to control him. If he wants to introduce HIS kids to his girlfriend, there’s nothing you can do about it unless they are hurting the kids in some way it’s not any of your business.
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He doesn’t need your permission. That said, it would be nice if he was willing to introduce her to you too. Hopefully he doesn’t introduce someone new every week.
I introduced my daughter to the current bf pretty early. Not the first one I’ve had since the split. He is the first one that has met her though. And then that same day I reached out to my ex and told him that I was dating someone, that I’d introduced her to the kiddo. And that we could all sit down and talk. I thought he’d want to get to know the person in my daughter’s life. My ex declined. The bf and I offered several more times. It’s been almost 16 months at this point. My ex still hasn’t met him. My daughter loves him. And my bf and I are expecting one of our own in March.
My sons father has a new gf every 6 months or so and has them spend the night when my son is there as early as a month. My ex doesnt tell me but my son does. I am not happy at all about it. Hes never asked permission, but my son is 12 now and hes starting to see how his dad is. But he knows im a phone call away if hes ever uncomfortable or wants to come home.
I understand where your coming from. How long did they date before he brought them around her? How long have you been apart? All those things come to mind. I feel it is MY BUSINESS bc MY KIDS are my business and always will be. Meeting someone who potentially will be a big part of their life is YOUR business whether people agree or feel differently. I have been there and done it with lots of women. Not every one needs to be introduced to the kids if it is not expected to last. Anyway, ask to meet her that way you can have peace of mind. Take care 
As a mom, yeah I’ll be pissed too, feeling like they’re stealing my kids but on the separated part, he don’t really need your permission. Just accept the fact that sooner or later, you’ll come on that point. Yes, it’s sad and painful, but as long as your kids are safe and far from harm. Maybe it’s time for you to accept. Just remember, she can’t replace you and you’re the mother no matter what. Acceptance is the key 
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When the father of my son introduced him to his now wife i had zero problem I just asked if he does can he make sure hes serious about this women first. He felt it was ok since it was getting serious. I coparent wonderfully she knows me i know her we do birthdays for my son together. Its better to get along for the kids.
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Depends on situation… My ex introduced someone to my kids when they were a baby and a 3 year old. He only saw our kids a few hours a week and I will be honest I went a bit crazy he spent the limited time he saw them with someone else involved to when they were so little and without telling me. I asked if I could meet her after I found out and I felt loads better after a chat and I got over it! But because my children were so young and I had them almost constantly it felt so weird not knowing first that someone new was meeting them. That relationship didn’t last though and now my children are 4 +6 I don’t think it would bother me so much. I waited 6 months before introducing my kids more into the lives of my new partner and hope that my ex would in future do similar. However once our kids can communicate back with us and we can ask a few questions just to check the person seems nice then I think that’s all we can ask for. It would be nice if they told us in advance but also we have to realise that’s part of separation that we don’t know everything that’s happening with our children when they are with the other parent
Grow up. I’m assuming you’re both adults - neither of you need to ask permission on who your kids spend time with.
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How long have they been together? They ARE his kids too and this whole “bitter baby mama syndrome” that I constantly see in y’all needs to stop. When I left my two year olds father all I asked was this, I don’t care who you see, but please don’t bring them around our daughter until y’all are serious and have been together for a while. If you’re wanting to have flings or whatever, that’s fine, just don’t bring them around her. Likewise, when it comes to my kids they were never allowed to meet anyone I saw until it got really serious and both parties saw and were aiming for a serious future together.
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Tbh… it’s none of your business and he doesn’t need your permission. Even if it’s your kids, you have no say when or how he introduces a girlfriend to y’all’s kids. If he repeatedly does this with new girlfriends and it’s confusing the kids - then that’s a different conversation for you two to discuss but you still can’t stop him.
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He needs your permission to introduce them to someone or is it just that it’s his new significant other? Sounds like you have some issues that need to be addressed. As long as he ensures the kids are in a safe respectful environment whoever is around, that is all that should matter. Sure a heads up would have been nice, but not getting one wouldn’t constitute getting “pissed”. Even getting a heads up or you giving him “permission” doesn’t change the fact he has to be trusted to make the best decisions for them.
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So he is their father you are their mother you separated or divorced w.e you now have 2 separate lives he does not need your permission to live his own life nor do you need his. Your common ground is you have children together that is it he owes you absolutely no explanation about anything unless it has to do with the children being injured, needing things, period. Stay in your own lane it will make you life so much easier. You have enough to deal with.
My ex and I have an agreement that if they choose to have someone in our kids lives the other has the right to meet the new person. Just so we know who is around our kids. Worked great for both parties but you can’t dictate who your ex dates or brings around the kids unless of course you have protective custody or a legitimate concern that you can take to court
I honestly would understand why your upset. My dad use to introduce us to his new girlfriends after only a week or a couple days of being with them and they were all short term on top of he was trying to replace my mom because at the time me and her were not talking and he believed I needed a “mom”. My dad always put his girlfriend and his kids first and it was an awful feeling and then would apologize after breaking up with them I think I met 8 girlfriends in the matter of 2 years.It makes me uncomfortable, but I think as long as you know he plans on keeping her around long term and that he puts the kids before the girlfriend everything will be fine.
I’m sorry but it’s YOURS and HIS decision not his and hers. They are YOUR kids not hers. I get that you should trust him as a father etc but he wouldn’t like it if it was the other way around. She might be the best person ever but that’s not the point it’s between you and him. It’s respect, me and my ex are discussing it about him and his new girlfriend. If he went behind my back I would go mad and I’m sure he would if I did the same. It’s RESPECT for you as their mother
I told my ex if you’re not bringing her to your mom yet, don’t bring her to meet the kids. He’s a had woman after woman and I don’t think that’s healthy for our kid.
Also I appreciate being kept in the loop of who my child meets. He’s mostly taken care of by me. It would piss me off if he didn’t give me a heads up. Otherwise it’s pretty OK w me considering they’re alr srs.
Understandably if he’s a serial dater, my ex is on his 3rd one in two years and doesn’t give two “f” what I say. He has absolutely no relationship with our 17 year old and my 12 year old is getting fed up as well. He moves these women into his house within weeks of dating and expects them to be new mommy to our kids.
Agreeing in the beginning of a split is great but down the road unfortunately in my situation stopped on his part.
I wish on everything we had good co-parenting skills!!!
Are you still with your ex? You have your friends and he has his friends, you each have a separate life from the one you had together, your kids are part of your new life and his kids are part of his new life, you need to accept that.
Its not about permission its just a respect thing my daughter father mentioned to me that he was introducing our daughter to his girlfriend out of respect x
My x and I had an agreement that new partners weren’t introduced until about 6 months into the relationship. At the end of the day though, you and your x can do whatever you like when the kids are in your care.
I mean y’all aren’t together. He really doesn’t have to ask you permission for shit. Would it annoy me? Yes. But do I get to control him? No. You do have a right to meet her at some point though.
Get over it. It happens. It’s not like he said she was their new mom. Life goes on , trust his judgement as he should trust yours.
My ex just did the same thing. I don’t feel like he needed my permission at all. As long as she treats my child good, then I’m good. Just my feelings…
I mean they are his kids too. I get wanting to be in control of everything especially in a separated situation but if they are with him on his time, and she’s not dangerous, I don’t see how that’s your place to be controlling. I would look at it more as someone who could potentially love and help raise your kids. Starting that relationship hating her or hating him for doing it won’t make things go better. I’d try being open to the idea.
Unfortunate, you don’t have control of his decision making anymore. You have to make the best decisions for you and your child and he has to as well. You both need to move on, BUT definitely choose wisely for the children.
I feel he should at best discuss this with there mother because she has a right to know who her children are keeping company with and I’m sure if she’s a mother she would feel the same way and personally I think its a real total disregard and disrespect to the mother that you would decide to just make a decision as such without her knowing about it now you asked your self WHY?
You have separate lives now. Accept that he will have a life with the kids without you and people will be involved in his life and the kids. He doesn’t need your permission, I’m sorry. He’s their father. It’s hard to come to terms with that, I know.
I think it’s fine as long as this isn’t a habit. If he feels like this is long term then the children should get to know her but if this is going to be a constant thing introducing to many different women then no. That gets confusing
Unless you have a clear agreement on the subject, i really dont see how its any of your business? I would NEVER ask my kids dad permission to let them meet my new bf…
If you trust him enough to leave your kids in his care, you should try to trust his judgement in this situation too… 
this is something my ex and i talked about when we separated. if u guys didnt have an agreement on the way u would handle new lovers in your kids life u cant really say anything. in our case, no one is meeting our kids before we meet (i meet his new gf and he meets my new bf) its just respect
I’d rather not know or care. If she treats my children as her own I’m good with that
You have zero control over that unfortunately. What he does in his time with the kids really is zero of your business. Yeah, you’re going to be annoyed with it, but you need to let go and try and enjoy your life.
I don’t think he nessecearily needed your permission, but he should have let you know that she was going to be around them.
So long as she’s good to your children, you should not care. At all.
Agree not cool of you you are trying to control they are his also you wouldn’t ask him that is the problem the one who has the kids thinks they are in control hard on kids they didn’t ask for this and they aren’t going to respect you when they are older
I’ve never asked my ex for permission to introduce my kids to my boyfriend and he’s never asked mine.
You don’t get to choose their future relationships. This means at some point, whether you like them or not, if the other parents does they will be a part of your child’s life.
It is better to let it happen without having been prepped or warned so they can build a relationship with them or see why they don’t like them and allow them to be honest and transparent with you about that relationship. If they ever need you in the future because of this person at least they won’t be scared to come to you because you never approved of it from the start.
The fact of the matter is some are more protective of their children than others, and neither is right or wrong.
It’s fine to give your opinion, but to attack her or others for their concern in this situation is uncalled for.
To the poster, I would have been upset. But just communicate in an appropriate, non hostile way your concerns to your ex. If you would have liked to be given a heads up, let him know. If you would have liked to meet her first, let him know.
Also, it’s done now, so just keep open communication with your children as well. No bashing on the ex, or new girlfriend, just inquire about how they feel often so that they feel comfortable with talking about the situation to you.
If it’s his day or weekend unfortunately it’s not your choice. I went to court because of the same thing. My ex had a new girlfriend every few months. The judge ruled against me.
For those of you saying get over it,no you’re looking at it from the adult pov.She has every right to be concerned.Not trying to scare anyone but do you have any idea how many kids are harmed or worse at the hands of “the boyfriend or girlfriend”,on BOTH sides?Hopefully the girlfriend treats the kids well,some do not.Some are not as invested in your children.Just saying.
Unless it’s been decided beforehand you can’t really argue this point. It’s going to be different for everyone, but as someone who has just started dating I’m already giving myself at least 3 month before anyone meets my daughter. My ex and i agree but he hasn’t asked that he meet the guy beforehand. If he does I’d respect it and ask that he give me the same curtesy.
He should of advise you! You both share a child and I strongly agree that every decision is based on the child! I went through it, I’m divorced and my ex did inform me that he was going to introduce his girlfriend to our son! And I did appreciate it!
They his kids as well , as among as she treats them well and they like her then so be it
I think I would be annoyed if he had my kids meeting a new girl every two weeks and calling them step mom and shit.
I care about stability, if it was a long term girlfriend that would be more understandable.
I don’t know, not a problem that I have, thankfully.
This is why you should trust someone as a parent before you have children with them. Even if you break up, you should know they the other person would never hurt your kids or put them in a situation of meeting someone if it isnt serious.
I think it should have warranted a discussion and maybe you meeting them first especially if you’re the primary carer for the children but at the same time he is a parent too
Why would he need your permission? Sorry but you’re not the boss of him and what he does. His time with his kids and he can do what he wants
My lawyer said my ex could be with none not my doing to say who he canve with and he cannot tell me who I can date
Sounds like you still have feelings for him how many men have you had around the kids I’m not being rude but I see women do this all the time
You no longer have a say in what he does, it’s his life to live, stop making things hard on everyone including yourself, if he’s a good dad and a good guy, trust him, I’m sure he thought this through before making introductions! Don’t be the nasty, bitter ex… Be the better woman, if she ends up being around for a while, make a point to get along, it’s hard, it makes you feel angry but don’t let it❤️
What is there to be pissed about? If ur lil is of speaking age reassure her/him to ALWAYS talk to both you & dad if the new gf says, does anything inappropriately.
Would u like ur ex to be in on everything u do in ur personal life? As long as u can meet her fairly soon, then just relax & trust his fatherhood
If he has partial custody you do not have say in what happens when he has the kids unless there is child abuse
I think all these answers are very dependent. 1st and most important question. How old are the children?
First off hes your ex, if he likes his new girl enough to introduce them to the kids that’s on him, there isnt a problem with this stop whining, you cant control every little thing just because it doesnt please you
Well, not only your children meeting the girlfriend but, you should meet her also.
This is ur right to meet and know who is around ur kids and u have the right to b pissed bout it just address the situation and let him know this will not happen again
I wouldn’t be okay with it, he could have mentioned to you first.
I think its something that should be discussed. Not for permission but out of a mutual respect.
Just playing devils advocate…do you need his permission to introduce your kids to your significant other?
He’s the father of your children and he has the right to move on and so do you and I’m sure their will be step parents on both sides
How long have they been together?
I would try and meet the other lady. Its easier if you can make a friend of her.
If. He. Has. Visitation. & The. Kids. See. Her. He. Is. Going. To. Introduce. Her. If. He. Didn’t. It. Would. Be. Rude. As. Long. As. She. Is Nice. To. The. Kids. No. Problem.
Life must go on I’m he would be responsible to do it with respect if it was reversed what would he say
I get both sides of it , but out of respect he probaly should of atleast asked
As long as she’s good to your kids .let it go
This has control freak written all over it.
Ag please man…
Life is hard, he obviously feels it’s time to let them meet her. As long as he’s a good dad, why do you need to get on his case for nonsense.
Guess it depends how long they have been dating
Get over yourself. It’s that simple
Awwwwwwe mommy its going to be ok
So? Not a big deal…
Who do you have round does he questions you every time. What’s up daddy having friends
Not ok. It’s something that should be discussed with both parties
He doesnt need your permission. I’m sorry.
He doesn’t need your permission
Hes ur ex he can do what he wants.
Let it go… I know how you feel, but he doesn’t have to have any permission, sorry.
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My thoughts, you asked for an opinion so here is mine::
if you can’t trust the father of your child’s judgment on who he brings around the kids, then you should have stayed with him. You can not control what the father does, nor should you want to. You have to trust his judgment just as he has to trust yours. A judge would tell you the same thing. However, if you are adamant about meeting a significant other of the father then you need to put it in the papers.
Unless she is a danger to them it really isn’t your business
Iwould love it if she treated them as her own
They are getting twice the love
Get over it that’s life. Your not together anymore
He doesn’t need your permission
How is that disrespectful. Even if he’s across the street she’s not having any say in raising your child so it shouldn’t matter to you that he brought her. You were jealous.
Poor women. They want to control the ex even after he’s gone. It has nothing to do with the kids but your pissed because he’s happy without you. Those are his kids to and as long as they aren’t abusive he doesn’t owe you an explanation. I’m sure you would not tell him about Chad. Is she hotter than you? Is she nicer than you to the kids? Are you threatened because she is a better human being than you are? Did he upgrade? This is what bothers women! If your insecure, it’s time to work on yourself!
I don’t think their father needs your permission. On the other hand if he brings new girls around your kid’s right away or keeps getting new girlfriend’s frequently I’d have a problem… side note, I dated my 2nd husband for a full year before I brought him around my kid’s and was with him 5yrs before he was left alone with them… I didn’t expect different behavior from my ex husband I wasn’t willing to abide by myself.
It really shouldn’t matter. You both made the decision to leave each other therefore, everything is basically seperate moving forward. Complaining about it isn’t going to make the situation any better.