Better now than later. Move on and fast! He will do everything to try to get you to stay but get that annulment or divorce. Speaking from experience!
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He’s not putting effort I don’t think. Ya you shouldn’t compare, but it’s your first marriage. He should have went all out for you too. To me it sounds like maybe he feels a little jaded towards marriage in general. Talk to him see what he says.
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Did he WANT to get married? And why do you think it’s normal that his family told you about his exs wedding night in that regard? Gtfo.
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Well since it’s not consumated get an annulment and find a better partner
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It’s past. Hope things are better. Talk
Your husband sounds like he could be in the closet.
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Did you say anything or just sulk?
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Been there done that. My first and he fell out in the hotel (expensive) and I even tried to get his boots off and was told “to leave him the F alone”. Needless to say, I spent my life dishing out money (that obviously grows on the backyard tree) and , dummy, here, stayed for almost 30 years, when it finally came down to him breaking my hip. Not worth it.
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Elle n’est pas la seule à ne pas avoir fait l’amour le soir de ces noces. Nous aussi je vous raconte. Le mariage à 8h3o am. Le diner la rencontre de tout le monde les photos le souper la danse et encore de la danse encore des parents qui viennent pour la soirée et il est 4h30 quand tout le monde est parti. E P U I S É!! On a remis cela. Et ça fait 65 ans de cela.
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You paid for everything…he married you for the money…this man doesn’t love you.
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My goodness you poor poor girl … I would also be devastated…
Divorce his ass . Find some who really loves you and WANTS to be with you
how was you life before marriage? Did you do sex then? How old is he? It was a long day maybe he was just tired. Not making excuses for him but one has to look thru different eyes when something happens. Have you talked to him and told him how you have felt?
Leave now…can you say annulment?
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You paid for everything get an annulment fast
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Annulment and find someone worth marrying.
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There are so many red flags here. You should leave. That is so unacceptable.
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He wasnt as excited or interested as you were. Im sorry that happened. You paid and you did everything possible to make it special and he didnt care. I feel bad for you. Sometimes people are just ungrateful. You sound like a catch. He sounds like a pos
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Hon file for an annulment. There will be more heart ache down the road trust me I’ve walked your path.
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You need to leave. He married your money. Why didn’t he contribute? Sounds like a winner to me.
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You deserve better… a clue is you paid all…don’t stay. You will be miserable.
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Is he depressed? Does he need intervention?
Run!!! Things will only get worse from here. I know from 35 years with a narcissist.
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Yeah that’s a lot of red flags. But like… you didn’t have ANY of these odd feelings before you got married? Or did you barely know eachother… I feel like by the time you marry someone you should know a lot about them, and whether or not you’re a good fit for eachother. So either y’all rushed this or you ignored red flags throughout the entire thing because you were so excited by the prospect of being with someone. But yeah just leave at this point. If you don’t feel valued or desired, you may as well just be friends. Doubts should have came before the wedding day though… not after.
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Get out of this “marriage” now. I cannot stress this enough. Been there, done this.
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Sorry to say but I don’t think he wanted to get married
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Get out before you can’t.
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I really wish I knew HIS side. Expecting something to happen just because it had happened in a past relationship is very toxic. Im sure he was many years younger at the time not to mention maybe pre military. Who know but it was a different day and different situation so different story, are you recreating his first marriage or making your own? If this post was a man talking about his wife everyone would be appalled that he expected her to just give him s3x because it was their wedding night. While I’m being honest, you’re throwing some red flags yourself here. If you’re not happy already do both of you a favor and get an annulment.
His family is being extremely disrespectful!
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I’m so sorry this happened to u
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He’s definitely lacking! I’m sorry this happened to you!
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The first night didn’t bother me really as you have the rest of your lives together supposedly … but I am curious … why did you marry him ?
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He is a loser move on now before you start a family
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I am so sorry that he and his family suck!
What is he like usually?
Time for an annulment
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Awwh I’m too sensitive for this I’d be crying instead of typing
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Leave do not stay in this “ marriage” that is bad from the start!! He does not love or respect you and your needs!!
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He needs medical help.
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You can’t compare his marriage to the ex wife to yours. Thats just going to make you miserable. I would just ask whats up and see what he says. It IS a red flag though. I would definitely consider how you want this marrihe to go
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He’s probably very relaxed and comfortable that beats meaningless sex any day. None should be talking to you about his ex. That’s hurtful and not your concern. They are over.
What you marry him for??? You knew his ways before you said I do 
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WOW. The fact that his family knows about is enough to make me angry. It’s none of their business. You really need to talk to him about it. He’s the only one who can answer your questions and put you at ease. Of course I don’t know how old he is. That could be a factor. Low libido could be the reason and he will tell you he was too tired. Tell him he needs to see a Dr. If he continues to make you feel emotionally abused I would definitely separate from him. You deserve better.
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Not okay. None of it. I’m sorry you’re hurting right now, love. I mean this sincerely, but it’s only going to get worse from the sound of it. His actions represent who he is. So unacceptable, all of it. No excuses.
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What a Jerk. Is he always this dumb ???
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Being tired! Chances are it was not a ‘new thing’…
Enjoy your honeymoon
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Hmmm…did you miss some red flags earlier?
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Dang I would’ve had you not walking for 3 days. Some boys aren’t hubby material sorry you married a lame
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Me and my husband didn’t have sex our wedding night, and I’m his third wife. How you even know all that info from his first wife is beyond me bc I still to this day don’t know those things bc I’m confident in myself as a person as a woman and as his wife to need to compare myself to someone else. This isn’t a him this is a you issue being all insecure and comparing yourself to his ex wife, she’s the ex wife for a reason, if you try to be her you’ll be his second ex wife. Knock it off.
Annulment is always an option
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What?? I’d be pissed 
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You pull a kim k and you divorce that man within 72 hours. He gone. Byeee.
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Makes me want to cry for you. Think I would go from love to bye real quick.
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The first night who cares get rest it will fall in place .
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I am lost on why you paid for everything…. The first red flag is you paying for everything, the second is him not caring what he wore, the third is the night of the wedding. That’s 3 res flags!! I say take the L and leave … asap. Now I am in deeper thought, and are well off? Because maybe he is using you… RUN!!
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I don’t have anything. Sorry. He should have tried. But he didn’t
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Why did you marry him
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Been married 36 years. I watched a movie with Mean Joe Green. My husband was passed out from partying. No big deal. We’ve made up for it! Don’t stress the small things. You have a lifetime
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The night you get married is no different than the night before or afterwards to me. You shouldn’t base your feelings about how marriage should be based on having sex the night you get married. I’m sure it wasn’t y’all’s first time to have sex anyway… correct me if I’m wrong! Most definitely don’t compare your marriage to him and y’all’s affairs to his ex marriage. His family sounds petty. I wouldn’t even listen to them if I were you they don’t know the TRUTH! You know why, they weren’t in the room standing over them to see!! It sounds to me like there are other underlying issues which should have been addressed before going through with the marriage! Peace 
Love 
Blessings 
for a clear heart first and mind to come to an agreement on how to proceed.
can i file for divorce on someone else’s behalf
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You haven’t consummated the marriage yet. Annul and run😂
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I’m so sorry. He shouldn’t have acted so nonchalant about your big day! I was my husband’s 2nd wife (he is my first husband) and he was just as excited as I was to get married to me. He also made sure to consummate the marriage later that night! I would be very upset if I were in your shoes! You need to definitely have a good talk with him!
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He’s not the fucking one and it won’t ever work. Leave
Sounds like he didn’t want to get married a second time…this is one sided, there is always two sides to a story 
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How rude of his family to even mention his first wedding and how he did or didn’t behave. That’s really just weird and sick. I am sorry that you experienced such a disappointment and that he apparently has no clue at all. I honestly and sincerely wish you the best. Find happiness in yourself first and foremost. That’s most important. Once you learn to truly understand and love yourself, you will find what you truly deserve. Sending all my good vibes!!! 
Straight to the point…. He didn’t and doesn’t care. There are deeper rooted issues on your part on why you are willing to accept this type of relationship. You don’t value yourself or feel that you are worth it. Because your now husband is a reflection of what needs to be fixed within yourself. Sorry to say this marriage won’t last. Because you will be dragged down until you are broken, and he will make no effort to change.
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Chic as soon as he didn’t care what he wore would had pissed me off why did u marry that man seems to me he didn’t even seen interested in the whole day and then he want have nothing to do with you after yaw get back to the hotel room when we got home he would had been gone cause something isn’t right about this situation .
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My guess he knew his dress blues did not fit , he had no intention of purchasing clothes he would have to pay , if a man loves a woman he puts himself out there, he wants her wedding day, and his to be a blessed memory , a happy one.
The clothes , the ignorance, he’s selfish, he didn’t want this , his heart wasn’t it it, he put zero energy , care , love into the day .
Love yourself , respect yourself ,
Be your best friend and take care of you .
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I get it that was a dick move but look at it this way he might not have wanted to start off a second marriage like he did his first but still he should have tried on the uniform long before the wedding that way something could have been done
I’d have annulled it or left and went home and packed my crap. The fact YOU PAID for everything…. And he didn’t do his part to even dress nice. 
you see where your wants, needs and desires stands with him.
How long did you date this man child???
I’d have told his family his batteries must have died because he didn’t even attempt a dang thing.
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If you guys haven’t slept together yet, I’m wondering if he has problems in that area and you just don’t know about it. Maybe you should try talking to him.
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Call a lawyer asap and get legal advise. I believe if the marriage hasn’t been consummated you can legally file for an annulment.
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I’m so sorry it wasn’t what you expected
I get the sex bit
But does it really matter what he wore
He married you
And that’s what counts
Get it annulled be happy do it sooner rather than later Did you ask him what’s up
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It seems like some people get married just so they can go online and complain to millions of total strangers - that is strange.
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Try talking to him! Marriage is hard and there needs to be communication. The fact that it hurt you is enough to find out what was in his head! Ignoring this can set a precedent for your entire marriage. You dont want to start it that way! Communication is invaluable in a marriage. Married 22 years here. Talk to him.
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That’s actually really sad 
I’m someone who wanted a very basic, non-traditional wedding and my hubby would have preffered a more romantic wedding, but we still had a very romantic day because we were getting married!! The fact that your hubby wasn’t romantic at all is redflags to me
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I would want my money back…
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He doesn’t care about you. To him, you’re just someone to get by in life. Don’t settled just because you don’t want to be lonely. Living with someone who doesn’t care about you is way lonelier than actually being single. Value yourself. Love yourself.
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You married the wrong man !!! Fool
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He’s a cad. When I got married I stood at the door praying he’d pick me up and carry me into house had to tell him to then he sat on bed and was fixing his pot. Citing it whatever they do with it. I was so devastated. He said what! You seem sad I said it’s our wedding night and you’re fooling around with drugs?!!! ( I hate drugs!!) he stopped. But it was very sad-for me😔
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Get an annulment asap.
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Leonard Eacuvetto tead the first line lmao. YOOOU 
He mightve been showing you, he married you for you and NOT for sexual needs… instead he may have wanted to cuddle up and watch movies together and show you theres so much more to your love then sex.
He’s family is completely disfuntional ! Very low class to even brang up the stuff about he’s ex ! I wouldn’t even allow them at my wedding . Second ,he should of stopped them that’s a douche move on him ! Third there’s no way you should of married him after not coming together on your wedding night . He wasn’t tierd are he wouldn’t been up hrs watching movies ! He just was all around showing you he didn’t have your feelings or ,best interested at heart ! Please ,rethink this whole marriage . I personally would of already got divorced . But ,that’s me ! But I promise you he’s family would of been holding they’re butt cheeks cause I would of came unleashed n ,they wouldn’t of been attending my wedding day .
It’s not going to work. Get it annulled quickly.
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It’s VERY common to not be intimate the night of the wedding despite what society says. But he seems like he does less than the bare minimum for you and that’s concerning.
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Talk to him! Really shit that’s how you’re wedding night went down but if you don’t communicate you may as well get divorced now. Tell him you don’t feel like he’s putting in much effort like cmon dude make sure you’re clothes fit for the ceremony ffs 
I bet his ex wife had a weiner 
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You should of known your husband before hand! Your mistake don’t complain now.
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I wouldn’t think much of it bc it’s like his 3rd time around. Communicate how it makes you feel.
Edit: hol up you paid for everything and put it together yourself? Oh naw, all him whatsup bcz I don’t think he wanted to get married. Based on what I’m reading he’s about to make your life hell.
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Did yall consummate the marriage yet after that though?? I’m sorry that he didn’t pick up on the hint that you obviously wanted to make love on your wedding night sending prayers it gets better 
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My (ex)husband and I were both exhausted after a long day with our families, so we went to sleep. Not like we had never made love before that night. But your guy’s attitude seems hugely passive agressive. Not a great beginning to your life together. Moving forward, I’d see how it goes and keep a bag packed in the closet and keep some of your earnings stashed away for an emergency because this arrangement doesn’t look ‘forever’ to me…
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You know people tell story’s like the one you heard about him and his ex getting it on there wedding night maybe it was not so great or maybe it never happened but yes he should be interested but if a man doesn’t do it he might just not be in the mood my ex rather play video games a couple of times or just watch porn and take care of himself now this was not frequent but this stuff really dose happen in marriages people just don’t like to say it dose but you will find out if he seem to remain un attentive to you
What was his reasoning for wanting to marry you in the first place? I mean seriously if you don’t have love communication and and honesty in a marriage you don’t have a marriage
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Me and my EX husband didn’t have sex on our wedding night.
How long have yall been together? Has sex always been an issue? Did he want to get married again? Or did you want to get married.
If the event was special and important to him, he would have tried on thise dress blues months ago…the day of= lazy= you will be his mama for the next 40 yrs. Run for the hills fast and dont look back no matter how much it hurts now or it will hurt much worse later. Even if he wanted to delay lovemaking…he could have still been romantic and hold and talk to you vs being a grown man playing dumbass video games. Read the sign. So sorry but you were right to ask for advice and as you see, the majority says run…dont ignore it
I think you two should communicate or you’re going to be walking around upset and he may not know why. Sounds like the family may have been joking around about the ex and how they stayed in the room for two days. Maybe y’all are close like that? I don’t think you should start your marriage off by comparing yourself to the ex and what they did. After all, she’s the ex now. There is so much we don’t know so we can’t really assume and then give you bad advice. Only you know how the relationship is on a day to day basis and that’s what you should focus on.
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I’d be running for it !
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I’m on my 3rd marriage. It’s my wife’s 1st. When we picked up our marriage license, she was so excited; almost giddy. To me, it was a simple thing I had already been through and not the exciting part. I hadn’t realized that these “little things” to me, were BIG, exciting things to her until she noticed I didn’t meet her excitement about picking up that license and she HAD A CONVERSATION WITH ME about it. Sometimes people really are blind to what they’re doing until you address it. After that conversation, we had the BEST time planning our wedding together and making it so incredibly special. I guess my advice is simple; TALK TO HIM openly and honestly and go from there. You might be pleasantly surprised.
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