you mind your business.
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It is possible she knows, but if she doesn’t…. As a witch, I volunteer to steal that man’s penis
Mind your business. It’s not your circus.
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Tell Jane. Not rocket science here
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Now thats some tea i had trouble swallowing OMGGGGG
Absolutely tell her!
That’s between ur friend n ur Neighbor not u.
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Mind ya business 
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Not my circus, not my monkeys.
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Host a BBQ invite the neighbours and your friend 
Mind yo damn business girl. It costs nothing 
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Tell John he1 better tell Jane.
Can we get an update later?
You don’t have to do anything. John needs to come clean.
The truth comes out eventually
I’ll tell her so it won’t ruin y’all’s friendship 
I would want to know. And I’d also confront John first and tell him he’s a POS and better tell her or I will.
js Not your problem
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Wipe your hands of whole thing! It’s not your monkey!
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It’s none of your business
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There’s nothing for you to do. It’s not your business, back off.
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Man just move so far away!!!
Mind your business is what you do
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Write an anonymous letter to your female neighbor.
Women need to stick together.
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Not my circus, not my monkeys 
Anonymous letter in the mailbox?
Just mind your business
I’d invite them allll over!! And let the ball roll from there!!!
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Mind your business. Just break the friendship
I would mind my own business.
Mind your own business. It has nothing to do with you.
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Shoot…I would hope to Christ someone would tell me if my man was doing this. That’s so wrong. You have to tell her. God knows what kind of STD’s he could be giving her that could further complicate her fertility issues. No one, not man or woman should ever do that to another.
The question is, would you want to know?
I wouldn’t say or do anything. It doesn’t involve me. It ain’t my business. I could really care less.
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You should keep your ass outta it!!! No matter what it will always come back too you being the asshole. Wash your hands of it.
I would want to know personal
I wouldn’t put my nose in it.
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No advice just wow what a predicament
I would put my house of for sale and opt out of this . This is a bad bad situation .
If you were my friend and know and didn’t tell me I’d feel betrayed. 
idk tho. Your choice
Nun keep out if it lol
Mind your own business, that’s what you should do.
Don’t get involved in this one.
She deserves to know. Wouldn’t you want to
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I would tell my friend
100% not your problem
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lol stay tf outta it. mind ur buisness
Tell Jane. Fuck John.
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If I would want to know, I would tell the person in my hypothetical shoes
Mind your business. Not your circus, not your monkeys.
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Don’t get involved. Not your place.
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They will all turn on you. Mind your business
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Not your place to tell. That’s between them. Leave it be
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Really not your business but also l would want to know
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Like you said, it’s not your business.
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Stay out of it. It’s their issue, not yours. You shouldn’t have to be stuck in the middle.
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Would you want to know??? There’s your answer.
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She deserves to know
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I’d mind my own business in that case
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Mind your business!!
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Thats a rock and a hard place for sure. My opinion, if it was my husband doing that crap I’d want to know. Especially if a child might be born into that relationship.
Can I just say right here right now if my bf ever cheated on me AND/or got another woman pregnant, you can make it your business to tell me.
Please tell her… if it were you in that situation, would you want to know? And when she does find out (because she will) and finds out you didn’t tell her… she will probably hate you for it. You are suppose to be her friend. If y’all were just strangers then I could KINDA understand the whole “mind your business” thing. But y’all are friends. PLEASE tell her. Show her a picture of the child.
i would tell but have proof bc a lot of people don’t believe it
Uh if something happens to John wife is gonna find out when she gets death benefits. Have a barbecue and invite them over. Wife has every damn right to know… it sucks being cheated on… I know.
If your a true friend than tell her. What would you want from someone you thought was your friend?
Ok. I’m the devil’s advocate here. I would flat out tell the wife. I’ve been in these shoes. I’ve exposed men for cheating on their wives. I’ve been cheated on and didn’t appreciate it then was very leery going back into the dating game and would research men before agreeing to meet up with them and if I discovered they were cheaters, I’d tell their wives about it. No regrets. It was up to them as to what they did from there. I knew what it was like to be left in the dark and it SUCKED. The father of my child lied to me about his fiancé and other children I didn’t know about and it destroyed me. I found out, broke it off, THEN found out I was pregnant. He wanted to pay me to “get rid of” her (like THAT was going to happen) but instead, I blocked him from our lives. It’s sad she’ll grow up without him but frankly, she and I both deserve better. If they’re not willing to fess up, that wife deserves to know she was cheated on and that her husband has a child with someone else. You may not be friends in the end no matter what, either because you told her, or because you didn’t and she found out you knew when she DOES find out, so either way it’s a lose-lose for everyone.
Invite them all over at once 
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I would tell her. Also if she found out another way and discovered you knew the whole time that is ruining a friendship as well. So many factors could ruin the relationship if you don’t tell her and if you do tell her! But I’m sure she’d rather it come from someone she know and care about than a total stranger or run into them one day! This poor wife deserves to know. That’s also a weight and stress you don’t need to carry around and feel like your lying about
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I’d invite Lucy to a BBQ and mention to Jane and John your having a BBQ on said date with a long time friend and would love if they stopped by. Just let the truth come out on its own.
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Invite her over for a coffee and tell her, show her any evidence you have -eg- texts from Lucy etc. Just be there for her and support her, she’s going to be heartbroken but she also deserves so much better than him. Keep us updated x
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How heartbreaking for Jane. I’d tell her. She doesn’t yet have a baby with John so it will be an ‘easier’ divorce. The faster the better. I couldn’t live with myself if Jane were to get pregnant by John and be trapped dealing with and seeing him for the rest of her life. If I were Jane I’d want to know.
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I don’t know what the right answer is in this situation….but I am 100% positive that is it NOT hosting a BBQ and secretly inviting all parties involved. This is not a made-for-tv-movie, this is a real live person with feelings. Setting a friend up to potentially have their whole life unexpectedly implode in front of other people is really disgusting. If you decide to tell her, that should be done in a private conversation, one-on-one.
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“Jane, I value our friendship so much. I wouldn’t ever want to lose you as a friend. I’m telling you this because I would want to know and save myself future heartache and having a child with someone who is lying and doing terrible things. Your husband cheated on you and made a child with someone I know. I found out after the fact. I’ve debated telling you because I just wasn’t sure what or how to say this. I hope this is the right thing for you. I would hate to see you create a child with someone and find out after that he is having an affair. Please understand how much I care about you and our friendship and how hard this is to say to you. I’m here for you for anything you need and always to talk. “
She deserves to know before bringing another life into the world with him. Or tell him you know and if he doesn’t tell her then you’ll need to. Maybe it would be good for him to have the option to talk to her first.
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Tell her! She deserves to know that her husband is doing her like that especially before she gets pregnant and has to deal with him forever. I’d want to know if it was me.
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I would NOT tell the wife. Not your place n u know what they say about killing the messenger…Also, people keep saying affair. I thought it said they were separated, who knows what the rules of that were, although I’m sure getting someone intentionally pregnant wasn’t on the table. If u really feel the need, since u see them regularly, talk to the husband and let him know u know. If he asks u to do something u r uncomfortable with, reevaluate…if u weren’t friends with the other woman, and she didn’t show you a picture, you wouldn’t know anything…she should have kept that under her hat.
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Invite them all over to a kid friendly BBQ maybe or just dinner and watch the little girl go running to her daddy… 
truth will come out on it own, what’s he going to say then? If they were separated it’s not cheating but she should know he has a child out there.
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I would tell them…either way your friendship with them is going to change because of some careless actions from immature people. Honesty is always the best policy.
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Think of what you would like your friend to do if it was you they found out your husband had an affair on and got a woman pregnant! Especially if you were trying to have a baby with him yourself. She deserves to know and now! Definitely before she ends up pregnant with his kid
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I solemnly swear not to let any of my friends look like giant fools.
I would tell her. She’s wasting time on that one.
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tell the wife…. I would hate my friend if I found out she knew my husband was cheating and had a whole ass kid with someone else. He’s watching her STRUGGLE with not being able to get pregnant, while he’s off impregnating some woman? Like no I’d divorce and find somebody else:wave: she has a right to know that her husband is literally having an affair(just cause he told your friend he was separated doesn’t mean they actually were). If he was upset she couldn’t conceive he should’ve said something instead of finding someone else who could. 
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I think if you don’t tell Jane, you will lose a friend. Understand, she might resent you for a little while because people do have a way of shooting the messenger, but she would come around.
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Personally, I wouldn’t go into “details” with Jane but I WOULD sit her down and talk to her. I would remind her that because you value her and your friendship, she needs to check her husband. Let her find out on her own with a heartfelt strong nudge from a good friend.
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Well im the type being his wife true friend id tell her because if it happened to me id want someone to tell me im just being honest.
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If I was the wife I would want to know and have the choice to either forgive him and move on or just move on. I don’t think I could forgive and forget
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Either way, you may be breaking up a friendship. Don’t tell, then it’ll eat you up and you will feel very uncomfortable around them. Tell, and he may make it look like to her that you’re lying and just trying to cause trouble. If you can get actual, factual proof, tell her! She deserves to know. But, just know, that you will also be ruining your friendship with “Lucy” if you do break her confidence and tell.
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My advice would be for her to never mention it to anyone ever again and enjoy that beautiful baby!
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I was in a similar situation as you several years ago. I told the wife and I don’t regret it. She’s the innocent one. By not telling her, you’re betraying her too.
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I would completely tell that couple that you know the truth and it’s going to hurt the wife believe me. That’s an immeasurable pain. To know that he bothered a child and kept it a secret and that your friends with all three of them is going to hurt them and cut them all so deep. But I think I would much rather be friends with the innocent wife then the girl who is knowingly sleeping with a married man and even agreed to get impregnated by him? I don’t care how much you want to baby another woman’s husband has no right to bother your child. The fact that he’s been unable to get his wife pregnant next to me even bigger snake than just impregnating his mistress and his mistress it’s just as much at all as he is. I think I would cut the friendship off with the husband and the mistress and be friends with the wife and get her through this because she’s going to need a friend when the truth comes out.
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Jane deserves to live her life and not a lie. No one deserves to live a lie, especially someone who considers you a friend.
You can say it isn’t your place and I agree it’s really unfair that you are stuck in this situation to start with. But I personally couldn’t live with that on my conscience. You may lose friends in the process but atleast the one innocent person, Jane, will know the truth she deserves.
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I would tell Jane because if I were Jane, I would hope and pray someone would tell me. She will be upset but, if I were Jane, I would eventually realize that you were looking out for me.
Now, Lucy on the other hand may not be thrilled with you about “messing up the “relationship” she has with John”.
Also, eff John, I obviously don’t know him personally. To be committed by marriage, trying to have a baby with someone he, at one point of time, wanted to spend the rest of his life with, seek out another and have a baby with in secret is just cruel, unfaithfulness in the worst way.
However, if you feel like you should stay out of it, where I can also understand, I would end friendship with both parties. Eliminate myself from the equation all together.
Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult decision.
If I were Jane I would want to know and it’s better coming from a friend rather than it coming out in a public place. She deserves to know!
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Tell. The. Wife.
If you are truly Jane’s friend you would have already told her no matter what you may think she’ll do or say. If Lucy was a real friend she wouldn’t put you in this position. Speak the truth because that woman deserves to know, then find better friends…
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They are both adults. Let them figure it out and mind your own business.
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I would mind my own business…. I’ve learned to stay out of things! Somehow you will be the bad one in the end so let them all figure it out on their own! #mynameisBennitandIaintinit
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Well you would want to know wouldn’t you if someone knew this info on your husband? That’s how I view things. Tell Jane. I’m sure she would appreciate it.
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Too many people want to keep their head in the sand. I’m sure if the roles were reversed you would want to know the truth. I don’t know how people can just “MiNd ThEiR bUsSiNeSs”, when it comes to horrible stuff like this. I’d rather someone be pissed at me for being honest, rather than being a liar. Hiding the truth is just as bad as lying. I’d tell the girl either you tell them or I will. No “friend” should ever throw you in the middle of something so disgusting.
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Honestly I wouldn’t say anything because who knows they may be in it together and are making money or something that is secret
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Pull John aside and let him know you know. Let him sit his wife down and tell her. & If he refuses then I would definitely tell her. But give him the option to come clean first so you can stay out of it possibly.
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A good friend at heart will always speak up and Jane sounds like she needs just this. Poor woman probably Dosent even realise her sleaze of a man has done this or is still continuing to do this behind her back. Be that friend say something take her out for coffee and let her in on all the proof you have. Let her know you have the best interest at heart for her sake and you couldn’t bare to keep holding this information from her. Please don’t let this woman suffer any longer just my opinion that’s all goodluck Jane you deserve the best
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