Tell him you’ll speak with your lawyer about these issues, guarantee his attitude will change real quick . Especially if it’s a female lawyer 
some will even do it pro Bono 
… just incase 
also, because I am that wife, I would start leaving receipts around the house, and if you have a joint bank acct, start paying yourself 
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Turn the tables on him and laugh telling him half of everything he owns is yours according to the law
FYI- your name doesn’t have to be on the mortgage, in order to be on the deed.
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Unfortunately I’m going through the same issue… its hurtful
Slap his joking ass face the next time he likes like that and say oh sorry that was a joke… U go back to work darling and make him run for his money…
And you can always make your food and forget his…oops
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Girl, you are in trouble. He is not a good person and much less a good husband. I’m very sorry for you. God help you…go to Church.
There’s always a little truth in every “just kidding”.
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Stop his BS right now!!! You contribute by raising the kids and keeping up with the house. He’s belittling you, STOP IT NOW!!! YOU ARE JUST AS IMPORTANT AS HIM!!!
Go back to work. Make him stay home
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This is not ok I would be seeking employment and having your own bank account
He is being a jerk ! Not a joke if it is hurting your feelings !
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Pack your s*** and leave , it’s his house
he can pay for it.
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I would throw the whole husband out the window
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Get a job and if he gets mad throw all that in his face.
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Get a job and hand him the daycare bill and tell him they’re his children🤷♀️
Tell him it might be his house but it’s YOUR baby.
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Tell him. He’s bringing it up because that’s what he’s thinking. Get on the same page.
When he says those things smile and say… were married so EVERYTHING is half mine sugar tits❤️ and blow him a kiss😂
I’m married to a man like that and can say it only gets worse.
Oh no 
you need to get your name on everything and make it clear that he is either very angry or resentful
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He zounds like a jackass esp if he knows you don’t like his “jokes”
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Tell him you want your name added to the insurance and mortgage.
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Start charging him by the hour for child care
Get a job and let him worry about day care!
You need to get a part time job. There’s resentment breeding behind those “jokes.” I was the sole provider for my family, and let me tell you that when I came home from a crazy day at work, it made me so angry when my ex would complain about anything. I felt like he had no idea just how stressful it was to financially take care of a family. That everyone’s livelihood rested on my shoulders every single day. That some days I came home and he said he had spent the day watching TV and relaxing with the kids. Get a job, even if it is just 15 hours a week. Let him watch the kids while you work. Stop the resentment from building any higher.
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Not to be rude, but did you only realize your husband’s a jerk after you had a baby?
Sounds like he needs mental health. What he is doing is abuse!
My husband supported me being a SAHM. Then he ended up throwing it in my face how I never contributed. And everything was actually HIS. This turns into manipulating you and making you dependent on him and he will end up telling you that you couldn’t do it without him.
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Not too sensitive. Play his game. You stay home with the baby. That’s your baby. Start invoicing him for child care. Also start invoicing him for gas to travel the baby back and forth. Invoice for cleaning the house, invoice for laundry service. I’m sure you do everything around the house it sounds like. If you’ve tried to go the proper route. I say get petty Betty 
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Hand hum a child care bill some are 250 per day
Him doing this knowing it hurts you is spiteful and mean.
Holly- I agree. It’s abusive speech.
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Totally not right if you both agreed that you stay home…and just because it’s in his name doesn’t mean it’s his the courts won’t see it that way if you get divorced…it’s verbal abuse what he is doing…I would stop doing his laundry, cleaning and dishes but I’m also a B%€*£ like that lol
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That’s gaslighting 100% hunny. Don’t let him invalidate your feelings.
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Sounds like he just likes the idea of controlling you.
Theres resentment underneath i tell you. Jokes are half meant
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You do have a right to be upset. I would just sit down and tell him honestly how you feel…the whole feels and all.
Maybe also he is hinting he wants you to get a job (part or full time). I know when I tried to be a SAHM, I felt bad for my husband having the full financial weight on him (we weren’t hurting financially). Just ask him.
Getting a part time job will benefit you, in having some time for yourself.
He sounds like a prick, he needs an attitude change.
He is passive aggressively being abusive. Not acceptable.
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Divorce him and it will all be yours lol!
Get u a job start saving money in an acct he doesn’t have access to sounds like u may need it one day
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Maid, therapist, chauffeur, teacher, chef and MOMMY! You have a God damn job and it’s harder than any “job” he ever has. He can start paying you child support and alimony or change his attitude.
Do not do wife things in the bedroom, because it yours!!
A joke is something BOTH people find funny.
Tell him to start paying you for sex as your body is yours and yours only.
Speak up. You are half the partnership. If he cant handle it he doesn’t value you. I stayed home until the kids were in school. Then my husband got hurt. A lot. He has been hospitalized 30+ times. I worked sometimes 3 jobs. We respect each other for what we contribute. At different times that is different things. Don’t allow the down grading continue. You DESERVE respect.
Loose your mind over it…just one time! He’ll stop
Its all marital property, hes just bullying you!!
You should watch stephanie lyns videos on youtube she is a life couch she has videos on gaslighting, narcissistic people so much stuff that you would be able to benefit from.
Tell him you want a divorce and you’ll see who gets what 
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Gaslighting. Stop cleaning and only cook for the kids. See how he likes it. You ARE a mother and as mothers we never stop working. Sometimes a man is ignorant and possibly he is “joking” but I don’t think so. Abusive behavior can start anytime days in or years in. Try professional if you want to make it work but he has to be in it with you. Sending lots of love, strength, and positive vibes your way momma! 
Tell him what you do everyday is priceless. He couldn’t afford you.
Tell him that a divorce decree will say different.
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Jokes on him, it is actually legally yours too, if it was bought during your marriage, he shouldn’t be making “jokes” about that, I would say next time he “jokes” joke back that HE can stay home with the baby and YOU can work an tell him let’s see how the courts feel about the house if thats how he feels also, how does he feel about child support and alimony -depends on what state your in your intitled to it as well if you dont work- see how HE likes those “jokes”
He is gaslighting you. Remind him that the pay check may have his name on it, but you both put in the work to earn that money and if he is going to continue to make jokes that allow you to feel disrespected and unappreciated, you will be living elsewhere until he can learn to give you the credit you deserve. If he tries to tell you you are overreacting, tell him “That’s your perspective. You’re allowed to have it.” Keep repeating it like a broken record if you need to. Just remember that every time you try to set a boundary with someone, they will act hurt and treat you like you’re in the wrong. And that just means it’s absolutely necessary.
He sounds like a gaslighting narcissist. Period.
Your name could have still went on the deed to the house . Just his name for the loan from the bank
My man does this and I hit him back with a good come back and we laugh about it. If it really bothers you then maybe get a job so you don’t feel so bad about it? I think you may be too sensitive about it and sounds like an issue you may have with yourself
He sounds like a nob! Everytime anything is mention about your baby I would say he/she is yours. I would say my baby all the time not our baby. And if he questions it say we’ll I stay home looking after my baby she now he/she is mine. See how he likes it xxx
I would say to him: “Ok, I realize you’re joking but it’s hurtful to me and YOU KNOW THAT but yet you continue to do it. Why?”
When my now ex and I were still together he would do stuff, one was lift his shirt after a meal and rub his stomach. I told him it was gross and he would always say (about every situation) that “it’s just you and me.” Well me doesn’t like it so stop!
I would be upset too. It seems like he resents you staying home possibly… or he thinks he’s the big man now that technically he owns the house. I would sit him down and have a firm discussion about how it makes you feel and that it needs to stop immediately.
He says it cause he means it don’t lay down to that
I think some people think having a running joke is funny. It’s played out. He’s not funny. & he needs to stop.
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Yeah that is not funny and is definitely gaslighting
No you are not over reacting,shame on him, very disrespectful. I’d tell him the next time he says something like that you are getting a daycare for your little one and getting a job
Well, news flash for him… It don’t matter if your name is on the house or not… It is a marital asset, which means in a divorce you can take it from him. So, when he decides to be hurtful, I would state that fact right back at him!
Nope your being degraded by his comments… I don’t know what state you live in but where I live it doesn’t matter whose name the house is in it belongs to both husband and wife … 50/50
I’m the sole breadwinner in my home. The house is in my name because I’m the only one with income. Everything that we’ve bought, every upgrade we’ve done, every meal we eat comes from my income. Never once do I tell my husband, even in a joking manner, that it’s all mine. We are a partnership. It’s both of us that keep this household going. Both of our names are on the checking account. Because my money is our money. This guy is out of line. It’s rude at the very least and abusive at the most.
Definitely a form of gaslighting!
Oh HELL NO!!! This would be a huge problem!!!
He’s just telling you he’s going to take it all in the end
GET A JOB AND START SAVING YOUR MONEY NOW. Be smart and think ahead. Your husband is spitefull and bullying you. He clearly enjoys having control and power over you. Your husband is a a-hole and your marriage likely wont last forever. Earning your own money will give you more power and freedom. If you get a job you wont be stranded when you eventually get divorced. Buy books or use google. Educate yourself about financial abuse and get some financial management skills. It helps to be prepared.
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He sounds very insecure.
Well depends on his personality. Id he was saying things like that before you decided to stay at home then maybe you’re being a bit too sensitive. If he hasn’t and this is new then yeah he is being rude. And I would doubt it’s a joke. Either way. You’re married. What’s his is yours.
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Have a quitclaim deed prepared to add you to the property title if the refi transaction is complete. It won’t add you to the mortgage, but it will give you half ownership of the marital home. If he is “joking” then the joke ends there. If he refuses to add you to title, then you know there is a bigger problem to come.
Classic signs. The red flags are waving. It will get worse.
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This is unacceptable as soon as you can have him add your name to the house
And when your baby goes to school find a part time job so you can make your own money
he is 1000000% gaslighting you
He’s teasing. You should learn to tease him back.
Y’all may have agreed on you being a stay at home mom as did I when my child was not school age but if your child or children are school age then you need to get a 1st shift job or part time job while they are in school. That way there is no confussion or arguement. Also go get something even if it ia small in just your name and prove your point.
I would give him a bill for half childcare costs and a housekeeper bill… that runs about $1000 a week or more, housekeepers make about $200 a day if they do all what stay at home moms do.
He’s gaslighting you just like mine gaslights me about stuff
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It’s not a ‘joke’. Don’t allow him to treat you this way.
Not ok to talk to you like that - your name doesn’t have to be on the mortgage but should be on the deed to the house
Can’t even post what I’d like to say about his behavior.
Married long time …it Only gets worse.
You aren’t wrong. He’s an ass
Write up what your worth! Charge him weekly for the work you do.
It doesnt matter if the house is in his name. If you divorce, they will still split it up between the two of you.
Really hope your name is on the deed of the house
Not cool!!! He is being an ass
You married the wrong man …
He’s gaslighting u get out before u can’t
A joke happens once or twice. Bullying is an ongoing thing, especially when he knows it bothers you.
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I have the same issue plus some
You are not too sensitive-
Is your name on the deed? If not- get it on
Property is only his if he would get to keep it in divorce court…lol…remind him of that.
Pack your bags and run!!!
I believe the joke could be on him if you divorce him… check into it