Tell him you know and he has so much time to tell his wife ?
If you were the wife, what would you want done?
Ok. First.off. your friend got pregnant… What should you do? Stay out of it
I would talk to John and Lucy and make it clear that they need to come clean to Jane. It’s not fair on her nor is it fair on that child.
Is Lucy friends with Jane? I’m assuming not. I would make it clear to Lucy and John you have no intention of lying to Jane about it and that the truth is going to come out
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Say something to Jane and John confront the situation!!! That is so wrong in so many ways!!!(
Say something!!! How would you feel if it was done to you and your neighbor new and didn’t tell you?
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Tell the wife. You’d want someone to tell you wouldn’t you?
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Why do you have to do anything? It’s not you. Your friend should be the one doing something. She deserves to know… They should be the one telling her.
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Maybe this is the reason she can’t get pregnant with him, cause it’s not meant to be. He is a snake, I would tell on him.
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I’d say stay out of it but I think he should be confronted.
Oh I’d be calling up Jane STRAIGHT away no hesitation. If you know that someone’s husband is cheating on them, for the love of God, TELL THEM!
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If you were his wife, would you want to know? If you were his children would you want to know your little sister?
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tell her if your any kind of friend
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Me personally, I would stay out of it.
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That girl deserves to know, just put yourself in her shoes on this situation you would want her to tell you.
I feel like it’s worse because she is now carrying it on after knowing he has a wife. She deserves the karma
Personally, I’d tell her. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I didn’t, my business or not. I feel for his wife. Regardless how good of friends you are, I’d have your friend, or your friend and yourself confront the wife.
Maybe just coming from experience; but being cheated on, lots of people didn’t tell me what happened until I figured it out myself. Probably would have saved more heart ache knowing before finding out, and knowing my friends knew.
Nothing that’s honestly none of your business. Be supportive and mind your own.
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Send a picture of him with the friend and baby, to the poor lady being cheated on. Anonymously
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I’d say mind your business but this is serious! I’d make ur friend come with you and tell jane! This is absolutely something u need to be honest about!
Have your friend come over and have your neighbors come over and see what happens…lmao
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If you were in her place wouldn’t you want to know? She deserves to know.
Tell her!
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If I was Jane I’d want to know.
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So if your husband was trying to help another woman get knocked up and your friends knew would you want them to keep it from you or would you want them to tell you!?! Would you want to stay with your “husband” for so long until you eventually found out what he’s doing or would you wanna know as soon as possible even if it broke your heart so you are still young and not as heavily involved with a bunch of kids down the road and so much they have to fight in court for! NOW is the time to tell her!!! She’s young and has a long future to find a FAITHFUL man! If your friend wanted to get knocked up so badly I’m sure she could find a single man to agree to those arrangements not a married man!!
Invite them all to the house together. You let Jane know you just found out and felt as if she had every right to know as well. Don’t hide it. Be a support for Jane. Tell Lucy she’s trashy for sleeping with a married man and not confronting the wife after her shock and knowledge of such. And tell John he needs his pecker cut off and shoved up his anus for the hurt Jane feels now after all this. 
My opinion.
I would tell jane and let her decide what she wants to do.
I don’t think I have sound advice beyond, if my man went behind me and my friend knew, I’d want to be told
I’d invite John to a meeting and tell him you want to do something pretty cool for Jane and you need his secret input!! And ask your friend Lucy and everyone will be sitting down and discussing stuff RIGHT NOW.
I’d be questioning Lucy as to why she thinks it’s ok to fool around and have a baby with a married man, separated or not, and come to find out YOU complicated things by it being my neighbor who’s wife is trying have a baby in her MARRIAGE that she thinks is amazing and perfect enough TO try for a baby.
Lucy and John better get it together because something this big won’t be a secret for long 
There’s no right answer here. They are both awful humans for doin that to that poor wife, and being cowards about it! 
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I would tell Jane out of respect as a friend
I would tell her , I would want to know
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If you don’t tell the truth you’re part of the lie…
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I’m just going to say… if it was me I would want to know. Best of luck to you
Stay out of it. Not your circus, not your monkeys!
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Tell her she deserves to know no matter friendship or relationship is getting ended
Tell Jane the truth and end your friendship with Lucy
Mind your own business. It’s not your story to tell
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As a woman id want to know point blank. To hell with your friend and the guy. That woman deserves to know. Tell her and be done with it. I’m saying this as a woman who would want to know no matter what.
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Girl dont get into it. Maybe she got embarrassed ND wanted to handle things her way.
Tell her so she can go start a new better life with someone who actually loves her
Tell her! I wish someone would have told me about one of my ex continously cheated on me. It’s simple girl code. Chicks before dicks always!!!
You do nothing. Let your neighbor and friend figure that out.
please tell her. i would hate if my friends knew something like that was going on & didn’t tell me, i’d feel so alone & betrayed
People blame the messenger…stay out of it
It’s probably why she hasn’t gotten pregnant yet. God may. Be protecting her 
tell her.
Tell John to tell Jane. It is his to confess. Your job is to be a friend.
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Tell him to tell her and if he doesn’t then you will.
Would you want to know if that happened to you? If yes, then tell her.
Personally I’d want to know.
Sounds like too much drama for me… stay out of it.
people are crazy, you never know what one might do if you go tell their business…i would 
and throw away the key!
Here’s how polyamorous relationship starts: good luck!!
Tell her. Put yourself in her shoes. I’d hate to be her
Tell Jane on the sly, help her save money and leave the jerk.
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Too be honest… if I was jane… I would want to know
Tell Jane as fast as you can… before she gets pregnant
This post hurts my heart in so many ways
Tell his wife. How would you feel if Jane knew that about your man and didn’t tell you
The truth sets you free.
We read the story but never hear what happens in the end so annoying
Yyooooooouuuuu need to mind your own business and let her handle it.
This is very Big Little Lies. And that ended well 
Would you want to know? Because I would want to know. Do onto others.
Oh hell no! Jane needs to know!
A true friend would tell but that is just a fact!!!
Stay in your lane baby!
Approach John first… give him the chance to tell first…or you will
People saying, “not your place to say anything”
Id make it my place.
Id hate to find out years into my marriage…My husband had an affair and has a child, because of that affair.
Yes…it may cause a friendship to end, but you telling her or not telling her, will end it. Be straight up…give her the facts. At least you know you told the truth.
She deserves to know. It would eat at me, if I didnt say anything.
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What should you do? Not a damn thing. That’s between your friend, your neighbor, and the wife. 
Get you some popcorn baby.
Nothing it’s none of your business. You may mean well but your better off staying out of it.Remember he is your neighbor and it may cause issues
Tell the wife.
As the person who ran the lab and did the blood draws on the spouses who had been cheated on for years - TELL THE WIFE.
I find it odd that he knocked up the girlfriend that fast but the wife isn’t pregnant🤷♀️
Is he somehow giving the wife birth control and she is not aware?
The wife is basically having sex with everyone he is since they are having unprotected sex and obviously he is with others🤮
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Ughhh that’s sooo messed up. But STAY AWAY FROM IT 
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I do believe she will find out. I don’t trust thr impregnated girlfriend. She’ll get mad and go to the wife.
I didn’t have to go further than the first question. “You” don’t need to do anything. It’s none of your business.
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You’re ending one friendship or the other. This kind of happened to me. Don’t be the one to tell cuz tbh she won’t believe you. Sounds like ur other friend is happy being the side woman and may even deny it.
Maybe approach the husband and tell him you know and if he doesn’t tell his wife then you will.
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Tell Jane and hopefully she’s the one that keeps the house!
Say nothing, it’s none of your business, let them work out their mess
Ask him privately how Lucy is doing.
You really need to pull john aside and tell him he needs to tell his wife. She’s still young and able to have children and find a new husband. She’d be extremely resentful if this went on for years and she didn’t find out until much later in life, especially if she couldn’t have children anymore. It’s better she knows before she possible gets pregnant with a cheater and might find out anyway.
The wife should know
He wife needs to know. Wow.
I’d tell. No way I’d keep that to myself.
Oh please Lucy knew…that whole agreement sounds like a mistress position. Id cut that relationship off and id send an anonymous message to my neighbor friend. Her husband aint shyt
If I were Jane I’d want to know.
Move and block everyone’s phone numbers. Start a new life with new friends and neighbors. Never introduce them to each other.
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Absolutely tell her. ASAP.
Before Jane does get pregnant.
You can potentially save a young woman (Jane) a lifetime of misery. If she’s really your friend I think you owe her that.
Even if you can no longer be her friend after. If you can spare her a lifetime of pain, I think you absolutely should.
I’d tell her. Fuck that guy I would tell only her though incase she wants to take action to leave him without confluct or danger to herself. I would invite her over and have a talk with her, it’s worth risking the friendship to ensure she doesn’t live her life with this lying sob
It’s none of your business…but that wife deserves to know that her husband is a slimeball. She will blame you and it will be your fault somehow. Prepare to lose the friendship but hope for the best.
The way I see it is is you can’t call yourself a friend to her if you keep something like that from her and watch as her heartbreaks and she tries for a kid with that same dog ass man
Give him two weeks to tell his wife. Make him feel pressured.
I would tell john that you know and that your gonna give him a week to come clean to his wife before you tell her. Leave it up to him.
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When my husband (ex now) was cheating, I had wished someone told me so bad…felt like no one cared enough to be honest with me and that hurt as bad as the betrayal itself
Chileeee. A whole ass mess. Ain’t y’all’s business. Close your eyes and shut your mouth. What’s done in the dark eventually comes to light.
But damn I also wanna say tell Jane or blackmail John’s goofy ass and then betray him and tell after you got what you wanted. I don’t know what to tell ya about Lucy but she needs to just take the baby and leave that man alone now.
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If it was you who was the married woman, and you friend found out. Wouldn’t you want to know…
How would you feel if a so called friend kept something like this from you…
I think you need to think how you can do this with the least amount of hurt as possible, this woman deserves to know. X
Honestly I would tell her I mean this probably isn’t the only female he has hooked up with she’s young she can still move on and yeah it’s gonna be hard but this is going to be hard I would just confront him and tell him he hast to tell her or you will
I’d invite them all to the same house party and tell them.
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Keep quiet, it will come back to bite you, always does.
It’s their life. I’d let it go. None of your business. Maybe dudes wife has issues with getting pregnant.
Offer to babysit… the daughter can “accidentally” break the news when she runs up to him calling him dad while playing in your front yard lol
You need to tell your neighbor. I feel as if, if you give John the option to tell her himself or you will, he could end up spinning it around and you risk the chance of him somehow getting over on Jane and her not believing you. Narcissists are good like that and more than likely he’s been lying and getting over on her for quite some time. And if you don’t say anything at all and Jane finds out, she will be hurt that people knew, especially a friend and she was not warned or told about it. Seems like Lucy isn’t the greatest person anyway and maybe isn’t someone you want to be friends with considering she found out about it all & has absolutely 0 care or concern. I understand there’s a child involved but that doesn’t make it ok to be sneaky & make his wife suffer. I feel like Lucy knew a lot more anyway than she’s acting like she did. I’m sure he lied to Lucy as well but her thinking he’s recently separated and never questioning anything? Come on now… idk, I’d do the right thing and tell Jane. You will end up losing a friendship either way and Jane may be the wrong friendship you want to lose. Lucy just doesn’t seem like she really cares about the position you’re in anhway. 
this is just really sad all around that people are doing this kind of stuff while married or in relationships. They have no idea the damage this causes to someone, especially women who are by nature, so sensitive and emotional as is. He will ruin this woman forever when she finds out. Selfish, pathetic & sad is what he is.
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How would feel if the situation was reversed? Would you want to know? Would you be able to respect a friend who chose not to tell you?