Sounds like he is insecure! Donāt let him dim your light ! You owe yourself happiness and do whatever makes you happy !!!
My husband and sons hate my make up. Tell tell me I donāt need it. So as long as I have a tan I only wear mascara. He probably just thinks your pretty without it. And my husband jokes when I do a full face makeup and asks who Iām trying to impress. Lol. Itās a joke it doesnāt bother me.
Heās very insecureā¦and controlling. Itās your face, do what you want.
This has nothing to do with your makeup. Your husband is possessive and insecure and sadly that can be dangerous. Good luck
I had a boyfriend call it āslut powderā and āwhore sprayā (perfume)
We are no longer together. He was an abusive prick. Not at first, but it developed.
He sounds like an absolute psychopath
Donāt let any man control you. Thatās what heās trying to do. No man will ever tell me not to wear make up. Do what makes you happy!
Because he buys into the whole patriarchy thing of women are either chaste virgins or whores. Antiquated beliefs.
I would simply ask āis that what you really think of meā and leave it at that
You cant force him to understand but he doesnt have to either
I would stick to asking why he thinks you need attention from anyone other than him etc etc
Youāre not the problem, your makeup isnāt the problem. His insecurity is the problem.
Well, to me ā¦ He doesnāt even sound insecure . He definitely doesnāt understand why you like the make up, thatās clear, but again, most men donāt understand how a woman feel when āshes done upā or āmade-upā Men are (mostly) simple creatures. He sees you as beautiful, so doesnāt understand why you have have desire to wear the make up that changes how you look. Every woman knows that make-up can and does, change your look, I mean, that is the point, to enhance something, or minimize something ā¦ Maybe he prefers you to have a natural look, which has nothing to do with control, but more about a preference.
Tell him make up artist with no license that do it on the side in my smaaaaalllll city book up to 200$ for a whole face right now. Just saying
Iād ask him why you getting extra attention is bad. He sounds insecurities but you donāt want to say that and make it worse. The more questions you ask the more likely someone finds fault in their own perception
What it sounds like to me as you probably look absolutely gorgeous with make up I feel women say they like women without make up some of the time is because they look really pretty with it and theyāre scared that youāll get somebody else
Lmao tell him to get over himself. Mine was the same way & I simply told him I value myself and love to feel good and confident. He should try it sometime.
This is a prob as it will always be a prob he will never change that mind set so either get use to it or change urs I think its unreasonable to ask him to change vis versa he shouldnt ask u to change either hence the prob dont fight about makeup it stupid itās ok to have different opinions
Your face, you can colour it in if you want.
Tell him to grow up, itās eye shadows not dicks your sneakily doing while he has a shower
Just let him know u like it, and u donāt care ur not changing it
My husband is the same. Complains when I do my hair/make up. Says āwho are you trying to impressā when I put make up on, straighten my hair, or decide to curl it (I have always sucked at curling my hair so I like to practice randomly even when Iām not going anywhere.
I tell him to shut it I just feel like doing it. Then continue to do it. It annoys me.
My fiancĆ© loves natural beauty, most men actually do. I donāt think heās insure the way otherās are implying. I think Angie Templeman gave the best explanation; he just doesnāt get it. Maybe try comparing it to a hobby that he enjoys but that you might not entirely understand or have interest in. If you havenāt already, maybe say, āif it brings me enjoyment and confidence but doesnāt hurt anyone, why wouldnāt you want that for me?ā He doesnāt have to like it, but he does need to support you and your passion.
All these women screaming abuse lol
Abuse is when my ex took all my make up, destroyed it and wouldnāt allow me to even wear tinted chapstick. That is abuse.
I think this is just him being insecure. An asshole even. Some men donāt like full face makeup (mine doesnt), but it becomes abuse when he forbids you to wear it.
Make up is a form of art. Try explaining that to him.
Yeah, I for one am triggered by the word he so lovingly describes as āwarpaintā. As a Native American female who wears make-up, that shit is lame ass. Pile all the make up on girl!!
Heās insecure in himself. Itās not you or the make up. He knows heās not treating you in a manner that ensures you wonāt leave him but he thinks making you insufferable is the answer rather than addressing his own actions. Yāall would probably benefit from some counseling.
You do you to feel good about yourself and/or put-together. Thereās nothing wrong with this.
He should think about learning to express himself better than this though, and appreciate his beautiful wife instead of trying to insult you, change you or your mind. Support things he could do to make himself feel good as well.
I saw this the other dayā¦
Donāt have a hot girlfriend, if you are going to be mad at her for being hot!
Sounds like your beautiful and make up makes you even more beautiful. Stick to your guns. Make up is for you!
your husband sounds insecure.
That sounds like a controlling issue. Wow.
My husband tells me he doesnāt understand why I want to wear makeup because Iām beautiful without it, but he never gets upset if I do wear it.
He needs to grow up!! And stop being soo insecure my husband loves when I get ready or choose to look homeless. He loves regardless like a man shouldā¦
Him thinking you are beautiful without it and him getting mad when you were it are 2 different levels. If the issue was that he only thinks you donāt need it, he wouldnāt be trying to control you like that. Donāt look at this like itās a sweet thing like some of these people are suggesting.
I donāt understand men like this at all!!!
Hes definitely insecure
If it makes you happy it should make him happy for you. Anything else when it comes to something harmless like this is just him trying to be in control of you. Itās okay for him to prefer you without makeup, but not okay for him to be negative towards for choosing to wear it.
Because he loves you the way you re!
Gives him something to fight over for u harderā¦ if u know what I meanā¦ Iām not anywhere near having flawless skin or hairā¦ I have freckles lol and I donāt wear makeup well I used too until I started going out w my bf and weāre still together after 13 yearsā¦
Waitā¦ Your husband washes dishes
That would be him with insecurity issues. My ex husband used to comment on my hair, makeup and outfit all the time. He was mentally, emotionally, verbally and physically abusive and I used to try to do my make up or dress nice for myself, to boost my own confidence. He saw it as me doing it for the attention of other men. It wasnāt enough that I wasnāt permitted contact with any male friends or even male family membersā¦ I was once accused of having an affair with my own cousin, thatās how bad it got. Your husband has some issues that he needs to work out. If youāve never given him any indication of being unfaithful, then heās just a controlling narcissist and you need to get out of there. Quick.
I went through the same thing with my ex, my sonās father. It started with he didnt like my makeup, then began saying I dont know how to put makeup on the right way and it makes me look bad (he was trying to hurt me so I wouldnt do it anymore), and then he told me I wasnt allowed to wear makeup. He would also call me a whore if I put makeup on because I was looking for attention.
After multiple times of me trying to explain why I wear it and I also cover up my mom eyes, I quit wearing makeup all together and became soooo insecure and lost my self esteem.
I left him, obviously! Further down the road he admitted that he was insecure, he didnt want other guys looking at me, and he should not have treated me that way. He had also admitted to being controlling in many different ways during our relationshipā¦
Needless to say, the relationship was SUPER unhealthy!
Sounds like he wants control
Makeup is an art, it changes with the seasons and itās so fun to play around with different looks. I feel like he can have his own opinion about it but he should understand itās something you like, itās a form of expression, a hobby etc
Thatās such an incredibly fragile and insecure and misogynistic ideology. As if women arenāt worth making ourselves happy, itās always got to be for someone else.
He needs to get over it. Heās not your father.
What does he like to do for himself that makes him feel better,handsome etc?? Hair cut, shave, cologne?? Give him a taste back. Start complaining about what he does to feel better to show him how ridiculous he is being. This is just the beginning to how most women lose who they are. They canāt dress nice wear make up without having to cater in an insecure man. He needs to grow up and YOU need to keep doing you. Donāt let him steal anything from you that defines who you are whether it be just a simple thing like make up
Wait- did you say while he was doing the dishes??? Iāll trade.
Iāve met men like this and it is insecurity.
Maybe try to do a more natural look eye makeup. It sounds like it might be bold and bright. If itās what Iām thinking I donāt blame him.
Men donāt understand this ever in my experience. Pretty much all of them tend to stick headstrong to the belief that women only try to look (and feel) good to get the attention of men. Itās very depressing dealing with someone who has this perspective. Iām sorry.
They donāt understand than women are love and beauty. And sometimes we actually want to feel like it.
Itās a sign of an insecure and egotistical man.
Keep doing it. Donāt let him stop you from doing it.
Sound like the beginning of a very controlling man
Contrary to popular belief, men are allowed to have feelings, likes and dislikes. Do you know on a popular scientific study found that a very high percentage of men donāt like women? So I can understand why he doesnāt like it, his reasoning however; is ridiculous. Thereās nothing wrong with liking make-up and as long as you donāt leave it all the over place and you keep it neatly organized and you arenāt always late because you have to put your face on, then it should be fine. Iād honestly just tell him, āLook I know you like my face without makeup and I respect that, but I need you to understand that I like wearing makeup and practicing my skills and I need you to respect that. If you donāt think your enough for me then you need to work on your self confidence because you are enough for me I just need you to see that you are enough for me.ā
Iām sorryā¦ That is all I can say because I donāt wear make up most of the time. Not that I donāt enjoy it when I do.
Itās probably time for him to get therapy or for you to find someone that doesnāt steal your joy.
This is how I equated it with my man, now I donāt normally take two hours to do my make up, but sometimes I do and heās okay with that because how he has things he enjoys to do, like welding or video games, I enjoy playing with makeup and Iāve explained it just like that. āI know it seems like Iām just doing the same thing everyday but Iām not. Each day is a decision making adventure that leads me to a beautiful and fulfilling ending, just like when you complete a segment of your game or your entire game and feel accomplished and good about yourself, my makeup is the same way. I try new techniques and practice old ones in the same way you fight with opponents using old skills and new ones. I try a different shape or a different color, like sometimes you have to try a different approach to win that section, sometimes my makeup is killed by an unknown culprit causing me to start my level over, just like in your gameā I make it into something they can relate to. Also doing my makeup everyday helps me so much with my depression. When I feel good about myself and like I put a little of energy into myself than giving all to other people, I am more likely to complete chores and even go above and beyond because Iāve taken time for me too and Iāve explained that as well. āI understand that you think I am the most beautiful woman in the world without makeup, and sometimes I agree, but sometimes I donāt see myself that way which is not your fault. Putting on makeup makes me feel like Iām actively being the best version of myself that I can possibly be on that day and I want to feel my best so I can give you my bestā even though this is about being able to take time back for yourself try and make it seem like itās to be able to do better for him and maybe he will be more understanding. Good luck mama from another makeup loving mom.
Um, you donāt. You just keep putting it on. You donāt owe anyone an explanation and fuck it play along and say āyouāre rightā¦ I do it for attentionā and see what happens. I guarantee you heāll shut up. I donāt understand why women play into their mans games all the time. I take zero shit from my husband, yall should do the same. Life is a lot cooler.
I understand not liking make up, it makes a lot of women look fake and thatās not a good look. With that said, I understand you wanting to do make up for you. He canāt tell you what makes you feel better about yourself and his making assumptions that you want to impress other men shows how insecure of a man he is. He needs to work on those insecurities of his. Donāt stop doing what makes you feel good about you or what helps you because of anotherās insecurities. Ever. Donāt let a man control you. When a man does that he needs to get help for himself as if a female acted like that sheād need to get help for herself. No one male or female needs to take their insecurities out on one another. Period. Youāre responsible for your own insecurities and handling them, no one else.
Tell him āI am gonna wear it so get used to itā and then ignore when he comments about it.
He knows heās got a good girl and heās insecure about himself and the way he treats you, therefore he thinks the makeup will attract a man who treats you better and you will move onā¦
I lived in this type of relationship for 9 yearsā¦ and it only gets worse from here ā¦ this is a stepping stone to bigger things like
Why are you getting all dressed up
Why do you care what other people think
Why did you do your eyebrows was it for other menā¦
And on and on
Men are ridiculous. I never go a day without makeup and I have never once put it on for someone else. I might touch it up and be a little extra for a date or something because it makes me feel good. Has nothing to do with other people. Men are so insecure
I use to be in a Marriage like that. It ended badly. When we split I wore my makeup everywhere! No one will ever tell me again I canāt wear makeup. First it was makeup then it was shorts and then it was I wasnāt allowed to go to a store alone. Lol it will get worse . U have to let him know u r going tow ear it wether he likes it or not. Heās insecure !
You cannot. My EXhusband acted this way. He was cheating. He blames you for what heās doing. R U N.
Just say Iām not getting enough attention from you so I wear make up as a self booster if I get looks from others boom ego boost. Make him realize you a queen and he needs to pay attention.
My dad was like this with my mum- every time she would put makeup on, wear nice clothes or do her hairā¦ā¦ it ruined her- blew out all her self confidence . Eventually turned into accusing her of cheating all the time.
He is too controlling if he is worried about your make up. Iād set him free.
My toxic ex husband use to say the same things to me. He hated me wearing make up, I told him I wore make up before you and I will continue to. I like it and it makes me feel better for me. He threw it all in the fire one nite. Next day I used his money and went and bought all new. You are still an independent you. Donāt let no one take the things that make you and make you happy.
I mean you wearing makeup is to get attention, itās like how monkeys wear leaves on theyāre head to make a statement to the rest of the monkeys āhey Iām not the same I have my own style and fashion ā another primary reasons why women wear makeup: Camouflage ā Women who are anxious and insecure tend to use makeup to appear less noticeable.
So if he met you married you and did you wear makeup all this time or is it new? Lot of men donāt like the extreme makeup but he should of known this before hand so why complain now. Tell him that you have always liked makeup and like someone else said he has his hobby/or something he enjoys so he should understand. But if there are other stuff in your life that only you and him know then it is not about makeup
I call my own make up war paint I wouldnt give a shit what he has to say about it and Iād be sure he knew that
What they hate from their wives is what they love from side chicsā¦ this gender wonāt smell the gates of heaven.
That has nothing to do with you or makeup but his own insecurities. Unfortunately that means he will need to fix it on his own, if you didnāt wear make up it would be something else.
He doesnāt hate the make-up, he hates you wearing it. Jealousy and control.
Jealous insecure controlling
Its called self care and its essential for having good mental health. Tell him you enjoy it, it makes you happy and feel good. Just let u be
Maybe intstead of all of you jumping down the man and man hating, maybe he simply just doesnt like it. My husband and i have been together almost 12 years and He hates when i wear makeup. There is NOTHING controlling about him. He just preferes the natural beauty as he puts it. I do wear it when we go out but otherwise i do not. Realationships are NOT all about the women and F the mans feelings.
You donāt have to get it through his thick skull honey, this sounds like a āhimā problem and you do not have to explain why you AS AN ADULT, WHO IS CHARGE OF HER OWN BODY wants to put some colour and sparkle on.
Stop arguing with him about it and just do you. Or better yet sarcastically agree with him
Tell him straight. You look in the mirror sometimes and would sometimes like to feel more beautiful, itās a pick me up a way of lifting your self confidence. Itās not for anyone else itās for YOU not him or any other man it is for you. They donāt get it because they donāt have to live daily in competition with themselves.
Heās insecure and heās projecting that on to you. Donāt give in on what your passion is. Tell him the discussion is off limits. My husband tells me Iām beautiful with out without makeup and has never made me feel bad when I want to dress up and put makeup on.
. It turns out there is some science to back up the fears driving them to wear makeup every day.
Women have it drilled into them from a young age that to be successful in everything, from dating to job interviews to forming friendships with other popular girls, they need to be pretty, and the basis for that isnāt entirely cultural. It may not be fair, but according to the Association for Psychological Science, attractive people are treated more favorably in every area of life, from dating to jobs to criminal trials.
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I hate make up and never wear it. But tell him to suck it up and to stfu.wewr it if you want to. He canāt not control it. Start ignoring him every time he says it
He does the dishes??? I would choose that any day over make up
Ew insecurities. His issues are not yours and you keep doing what makes you happy girl. If he canāt be accepting and love you for liking makeup then boy bye.
Soon heāll start accusing you of cheating and stuff because your not giving into his narsistic behavior. In hopes to minimalize you and keep in control of your life.
Donāt give in to it to " make him happy" donāt loose you or your passions for anyone especially when your not doing anything wrong, disrespectful or hurtful.
Itās called insecurity! Just reiterate every time itās for you not anyone else. Period no arguing! Heās just going to have to deal with it!
That sounds like a him problem not you!
Sounds like my ex-husband , but he was much worse.
He has control issues and needs to work on his insecurities too. He has no right to tell you what you can or canāt wear on YOUR face.
Tell him to get into therapy for control issues and you continue to wear it.
You wear the make-up, donāt let a man tell you what to do.
My husband hates it too he says that he thinks itās a knock to womenās self confidence and natural faces because then we donāt feel like weāre beautiful without it. His concern is my wear will give our daughters a complex. Do what you want and let him deal with his worries himself
Try make up with a ānatural lookā ??
He knew you liked it from the beginning Why try and change people or the things they like?
My man doesnāt care what I wear or how I do my make up. He knows Iām all his & he likes when I feel comfortable!! Get you a man who lets you be you!!
Isnāt the whole point of becoming a āmakeup guruā for the attention and admiration of others?
I donāt wear make up at all and yes you do it for you but you also do it for other people at the same time and I also call it war paint
Listenā¦ Men donāt really care about āmake upā unless youāre running around like a Drag Queen. Itās a new season. Ask for the card and go buy your Fall Color Palette
#FirstWorldProblems
Discouraging things you enjoy is a form of abuse. Iām guessing this isnāt the only area of your life he tries to control.
He sounds mega insecure
I call it war paint too- Try doing it only when you are going to be home with him. Then slowly or a little at a time when you are going out. Heās being silly I know and agree