I would tell my friend
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I would definitely tell Jane because if it was me I would want to know.
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You have to tell the wife
I don’t see how Lucy didn’t know. But I will ignore that.
You should tell Jane. It will hurt a lot at first but once the dust settles she will appreciate that you were a friend. If you wait until it comes out on its own, and you knew she probably wouldn’t want anything to do with you after that. That’s what I would do anyway. That’s not a friend. Neither is letting your friend continue a relationship where the husband is dipping in other places if you know what I mean.
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Please speak up , Jane deserves to know. You say she’s your friend so do the right thing and tell her.
She deserves to know 
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Tell her. She deserves to know before she gets pregnant and then has to deal with that man for 18+ yrs. She’s still young she can find a man who truly loves her and have a family with
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Tell her before she finds out that you knew and kept your mouth shut.
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If Jane is your friend, I honestly think you should tell her. Her husband is a snake who wants to have his cake and eat it too.
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I would have a convo with John first and let him know that jane deserves to know, give him a time limit to tell Jane, then if he cowards on it tell jane. she definitely needs to know before she gets pregnant and is stuck with this guy forever
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Everything done in the dark always comes to light
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Do nothing just mind your own business, that’s what’s wrong with the world today everyone is in everyone’s business
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Mind your own business!!
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Tell jane then a brush across johns back
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Sell the story for TV drama, Neighbours, they could use it??? 
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It depends how good you know this girl. If you dont know her as well as you think you do, this could back fire on you. She can take her husbands side and not believe you.
I would say do what you feel you must do but be prepared to be the bad guy in the end. It may very well go that way
Not your relationship, not your business.
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Flip the script if it was you wouldn’t you want to know? I’d definitely speak up shes your friend so you need to be hers.
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Tell him that you know all about it, and that if he doesnt tell his wife, you will. Yes they may fall out with you, but that’s better than you having it on your conscience. Theres nothing worse than finding something out, then finding out others knew about it before you did x
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I’d sit them down together and ask the husband in front of the wife if there’s anything he needs to tell her. That gives him the chance to own up. If he denies it, then tell her right then and there. If you go through him first he can then spin the story and try and make lies to say you or your husband is making up lies or holding a grudge for whatever reason and the truth never comes out. This would also show the wife that you have her back and she doesn’t feel like you were hiding it and taking his side or something.
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If Jane knew this same info about your husband would you want to know? I would! If she ever finds out you knew and said nothing I suspect your friendship would be over.
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I think you are in between a rock and a hard place. Kinda damned if you do or damned if you don’t. I don’t know what to say. Good luck.
Put an anonymous note through the door telling her
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Try putting something in their mailbox if they don’t have cameras. Address it to him first saying you know what he did and he needs to come clean about it. Then if he doesn’t send a card so he won’t be too suspicious and tell his wife. That way neither party has to know who knew and told
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Wow what a shitty predicament u are in… The cat is out of the bag and either way is betrayal and loss of friendship by either party or both. What does your husband think?
I’d say tell the wife , and have you si said friend the h** be there toi to come clean
Mind your business everything will come out eventually.
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Would you want her to tell you if your man was doing same. Also don’t confront him it gives him time to lie or di damage control
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Idk this is hard… I’d he pissed if I found out a close friend knew something that detrimental to my life and didn’t tell me… that friend “Lucy”(perfect nickname btw) doesn’t seem to be a very good person doing what shes doing still even though she now knows the truth like would you be pissed if your hubby had an affair and the other woman found out he was married but still continued to go after him? This whole situation is gross
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If she’ll sleep with her man she’ll most definitely do yours cut her ass off and tell your neighbor to tell his wife or you will!!
Is the girl positive your neighbor is truly the baby daddy? Maybe there is a CLOSE resemblance and it’s not the neighbor.
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Put yourself in Jane and Lucy’s shoes. What would you do if you were them?
If you don’t say anything, it’s likely going to blow up at some point and Jane will be angry that you knew as a friend but didn’t tell her.
Lucy should have changed her relationship the second she found out the truth. But you can’t make that choice for her
If I was Jane. I would want to know.
If I was Lucy , I’d be upset at first over a friend stepping in and telling Jane. But its the right thing to do
Lucy needs to realize she’s now in the wrong for continuing.
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Say, say, say. You have to tell her. It’s wrong to let her go on believing hes been loyal. I’m sorry but I’d want to know if I was Jane. She will probably always be friends with you once you tell her the truth. She might be upset but if shes really you’re friend shell realize you saved her a LOT of heartbreak now instead of later. I’d tell. Show the picture and it will say all she needs as its proof obviously
Stay out of it. From personal experience they usually believe the husband over you then the entire friendship is ruined. The truth will come out on it’s on. No need to push it.
It’s not your place to say anything mind your own buisness . With all due respect.
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I’d say mind your business, but also be prepared to lose Jane as a friend when everything hits the fan… once she finds out Lucy is your friend she’s going to feel betrayed by everyone most likely. 
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- It’s not your place to say anything and 2. WTF is wrong with Lucy that she would accept that bullshit arrangement? Both for herself and her child.
tell her to keep her legsclosed …
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First off I’m curious if the neighbors always come to birthday parties and events with your family and friends how has Lucy not seen or met Jane and John?
So in reality she didn’t know either of them, had a kid with a man she barely knew and at that point it could of been confronted to Jane and he would be the one in the wrong. Now everyone but Jane knows this secret.
I would have to tell Jane the whole story that Lucy wasn’t aware.
I wouldn’t want to look like an idiot in this situation. As his wife I should know especially if we are trying for a family. It’s better to either talk and work through it before bringing life into the world or go our separate ways.
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The universe is saving her ass right now by her NOT getting pregnant by John. SO. I would nudge the process. TELL HER
The reaction she gave you after" finding out", most likely tells me SHE ALREADY Knew a d did not care!! Stay out of it… It’s all a HOT MESS!
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Stop making it about you and just mind your business. This ain’t got s*** to do with you but you want to be in the middle of it so bad that you making like you are the person who suffering here. It’s not about you stop making it about you and mind your business.
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Talk to John on his own and ask him WTF is going on??
If he doesn’t tell his wife tell him you will tell her!
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How sad. 
if you truly love your friend, you need to tell her the truth that all of this is wrong. Encourage her to confess and tell the truth. And then love her and support her as a friend. Babies are always a blessing even if the way they are created is not an ideal situation. As difficult as it is, the truth is always better all the way around. Best wishes:black_heart:
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Poor Jane 
She deserves better than that.
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So if you don’t tell her, and she finds out (which she will) and if she finds out you knew the whole time the friendship is over anyway. But a lot of the time the woman is going to listen to her man
Ive gone through dealing with cheating husbands twice now. As soon as i found out they were married i told them tell her everything or i will and i cut all ties. One wife reached out to me and i told her everything he didnt including other women he was seeing, They have worked it out since. No woman or man deserves this, the wife has a right to know
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I’d say something to the woman she deserves to know
Man this sounds like it could get really messy especially if Jane does get pregnant by John too, In my own opinion I feel Lucy knew John was married just played dumb for you so she’s wouldn’t seem as bad as she sounds, I mean the shock just wore, I’d personally have some concerns of the future this may hold if it was my daughter, like what if Jane does get pregnant does she want her daughter to know her siblings, and if not will her daughter resent Lucy when she gets older if she knows of the family dynamic she may have said John can be apart of it however he wants but if it’s not in a legal document well the financial needs for children get higher as they get older if something isn’t in writing legally with Lucy and john she may come after him, this could definitely turn into a situation that could get brutal between the 3 of them, and what’s a shame is it’s the kids that could suffer if it does, boogles me that there are still people out there today that want to have kids go about it without considering the future the child may be faced with based on our actions and characters as parents because of the whole “I want a baby”
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Leave it alone. One day, it will al come to light. It always does. This is a decision THEY made then, they have to keep their word.
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Wow…Some peep’s are so shady…I feel ya…I wouldn’t be able to look her in the face everyday n lie to her…especially if she’s ur friend…but also hard to tell her something that could be life shattering…but she is young still n hasnt had a baby yet with this dude…i think I might let her know or tell buddy that you know his other family n give him the option to tell her first…cause you aren’t comfortable being around either one of them with this info…or up n move so you don’t have to see them…lol.
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If the shoe was on the other foot what would you want? Tell him u will tell her if he does not then follow through. Honesty is always the best option even if it is painful.
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Say something to John in private and ask about the situation. There may be somethings your not aware of between them IE issues, a quiet separation, an agreement to see other people. You really never know the entire situation, I’d definitely let him know he needs to tell her and if he doesn’t you will.
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Tell her. The baby is here. He’s had plenty of time to come clean to her. You’re going to lose the friendships either way most likely but if she wants to see the truth she can get out before she does have a kid with him or she can chose to stay in it but at least she will know what she’s really involved with. Forget minding your own business. If you cheat on my friend that is my business! I feel sad for some of these “friends” of all these people saying mind your own business. Curious how many people are the ones cheating with the friends husband to be so protective of a cheater.
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Kyra Van Anda damn imagine having a “close friend” and have them “mind their business” & watch you get played a damn fool while your husband had a whole baby on the side WHILE you were trying to get pregnant by said husband. Then imagine confiding in this “close friend” that you’re unsuccessful in trying for a baby & she still just stands by & watches you suffer 
Id invite them all over for a BBQ and see what happens.
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I would pull him aside and tell him to tell his wife or you will. There is a child involved here and Jane and John are trying to have a child of their own. Why bring another child into such a shitshow and a foundation of lies? I would absolutely say something before another child is conceived and this gets even more complicated.
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Omg tell Jane! Or atleast let John know you know and to give him a chance to tell her himself. This is terrible
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Tell Jane. She is the real victim not Lucy or John.
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Tell her your supposed to be her friend wouldn’t you want to know
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Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. If Jane finds out that you knew about it and didn’t tell her, do you really think she’ll want to continue that friendship? what if it was your husband… wouldn’t you want that information to decide what to do with it?
Honestly either way, telling jane or not, you might lose a friend. If you tell her, you might lose Lucy. If you don’t and she finds out, you might lose Jane.
I would sit “Jane” down and tell her one day.
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I would just be very clear with Lucy, “Listen they are my friends and there is no good way to continue this friendship or cut ties without this information coming out in this situation one way or another. I will not go out of my way to divulge what I know but I also will not lie or go out of my way to hide anything. This information would probably be best coming from you though.”.
Unless someone is at risk of physical violence or abuse, I don’t agree with secrets and lies. They ALWAYS cause more harm than they do good.
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This happened to me twice…all family members knew but me and they were forbidden to tell me…I noticed a “shift” in their eyes looking at me…When I figured it out myself because both gals kept calling my house…I actually said something. One of my friends finally admitted it and told me not to tell the family she said anything. I did not hate any of them for that, but the betrayal was hard to swallow. I did not “shun” anyone but the guy. Both guys got their karma handed to them in spades. I say be quiet, even tho this happened to me. One day it will all be revealed.
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So what does your husband think you should do? I know a couple that broke up because the wife dipped into their friend’s business. Best to stay out of it.
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Mind your business and let her deal with him and his wife
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I would tell her! That is just wrong for you to not tell her especially if your saying your good friends… I would want to know…
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Nothing. Mind your own business.
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Invite Lucy over … make it a big ooopsy we didn’t know kinda party. Bring lots of wine.
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Love the ones saying mind your buisness. You wouldn’t want a friend to tell you their husband is a cheater ok then lol
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Honestly I’d stop being friends with her and the guy because of the position they put you in and I’d come clean to the wife. Being a better person and friend no matter how hard the situation is will always be the better option. If you were the wife would you want your friend to keep something like that from you?
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One way or another this will come out now if it comes out and you knew it they will be mad at you as well
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Don’t lie for a friend to a friend it makes you suffer.
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If it was my fella doing the dirty I’d want to know.
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She made the agreement with him in the beginning… its not your relationship…leave it alone it’s none of your business outside of a friend to talk to if she wouldn’t have shown you his picture you would have had no clue who the man was his friendship with his wife and you shouldn’t change either its 100% their business
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Break the friendship with both. She is willing to do this to another woman. Hes a cheater. Jane is going to get hurt no matter what. If you try to be her friend she will be mad at you if you tell her and mad if you dont.
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I would find new friends, to much drama, people being deceived
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Stay out of it. If you lose a friendship and then it wasn’t much of one. Eventually people will notice who the father is. Don’t tell her because I don’t see the reason.
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If Lucy didn’t know get Jane and Lucy in the same room and let them talk it out. Then they can confront John together! Because he did this. If Lucy did know she’s not worth your time so end that friendship before she turns her sights to your relationship! Im speaking from experience on that unfortunately…
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If you were Jane and your John was doing this would you like your best and closest friends to keep it from you…and play nice to your face…or would you want then to take the time to tell you what’s up…I knw some are saying my your business but since you know this information and your a friend you continuing to sit back and act chummy with it all is almost saying you don’t care…just saying it the roles were switched and you find out on your own and find out that your best friends knew and did nothing how would you feel and the extra hurt and pain that would be there with the betrayal of your significant other and your friends…I’d personally give John knowledge of the situation and that he has a limited amount of time to get it out in the open first with Jane about Lacy or whatever and if he can’t then you sit and talk with Jane…and let her know the knowledge you have…the issues you have considered telling or not telling the fact you have John a chance but as a friend of her and the other female involved you need to take action and you can’t just sit back and let 2 of your friends be done this way… honestly think if you were in there shoes…I would want someone to tell me so I’m not looking like a joke or fool thinking me and mine are good all while we aren’t and everyone but me knows…don’t be just as shisty or whatever as the husband in this situation…it would be painful to hear and heartbreaking but at least you were honest about the info you have an can be a good shoulder to cry on …not someone just as shady by keeping secrets…be her friend…a good friend…tell her…and the other girl being your friend should have ended things as soon as she found out and the fact she didn’t…and is putting you in this position doesn’t make her a real friend…good luck on it all
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Not your problem!! Dont you have enough live- happy, ssd, problem, or not to keep you busy? Go volunteer some where
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Do not have a talk with John first. That’s dangerous. I know of someone who was murdered for giving a man an Ultimatum like that. She told the man she was telling his wife and he killed her before she could. It’s dangerous when you go messing with someone’s life. Go tell her privately. Don’t tell him nothing.
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Mind your business thats what
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You should do nothing! MYOB
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Is it possible that Jane knew the whole time and that it was an arrangement that society frowns upon. I am not condoning it, just putting it out there. Judge not lest ye be judged.
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Stay away from the drama
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Too much drama for me, I’d step out of all of it 
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I say tell her before she has kids with the snake. Please come back and let us know how this ends.
Jane deserves to know
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Sounds like the makings of a great Hulu movie. LeAve it at that.
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Getting involved is a sure way of loosing all of them as friends. Mother always said “If it isn’t t about you… it doesn’t concern you.” Leave it alone.
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As well as make sure Lucy knows that once a cheater, he’s always a cheater. Don’t trust john to not cheat again
Break the relationship with John and tell jane
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I know some are saying mind your business but…
Think of it like this. If this was you in her shoes and no one said anything to you, you would be angry and hurt. If they are trying to have a baby you should definitely say something before she concieves. If a child is brought into the picture and she then finds out. That’s a whole other hurt!
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Jane will find out eventually. Mind your business.
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Get a fake account and send her a message and let her know
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Tell the snake 
you know exactly what he did. And tell him either tell his wife or you will. Let him be the Heartbreaker not you 
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Yeah its none of your business sorry
To much drama don’t say anything to her she is going to find aut somehow im telling you cuz i did go through once similar situation Lucy probably know u are friends with them and she told you in purpose do make announcement to Jane
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mind your own business