Guys are dumb… Explain to him that ur entire body had to open up over the course of a year yo make that baby… And it doesnt go right back after 12 days… That your trying but pleasr help… And the baby crying for a little wont hurt at least u know the baby has good lungs…
Tell him to unass what ever be is sitting on and help.
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You are doing a good job mommy… Keep trying… Keep doing… Keep smiling… That little life is such a blessing
- Tell him to hop to it, if he isn’t satisfied.
- Tell him he hasn’t tended to you fast enough. Baby was in the womb 9 months, and he’s still a fiancé, not a husband.
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He sounds like an ass! He has two hands he can help! Also if the baby isn’t hurt a few mins of crying isn’t going to hurt that baby. I’m about to tell you to RUN!
Tell him to do it then?!? Takes 2 to make a baby
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Tell him to get off his ass and do it himself
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If you are not fast enough let him be faster. I think you are with a idiot
Why is he not helping?
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First punch said Fiance in the face. She’s an infant and he’s acting like one. Second I would consider alternate living arrangements. I’m sorry but it doesn’t sound as if either of you are safe there.
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If he isnt satisfied with how quickly you are able to tend to the baby than he can help simple as that. If he doesnt like that than he can shut the hell up.
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Boot his ass. If he had a problems he should get off his ass and help tend to the baby
He can fuck right off.
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This is such a red flag! I ignored this myself and blamed myself but you’re doing great and you need to get away from him as soon as you can. Talk to a lawyer first since a baby is involved and find somewhere else to go.
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Are his hands broke?
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Are his legs broken…?? 
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I would tend to the baby real quick by taking it and leaving by.
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He can get the baby.
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If you’re washing dishes, cooking, making baby’s milk, using the bathroom, or cleaning up the house he can help you out if baby’s cries is too much for him.
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Ok, I have a question…Is he mad that the baby is crying…does it set him off?
Or is he mad you are not "fast enough " to tend to baby? If it’s only the second one, he needs to get his ass up too & help! TF! 12 days you are still healing from birth!
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What???if you arent getting to the baby fast enough for him then he can get the baby
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Tell him that if he can get the baby faster, he is welcome to do so.
Also, make sure you arent just letting her cry it out at 12 days old. Not saying you are, but there isnt a lot of info in the post. If it’s taking you 10 minutes to get a crying newborn I’d be mad too… but if you are literally trying your best to get the baby as soon as you hear him/her, he needs to chill.
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Men can get postpartum depression too. Maybe you should talk to him. Both of your lives are changing and those early days are ROUGH so don’t be too hard on yourself.
I believe this man shows a future with him would be him showing he is male chauvinist. He needs to show his role as a dad Not be a dictator to a woman. Parents work together
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Hello, whole man disposal service? I’d like to schedule same day pickup
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Umm if ur busy where the fuck is he ? Lol it’s a two way street you are BOTH parents soooo maybe he should put a little more pep in his step when he hears the baby crying 
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As long as you are tending to the baby in a timely manner not just “being lazy” then he needs to stop. Or get up and he should get the baby first maybe even if its just getting the baby FOR you. -.-
I was going to ask if there is anything wrong with his arms or legs.
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I went through this with my first child…
They helped create the baby they should help raise it too!!!
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Why can’t he get her?
Its also good for her to cry for a little while. It will clear and help her lungs get stronger.
Tell him to get off his arse and step up to help out. He’s the father.
Tell him to get his lazy butt up and do it if he’s unhappy with how it’s been.
Yea tell him to get the baby then…
Yeah why can’t he get up and help you being a first time mom out emotions are all over the place he can help and get her too
What’s wrong with him getting the baby?
I used to constantly run to my first born because I thought it was what you were meant to do… update child number two, if theres two people in the household then there’s two people to tend to the baby. Don’t let him or anyone tell you your not smashing it, being a mamma is the hardest job in the world but the most rewarding x
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Are his arms broken?
If he is there, then he can equally get her or tend to her. He has no right nor reason to get mad at you.
I’m confused!!! Did you fuck yourself and make this baby alone? Or was he part of the action and is part of the family too? Do his legs not work? Is he suffering from a disability that impairs him from being able to tend to 12day old bubs? Is he aware you either just had a C section or naturally delivered a baby from your vagina and they both take a toll on your body?
He is a piece of crap, dump him
You might wanna hold off on those I do’s and tell him it’s the 21st century and he’s allowed to help out to
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Of he’s so concerned why doesn’t he assist with baby
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He may have some new feelings he is dealing with as well as you especially if he is also a first time dad. Yes I could agree that he could grab the baby as well. But keep in mind that you two should be working together not against each other… talk to him about his feelings as well as yours. Good luck!
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Tell him to get off his ass and tend to her. 
Oh heck , Jami Sanders you think he should get the baby ! Oh no that’s not his job he only helps make babies not take care of them. Stinky diapers What are you thinking.
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You best stand up for yourself now…raising kids is tough work and your man needs to grow up…
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If he’s getting mad at u for not getting up fast enough that’s one thing, (not good) but is he screaming at u in front of yr baby? Is he getting violent toward you? If u can answer yes to either of those questions then the only other question you need to ask yourself is do I want to raise my child in this type of environment? Your child will feel yr stress and emotion which may set yr partner off more. Be careful and seriously weigh yr options.
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Ok, here is a completely different perspective. My husband and I had 2 babies in one year. But for our first baby, our son my husband was terrified everytime this baby cried. Yes, he helped out. The article says nothing about him not helping out, but my husband also had the same issue, more like a phobia about the baby crying. I slowly got him more involved and he become more comfortable with the babies routine and now he is a pro, and can handle the cries of a 1 and 2 year old! Lol …
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Why doesn’t get tend to them while you’re getting situated??? Are his legs broken?
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Tell him to tend to the baby wtf. You should be resting.
Don’t ever leave this baby alone with him I’d fear for its life.
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Why isn’t he getting to her ??
He comes too quickly when you get naked, but not when baby cry should be a God father.
Talk about a warning sign…I got a feeling this will only get worse
He’s an ass, it sounds like. Just tell him he is always welcome to get the baby when she cries. That, or he can shut it.
Wtf is wrong with his legs what a jerk! I’d tell him stfu n do something that’s half his child too!
He can get off his A** an help with the baby! NO offense, run as it will only get worse!
This is what my ex did with our first child, and in the end, my eldest was too scared to make any noise. If your partner continues to do that, I would leave. It’s not just affecting you, but your bubs as well x
I think U need to either tell him to help or shut the fuck up simple he made that baby too
Don’t get me wrong but being a first time parent isn’t easy as we all know. But your partner well, how he is acting is not acceptable and most importantly probably not helping you emotionally as I know your hormones are all over the place. You need to make him understand that it’s hard for you as well as you are still recovering and that babies do cry. If feels that much that your not attending to the baby quick enough then maybe he should get his arse into gear and start helping you out. If still no change don’t be afraid to chat to your health visitor or mid wifes as I’m sure they can offer you support and advice.
Also talking family and friends can help too.
Hope things change quick for you and congratulations x
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Angry with you really. Omg.!!!
Just reading some of the comments and thought to myself what if she is in a domestic relationship and she can’t tell him to get off his arse and help attend to the baby as he could kick off even more. Hence why she has message on here to get good advice from us all.
FYI
If he gets angry now…think about when you get married 
Tell him to get up and get HIS baby
Tell him, “Welcome to the real world; babies cry and if you aren’t going to share in the responsibility of nurturing her or changing her diapers, then ‘shut the hell up.’”
I’d be very careful he sounds more needy than concerned for his child… besides you shouldn’t have to be worrying about what he wants …
That nigga can get off his fuckin ass and help. I’d get on his ass for NOT helping. Flip the table on his dumbass.
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I’d tell my SO if he didn’t think I was moving fast enough to tend to baby … he’s more than welcome to get up off his bum and help!
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You didn’t make that baby alone.
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Are his legs broken? No? Then he should be helping you, if you’re not getting there “fast enough”. You just popped out a baby, you should be resting.
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Idk I always got angry back and asked him why he couldn’t pick her up for a minute so I can finish what I’m doing. Fuck that. The child is his responsibility too.
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Idk with me I reacted quick yeah I was tired but also post partum depression makes you care less of your child, sluggish, tired, emotional. Look into it. Idk I’d be upset if my husband didn’t move fast enough as well 
Is it his baby too because you JUST HAD A BABY 12 days ago he should be equally participating in the care and parenting of the child he helped create.
Is he helping with the baby? If not, tell him to f off.
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If u r asking this question and can’t see through his bullshit, it’s time to sit down and and work together as parents. His role as a father is to bond with his child not just you!
You think it’s rough now?! 
Just wait till your SO sees what toddler life is like:flushed:
Why id he not tending the baby if he thinks you are not fast enough?
tell him a watermelon just destroyed you vajayjay. so ssooorrryyy if you cant get up fast enough. if it’s truly a problem, go get the baby yourself.
you’re doing good mama, hang in there. never hurt a baby to cry a little
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I get pissed if mine hears the baby crying. If you hear the baby crying, I’m clearly busy. How about helping? It’s his kid too
Tell him to attend to the baby himself. He help make it didn’t he? I am so tired of this know it all little boys who think that they can just throw a tantrum. Ask him if he gave birth. You are exhausted and need help. Damn little boys
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You just grew and birthed an entire human. He should get the baby and tend to her as often as possible and/or BRING HER TO YOU. He’s half assing his parental responsibilities.
Have him STEP IN YOUR SHOES! HE IS PART OF WHY YOU BOTH HAVE A BABY!!! HE IS NOT A GOOD FATHER!
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Girlfriend, you are still recovering. He needs to step it up and help you! I understand that he doesn’t make the milk, but the least he can do is take you the baby. If the baby is having formula he can get his butt up and make a bottle or tend to her. 
. You aren’t the only parent.
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Does he help with the baby or go to her when shes crying and you could be doing something? He helped make the baby, he can help take care of her too.
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Maybe your asshole husband could jump up when the baby cries, not you Everytime.
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If he gets angry tell his ass to get up if he thinks he can do it faster
I’d NEVER leave my baby alone with him! If he can’t handle a 12 day old baby crying he could be abusive towards the baby.
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you are a very good mother. he is full of bull 
of the highest degree
My level of general irritation just went from a 2 to a 10 reading this bullshit 
Like, are his legs broken?
Is he a paraplegic?
Is he capable of moving his own ass to tend the baby if hes got a problem with how you’re doing it?
FFS
Whaaaa?? what an A-hole
Um tell him to tend to her you did not make that baby your self 🤷
Dare him to be faster
you have got to be kidding me. do not sit and put up with this BS. if he can’t stand the crying he needs to get off his ass and help.
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You just had a baby with this lady, don’t get mad if she is not quick enough, get off your ASS and help her, it’s your kid too.
Are his arms broken?
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I mean he’s got 2 hands and 2 feet get moving my dude
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Throw the whole fiancé away. Tell him to get his ass up and help
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His butt needs to get up and bring the baby to you or deal with the baby himself and give you a break.
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12 days, you should be resting and recovering yourself. Where is he? He needs to be helping.
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Tell him to get off his butt and help
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Tell him he is more than welcome to step in if he thinks you’re “taking too long”
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If he’s got time to whine about that he has time to get up and tend to his child himself.
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