Is this a troll question?
Iâm sorry but no one, not one single person has to do anything for you. Donât expect others to do for you as you would them, youâre hurting your own feelings.
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Canât just expect people to read your mind. You said if you ask she says yes so whatâs your problem? Just ask her!
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She is in no way OBLIGATED to do anything for you!!! Louder for the people in back!!! Omgâ:astonished: 
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So basically because sheâs a stay at home mom sheâs responsible for your priorities, ya no thatâs not how that works. If you want something you should ask 
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Let her know your looking fir a sitter abd paying xyz would you be interested. Yes sheâs your neighbor and friend but her plate may be full
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This gotta be a April fools joke cuz your wildinnnnnnn.
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Itâs not her responsibility to take care of your child 
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Maybe offer her the money youâre paying the babysitter to do it instead. You canât expect her to do it, let alone for free. Although itâs only 45 mins in the morning you do not know what those 45 mins are like for her behind those doors. She could have an extremely busy morning schedule. Also if sheâs a stay at home mom and dealing with her own kids maybe she just doesnât want extra? Sahm is not a walk in the park.
So my answer is no, you have no right to feel this way at all.
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For me, having another child around for 45 min in the morning would actually be an inconvenience. You donât know their mornings, and it might not seem like a big commitment because she has kids too but to commit to it every day is alot to ask, because she has kids and her own life.
I definitely dont think you should resent her, she helps in an emergency and thats honestly all you should expect
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You sound like an entitled brat⌠Maybe she doesnât offer because you already have someone⌠maybe your kids isnât her responsibility
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Maybe use your words and ask her for help. No one is required to just offer anything. Maybe she thinks you not asking means you donât want or need her help. Just ask your friend if she would mind putting your kid on the bus in the mornings. Jeez
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Its not her job to watch your kids. She hasnât offered cuz she doesnât want to. How lazy of u to assume she should offer.
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She is not obligated to help out in any way. Maybe ask her if she would put the child on the bus and offer her some money for it?
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She has her own kids to look after. Why should she have to look after yours as well
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Youâre kidding right? Sheâs not obligated to help just because youâre friends. Itâs your kid. And if youâre paying a babysitter to do it, why didnât you offer to pay her to do it?
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Eeeeeek had to read this twice. So sheâs your friend not your sister right? Favors like that I could ask my sister to do not a friend. 45mins 
every single school day? Common now. For real. Youâre working, sheâs not, you can afford the sitter for YOUR CHILD. Sorry but this post sounds real entitled 
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Just because she is sahm mom doesnât mean she has free time in the mornings. She has a husband and children to get ready for the day also. You are asking her to take your children for 45 minutes every morning. Thatâs a lot more than meeting out side at X time to wait for bus.
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This isnât from a real mom, is it? Like what?? Thatâs your kid, not herâs. Friends or not, your child isnât her obligation. I donât even expect my family to take care of my children, because they are mine, my responsibility, no one elseâs.
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This has to be an April fools joke. Itâs not your neighbors responsibility to care for your child under any circumstances.
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Your expectations on this are totally out of line. You asked are you in the wrong⌠for sure you are! After seeing this i hope she never agrees to do it for pay because itâs obvious your thinking will lead you all to a fall out in no time
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Resentment is low key grudge/dishonest.
If youâre holding that inside then youâre not being authentic to her when youâre with or around her.
Hiding such a negative, festering emotion is not good for anyone and will continue to grow bigger and bigger.
So communicate with herâŚ
Tell her how youâre feeling, she may not even know or be aware or think to ask you if you need help, because you have a sitter and have it âfigured outâ, so she maybe doesnât even know unless you tell herâŚ
The adult thing to do and what you would tell your child to do is to talk to your friend, so do it
She is your friend, not your unpaid nanny! I asked my friend if sheâd mind helping with school collection and paid her the going rate for her time. It was only because I worried about getting stuck in traffic but I paid her for about 2-3 hours a week. Maybe offer to pay for about 3-4 hours a week (ÂŁ15-20 here) to cover âsnacksâ. She can then help out without feeling ill-treated and can also then offer to do it for free or say no.
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I myself do not enjoy baby sitting. No everyone enjoys other peoples children. Truth b told not everyone enjoys their own kids!! She owes u nothing.
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Ok, I only got about half way through before I was tired of reading.
It is YOUR CHILD not hers. She is not obligated to help you what so ever. Did you ever think maybe she has enough on her plate?!? Just cause she is a SAHM doesnât mean she doesnât have shit to do.
Sit down, pay ya baby sitter, be humble.
Iâm a stay at home mom, and if anyone assumed I SHOULD help with their kids because they get to work, I would be pissed. ASK, do not EXPECT. Us stay at home moms DO NOT do nothing all day. We have our own lives too.
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Itâs not her job to watch your kids. Sheâs busy raising her own. Sheâs a friend not family. She owes you nothing.
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So is that a condition to being your friend, helping you with your children? This your child and your responsibility.
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When you have kids they become your responsibility⌠not your neighbors.
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Maybe you should just ask if you want her to help out. But seriously, donât expect her to do it for free if itâs a regular thing. Personally, I think your post sounds a bit childish and quite selfish. I would never expect someone to just do something for me, even if I would do it for them. Not everyone is you and you canât expect you from other people. If you ask, she may happily accept. Who knows, she may be offended that you donât ask for her help.
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Just ask? Donât expect. 
This is funny 
why should anyone babysit your childâŚ
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Just because sheâs a stay at home mom doesnât mean she should watch your kids. Do you offer to watch her kid(s)? Being a stay at home mom doesnât mean she has time to watch other peopleâs kids
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What in the world did I just read 
that woman is your friend but it sounds pike you donât know what a friend is. She is not your mother husband or nanny so why should she be expected to take care of your child. If this bothers you SO much why havenât you just gone over to her and asked⌠my COUSIN was my neighbor in school and when I needed somewhere to go in the AM for the bus we walked our asses over there and asked.
Itâs not the being hurt she isnât helping that bothers me itâs the assuming she actually is expected to!!! Are you serious? No one is obligated to do anything for your children other then you and the father.
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You ever thought of growing a spine and asked her after a talk with your hubby and kid/kids
People like you are whatâs wrong with this world.
Donât ever assume! Always ask ! We have friends at the bus stop as well and if either of us is running behind we do grab each otherâs kids but I would never be like hey Iâm going to stay longer at work or be at work before the bus comes just because I know sheâll grab my kid ! Thatâs taking advantage! Now if you ask nicely and offer to pay her to do this thatâs different but donât assume thatâs a bit crazy now she not only has her kid to get off to school she has another and sometimes thatâs not super easy !
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Not everyone is a friend in the same way. You canât expect her to read your mind. If you need something more from your friend OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND ASK! Itâs not her responsibility to know your needs. She has her own shit to deal with. She probably has no idea how you feel. Grow up and talk to her. If you are really her friend then give her some honesty and quit resenting her for something she knows nothing about.
Mention your struggles and offer to help with her child so she can have a moment to take a nap. Stay at home moms never get a moment to relax. Is it possible that she feels like you donât trust her because you never asked for her help? And, if your paying a sitter why not say hey Iâd rather pay you if youâre interested.
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Maybe she has not said anything because she feels you will take advantage of her and depend on her every day instead of on an as needed for emergencies situation. I mean I kind of get the impression you are wanting free childcare from your neighbor. Your kids, your responsibility. The times that something has come up and you needed to change on the fly, you asked and she said yes so she is not unwilling or rude about it even, she probably just doesnât want to do it every day because she has her own kids to care for.
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Maybe she just doesnât think to offer? Ask her if she would mind helping you!
Closed mouths donât get fed. You assuming she should do something, says more about you than it does her.
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Lmao itâs not her job to watch your kid
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WowâŚEntitled much? Nobody is OBLIGATED to help you with your child. If they offer thatâs great but you cant get mad at someone for not doing something that is YOUR responsibility. JesusâŚ
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These comments NEVER fail to amaze meâŚ
I UNDERSTAND what u are saying!!
I am blessed to have friends that OFFER to help & Lord knows idk what id do without them. HOWEVER, YOU should just offer the $$ to her for a permanent b4/after care & from there you can discuss why she does or does not want to help.
You cant be that close if this is a conversation ur dancing around having. I would have flat out asked, but i also would have asked why my friend is paying someone else all while im right next door and home⌠My friends are more like family so maybe its different. JUST TALK TO YOUR FRIEND!
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Well your an entitled cheeky fucker arenât you 
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Ur entitled to your feeling so I wonât say ur wrong but honestly I shouldnt assume and feel she should offer some people donât offer do I think as friends she should of extended the olive branch a time or 2 to offer help but then again really not really some people just arenât that way so maybe ask her and then if she says no then ur entitled to feel some sort of way ya know
Why the husband canât take yâall daughter
Iâm sorry but just because youâre friends does not mean she needs to be responsible to help you. She helps you when youâre in a pinch and ask. And that is what a friend does. For you to expect more from her is really disrespectful on your part. She might be a SAHM but she still has her own family and responsibilities to tend to. Frankly I have to question how much you value her that you would even expect more from her.
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Perhaps because she is at home with her children, she doesnât want more children added to her responsibilities.
She shouldnât feel obligated to offer to put your kids on the bus just because she is at home.
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If itâs bothering you speak up. If sheâs a real friend she wonât get upset. Just my opinion 
You canât expect anyone to help you with your kids ever! I mean yeah its nice when someone is willing to help but no one is obligated to do anything for you⌠Idk kinda seems like maybe you need to get over yourself
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At the fact that people are this entitled 
Girl she is your âfriendâ not your baby daddy
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Mornings might be a really rocky situation. You never know, maybe her kids are really hard to get up and get going. Maybe she herself isnât a morning person.
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Shes not running a daycare. Shes not obligated to do anything. Your kids your responsibility. Maybe she has a hard enough time dealing with her own kids than adding more to the mix.
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WTF itâs your kid not hers she has absolutely NO OBLIGATION at all.
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Maybe ask her if she wouldnât mind being a back-up to help you since sheâs so close to you since you are comfortable with your children in her care.
Also, offering to be of any assistance to help with her kids would open that door for you.
Wow really.You need to step it up.Your kids your responsibility and your husband.Not your friends.Im reading this like wth.Your friend doesnt have to do or offer.I can see if emergency.But you seem to have an issue all the time.
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Ummm not her job, not her kid. This is kid, ur responsibility to find and pay a sitter. Unbelievable that u think she owes anything to you.
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You have to realize that not everyone is like you. I personally would offer if I knew it could help you out, in reality a child to play with mine is a help to me too. But one hand washes the other. If you offer to help her hopefully she would do the same on return. Maybe you can work something out where you guys take turns. I just wouldnât expect it, youâve got nothing to lose by asking for help. Donât let her not offering on her own ruin a great friendship. Just ask. I use to help a friend of mine during pick up and she showed much appreciation in ways she could and thatâs what matters.
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So let me get this straight. Bc sheâs a sahm you expect her to provide free child care for your child? Random occasions and emergency situations are one thing but if you want her to do it everyday then you need to offer to pay her like you would any other sitter or your the one taking advantage
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Not her kid not her responsibility.
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My kids arenât even awake 45 minutes before the bus comes lol. I was a SAHM for 10 years and it was the hardest job Iâve ever had, with no pay and little respect from working moms. I definitely wouldâve helped a friend out IF THEY ASKED. Your friend is not a mind reader itâs really not fair to her that youâre mad and hurt for something she is clueless about. How many times have you offered to take her kids so she can get a break?
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Maybe you should offer to pay her whatever you pay your sitter to do these things. Instead of being hurt because someone canât read your mind just talk to her. But offer to pay her because it is an additional task for her.
I know I am not a morning person. I have 2 kids and 3 dogs, mornings are hectic trying to get humans ready while letting dogs out and get them fed so I personally wouldnât want to add another kid to the mix that wasnât mine. But everyoneâs different.
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What if you were just expected to give 45 minutes of your time every day just because youâre friends? Asking in an emergency is ok but itâs not ok to feel like anybody owes you anything because of any type of relationship (friends, parents, etc.) So many people on here feel entitled to free child care from parents and friends and it blows my mind. You should have to pay a sitter because itâs your child, and therefore your responsibility.
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You could just ask her⌠Shes not a mind reader.
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Just because sheâs a SAHM you want her to babysit your child for 45 min every school day then walk your child to and from the school bus just to make you and your husbands lives easier and save babysitting money. Take care of your own responsibilities. It sounds like youâre ENVIOUS and JEALOUS of the SAHM.
She is not obligated to help you with your child, she has her own family to take care of. If you would like her to help, put some big girl panties on and ask her. Being sour about her not offering to help you with your child is childish and entitled behavior on your part.
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A hard time even looking at her girl take care of your own kid
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Maybe there is more to the story with your friend. Maybe she canât cope everyday having someone elseâs child. Maybe you should ask her if she is ok. Maybe she just wants her children home with her. Itâs not ok to expect a friend to offer. Just because she stays at home doesnât mean she isnât busy. Itâs her choice to do as she wishes just as much as itâs your choice to be a working mother. Itâs ok for her to not offer, itâs not her job to, and itâs definitely not ok for you to expect her to do this for you. Maybe sit back and ask yourself what are you doing for your friend? Do you offer to have her child on the weekend ?
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I do not watch friends or families kids to avoid drama. Someone always gets hurts feelings or get upset over the smallest things anymore. I do good to watch my own. Dont lend family/ friends money, dont spy on their partners and dont watch their kids if you want to keep your relationship. Lol
Maybe pay her to do it instead of the sitter?? She might even do it for less. I honestly think its unreasonable to expect her to just do it coz ye are friends and neighbours. Your kid is not her responsibility.
You should never expect your friend to just offer. Ask if you need help but donât resent youâre friend for not offering people arenât mind readers. And people are different so just because youâd do something doesnât mean the other is willing to do the same. You chose to have a kid as did she but at the end of the day itâs your responsibility, something it sounds like she understands but you donât.
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First off. Its not her responsibility to make sure YOUR kids get to the bus/school. Thats YOURS. And she probably hasnt offered cause she probably thinks that since your friends, you will expect her to do it. Which you are. Which in turn makes you the shitty friend. She helps when she is asked. Maybe shez goin thru some stuff she doesnt talk about. And the stress of MORE kids could push her over the edge. Maybe shes protecting your friendship. Or maybe! They dont like your kids and dont know how to tell you.
Mention it to her. Something along the lines of âwould you mind bringing him/her to the bus since youâre going with your son/daughter anyway?â Donât just expect it just because youâre friends
No offence but maybe grow up and ask? Sheâs not a mind reader. Im a stay at home mother myself and no way would I offer or babysit other ppls kids because its hard enough as it is she may have other things going on too. Sheâs not obligated in any way
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You cant expect your friend to offer her services just cause yous are close friends, same as the kids. Your child is your responsibility that you need to sort out yourself. Maybe shes got alot on her own plate and her own things to do. Why doesnt your husband help you out then.?
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you dont have a child to then moan or feel bad that someone doesnt offer to have the child, i would NEVER expect anyone to offer help, even family, my children my issue, i get you have to work, but these things should be thought about before planning on having a child, iâm sorry to sound harsh but i have âfriendsâ who moan when their parents wont have their kids, i also have other friends who farm their kids out all the time then plaster one thing they did with that kid on facebook making them look life perfect parents, when infacts its half a day a week they actually had said kid, get on with your life and try to work around your job and family
I canât say what I really want to say cuz Iâll probably be in facebook jail but you sound real entitled. Itâs not your friendâs responsibility to watch YOUR kid. You need a reality check lady.
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Having an extra child in the morning could make things harder and stressful. Getting ur own child ready while thier friend is there. You donât know what her morning routine is
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Are you serious?! It is not her job or obligation to offer or even do what you expect. She doesnât have to offer and that isnât a reason to view your friendship in the way you do. Have you ever even ASKED her?!
Just because you would do something doesnât mean someone else HAS to do the same.
Your kid, your responsibility.
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Itâs just more responsibility for her. I did that and got stuck with kid everyday. So I can see her point
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Are you being serious? Why should she have to get your kid on the bus lol
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Youâre so far out of line itâs unreal.
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Sheâs busy getting her kids ready for school in the morning.
Get over yourself. It isnât her responsibility to make sure your child gets on the bus. You assume because she is a SAHM, that she has time to take on another child in the mornings. She is busy with her own children. Grow up
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Sometimes I wonder if these posts are real.
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Ummm, why donât you just ask her? I donât understand why you would assume that she can read your mind and know that you would love her help in the morning. Iâm sure if you asked and offered her what you pay the sitter she would like the extra income. But, itâs not up to her to take on the role without you asking and offering compensation.
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No offense but get a grip ladyâŚ
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Unfortunately we dont always feel comfortable with helping other people in case something goes wrong And yes youâre right When things get tough we do See things through a different lens I think it would be a shame to lose that Friendship The one saying that is good is that you are talking about how you are feeling and where you are coming from Even if your friend Chooses not to help
Not her kid, not her problem 
just because youâre friends doesnât mean you can expect her to offer, just because thatâs what you would do
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Oh F me days, who do you think you are?? No one has to do shit for you and the only reason you dont wanna ask her to babysit your kid before and after school is because you donât wanna pay her but if she offers then thatâs on her, yeah I know the game your playing, if your finding it hard then throw your job inâŚ
Your an idoit
Maybe she hasnât offered because she feels like if you wanted/needed her to help (since youâre friends) youâd ask her. Maybe she feels offended or that you donât trust her to do it since you never asked her and doesnât want to put you in the awkward spot of asking you. Or knows if she offers she may not want to ask for payment which she should clearly receive if taking care of your child. People who believe being a sahm isnât working have lost their mind. This whole post shows how much âworkâ is put into having your child taken care of while you work. Sheâs not sitting around reading books all day. Ask her if you want her to help you. Donât look down on her and judge her because it works for her family for her to work inside the home. Lastly she might not want to watch your child because you all do spend so much time together now. She may want to keep the friendship and the kidsâ friendship the way it is cause spending too much time together can change those relationships. It could be many things but youâre going to have to look at her and ask her like a big girl to know for sure.
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Letâs put this in a job context. How would you feel if you already were overloaded with work, working 18 hour days, and your coworker decided to go off and do another job, so she dropped her entire workload on you for a period of time every day? Being a stay-at-home mom is usually a demanding, exhausting, thankless job with hours that extend from when you wake up till you go to sleep at night, and youâre on call all night any time your baby or kids need you. Sheâs already overloaded with work, and (if sheâs like most young moms) intensely sleep-deprived, so sheâs not thinking about âhmmm, how many more things can I add to my To-Do list that already extends all the way down the stairs and a mile out the front door?â Sheâs probably longing for a break herself, and a good nightâs rest. Maybe you should be wondering what you could do to help her. When have you offered to lift her load?
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Iâm guessing that this isnât going as she expectedâŚ, I agree with everyone saying that you sound very entitled. Getting your kid off to school is your responsibility! You are not better than your friend just because you work outside the home. Her time is just as valuable as yours &. She probably doesnât want to be taken advantage of by a âgood friendâ!
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You have to ask her, dont expect her to offer. People should not assume what you want or need. Im sure she has her reasons. There is two sides to every story. I was in same situation with both neighbors but I never expected there help, took my kids to day care at 6am.
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She canât read your mind. Why would you expect her to offer that, if you donât ask her?
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I live in a big apartment complex there are lots of kids who get on the same bus most kids just walk together or walk the younger kids or parents walk their kids. Not once did I think any one parent needed to walk all the kids or even ask if they could walk my kid. A couple times neighbors asked if my older girls could walk with their kids. I say just ask her if your kid can walk with them to the stop
When I was a sahm , it would completely throw off our mornings when I had to watch other peoples children before school. Iâd do it occasionally but sure as heck not every day. I actually really enjoyed that time in the morning with my kids before schoolâŚbut if that is something that youd like her to do, then you should ask her and offer to pay her as well. She is not obligated to watch your child nor can she read your mind. Ask her, offer to pay her and if she says no then just respect her. She may be overwhelmed and adding another to the mix may complicate that further.
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