Teach them now that it’s a medical emergency and how to help. Although not as severe, my children have always understood and learned to use EpiPens. It’s not as scary when they’re prepared.
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Take her home with you,( )they will see worst things as they grow up Where is your husbands compassion ?
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A person can have a seizure st any time and this could be a learning lesson for your kids. If one of there friends has a seizure, then they will know what to do.
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Honestly this would be 𝓐 great learning experience for them you don’t ever know what can happen in school nowadays it’s best to have children who know what to do then 𝓐 frantic teacher not knowing what to do when 𝓐 new student with not history of seizures ends up having one
Being there for a friend in need is invaluable.
Hopefully she doesn’t have a seizure around the kids but if she does, it would be a teachable moment for them about medical emergencies and how to call for help, etc.
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Sounds like he wants to over shelter and over protect them from stuff they should just simply be learning about. What he is doing to the kids is much more dangerous than them simply learning the fact thay people have seizures!
Kids only freak out about medical conditions when they are taught to. So if you can handle a random seizure calmly they likely will be fine. However if someone were to yell and freak out that could traumatize them
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Cannabis helps with seizures… That being said my guy also had a brain tumor removed and started having seizures until his surgical wound healed. At 3 and 5 your kids are able to understand that seizures are a medical problem some people have and that when they happen the person cannot control them. I get your husband is trying to protect them ask him how he would react if you had seizures woukd he keep the kids away from you?
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When my mom had her first seizure we were all worried for her. That was 20 years ago. The very first time my almost 20 year old saw her have one was when he was six. To this day he will tell you that all he can remember is yelling for his granny to wake up and telling his brother who is four at the time that they needed to call 911. My dad walked in a minute later and everything was handled but that trauma stays with the kids if they see it. Currently my 7-year-old has seen it a couple of times but we’ve told her that Granny just fell asleep and needed a nap. I know that’s not the best solution but it’s hard for her to understand certain stuff.
Very unreasonable and rude of your husband to suggest this ,anyone can take seizures at anytime in their lives.Your husband included.! As a mother of a 42 Yr old daughter who has Epilepsy since 5 yrs of age and has a daughter and son 13 and 10 years old they see their mum having seizures most days .It gives them a good understanding of the condition and know how to help her when needed.We can’t always wrap our kids up in cotton wool ! They need to know about illnesses …its a part of life .
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Having seen someone having a seizure is not traumatic. They could see a friend at day care or at school. They need to be told her brain is having a hick up like anyone can have and they make that noise but the brain doesn’t make a noice. Tell them her brain cells are just jumping around. She’ll be on medication and could really use the help. You are an angel to help her. Protecting your kids is great but you and your husband showing care and concern for your friend is bigger and will have a long lasting effect on your kids.
I can understand his reasoning. My daughter was diagnosed with epilepsy when she was 4yo. She had a bad seizure that came out of nowhere. I also worked in healthcare for years and saw people have seizures. Even for an adult it can be scary. And if they have a seizure while standing (which is more likely when a person has a seizure disorder that has came due to health concerns or later in life they don’t always see it coming) they can hit their heads and bleed or cause head injury. But that being said I don’t feel like you should try to avoid your kids from ever seeing anything bad. Especially as a parent of a kid who has had seizures it makes me sad to think that someone wouldn’t want to be around her.
I think that if you were to explain seizures to your kids and basically do a little run through about what to do in emergency situations this could be used as a learning experience.
I wouldn’t let them be around the friend without an adult being in the same room because that is a lot to put on a kid. But if they do see her have a seizure yes it could upset them but it could also show them that you don’t just not deal with someone or something because it could be a situation that you don’t want to deal with. It could show them compassion and explain that not everyone they meet will be healthy but you can still be friends with them and help them.
If she has a seizure you will want to help her while keeping the kids calm, remind them that everything is ok this happens and that you’ll be getting her help. And then talk to the kids after to access how they’re handling it.
I think maybe if a plan is made it may help ease your husband’s worries. But the bottom line is that you can’t bubble wrap your kids and they will have to see bad stuff eventually. But health issues are not bad stuff. It’s a medical emergency but you don’t run away you help.
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These type situations in life are an opportunity to learn compassion and empathy for others. It would not be traumatic for them if like you said you explained her situation.
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Sounds like it’s his own fear talking. You’re right that if explained to your children, they will be fine.
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Blessings to you for being there for your friend. Maybe you can weigh the situation out for the first time whilst the kids are away and then I’m certain you are going to be a friend for the long haul. The next time she visits you will know how to prepare for the family.
It’s a tough one but definitely workable. You both are right and both have different points of view and that’s completely fine.
Shoot let him take the kids those days and you stay with your friend. That way you can 100% focus on helping her and your husband will be okay since the kids won’t be there.
What kinda of monster did you choose to spend ur life with no way should you keep her from ur kids a medical problem is way different then a drug addiction or alcohol problem that husband has over stepped his boundaries with this
I think that’s probably the most selfish thing I’ve ever heard from an adult man. Children need to learn and be around those who are sick/have illnesses that is apart of the world. It teaches compassion and love. Let alone how to be a good person for reaching out to help someone who is struggling/suffering. Sounds like he has the difficulty and he’s is using the Children as a pawn to escape! I wouldn’t allow it. I’d also start taking the children to soup kitchens and other places in the community to help. It is an amazing thing to teach our children that caring for our humans is Humankindness and we need to spead it everyday everywhere 
My babies were helping and serving our community at 6th garde. They are now amazing giving compassionate adults and wouldn’t bat an eye at helping someone like this. It would be out of the question to to do it any other way. She needs your help:broken_heart:
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Use this as a teaching experience for your husband and your children
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Well let’s just hope you’re husband never starts having them, (for various reasons)… he wouldn’t want his children taken away from him to keep them from witnessing something like that… fucking idiot he is!
I dont think I’d want my kids seeing that, personally. I have been with someone who has seizures and it’s not a fun thing to be around. It’s actually quite scary when you don’t know what to do. I wouldn’t want my kids to feel like they were supposed to help or feel useless or scared.
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Would he like it if you took them away if it was him or one of the kids with epilepsy ,
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So a vacation from the husband and kids, I’d take it. You and your friend can have quiet and peace to talk cry and eat ice cream.
The husband sounds very immature, he does realize seizures can happen to anyone even kids, he needs to be educated and so do the kids
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My son has seen people have seizures and I explained in an age appropriate way what was happening and why. He said “ok” and went off to play. Kids only make a big deal out of things when the grown ups make it a big deal.
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So a vacation from the husband and kids, I’d take it. You and your friend can have quiet and peace to talk cry and eat ice cream.
The husband sounds very immature, he does realize seizures can happen to anyone even kids, he needs to be educated and so do the kids
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Don’t teach your kids to discriminate and stay away from people with medical issues or disabilities. Yikes.
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My daughter has seizures sometimes, and it would break my heart into a million pieces to know that she is actively being avoided because of something that is out of her control.
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Whether you agree with him or not, they are his kids too and if he truly feels that way then you should respect him and compromise on a way to help your friend where everybody is comfortable.
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My brother has seizures, we’ve always explained them to my son just in case it ever happens in front of him (it hasn’t) but my son is aware that it could happen and what he needs to do
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As a young child I witnessed my father’s friend having a seizure. My father was calm. It was not traumatizing for me. I think I was about 10 years old.
If you stay calm, your children will be fine. Teach them how to handle a medical emergency. A 5 year old should be taught how to call 911 for help.
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Your husband sounds like a complete jerk!
Your friend needs you !
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People get sick. That is a normal part of life. If your children are sheltered from this they will never develop necessary coping skills.
My son was little and saw his grandmother die of cancer. He was a teenager when his grandfather died. Death and illness are a part of life. That fact is inescapable.
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It’s not right but it also sounds like a good deal! If you don’t throw a fit let him do it chances are he won’t offer again. Lol men don’t always know things like this let him do it! As long as he takes them to safe place
Go stay at your friends house for day or so, let hubby take care of them, you can devote all your attention to her 
your friend is blessed to have you
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That’s so rude of him. You can’t shelter them from real life things that happen beyond our control.
I feel that you’re teaching you kids to be helpers! What better way to plan for an emergency than to introduce it to them in a controlled environment! That was if they ever happen upon someone having a seizure they will be familiar with it and NOT afraid!
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I don’t think he’s being immature, it sounds like genuine concern for your children. It’s important to consider your spouse’s feelings. From what you’ve said, it seems like he’s been supportive thus far. He just doesn’t feel like it’s the right time to have the children encounter a situation like that. Yes, it can happen to anyone. But we aren’t talking about anyone, we are talking about your children. I don’t think he’s being unreasonable seeing as how he’s still trying to work through it with you, and working out ways for you to still be able to help without involving the children right now.
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So what would your husband do if you got sick and started having seizures? Yes it can be scary but to teach the kids about different health conditions and how to respond to them could be so beneficial. Even at young ages kids can be so helpful. It’s not like they could catch it lol. Teaching them to clear an area, call 911, get an adult is not bad. What would he do if you were at the grocery and someone started to have a seizure?
He’s being an ass. I’d put my foot down on this situation. It is not okay to hide children from a disability. Explaining disabilities is important. If she does have a seizure just escort them to another room until it passes and she’s coherent
I do agree, that it’s a good teaching and awareness opportunity. Just talk through it with him again, and see what next steps you all need to take, together. But calling someone immature and unreasonable because he disagrees on what is best for the children is a little out there. He could be the type that just didn’t care at all, or shot down your ideas without putting thought into them.
If your kids are small I can see his point because they won’t understand and it can be very scary to watch. I’ve seen several. I can’t personally imagine trying to sooth a child and restrain a seizing adult to keep them from hurting themselves. If she’s on meds for the seizures now and they’re working then Is say heck yeah teach your kids to help.
Hubby’s an A-hole. It won’t harm your kids.
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I understand his concerns it can be traumatizing for kids
I have epilepsy and my kids have seen me have seizures multiple times it is not traumatizing for them ‘ they know exactly what to do when I do have a seizure and how to call 911 ! Kids need to be taught how to properly handle a situation like this because it could happen to anyone at anytime I was a healthy 32 year old then out of the blue started having seizures ‘
I was an adult when I first seen someone have a seizure (my sister). It WAS terrifying and did traumatize me. I’ve seen multiple other people have seizures since then including my son when he was 2, and those weren’t any less traumatic. I would agree with your husband on this one…3&5 years old is young, and even explaining to them at this age most likely wouldn’t help as they wouldn’t understand. If your husband is willing to watch the kids then let him, and spend some time with her.
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So my daughter grew up watching me have seizures,am epileptic,she would stroke my hair and tell me everything is gonna be okay.id use this to educate your kids on the subject and looking out for others and defo your hubby,speak to them,let them know what could happen ,prepare them and try be with them the first time,ether way talk to them after ask if they have any questions .i wouldnt want my kid to learn not to help others cause of ber dads opinions,espeially this mate sounds like they could probably really use some support going through all that so young too.i think your fellas just looking out for your kiddies but he comes across very cold and kids see everything.
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First off, let me say thank you for trying to step up to help her. I, myself have seizures as well as one of my sons does too. Seizures can be scary. But all of my children have been taught about them, have witnessed some, and have been trained what to do if mom or bub have one. To me teaching my kids was very important. Not just for myself, not just for their brother, but because if they see ANYONE have a seizure they’ll be prepared. It is good to know what health emergencies can look like and how to cope. My kids were educated very young (about 2) to call 911, and trained more and more about it as they grew. My 10 year know the exact protocol and can execute it flawlessly. My kids are also trained with epi pens as well as their younger brother has anaphylaxis to nuts and other food allergies so we have all practiced and trained to help save him in case of emergency. I feel it is very important kids can realize these things and be prepared instead of fearful. It helps save lives and even maybe one day, their own.
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Also fyi,i died for 10 minuyes in2015 from seizures ,how would you feel if something bad like that happened to your mate when you could of had their back but chose not too
That’s ignorant as hell I have 2 children that have epilepsy people need to educate themselves
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I can understand the father’s point of view. But I wonder if the kids shouldn’t be educated about seizures anyway. Seizures, to over-simplify, are basically a short circuit in the brain. This causes uncontrolled muscle movements the person can’t control. On the other hand, you could take your husband up on his offer to take the kids for a couple of days and have a break. That way you and your friend can watch movies or listen to music… order in food… and gab. The only downside I can see to that is, how often will your friend decide she needs you to do this once you have done it once? You said her circle of friends is small. They aren’t stepping up to help. That leaves you. I would do it this time if you really want to, but I would check into a service that her insurance would cover where a health aide could check in on her periodically. You have a family. You can call her once in awhile. But you can’t run to her house several times a day. And you can’t keep her at your house because your husband doesn’t want the kids to possibly see her have a seizure. It’s a Catch-22.
I see too sides to this, your children need you both to talk to them about this and to make your husband feel he has to protect your children. Compromise. If your friend does have a fit while staying with you, your husband can take them outside or down the street till it’s over. This would probably make your friend feel more comfortable staying a couple of days. Communication xx
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I was an adult when i saw one and it was very upsetting to me . I think it would be hard for a child to understand. Sorry I do think you helping is good.
As a mom of a T1D kiddo who can have seizures as a result of low blood sugars I hope he would never be excluded because of that. Your kids will no doubt grow up with kids just like mine. Teach them how to handle and have respect now. Teach them how to support others in a time of medical crisis like this. Teach them how to call for help. Kids are smarter and more resistant then you think.
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I agree with your husband. I was 18 when I saw someone have a seizure and it freaked me out. I think your kids are way too young to see that.
As a mom of a T1D kiddo who can have seizures as a result of low blood sugars I hope he would never be excluded because of that. Your kids will no doubt grow up with kids just like mine. Teach them how to handle and have respect now. Teach them how to support others in a time of medical crisis like this. Teach them how to call for help. Kids are smarter and more resilient then you think.
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I can understand his concern but if you inform then ahead of time of the possibilities then they would likely be very understanding & helpful. And who knows who they could help in the future with this knowledge.
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A good friend of mine that I grew up with had grand mal seizures his entire life. Although it’s awful to see a child go through it whether you are another child or an adult, it’s hard. If anything it did educate us kids more. As a small child I saw several friends of my mom’s have different types of seizures and was able to understand it better and be able to help. Now I have seizures due to something they still don’t know why. Everyone parents differently but I couldn’t imagine keeping a friend or family member away from my kids just because they have a medical condition they cannot help. Most of my seizures are brought on during heightened emotions or extreme lows so I’ve even had them holding my own babies while laughing with them. Personally if it were me I would not pay him any mind and let my kids be around my friend and even talk to them about seizures, the different kinds, and what you can do to help. There were many situations with our childhood friend that it was just us kids and we had to hold his tongue back until one of us ran and got help. One time he fell from a high height when he had one and we were able to help and stay calm as someone went for help. I’m sure having your kids around too would make her happy as well
I have epilepsy and I’m a mother of 3, while it can be scary it’s an educational moment also. Talk through the steps, it’s great training incase they are ever in an emergency situation they’ll know how to react. Thank you for being such a good friend but it maybe time to educate your husband.
Your husband is inconsiderate. Also raising kids that way will negatively impact them. Truth is always the best
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I have seizures myself and my five-year-old son has seen me have two seizures and he is not traumatized lol.
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It would be very educational for your kids to learn about. They would learn so that if someone there age or at school had them they would understand. I have had my son around many people with different disabilities to teach him things and show him people are all different and how to help those who do have an attack and an episode
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It can happen to anyone,anywhere. You should talk and try to educate your kids. They’re more understanding then we think. You’re a good person for wanting to help.
That’s amazing everything your doing for her! Kids being exposed to real life experiences and possibilities for other people that are close to them is not traumatic. It’s learning about life. I completely disagree with your husband.
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I think it is a very good learning situation. When I was young we had a fellow classmate who had seizures. And my younger brother. I think it is good thing to learn about and how to help someone in that situation. If you’re husband is with you and the kids then he could take them somewhere away from it if she had one to and it was to much. 
she sounds like she could really use a friend.
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I completely understand both sides. I will say as a kid in school an older kid had a seizure and it scared me. I was not much older than your 5 yr old but I would talk about safety and calling 9-11 about things and talk about right and wrong things to call about. I would not personally expose my children if I didn’t have to until they was older. I agree with husband.
But I see your point she’s your friend and you want to help and the kids needs to know what could happen. You want to help but maybe compromise and let him take kids out of situation for now talk to them about it then do small visits with all of you that way if something happens dad can remove kids from seeing as you help your friend.
I dated a guy his cousin had seizure he stayed with her and her preteen came in got scared and I grabbed her got her out of the house away and to a friend’s we calmed her down. Got her grandparents called to come get the kids. If they was older I would agree more with you.
He is unreasonable,what if it was one of the parents with the issue,what would he do?keep them forever away from the othe parent?talking to the kids is the best
I think if you talk to them about it first, they’ll be okay. Sure it might be upsetting, but having the understanding of what’s going on can really help them. And someone’s medical condition is not necessarily something children need to be sheltered from in my opinion, more like something they should be educated about. I want my kids to be aware of things like that and helpful and learn to accept people, not feel like they have to stay away from who is struggling with their health just because it sucks to see the side effects. It’s scarier for the person experiencing the seizures and it’s tough when you lose people because they don’t wanna be around to see it. I think having your kids around here will be great for her. And if she does happen to have a seizure, it could be a very educational moment for your kids. And if they ever have a friend or see a stranger in public who has a seizure, they may know exactly what to do and be able to save a life. Shelter them from the dangers of the world if you can, not the things we can’t help. I get your husbands side of it, but at the same time he’s kind of teaching them to turn the other cheek and we have too much of that these days. We need more people willing to sit with their loved ones through tough times like this, and help out vs running the other way because it’s weird or uncomfortable.
Take him up on the girls weekend offer. It will be much less stressful for everyone. Hopefully your friends condition improves and husband feels more comfortable over time. I can see his concern if she tends to have violent seizures, but he shouldn’t discriminate against people with medical conditions. It’s life, and good health isn’t guaranteed to any of us.
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I’m sorry but if my husband said that it would cause an argument. If you talk to your kids and explain what could possibly happen to prepare them and you’re obviously not leaving your kids alone with her so there isn’t a problem. Your husband is imo being kind of cruel. You shouldn’t not want to help someone or have then around just because of s medical condition. What if one of your kids has a seizure one day?
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Kids shouldn’t be shelter from any kind of disability or illness. Teach them about it and how to handle it… I have always taught my kids so when there younger sibling out of now where started to have seizures dew to mild epilepsy they knew what to do and how to handle it. They all took cpr courses and from a young age learnt about Autism and other disabilities. As for your husband I would just explain to him this could happen out of know where and they can learn from the experience. Also would like to say you are an amazing person and friend. Not everyone would do what your doing.
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Let him watch kids you can go stay with her for a night or two
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I agree with Heather Fairgray, Have a discussion with them and prepare them for what could happen. If it does, have their Dad take them to another room or location. It’s good for them to witness the caring and love that you are showing your friend. Also has she tried to apply for a dog that can predict seizures? They are out there and she should get on the waiting list for one. It sounds like she qualifies. God Bless you for wanting to help.
It is scary and traumatic to witness and I too would not want my kids to be traumatized.
However you cannot shelter your kids forever and instead of having them come upon a traumatic event accidentally which at some point they will, you can use this opportunity to teach about differences disabilities kindness helping others and what to do in an emergency. It’s a tool and a life skill.
I would explain to them that this is a friend that you love and when you care about somebody it’s important to help them through difficult times in their life. Tell them that you hope it doesn’t happen and you hope they don’t have to see it but sometimes because of something that’s wrong in her brain she can have something called a seizure. Explain what will happen that she might fall down or shake and it can look really scary but that she will be okay after and you will help her if it happens. Tell your kids that sometimes people get Burns and then their skin might look scary. Or they are born with a difference that makes them have to use a wheelchair. Sometimes people have to take a medicine when they get cancer and they lose their hair. Somebody might be very overweight or might be a little person or might be very very tall. Tell them that even if somebody is different we should always help them and be kind because everyone has feelings and a heart and that’s what really matters. Explain that it’s okay to ask questions about people that are different and it’s okay to feel scared sometimes but that they can always ask you what’s going on and you will help them understand.
For me if this were my husband I would tell him that I respect his parental wishes and I love the fact that he’s looking out for our children and their best interest. Tell him I know his heart is in the right place. But I would also emphasize that this would be a really good tool and opportunity for teaching love and empathy and how to handle a crisis which are really important things to learn as they are heading to school age. I think you should try to get him on board rather than go behind his back because disrespecting the wishes of the other parent can lead to a big crack in the family dynamic and you wouldn’t like it if it was the other way around. Good luck
It teaches them how to properly handle a seizure in case someone around them has one in the future.
Wrong on his part. To instill in his kids that people who are sick like that (especially family and friends) should be ignored and turn the other way is an even more scary thought then them being frightened by the experience. Sure, it may be scary seeing something like that for the first time. But how about the knowledge that follows that could potentially save a person’s life or even their own! Shame on him for alienating your friend in a time of need. I think you should follow your heart and be there for her. Try to explain these things to your husband too because maybe he’s just looking at it from the smaller picture. Best of luck to your friend 
They are at a very fragile age. I would have to agree with him. No matter how much you explain it to them, their fragile age and brain developmental components like reacting haven’t fully formed yet. So keeping them from it would be wise. Because seizures are very intense for anyone to witness. Let alone babies who know only innocents. Seeing something so traumatic could potentially impact them in a way that has lasting affects. Really there is no way of knowing the impact it will have on them. Honestly if it could be avoided then i think that should be as it may. I too have an oversized heart and compassion out the wazoo. I am feeling very helpless right now. My heart goes out to your friend as well as you and your family as this situation continues i will pray for everyone involved. Bless you and your heart. The good in you is pure and the world sadly doesn’t get to see a ray of pure light like you carry as often as is needed to keep society a warm and compassionate and loving environment, like we knew it once to be. Saddens me to think of all the hate and cruelty in the world. God bless. 
Your husband is right. Even if you talk with you children beforehand, a 3 & 5 year old do not have the mental capacity to understand an event like seizures during the height of the event. It could cause unnecessary trauma if it occurs around them. I think its safe that you allow your husband to watch the kids at your home and you go visit your friend for the weekend at her house. By doing so, You are keeping your household peaceful and you can still be there for your friend at the same time. Everyone wins!!!Your husband is being supportive of your wishes and desire of helping your friend. But he is also being a man and protecting his children from any mental damage the could occur, unnecessarily. 
That’s a weird thing to say. Sounds like he just doesn’t want the friend around tbh and is making excuses.
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I think that while yes it is scary to experience someone having a seizure its also good to let them know that it’s a possibility and then if it does happen they will have experience on what to do if that ever happend to someone and they were there. I was working at the rec center a long tima ago and a 16 year old kid had a seizure right in front of me and I was more traumatized by not knowing how to help him then by seeing this poor kid on the ground having a seizure.
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He is right. Explain to the children without a visual please
I understand his view point of it so he is not wrong nor is he right. Yeah it can be traumatic/impactful but in the same sense it can be a learning experience for them. There’s nothing wrong with her. Teaching your kids how to properly react in situations like your friends is actually very valuable for them an others who suffer seizures. They can learn how to help if someone is having a seizure out an about in the area they live in instead of being a clueless by stander. It also could be inspirational to your kids in wanting to grow up and be someone who can help ppl. Your husbands fear is warranted but it’s not exactly logical. I’d have a conversation with him about it and express all the ways it could actually be beneficial for them to be around. I mean does he want his kids to be terrified even as an adult when witnessing someone have a seizure or does he want them to be educated, compassionate and helpful to save someone.
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I understand where your husband is coming from. However medical issues are part of life. I feel it’s better for kids to expirence things young than to go through life never seeing medical emergencies. You’re calmer if you’ve been around it. I hope that makes sense.
Your husband’s cool but he has his point of view. I don’t support it. I think your kids should be ready for anything and learn how to help others and know that other type of people exist.
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He’s ridiculous, yes I understand wanting to shield your children from scary things, but you can’t shield them from life, you can prepare them for it and that’s exactly what this situation would do… it would allow them to understand what other people go thru and ways they can help that person if a seizure occured… my dad started having seizures when I was 15 and the first one was traumatic cuz it was unexpected, but now after almost 20 years of it, I feel completely comfortable in situations to help other people having seizures
Your husband is being unreasonable and sounds like a jerk.
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Back in 2012 I started having seizures I was 35. Never in my life have I ever had one. I was working front desk of a hotel and got lucky the night I had my first one as we had two guys early 20’s that came in late hours from work. And it happen as they were coming in. They rushed to get my husband from our room. My kids were 15, 12, 11, 10. Yes older but they still had to see mine and learn how to help and deal with them. As someone else has said what if it were to happen one day to his child at a young age or later in life how would he feel about what he did to you? My husband was only a boyfriend of 2 years when they first started. And he’s been by my side helping me get places and calling 911 when i have had more than one. They have told us not to call till I have 3. But you need to try to explain to him how you feel and what could someday happen to his child and what he would do? Just walk away like your friends family has done to her?
He sounds like a ass.
I honestly think you husband is an ass hole. That’s like him saying your kids can’t have friends with seizures! I would be devastated if someone had said that about my kid
Also have my 21 year old living with us to help. It still scares her but she knows how to deal with me having one and can call 911 if needed
Wow just wow 
, hope he enjoys his time away with the kids and you take care of your friend of those couple of days, you have a heart of gold. Do it
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I thinks its a really good teaching moment!!kids at schools also have risks or history of siezures and you cant shelter them from that.educate what might happen to the person and that they may go to hospital but they will be ok. These things happen.
Look at it from your husbands point of view. Are your kids meeting this friend for the first time? Or they have known her a long time because if they don’t know her it’s not someone they are missing. Best you educate them more before putting them in this kind of situation. I know her being your friend u might want her to met your kids but being the parents means u do what’s always best for them even if u don’t like it
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He is wrong I have non epileptic seizures so does that mean I should not be around my own children, No it means you educate your children anyone could have a seizure at any point and is he going to stop everyone with a medical condition being around his kids, a diabetic could go into a diabetic coma, an anemic could gait etc. please don’t shelter your kids it will be more traumatic in the long run if they are sheltered from it. A child at school could have epilepsy and you can’t stop them being around them, your friend could end up feeling depressed knowing she isn’t aloud near your children you could end up isolating her and you would never forgive yourself, I know what it’s like too loose friends and there children because of an illness you can control xxx
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I have to tell you what a GREAT FRIEND you are…
I remember a a little girl and I will never forget…
My Aunt had Epilepsy I did not Know this. I was a kid…
Well it was holiday time we went to visit Grandma & Grandpa in NY…
Auntie lived downstairs…
All I remember is something happening…
My Dad & Uncle had her down on the floor sticking something in her mouth…
She was trembling…
Of course the parents showed us away but I wanted to see…
I will always have that vividly in the back of my brain…
No adult ever explained this illness to all the Cousins…We never asked until I was an adult…
So I think if children are I formed and when Friend goes into a seizure have a plan…
Family plan…
Or take your husband’s advice let him take the kids…He gets one on one time with his children
You spend time with your friend and all is well…
I wish you the best:pray:
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First time I saw someone have a seizure was out in public, so unless you’re going to lock your kids up from LIFE they’re going to experience things… Better to teach them about things, than shelter them and let them be naive. The world preys on naive people.
I have seizures and I think it’s good for kids to learn early because my whole family/ friend circle and their children know what to do if I have one and they don’t freak out
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I mean i thonk hes looking out for the kods in his own way now just communicate that this is a person you will have arround for years to come and the kids need tp learn how to act in those situations and be ready not just for her but for the many people that suffer like her
He is not right. It’s life you can’t shelter them forever. I was young when a girl in my class had one. Didn’t freak me out. I was in elementary school. But you do what you feel is right. It only matters what you want to do. Would your husband want one of you kids to have them & someone be like him? It’s very kind you wanting to help your friend
I mean, this is an amazing time to educate your kids about seizures,empathy, and how we don’t abandon people we care about because of their health problems. I see your husband’s point, but it’s not a very strong point and needs to move past it. Unfortunately your kids can and will become traumatized by something big or small, multiple points in their lives. You can hide them away forever which is also traumatic.
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Some ppl don’t like to have kids see a seizure cos they think it will scar the child, I remember I was 15 when my mum had a first seizure and diagnosed with epilepsy I couldn’t be around her it scared me half to death I was visiting her when she has a seizure just me I had to put cushion under her head to make sure she didn’t hurt herself from that moment on I was fine just something clicked I don’t know why I was so scare at the beginning so all I’m saying if a 15yr old can get scared so can a 5 and 3 but I also agree you can’t shield kids from life just teach them about the illness knowledge is power.