Just run girl, as fast as you can.
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Yikes! If you two can’t agree on a bunch of gift cards, you certainly won’t be able to agree on anything in marriage or as parents. Don’t marry this man without some serious therapy and thought. Btw, the gift cards are for you and him to use together or for the whole family (like a big meal). There shouldn’t be any yours or mine here.
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I don’t even know where to start here. It is evident that she made the wrong choice by picking him. PS she’s known this all along. I’m sure there were red flags everywhere that she chose to ignore. This is a character trait. At the end of the day, you get what you choose.
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Yea, dont marry him.
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He sounds like a huge loser!
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He needs to grow up. Time to be selfish has passed. Any MAN would want you to keep them and use them as you need when the baby comes.
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Those cards are definitely for the baby, to be used for and on the baby. What a selfish way of thinking, he veiws you as a roommate and not as a partner. Y’all are supposed to be a team, he’s immature and still needs to grow up. I agree with everyone saying to not marry this man, he will never change. Take those cards on your way out of there!
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Girl if you even have to tell your “fiancé” that it was a gift for you both and the baby, then you have a very immature boy on your hand.
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Why are u with him?
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Sounds like a fuckwit, I wouldn’t be staying
Sounds too toxic. Get out while you still can and give that baby your last name! Trust me, it helps in the long run!
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You think it’s bad now, just wait till the baby comes because with how he is, you’re going to be let down even more. I’d consider starting a back up plan .
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Go ahead and kick him out! The way he I thinking he needs too go.
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If not married…he can go stay with his previous family. Then you can get the money you need from him in child support. Sounds like a total douche. Babies cost a lot…dont have time to get food or cook much after have one so will have to stock up on frozen foods or have delivery…You are going to need all of what has been given and he cant even supply diapers and buy baby stuff on top of wanting to take off with gift cards meant for after baby is born?! Hell no. Already showed he isnt supportive and would give needed money to his previous family that you need…probably to get him out of paying so much child support. Sounds like need to go find someone that is grown up.
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Personally I think you are both wrong. IMO The Amazon and visa gift cards should be used for stuff you will need around the house ( toilet paper detergent ect). Or maybe something big THE WHOLE family ( meaning ALL of your kids) that you all can enjoy together. The baby card used on baby stuff and the restaurant cards maybe you each get one then use the third one to go on a pre baby dinner to have one last date before baby is born. If y’all keep y’all’s kids separate and don’t think of you all as one whole family unit then I’m sorry your marriage isn’t gonna last.
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Your self esteem shouldn’t be that low 
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Omg he is a child. Splitting the gift cards in half:roll_eyes: like wtf. How greedy can one he. It’ll only get worse. He’ll prolly want the bigger slice of birthday cake at yalls baby’s 1st party too:woozy_face:
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Hormones are high???!! Nooo! Your SO is high!! Drop him. He has no regard for anyone but himself. He has no sense of family either! His kids, your kids? It’s a family! Drop him and run.
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If you haven’t already I’d be looking into getting child support from him.
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He needs to grow up. Hope you know how to raise a baby by your self!
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Girl he’s soooo wrong thats your gift for u & baby he’s an extra in my mind his kids are his issue as of now…I wouldn’t show him any other gifts or anything till he gets his shit together with what u need from him
Why ARE you even with him? He sounds very selfish. Do not marry him. I would leave with my baby.
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Bruhhh runnn! He’s an immature little man, he’s literally showing you how useless he will be when the child is here. I’d give him back the cards and tell him “You obviously need it more than the baby and I. Also I’d find a place to stay if you’re more worried about taking care of everyone but us.” Those cards should be used for emergencies after the baby is born and if he wants to take his kids out he should take all the kids. Including yours. You guys are a blended family now.
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There’s 6 cards addressed to you guys you deserve half the cards if he wants to spend some of it on his others kids too I think that’s okay just not on his ex. If there’s dine in cards I think that’s more for you guys so maybe some cards are the baby some cards are for you guys. I’d give him the buybuy baby card and take the Amazon one so he has to buy baby stuff and bc the cards are equally yours so you both get to pick which cards. I’d sit down each of you get to pick one card at time
He’s the type that’ll be mad when you choose the child over him. I’d go ahead and leave
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Sorry… you should have thought about that relationship before you got pregnant, sounds like he’s wrong, but also what do you mean you are sacrificing 6 weeks of pay, you knew you would be off work that long after a birth…???
You need to leave. He obviously doesn’t prioritize you or the baby that’s coming. He seems disrespectful and is already separating your kids from his… sounds unhealthy af.
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Sounds like my ex. It didn’t get better. He never thought about his children and would complain when I did. All our taxes were spent on him. Never our children or family. He was abusive in so many ways and this is a red flag for you honey.
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Not only disgusting behavior on his part but a huge red flag for what it will be like in the future. Only you can truly decide what to do. I wish you luck.
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I think it’s one you figure out you aren’t on the same team. It’s him and his kids and you and your kids (including new baby). Make sure your stuff is in order and you aren’t reliant on him to get through Bc I don’t have a good gut feeling. File immediately for support! If he’s all I’m gonna change we are a family then he needs to be willing to go to therapy and out in the work on being on the team and for having a blended family. It’s work to blend a family!
Sounds like he has got it confused. Those were a gift for you! Not him. Sounds like he needs to go. They weren’t for his kids and him.
Omg please leave. For the sake of you and your child, leave.
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Sounds like you need to book it before that baby comes and start taking care of your own self. He’s someone’s ex-husband for a reason and you may not know the entire story. I’d talk to all the ex wives before you walk down that aisle!
I agree with everyone else he definitely sounds like a jerk! The gifts you get are for you both and your baby… I also agree that you should be the one who gets them for food for yourself while you are home since you won’t really be able to go anywhere for a few weeks as well as formula, etc for your baby… he is very disrespectful and on top of it all wanting you to pay the bills while your off on leave is wrong you won’t have money coming in… keep your head up god has a plan
That’s crazy people gave things to my baby daddy and he gave them straight to me . I had lots of vouchers but brought baby stuff with them or breast feeding clothes . I had a cafe voucher that I used me and my sister went for hot chocolate before baby was born . He didn’t care . This is just wrong
Wtf? Id be divorced by tomorrow FUCK that 
He’s so selfish. A real man would want to take care of you and your baby. Why would he even want to keep baby gift cards? What an ass.
I’m pretty sure those gift cards are for the baby and food for you both after the baby is born lol
The fact that he would use such a selfless gift for such a selfish reason is ridiculous.
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Time to throw the man in the teash.
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He is a selfish jerk to doesn’t deserve the blessing of a child.
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Red flags everywhere!!!
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First let’s take a moment to call out big companies that don’t allow for better care of moms on maternity leave. That’s a huge issue all over.
Second let’s take a moment to reflect on how uncaring this man is. How reality is going to slap him the face very soon.
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This is absolutely disgusting 
he’s a complete tool! Those gift cards are meant to spend on your unborn baby not for him to treat himself! My sons a year old and anytime he gets money or gift cards for any special occasions I spend it on HIM period never spent a dime of his money or gift cards on myself. I will buy him things he needs or something fun like a toy! This is just plain disgusting and that’s terrible of him to take them and spend on himself!
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Run…very fast away from this relationship.
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It’s sounds to me like he doesn’t seem to understand yall ARE A COLLECTIVE FAMILY!!! He’s wrong. Those gift cards are for the baby you are currently having not his kids from someone else. He seems very selfish to even think it’s ok and I for one wouldn’t want someone like that sticking around too much longer. If he’s this selfish before the baby comes, it will only get worse when the baby needs more attention than you. Take it from someone who had a very selfish baby daddy….run!!
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I don’t really care about the gift cards, but he should be paying for EVERYTHING for the 6 weeks that you’re out of work while having HIS baby! He needs to take responsibility for you and the baby while you’re recovering.
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It seems extremely selfish of him to do that , good luck with him as a father you’re going to need it.
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Boy you really picked a winner there.
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I’m so sorry. He sounds selfish AF! I would never tolerate this. The food gift cards are meant for you and him and whatever other children are in the house to feed you all once the baby is born and your too busy or tired to even worry about cooking. The fact that he kept one food card is whatever if he wants to feed his other kids thats perfectly acceptable. But him keeping the Amazon card AND the visa card is selfish and ridiculous. If he wants to buy stuff for his other kids then he does need to be digging Into his new baby’s baby shower gift. He can buy that stuff himself with the money he will save from the gift cards when you use them to pay for things for the new baby. Now it would be different if his attitude was different. But he began this when thing by thinking he wasn’t even going to give you or the new baby ANY of the gift cards. That itself makes him a douche. If he had had said here baby by boss gave this to us for the new baby I think you should buy whatever left on the baby list that we need and use 2 of these restaurant cards to order dinner during the first weeks home or when we’re in the hospital. Would you mind if we used one to take ALL (yours and his) the other kids to eat before the baby is born to spend some time with them before things get really busy. Maybe if there’s any money left on the other cards we could use it for something for ALL (yours and his) the other kids or if one or the other of the older kids really needs something he can’t afford. Thats what a real man would do. The fact the he thinks its OK to just be a nasty hero and tell you what he’s going to do with a GIFT THAT WAS GIVEN TO BOTH OF YOU is just disgusting. And let me just say how utterly pathetic he is for making you pay half the bills when your out on maternity leave after you have HIS baby and are out RECOVERING from pushing an entire whole ass human out of your vagina. He sounds pathetic and I can’t even believe you would agree to keep paying any of the bills let alone half when your out work with limited income if any and hes already proven to be selfish and overly concerned about money over you and yells new baby. What kind of man can’t take care if his households bills for 2 months while his wife or gf is giving birth and recovering from it and getting adjusted for a few weeks to probably being the sole care taker of said child that he helped create??? No man. A little boy.
Okay…why are you with this person? From what I’m saying they clearly do not care about you or your child. He’s saying he’s going to spend them on his previous marriages children, when that money needs to go to your newborn.
Too many red flags 
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Gal friend ,you better run fast. This dude is greedy, stingy , selfrightous, demanding , showing signs of an abuiser. If you take his crap now , it will get much worse.
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You really going at eachother over giftcards? Honestly you sound just as entitled as he does. You both probably shouldn’t be together. Honestly if my husband’s boss gave him gift cards I’d totally let him spend them on himself. Good on him for having a job. Whether he chooses to spend it with you is obviously a reflection of who he is. The fact you can’t even consider his children as yours is a huge red flag on your part, how you going to deal with him having to spend time with them when he has you n a new baby at home he sounds selfish but so do you, just a relationship destined for doom really.
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You should point these things out to your fiancé and see what he thinks. Js
Also have you thought about how you gonna find that half of bills while you are unemployed with a baby? Does he understand that really? Cause if he does then why continue…do you know how much more stressful it will be caring for a new born and a grown boychild ?
So why are you with him? I
He sounds like a tool
Run. Don’t think about it. Grab your kids and run.
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Oh no way thats for the new baby 
he’s being totally selfish a total red flag
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What!!! This is just a glimpse of what lies ahead!
Oh my and your getting ready to have a baby by him …
Sounds like a narcissist. I’d run
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What a jerk. Mentally prepare to do this on your own, even with him in the same house. Those should have been y’alls to use together.
Have an adult conversation with him and be blunt like you were with us…if he is your partner he will understand…if not…its just gonna get worse on the future
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You’re both childish. I pray you both get it together before that baby is here. If y’all are in this together, things shouldn’t be split like that. F*cking ridiculous and selfish on both of you.
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Man you picked a winner. You should be working and saving while your pregnant so you don’t have to worry about those six weeks the gift cards are for that baby not to feed you two
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I’m a dick. Didn’t he help make the baby? It’s for both of you.
He sounds like a loser to me…wtf
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He sounds like Greedy is his name, does he need to know about everything in your life! Those cards were sent mostly to you n your baby, not his needs n family! It’s too late to take those cards back, so next time, make the right choice n do what’s right! If his name is nowhere, then it’s yours to share if you care to or not n as much or little else to give away!
I say take all the cards and 
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Those are for mom and baby douche canoe
I say put them in a cookie jar and dig in as I go
I wouldn’t get married.
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Like I’m so confused at people now a days who cares who pays for what as long as it gets taken care of because your home for 6 weeks doesnt mean you cant cook at home like where are both your priorities…what kind of example of selfishness your both going to teach this child just wow grow up it’s not about you and yours anymore it’s about the baby
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Why is everything split?? He sounds like a selfish jerk! Leave!
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Your husband is a tool
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Sounds like you’ll be his second ex.
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He sounds selfish af
So wrong it’s for the new baby he sounds selfish
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Sounds like a jerk! Let him have the cards. Change the locks. Bye bye
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Nope, they are for both of you and the baby. What is he hiding that he showed you a picture of the card and not the card itself when it was addressed to both of you?
You are engaged to be married but there is much division in everything. You’re having his baby and are still expected to pay half the bills during your unpaid maternity leave?! Like WTF! Girl, run now and don’t look back.
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Ditch the guy, he already sounds like pain to juggle with.
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You need a new man that one is a duchbag.
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Good god… get away from him
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You need to inform him you are taking care of his kid and not working, tell him to use those cards to help him pay all the bills for the next 6 weeks because you can’t and won’t.
Sounds like you have an extra kid. No thanks. Tell him to keep the cards and leave. You don’t have time for this!!
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He sounds selfish as hell. Id leave him tbh lol
Girl!! Girl!!! This is a really BAD SIGN!!! RUN!!!
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Mannnn he gotta GO. Get him tf outta there.
The reason the gift was given was due to having a baby. That means it’s for the baby & for you both when the baby arrives.
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Wow I would be leaving and getting my own place… when you get gifts as a congratulations on your baby most people would be using it for their new baby no themselves but I guess to each their own. Good luck
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That’s wrong of your husband to do that that’s for your baby and I wish you luck on the order and being delivered I just started ordering from WalMart delivery and Friday to Sunday I had three times I had to cancel the order and reorder it so they would bring it finally got it right though and this time my orders fast
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Since his boss gave them to him and it’s addressed to the both of you … I would tell him he either needs to share or you are going to go to his boss and tell his boss he isn’t sharing and is planning on keeping them for himself and his family
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Tell him to get a grip take them of him then redden the neck of him he will no better next time
This doesn’t sound like a relationship. Sounds like a roommate.
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Selfish! I don’t understand splitting everything when you’re supposed to be a team. Any gifts addressed to the family should be for the family.
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I think you made mistake thinking he would be a good partner. Dump him
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Absolutely not. If you’re paying for yourself anyways then say bye 
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Also , you shouldn’t have a man in your life who will be that selfish and steal from his family
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Uhm, no. Those cards are the for the new baby. Not for his kids, not for your kids, not for you and not for him, they are for that baby. They should be used to buy things still needed for the baby or things the baby can wear/use later on… As for the food cards, they should be used for food after baby has arrived or ONE for a nice little date night before baby arrives. I would be livid to find out that I gifted someone a gift card for their new baby and they used it to buy something for their self.
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Evidently you have made a HUGE mistake. GET OUT.
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He’s a greedy fool. Probably a dead beat
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what’s wrong is You married him
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Don’t marry this selfish boy.
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