Why does HE have to stop if he’s not doing it in front of you? Your litterally searching for evidence. It’s not like he’s doing it in your face.
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As an adult, I would never be/stay with a partner that tells me what I can and can’t do. It is up to me to decide what to do with my body, not my partner. This whole situation seems controlling. He wouldn’t have lied if you weren’t literally forcing him into a huge lifestyle change.
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Sounds like he should start saving up for CS because this chick is crazy.
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You should have way bigger problems to worry about then him vaping:joy:
If rather see someone smoke actual cigarettes than a vape but hey that’s just me:person_shrugging:
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You’re heartbroken over a vape? 
I feel for the dude
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Poor guy, let him vape smh
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You need to STOP! Think about it, seriously! The lying isn’t great, would watch that! However YOU maybe a problem! Your body, whatever you take in, the baby will! Well done for stopping ciggies and maybe alcohol. Having said that your BF seems to be trying to take a part in this whole baby thing, by vaping and not smoking. I suggest you are having a hard time coming off the cigs and are very subsceptival around smoke smells. Leave it as long as outside.
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You need to talk to someone. You can’t have that type of control over another person
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Girl I’m pretty sure he over 18 and can do what he wants you sound very controlling and manipulative I’d probably lie to so i wouldn’t have to deal with your nonsense you can not control another grown human being
An come on now heartbroken over a vape you acting like he went out and murdered your bff or something
How are you ok with cigarettes but not a vape make it make sense please !!
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Your kinda stupid and selfish and controlling to demand another person quit smoking or vaping.
He is worse for agreeing to it, and then turning around and doing it anyway. And it’s even worse gaslighting you about it.
He should have been a man from the beginning and told you to screw off he’s a grown a$$ man and he’s going to smoke if he wants to.
The only thing you have a right to do, is ask him to respect you enough not to do it in front of you, or inside the home.
Your both babies!
This has to be a joke right? If you’re going have a melt down over the little stuff like this…there is no way your relationship will last. This is absolutely ridiculous 
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As long as he isn’t vaping crack,you should be ok.
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Hormones or control issues. 
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If this is all you have to worry about then consider yourself lucky 
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Girl I’m pretty sure he over 18 and can do what he wants you sound very controlling and manipulative I’d probably lie to so i wouldn’t have to deal with your nonsense you can not control another grown human being
An come on now heartbroken over a vape you acting like he went out and murdered your bff or something
How are you ok with cigarettes but not a vape make it make sense please !!
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Lol this has gotta be a joke my dude… If not… take a breath. You can not control another person and he is literally vaping. It could be so much worse.
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People are nasty🤣
Isn’t that the point, that smoking is hard to quit! Yet she’s expected to do it without his support?
She’s compromised by saying she doesn’t care about smoking… just not the vape. She probably smells it on him and it triggers cravings? Lol.
Give her a break. Pregnancy is hard. Also here’s a study stating the impact a partners level of support affects a pregnant woman trying to quit. The fact anyone would say that this is all her problem is so regressive and frankly appalling🤙
Aside from this direct link between paternal smoking and pregnancy outcome, partner’s smoking behaviour has also been shown to have an association with smoking cessation among pregnant smokers (Wakefield et al., 1998). In fact, there is evidence that pregnant women whose partners smoke are less likely either to quit spontaneously or after taking part in a smoking cessation intervention (Ziebland and Mathews, 1998). In addition, women who managed to stop smoking whilst pregnant are more likely to relapse post‐partum if they have partners who smoke.
Support from partners and family/friends has often been shown to be an important factor in achieving long‐term cessation in the general population (Cohen and Lichensteib, 1990; Appleton and Pharoah, 1998) and research with pregnant smokers has indicated similar findings. Pregnant smokers themselves often acknowledge their partners as having an important influence over their smoking behaviour. In a study in Australia, pregnant women were asked to quit more often by their partners than by any other person even though 75% of their partners were also regular smokers (Wakefield and Jones, 1991). Many studies have shown that pregnant smokers are more likely to have partners and family members who smoke (Cnattingius et al., 1992; Wakefield et al., 1993). The presence of another smoker provides both the availability of cigarettes, the temptation to smoke and may potentially weaken their resolve to quit smoking (Wakefield et al., 1998). Smoking has been viewed as a shared social activity among family and friends, and can offer couples who smoke a pleasurable activity in which they can spend time together (Edwards and Sims‐Jones, 1998).
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Awe babe, your hormonal… its okay, it’s normal, I was pretty irrational when I was pregnant, it was horrible on me & my fiance… I definitely was kinda crazy person but it’ll go back normal again soon hugs
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Girl, id be pissed!! It became a problem for us as it cost $200 or more month that we didnt have. Its an avoidable expense. We have better/more important things to spend that money on🤷♀️
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Hunny please get a grip- things like this WILL KILL YOUR RELATIONSHIP!
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You’re heart broken about a guy smoking? He could be out cheating, gambling, not working, and not supporting children, etc? These are some common things couples argue about. Not vaping???
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Kind of sad that a grown man has to go as far as lying and having his mother buy him vapes just so his partner doesn’t lash out on him for doing something in my opinion healthier than smoking cigarettes. Just because you quit doesn’t automatically mean he has to for one and for two at least he wasn’t doing it in front of you. Pregnant or not that behavior is toxic and you need to check yourself.
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So you’re okay with smelling like an ashtray but not vaping? Honey… you’re the problem.
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In my opinion it isn’t the vaping you are upset about it is the betrayal of trust and the fact that he is and has been lying to you! I believe you feel it is the vape all around and you are wanting an opinion from someone out side looking in? So in my opinion as someone on the outside looking in I can see both side so from where I sit I see a man that is trying to protect your feeling because you have had a hard time with quitting so he feels the need to lie and I see yourside that you have had to give up so many things for the health of yals baby and it is hard for you too so for the answer in my opinion he should have voiced and been honest with you so you have every right to feel upset as for vaping in my opinion if he just needs to do so just be sure he isn’t doing it in front of you making it harder for you but In a way that isn’t sneaky so that you don’t feel deceived by his actions and it isn’t right in your face HORMONES do intensify every single thing you may feel just take it easy on yourself and him a baby is a major adjustment on every one
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For some it’s harder to quit than others. Give him a break but tell him it’s important to you. He was vaping not cheating.
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Do you really want to raise a child with a liar, it will only get worse.Think about it
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Umm honey there’s men who lie about doing heroin. You should let your man hit the vape
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It’s a vape, not meth. Let him have his vape! He clearly uses it to take the edge off from work, and daily stress. Personally I wouldn’t have a problem with it. If he was hiding drinking or sneak drinking then that would worry me. Throw him a bone, you being on his case all the time and breathing down his neck like this isn’t good for the relationship. He definitely shouldn’t have lied, and I’d be upset about that part. Ask him why he feels the need to vape, why he hid it from you and why he kept lying to you about it. Remember it’s the two of you against the problem, not the two of you against each other.
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No you have no right to be upset. He is right, you are acting crazy.
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Offer him an alternative aide to giving up smoking. Patches or the doctors have other aides to help. Pull up the side effects of vaping give him a copy and his mum. Tell them you want him around to watch your child grow up and know from the research done on smoking and vaping he wont be if he keeps doing it. You also have to look at your relationship he lied to your face got sneaky hiding it you need to bring this up also with your partner. Keep your voice soft and low so you both don’t start fighting because this is not what you want. You want to trust him in your relationship so lying is not allowed total honesty from here on, you are giving him a chance to put it right for you, him, your relationship and your baby. Good luck.
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I’d be more upset about the lying than the vaping. If they lie about little things they will lie about big ones.
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Grow up is all I can say
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Hormonal definitely but I get it a lie is a lie …but don’t lose sleep over that
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You let him? Interesting
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No offense your his soon to be wife not his mother. If he vapes why is this a problem at least it’s not cigarettes or Crack lol. I’m sure you can be mad over something more then a vape js.
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You can’t control someone. You asked him to quit and he decided he didn’t want to. So you decide if having a vaping partner worth it or not. Trust me there are bigger things to worry about then him vaping right now. Maybe this his coping strategy. Maybe he will quit when it becomes his decision.
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I’m gonna stop you for a second…take a moment and breathe. You are pregnant. Emotions run HIGH. That being said, he shouldn’t have lied. He should have said it was his, faced the music and tried to smooth things over. I can understand the lie makes you feel betrayed but it will definitely feel worse being that you ARE pregnant. Tell him how it made you feel. Otherwise, as long as he isn’t vaping around you when you didn’t want to be smoked around, then I’d say let it go. He’s hiding it because you’ve pushed him to that spot and he didn’t want to make you explode. (Gotta remember, guys don’t think like women, they think like guys. lol They don’t want the fight, they hide it…even though that causes a fight but they don’t see it that way.) Like I said, explain why it hurt your feelings. Tell him to not lie even about little things because then it really screws with your trust, and then move on.
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I’m not tryna down play for feelings but a real heart breaker is having a manipulating, cheating, controlling, abusive, narcissist of a boyfriend.
Which you need to calm down. A controlling lil girl gonna end up alone soon after you unleash all that hell bending anger. Please find some help if you can’t.
I’d say hormones as well as being upset about being lied to about it. Vaping itself wouldn’t make me go crazy it’s the extent of how he hid it from you. That’s what would upset me.
Your hormones are crazy!!
This sounds like a mother with her teenager son!!
Don’t run him off before the baby‘s born!
Pick your Battle
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Hahahahahhahahaha omfgggg
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“I let him” wowzers. He’s an adult. You either decide what you’ll accept and stay. Or go. You don’t get to “let him.”
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He wouldn’t have to lie if you didn’t try to treat him as your child an tell him what he can & can not do. If he chooses to smoke or vape let the man. I mean add least he’s not all meth up right? I honestly don’t see the issue with it. An he’s not doing it around you clearly if he’s having to hide everything. I think your going over board with it.
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We all have choices, right or wrong, always consequences. So it’s up to u to make yor choice… my opinion only, a continued lie will end n continued lies, but that’s me, U and baby r the ones to live with his lies, bottom line!! 
’s for u and Yor baby
Really? Over a vape! I could see cigarettes, bc the smoke isnt good for babies or nursing mothers,but come on!. Me and my daughter are heart patients and i am fine with people vaping in our house and cars around us bc it is just steam. Lol. Smells good most of the time too. Most people we know use the fruity or sweet kinds.
Sorry, but you either love him as he is, or you don’t. You don’t get to control him. He’s a grown man.
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Let the man fkn vape be grateful it isn’t crack
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This is ridiculous 
I don’t like being told what I can and can’t do so just to be an ass I would do it to be spiteful
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This seems like something so silly to be upset over. You are doing what’s best for your baby, because it’s in you and that’s part of being pregnant. That’s just how it works. That would be like me telling my husband after a long ass week at work that he can’t have a beer because I’m pregnant and don’t like it and can’t have one too. You must be really young or really hormonal because this is petty.
Straight up… my ex lied about the same thing repeatedly. I finally caught him, he kept lying… it will NEVER stop. I’m so sorry, but if this is a hill you are going to die on you need to make that choice now.
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Be glad you didn’t find condoms in the house lol a vape really? Tell me that’s not the hill you wanna die on cause it sounds very controlling on your part. As long as he’s not vaping around you then it should effect you personally. I get not being able to smoke while Prego, I just had my daughter yesterday but you have to allow your partner to have their vice’s. He’s probably stressing out and it’s his way of destressing. It’s most likely just your hormones, just try to keep that in mind.
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Omg stop… he’s not the one that’s pregnant you are. He can still vape as long as its not around you. Why should he have to stop because you had too? Hahah this is petty
Omg! Are you in high school lady. Get over it.
This poor man 
imagine being stuck with someone who thinks they can dictate what you do with your own body …
WOW! I wouldn’t be surprised if he ends up leaving your controlling a**. Yah he might of lied but who wouldn’t your acting like HIS mom not his child’s mom. Almost sounds like your jealous that he’s vaping if anything… Choose your battles wisely, after the baby gets here it’s only going to get tougher. I mean it’s not like he’s hiding or lying about a diff girl or something… Js
Um. Relearn the definition of gaslighting. And quit being a control freak.
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He probably wouldn’t have lied if he didn’t feel so judged by you. You both vaped before you were pregnant so at some point in your relationship that was acceptable and also he is there for support and it seems like he is doing a lot of extra to not vape around you but yes he is there to be supportive of you and the baby ,however, he isn’t pregnant and I know it sucks but really at the end of the day it’s on you to not vape for your unborn child.
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Vape? Omg…what a monster!!
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She is pregnant and hormones are absolutely a mess so be mindful because we all know it is absolute hell and we cry over nothing. A lot of us have been there and we know how it is. I do think it is just hormones though love. And it is hard but pick and choose your battles and try to breathe and don’t stress about the small stuff. Much love💜
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Wait, you would rather him smoke cigs instead of vaping? Cigarettes smell, bape doesn’t. I’m not understanding. Why does it matter what he does, if he wants to quit then he will. Not because anyone Including you told him to stop. He’s gotta make that call
He shouldn’t have to stop because you are pregnant. people can only quit something for themselves. not doing it around you is responsible and respectful. He should have been honest from the beginning that he wasn’t going to quit.
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Atleast he didn’t do it in front of you 
I wouldn’t stress it. Nicotine is addictive and you should probably just get used to the idea of him vaping, so he doesn’t have to hide it from you… I would not be worried about something so small
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Lawwwwwd. It could be way worse. Pick your battles.
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So he quit smoking and vapes instead but you have a problem with him vaping? Controlling much??
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Just cause you stopped doesn’t mean he has to. The lying is wrong no doubt, but you are forcing him to quit when he obviously isn’t ready. And it makes it worse that your only reasoning is because you can’t. Not for his health, but because you can’t so you don’t want him to either…
My advice is to be quiet. You’re being petty again.
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I would run so far away from you it would not even be funny! Wow just wow.
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First thing, if he doesn’t want to stop and is being forced it will not work. Another can not force someone to stop smoking or vaping. In fact you are making him lie to you, opening a can of worms over him vaping. He isn’t pregnant or has a healthy reason to stop, if he enjoys it ( addiction as well) he will continue to use and you being down his throat will cause issues in your relationship. If he isn’t smoking around you, then it isn’t harming you or the baby, you need to let this go. Also will add its a little on the crazy side to reach in someone’s pockets and check what they have! You will never get good answers by being forceful
Very petty and controlling, it’s his body… not yours. You must be young, or just immature 
something stupid to be upset about. Sounds like you’ve got a lot of growing up to do.
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Jeez woman , you dont own him. Let the man vape!!!
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Gee be thankful it’s not an illicit drug
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If she is not doing it around you what does it matter
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He should flat out tell you he is going to continue to vape until he is good and ready to stop. That way he won’t have to keep lying to you. The man is an adult treat him as such please and he should do the same.
Hes an adult and can vape or smoke if he wants too.
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Speaking from experience, my husband and I both vape. When I was pregnant I couldn’t stand the smell, I quit cold turkey but never made him quit he just vaped in the garage or elsewhere. I don’t understand why he has to quit just because you say so
Why is it a big deal that he does? Like wtf.
Another thing, do not ever reach into someone else’s pocket, wallet, purse, etc. that’s rude as hell.
No wonder the man is vaping.
u cant stop him , or decide if he can or can, why allow him to smoke, but not vape ?Wtf
Let me get this straight? You made him quit because YOU’RE pregnant and you can’t vape so you choose for the both of you? No ma’am. That sounds super controlling on your part. And he lied to you because you really didn’t give him a choice, now did you? Smh it could be so much worse. SO MUCH WORSE. And you’re crying about a vape… Girl please
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I don’t get the issue here? I’m pregnant so the father of my baby can’t vape???
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I thought this post would say " hes been hiding different phone, condoms, cards of women…" something to feel betrayed of but this sorry but too controlling u are
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I can understand wanting to be healthy but I cannot understand why you would think it’s ok to control someone else’s personal choices. Vaping is not illegal! He probably feels that he has to lie to you due to how you’ll react since he’s know that you want for him to quit. Your setting yourself up here for failure.
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Wow smh what gives you the right to control him? He’s a grown man its his body ffs stop being immature. Just cause your pregnant doesn’t give you rights to decide his life and what he does.
Have self control first
You have your right to your own feelings. Don’t let everyone on here bully you into thinking otherwise!! He made a promise and broke it no matter what the situation is that’s still rude and hurts. The best way to settle things with your partner is sit them down alone and just be honest on how it’s making you feel and you wish he would stop. Then keep talking till you both can come up with a solution together to figure things out 
talking to your partner is one of the best solutions to any problem 
chin up love things will turn around. Sometimes men are just very set in there ways till they final realize the true damage they are causing but they will never just catch on you have to talk it out. Best of luck 
and congrats for quitting and for the new baby 
Over a vape I would let him. It’s better then smoking
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Pick your battles girl. It’s hard to quit. He’s obviously being respectful enough to try n hide it from you and not in front of you.
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Nothing wrong with a grown man vaping I’m glad he’s not doing it around you and your unborn child.
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How does “allowing” him to smoke but not vape make any sense at all
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He does mot have to lie just be honest, he is having a hard time quitting, better then the BS…
First off …you don’t " let him" do anything ! He is a grown ass man …you deff need to chill on this one
You need to grow up and he should quit for himself. He’s not ready to quit so leave him alone.
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Controlling much, I mean he is an adult. You don’t think it’s weird you search a grown mans pocket. What’s wrong with you, a bit childish I think🤦♀️
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His body his choices
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I hope your ok mumma xx
He could be smoking meth!!! Geesh!!!
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Girl dont take this wrong…but be thankful.u have a good man…everyones right he is a grown man why does he have to quit too…i def think your hormones are going nuts but this is just plain petty asf…
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WOW!!! You are complaining and the man doesn’t vape in front or around you. You really need to grow up and let the man be himself. You don’t have any right controlling a situation that has nothing to do with you.
Girl get over it. Your too controlling . It’s a vape not the smell of a cigarette
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