You need to relax and let your man be a man
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This is overkill I’m sorry but you are not his mom an you shouldn’t be able to decide that for him. You are pregnant he is not. So your decision to stop is on you an so is his you don’t have the say.
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What else has or will lie to your face about…be done and move on. JS
Chill out. It’s just your hormones
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He’s not doing it around you. He hides it from you so you don’t see it. All because he knows you’re having a hard time quitting too.
Sounds like a good guy.
He’s being as supportive as he’s capable of.
You have a baby inside your body to motivate you. Cut him some slack. It’s a vape. Not cocaine. Jeeze.
And don’t tell him what to do. You don’t get to “allow” someone to do anything when it physically doesn’t affect you.
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My advice. Get over it. He is an adult. You have a baby coming. Hormones suck. Been pissed at someone sucks more. You are only hurting ur own feelings. Big hugs. You will figure it out.
Sounds like he has two Mama’s
Would you rather have found a used condom under the bed? Let It Go!!!
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Hormones. Stop being controlling.
Wait. Hes not alowed to vape but can smoke which is more harmful 
Yeah that makes sence…
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You lost me after “i let him keep smoking”.
Thats a whole a*s adult man and not sure where you get the kahonas to boss him around. No wonder he is sneaking around. Youre treating him like a teenager.
I get you cannot do certain things cause of pregnancy buuuut you are treating him like he is your child. Worry about the kiddo in your tummy and stop bossing him around. And the fact that you were going to get his mom involved. Just why… why do you think its your place to put that much control over someone. Maybe learn from your mistakes while your still pregnant that way you dont pass on this controlling behavior onto your child
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Hormones forsure. Just because you have to stop doesn’t mean he has to. If it’s so hard for you then just have him not do it around you. Problem solved. He’s an adult you should be “letting” him do anything.
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Its your hormones… You had to quit BC of the pregnancy, he doesn’t. He was clearly just trying to be supportive and if your irrational enough to just grab things out of his pocket you should definitely check yourself. Don’t pick fights. Let him vape
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Your not his mother chill out and he’s not doing it around you
He’s lying because he knows it will lead to another “discussion” aka fight.
And if he tried to force you to not do something you enjoyed, you’d probably be screaming bloody murder.
You are too controlling.
If you want to quit, quit.
Respect the man to do as he wishes.
You are forcing the man to hide something.
You are creating this situation.
You are the problem he doesn’t want to fight with you.
Sheeeeeesh…
“Let him”? Relationships are about compromise. If you have a problem with his vaping and want support in your quitting, then have a conversation about how you can compromise so that you wont be affected by it. Like no smoking in the house or around you or something. There are always gonna be people vaping somewhere. You cant expect everyone else to shield you from it, or alter their habits because you dont do it anymore. If he doesn’t want to change that habit then you have to decide if you are willing to accept it or move on. Relationships are hard. If his vaping is not affecting you negatively, then why does he need to quit if he doesnt want to? It’s his body. The lying is a different story. It sucks and i have no idea how to deal with lies. Its an awful feeling to be lied to so i get it…but dang. Its a vape and he is a grown man.
He business if he vaps…he isnt 12 and you’re not his mother
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There are way bigger things to be heart broken over.
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Break up with him he doesn’t care enough about you to care about your feelings or your unborn child.
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You’re not his mom. it’s his choice. you might not like it but it’s better than making him feel like he has to lie
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Lying and gaslighting is not ok regardless of what it’s about. Full stop.
Let him have the vape. Just tell him not to do it around you… if that is your issue. You’re pregnant, he isn’t. I’m sure it’s difficult dealing with a hormonal pregnant woman while trying to quit smoking… and keep a cool head.
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It’s probably the hormones. I got in a huge fight with my bf about having a fake tree in our tiny apartment and cried all day about it. Like the whole thing. I hate fake plants and it was weird I have no idea why I was so mad about it other than the hormones. You will laugh about this later.
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Heart broken because of a vape? Lordy lord 
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Get over it! He’s a grown adult and you are not allowed to control a grown adult. I guarantee if you keep trying to tell him what to do like he’s a child he’s going to leave u 
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I’m sorry. Sounds to me like your being controlling. It’s one thing if you talk to him and ask him not to but it’s not like he’s cheating. This is by far the least of your problems. Js
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You kinda sound aggressive. Your hormones are up. Pregnancy changes Your body in many ways. Your kicking a vape habit. Let him be. He’s not doing around you. Go get a massage with the monies your saving from not gaping and smoking. 
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Just talk to him about the value of your relationship being more important than whether he vapes or not. It is better to be able to be open and honest with each other than it is to try to stop each other’s habits. Nicotine is hard to kick. He probably didn’t want to upset you but still has a need for the nicotine. Just enjoy your time together and look forward to seeing your new little one.
I don’t think it’s the vape that is upsetting you so much as it is him hiding things from you and lying about it. It’s the principle.
IMO vaping is not a big deal. But your feelings are your feelings.
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Lmfao what:joy:
he had to stop vaping because you couldn’t anymore but you ALLOWED him to smoke? Girl you’re the red flag in this post
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You’re worried about him lying about vaping…Maybe he was having either a hard time just stopping or he didn’t want to do in front of you…
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What in the high school am I reading 
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Just talk to him about the value of your relationship being more important than whether he vapes or not. It is better to be able to be open and honest with each other than it is to try to stop each other’s habits. Nicotine is hard to kick. He probably didn’t want to upset you but still has a need for the nicotine. Just enjoy your time together and look forward to seeing your new little one.
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As long as he’s not stealing from you, cheating on you, or assaulting you, let the man vape.
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You’re his fiancé not his mum or his keeper, you don’t get to tell him what to do. His a grown ass man if he wants to vape who cares? He could be doing crack or breaking the law but he isn’t. The fact he feels he has to lie to you about it speaks volumes about the type of person you are and quite frankly it seems like you need to grow up a little and let the man be.
You sound extremely controlling. Smh
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Seriously? If this is your biggest issue in life, consider yourself blessed.
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It’s your hormones. Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean he shouldn’t be able to smoke. He does have an addiction though. I wouldn’t let this bother you though.
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Read head l I ng get over it
Is this real? All this over vaping
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He’s not pregnant…u are
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Well obviously he feels like he needs to hide it from you so he’s either scared of you or he doesn’t care how you feel. I begged my husband to quit drinking when I found out I was pregnant and constantly stressed about it but you can’t make someone change they have to want to. I would sit down and talk with him without yelling or getting upset.
Pick your battles honey.
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heart broken over vaping but you let him keep smoking? you make no fuckin sense. get some therapy.
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What is it you’re upset about?
Honestly, it’s not vaping that would bother me. Vaping isn’t a big deal tbh. Pick your battles. BUT I don’t like liars. Especially in a relationship. This isn’t an excuse nor am I justifying anyone lying, buttttt he’s prob hiding it from you because you do seem a bit aggressive… imo
wow! you would NEVER be able to go through real life problems 
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I’ve smoked cigs and was able to quit them thanks to vaping. I’d be more mad about smoking cigs, the smell always made me sick during pregnancy and it’s worse for you and people around you.
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You’re his fiancé not his mom.
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You seem very controlling if I was him I’d done left your ass
Is this real ?? 
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I really wouldn’t worry about it, if he wants to mess his lungs up so be it. I wouldnt try to control him because that’s just going to push him away. It’s just vaping. Thank your lucky stars it’s not drugs or alcohol. When the baby comes make him go outside and not in the car either. Maybe that will help him stop. Try nicotine patches too.
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Lord I pray he doesn’t cheat on her…. They’ll end up on the news.
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I don’t see an issue with vaping. I smoke cigarettes and wish I could vape. I just can’t do it, when I was pregnant and not smoking, I didn’t like that my ex smoked but I couldn’t make him quit. That would be unfair. He’s not pregnant, you are.
You sound controlling yikes
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I can understand a boundary you’ve set has been crossed and you feel betrayed. Try to talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. Maybe you can make a compromise on your side as well.
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Be happy it’s just vaping he could be an alcoholic … crack head, pill popper ect . Playing would be the least of my worries 
i wish that was all I ever had to worry about … you’re choosing the wrong thing to bug out about
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The fact he feels he has to hide something as simple as vaping makes me truly wonder how insanely controlling you really are.
Drop it. It’s a fucking vape.
While you’re at it, grow up.
It’s still lying and I wouldn’t think his mother should be a part of it.
Stop controlling him. Omg…
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how old is he that the mom
is buying them?
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Don’t get excited about a damn vape. After all, it’s not a freaking crack pipe.
Absolutely ridiculous
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So you would rather him smell like a cigarette than a vape…okay. You sound controlling. Did he smoke when you guys got together? Cuz you knew what you signed up for.
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I understand the feeling that he’s hiding this from you is a problem. It would be better if he manned up and just flat out told you he isn’t going to quit seems like a stupid thing to lie about.
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Really? Let it go. There are worse things to worry about. Likely hormones making it feel worse for you.
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He is an adult, your fiance, and ur the one pregnant. I get it and understand you wanted both of you to quit together to be eachothers support and you both made a promise. You feel betrayed bc he has been lying about it, hiding it and hving his mom buy his vapes for him. I would be more upset that he lied to me and was hiding it bc now trust is broken. He should hv just told you and said he was still vaping. I would talk to him about feeling betrayed by his trust and lying n hiding it. You don’t want to start this new chapter lying to eachother and hiding things no matter how small they are, bc its only ever seems like no big deal to one person but the other it may be a big deal. I would hv him obviously not vape around you, tell him to be honest with you and ask him to try to quit before baby comes bc her health should be important to him as well. He needs to quit just like you did.
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Lucky it wasn’t a meth pipe🤷♀️
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Controlling af. What’s wrong with him vaping? Are you jealous or do you just want to control his vices? He could be cheating on you, doing narcotics, drinking excessively but he isn’t I assume. Leave him be. His body, his choice.
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You’re being mad controlling…
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I mean really come on now this is so stupid
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You sound like my husband
If his mother loved him she wouldn’t encourage him to vape. If he loved you, he wouldn’t lie about it.
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This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever seen in my life. You must be a child.
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Better a vape then out partying or cheating or drinking. Better a vape then cigarettes. Pick your battles. I say let it slide. However the lying part dose bother me. He definitely should not have lied. But let the vape go. It seriously could be so much worse.
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If this is the worse he is doing, be thankful.
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Its wild he feels like he has to sneak around bc you’re that controlling. 
A vape?! Let it go.
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I wouldn’t quit my cool mint vapes for anyone
He could be doing something a lot worse. You should love him for him and not make him change but try and help him quit the bad habit, forcing one to do something is not gonna work.
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I have hid my smoking on and off my whole life. I’m now in my 50’s. I’m an adult. I don’t drink or do anything else. It’s my only vice to relax. Vaping doesn’t leave a smell. As long as he’s not vaping near you or the baby it’s not your choice to make for him. Just because you can’t drink or smoke doesn’t mean he should give up what he enjoys. It’s definitely your hormones.
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You sound a bit controlling…I’d say your hormones are playing games.
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Get use to it honey 
If you wish to stop that’s on you pregnant or not. You don’t have the right to force him to stop he’s an adult( I’m hoping) so you have no right to tell him what to do. You’re treating him like a child interrogating him about it to the point that he feels he has to lie to you about and has looped his mother in on it as well. Mind you his mother should butt out and not be involved with it at all but she put herself in it by helping him lie about it. You need to calm down and leave him alone about it. Have a conversation with him and his mother about the lying bc once you start with a singular lie doing so again becomes more easier over time. Stop trying to control him if he wants to vape let him it’s his choice. Just set boundaries where it’s not being done directly around you and is done only outside. That kind of request is far more reasonable than demanding he stops and then interrogating him every moment he is with you.
Yikes.
Quitting nicotine is extremely difficult to do, being forced to probably isn’t going to work out.
I’ve honestly been in his position, I ended up leaving the very controlling spouse
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If that’s all you have to nag about your good but for him on the other hand RUN she’s not the one
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I feel like you are overreacting. As long as he isn’t vaping infront of you, you need to let it go. I would be upset about the lying but the poor guy probably feels like he doesn’t have a choice because of how upset you are getting.
Just stop…stop being a control freak…
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Ehat he does to his body is his own business.
So many things worse he could do the fact he feels he has to hide from you says a lot about your relationship.
Breathe! Relax!
Its ur hormones. He shouldn’t have to quit just bcuz you did 
thats controlling on your part and way over stepping! I didn’t even imagine ever making my husband quit smoking when i got pregnant…i quit myself.
Regardless of what you may feel is fair or unfair in the situation, he has still been lying to you and hiding things.
My ex-husband would own up to small lies and then of course there were the big lies that were hidden from me.
This is the same pattern I saw from my lying cheating ex-husband as what you currently have.
If I didn’t trust him so blindly the way I did I & would have questioned things more, I could’ve saved myself a lot of grief and many years wasted with the wrong person.
Just something to think about.
Lmao booohooooo get over it. You can vape again in 23 weeks.
He shouldn’t have been lying. But a child on the way is stressful for the partner who isn’t pregnant too (in a much different way) and I bet he figured he could support you by not doing it in front of you but just wasn’t strong enough to kick the habit altogether.
So hopefully it’s not about controlling what he does, but feeling sad/frustrated that an agreement you thought he was entering willingly was broken, and then he lied repeatedly about it.
Personally I think you need to have a calm talk about it so he knows that it was the dishonesty that was the problem. He should be comfortable coming to you and saying “Babe I wanted to support you and really tried but I just can’t quit” and then you’d say that you understand but please not around me because I’m trying so hard for our baby.
I see a lot of comments like “it’s just vaping” but when you share a household and bills with someone, addictions can become a real problem. For example if someone spends so much money on collectibles that the baby is going hungry. So you need to trust each other enough to check in on these things and set limits with each other on what is good for the family as a unit. If he can stick to no vaping around you and isn’t blowing the budget, I’d hit the reset button on this issue once he understands that the dishonesty was the problem.
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What’s the reason for basically making HIM stop vaping…?
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Sounds like this is gonna be used as evidence in a future legal case but ok
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Well fatherhood should be fun for him
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If it’s simply because you can’t, then you’re being controlling. Let the man do what he wants… as far as the lying, that needs to be worked on, on his side.
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Is this for real? I seriously hope this is a joke lol
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This guy made a mistake impregnating this harpy,seriously addictive things are hard to quit even harder with a nagging significant other stressing you out and melting down over nit picking expectations
If that kid isn’t his bun in the oven he should find the nearest exit and run,DONT WALK
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Wow it’s vaping your ridiculous
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You need to deal with it .