You and your husband talk to John, tell him you know everything. He can tell Jane, or you can.
Sounds like that friendship is on borrowed time as it is. If the wife does not already know, and she finds out, they are likely to divorce when she does find out either way. I would tell her with proof.
Half y’all addicted to the drama and just can’t wait to be in the shit storm. Basics.
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Stay tf out of it. You don’t need to do anything at all. That’s their adult problems and their business. You’re not responsible and you don’t know all the details even if you think you do. Getting involved will start to worm its way into your relationship. Not worth it. Don’t get involved.
Girrrrl this is some juicy gossip. Just sit back and watch it unfold itself. It’s possible they have an open marriage - which many don’t just openly tell people. It’s also possible they separated and didn’t tell anyone. Idk 
You can’t handle sensitive information, especially gossip and drama like that without getting involved. Get in there, ruin those relationships by opening your trap. Theres nothing good that can come from it so go for it. 
That’s tough…plus Jane may have a problem getting pregnant since John doesn’t have a problem. She could waste time when maybe she should get a procedure to get pregnant
Nothing…Stay out of it. It’s not your business nor your place.
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Put yourself in “Janes” shoes
Tell the wife see deserves to know your friend shouldn’t have played with fire
Wouldn’t you want to know you were spending your life with a cheater an since he had no problem sleeping with that girl I bet it ain’t the first time
Poor Jane. I’d tell her.
What a pig john is.
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God forbid she gets pregnant by this man too. Tell her.
The right thing to do is mind your business.
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Nothing. Not your business.
If you feel it’s necessary you can say something to the spouse.
Oh damn this is messy messy it like you’re damned if u do, u damned if u don’t
Absolutely tell her. Save her from this bullshit
I would confront him, and tell him either you tell her, or I will…
It just blows my mind at the things this generation does
I’d let Jane know before she ends up pregnant with that POS. Tell her privately and allow her the opportunity to make that decision of what she is going to do for herself. I’d make sure you have some type of proof as well like texts from your friend Lucy bc sometimes we as women don’t want to believe something so heart breaking as this. I would not be friends with Lucy anymore unless she wants to be the bigger person and be there with you when you tell Jane. I would think neither would want to be involved with him anymore after this.
Buy a dog. Name it the same name as the child. Always take the dog to get togethers with them. When you talk to the dog and say its name you can look at him straight in the eyes, with that “I know” look. It would be fun to watch him sweat. He will tell his wife because he would be afraid you will
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Intive them both to the next party and let that work its self out how have they not all been at the same place before??
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Well if it were ME I’d have a small gathering of friends and families over to my house which included John, Jane, Lucy goosey and dat baby. Then I’d sit back and drink like, SO MUCH! Then I’d play never have I ever and if by the end of the night nothing has happened I’d get drunk enough to blow the roof off of that place and gift everyone with labeled tshirts.
- I’m with stupid
- I am stupid
- I got a random girl pregnant and she’s stupid.
You can decide who gets each shirt.
Buuuuut I’m not messy so I wouldn’t do that. My friend would though. It’s me. I’m the friend. The friend is me.
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His wife absolutely deserves to know that she is married to a cheating loser of a man! Your friend knew he was married. Separated is still married. She knew what she was getting into. But this guys wife was the only one innocent party involved. So, I would side with her. Support her. Be honest with her. It’s the least you can do.
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Woman to woman, would you want to know? Probably.
But it’s not your place, your friend ‘Lucy’ needs to go come clean and be completely honest. That way you aren’t involving yourself, and be a shoulder for ‘Jane’.
The wife deserves to know. But Lucy needs to be there as well. While many women don’t handle cheating very well, they tend to blame JUST the female. Having proof he said he was separated will alleviate some of that blame and shift it where it needs to be.
I’m sorry but a man who could do something this crazy deserves to be outed. Could you fucking imagine if your husband had a whole Nother family going on and you had no fucking idea. The fact that he was willing to have a kid with someone while married is crazy shit enough. Out of his ass, Jane deserves a good man and her husband is a piece of shit
Tell Jane before she gets pregnant and is stuck with this loser forever
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I would talk to John first and give him a chance to come clean on his own, but if he doesn’t then let her know. Most likely though I think the friendship will probably fade either way
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Sorry but I would tell her if the shoe was on the other foot im sure u would like to know and any other ladie with brains would wanna know if there husband or other half was cheating on them and made a baby
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Tell her for Gods sake I would hate to not know how truly disgusting my husband is and waste my youth with a lying asshole. It might ruin your friendship but it’s going to come out eventually she won’t be happy as the other woman for long . It’s a mess to be in but I would have to tell her because she is living a lie right now she deserves to know
Mind your business. If u can’t be friends with them anymore, over that, Then u were never really friends with then to begin with. Sometimes, it’s best to keep ur mouth shut snd let this sort itself out. However, I agree with Michele Hill, if u absolutely feel the need to intervene, invite them all for dinner, but don’t tell them who all is coming. Then, sit back and watch things unfold.
Don’t say a word cause in the long run you will be the bad guy who broke up their marriage
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You can tell her, but chances of her not believing you are pretty high. This will definitely ruin the relationship. Most not all women know their man is cheating and just accept it. If it was me I would want to know my husband had an arranged pregnancy while married.
How well does she know Jane? Is Jane the type to stay and work it out even after she found out her man had an outside baby?
What about Lucy? Where does her loyalty lie and who does she share more of a bond with? Would Lucy feel betrayed if the original poster told Jane?
I honestly would distance myself from all parties if it were me. You know why? Because a woman who sleeps with a married man - knowing he’s married at that…and gets pregnant by him on purpose has no morals, no girl code, and only thinks of her wants and desires. She could easily steal the original poster’s man. People naively assume that humans can compartmentalize. But majority of the time humans can’t. You can’t go from being a selfish side chick to being an ideal friend…some of those selfish ideals and behaviors will spill into other relationships as well (Lucy). Lucy is not one to be trusted. Also John is a snake. He owes his wife loyalty…and knowing how badly his wife has tried for a baby with him is heartless at best and sadistic at worst.
If Jane is not the type to shoot the messenger than provide her the receipts and the evidence. But I would definitely most definitely excuse myself from relationships with John and Lucy. A snake is a snake is a snake.
I would say something because it’s going to come out in the wash it always does and then Jane will know you knew and you will be blamed anyways if that’s your good friend girl say something.
Omg this is so crazy…. Maybe tell Jane. Maybe there’s a reason she hasn’t gotten pregnant and that’s bc her husband is a douche!! I would want to know if i was her.
I would want someone to tell me if I was Jane - so I’d tell Jane.
Letting someone be emotionally/mentally abused because “it’s not your business” to tell someone is a crappy mentality.
Be a good, caring human being and tell Jane 100%.
If you keep your mouth shut then you are also deceitful and apart of the problem.
I’d tell the philanderer that you’re on to his extra relationship and he better confess to his wife. Or just stay out of what will surely be a horrible conclusion for all.
Everyone. And I mean everyone. ,needs to know WHO is BIO Father. It’s the child’s right. Nothing else matters. I pray this baby don’t ever get angry latter in life. Cause of these I’d,oits
I won’t sit here and justify cheating ever, but I also know my place in life, and what’s done in the dark always comes to life. Even if I love them both, or all, it’s not my place, there’s a child involved, and a wife that so desperately wants to be a mother. Sad story, but I’m afraid of what kind of hurt, that could turn into rage this may cause. Very dangerous today, people flip a lot easier. Shhhh mind your own. That’s what’s wrong with people now, nosey and carin too much.
Neither… just mind your own business and not get too close to John unless you want to be pregnant too. That’s a tough situation but you really need to mind your business on this one. Neighbor feud could be bad, besides your friend decided to keep it going so that says a lot about her. If she doesn’t care then why would you? Don’t involve yourself in Johns intimate affairs as it’s not your place.
Tell her, he is endangering his wife’s sexual/physical health and he is also endangering her financially because these types of women ALWAYS end up going after money and what they are earning is community property.
This lady is 10/10 not the only one he’s cheating with and she could get a disease on top of everything else
Would you want to know if your husband was cheating on you?
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Would u want Jane to tell u if it was you in this scenario???
Would you want to know?
Would u feel betrayed if Jane didn’t tell you?
I’d be telling John or randomly be like omg my friend’s daughter is so beautiful I’m so excited to be her Aunty and show him a pic of his daughter and boom
Once you know about cheating it’s your business, if someone you with is cheating on their so it’s your business and you tell the other person right away
Do the right thing and tell the wife. If your friend is as innocent as she says, maybe y’all can tell her together. Whatever backlash you get from her or husband after that is not your fault. The wife deserves to know, especially after them trying so hard to have a baby.
I would invite her over and tell her. Let her decide if she wants to act or stay with him.
The wife deserves to know, and if she’s truly your friend, you’d tell her.
Mind your own business and stay out of it
Please tell jane and john let her know please we are women we help other women out!
Mind your own theres a child involved now
Tell her … but bring proof!
Anonymous letter the hell out of the mailbox. Sweet Jesus I had to read this like 4 times hoping I was comprehending it wrong.
let it be
dont get involved , worry about what affects you
You need to tell that poor women before she ends up pregnant & stuck to that worthless boy.
Keep your nose out as its none of your business
Would you want someone to tell you if it were you?!
I’d say keep your fucking mouth shut and mind your own business
“John” is a disgusting manipulative pig …just trash waste…what the hell is this? Seriously 
the crap i read.
Read this Magali Derome / LaLinda Andrews Tamietti 
Tell her!!! Poor Jane!!
Id go to John and tell him you know and give him the ultimatum to tell his wife or you will as you dont want to hurt yours and her friendship. If he dont tell her, then out of respect for her, WOMAN TO WOMAN, you tell her and they will deal with it. If he does then they will deal with it then.
But he probably wont. So you’ll probably have to. Just think this way.
If you were “Jane” what would you want your friend to do? Probably tell you out of respect. If you care about her as a friend, she deserves to know instead of believing this man is faithful, and trying to have a baby still with him, not knowing his situation and what he has done to her behind her back and their marriage. Its not fair to her at ALL. Be the good, caring friend here.
If I found out my friend knew and didnt tell me, we would no longer be friends. She obviously wouldnt have my best interest at heart and I would not trust her know that info and keeping it to herself.
As much as it will hurt her knowing this, it will hurt her even more finding out later down the road, especially if she ends up pregnant too.
Just do what you would want someone to do for you. 
I just want to know what happens.
Mind it. Your biz. Not hers, sis.
Tell John he tells Jane or you do. Then dump Lucy.
Mind your business. Let the 3 involved settle the matter.
See something/do something
Wouldn’t you want to know?
Mind your business. Not your responsibility to tell anyone.
Write an anonymous letter/email. Include some proof and contact info. Leave it in her mail box or at her door.
Bruh TELL HER. She deserves to know!!!
Id tell the truth or have them all over for dinner at same time then confront them all lol
Only the truth will set them all free
Tell her the truth!!!
Send an anonymous letter addressed to the wife with all of the info.
I think it’s only right to say something. Would you want to live that way, not knowing? If I’m giving my 100% then I would only want to be with someone who would also invest that much in me.
What in the Soap Opera
This is just shitty behavior
Mind ya business on this one
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Oh my word… this is like a daytime soap opera plot…
I’m going to need an update.
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What an awful situation to have knowledge of.
This is how people end up on the ID Channel
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Yeah… so I’m going to need an update on this one… 
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Home WRECKER. TELL THE WIFE. THATS NOT FAIR 
. Tell your friend screw. Your husband will be next.
Who’s to say Jane doesn’t already know about it and agreed to it 
Tell her anonymously
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I would simply mind the business that pays me🤷🏾♀️
She deserves to know!!!
Zip it and stay out of it
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Not your monkeys not your circus.
People tend to kill the messenger.
As a woman and a wife I would wanna know but…man
Stay out of it
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Dump your slutty friend
Not your problem. 
Let that poor woman know!
Exactly what Adrienne Elizabeth said!!
Oh 100% I’d be calling John out and then let him handle his own mess. What a moron.
Break that shit. Id wana know!
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On the next episode of Snapped
If you are more friends with the one that had the baby then I’d tell her she needs to go let the wife know and if she won’t then I’d cut her off as a friend and I’d tell his wife then cut his ass off and if she wanted to stay the fool after u told em then I’d cut em all out. But I busted mine cheating seen the msgs on his work phone beat his ass then text the bitch let’s meet up… of course it sounded like a young girl by the way she texted back saying oh we all know he is married here he came here so we could plan a surprise for you and we was making something for you at my job . What suckiing his dick keeping me from having to do it ? Thanks hoe … then told the other one I seen pics of him with at his job I was telling her husband well 2 weeks later she kicks him out and divorces him . And I made my kids dad get fixed. 19 yrs together 6 kids 2 grown. Yeah this bitch don’t play … you don’t wanna be with me fine be man enough to say so . So with my loud ass mouth I’d walk over there yelling it. I just don’t play with that shit tho.
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