That’s a little much he seems like he’s young minded and immature! That’s an excessive amount of jokes. I’m sorry to hear this, it’s hard making that decision rather to stay home with our babies or work. I’ve always worked I worked my butt off for so many years while we were having our family, we have 5 kids and I feel like I missed out on a lot, with my 3 teens bcz of work , when covid hit I was laid off and appreciated that time so much with my 2 younger ones and reconnecting with my teens! I battle with it in my head, although I cook clean take care of kids do errands home wcvjool I did all this while working also so I start to feel like I’m being lazy for not going to work but then I have to tell my self I am not lazy I am holding this household down and tending to our kids. If my husband joked around like this I for sure would have went back to work by now, it’s emotionally and mentally hard as it is to just stay home, but my husband tells me all the time momma u r needed here we need u please don’t go back to work, we need u home right now just enjoy it while we can don’t worry about anything other then what u already take care of all day! This makes it so much easier the support I get, I couldn’t imagine those words would cut like a sword. Have u ever worked or were u always a stay at home mom? How many children do u have ? I’m curious if maybe it’s getting to him financially or maybe he doesn’t feel like u do enough and he definitely sounds like he does not appreciate u what so ever , u 2 should switch places for 1 week so he can see how hard it is and how much work it is to be at home all day wiping butts, cooking, cleaning constantly, being the referee, the doctor, the judge, the jury, the bather the groomer, the nurturer, the entertainer, the teacher and the momma. Maybe then he’ll stop saying those things and appreciate u the way u deserves
Don’t know what anyone else has said but that’s a nope for me. You’re setting yourself up to have nothing if there are marital problems in the future.
Anyways start sending him a bill. Find out what the local laundry charges per pound to wash dry and fold his clothes. How much it costs to pay insta-cart to shop for and pick up his groceries. Even if u have to divide by 3. How much a personal chef costs. What daycare would cost etc. oh don’t even.
My mom was an sahm but she had full access to all monies etc. hell she was the one that did all the bill paying and such since she was at home.
Well we do that he says it all his he bought it all but it is 50 50 so I agree with him cause he did but it still mine to
He’s definitely in the wrong. I’m a SAHM and mine never acts like anything is just his.
Well you will have to find a nice way to explain so he understands it in plain English. I’m thinking you might need to see a counselor or your minister for help.
Get your name on that house asap! Tell him its his job to get your ness if your at home with kids!
Its disrespectful. My husband sometimes says our house is his house because his name is the only one on the deed and he bought it with his trust fund. I’m also a SAHM and have been struggling alot. He’s 100% gaslighting you.
He’s out of line … these kind of comments can make a person less confident and doubting themselves as well as getting depressed … he needs to STOP
In my opinion, it’s one of two things. He’s either a very controlling person reminding you of your place or he’s jealous of your being able to stay home and not have to work outside the home. In either situation, this is a sign that he has insecurity and self-esteem issues.
I’m in the same situation I put the 46,000 down and had a better score but he had the job for 8 years and I wasnt working
True story, he is indirectly telling you what he feels but because you can’t take it and he sees you worked up, he jokingly say he is joking but he is not…
I’ve been a SAHM for 5.5 years now… what he’s doing and saying is NOT OK!! My husband has never joked or told me anything like that. You are married, so everything that you share is “ours” not “mine”
He could have put the mortgage in his name only … but both of you on the deed to the house.
Watch your back. Get a job as soon as you can and have a separate bank account.
Honestly the way he’s treating you, it might not last because he doesn’t seem to respect you.
My ex husband was the same with me when I was a SAHM. I love the times I spent with my daughter but it’s a lot harder to enter the workforce when you don’t have enough experience.
Best of luck to you. Also don’t have other kids with him because it won’t fix the situation.
Sounds like a narcissist honey. I’m sorry. I was married to one a long time ago.
Get yourself a job save money, have your baby go to day care and have his a$$ pay for stuff and you will see he is going to stop real quick.
He wants to control you. Start a plan to make and save your own money and then leave. It will never end
See a lawyer. Not for a particular action but knowledge so you can let him know you YOU have a few options yourself. He sounds like an ass. My take.
That’s not joking that’s gas lighting smh
He’s controlling. He’s holding the purse strings and he likes to make sure you know that. Why? Because he likes control. He knows you depend on him financially, he also knows you can manage without him, which scares him. Your work allows him to live comfortably. You being a SAHM, without an income means you’ll stay. But he won’t tell you that. He has no respect for you and it’ll only get worse over time. Keep your own bank account. Hide your valuable things. After a while, you may choose to leave, and you’ll need a plan to get out.
It’s abuse, gaslighting, narcissism, and head games. I would get out. He’s clearly not going to stop with this behavior and would only complain about the house more and daycare if you got a job. He’s showing who he really and it’s a inconsiderate and rude husband.
Forget his words. Go back to work and buy yourself things you want. As for the the house, it’s both of yours. Sounds like he’s envious of you!
By the way. It doesn’t sound as if he’s joking if he’s finding every chance to make you feel hurt!
If your married things are 50/50. Hes trying to intimidate you. Probably feels insecure.
If it bothers you, he should be sympathetic. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.
Get your name on that deed. They’re not jokes he’s putting you down.
Depending on the state you live in everything is half yours.
I don’t have any specific advice, but I want to assure you that this is NOT ok. Even if he is “just joking”, you told him how you feel and he is not respecting your feelings there either. Completely and totally NOT OK.
Not sure why you are staying with him as he continues to degrade you
I would dump his sorry a$$ in a heartbeat. He’s not joking, otherwise he would not tell you he was…
It’s like having a canker sore and someone biting it over and over and over again. Tell him to stop bringing it up.
He’s not joking. It will only get worse. Find a part time job that you can do and have him watch HIS baby in HIS house. There will come a day when you will be very sorry you put up with this.
He’s not “joking”…and your name should be on the house…stop believing everything he’s telling you…also tell him you have a “job”…a very important one…
I’m not reading through comments cuz there is alot. But this is scaring me and reminding me of my ex. He became abusive in everyway. And those jokes were NOT jokes. He meant it. I want to give advice how to prepare for a divorce just in case. Don’t have to get divorced but in case he ever pulls something you would be prepared
Same except I do work and he makes twice as much as me.
Read the comments and I am giving another point of view. How long have you been married, how old is the baby, do you love your husband? Now I’m not saying that he isn’t jabbing on a sensitive issue, but you could respond by saying, if it yours …you need to do your laundry it is yours, if you are hungry you need to cook. if his house gets dirty he needs to clean it. give it back a little then tell him you are only joking. See how he accepts the other side of insensitive jabbing. Many responses are telling you the financial side of calling it quits, you need to consider the attempt to solve the issue before you call it quits. Your child will only have one child and that child will have to share his parents for the rest of his life.
Yes, he’s gaslighting you. See an Attorney, and the twenty five points credit score. Bunk.
Do up an invoice with your hourly rate of all the jobs you have done since the situation started with interest.
It’s NOT over reacting. It’s insulting. Tell him if he feels like he needs to “joke”…he should find something else to joke about Bc it hurts you. A joke should not be at your expense…
honestly tell him that you are raising the lids if he wants you to work he will be payong childcare and a cleaner . As you are nolonger a sahm . do the maths give him a bill if he wants to play that game.
Get a job without telling him, then when he finds out tell him that you don’t appreciate his “jokes” then he’ll know you mean business.
Guy seems like a dick. My wife is a SAHM and I would never belittle her like that. We both made the decision for her to stay home.
Regardless of what he means by it, if it bothers you, he needs to stop doing it. It’s that simple.
Go back to work and get a divorce. He wanted you to be a SAHM for control. Classic narcissistic move, and it’s only going to get worse (I ended up mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually abused by one: My ex husband). So take that power away and take him to court, and let him see how he likes paying alimony and child support.
He should not be doing this. He means what he says. My ex did the same thing to me…
Go back to work! He is not considering you. He is for real, and not just playing. Save your money and separate if needed.
Have him pay you what he would pay someone else if you were working. I bet you are much cheaper. That will end it quick.
I would tell him that if he makes that “joke” again (after knowing that it hurts you). That you will stop cleaning things that are he’s (he’s dishes, he’s laundry, ect.).
Your being gaslighted and dismissed. This is a HUGE red flag momma!
Yes he means very word he is saying to you. If he keeps repeating the same “joke” knowing that you’re hurt by it, then it’s not a joke.
A divorce judge wouldn’t say that all the stuff is his 
once your married its all out the window.
Get your name on that house NOW. No if ands or buts about it. DO.NOT.WAIT.
Nope he’s feeling some toe of way and pushing it all off as a joke.
Next time tell his ass what’s his is yours! You’re married so by law if you divorced everything gets cut down the middle anyways!
Divorce him and then see who’s house it is…You never know what the judge will decide…
Get a divorce and see what the judge says lol don’t sweat that small stuff
You have a narcissist on your hand. Start stashing if you can. Make a plan, execute and run! It will be hard to first,but definitely worth it!!!
Just flat out tell him you can take a joke…when and if he actually has one! But that ain’t it!
It’s abusive for sure. But this is a HUGE red flag. If you were ever to get a divorce he can screw you over HARD. He seems to have that seed planted in his head that everything is his now while you guys are happy together. That will turn ugly fast if you’re ever not happy together.
Legally he’s not wrong. I would take steps to ensure you’re taken care of in case. Just in case.
If he keeps mentioning it and disregarding your feelings about it. Something is wrong.
Get a job girl. This man can get one day and tell you he’s leaving you. All those things he says?That’s the start.
He’s really being insensitive! I’d be upset too, and tell him how you feel.
He will keep it up as long as you react. Men are really just boys.
It’s horrible he is doing that to you. Is he upset you are no longer working?
When a joke is made like that more then once hes secretly saying it as truth. An that’s annoying asf. Have you asked him if he wants you to go back to work? Would that be an option?
If you explained how it makes you feel, and he refuses to acknowledge it… He’s in the wrong. It stops being a joke, and becomes a rub when it’s not funny to you anymore.
I was not on our mortgage but on the deed. You need to make sure that you are on the deed.
I would make sure the house is in both our names ASAP
Make sure you are listed on accounts and the beneficiary. He’s using humor to tell you how he really feels. Respond proactively and accordingly.
We have been married for almost 55 years and my husband has never made “joking” comments like that. Good luck because you’re married to a really big problem.
This is not acceptable behavior . That is awful way to treat anyone.
That would be MY baby and My cooked food AND MY clean clothes etc…
A real man NEVER put his goddess down. Puts her on a pedestal where she should be.
I’d get a job… 2 of them… One to pay for the sitter & one to buy me stuff
He’s gaslighting you. You may have unwittingly given the wrong individual financial stewardship over your life my dear.
In the 1st place that house would have my name in it too.
I hope you’re saving money he doesn’t know about because he, is trouble.
He’s being disrespectful. Mortgage can be in his name only but the title should be in both names. See a lawyer
“jokingly” say “not after the divorce”
It’s not okay. In any form. Get out.
I would “jokingly” tell him the courts don’t see it that way!
Say you want to go back to work and see how he feels about that. Then make a point.
Remind him that when you divorce him…half of all HIS stuff is yours.
Absolutely gaslighting. Next time my smart mouth would say “hmm guess that means If I decided to leave you I’d get a pretty decent chunk of YOUR paycheck for alimony and support since I’ve not been making any money myself…” and then be sure to say, only joking!!! When he has something to say about that.
You need to get your name on that house. I smell a big fat rat
He’s gaslighting you. Also he seems to have wanted you in this position so he can have power over you.
He sounds like a narcissist. No empathy. You told him you don’t like it and he continues.
I’d leave him. Let him enjoy all his things he owns, by himself. 
He is a classic narcissist. You are not in the wrong to feel upset, he is gaslighting you big time and in typical narcissist fashion acting like it’s a joke and then making you feel like you’re the one with the problem.
Why are you married to him?
Been there. Done that. Now I’m divorced. Work full time. Raise my kids. And make a hell of a lot more money than he ever did. 
O and I’m happy. So so so happy.
I agree with Cora Fisher 100% !!! Heed her advice and I wish you the best!
Start billing him for everything you do around the house and for daily daycare!
Wonder how funny he would find divorce papers… I’m sorry you’re having to put up with such a jokester…
Wishing you well. Hopefully the child(ren) do not see this as acceptable behavior and follow disrespectful suit.
Personally, I think he is being rude now. It isn’t a joke anymore, once you told him how you feel when he says that.
I tell ya what ,divorce his ass and he’ll see just what is his ,about half of what he lays claim too !!!
I’d leave. Get my own job, own house, and wait to find a real life partner
Get your name on the deed ASAP!!!
You should absolutely be on the deed to that house. You don’t have to be on the mortgage to be on the deed. And if he told you that, he’s wrong!
Hes gaslighting you . I’ve been threw this and it wasn’t a joke it was his way to throw digs.