These comments are not it, y’all.
You ever think he’s hiding it because he doesn’t wanna trigger you to want to smoke I would be more upset if he was doing it right in my face because it would be harder for u to quit… out of respect he’s not smoking around u so out of respect for him let that man smoke
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Well you shouldn’t try changing someone
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Just because you quit doesn’t mean he has to, and he shouldn’t be hiding it and you shouldn’t make him feel like he has to hide it, him vaping or smoking isn’t harming you or the baby, leave him be, I am getting a he has been made to feel like he has to lie and hide it. It’s probably your hormones but it can push him away if your not careful good luck
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Atleast it anit Crack.
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Is he allowed to vape outside? Just wondering because you say you gave him permission to smoke???
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I know people are amused at the situation but I understand it is the lying and the sense of trust that is the issue here truly if he’s not smoking in the house around you he’s a grown man if he’s going to vape let him vape granted there are drawbacks like anything you smoke but if he is respecting you enough to not do it around you then let him lead his own life but the lying having his mother help him that’s a betrayal and if he will do it over something this small then when something big happens you’re going to be questioning yourself and him I would sit down and talk to him he’s a grown man if he’s going to vape then let him vape but the lying the deleting messages and having his mother back him those are all red flags and they need to be addressed
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Omg 
goodbye. I’m done. Y’all literally petty
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I find the lying a huge red flag. Personally I wouldn’t be super upset about the vaping if he wasn’t doing it around me. But I’d be mad about the lying.
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If he wants to vape then let him be! It’s not something to feel betrayed about. It’s not drugs and he’s not cheating on you. Definitely not worth a fight. It’s a bit controlling in my opinion. Him lying to you is wrong, yes! But you didn’t give him much of a choice when you “expected” him to quit. If someone wants to quit it has to be their choice.
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You’re projecting your restrictions on him. Just be yourself and allow him to be himself. You have no right to force him to change. You don’t own him. He shouldn’t have lied but look at yourself as to why he would have to go to these extremes just to make you happy and be with his unborn child. Controlling behavior like this is not okay
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Is this your underage child? He lied because you are being ridiculous. Keep it up and he will eventually leave you. There are far worse things
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Wowwwww lmfao over a vape… not cigarettes that reek but a vape that smells like candy Girl if you don’t go get a real problem
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Let the poor dude vape
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You sound to controlling. Just bc you can’t doesn’t mean he has to quit. He should be a man and tell you about it to your face. You need to choose your battles. There are far worse things that he could be doing. Let it go. Stop trying to make him do things he’s obviously not ready for.
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girl, cut your losses!
The fact he’s LYING is my only issue. That’s just not okay. However, the fact youre BIG MAD over such a little thing leaves me to believe you likely overreact. He shouldnt have to quit if he doesn’t want to. It’s awesome you were able to quit though but stress is worse on the baby than vaping. Sounds like you both need to grow up a little bit before babys here
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Why does it affect you? He’s not your child…he is an adult. Don’t push him away because u can’t smoke.
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You’re wild. You do not own him. He’s not pregnant. You’re controlling and it’s gross. I’d lie to you too if you act this way. You clearly overact and he’s probably scared and intimidated by you. You’re teaching him to hide things by how you demand and react.
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You are being controlling over dramatic and ridiculous. Why would you say you have him permission he isn’t your child. And why would you prefer stinky cigarettes over a vape. If you don’t turn this around quick and evaluate yourself you are going to be raising a baby on your own or in a terrible enviorment
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Just let the man smoke…I’d be pissed if my SO told me I couldn’t do something that helps with my anxiety. Should he have lied, no! But, he’s a grown man and doesn’t have to stop. It’s very hard especially if he has anxiety. My doctor told me it would be even worse for me to quit than continue smoking because it’s literally the only thing that works fast enough during a bad episode. Pills take a good 30 mins to start working. Maybe ask him not to do it in the house or in front of you if that will help you because you’re pregnant and you want to do it, too. I was trying to quit one time and the guy I was with at the time smoked as well. I didn’t ask him to stop because I was trying but he was kind enough to step outside or in the garage where I wouldn’t be tempted.
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Trust, and thousand questions don’t sound like trust to me.
Him lying isn’t the one, but neither are you being controlling and getting mad at him for wanting to vape. You don’t own him and he doesn’t need your permission to vape. Grow up
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I can understand lying about it and being upset. But no reason he should have to quit. I never made my husband quit when I was pregnant. Have him do it outside.
When it comes to a choice between a cigi or a cape
The vape is less harmful then a cigi
You mentioned you don’t want him vaping but your happy for him to keep smoking ciggies
Which is more harmful to bubs
Are you upset that he is still vapping or that his mom is buying it for him ?
Honestly you are being a tad controlling
And I’m not surprised that he feels he has to do it screcetly
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Geez and these type of women wonder why they end up a single mother 
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He is a grown up person…
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The fact he’s lying is a huge issue, not the vaping tho … I understand that this is a TEAM EFFORT and he should quit alongside you. He’s not the one carrying the kid 9 months, birthing it and having his body held hostage by a parasite.
You have every right to be upset at the lies and the lengths hes willing to go to hide shit. Even if you are crazy mad when he vapes, he should’ve had an adult conversation about it instead of him AND HIS MOM lying to you.
Sounds like he’s of age to smoke soooo…. You should chill. You can’t take peoples freedoms like that because you don’t like them.
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You should not get married!! For not so obvious reasons!
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I mean i guess if he lied u can be upset but honestly this seems to be a real reach on your part. It sucks to have to quit things during pregnancy but its part of life. If he still wants to vape i wouldnt care. Im not saying that you are controlling at all because i dont knoe your relationship but this sounds very controlling. Pick your battles babe. And good luck!
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So because your pregnant he can’t smoke?. I mean can he smoke outside instead of inside. You know smoke helps those trying to quit cigarettes. Or because of an anxiety. You can’t just make him stop because of your pregnancy. He’s your partner. Why not be there for him. Instead of trying to put him in a situation that will lead for him to make a choice. Have you even thought about it. My bf smokes. Even during my pregnancy he smoke. And so did I. Did my baby come out different? No but he did come out healthy. If I was you. I’d second think what would happen next. Think about it. Cuz you will regret it one day. And you can’t take back anything. Unless your forgiven.
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“I let him” whoa. Controlling much.
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I hate how most the woman on here got something rude to say … especially when everyone were probably nightmares to be around a one point when we were pregnant… she even asked if it was her hormones … instead of y’all reacting like y’all are better and saying “I probably be smoking too bc you are too this or that…” needs to chill swear … she is on here to ask advice … give constructive nice criticism or don’t comment
It’s ur hormones yes it’s unhealthy I get it but to make someone stop completely a drop of a hat is hard enough if that is all the issues u got let it go! Leave him be
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This story is literally written as if he’s cheating and he’s only smoking 
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I understand being upset about being lied to. Is there a reason he’s suppose to quit or just bc you want him to? Smokers will only quit when they want to.
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I’d tell ya to kiss my ass and vape
My goodness. quiting smoking is awfully hard to do. I been smoking for 60 yrs. & tried a couple of times to quit. The 1st time , I was 3 months pg. when I stopped ( just for the heck of it) My baby boy was born a month premature & only lived 6 wks. ) My other children 6 of em, I smoked the whole time & they are perfect lol( as far as their health & my smoking).
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Bet you saw this going differently in your mind….
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You are not his mother so stop acting like you are. He’s a grown man he doesn’t need you telling him what he can and can not do! In other words (Get A Life And Stop Trying To Run His!)
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Vaping what a stupid thing to fuss about…no wonder hes lying cos you keep going on to him…you will lose him if you carry on like this…be greatful thats all he’s hiding!
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You “let” him smoke?
Get over yourself.
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I have a bit of a different take on what everyone else is saying. Your husband is addicted to nicotine. Addiction is a disease and he is likely already feeling ashamed because he is struggling to give it up. You have made a decision for the benefit of you and your baby. He can’t be forced to give up his addiction…he needs to find the motivation that makes him make a different choice. I understand your feelings of betrayal because he has lied to you but he is lying because he is addicted not because he is mean or bad.
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He is wondering right now if he married you, wtf all I getting myself into, what else do I have to ask permission for your majesty…
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So why not just let him vape? I understand being upset that you feel you were being lied to but you had the man quit because you’re pregnant and couldn’t. That’s not fair. You can’t force a smoker to quit
He’s a grown man & your mad he’s vaping but ok with cigarettes? Did it dawn on you that vapes & cigarettes are both addicting. You can t just say “I quite” & be done-most people anyway. Sorry but if you feel betrayed by a vape then your in for a world of crap once that baby shows up. If he doesn’t feel like he can even go to you over an Addiction then you need to evaluate why your need to control & go onto social media to berate your partner. This is hormones girly.
I vaped up until the day I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks. Everyone in my house vapes including my husband. It was hard at first. But I still let him vape. It was his choice.
You lost me at “i let him”
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Choose your battles. This ain’t one of them. Trust me
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Only uneducated fools smoke anything besides marijuana!
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You’re toxic. Leave that poor man alone!
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Work with your individual therapist to resolve your control issues before moving forward with this or any other relationship.
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You’re trying to make him stop doing something because you stopped. You’re the one being unfair, he tried to make you happy. You’re not his mom, leave him be.
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I mean, he shouldn’t have lied. But he’s a grown man. He can vape if he wants to. You can’t control him.
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Stop acting like his mom! If he wants to vape , let him. Hes a grown ass man who dont need you telling him what to do.
I’m not sure if you can blame controlling behaviors on hormones.
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Hold the fudge up he said it belonged to a friend when you found it under the matress, are you sure he ain’t cheating as well cause how else did it get under there if iT wasn’t him oh that’s right Mr nobody did it… an the knome in your front garden put it in his pocket too… Either you need to leave his ass for lying or just accept he’s vaping an move on cause there’s worse things he could be doing other than vaping… sure you are justified for being angry he lied but I’d rather a lie over a vape than a stressed out partner who could get violent
He’s a grown man. You trying to control what he does is the reason he had to sneak around and lie to you.
It’s a vape what’s the big deal
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It’s a vape? You are over reacting
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You’re being ridiculous😂
You are not in charge of what he does with his own body he gets to make those decisions on his own and if it’s something that you don’t like and you’re going to make that big of a fuss over it then just leave him
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Holy control issues batman 
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Bloody hell be could be doing alot worse than smoking a vape
You say you letting him still smoke whats the difference i would rather a vape
Seriously this is halarious 
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Fr tho? “You let him.” You can’t expect him to stop just because you have to. If you want him to smoke outside that’s one thing. But you’re treating it like he’s cheating. Heartbroken? I’m really sorry, but grow tf up. Mf babies having babies.
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Yikes, I rather him vape then smoke cigarettes. You can’t make him stop all because you got pregnant and can’t do it now. That’s ridiculous!
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Not gonna lie I smoked cigarettes until I went into the hospital to give birth my daughter came out healthy and fine. To each their own
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He needs to run away, and take that baby with him when he/she comes out. Good luck.
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I feel bad for him damn girl relax
You “let him” keep vaping.
You are not his mother. He’s vaping. He’s not out cheating. Let it go. Pick your battles. This isn’t one.
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I would understand this reaction if it was a meth pipe.
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You can be upset about the fact that he lied to you. You cannot control what he does though. Just because you can’t vape due to pregnancy doesn’t mean that he should be forced to give it up. Have an open conversation about the lying, but also realize the stress you put on each other when you put restrictions on both of you.
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“I let him” … 
It’s a vape. Vaping is much better than cigaretts.
Trust me when I say ( and I absolutely mean no offense) if yall can’t agree over a vape, that baby will drive you all apart. You better start working on your communication now if you want to stay togther.
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Is he your partner or your son geez… let it be. He could be smoking worse be glad it’s just a vape.
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First of all you LET him smoke. I’m sorry he’s a grown ass man and doesn’t need you allowing him to do things. I think you need to lay off and grow up a bit. You will destroy this relationship. He’s already at the point of feeling like he has to hide conversations with his mother. Your backing him into a corner and you won’t like the out come when he decides to bark gf. Just let it go and let him be a MAN he’s not a child
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You may not like this answer but if you’re searching for perspective with an open mind to change your stance, here’s my thoughts from personal experiences. Honey you are suffocating that man. 1) he is a grown man and you’re treating him like your child. 2) I know you’re pregnant and whether you are able to notice it or not, your hormones are going to make you overly sensitive and hyper aware of everything so, pick your battles. 3) nobody successfully quits anything by force, threats and ultimatums. It is a self made decision due to revolutionary thought processes. My final note is nitpicking and controlling your husband makes him shut down to you, it’s passive belittling and it will lead your marriage in the very unhappy direction. He’s showing you that you’ve forced him to hide what he wants to do (mind you it’s not another woman, a drug addiction, a gambling problem etc). My advice: tell him you found it, you have realized how controlling you were being and you are sorry. That if it is what he chooses to do then so be it, but you would be so proud and supportive of him if he/when he chooses to quit. Hope this helps 
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You’re body can’t have certain things not his … as long as it’s not in front of you does it matter ? My ex went on a huge night out the night she was born but I didn’t … that’s just life … if he a was diabetic would you cut out sugar and chocolate etc ? I wouldn’t
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Personally it’s just a vape id let it go. Being pregnant though if you dont want it around you he should be respectful. I couldn’t stand the smell of cigarettes when i was pregnant so i asked my ex to smoke away from me because it made me sick but you cannot stop him from vaping
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Upset he lied yes but you can’t tell him he can’t vape that’s better than cigarettes maybe ask him to not do it in front of you but to tell him he can’t is wrong.
You let him you are a control freak and contradict yourself
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You may not like this answer but if you’re searching for perspective with an open mind to change your stance, here’s my thoughts from personal experiences. Honey you are suffocating that man. 1) he is a grown man and you’re treating him like your child. 2) I know you’re pregnant and whether you are able to notice it or not, your hormones are going to make you overly sensitive and hyper aware of everything so, pick your battles. 3) nobody successfully quits anything by force, threats and ultimatums. It is a self made decision due to revolutionary thought processes. My final note is nitpicking and controlling your husband makes him shut down to you, it’s passive belittling and it will lead your marriage in the very unhappy direction. He’s showing you that you’ve forced him to hide what he wants to do (mind you it’s not another woman, a drug addiction, a gambling problem etc). My advice: tell him you found it, you have realized how controlling you were being and you are sorry. That if it is what he chooses to do then so be it, but you would be so proud and supportive of him if he/when he chooses to quit. Hope this helps
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The lying yes… but you can’t change anyone! He has to want too……that’s his health
Wayyyy over reacting. It’s a damn vape. What’s the big deal? He had to sneak it because you’re unreasonable. Being heartbroken over finding a vape is ridiculous. Try finding a meth pipe in his pocket… that’s something to be heartbroken about.
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Darling it’s a vape,……we’re not talking hardcore drugs. It’s literally a vape. The lying is absolutely not okay but at the same time I’m assuming he’s a grown man and you controlling the fact if he can vape or not is pretty extreme. Take it easy.
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Lol, dude needs to kick you to the curb.
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Is this real? If I can’t do something while pregnant neither can you ? Please I don’t get this
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Just the fact he said the 1st vape found in your bed, and he said was from a friend, is a warning…really…why is your friend be in the bedroom? And more and more info is coming out how bad vaping is
You can’t control what others do. He is an adult with free will and you don’t have the right to “tell” him he can’t vape. He could be doing something worse. You’re trying to control him and that’s why you’re so pissed off…because he didn’t “obey” you. Let it go.
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You discussed him not vaping anymore ???
You mean you told him you don’t want him to anymore… and he probably agreed to stop to colossal fight that ensued lol
I mean he probably should consider your feelings but doesn’t seem like you consider his sooooo🤷♂️
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Sorry hunny lol I think it’s your hormones lol you can’t make an (addict) stop just because you did. Wither it be cigarettes or drugs … I’d prefer vaping over cigerette smoke anyway… if he does it when he’s not around you then what’s the problem ??? He’s doing it away from you and what him and his parents talk about is what they talk about. If he has to hide things from you about talking to a parent then I’m pretty sure you are being to much and it’s resorting to hiding things… that’s a huge red flag on your side. Men don’t like to be hassled or told what to do. And no woman can change that. Just bwcarful hoe you push because the next teer is hiding other things and showing less interest. Just let him know it’s OK and that as long as it’s not around you while your pregnant that’s OKAY BECAUSE IT IS. you can’t force him to do anything. And causing a scene everyday and (SEARCHING FOR EVIDENCE) Will only piss him off and push him away.
girl just give him time to guite I get u want the happy healthy fam but it’s hard to stop vaping or smoking cigs it’s easy for momma cause u have a baby growing in ur tummy but relax u will just put stress in ur relationship and its not good for baby just give him time to stop and tell him no need to lie anymore commutation is the key to good relationship and its ur home also so u can put rules out if u want no vaping indoors or in the car which should be very understanding on his Part …second hand is just as bad and that goes for vapes as well not just cigs. Good luck just stay calm for baby things have a way working themselves out .gl
Girl you sound too Damm controlling… its vaping get over your dam self. He’s not cheating on u or smoking drugs. Some of you woman really don’t know when you have a good man. He needs to run and leave your ass.
Do you think your emotions are possibly high because of pregnancy hormones
Why would he have to quit because you do tho thats a weird request
Miss girl he’s a grown man he can vape if he wants to.
He’s a grown ass man lol
Of coarse you have the right to be upset, heartbroken even, only you get to define how things make you feel, I would say there’s a chance it’s extra hurting you cause of hormones, but regardless you still have the right to be upset, but maybe don’t make it a detrimental thing, reading this post all I could think was damn I’m lowkey jealous that he deletes calls to his mother to hide something like this vs it being because of cheating lol
This is his decision. You need to stop with the controlling behavior. Just so he doesn’t vape or smoke around the baby after birth. It is very very difficult to quit smoking. Some people are just not able to do so. You are not helping lurking around looking for his pipes. Let him be a grown man and leave this alone.
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What did I just read?
You’re pregnant, not him 
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You have the right to your feelings… but
- You don’t “let” him do anything. He’s a grown man and can do as he pleases.
- Just because you had to quit… why does he?
- He probably feels like you’re being his mom. Let the man be a man.
- If you can’t agree on this and you try to control him… having a baby isn’t gunna be any fun for yall. Yall will end in a break up real quick
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