I am 56 and it doesn’t bother me. I breastfed my kids, youngest is now 21. Even though I draped a baby blanket over my shoulder and across the front my mother-in-law acted shocked the first time I nursed at her house (with only women present!). You would have thought I was pole dancing! 
. You shouldn’t have to hide in an empty room because someone knows your boob is out underneath a blanket. But you shouldn’t whip it out in mixed company either. It’s functional and not at all sexual to you but to men it’s always a boob. Breasts are not catalogued under “baby equipment” in their brains or to older women who bottle fed (much less teenage boys). Just use a blanket in public or mixed company.
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Throw a receiving blanket over your shoulder and feed your child and feel no shame. You are doing the right thing. It’s their problem not yours or your babies
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It’s none of their business. You do what makes you comfortable and if they don’t like it, they can come back around when your child is no longer breathing feeding.
Not to sound mean, but they sound flat out ignorant. Toddlers should have breast milk pumped (in my opinion), not infants unless it is your choice or out of sheer need. I personally would tell them that if they don’t get educated, respect you AND your children, and learn to keep their opinions to themselves, then they can’t come around until they can do so. My God, you aren’t abusing or neglecting your children and that is about the only time others should say anything about your choices or parenting.
I just went to another room. Quiet time for me and the baby, a luxury.
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I used the 2 shirt method. A tank or low cut shirt with a t shirt over that. When it’s time to feed pull the bottom shirt down under your breast and the top shirt up so the only thing exposed is your nipple. Babies face will cover that, obviously lol. I was told more than once that you couldnt even tell I was feeding my babies! I breast fed 2 babies for over a year each and never had a problem… if you are home do whatever you want and if someone doesnt like it they can leave. If you are in public be as discrete as possible but dont make yourself or baby uncomfortable. If you are at their home and they dont like the way you feed your baby then leave and tell them you will be back when baby is old enough to eat at the table. One of my kiddos would NOT take a bottle! When I went back to work my husband brought her to me to feed on my breaks. There was no option. Stand your ground girl and dont let anyone make you feel bad for doing what’s best for your baby
Go to another room feed your baby then join in with the family again then no one is uncomfortable and no one is judging you
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If they are in your home ask them to step in another room until you are done. If you are in their home, out of respect and courtesy to them, you find another area to go feed your child. Why does everything have to be a “I’m right, you’re wrong” situation. Just have some respect for each other!
many Women feel insecure about their Men seeing another Women’s breast. Some Women even become upset that their Men sees Nude Magazines or even Videos… They see pass the fact that a baby is hungry and needs to eat. Some men might stare , when they do that , ask them if they have a question? If they answer What? say, I thought you had a question… you were staring. Or those who don’t want you feeding your child in front of people, just tell them to turn their backs to you until your baby is done. My Husband when asked if they can breast feed their child , would tell them to go ahead that it doesn’t bother them at all. He shows the Moms and babies the respect that are due to them and he doesn’t stare at them . It doesn’t bother me either.
What Sally said, but also tell them to grow up. If you are covered and it still bothers them, tell them to look the other way. Sometimes I am really ashamed of my brothers of the same sex.
First, I don’t know why they are making it their business in any level, because it isn’t any of their business. It is your business alone. Second, they don’t have to be around you or the baby if they are so offended.
Honestly from a former breastfeeding mother (youngest is 4), my husband has told me that there is such a stigma of sexuality around breasts that men are turned on my breastfeeding. That is why I always covered up…no matter what. Cuz there could be that one person that I’m making uncomfortable.
I’m all for breastfeeding! As for doing it in a public place, as long as you’re covered I don’t see anything wrong with it. After all, that is what God gave us breast for!
I dealt with that on one side. My family was fine but spouses was not. So I just nursed in a quiet bedroom or spare room.
I believe in nursing, don’t stop! But I always threw a recieving blanket over myself, cuz my brothers and father didn’t need to see my boob no matter how natural it is. Just throw a light recievong blanket or even cloth diaper over. If they don’t like that, they can leave the room.
Keep doing what you are doing. That is so good for the baby. I’m sorry your family is not cool. Hold your ground or don’t do it around them. See them when you are all done nursing!
I breastfed my 2nd baby for 19 mos. and I did it everywhere. I didn’t care who was around. I did it because I needed to feed my baby.my baby came before anything or anybody including family. If they didn’t like it or had a prob with it, they didn’t have to come around or look @ it. Plain & simple. If anyone ever said anything to me & they haven’t, my husband would’ve taken care of them. He doesn’t support anyone telling anyone where & when or to cover up when feeding the baby. People need to stop being freakin perverts & stop staring when we’re feeding our babies. We don’t sit there & stare @ you guys when you guys wanna stuff you’re face. Same thing!!
Go to a different room to breastfeed. I did that even though my family had no problem with me doing it in front of them.
If it’s upsetting people around you I would politely excuse myself and go to another room that’s wasn’t occupied by anyone!! Don’t make a big deal out of it !! I do believe in nursing your child but
It is the most natural thing in the world to breastfeed your baby maybe you can sit in a different room so as to not offend someone nobody has the right to tell you how to feed your baby breast milk is the best thing for the baby
Why do you have people in your life that tell you what to do?
You need boundaries. Distance.
That has nothing to do with breastfeeding, and I suspect if you don’t nip in the bud real soon, they’ll be nit-picking other aspects of your parenting, too.
Back in the day, we went to another room. I wanted my child to have a quiet and positive experience n u can’t do that if you are stressed… the baby senses it.
I let the men in the family know she’s hungry and I go to the living room or wherever they aren’t and if they come in and say anything about needing to cover I throw her blanket at them and tell them to cover. On a bad day I just threaten to squirt ppl with milk they usually walk away at that point:woman_shrugging:t2:
byeeee she’s hungry and won’t eat covered.
You can do whatever you want but if you are at someone else’s home and you know they don’t like to see you breastfeeding then go to another room cuz it doesn’t take that long to feed your baby or cover up better like she said, but if you’re in your own house you breastfeed wherever you want but to be respectful to other people that are not used to people not covering up you should go ahead and cover up some you can find something real light to put over just as long as you’re covered and especially if there are men in the room and then if you’re out in public by all means you need to cover up so therefore you will have respect for all others and yourself. If you start covering up now with something light then your baby is going to get used to it and not mind it when it gets older
If family or friends were at my house, they knew I would breastfeed ( when my son was hungry). If I was over at their house, I would ask if everyone felt comfortable with me breastfeeding( usually had zero issues)At my mother in laws, I would go sit in her room.
In front of your mom and sisters is perfectly fine. But I never did agree with it done in front of men. Your dad don’t need to be seeing your boobs. Has nothing to do with it being sexual. It’s just not something a dad should see. Your mom however from your comment do seem to be controlling and almost as if she wants the baby for herself. She needs to mind her business
Omg, all these reply’s, I read some of these and it sounds like they’re saying who cares what our family thinks or how the majority of them feel or how any of them feel. Ok I know you’re feeding your baby. But do people or you really normally whip their boob out and go up under their shirt? The boob period is sexual. Not for your baby. But others. Period. Some maybe giving respect and trying not to look. Some may be trying really hard and the second they accidentally look that way for some reason or another they may catch boob. “Awwww dammit! I wasn’t trying to look!” Unless you’re hard bent on thinking you have to show them nothing is wrong with it go ahead. If not compromise. It is a bonding time. The nurses even teach real quick makes sure the baby is latching and then leaves so that bonding can take place.
Ignore them. Do it anyways. And if they have a problem about it. Tell them to eat with their masks on. If they won’t tell them thats what its like for the baby…
If they can’t handle a titty they aren’t real men to be honest.
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,if you breast feed go to a room by your self and the baby,it is not proper to breast feed a baby In the room with other people,. Men or women.it is not proper or polite and embarrassing
I always used a light blanket a it never seemed to bother either of my kids. Pumping was a pain I hate how mother-in-law’s can be that way. Its their grandbaby you would think they would want the best.
Tell them to mind their own business. If they don’t like it quit watching. You are doing what’s best for your child. They show more skin on TV.
You need to respect yourself, baby. And others, which, in my humbly opinion means, do it in
private. Is that so hard? No. My boys always ate every so many hours. Don’t know how breast feeding works, but members of our family that breastfed went off to be by themselves with their baby, never for everyone in the room to share. It is a private affair…
Breastfeeding is great nut respect others and make it a bit more private.
If she is that uncomfortable with you feeding your baby at her house, even covered. I would stay away from her until baby is weaned. If she wants to see you and the baby she must come to you.
Honestly. Just let their remarks slide off your back. It’s sad they do not comprehend what a true gift you giving your child mentally emotionally physically and spiritually. If they are uncomfortable it is their issue not yours. Be discreet not flamboyant and just smile and keep on giving your baby the absolute best. Perhaps eventually they will mature and not see breastfeeding as a sexual act.
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I breastfed both my children. I think being in a private setting is the best option. I pumped as well. There’s nothing wrong with having a little undisturbed private time with your baby.
Tell them if they have a problem with how you feed you child naturally then you won’t be at any family functions and for them to make plans ahead of time that would t interfere with feedings.
If someone doesn’t feel comfortable in a situation, that is a personal problem. They can remove themselves from the room. This stems from a lack of education about the matter from an early age. My children have seen other women breast feeding while we were out running errands. They felt awkward and asked me about it. I explained that the mother is feeding her baby. She is doing something beautiful and not very easy. That this is what breasts were made for. They don’t even give it the time of day when they see it now, because they were informed about it. When people aren’t, they end up growing up and associating breasts with sex and see something inappropriate, when it is far from it.
I nursed my youngest for a year. I used dressing rooms not bathrooms. I had ways to cover that didnt bother my lil man. But anytime someone overstepped I would moo. Those were glorified utters for a year.
I always covered up with a baby blanket when they were nursing.
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I breast all four of my children. The 1st one while flying across the country when she was 4 weeks. Not in the restroom either. I always covered myself but if someone was embarrassed, that was their problem. Nursing was a wonderful experience. I always wondered when and who thought it was something to be ashamed of.
I have seen more skin at a beach. Leaving Nothing to the imagination . Enjoy this time with your baby, they grow up so fast.
I would squirt my momma in the eye with my titty milk… Or if anyone said anything as soon as they sat down to eat I would throw a fit and say you are offending me and put a blanket over their head…
Another instance when men and women believe they should not be offended by a nursing mom’s breasfeeding. It’s up to each person to deal with their own problems over this. It is not the breastfeeding mom’s responsibility to insure that others are not offended. It’s up to the other to get over it and if they can’t, leave the room.
If you can pumping is good in case someone is babysitting or if there is an emergency. A lot of people are uncomfortable when they see nursing mothers. Why I don’t know. As for the men in your family, they may be embarrassed because they know you on a personal basis. A light recieving blanket over you and the baby may ease that situation. Good luck.
You are feeding your child. If they don’t like it THEY can go to another room.
Breast are meant for feeding our children and if they are looking at it another way. They have the problem, not you!
If it’s offending the men in your family than they are creeps. If it’s so upsetting to them tell them to go in another room. You’re feeding your child.
I always borrowed a bedroom to feed my babies. Everybody was more comfortable, which also helped baby.
We had a relative that had big boobs and she didn’t cover anything up, she just flopped it out and fed that baby right in front of everybody, and really nobody thought anything bad about it. You would think these days when everybody walks around half naked, they wouldn’t be so uptight about a woman breast-feeding. If they don’t like it, let them go in the other room, why should you have to hide for doing what is natural? Don’t let them shame you, that is the greatest gift you can give your child.
I always went into another room. But that’s just me. Like you said, it’s your body and your baby, you have to do what is best for you and your baby
I always just went to another room. It’s not a big deal to do it in private. The less stressed you are the more milk you produce for your child and the milk won’t taste bad either.
Melinda kneer is way off. Breast is best & normal. The men in your family may have an issue with it Bc they are used to seeing breast as sexual and in porn. You’re a mom. You do what’s best for your baby! I breast fed all 3 of my babies. I used a cover for me. But in S. Florida’s heat it was miserable, I worried it would interfere w feeding Bc baby wants to look at u while nursing most of the time. No one stops and asks u if they mini skirt offends u or cleavage or someone smoking in public or cursing BUT ppl are offended when a mom breastfeeds? That’s crazy! Regardless if you cover up or not, I support you, encourage you, and ignore the cover up or you don’t respect yourself comments. Those make me laugh like get over yourself and insecurity. If your man looks at a breastfeeding mother’s boob- he’s the problem- get rid of him or therapy.
I breastfed my last child my only son till his 4th birthday ! It’s no one else’s business do what works for u and ur child . Others need to mind there business
God made women this way for a reason, to feed their babies. If people find this offensive there is something wrong with them, not you. I agree that in a public place it’s not appropriate without cover, which you do. In your home, I wouldn’t argue about it, if they’re uncomfortable they can leave the room (or the house). At their home I would go into another room to be respectful, but sometimes you have to put your foot down. Mother’s milk is beneficial to infants.
I would throw a blanket over us. And if that wasn’t enough then the man could walk away. 
Shouldn’t be a big deal. I know it’s a natural thing but you don’t want to show your breast to strangers. They may have evil thoughts. 
I didn’t breastfeed in front of family/friends that were uncomfortable. I would go into another room. I breastfed all 4 of my children:blush:
It’s a natural thing but do you really think father in law…uncle… grandfather or your dad wants to see your breasts…and what happened to MODESTY.
Anyone that wishes to make any negative comment about breastfeeding just remember your ass wouldn’t be here if your ancestors felt the way that you do. Breastfeeding is how a mother is supposed to feed her newborn. If you don’t like it take it up with God. He designed breasts for nourishment for offspring not a grown man’s dick to get hard at the sight of.
It just a tit…if the men feel uneasy…remind them in not a porno I am making…I am feeding a child that has been going on forever
Well the best thing to do is stay away from people who are such asses until you stop breastfeeding. You don’t need the stress and neither does your baby.
I breast fed. three of my children, but I found a private place too do it.
I never pumped but I did cover up when anyone was in the room up with me or in public (especially) cause I didn’t want some guy looking at breast. Personal thing with me. It’s your baby and your body and if you are comfortable then go for it.
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I always announced it in case someone was uncomfortable, they could leave the room (why should I?) But everyone in my family bf so it was never a big deal!
I think you just tell them you love all of them, but this something that is important to you. If he men don’t like, you could go in a different room. Please them a little, but let them change your mind. It is your baby and your body. I was never able to breast feed my babies and it always made me feel like I was not a good mother. You are doing a wonderful thing and be happy you can do it.
It may be time to gently tell the guys that it bothers you more that they are watching & judging you when they themselves were most likely breast fed! Let them know they are free to leave the room, your baby comes first & foremost! As for anyone else, clear the air NOW! Waiting will only make matters worse & stress will cause feeding problems, for you & your baby!
Say you want to go take a nap and go to another room. Not ideal, but will allow you to escape from the comments and stares. Also I got very good at breastfeeding incognito. You can practice this at home when no one is around. Best to have a receiving blanket or throw you can drape around the baby and your shirt up from the bottom. You don’t have to make a show of covering up, and people will just think you are holding your sleeping baby. I wouldn’t worry too much about what other people think. Someone’s always going to have an opinion, and most are not shy about sharing it.
Breastfeeding is the most natural thing in the world…be proud,don,t be ashamed to breastfeed your little one…if someone doen,t like it,tell them to go in another room or take a hike
I’m not comfortable looking at other peoples breasts either though I’d never say anything. I never nursed in front of anyone though not my comfort zone . lots of things aren’t sexist but still aren’t public to me
Mind your business…
Breastfeeding is natural thing. If someone is not confrontable then they don’t have to watch.
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Fewd your child when hungry be as modest as your baby will tolerate when with family members that sre uncomfortable.
If your family is uncomfortable about breastfeeding, then go to a bedroom and feed your baby there.
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It will get worse use a receiving blanket or just go to spare bedroom and feed its temporary, its also not good for baby if you’re worried someone will say something. Wish em well its sincerely not your fault they are neanderthals!!! And witches probably ole bidies!!! Just jealous they don’t have a new baby
God gave women breasts to feed our babies!!! It’s perfectly natural and best for both baby and momma. You can easily do it discreetly. It’s your baby and your body and your decision. Tell your family to either respect your decision or shut up!
I too nursed all four of my now adult children and I did so in front of male relatives, and in public! You don’t need to expose yourself in order to nurse. I say your baby comes first and they don’t choose where, or in front of whom they become hungry!
Be you , be comfortable, i chose to stay away for Them, and wouldn’t be available any more, it wasn’t their opinion that mattered, and any judgement tells how immature others are, it isnt gross, it isnt sexual, so any reaction is just immature people who cant handle real life and they need to mind their own business, speak you mind and keep breastfeeding besides if people have an issue they just want to control you. Be you 
Tell them not to look I mean I go into a room when there’s one available most of the time, but if there’s not and the baby is hungry, I’d ask if they’d rather hear him cry! 
Men that only want to see breasts when they are sexualized are a—holes.
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DD ORIS R. SAYS , TELL THE "men " IN THE FAMILY TO GET OUT OF THE ROOM AND TRY TO REACH MATURITY BEFORE THEY COME BACK IN . THEY ARE BEING "SEXUAL " IN THEIR THINKING . NOT GODLY , WHO DEEMED BREAST FEEDING THE BEST .
Tell them to mind their own business. This is your baby and you know what she/he needs
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If men are offended by breastfeeding but drool over the half naked tits in magazines and at the beach, sorry but they’re the ones with a problem. I dealt with this too, and eventually just stopped going to places that I was going to get bitched at for feeding my kid. If it’s not okay for me to feed my baby around you without you making a big deal about it, then I choose to not be in the circle. Now if someone comes to my house and complains, they can leave.
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My sister breastfed her 5 kids and always went into a different room.
I chose to breastfeed in 1980. Fed all 3 of my children this way. I was respectful but not at the expense of my babies needs. Y’all wouldn’t have made it 100 years ago
I breastfed and most of the time there was no problem. Babies are going to throw their head up or their arm but honestly it isn’t anyones business. God designed Breastfeeding. It is the best for the baby’s Digestion. It is what you as the Mommy feels about it. I tried to stay covered and I didn’t just hang my Breast-feeding out for everyone to glare at but I also wasn’t embarrassed if my daughter did throw her blanket off. I covered back up. Do what you feel is best for YOUR BABY!!!
It’s the most natural act a mother does for her child.
No trouble to just throw a receiving blanket over your shoulder while you breast feed your baby. Everyone is happy.
Tell them you’ll cover or be uncomfortable around them when they eat. Its a natural thing and it shouldnt be something to be ashamed of. Your baby has to eat.
Stick with it! Dont let them sway you! I did, and I’ve always regretted it.
If you are in your own home, do what you want. If you are in someone else’s home, ask if there is a room you can go to. Everyone doesn’t have your beliefs, so you need to be respectful of others.
Through a baby blanket over your shoulder and Tell them to leave the room if they don’t like it. The best thing for baby is your milk
I always covered up or went into the bedroom. I just felt better for myself.
Omg it’s 2020 I’m sure the in laws have seen worse crap grow up baby needs mommy milk. Put your hate somewhere else there are. So much other trouble in the world
Why is something so natural so taboo, every mammal feeds babies.
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Tell them to shut the hell up and that it’s none of their business. If you feeding your child via BF is uncomfortable it is THEIR problem, not yours!!!
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If it’s offensive to the ‘men’ in your family, then they’re not men. They’re such things as eyelids to close their eyes. Plus, in this society, an electronic device they could be utilizing. Also, they can go find something to do in another area of the house or even outside, no one is forcing them to watch, they’re watching by choice… Finally, they can just turn and look away.
They are not to tell you how you need to feed you baby.
You got this, girl!
That’s was why GOD made breast. To feed babies
I think there is a generation gap where women my age didn’t breastfeed in public because it was frowned upon. If I was young today I would say do whatever you so choose for your child.
You do what ever is right for you and your baby. Don’t let them shame you. It’s really not their business.
u do whts best for your child it will grow up healthy my father breast fed till about 4 or 5 years old who cares what people think
Animals don’t cover up…most consider them family…it’s natural.
Just do it without announcing it. Don’t care what anybody thinks. Tell your mom to mind her own business.
I covered up with a light blanket when I was out. No covering up when I was at home. Now there are tops designed to cover up and still lets you breast feed your child.
I am a proponent of breastfeeding. Maybe go into a bedroom or den and close the door when you feed. Baby gets the nutrients she needs and nobody is offended