Say no. He refused he has to abide by the same rules!!!
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I DONT fucken think so Buddy!!!
Wouldn’t be happening! … PERIOD.
He shouldn’t have had a say in your wedding provided it was on your time with them.
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Why does he have a say, and not you?? Who has custody? I would have gone to court and gotten an order for them to be at my wedding.
I had a destination wedding and made my ex sign a paper allowing them to go, way a head of time, to make sure no drama came about right before the wedding, and wouldn’t have my kids miss it. Why did you just let it go?
Your ex has no say at all when you gave your kids. Put your foot down. I don’t know why people even co parent. It must be so confusing to the child. Guys only do that so they don’t have to pay.if you don’t want your children at his wedding just keep them at home. Tell him you need to meet her first
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I can see why he’s your ex. He’s a pos jerk.
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I’d be super petty and have a big ol backyard potluck party my husband and kids and i would get dolled up in wedding attire I’d hire a photographer and take beautiful wedding pictures. Then I’d share them the day before his wedding
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You should NOT have let him dictate what happened in your wedding. As you stated, you know he is controlling…so, you are surprised he is controlling this as well? You allowed that to happen. So, question is…are you going to allow it to happen again?
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Why is he running the show? You and the girls can have plans and busy that day.
Bit late now, should have stood up for yourself when you were getting married. Allow the girls to be at his wedding, if they so wish, and next issue that does’nt agree with you, try standing up for your girls and yourself.
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Don’t put the kids in the middle of the drama. Let them be in his wedding. When they are older and ask why they weren’t in yours tell them. Do not bash him. He will hang himself with the kids eventually. You don’t have to talk bad about him. My sons’ father is a horrible Dad. He’s never been a stable force in their lives. I’ve never talked bad about him in front of the kids. They are now in their teens and have no relationship with him at all. Their choice. Be there for your kids. Let him do all the stupid things he wants (as long as it doesn’t negatively affect the kids). They will see him for who he is eventually. Good luck momma. It’s not always easy but it’s the best thing for your kids.
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Nobody’s fault but your own. I’d be damned If I would have listened to him! He’s not going to listen to you either so to answer your question, nothing…there is nothing you can do about it
Sorry! We have vacation plans, no refunds. Kids can go to your next one.
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I would tell him they weren’t allowed at mine they shouldn’t go to yours. Don’t put them in the middle of different marriages multiple times
I would do the right thing and let the girls go even if he did wrong by you. The children are the ones who pay the price in these situations.
Also your children will always remember that you did the right thing and that will build trust between your children and yourself.
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It’s so sad that they couldn’t be at your wedding. 
It must’ve felt terrible.
How are the girls coping with that decision?
well you can sink to his level and play his games or you can let it go because it’s causing more harm to the kids and next time stand your ground for what you want on your part.
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Your fault you should of had your kids at your wedding on the day you had your girls and let them come to your wedding what happens on your time your ex doesn’t have any control say in it at all what happens on your ex time you have no say or control in it what so ever
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Just remember that they’re Kids and he will regret it once they are grown, better to be there for the kids when you can.
Say no take them on vacation somewhere far
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Quit letting him control your life. My ex tried that crap and realized quickly I wasn’t going to allow it any longer. His time can be his time. Your time is your time.
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Why would he have a say with YOUR daughters and your wedding? He has no say in what you do with your children on your time. If his wedding is on your time with them absolutely I wouldn’t let him have them but if it is his time with the kids then they’ll be in his wedding, I wouldn’t of allowed him to dictate your wedding. I would of had them be in it regardless of what dad said.
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Meanwhile ppl r dying of flooding
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Ask the girls what they want. They may be excited about being in a wedding. Don’t take that from them by sinking to his level. It’s not fair at all what he did to you. And my petty side says an eye for an eye but don’t make the girls choose which parent to make happy. Inside I know you want scream but do whatever is best for the kids.
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Can you do the wedding for when you have your kids I’m a step parent but this was a big issue we had with my step daughter’s mom so to avoid it any even t we have we schedule for when we have her so she’s included them we don’t have to ask to get her on those days this has worked well for the last 3 yes and we are now to the point where we can get her for family event like Easter when it’s not our week
It isn’t but you also had a right to allow them in yours and should have fought for your rights. Ask the kids what they want
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You should of spoke up when it was time to have them in your wedding. I’m sure the girls are thrilled to be a part of his wedding as they would of been for yours
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get out of that marriage now… he is a control freak… bet he hit you a few times… run, dont walk to see a lawyer
I’d ask my girls what they wanted. And anyways an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. What he did to you and your girls concerning your wedding was rude and cruel. But what kind of lesson would you be teaching your babies if you did the same to him? I know this kind of thing sucks, and truly… its not fair. But honestly you’re showing your girls how to be the bigger person and how to treat people even when they treat you badly. Don’t worry about dad… if he continues being nasty towards you those girls WILL notice and pick up on it and he’ll back himself into a situation with them that he won’t like. They’ll see who truly had their best interest at heart. Praying and hoping for the best outcome for you and your sweet babes!
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Well. You can’t go back in time. Do you want to be a petty Betty and do what he did to you? That’s not fair either. I understand being upset about it, I do. You will have to stand your ground and be more assertive in the future, however that form must take.
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Take the high road. The girls will remember when then get older. In the future don’t let him have a say for when the girls are with you. Hopefully you have visitation for holiday’s birthdays etc in your divorce.
If he has the girls on his wedding day there is nothing you can do, if they are with you tell him that he can go and suck his own 
, and STOP allowing him to control your life, specially your time with your daughters
renew your vowes here after he has his wedding and include your girls in the renewal…
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I would of gotten married without telling the baby daddy and did it on your time so the kids could of been their
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You allowed for him to control that situation. You are their mother as much as he is their father so why would he have any more right than you 
the girls shouldn’t be put between this type of thing by either of you.
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You have to start calling him your ex husband
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Sadly if you married on the week dad had them there’s nothing you could’ve done. Is he getting married on your week or days you have them? If so then don’t allow it because that’s your time with them, if he’s getting married on his week or days he has them then there’s nothing you can do. My baby daddy is the same way, which is why I’m going to a lawyer to get a custody plan in place thru the courts so when I do get married he can’t stop me from getting my daughter lol but I’m sorry that happened. People forget that baby daddy’s can be bitter too, it’s not always us baby mommas.
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Set up a photo shoot with your husband and daughters in wedding attire?
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You fucked up (respectfully) by allowing him to dictate your wedding. If I were u I’d let them be in the wedding and then do a small ceremony for you and your kids/husband on your next anniversary. Take photos, laugh, dance, make it a vacation if u want! Celebrate your love with your husband and kids. 
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Wow the fact that you were ok without your daughters being in your wedding… and the fact that that was even ok and the fact that you had to walk on eggshells to avoid drama is the biggest red flag ever. Glad you guys aren’t together anymore but f him don’t send the girls.
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You should have known that he had zero say whether your children were to go to your wedding or not. That’s ridiculous actually.
Take him to court for parental alienation sounds like there is more he keeps them from. Keep records be mindful of what you say and keep proof
Hmmm that’s strange. Do the girls live w him? If you both have them 50/50, when they are w you, you can do whatever you want during your parenting time.
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I would ask the girls what they want, if they want to be apart of it. But, I would definitely make (the ex) not happy, why would you let an ex do that. We got married when we had my husband’s kids there. We had them dresses and apart of the wedding. His ex didn’t like it but oh well. She couldn’t have stopped it.
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Be the bigger person. If you refuse to let your girls go to the wedding, you are no better than him. Demand to meet this woman because she will be around your kids
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I went through something kind of like this as a teen and let me tell you… I wish my parents had just asked me what I wanted and then went with that. The kids didn’t ask to be involved in y’alls drama, so don’t make it a huge deal. Talk to your girls. Have a a full family sit down if they say they don’t want to go to his. He needs to hear it from them and they will need support when telling him. Fight for your kids voice. Don’t make them just pawn in y’alls games of he did so I did.
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Ummm … For one, how was he able to stop your girls from being in your wedding? The other parent can “bitch,” but they can’t stop things like that 
I would stand group and refuse for them to be apart of turn around is fair play
May sound petty but who cares.
Tell him the same thing. Find out the date and keep the girls with you. Tell him it’s only fair since he wouldn’t allow them in your wedding.
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I personally wouldn’t have gotten married if my children wouldn’t be there. You should have put your foot down to your ex. Why does he get to call the shots when you have the girls on your time? 
stand your ground and stick up for yourself.
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I would have another ceremony with my kids if I were you.
My ex husband lied to me and his new wife when they got married, so that my kid with him was not able to attend his wedding. Why? We don’t know. But, it still hurts my babies and his new wife when it’s brought up.
There’s not a chance in hell I’d get married without my kids there. Definitely need more details? Does Dad have full custody or something?
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Why did you ask him if the kids could be a part of your wedding? Do the wedding again when you have the girls and include them, even if its only you 4 or do the picture thing as someone above stated. Its not fair he did that and stop telling him what you are going to do with your life. He knew it would hurt you and that is why he did it. It is just another way for him to keep controlling you.
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That’s not fair at all and I would definitely say something about it but also be the adult and address your concerns and say hey this isn’t okay you didn’t allow it to happen when I got remarried but now you’re getting remarried and all of a sudden it’s okay. I would definitely sit down and address this with your ex-husband.
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Petty. For sure. They are your crotch gobblins they definitely should be in your wedding. Jealous prick
I would have never gotten married without my kids. If my ex was to pull a wicked thing like that… I would either have them there anyways… or take him to court… because how dare anyone keep the kids from such an important event.
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Oh HELL no tell me they are not going to his wedding. He wouldn’t let them come to your wedding so they are not going to his.
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Some people just need to grow up
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Be glad you are rid of the old scumbag. He has no respect for your little girls. How sad for them.
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What? You really expected a zebra to change his stripes? He was, is and remains a horse’s ass.
You let him control you, so you can’t do anything at this point… Not trying to be rude, but you shouldn’t have let him control you like that! They’re your girls just as his and when the relationship is and was over. It’s hard but be the bigger person
You missed stepping up to him with your Wedding! Let him have his to show and make a point of how fair you are willing to be! Then stick to that with your foot down! Stay consistent, Stay willing! And stay fair for you both! Strength and consistency changes things. He’ll get with it eventually if you stay with it!
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Do you not have custoday? Can’t believe you allowed him to control you and exclude your kids from your wedding that’s just crazy
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Uhh let it go just like you did back when it was your wedding. You didn’t care then… why pretend like you care now?
You seem like you knew it was wrong then so you know it would be wrong to do to the girls now… it sucks to be the bigger person sometimes but have some class… the girls are worth it.
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Just let the girls b n the wedding. Don’t stoop to his level of childish ways.
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I would have NEVER gotten married without my children being there. Could you not change the date to a day that you had them? Just some missing information to really give an answer. I wouldn’t stoop to his level though & do the same to him. At some point y’all gotta grow up & be the bigger person 
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Now u can do nothing that’s why u just do what u want because the other side will do the same fuking thing future females just do what u want when u want unless it’s illegal they cannot stop u or ur kids from having a good time. He was jealous and now that he has a new fiance all the stuff he had against u no longer matters so he figures he can do what he wants honestly if he wouldn’t let u then he shouldn’t do it himself the fucken goof tag his name
Why do you not have a say in it? Stop being a doormat and stand up for yourself and your kids! Why did you let him tell you your kids couldn’t be in your wedding!?!
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l get pald over $ 130 per hour w0rking from h0me. l never thought I’d be able to do it but my buddy makes over $ 17682 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
To late you should have make that move when he interfered with your wedding
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If they are your kids too idk how he could’ve prevented this.
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I’ve seen how controlling some people can be after a relationship ends, so I understand that he has been probably threatening you and other things. I know it’s not as simple as you write, but you do need to stand up for yourself and your girls. There is nothing you can do to change the past, but I would be the bigger person and let them go, because it is about the kids at the end of the day. However, the controlling needs to end here. Do not let him tell you what you can and can’t do with your husband while you have them in your custody, especially something that they probably also want to do. He needs to grow up and realize he does not own you, does not control you, and that you’ve moved on. I’m telling you whatever he has convinced you of or threatened you with, keep documentation of events and write any altercations down. You do not need to spend your life at his mercy
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You got married without your children at your wedding? I would never have let that happen.
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Be the best ex wife and mother you can be.
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I would have never let him control my life like that. My kids would have been in or at my wedding! No way is any man gonna dictate my life or what I do with my kids.
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First of all simply ask your girls their feelings about being a part of your Ex-husbands wedding as they are old enough to make a decision on how they feel and go from their choice! Second why are you Not referring to him as your EX?? Your husband now probably doesn’t like you still referring to him as you husband, just saying! Would you like it if your now husband referred to his ex wife as his wife?? I’m sure not! Third, WHY?? Are you still letting Your Ex control you?? He NO LONGER Has That Right!! Never really did just because you were married, that was your choice and he was just like my Ex husband did and I allowed it to avoid drama and arguing! Let your children tell him their decision and just back them up whatever they decide!
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You don’t do a thing. Let them be apart show them.you are the bigger parent.
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Ask them if they doesn’t I be in it or not. If not SURPRISE! Mini vacation. In all honesty though you should have fought for your girls to be in your wedding. I would have went to judge if I had to.
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So you “just agreed” to not having your kids in your wedding and are upset that they’re going to be in his? Girl get a grip you should never have let anyone tell you your kids can’t be in your wedding. Stand up for yourself and your kids.
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What you will allow will continue.
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No, you let that happen in the past, now it just seems petty. I get it, I do, but isn’t time to move forward and be a bigger person?
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U avoided drama…but now have to live the consequence… avoid drama again and let the kids be part of his wedding
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Nothing, and move on……
l get pald over $ 130 per hour w0rking from h0me. l never thought I’d be able to do it but my buddy makes over $ 15196 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
The fact u let him dictate your wedding no mam . That man isn’t your master . People cannot control with submission
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The fact u let him dictate your wedding no mam . That man isn’t your master . People cannot control without submission. Stop being nice
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It’s not fair. But… Think of your girl’s. How do they feel… do they want to be part of it…and who cares if he’s getting married… now he has someone else… take his abusive ways away from you…
It’s not fair but he wants to get back at you and get his own way. I’m sure there will be a lot more times where he can start drama if you don’t agree with what he wants. From now on I wouldn’t just let him control things unless you have no choice. Does he have primary custody of them?
Welp Yes he is a jerk, but you did agree to his jerky terms, it would have caused a big drama if you didn’t, but you do have the same option now that he had then, of causing drama and if you were a lower vibe person I am sure you would. It’s hard having to deal with selfish people and personally I think being in the wedding in both cases should have been up to the girls themselves. But at this point I would just let it go and hope they understand the reason they were not in yours was his idea. Also I found it odd you called both men your husband in this post but probably was a typo and you meant Ex-husband.
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Life is not always fair. The most important thing in life is your girls, not you!
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Unfortunately, you allowed him to make a decision that wasn’t his to make. It would be petty to try to get revenge for that now. I’d let it go, and be the bigger person. You and your new husband can renew your vows and/or have a ceremony including your girls. Remember, he is your EX husband and has no control over you now.
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I bet you regret your decision on not having your own daughters at your wedding now. So sad. What a shame.
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Why would you agree? The more you fold and agree to his terms - the worse it will be and get. He couldn’t force you to not include your kids - as harsh as it sounds - you literally allowed it… and to be honest - it isn’t a great message to your kids either. You need to take back control and stop allowing this to continue, otherwise your kids will grow and accept the same kind of treatment.
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l get pald over $ 130 per hour w0rking from h0me. l never thought I’d be able to do it but my buddy makes over $ 15770 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
Sadly you should have fought him for your wedding.
There’s absolutely nothing you can do, you should have put your foot down and taken your girls to your wedding when you got married. You need to stand up for yourself and take this little boy to court in order to get a court order in place of custody so that you guys don’t have to play these games. He is a child and you do not need to engage in games with a child.
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You shouldn’t have allowed him to control your daughters being in your wedding. Life goes on.
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Who do they live with and how could he stop them from going to your wedding if they were with you
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That said, how do you want the kids to view you. Their dad refused them (do they know this) what will happen when they grow up and realize that dad said no but you said yes. Don’t use them to get back at him. They should know that you wanted them at yours but that you’d never deprive them of that chance.
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it’s fair because you allowed it to happen. Sorry
Not a person in the world would keep me from involving my daughter in an important day like that.
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