Leave. If he really loved you, he’d love you no matter. I had a man like this. I changed for him and it still didn’t help, because he didn’t love me anyway!
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Please know your worth 
he should love you no matter what 
As a person that has been 160 at my smallest and 250 at my biggest I’ve been married to my husband 20 years and he has always been my rock no matter my weight I’m currently at 200lbs your weight shouldn’t matter if he truly loves you
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Love yourself and leave him!
If he ever really loved you, it wouldn’t matter what size you are now…he’d still love you. I feel like that’s the only answer you need.
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Even with loosing weight & going back, and blah blah blah. The lack of respect, the hurt, the mistrust, will still be there. It’s shallow and just mean, to see the physical person but not the person that you fell in love with in your heart and in your minds eye.
37 years together, now widowed, and staying single.
Neither of us were the same people as when we met. Physically, emotionally, intellectually. We grew & changed.
That’s life.
Sorry, I’m kinda stoned right now.
Learning about gummies in place of traditional pain meds. At 55+.
My kids were dicks. They never told me this 
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If you have to ask—— I’m thinking not!
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Chuck him in the bin if he don’t love you for who are x
I bet he’s not the same weight he was 3 years ago
I don’t see why gaining weight 
Is a issue
I bet your beautiful
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What happens when you get pregnant…after you have the baby and it takes time to lose that weight or you never lose all that weight bc it’s pretty hard sometimes… After 5 kids I know … Sometimes it falls off and sometimes it tries it’s hardest to stick around and you have to really work for it… Is he gonna love you then… I just had a baby by csection on the 19th… He was life flighted to another hospital the next day… I was also discharged to go and be with my baby… I walked around the hospital back and forth to visit our baby and I felt so gross and so fat and I just couldn’t imagine what my husband was thinking… And then he told me the other night when we were just sitting there… " Do you even know how bad ass you are? You had a c section and the next day you were just doing whatever needs to be done,you amazed me the last few days …I mean I always knew you were a bad ass but seeing you be so strong and selfless for our son just made me love you more and I didn’t know that was possible" I literally started bawling immediately like hysterical ugly crying bc I had been thinking all these things he must be thinking about me and I was so wrong and he just made me feel like the greatest woman in the world when I was feeling like absolute crap!! That’s what a husband should be like… They pick you up when your down and do things like make you walk on their right side so if someone gets hit by a car it’s not you… Wait for a man like that
Kinda sounds like this guy is being bashed for communicating his feelings and the issue. Women say they want communication until it’s something about them. Then they get on here and it’s a huge bash fest. The man told you the problem. Either stay and fix it or don’t. 
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If you have to go on Facebook and ask there’s your sign
I wouldn’t be attracted to my husband if he gained a pile of weight… I would still love him, but I definitely wouldn’t be lusting after him.
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You should be losing weight for your own health, not for him being attracted to you. If he showed any concern for your health then I’d re think breaking up. It’s an unpopular fact that obesity is extremely harmful in many many ways.
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Lose the weight for YOU not any man. If he truly loved you it wouldn’t matter. Love yourself queen. You are beautiful & worth being loved with no conditions. The right person will come along at the perfect time but until then distance yourself from his negativity & work on becoming the person you & your kids deserve, a happy & healthy mom!
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Love yourself first. That’s terrible he would judge you for something like that. A real man will accept you no matter what your weight is.
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HELL NO. If he can’t love you for YOU then bounce out. I have PCOS and gained about 30lbs and my husband never mentioned it. Just loves me through the trying time and has supported I have worked my ass off to lose it. But during the weight gain/loss he has never changed his mind on how he feels about me. A real man loves you for YOU. Don’t lose sight of yourself over him. His loss. Stay true to yourself. My point being the right man will love you for you! 
I was 110 when I met my ex. Got up to 180, then down, all over. Not once did he ever say anything about it, ever. When I was upset about it he always said he loves my body, even when I was “too skinny”. I always just figured boys are boys and they like the girls no matter what. Your guy sounds mean, like he’s the one with issues and he’s taking it out on you. 
I’d leave him and find someone who loves you no matter what, that’s what love is:blue_heart:
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If he is that shallow probably not.
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Please read what you wrote over & over again until you get it. You are you, whether you are 100 lbs or 150 lbs or more. It’s what inside a person that counts, & he only cares about what you weigh…Leave & leave very quickly, this man isn’t worth it. What if you got cancer & lost all your hair & got very thin? Do you really think he would so called still love you??? I don’t think so, People change, their figures change, their hair color & texture changes as we get older. But under it all, we are still the same, I don’t think a lot of wt gain is the healthiest, but the fact you are trying to loss it, do it for you & your health, not him
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Why stay with someone who’s love is conditional?
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Forget that. Leave. That’s shallow AF. Everyone gains and looses weight
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I am attracted to my wife no matter what! Weight, no weight, make up, no make up, I love her wrinkles, and her gray hair! LEAVE him! You need to work on yourself and find someone that loves you for you!
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Time to say goodbye !, is that really the kind of man you want ? Now you’ll be forever insecure around him and that will make you miserable
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Please don’t marry him! You need someone who makes you feel good about yourself regardless.
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Get out now! You’re not even married & he’s not attracted to you because you put on weight! My husband was still attracted to me when I was almost 300lbs! If he loves you your weight shouldn’t matter!
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Lol he’s still there … I’m a very straight forward person the moment he told me that his love was superficial him and is bags would be out the window quicker than a sneeze. Not worth it hun your going to end up with emotional issues and a man you never know if he’s looking around . Choose yourself .
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Love is unconditional, he doesn’t love you. Love yourself sweetie and find someone worthy of you.
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When I first met my husband I was not even close to 100 I was at my smallest. I been with him for almost 11 years and yes I did gain weight especially after having my son but he always tells me he fell in love with me not my body. You don’t want someone that shallow. You want to feel secure not insecure.
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You can lose about 150 pounds in 5 seconds…get rid of the fiance. You’re beautiful.
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If he REALLY loves you he would try to help you not put you down
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Leave him. Loose the weight for yourself and find a man that loves you unconditionally.
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What a POS. What does he think happens to women when we bare children and get older. Tell him to f right off. There’s more to a woman than her weight. You deserve way better. Weight does not measure character
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Oh sweetheart tell him to kick rocks, you don’t deserve that, if he can’t love you the same just because of a few pounds then he damn sure doesn’t deserve you at all!
No!! If he’s that shallow, he’s not worth it!
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Please think ahead … what will you look like prego or after having that baby?
I think this is a good sign he is not the one for you - sorry 
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No. There are people that are out there that will love you unconditionally.
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I put on about 40 lbs. My husband loves it. If he loves u it wouldn’t matter what u look like !! Leave him don’t look back
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Doesn’t love you bc I gained some weight?! …wow…he never did love you then at all…u can’t find an excuse for not loving…love is unconditional…n if it bothered him that bad for the past f’in 3 years why didn’t he talk n encourage you to work it out n work out with u or something….what he’s saying is an excuse…dump his lame ass…loose the weight for you n then find someone who will love you at 130 pounds or 170…like frick right off…know you’re damn worth
Girl F*** him!! Someone will find you that’s gonna love all of that plus more!!
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Wtf! Leave him. He can’t love and accept you then F him and he don’t deserve you. Know your worth and find someone who will accept all the flaws!!!
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Listen, some men aren’t attracted to extra weight on women. So be it. Nothing personal. …and most women aren’t in need of that superficiality or shallowness. Dump him. Do you.
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Let it go he’s not into you…
Peace out 
why stay with someone when they can’t be committed to you through a health issue (yes, weight gain is a health issue) . He’s not supportive and if he can’t be the man you need him to be when you’re down, he doesn’t deserve you when you’re at your best.
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Kiss his arse goodbye & there’s an instant weight loss right there!!
Leave … tell him you’re no longer attracted to him cuz his penis is too small according to women’s standards or that he’s gotten ugly… either way… lose weight for yourself and don’t let that be a factor in this relationship
If he’s that shallow and vain, drop him like a bad habit baby girl. Find someone who loves you for you and not what you look like. You deserve so much better.
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Ditch him so quick!!
If he can’t love you during your weight gain, no he isn’t worth staying with when you start losing weight! Find you a man that will love you for you and doesn’t care about your weight.
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Woooooooow!
Hasn’t been attracted in 3yrs is not the same as putting on 60lbs pandemic…pandemic was only just last yr
What’s really going on? And what’s the real weight? And how long has it been put on?
How long y’all been engaged bc then vs now may be more than just pandemic blues
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I had a baby. Put on 20 lbs. Another 20 because of the pandemic. Anytime I make a comment, my guy is all over me, rubbing my curves and telling me how much he loves me, regardless of how I feel about my weight.
Weight is NOT a reason why you fall out of love.
Stay away, work on yourself if you want, and live your best life.
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You need to lose 200lb fast 
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I’d say you can lose a lot of weight by dropping the douchebag.
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Is there some magic number you get down to and then suddenly he will flip the switch and start hearing jungle drums again? right now its weight next time its a wrinkle or grey hair or health issue, he shouldnt get beyond “fiance” status in your life because he’s already showing you the “worse” in for better or worse
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I would be losing about 190 pounds or whatever he weighs. I recently lost 100 pounds I’ve been married to my husband for 22 years and he has NEVER said or treated me any different, 100lbs ago or now. Kick his ass to the curb!
You will find someone who loves you for you!
Leave him then work on you and get stunning then when he tries coming back, effffff him. Lol
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Sounds like the only weight you’ve gained is his bs opinion… F that his opinion is irrelevant just like his dick…
How is 145 overweight?
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Naaaa if he cant handle weight gain he sure cant take the big stuff consider yourself lucky you didn’t marry him yet!!!
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Honey, leave now.
You deserve someone whose love is not conditional.
What happens if you get sick and gain weight? If you get pregnant?
Do you want to walk on eggshells for the rest of your life?
Get out now, and don’t waste anymore of your time and energy.
This toad is not worth it. Throw him back.
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Nope he’s not worth trying. Lose the weight but for yourself not anyone else.
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No what an asshole 
tell him he stinks
His love for you is shallow and conditional. Leave him and find someone who loves your essence, that love will last forever!
Leave that POS…his karma will be he puts on 100. Ugh men like that are disgusting
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Leave him he should love you no matter what you look like. He sounds very shallow
He’s a pig. Leave him.
someone can lose weight but can’t lose a shit personality leave the prick
If he truly loved you you could weigh 600 pounds and his feelings won’t change. He does not love you move on and chalk it up to lesson learned.
Dump him girl! And just love your beautiful self
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Leave. That is mental and emotional abuse. You deserve somebody to love you for you, not what you look like.
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I would leave him. I’m so sorry. You’re beautiful no matter what.
Sweetie time to move on your king is out there waiting on you
His kept that inside for 3 years wow leave him
Ok so this seems like an unpopular opinion, but he never said he didn’t love her, he said he wasn’t attracted to her since she gained weight. Unfortunate, yes, but at least he was finally honest. 
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Leave seriously don’t put up with that he’s not worth it
He is shallow if weight is his main complaint. I’d walk away to a healthier mindset before he destroys you mentally. That’s not love.
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Dump him. Thats only 1 reason that he’s willing to admit!
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If you’ve already separated that’s the start of splitting completely.
I lost physical attraction to my ex partner but still dearly loved her and tried and tried but eventually it did come to and end for other reasons.
Physical attraction and emotional attraction are completely different thing, yes both very important but things can be worked on with effort.
All I can say is do what you feel is right for you.
Nope not worth the effort! Lose the weight and lose him too!!!
Sounds like he already has someone else lined up.
I’ve gained a lot of weight too, between the pandemic and having a baby I am probably 60+ lbs up. I don’t like how I look or feel and am trying to work on it. But literally every day my husband tells me I’m beautiful. When I push him to be “honest” he tells me he loves my chunk 
. Life happens. If he can’t help you and love you through it, it’s probably not worth it.
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He should love you no matter what you weigh!! Im currently at my biggest, been with my man for 8.5 years and he loves me no matter what. My ex didn’t and I had to be skinny 
I’d definitely consider leaving and finding someone who loves me for me not how big I get.
If the foundation of his attraction after that long together is your looks and not the loving bond you’ve created over time where he sees who you are as a person and not the outside you shouldn’t be there. What if God forbid you had an accident that changed your looks. Maybe lose a leg . A relationship not bound by complete love of all you are means he’d leave if that happened. You don’t need or deserve that. Ditch that waste of space so you are free to find true love. Love does not see your body. Love creates attraction. At any weight love means they are still feel attracted to you. Looks provide the initial attraction. After years together it should go beyond that.
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When you love someone you should be attracted to them no matter what size they are.
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If you have to ask yourself should you stay you should probably leave
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Lose him and lose any weight you don’t want.
He doesn’t deserve you!
Nope get out that is him being petty he’s trying to lay the blame on you when it isn’t abought you it’s on him!
Leave him. He is not worth staying. Know your worth. Never settle!
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Leave him and continue to loose the weight then you will have more time to do what you want to do and you don’t have to answer to know one.
Get out now. What will he act like after you get preg & don’t lose the weight after the baby? He has a bad image problem. You don’t need someone being mean & hurtful towards you. He spoke his truth now you speak yours & see ya it was nice for a time but it’s over now. Let it be a peaceful leaving & 6 -12 months from now he’ll be sorry for letting you go when he sees you back to your old self
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If loved you. It wouldn’t make a difference how much weight you gained… you are probably better leaving him… but in the end it’s your life so it’s your choice
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Personally I would leave cuz if he truly loved you then he would not care about the weight and would love you regardless. However that is a decision you need to make on your own don’t ask Facebook about what to do in your personal relationship. I think if you feel the need to ask Facebook then you probably shouldn’t be in a relationship.
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Not worth it. That’s ridiculous
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Loose the weight then leave his ass bc then he’s gona be really mad when u don’t want him bc he is a jerk
Ask him how much he weighs…right? Ok now tell his ass to leave and bam! Instant Weight loss! No seriously though he is an ass… Love should be no matter what. Everyones bodys change…hes a dick.
Love is unconditional
A real man would put cinnamon butter on them rolls & lick it off he should love you and be attracted to you regardless what happens when old age comes? No one stays young and hot forever.
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You can’t make someone love/want you.
Dump the jerk! If he truly loved you he would be with you during your journey of losing weight and he would also be there if you lost no weight.
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