Your going to have to decide whether or not to move on on your own or let your ex co trol the situation. I am not saying bring guys around your daughter right away. What I am saying is when you find somebody you feel good about you will have to make that choice. You will need to talk to your ex and tell him he can either accept it or not his choice. But he can’t expect you not to move on just as you can’t expect him not too
Go to court. He can’t threaten you, if you have proof go to court. As long as you put your daughter first and a relationship second he has nothing to complain about
Nothing wrong with being over protective about his daughter, but saying don’t have another man around her seems like he’s more concerned about controlling your love life, rather than protecting his daughter? Plus the “see what happens” seems like a violent threat? Definitely be cautious, and take your time before introducing someone new into your child’s life, but do indeed live your life, and if this “see what happens” verbiage continues, notify authorities, family law courts…etc. Good luck to you.
Establish custody and do what you want! But be careful who you bring around!
I went through that, I waited till my daughters were able too tell me if anything happened to them. I waited a good six months before I brought anyone home. it was hard, but my children were/are more important than any other relationships.
He can’t dictate who you have around your child,having said that,you should be sure that its a serious relationship first.
You need to go to court and get things ironed out before you have someone putting hands on you that you have to get a restraining order for. That’s how that will go. Save yourself some time. Also wait a super long time to introduce the new person because even when you wait a year they might just up and leave. Then your child is wondering why the person that used to give them gifts for their birthday isn’t anymore.
Live your life. You aren’t together. If you have his threats in writing I’d go get a restraining order. If you have your child 95% of the time it’s non of his business.
He has a point but as you dont want to introduce every/any guy to your daughter unless it you have been dating for awhile and are serious about moving forward in the relationship. If going on dates try to get a family member or a babysitter you can trust for a few hours to actually go on dates. After a couple months or even longer if you and your partner want to get serious and he knows that your daughter will come first no matter what then slowly introduce them and even have family dates and take your daughter on a few.
This will also give you a chance met the right guy that will care about you and your daughter.
But you never want to introduce your daughter to everyone up front as when she gets older it is going to be confusing if you are still meeting or dating different guys.
Remind him no woman around your child either but you have a right to be happy. I wouldn’t take anyone around your child until you have dated someone for awhile though. But you have a right to be happy
Lol seriously tell him to go to hell he cant do anything even if he would take you to court the judge would just laugh at him
Uh sorry but that’s not his damn business. When and how you choose to do it is your decision. Just do what you feel is right. Your ex doesn’t own you.
Moving on doesnt mean you should be have another man in your life
You can move on even if just the two of your daughter
Focus in ur child before looking for another relationship
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After a year of y’all being broken up I would say okay enough time has passed I’m going to date. Then tell him you’re not gonna bring just any guy around her till you get to know him a lot more…stuff like that
I’d get a order of protection and file for full custody but be careful who you bring around your child.
He can’t tell what you can or cannot due. Just use good judgement on new men.
I have 3 children and manage to not involve other men in their lives
You need to go thru the courts . He has no legal rights to say or do that unless there is suspected harm to the child . Go thru the courts get an official custody agreement and arrangement . Now if that’s not followed you or him can go to jail .
I would tell him not have any other women around her that it goes both ways
I think you shouldn’t bring anyone around your daughter til y’all have been together and are in love and you know it’s going to last. I would also respect your ex’s wishes until you find said person. You definitely don’t want a bunch of random guys around your daughter or in your home.
If he gets to dictate your partners, than you will never truly be free of him. If he’s going to be threatening about it be prepared to cut off the rest of his participation in her life. Are you ready for a custody battle? Do you have a lawyer? Record everything!
Don’t let strange men ,boyfriends around your child !!No matter how much you think he’s the greatest ,he may not be .As for your ex …better be careful of him too
It’s smart not to bring your child around any other men. For safety reasons and for the simple fact that it’s confusing to them. If you want to date. Hire a babysitter or use family to watch your child while you do so. Sleep overs with the opposite sex while child is in home at this point wouldn’t be a wise decision.
He’s definitely trying to control you. But. There’s no reason to introduce anyone to your kid until you’ve done a background check on them you start getting really serious.
Moving on doesn’t mean you have to bring random men around your child.
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He’s controlling you and you’re allowing it. File for custody. Anything having to do with your child do it through the court system. If you’re really feeling threatened because he said “see what happens” then file for a restraining order. Don’t delete anything, you can use that against him in court. Be careful of what you say and send because he can do the same. Don’t let him know any of your moves, that’s for the court to do. Do you boo. Now go live your best life.
Tell him to do one I mean I would agree for them to meet straight away give it a few mouths for you to get to know him but your ex is out of order don’t let him control you all tell you what you can and can’t do
Girl who cares what he says do what makes you happy period as long as you happy and he good to u and ur daughter it’s not his business period 
… But my lil bit of advice mother to mother who has five kids and coming out of a marriage and moving on with life myself make sure u get to know him some before u bring the kids around him so u don’t confuse ur daughter just make sure the Worthy of meeting ur child good luck sweetie
Well heres the thing. Legally he can’t stop you unless the guy you’re with is a proven danger to your child. Even a court wouldn’t rule that you can’t have a significant other around your child… That being said, I certainly wouldn’t bring a new guy around until you’re sure the relationship is serious. Introducing multiple people to you child only for them to stop coming around will do more harm than good
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It’s a scary world out there and these so called men and women are hurting our children…you have to be careful who you bring around your child at all times.
Jeez maybe he’s just concerned about the safety of his daughter. However he picked you for the mama therefore I wonder why he questions your judgment.
He legally has ZERO control over who you bring around your child when you have them. I suggest getting a lawyer and filing custody before this gets worse, which it will.
I had it in my court clause to not have any female or male around our kids, in our residence when they are there, unless we were married to that person.
It sounds like he still trying to control you you can MoveOn and nothing will happen
He shouldn’t have her around any other women. See how that goes over.
he has no say in your day to day life. as long as you don’t date a sex offender or violent criminal not a damn thing he can do about it.
Hes only saying that because he doesn’t want you to be with anyone else it has nothing to do with your daughter. You left him so hes mad and he thinks by threatening you you wont go on dates. I wouldn’t bring anyone around her though unless you find someone that you are serious about. Not saying dont date just be careful who comes around your daughter.
Hey has no say who your kid sees on you time unless it’s agreed in court papers. Yes you can move on. Don’t let him say otherwise
Restraining order. That is a threat…see what happens
He cannot stop you. Do you girl but honestly I wouldnt bring one around unless you were sure he was staying only for your daughter not the ex
You cant blame your ex. I have heard so many stories concerning our children in this situation…be careful.
It’s in our court order than neither of us can introduce our children to significant others for the foreseeable future.
When you have to spend time with a guy just call him to pick the kid til you you’re done.
If he stalks or threatens you can o rain a restraining order so he can not contact you or be within 100 ft. From your location. You do not have to say about your life to him at all. It iant his business. No it isnt good to be having men in and out of children lives or woman, but when you know it serious and going to last a while then obviously the person needs to meet the child and vice versa if he has kids. If he regularly gets your child then that is when you need to set up your dates or times to go out. You need to not I form him of your life only things concerning his child.
I used to dump guys just for asking to see a picture of my daughter. Be smart to avoid predators and you also don’t want a carousel of your partners in and out of her life… Respect her fathers wishes. Don’t bring one around until you know he’s the one.
He can have it in court papers that you can’t but he also can’t have girlfriends around her as well not just one sided
He can’t tell you who you can or can’t have around your child during your time sharing. He is just gonna have to get over that… just like you can’t tell him the same thing. That decision is not his to make and you both make safety decisions while she is in your custody. My ex tried to tell me the same thing and I laughed. Then he brought some girl around our daughter and the girl popped our daughters elbow out of the socket. Girl you have no idea what happened then 
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Domt bring her around a new man till you have been together a significant amount of time… dating is not for the children to see
Legally… he doesn’t have a choice. Go to court…they’ll set him straight.
Be strong. It sounds like he’s been bluffing you for a long time. See him for what he is and why you left him.
Ummm hire a sitter if you want to go out on dates, you shouldn’t have another man around you’re child if the father has a problem with it.
Chile you move as you see fit. Yes he is her father but she is also your daughter.
Those are threats that are punishable by law usually…get recordings…I dealt with the same bs from my ex husband for quite a long while
That’s his way of trying to keep you from moving on don’t let him control you
Ask dad to watch daughter when you want to go out. I agree with him. The nicest person in the beginning can turn out to be a pervert.
You shouldn’t just be bringing dudes around your daughter. By the same token he shouldn’t just be bringing women up around her either.
Many people actually have this in their parenting plan. I’d hope you wouldn’t bring random men around the kid until you’re an official couple and he’s in it for the long haul anyway.
When we got divorced we made a deal that we would only bring someone around our kids if it was serious
You really don’t want to bring anyone around your daughter- not till she’s much older.
You dont take orders from someone your not with if you are then you should be together
You shouldn’t have another man around your daughter.
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So what happens when he has a woman around your child? Do the same rules apply.
DONT LISTEN TO YOUR EX. He is trying to control you. You do 95% of the parenting and he is just a part time parent. If you find a good, decent trustworthy and reliable partner then its ok. You have the right to move on.
Does he think that about himself? I wouldn’t leave them alone with your child until you get to know him and I wouldn’t have any sleepovers for awhile either otherwise your fine
My ex told me he would kill me…currently happily in a lovely 3 year relationship. This is domestic abuse hun x
Do whatever you want. He can’t tell you what to do with your life. Just like how you couldn’t tell him not to bring women around her.
Not his choice. He can not say anything about who is around your child.
A child is 40% more likely to be abused when a new partner is brought in… just a thought!
Grow a pair and tell him to stay out of who you want in your life.
He can’t choose who you date maybe he just wants to make sure it’s not a bunch date someone for a whole a year or so then introduce them
You can move on without having other men around your daughter if you want to date get a babysitter or let the dad watch her
I dated my now husband for over a year before my kids were brought into the relationship
Keep the messages if they’re on text when he tries to put something take his ass to court and pin his bs to the wall.
He has no say who is around your child unless they are a threat to her well being.
Buy yourself a glock so you can smile when he shows you what happens lol
Many years ago, my ex husband said the same thing. My (at the time) boyfriend, now husband of 36 years, confronted my ex. They had a few words but nothing came of it. Don’t let him intimidate you.
That part 95% of the time was the only thing that blew my mind who cares what he has to say
Once an ex says,“see what happens” it’s a threat
Does he feel the same way about him having women around her?
Unless its written down on a court order you do you girl…
He can’t control that. Why do you woman even trip on what men say when y’all ain’t together.
I won’t ever have a man around my little girl, ever anyway. She comes first and always will. The greatest threat to a child, is the mother’s new boyfriend.
That a control tactic and has no real standing.
With a young child involved, I would recommend you to get to know the new boyfriend really well and once y’all have decided to make it a relationship, invite the father to meet him. No “dates” should be brought around children, it only confuses them.
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I don’t agree with him threatening you but totally understand his fears.
Go to court get full custody. Than he can tell you what to do.
I agree but hear me out…as a mother of a young child, I’m sure there are other things that need focus rather than the next relationship! That being said…I know adults have needs, and it sounds like your daughter’s father just volunteered to keep your daughter whenever you have dates and need breaks!
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Document everything to prove he is abusive and controlling
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He needs to get a grip. So what if he meets someone I’m sure he won’t care and she will meet ur kids
Do what you want . If he causes problems get a restraining order.
Never move a man in . It is hardly ever a good move . I agree with Lisa
My ex pulled that but he had a girlfriend in like 2 days of us separating. So that went out the window. Any guy you decide to date, take awhile before introducing. My husband and I have been living together a year and a half and he met girls day 1 which I had never done before but it’s paid off
Um do what you want… he cant control you having guy friends…
He wants his cake and to eat it to so to speak …move on be happy and find mister right
Sorry but he has a point… get to know ur new one well b4 u intro to ur lil one… For one u wldnt know if a person is a pedo when u just met him… N 2nd… wat if things dun work out again… N ur lil one wld b crushed… after getting accustomed to d new one… So basically introduce ur new SO only when u know u r gonna commit long term… basically if u wana go ahead into d dating scene go ahead… just dun bring em home yet… till u r certain…
He is just trying to control you. Ignore him and live your life.
Take him to court get child support and make him get ligitamated and go from there
It’s none of his effing business do what you wanna do I’m sure he’d have other women around
Tell him you are going to take him to court for more Child Support. I bet he backs off QUICKLY!!!
Why are you allowing him to dictate how you live ur life… there is a reason he is ur ex 
