You lost me at “had a broken foot and had no help” dump his no priority having ass… your waaaay better than that, regardless of what he’s doing he’s NOT putting his family first and it sounds like you have a better support system without him.
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Just re-read what you have shared, pretty sure you ALREADY KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!
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Maybe depression. Have a conversation with your spouse dear. Then decide what you need to do for you and those babies.
You don’t forget about a proposal. He’s probably using that as an excuse since you mentioned a spending habit. He should be helping you and the family especially with you being so far along. He needs to get his act together. You’re definalty worth so much more sorry you’re going through this. Honestly sounds like your much better off without him and a father should show his children how to treat someone they love
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Ew. Leave him , he’s definitely up to somthing. I would not stick around you can find a nice step daddy who knows you and your baby’s come first
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He’s a manipulator, and most likely… a liar.
RUN…
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Sorry but I’d throw the whole man out he definitely sounds like he seriously don’t care 
men show you who they really are through actions open you eyes pay attention
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I would say he was cheating but even if not he obviously doesn’t value you. You would be better off tell him to fuck off is my personal opinion
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I’ve been with my fiancé for 4 years and we started out on a shitty relationship. We have a two year old and I’m 34 weeks pregnant with our second. Since we had our 1st child, he’s only ever gotten better as a man but also someone I can count on. If he ever did something like this to me, I would definitely leave. Your boyfriend is also the father of your children. He should know what his priorities are. You shouldn’t have to be questioning his actions. It’s time to break it off, and co-parent.
Girl if he ain’t there to help you when your down then he ain’t right
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Ok first of all FUCK THAT. I’m telling you straight up he’s lying out of his ass that he bought an engagement ring and then “forgot” about it or “something happened”. You don’t just conveniently forget about a damn ENGAGEMENT RING. Dump his bum ass and quit making him a PRIORITY in your life when you’re just a measly OPTION in his. Periodt. You deserve better.
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Ask her hubby or boyfriend, if he has been home when your boyfriend is there
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Girl, that engagement ring situation should be enough for you to leave him. He’s manipulating you with that ring.
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He is using that FAKE ring to manipulate you. There IS NO RING. Get rid of him.
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Even if he isnt cheating, hes treating you like garbage. Put him out to the curb. There are real men out there that know how to treat and care for others. No matter if you have kids that arent theirs. You dont deserve a whole life of this treatment. It’s what you will get if you stay…
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I’m sorry who forgets about an engagement ring? Sounds made up on his part 
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Sounds like drugs to me not cheating got a ring he can’t show for nah spent some ridiculous amount on drugs. Hangin at a “friend’s” house all day nah he’s doin drugs with em have a hopefully honest conversation with him and go from there. Just my two cents! Good luck mama! 
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Do your homework on your state’s marriage laws,in some states it’s illegal to cheat,in some states,you can sue the cheater and the homewrecker(given this person knows they’re sneaking around with someone else’s spouse),in some states,you can press charges on one,the other,or both parties.
Make sure to inform him of this information and see what happens.
My ex done the same thing to me, in an argument told me he bought a ring but he wouldn’t do it now because I caused an argument.
I lager found out that I wasn’t the only ex he done it to.
It’s a form of manipulation. ‘You didn’t behave so now you don’t get the honour of my proposal’
When a child misbehaves, a form of punishment is taking away a child, or not allowing them to do something they were looking forward to. It’s the same thing.
That part alone sets alarm bells, he seems quite manipulative and self centred. If it’s always been rocky, then it always will be.
Youre basically doing everything yourself now, so allow yourself to do it alone but without him to worry about.
Your almost 2 children will sense everything that’s going on and as a mother of 2 myself it’s hard work and you really don’t need the stress of someone being around who doest give two shits.
Get sorted what you need to, and leave. You and your babies are better off alone.
My inbox is open if you need a chat xx
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Please run and don’t look back!!
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Even if hes not cheating thats still not acceptable
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There is no engagement ring. There never was.
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Girl he doesn’t have an engagement ring 
narcissists will use that to get you to forgive them. My scumbag ex told me he had and engagement ring but returned it because of somewhat or other he didn’t trust me. (He was cheating) don’t let him fool you any longer x
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My ex behaved exactly the same way.
He’s narcissistic, and almost certainly cheating. Get out while you can.
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I’d call him out on it and have a conversation, ask him about drugs or cheating etc and watch his reactions. If your instinct still says otherwise, then look to ending it and stay safe.
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Bin him. You’re pregnant, he should be making you his number 1 priority. He’s also manipulating you with the engagement ring. A relationship should be 50/50, and if he isn’t pulling his weight now, he certainly won’t when there’s a new baby.
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And you want him to ask you to marry him? No thanks. Get out … seriously
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I don’t think he’s cheating tbh. It sounds like he’s just a an immature dink. Sorry you’re going through this mama. Get out while you can, there’s no sense in being miserable 
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At very least he is emotionally cheating.
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Invite her round to urs the days he’s over there…see if he’s so quick to go over then, no ring no car fixed, no help cos he’s always over there…if b kicking mine out the door for the lack of support
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Emotionally checked out from the sounds of it. Using whoever or whatever as a mental escape from the day-to-day.
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Ok perhaps I didn’t hear the story correctly or just really need more concrete evidence. Most people are providing advice that they wouldn’t apply to themselves, I’m putting myself in your shoes. Sometimes our families perpetuate their own experience, desires even ulterior motives upon us knowing you’re emotionally vulnerable. He couldn’t be waiting for the right moment or alternatively he could be on bullshit but before you make any irreversible decisions express yourself logically (as the post wasn’t logical), stay focused on your children and pray.
I hate to be that guy, but you 100% need to leave. Get your ducks in a row and bail. It doesn’t matter if he is cheating or not, what he is doing is NOT how you treat the mother of your child(ren), that’s pregnant no less… that is some nasty behavior to have to endure and NO ONE deserves to be treated like that! He’s always gone, doesn’t help with your baby, wasn’t there for you when you broke your foot, isn’t there for you while pregnant… NOPE. You don’t need that in your life lil lady, you deserve so much more than that. Get out, and build a healthy life for you and your babies! You do not want them to learn that kind of behavior and you definitely don’t want them to think that’s how they should be treated or treat others either.
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Leave. He is not treating you with respect whether he is cheating or not. Your children will think it is ok to treat women like that too
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If you and the kids aren’t number 1 he needs to go.
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I would move out until he decided to make me a priority. But that is just me, personally I think you maybe a little blind and do not see that he is not putting your or your kids as his priority even though those around you are pointing it out to you. If he was going to marry frankly your would have already been married he is stringing you along. If you are married the fact he is giving his attention to another whether they have had sex or not they are having and emotional affair which is just as bad if not worse. You want him to respect you but your not demanding the respect because you allow him to disrespect you with his behavior. Like I said I would be leaving I would talk to my family and ask if my kids and I could stay with them until I was able to get on my feet. I would start looking for a job. How is he your spouse when he not even given you a ring are you married without the ring though the court are you common law. What you have written is a little confusing in that area. But frankly even if I were married I get and attorney file for legal separation so he could not cause a ton of bills and then expect your to pay them off. I would also make a list of all credit cards that you know about and then have a credit search done to make sure nothing new was open without your knowledge.
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I mean he likely is but are you really going to leave him? Just think of it as a polyamorous relationship. Tell him to give you equal time. He’s made it clear you are not a priority and it’s important in polyamory that all relationships are balanced so just work on that. If you want a monogamous relationship where the man is only into you, this guy has made it clear that’s not what he wants. You cannot change him. You can only change yourself.
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This isn’t a healthy relationship. I don’t suggest staying, cheating or not, because you and the children do not seem to be the priority.
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I left a relationship just like this. He wasn’t cheating but he made me feel like other people were more of a priority than I was. Me and our children were right down on his list and his best friend was higher up than we were. I felt so alone in my relationship. Tell him how you feel and if nothing changes you know he doesn’t value the relationship and it’s time to leave.
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Honestly, given this explanation I think whether or not he’s cheating is beyond the problem. You and his family aren’t even on his priority list so why be with him? Perhaps he’s willing to see the error of his ways but if he gets defensive then there’s something he cares for more than the family he’s made with you. Doesn’t really sound like you’re willing to leave him though even though he isn’t treating you very well. I’m not saying that needs to be the end result, I’m just saying he needs to reevaluate whats important to him and a separation may make him rethink his behavior but if you’re not even willing to test that out he knows he can walk all over you and do whatever he wants and treat you however he feels like it.
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I would feed him some of his own medicine.
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5 years is a decent amount of time,if your parents are questioning this and never have before I would say you may wanna pay attention to that. Confront the issues,if he’s unwilling to grow be willing to make the decision that you deserve what your looking for and someone out there will be more than happy giving it to you.
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If your significant other is chosing to spend that much time with friends, leaving a small child and a pregnant mom all weekend, hes just not that into you, and you deserve someone who is.
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It mostly sounds like immaturity. Couples counseling, especially premarital counseling, could really help. It sounds like you want to make it work, and it could. So many guys are just selfish and unaware of what they should be doing. That’s what it sounds like to me. If he wanted to leave the relationship, he would have already. I think he doesn’t have a clue what he should be doing or what you need from him.
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He doesn’t care about you honey. I know it’s not anything anyone wants to hear but it sounds like not only does he care but he is using the “ring” as a weapon to keep you while he goes and does whatever tf he wants. If you have to do everything yourself anyway wtf do you need him for?
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I jus feel like he been AINT SHIT. And me or anyone else telling u to leave would fall on deaf ears Sis. I will say this, wut u allow will continue and at some point, u need to take responsibility for him being shitty to u bcuz u decide to stay. Peace & blessings.
The answer to every problem is not leave. First you and he, need to know your kids and yall should be the priority but if you have not spoken up he doesnt know you are upset. Second dont tell everything to your family because at the end of the day they will hate him and you will be left in the middle. If she does not change or show you he is ready to commit fully then and only then leave. It will take time.
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When he spit out “I bought you a ring” and has not given it to you, that was his own guilt firing back at you to make you feel guilty! Wether he’s cheating or he’s feeling guilty for just not being around enough, I don’t know! But he’s definitely feeling some sort of guilt!
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Oh I have so much to say here ,
But let me say this .
I was with a man for 9 years before we got engaged 11 before we Married ,
Married 20 years before I stated to notice again another - person / woman he worked with was taking priority over his own family : he was helping her because he ex had started work on her house and didn’t finish it , so he was helping a FRIEND!!!
I agreed … she needed help …
guess what ?? He walked out on his family , I spent 5 years begin second choice in my own marriage , as he went between houses making promises - plans on how we’d be ok … he just needed to figure out how to stay away from her at work …
any ideal what he’s doing now ??
He blindsided me with divorce papers and married her 2 weeks after it was final !!’
37 years of my life lost to a cheat !!! # don’t be me …
Lessons learned
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He is doing exactly what you allow him to do. There are absolutely no consequences. You are teaching him how to treat you. He has no respect for you at all. Take control of your life. Take back your power. Don’t let you being pregnant or having his children keep you in a unhappy unhealthy situation. That’s what he is counting on. I have heard this so many times from so many women. Just because you don’t feel or think he is not cheating does not mean he’s not. He’s holding marriage over your head so you will not go anywhere. If he wanted to marry you he would. Stop getting pregnant by this man. He has no intention of marrying you. Why do you want to marry a man that treats you this way or does not make you a Priority? Marriage is not going to make things better.
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Im gonna be the odd one out here. Whilst there is a possibility he is cheating he also may not be.
Reading this the thing that stands out to me is “my family”. If you’re complaining to them about every little peeve you have with the guy, they will hate him because they love you. Now I’m not saying keep anything serious from them such as domestic violence etc, but this boyfriends relationship is with you not them and if he feels like he’s been fired at from all angles then he’s not gonna want to hang around the house and you’ll be pushing him away.
That said, regardless of whether he’s cheating or not you don’t sound happy so something has to give. You both need to sit down and listen to each other, without being defensive or snipey. Make it or break it because a negative atmosphere at home will be having an effect on your children and two happy parents who are apart is better than two miserable ones who are together x
Sounds like he is cheating…maybe your blind…your own family sees it but u don’t.why would he help another woman out all weekend…he has his own family…I’m sure u need help…I would question him and tell him how u feel…it doesn’t look right at all.
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He’s just not into it sorry to say but he will probably leave soon. I’ve seen this many times
I wouldn’t be staying with him. You would be better off without him either way in my eyes.
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So are you married or not? Not trying to be mean, but you refer to him as your spouse, but then talk about a ring you haven’t gotten, so I’m confused. If he’s just a bf, I’d say leave (or kick him out) until he can put his family with you first. You cannot continue going on this way, especially with another child on the way. If you’re married then I’d say push for marriage counseling. It sounds like there are some major issues that need to be resolved to move forward in your marriage.
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Pick up your stuff, and leave or kick him out. He doesn’t sound like alot of help anyway all your getting is more annoyance. Your basically doing it on your own anyway so what’s the difference except for him causing you distress. Your baby doesn’t need that nor do you.
This is a glimpse of your future if you don’t make changes
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If my husband doesn’t pick up the phone. My bags packed and I am gone before he gets home.
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The whole scenario sounds fishy. No normal husband with a wife who is pregnant and has a broken foot is going to be helping the neighbor lady more then his own wife! I won’t say leave him because that is always easier said then done when you’re the one with the feelings tied up in the relationship, but I would put my foot down (no pun intended) and tell him he needs to be home to help me or he is going to lose everything. I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now. I’ll be sending love and good thoughts your way!
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Sounds like he just doesn’t care. Dump him
Knowing all this, u still think he’s not cheating
He’s not helping you but goes to help another woman yeah he cheating
Whether he’s cheating or not really isn’t the issue. He’s definitely not being a good partner
Tell him how u are feeling n let him know if things dont change ur leaving. If u say it stand to ot of he dont
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I highly doubt he bought a ring. Leave him ASAP.
He blantely does not care about you at all… and by him doing all of that are you saying anything or just allowing him to walk all over you like a door mat? Think about your children, would you want them in that situation? If not definitely leave.
Bruh he’s not your spouse lol
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Leave, men say exactly how they feel through their actions and his actions say he doesnt give a shit about you. Find someone who does
Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too…
for got to give u a ring. Thats some funny shit right there.
Cheating or not… he isn’t there for you. I’d kick his ass to curb. You deserve more.
He’s immature and I promise nothing good will come out of it.
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It doesn’t mean that he’s physically cheating but it does sound like he’s emotionally cheating…people treat other people how they are allowed to…Don’t settle for less than what you deserve…
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Even if he’s not cheating, there are about a million other reasons to not be with him. You’re not his priority, he ‘forgot’ to propose to you, he’s never there, he ignores your child, he doesn’t help you…I understand that you may love him, but this seems like something that would only get worse. You can do better for yourself and you deserve better. If he can’t put the bare minimum as far as effort in now, what will your life look like in a few years?
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Hes dangling a carrot .to keep you waiting .Have it out with him .see where you stand .you have children they should be his prioraty and you .
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Start running hes only going to get worse
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You and your children deserve better! 
I wouldn’t be worried if he is cheating or not ! You have a lot of reasons to run away from this relationship!
He told on himself right there. He bought an engagement ring alright, but he bought it for someone else, bet. This has classic cheater written all over it, I agree with the family. My sisters ex husband was just like this. I know already know… Sad, I’d bounce!
He treats you how you let him treat you…he is an add…why get another child
Sounds all too familiar your going to have to walk away wither its cheating or not hes not ready to be an adult an take responsibility for his own family and his priorities are completely messed up helping another rather than his own and dont you even think about marrying him thats his way of keeping you where he wants you while he does what he wants take a big step back and look at the picture as a whole he will always push you and your children off to do his thing is that what you really want?
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I lived in a marriage like this for 29 years. The man I was married to always put others first. Do not marry this man. He will not change. They say they will but don’t. Leave now before you waist years on him. Find a man who value s you
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He sounds like a peach… Leave this bag of shit and find some happiness. Life’s too short
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Could he possibly be doing drugs? Money missing. Time away. Possibly cheating but they are both things to consider. I’m sorry you are going through this. Best of luck to you and your little ones
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I would talk to her husband & see how often he’s around when your husband is there & why isn’t he helping his own wife.
Definitely more going on there in my opinion.
Even if he’s not cheating with her he sounds like an extra child & you don’t need that
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Sounds like he’s hooking up w someone else leave him now
Read what you wrote as written by someone else. What would YOU tell that person? Sounds like you are dodging a bullet with his lack of commitment. It won’t get better.
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A man that truly wants you in his life and as his partner would show you and his children everyday…PERIODT!!!
What you got is a whole ass-clown!!!
I can’t believe you still want him! I think he has cut the cord on your relationship. I don’t k own if he is cheating any more than you do but he is letting you know he is done. Good luck.
I know it won’t be easy in fact most likely it will be extremely hard but ou definitely need to SHUT IT DOWN. I wish you the strength to do it.
Get RID OF HIM. If he won’t do it now he won’t do it later.
Sounds to me it’s more than just cheating. He has zero respect for you and is breadcrumbing and guilting you into staying. He has a ring and now wont give it to you? You dont find that seriously manipulative? He is using you. For whatever reason he is. You need to.get your kids and go ghost. Is that really a situationship you want to keep?
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OMG you aremostly on your own so make it permanent get rid of him …you are mentally damaging you and your child.Youcan manage on your own…it’s not hard especially as he’s not there much now
The stress you are allowing yourself to go through is not good for you or your babies. Besides, if he treating you like this with one child, it will probably get worse when the 2nd one comes along. He not treating you right, you and your babies are not #1 so why stay and subject yourself and babies to that kind of abuse.
Don’t think he’s NOT cheating…if he’s spending time helping another woman out…he probably IS!
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Just get out of the relationship. It’s only going to get worse. You will be better off in the long run. Been here. Trust me. Make a move. Fast
Cheating or not, he shouldn’t treat you this way.
How soon can he leave your house ??? Or you, his ??? This is not a man --he isn’t treating you respectfully - not much concern for you ! The ring ??? Forget it ! Seriously _ it comes with too much trouble for you ! This is not the way to treat his children’s mother ! IF you stay, it will be a lifetime of heartache …I would get out while you can, gather some self-respect and call this OVER!
I agree, this is a rant not a question and at the expense of others’ time and effort of thought you will stay with him in what you describe as a once rocky relationship, improved, though suddenly frustrated situation. In my experience people ask advice but always do what they want and pregnant women rarely leave.