It doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you a smart person for protecting your kiddo as you see fit. Besides, at two, trick or treating is for other people, not the kid. He won’t remember it, and may not even like it.
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Be responsible stay home
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If he goes to daycare around kids 5 days a week why couldn’t he go trick or treating outdoors?
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Why are you pulling away?
If hes in day care then he can go to a event
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Cant stop living your life. Much worse things are out there
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Use the words “I’m not comfortable with the situation and I would rather not attend this year. I appreciate you thinking of me and wanting to include me though. I look forward to another time.” If they try to force it upon you, tell them “No thank you”. Say these words in a low tone, stay calm and if possible look them in the eye when you say it. If they insist, just say “I have given you my answer”. You don’t owe anyone an explanation as to why.
If he can attend day care 5 days a week then it’s hypocritical to say no to his nan cause of covid 
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If he is in daycare 5 days a week what is the big deal he is around how many people that have already possibly exposed him to covid what’s the difference ? Go to a Halloween party or daycare he is still possibly being exposed.i feel there is more going on here than what’s being said what is the real reason don’t like baby daddy mother?
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You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone.
Do what you want, regardless.
That’s all.
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If you don’t want to go, then don’t go. Have an evening in with your child and enjoy yourself.
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You don’t need to spend any time wirh your exs family. Tell the ex MIL she is to see your child when he is with his daddy and to stop contacting you directly. If this event doesn’t fall on dads time, too bad
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Do it. Let them out the candy in the bag. And when she turns her eye when y’all get home throw it in the trash. Wear gloves and you should be fine.
He’s not really staying home during the pandemic when he’s going to daycare 5 days out of 7. Your family probably is taking it as you don’t want him with them but he can go to daycare. BUT do whatever, you ultimately are one of the parents.
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If he’s in daycare 5 days a week surrounded by other kids and caretakers I think he’ll be ok going trick or treating with her
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Two of my kids are in daycare. We follow the rules to protect ourselves and others. Just bc my sons are in daycare doesn’t mean “well they are in daycare so they can go to a party etc…” That is not fair to the other ppl whose children are in my sons’ daycare but most especially the person in charge of the daycare which in my case is a person in the high risk range. You want to do what is right so do what is right. And who cares what others think.
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Why keep him from having fun if he goes to day care five days a week anyways? Your child isn’t safer from COVID at day care than he would be at a trick or treating event. Stop being so antisocial.
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You’re the mother, your decision. No need to feel bad about your decisions.
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I mean he’s more likely to catch it in daycare than at the trick or treat event honestly. But it’s your child, your life your decision in the end. Do what makes you happy. Your kid is too young to even care
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Between daycare and having to go out to stores, which are 2 of the most to cause any infections, i think trick or treating would be okay. Using covid as an excuse so that he cant go is kind of null and void at this point. There are many people participating in trick or treating that are still planning to use masks and gloves and a few Ive seen even doing tiny giftbagsrather than having a bunch of kids reach in a bowl. There is still safe ways of going about things but i think this is you ultimately just not wanting your exes family involved
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No your not bad at all. Daycare probably has close to the same % of risk as this event. But it really depends on how crowded it is. My son is 1 and we will probably skip it this year
Wow people… She expressed how she felt about the pandemic. Telling her not to fear it, is not going to change her mind. I think she should do what she feels comfortable for HER child.
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For everyone saying he is attending daycare then what’s the big deal, depending on the daycare they could take extra steps to ensure kids are as safe as possible so you have no room to judge her. My son’s daycare requires masks at all time by everyone except the babies, temps are taking for everyone in the building anytime you enter and throughout the day. Parents are not allowed in the rooms only through the entrance and exit and hands must be cleaned before entering and touching the tablet to sign in. My son ONLY attends because I still have to work and pay bills. If she doesn’t feel comfortable I can understand and you can just tell them this year you are not comfortable and maybe next year.
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I’m in the UK & we aren’t allowed to be mixing with anyone outside of our households at the minute. Kids are still at school/nursery but with measures in place, pubs/shops still open but again, with measures in place & you can only attend with members of your household. The advice/rules are so confusing so you just do you. Whatever you’re comfortable with, don’t let anyone make you feel bad for doing what you think is best! X
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You do not owe her an explanation.your child your choice. People are too dang pushy anymore.
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DONT GO TO SOCIAL MEDIA IF YOU CANT HANDLE THE TRUTH. Your kid is in daycare but you dont want him to go be a kid on a holiday that comes ONCE A YEAR. Think about it because this is true and can happen to anyone, you may not want to take him out in fear of covid but you need to let that baby be your motivation because tomorrow, or the next halloween isnt promised FOR ANYONE. Life is real, death is real, and sickness is real too but dont let it stand in the way because if something were to happen thats awful, you dont want to think back wishing you had the opportunity when you should have taken it in the beginning… LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST.
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He’s your kid…do what you want with him.
You are the mother, you are supposed to protect your children . Don’t listen to anyone . You are a good mommy.
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Totally not overreacting! COVID is very serious and contagious! I Totally wouldn’t go anywhere either! It’s the safest option. I can’t people are still taking their kids trick or treating in the first place. I’m a nurse so I’ve seen COVID up close and it’s not to be taken lightly. Don’t care what others think; you do what you need to keep your family safe!! My mom also got mad at me because I won’t see her. People are playing with fire by going on as if nothing is happening
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Stay home with your child and make a little halloween night together 
hide some treats for him, dress up in costumes, have fun with it. It’s your decision …:your looking out for him. Your a good parent
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I can hear this lady that posted this question saying I wish I hadn’t open my mouth
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Re: Trunk or Treat: how many people will be there at a time? Will social distancing and mask wearing be strictly enforced? Are people involved known/trusted by someone in either family? (Church folks, Scouting folks, neighbors, shopping center employees, etc.). Are candy & treats factory wrapped?
Seems harmless enough unless no one knows the organizers, no safety measures are taken or it will be crowded. Can your child tolerate wearing a mask? Under twos aren’t required to, but it would be safer.
If you want to give him the experience but don’t trust the source, buy candy in advance, choose only a few pieces at the event, let him eat a piece or two: you will reach into his container and pull out your own candy which you will have hidden in your palm. Repeat as needed. That night toss the candy from the event & put it in a lidded garbage can or someplace he won’t spot it later. Refill the container with the candy you bought.
I , personally wouldn’t care what other people think since they’re not the ones paying your bills or rearing your child . You do what’s best for you and your family if you don’t want to go out and don’t want your child exposed then stay at home. ! I , personally think you are doing what you think is best for you and your family to rear your child ; so you really shouldn’t care WHAT other people think!
I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer. Put the child first and ask yourself if it would make HIM happy to see his grandmother. Dad’s mother or not, that’s his grandmother and they play an important role in their lives.
I was supporting the choice to stay home and do what you feel is safe till I got to the he goes to daycare 5 days a week! Let the grandma and grandson build memories
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My kids are in school 5 days a week, too, but we’re still not going to trick or treat events. It’s a whole lot different going to school (or daycare) than it is going to an event with a bunch of other people you don’t know. I would stay home and limit the amount of non-essential exposure.
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I cant believe the amount of people saying if he goes day care he can go to other places. Day care to most is necessary as they need to work to bring an income in. This is more of a reason to limit what you do so as your not risking exposure to a whole group of kids and carers. The kid is 2 years old i highly doubt they will even remember going to an event or trick or treating it would solely be for the grandparents n they can do something else. My kids are all in school we arent going tick or treating this year instead were doing halloween activities all week n on saturday will be dressing up having halloween games etc and a movie. Still making memories together but safely not mixing with a load of randoms.
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Do what You can live with.
What do I mean?
There are consequences for our decisions. You will be the one to live with the consequences, not the people around you; You.
Daycare is different from a public recreational event.
Again, make the decision that You can live with.
If your son gets sick, if you get sick all they can/will do is sympathize. But You will be living out the consequence.
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Do what’s best for you and your family. I have a 4 month old son that the majority of my family hasn’t even met yet because of COVID. I have lost a family member to it, my best friend had it and right now 2 of my cousins have it. It’s too much of a risk to me for people to be around him right now. If they don’t understand, it’s their problem.
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Stay home! Yes, he’s in daycare 5 days a week. But he’s in daycare 5 days a week with the SAME people!! Going around different people not only exposes him, but he could potentially take it to daycare with him.
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Ummm. If he is in daycare five days a week, why can’t he do an outdoor trick or treat event? Let him wear a mask and go have some fun.
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I’ve been going through the same thing. In the end, even though it causes people to get upset, that is your baby. Go with your gut. We opted out of trick or treating this year, and I went and bought my little girl all her favorite candys and some Halloween games. She is going to dress up and pretend trick or treat at home. She is more excited over this than previous years. If the grandma can’t understand or accept your answer that is on her, not you. 
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If he goes to daycare 5 days a week then let him have some fun, if he was strictly staying at home with you then that’s one thing, I think your being stupid at this point, he has probably more of a chance of getting it at daycare then with his family
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You have your child’s health and safety in mind, so it’s your choice. He’s only two, so missing out on a Halloween party isn’t going to really register for him or even be remembered for long, as opposed to him or a loved one being hospitalized which would stick with him.
I don’t know what part of the country you live in, but where I am right now, we are in a crisis, our hospitals are full to capacity. I am a healthcare worker, and these comments that I’m reading are just reinforcing the fact that people don’t care or are ignorant of what can happen when you are exposing yourself and others needlessly. I’m sorry.
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Where I am it’s open and we are all doing okay. I’m severely immune compromised. However I think you need to do what is best for you. I’m an essential worker. I haven’t had a break. Yet not everyone is. And everyone is worried in their own way. There is no right or wrong. It’s what’s best for you and your family
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I am taken mine tick or treating we stay home alot but they have lost alot this year if he can go to daycare then he should beable to have a little fun just my opinion
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I’m in ageeance with you… I have to take my child to daycare cause I work and they are safe sanitary places especially since covid hit … I still avoid taking him anywhere with me like the stores like we used to … the numbers are climbing to high here and I understand what you’re saying and I agree !
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This is your child. Your choice when it comes to his safety. If daycare is necessary then that’s a little different than going somewhere that isn’t necessary. You do what you think is right and safe.
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Don’t feel bad. You’re protecting your family. We’re doing a trick or treat hunt on Halloween. What way they can still dress up and get candy, but it’s not door to door.
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He goes to daycare but he can’t go to a Halloween party? It sounds like more of a grudge against dads side of the family than fear of covid.
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Your kid…nobody can make you go out. She can get over it. Or in my opinion she can just stop seeing the kid if shes gonna complain that much about it
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If he can go to daycare, he can darn well go trick or treating.
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If he’s already going to daycare 5 days a week why not let him out to do something fun?
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Your kid your choice,my kids aren’t going trick or treating but they also aren’t going to school or daycare,if they were that exposed anyway I would more than likely take them,I’m also dealing with the virus vs memories with grandparents they literally can’t get back,my dad died suddenly 3 years ago so I know how quickly life takes memories and chances away.
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Your kids…your choice. Being in day care five days a week in a controlled environment is not the same as being around a bunch of strangers who will probably not be able to follow social distancing rules
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He’s 2, he’s not going to understand or remember, so I’d just say dress him up, take really nice pictures (you could go to the dollar store & make a simple Halloween back drop) & give them to grandma.
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Your kid, your choice. However, daycare and school are cesspools of germs. It doesn’t make much sense to keep the kid home except for daycare. That’s probably why Grandma doesn’t understand why you want to keep him home.
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I would stay home. My daughter goes to school 2 days a week (before the school went full time virtual) but doesn’t go to daycare. Because she is has health issues I would prefer to keep her healthy as I can. She is intellectually disabled so in person at school is best for her. I don’t go to the store every day, only store I go to often is Walmart. I fill up my car mostly at Kwik Trip. My boyfriend watches my daughter while I’m working, if he is working and I need to take her with me I will but she has to wear a mask and I always use hand sanitizer even with her. I don’t go to birthday parties, weddings, funerals. I don’t go see friends or my family, I live about 2 hours or more away from them and don’t see them often anyways. We just stay home and watch tv, work on stuff outside that’s supposed to get done. I’m not taking my daughter trick or treating this year, it doesn’t matter if its outside and there’s masks there’s still a possibility of my daughter getting very sick. I just bought my daughter a bunch of candy, a card and a bag, she isn’t getting anything until halloween.
If he’s in daycare, he is exposed to alllllll kinds of things and people from all walks of life. Daycares are notoriously known for being dirty places, no matter how much you clean them because kids are dirty. If your kid was going to get it, he would’ve by now.
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Sounds like you don’t wanna be around dad’s family which is your choice but let the child see his grand parents
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I understand the frustration. I have a 5 month old and we caught it by staying home and other family members going to work. He was two months old at the time. If you don’t feel like taking your little one out, stay home. You shouldn’t feel bad bc others aren’t taking COVID seriously. You are protecting your child.
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That’s your child, and you should never ever feel guilty for decisions you make regarding YOUR child. Not ever. No matter what the circumstances.
Regarding Covid, we stay in as best we possibly can. My husband is very lucky and his job is staying remote until some time next year. My 7th and 5th grader are doing virtual school, and I’m homeschooling my 4yo(immunosuppressant on two chemo meds) for preschool. We also have an infant.
I gave my children the option to go trick or treating, because I do feel this year is being stolen from them. They chose not to. We’ll go do a trunk or treat event, then make a big dinner and pass out candy while watching scary movies.
If you’re not comfortable with your child going trick or treating, then you absolutely have the right to stay home without feeling guilty. It doesn’t matter that he goes to preschool, and Grandma doesn’t have to understand your reasoning. Don’t ever feel guilty for taking care of your sweet baby!
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Your kiddo is 2 he’s not gonna remember anyway. If you feel you just want to stay home then that’s what you should do. Not everyone wants to go out and do things constantly and that’s totally ok!
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He’s in daycare I suppose because HE HAS TO BE! Moms need to work!!! Do whatever you feel momma!! Don’t feel bad!
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YOU are his mom, not anyone else. And ultimately it is your decision to make on what is best for yourself and your child. You’re not a bad person for whatever you may decide. I think it is important for children to be able to have fun for Halloween, but there are other ways to have fun. Personally, my son is 11 and I left the decision up to him this year (which probably isn’t an option for you, I know), and he said he would rather stay home. He knows all about covid and the precautions needed and he just isn’t interested in it. We decided to have a little Halloween party of our own at home. We’re going to bake some fun goodies and do some cool art projects like painting pumpkins, and maybe even dress up and watch some kid friendly halloween movies. It may not be the same, but your child is still young and will have many more years to get out and trick or treat in the future. Don’t stress so much and use your own judgment, not anyone else’s 
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You don’t ever need any reason beyond “they’re my child. End of discussion,” for a decision you make about your child. Even to family. No is a whole sentence. I suggest utilizing it.
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Daycare is a necessity, trick or treating is not and she doesn’t specify, maybe she doesn’t want him possibly exposing others due to the fact that he goes to daycare🤷
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I was with you until you said he’s in day care 5 days a week. I mean it’s you’re choice but if your cool with day care where he can get it then a a little tot thing isn’t as bad. Idk…
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Your not bad a person but if he goes to daycare 5 days a week trick or treating isn’t going to hurt. He has possible exposure daily you never know where the other families have been etc.
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Stop living in fear.
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My kids are 15 and 16! And not having much contact with outside family! But they haven’t bothered with us either! So do what you feel is right! He’s your baby and you know best! Good luck!
He goes to daycare… I guarantee hes exposed to more(potentially covid included) at daycare than you can or want to even imagine… Let him go out for Halloween. From, a daycare teacher.
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He’s not 2 years old! He doesn’t even know what Halloween is. Just have fun at home. He just needs you for love, safety and security. Play with him
Even if I decided to live my whole life with no mask and going to parties, I would not make anyone else feel bad. It’s like one person being afraid of the dark and one isnt. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad. You do what you want and feel is best for you and your family. It is your choice and your life, they don’t have to like it
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You send him to daycare 5 days a week…I would think taking him trick or treating won’t be as bad as daycare! He’s in a room with other kids and you don’t know how cautious their parents are being…so your point is mute!
What really is difference in your child going to daycare being around lots of other kids and adults, or going out in public?! Daycare would be worse, because a lot of kids would come being sick.
If he already goes to daycare 5 days a week, who cares??? I can guarantee you he would get way less exposure or risk of anything from outdoor trick or treating than he does at daycare. LOL!
You shouldn’t feel bad for protecting your family. I have children with a parent out of the home, and although I allow strict visitation at my home, (covid tests once a month, temp check, and have to wear a mask) i do not allow that child to go anywhere with outside family members. I have a toddler and an immuno-compromised mother in my home. But im a SAHM so they dont need to leave the house. Its whatever you feel is best and you shouldn’t feel bad for making a judgement call for your health and the health of those around you
Don’t let them make you feel bad. You have every right to do what is best for your family!
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It doesnt matter if hes in day care 5 days a week or not at all. It’s your child and your choice. Dont feel bad for making a choice that is ultimately you and the child’s father to make. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and you’ll hear about them. But don’t feel bad if their opinion doesnt reflect your own.
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You are his mom so YOU do what YOU feel is right for YOUR child. He goes to daycare more than likely becasue he has to. Everyone acts like not trick or treating means the world will come to an end! Child please! If you dont feel comfortable doing it THEN DONT!
Probably more exposed at daycare then they are trick or treating. Trick or treating can be done safely following all health measures.
He is 2 years old! He won’t even remember trick or treating at 2. He doesn’t know what he is missing out on. The whole point is mom should not feel bad about saying no to grandma. Grandma can get over it. I am a grandma to but I respect my daughters decisions. It’s her child.
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After thinking about it more I definitely understand schools and daycares being open for those who are working and can now kinda see where you’re coming from. I’d just go with the idea of having a BBQ with family over and have everyone dress up and have activities like decorating Halloween biscuits, lollie scramble etc
I think if you want to stay home then stay home 
if you want to go then go who cares what others think i say if they would like to come pay your bills thats when what they say might matter myself would go but thats me everyone feels different and your allowed
While I am allowing my kids to trick-or-treat this year, if you feel best to stay home, then stay home. Most people I know HAVE to send their kids to school/daycare because we work fulltime jobs that are not work-from-home jobs. But this is optional and totally your choice! Plus he’s 2, he’ll probably enjoy it while there but he probably won’t remember either way next year!
That would be a very short and pretty much one sided conversation with family members. I think if you are doing what is responsible and what you believe to be best, then instead of faulting you they should be commending you and following your lead.
Your kid your choice. I dont get why people care so much what other families are doing. I love halloween but in then end the kid not going to suffer & be traumatized for the rest of their lives cuz they missed 1 year of trick or treating🙄 we are choosing to do a scavenger hunt at home in our costumes & spend the night watching halloween movies. My kids are 5 & 2 & they are so excited, dont even care they aren’t going out
Simple: Essential vs Non-Essential … we are in the midst of a PANDEMIC. I’m assuming daycare is essential for you to work; Halloween is not. Our kids are not going to be traumatized over missing ONE Halloween! I wouldn’t forgive myself if my child got sick because we went out for something non-essential.
What does the dad think? It’s y’all’s decision to make together, no one else’s. The child may be in daycare but I’m certain they limit visiting and also do temp checks where as going trick or treating at an event theres only so much social distancing you can do there. Plus your not sure what your being exposed too at a public event like that. It’s also flu season and sickness is starting to get going now. I understand letting the child have fun and enjoy Halloween but with limitations. You can have just as much fun at home doing family stuff.
Nope ur not wrong! U have to be cautious with the deadly virus out there! We haven’t gone or done anything fun since March! My twins girls don’t even want to go trick r treating this year. We r staying in abd doing fun Halloween stuff and baking!
Don’t let anyone make u feel bad for keeping ur family safe! Better safe than visiting ur family members in tbe hospital!
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They take so many children and temps before going in. My daughter day care dose anyway. If they have a temp they can’t go. Missing out this time won’t hurt him. Maybe make memories at home. Tent, scarey move, for him, Make a pizza nite monsters faces, weird snacks, etc. a lot you can do. Don’t feel bad, you do what you thinks right. Missing my grandkids, I get pictures.
We are having a party with family. No trick or treating for us! Its your child. Dont let anyone make you feel bad for protecting your kid. Praying for you.
you’ll send your kid to daycare but not trick or treat? seriously.
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Your child, your choice. You have your reasons for doing so (be it safety or grudge as other commenters are pointing out) and we don’t need to know what exactly. Just dress up your kiddo and fill his basket with treats on Halloween!
There are more germs at daycare than there are at an outside trick or treating event lmfao smh poor kid
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Well the way I see it is he’s being exposed to all the kids in daycare already… And I bet most of those kids are out doing things like going to the pumpkin patch, trick or treating, etc. So he’s being exposed to the kids who are having the fun, but missing out on the fun himself 
Very unlikely to affect a two-year-old. he already goes to the daycare so he’s being exposed to whatever. I think he’ll be fine trick or treating
Hon, you don’t need anyone’s opinion on what to do. This is your child, if you don’t want want him going trick or treating…whether it’s because of COVID, because it’s raining, because it’s cold, because your just not in the mood…that’s your decision, not anyone else. He’s two, he won’t remember. Grand mom had her chance to make those choices with her children.