I would have to confront him and tell him that I’d have to tell her at some point and give him the option to tell her himself
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Tell her! She deserves to know just like anyone else. That is truly heartbreaking. I would tell her ASAP so she will know and make her decision on if she’s going to stay with “John” or get out of that unhealthy relationship. Jane obviously deserves so much better!
What i dont get if she your best friend and you get on so well with your neighbours how have they never met each other before?? I feel for the wife If it was me In your shoes I would tell her what a rat of husband she has got if she wants to catch him out then set out to make a plan with her. As for your best friend I would find a new one cos she don’t care about your feeling at all that she put you in the middle of this
Tell her because she ever finds out somehow and then finds out you knew. Plus why live with that guilt that’s not yours. Don’t let her be a fool is the number one reason why you should tell her. Everyone only has one life she’s young she will find someone else but if you don’t you are just letting her waste precious time on someone who obviously doesn’t love or care about her. It will be hard not to think about her when they live right next door.
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I don’t understand why sooo many say not to tell the wife.
TELL👏THE👏WIFE👏
That whole situation is greasy as eff and that poor woman deserves to know. If you’re a solid friend, you’ll tell her. That’s what solid friends do. Even if, let’s say it doesn’t go the way you think it would and she believes her slimy ass husband if he lies. Atleast your conscience and karma is clean. Like how have the hubby and your friend never seen eachother at some point coming or going from your house?
I dunno man… something smells fishy there. Or is it that legit of a coincidence?
Tell the wife. Poor girl…
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If that was my husband I 110% would want to know
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Do you know the exact reason for your keynote not being able to get pregnant? Could it be God willing thing or did she have Problem? Is Lucy certain that her baby’s father is your neighbor? Or she is assuming coz she slept with her? Not your place. Facts are being formed on apparant admiring which may or may not be true. So hold yourself and don’t break their love bubble and let Karma get to the cheaters
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I would tell her. If it were me and my friend didn’t tell me what my husband had done, I would feel betrayed not only by my husband but by my friend as well.
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If you’re really a friend to Jane then you have to tell her. There’s no other way.
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Don’t say a word it is between them and none of it business trust me the truth will come out on it own
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It’s not your place. Tell Lucy that you love her and don’t want to lose her friendship but if she doesn’t cut it off you will have to tell the neighbors.
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I had a similar thing happen, I told who I thought was a great friend,
To make a long story short, he convinced her I was lying and she was never to speak to me again
So I say do the barbecue and let them tell it all.
Watch Jane the Virgin on a breezy friday night… bring everyone and see their reactions! (Couldn’t help myself but also, this could work).
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I hate drama. It makes me a nervous wreck. But I’m imagining my best friend in the world right now as “Jane” & yeah I’d tell her 
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She’s going to find out sooner or later. Tell the wife yourself. Don’t let her get pregnant by that man first. Also, if you value you’re friendship with the wife, not telling her when you know will make her feel even dumber. Just tell her
Id stay out of it. That’s just me. I stay away from drama. What my friend does with her body parts is on her not me.
I would tell the husband that you know and that if he doesn’t tell his wife that you have no choice but to tell her. Give him a couple of days. If he doesn’t tell her, have a private conversation with her. Please don’t do this bbq thing I’ve seen mentioned a few times. That’s a horrible idea. Also, “Lucy” knows you know and probably wouldn’t be up for that mess, not wanting to put her child in the middle of adult bullshit.
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I wouldn’t say anything it’s not your place. you had no clue, I think the neighbor would try turning it around on you saying you knew and never said anything to her. So just let them figure it out because you do not want to be caught up in that crossfire.
If this was your husband wouldn’t you want your friend to tell you? I would personally tell her as said above if she found out you knew and didn’t say that would break your friendship as you wouldn’t trust you again 
Just to clarify , we’re John & Jane really ever separated? Did this affair take place at that time? Now that I know what has taken place, I would speak with John & tell him to come clean. Let the chips fall … only Jane can decide what will follow .
I would talk to the husband, tell him you know what’s been going on and tell him he has two choices, he tells his wife himself or you will ! That way you can be there for his wife if she needs you … The old saying " don’t shoot the messenger" rarely works and she may resent you for telling her X
I would tell her. Truth may be hard sometimes but Truth is real. Truth is love. Truth is the only way you should deal with this.
I would not have a party and have them meet unaware of the whole deal. What if the child does recognize him? Can you imagine the hurt for the child and the two women. Especially that poor child.
Do this now…today…
asap…
Your all in my prayers.
TELL JANE ASAP. She does not deserve to be made a out a fool where every single person is aware except her. She deserves the truth and her husband obviously will never give it to her 
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It’s all coming out in the end always so tell that man to man up to his wife period
Please no hash words/comments/judgements, I’m just trying to help someone out….but I’m really putting myself out there and don’t want/can’t legally give much information on the subject publically but if you want (who wrote this) you can PM me and I can tell you my situation and everything. It’s kind of similar in ways.
But small background-i was seeing a man who was “recently separated and getting a divorce”. We started a relationship, i got pregnant and found out when our daughter was 2 weeks old he was not separated but still married and living a double life with me and his wife. He was at every doctor appointment, birthing class, there during labor and delivery, he even signed the paperwork for her to have his last name. He had the perfect set up and everything was working out great for him until i got pregnant. Thousands of dollars later in attorney fees/court dates/heartbreak/tears/secret messages…I’m a single mother to a 3 year old whose father terminated his own parental rights. I took no money from him and signed agreements we would never speak to each other again or friends/family of each other without the other one being able to sue. I lost many friends/my job/money/dignity/home/had to move because of him. His wife was heartbroken and his two other children as well, and we were all betrayed by him and his lies. My daughter hopefully won’t be heartbroken by a man (him) who wasn’t there but i fear that too. That’s a huge fear of mine.
So kind of similar but a little different maybe but if you want to reach out, you can.
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Nobody’s business except those who are involved. And how they BOTH choose to handle it is up to them. It isn’t your place to gossip.
Look at everyone discussing the unravel of someone’s marriage like we all “know the said individuals” hahaha.
What would you want done if you was Jane ?!
The Truth my hurt, but it will set you free! I would Tell her when she by herself!
I feel sorry for Jane
Tell him that you know and give him an ultimatum, either he comes clean or you will
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Tell her. Even anonymously. But tell her.
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I think you should pull the dude aside and let him know that you know and give him a chance to tell his wife himself before you do 
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I would want someone to tell me just like you would want someone to tell you. So tell her.
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Wendy Witkop I agree. If it were me and I knew my friend knew I would feel betrayed. Sometimes it is better to mind our business, some things are better left unsaid. But this is big i would tell my friend for sure
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Honestly it really depends on how long you’ve been friends. A life long friend with someone I would probably tell my friend. But a simple more recent friendship (last few years) I would MIND MY BUSINESS and make new friends. Technically “Lucy” did nothing wrong as she was under the impression she was dating a single guy. Maonting a relationship for the sake of her daughter ISNT WRONG. John is the A**hole who’s been cheating on his wife and lying but it’s not my place to get involved. At most Of mention to “John” you know the deal but even then I wouldn’t get involved. I stay out of drama. 
Give Jane the proof and let her do as she pleases. Tell her you will support her no matter what she decides.
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I’d start by talking to john and give him the chance to tell his wife. I’d tell him to tell her or I will.
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If you don’t tell poor Jane then I will ! She deserves to know especially he has a kid from another woman 
Truth always comes out but id help it come a little faster have a small party 
invite them all
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I would want to know, therefore I would tell her. Especially with you all being close friends!
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Why’s this exact post on inappropriate & unfiltered moms?!
I think either way you are going to lose a friend somewhere. Personally I would want to lose such friends that put me in these situations. Good luck.
I’d tell her!! I would not want to be Jane and knowing my friends knew! Oh please say something!
I’d tell her, I’d want to know if it were me
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I’m sorry but I have a hard time to believe a married man would agree to this
I would give her husband the opportunity to tell her himself you tell her or I will…
I say stay out of it, to many people trying to butt into other peoples lives…
You cant call yourself a friend and not tell her. He made his bed, let him sleep in it
Tell him either he tells his wife or you will
Stay away from all parties. Even move.
Or tell the wife to leave him
Talk to John. Tell him if he doesn’t tell her you will
If she is truly your friend you will tell her
I would give Lucy’s full name to the wife and tell her she REALLY needs to check out this womans Facebook. If there are pics of her and John on there…the truth will come out all by itself. This whole situation is such a dumpster fire and no matter what someone is going to get hurt. I’d be super careful as I wouldn’t want to be the one who ends up getting all the angry wrath from everyone! Last thing you need is to end up on tv shows like Fear thy Neighbor!
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So… Lucy never came over and seen your neighbour? He and his wife never were invited to a party and she ? … seems a bit weird to me
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Wait what is Lucy and John still getting it on?
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Please tell the wife before she finally gets pregnant by this d-bag and is tied to him forever via the child.
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Tell his wife. I’d 10000% want someone to tell me.
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The wife deserves to know period.
It may not be your place but I think you should tell her. If he was cheating on his wife at the time, I think she’d like to know. I know I would.
Whatever she decides to do with that information is up to her and out of your hands but to keep a secret like that would kind of be kind of a dick move on your part. And for your friend to continue the relationship knowing that he’s your married neighbor, that’s actually gross.
I said it, GROSS
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Always tell the wife/girlfriend. If you know someone’s man is cheating/cheated and you stand by silently, you are scum.
I never would have known my BD was cheating had someone not told me.
Always tell. Let the partner decide for themselves what route they want their relationship to take. Don’t make that decision for them.
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Tell her. I’d want you to tell me so I could kick him so hard in his balls he could never make another baby again.
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I would tell this woman . Set her down and start at the beginning. It’s the right thing to do no matter what… if you lose friends that’s fine you did the right thing. If it was me I would want to know
How is Lucy shocked if she’s the one who orchestrated it and had the kid???
Stay in your own lane?
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My friend got pregnant from my married neighbor: What should I do?
Daaaaaaaaaaammmmmmnnnnnnnn thats wild. All I came to say. Lol
You’re the bad guy no matter what
Mind your own business.
Mind ya business!!!
First of all SAY SOMETHING!!! Dumb ass question
She deserves to know.
Girl,
I would want you to tell me.
Mind your business. Easy peaZy
Better stay out, maybe she already knows
Tammy Lockhart also agree with you whole heartedly.
Morgan Tyler Heinzelman agree.
Not your business 
Ahhh … Blackmail … Extortion … Etc comes to my mind
People shoot the messenger.
Nothing. It’s none of your business!
I would tell 
I wouldn’t want a shady friend keeping something that big from me.
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She deserves to know the truth. I’d tell her
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I would mind my own business and stay out of it.
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Mind your business and end the friendship
Should tell her. If it were you then you would want to know.
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Jacklyn Nobles Horn WTH
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Either way, I would mind my own business.
Tell her. Because if the situation was reversed youd probably wanna know
Ima snitch if that’s my friend my best friend and her husband have been trying for 6 years now with no success and if I found out he made a baby with someone else 
yeahhhhhh we snitching 
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Mind your business. You will just be blamed and end up the bad guy. Just to clear your own feelings and guilt. Don’t hurt people to ease your own mind! Not your place. Karma will sort it all out.
sorry cheating is cheating why is this even a question. they made the bed.
I would want to know. Even if all they do is mention “i know your having trouble getting preg but he didnt have trouble with his daughter” and let her question him
I think tell her. She might end up leaving him and then your friend and the guy might end up happy together. No way is the women going to feel any better about this the longer it goes on. Just more hurt and especially since there is now a baby that she has been wanting involved. It’s just like rubbing it in her face and If he got the other girl pregnant then it’s his problem now. She might find this amazing dude that will love her right. Like hell the wife wants to deal with that for the rest of her life unless she loves him enough to deal with it and it’s blessing for a kid to be put in everyone’s life. Just different ways to think of it. Your gonna be outside minding your business one day and a pregnancy hormones is going to kick in and all shit will break loose lol better controlled situation then not a controlled one.
A true friend would tell Jane the truth. It’s not fair to anyone involved to continue the lie. Jane deserves better.
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You tell Jane, so that she can find an honest, good man to start a family with!!!
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Tell Jane please, this is fucked up to her.
If Jane is a friend you would tell her.
The wife needs to know. Her husband is cheating.
This girl is trying 2 have a baby with this man, who has a child with ur other friend, This poor girl needs 2 know the truth, Like someone already stated, give them the option of telling her the truth before she ends up pregnant by this guy, if they don’t then you guys should if you choose not 2 then don’t call her your friend it’s that simple
Put yourself in her shoes, would you want your friend to tell you or would you rather her go on pretending like nothings wrong.
F up situation all the way around but she deserves the truth before she gets pregnant
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I would tell jane dont let her have a baby with that man
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Tell Jane before she gets pregnant
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